Sex on the Wedding Night? | Hannah Witton

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Did I have sex on my wedding night? Did I promise to honour and obey? What's the deal with garters?? Today we're talking WEDDING TRADITIONS - which ones I kept in my own wedding and which ones I personally left in the bin. Do you have a fave/least fave wedding tradition? 💍
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@TheCurlyOne13 3 года назад

We got married in a church and we chose to say “to love and to cherish” instead of “honour and obey”. You can pick x

@sophiehatter525 3 года назад

I heard that for the first time at a wedding as a pre-teen and I gave my mom such a look of shock.... She told me you don't have to say that lol

@lolsous 3 года назад

To love and cherish seems so much more reasonable! In my country we say "I want to love you, share happiness and sadness with you", and I just love the "I want to", it is like you want to but can't promise anything

@TheIzzySquishy 3 года назад

I'm surprised "bride takes the husband's surname" wasn't on this list - my mum still gets asked (nearly 30 years on) why she didn't take my dad's name

@sallys.2707 3 года назад

When I was young, everybody assume either that my mother was my stepmother or that she was my mother but my sister was my stepsister (child of my father first marriage) because : 1. My sister is 7 years older than me (and therefore we can't share the same mother apparently) 2. My parents married when I was 12 so my mother was automatically my stepmothers (I imagine people can't have children when they're not married....)

@joylox 2 года назад

My boyfriend has basically no relationship with his dad, and some unpleasant feelings around his last name, so we're thinking of either he take mine, or we both take the name of a grandparent instead. But I know in some areas, people either don't change names, or hyphenate the last names together. I know a few couples who didn't change names at all.

@wildoatling 3 года назад

I love the given gender neutral terms like fiance, spouse, wedding party, newly weds, etc. Some easy swaps are person of honor, or instead of "best man" it could be "best (insert name)". Personally, I'd love to always be referred to as the "best Lisa".

@MarnieLuna 3 года назад

I always wonder this as I hate the term partner, it just feels really buisness-like

@lauralittle6021 3 года назад

I had a man as a ‘bridesmaid’ so we renamed the group as ‘brides mates’

@joylox 2 года назад

One of my cousins had her brother as a "bridesmaid," so they called that group of people "the bride's party," to make sure he was included. Of course you could also replace that with a name, like "the Lisa party," if you wanted and it would still work.

@nimrodgrrrl 3 года назад

Had to watch my dad pull the garter off my step mum with his teeth. Trauma/10.

@joylox 2 года назад

One of my friends did that at her wedding and her youngest brother was there (almost a 10 year age gap between them) and he was so grossed out! I definitely don't want to have that. I don't want people to see my legs anyway, as a lot of the time I need to wear compression stockings due to a chronic illness. I also won't be standing at the front the whole time. Maybe my partner and I can find some fancy chairs, or just cover some old chairs in flowers.

@paulhujsak1310 3 года назад

The giving to charities is a great replacement for a wedding registry. I have much respect for you two for doing that. While wedding registry can be useful for some, did established partners it just has always rubbed me the wrong way.

@hannahwitton 3 года назад

"the greatest gift of all is seeing you on the day, HOWEVER... here's our list please buy us stuff"

@CraigPaulWilson 3 года назад

@@hannahwitton At the same time though, you can see where the tradition came from - young couples who'd lived separately with parents prior to marriage needing stuff for their new marital home. It's not necessarily 21st centrury relevant, but you can understand it. For me, the one that I dislike more is "please contribute to our honeymoon".

@shaunaisaJellyBean 3 года назад

@@hannahwitton I actually think if you are going to accept gifts from people, a registry is best. Like you don’t need 5 great aunts buying you fancy wine glasses you won’t use but rather being able to ask for stuff you might need for your house Also, it takes pressure off people for money. You can add cheap and expensive gifts so each person can pick a gift that suits their budget and they don’t feel pressure to put a fixed amount of money in a card

@xzonia1 3 года назад

@@shaunaisaJellyBean Agree completely

@lovelylych7643 Год назад

@@hannahwitton In my country (Dutchie here) it's customary to give the bride & groom an envelope with cash with a card/well wishes. The idea is that you help pay for their expensive wedding day which you are invited to. The amount differs if you are a guest for the entire day (inluding meals etc) or just got an invite to the party in the evening. As a day-guest you give between 50 and 75 euro, also depending on your own funds. I like the idea of the guests helping the couple out a bit and all enjoying the day together.

@dsalazarm 3 года назад

My mom always told us about her wedding night - having to shake my dad awake from the hotel bed to help her remove the 111 bobby pins in her hair. He kept falling back asleep on her 😂

@hannahwitton 3 года назад

hahahaha I made Dan promise that he wouldn't get so drunk that he would pass out before helping me out of my dress! I would have been SO MAD if he was fast asleep and I was stuck in my dress! 😂

@isabellanebs22 3 года назад

AHA this is too funny

@shesaysdisco5279 3 года назад

Instead of bridesmaids and groomsmen, I think of them as “the wedding party.” When my friend got married a couple years ago, she called us her “bridespeople” since we weren’t all women, which I also like.

@bananainpjs 3 года назад

We referred to our people as, well, our people 😅

@ebon8853 3 года назад

It was Phoebe’s wedding on Friends. She was her something blue.

@amy1111 3 года назад

@@ebon8853 or when Monica and Chandler almost got married in Vegas. "Borrowing" a blue sweater from a store so that had something blue, borrowed and new

@CanPigsFli 3 года назад

So many of these traditions get more strange the more you think about them. The whole "giving your daughter away" traditions makes me physically cringe

@woolypuffin392 3 года назад

It really depends i think. I walked down the isle with my dad and i was so glad not to enter this huge room with so many people alone! But to everyone teir own :)

@beatrizmarian 3 года назад

I think it would be waaaay better if bride and groom walked together... At least you could walk the isle with BOTH parents/people of your choice not just the father.

@lydianowinsky7746 3 года назад

The father giving his daughter away used to be basically the trading of property, women were property, and when they got married they would become their husbands property. But now I still don’t think do the father giving his daughter away a. Bad thing, because when a women gets married she becomes a family with her husband, so the father giving his daughter away still makes sense. I’m going to have my father give me away.

@SonsOfLorgar 3 года назад

Scandinavian marriage customs have the marrying couple walk down the isle together as equals.

@SonsOfLorgar 3 года назад

@Ramya N Yeah ,unfortionately, that tradition is beeing pushed out by the patriarchal posessive US custom due to US sitcoms and "romantic" movies

@andyhartley 3 года назад

Traditions are mostly fluff, but I guess without fluff there's not much of an event. They're really just convention rather than requirements, so I say to anyone do your own thing and include as many or as few traditons as you like, or even add a few of your own to make it your day. As for sex on the wedding night, it's like any good date - sex is nice if it happens but should never be the goal.

@richardclarke82008 3 года назад

My wife and I tried to avoid as many as possible. We got married with only four friends there at a registry office in hackney in smart clothes we already owned. Went to London zoo and had a meal then went home. No engagement ring. No family. Saved a bucket load of money and went to Japan for two weeks instead. Had the best time. Spoken to dozens of people that have said they wished they had done it and not had the big white wedding. People should not bow to family pressure.

@amz1653 3 года назад

that sounds like a great idea im so happy for you 😊

@talishaf7980 3 года назад

But also don't shame people who want to make a big deal out of their wedding. Nothing wrong or irresponsible with that either.

@richardclarke82008 3 года назад

@@talishaf7980 absolutely. Couldn't agree more. People are free to do whatever they want and that's a great thing.

@Frankenzebra 3 года назад

Love that you made a trip to the zoo part of your day ☺️ just you two or guests as well?

@richardclarke82008 3 года назад

@@Frankenzebra the six of us went.

@DudeWheresMyApple 3 года назад

This sounds silly, but this made me realise how much of the whole wedding spectacle is optional. Definitely looking forward to getting married one day and only doing what we both actively choose to do 💜

@sjocean4536 3 года назад

My female friend is getting married to a woman this weekend. They decided to deal with "groomsmen/bridesmaid" situation in this way.....skirts on one side, pants on the other. Doesn't matter what gender identity is each outfit, whichever your attire preference will then assign the side you stand. Love it

@toniat.1738 2 года назад

Great idea!

@haironfire907 3 года назад

Thing that baffled me the most - "Dan doesn't like cake". Wut?

@hannahwitton 3 года назад

ikr

@babitferreira 3 года назад

@@hannahwitton are you sure he can be trusted? he doesn’t like cake Hannah!! CAKE!! hahahahaha

@tehbeard 3 года назад

@@babitferreira On the plus side, means Hannah doesn't have to worry about him nicking the last slice of cake!

@Narnendil 3 года назад

Neither me nor my partner like cake. No we didn't have a wedding cake. Had lots of other sweets and cookies though. Whipped cream is just... too fat for me, I don't like it.

@xzonia1 3 года назад

My mom likes cake but doesn't like brownies, which I always thought was weird because they're basically the same in my mind. Now I know Dan likes brownies and not cake, and I feel like some sort of balance has been restored in the universe. Lol :)

@amberklaire9419 3 года назад

The bouquet is usually meant to help with what to do with your hands! It helps your photographer lots

@SamarkandChan 3 года назад

But traditionally to hide a pregnancy bump, at least in my country.

@ThatRomyKate 3 года назад

@@SamarkandChan I never knew that but it makes so much sense!

@theresaantonia2058 3 года назад

I learned in fashion-history class that the bouquet was invented for when woman had to wear corsets so tight they couldn't breath right, to concentrate on the scent of the flowers to not faint. sounds quite horrible, but i'd also have a bouquet as i like flowers and it's nice to have something in the hands... :)

@sophieelsa7469 3 года назад

@@theresaantonia2058 that does not sound accurate...

@theresaantonia2058 3 года назад

@@sophieelsa7469 well, I actually never looked it up online, but our professor told us so. it would definitely be an interesting topic to research! :)

@beamracer_2600 3 года назад

My wife and I were going to keep the "not seeing each other until the altar" bit of tradition, but the night before our wedding the church got struck by lightning and it killed the air conditioning in most of the building (we got married in late June, in the southeast USA...) When she was fully dressed, the heat and her anxiety got the better of her so I had to rush upstairs and help her calm down. As soon as the ceremony was over and the pictures taken, she chucked the wedding dress and came to the reception in shorts and a t-shirt! ^_^

@zairabandy8695 3 года назад

classy

@corneliastreet2491 2 года назад

That’s really adorable! Sounds like you guys had a good time. Something always goes “wrong” but you were there for her and it seems like everyone was a good sport and enjoyed it anyway :)

@xchelseareads 3 года назад

I don't want a veil, but I do want a cape. Seriously, these need to be known as an option. A veil that is basically attached at the sleeves/straps or around the collarbone part of your chest (for strapless dresses). I want a sparkly white one because C A P E. Also I want to plant a seed at our ceremony and plant it on my parents property when its big enough :)

@glitterberserker1029 3 года назад

I would totally wear wedding cape over a veil. Honestly I'd wear a cape over a veil any day. Except maybe at the funeral of my husband that died under suspicious circumstances, that calls for a veil.

@AwesomeSpyro 3 года назад

I've actually seen so many very pretty wedding capes, but they're often custom made by small businesses and therefore quite expensive. So I agree, they should become a standard option.

@xXcrimsonxroseXx 3 года назад

This is what I did! I didn't want to participate in any of the symbolism of a veil, but I wanted the DRAMA.

@eslek6644 3 года назад

Yessss I will be wearing a cape! 😄 Got mine in a regular bridal shop (Netherlands) so becoming more "mainstream" I guess? :)

@stephaniewild6184 3 года назад

I wore a cape! I felt so swooshy 🤗 Here’s some pics! ibb.co/TMhcz79 ibb.co/LZf3q12

@gingerels 3 года назад

I’ve worried about the whole ‘you have to have sex on your wedding night’ expectation a lot before - it’s so nice to hear you speak about that! There is so much pressure that it needs to amazing & tbh if I ever did get married, I reckon I’d be absolutely shattered & would just clonk out at the end of the day 😂 you & Dan are defo doing it right 🥰

@jennrocchi6385 3 года назад

we didn't either. we went home (gasp-not a hotel?) and my best friend and one of his friends came with us. she helped me out of the bobbypins and dress while the guys unloaded the car. i don't even think we made it upstairs before we both passed out on the couch from exhaustion!

@marjetacedilnik8622 2 года назад

We expected to be totally drunk and tired, so we did it the night before.

@DoctorWhoLuv 3 года назад

How about father walking bride down the aisle, or groom asking parents of bride for permission? Hate those 😫

@amelie3012 3 года назад

In France we do the groom's mother walks him down the isle, followed by the bride and her dad. I think it's a good way to keep gender equality

@Narnendil 3 года назад

In Sweden the couple walk in together. Very equal :)

@lydianowinsky7746 3 года назад

Why do you hate those. When a women Mary’s a man she becomes a family with him, that’s why the father gives his daughter away, sure it used to be for property reasons, but now it’s seen as the father accepting that she’s not his little girl anymore. And the boyfriend asking permission should happen, because the parents should be on board.

@amelie3012 3 года назад

@@lydianowinsky7746 There is no reason for the parents to be on board in a modern society. And why should the girl's parents be any more on board than the boy's?

@we.genuinely.think2882 3 года назад

@@lydianowinsky7746 I really want my dad walk me down the aisle but I also know why it's problematic. But tbh most traditions are problematic if you look at where they're coming from. I just want to share that moment with my father because I really love him and that's it.

@hygher 3 года назад

My Boyfriend says if we get married he wants to cut the Cake with a Broad Sword... i love him so much

@aellalee4767 3 года назад

I don't plan on getting married. I'm going to have a tiny home built. My plan when I get into a relationship again, is that the guy can get a house of some sort built on my property, but I'm keeping my custom made house exactly as I like. Then we both have space too, so we can be like "Who's house do we want to sleep in tonight?" And just walk across the yard. Or camp out if it's warm and do star gazing because it'll be in the middle of nowhere anyway.

@mallorylischer 3 года назад

Im going to build a tiny house and I’m single. I’m thinking if a guy doesn’t want to live tiny he’s not the guy for me but maybe 👆would work too. Ha

@EGlVM 3 года назад

This sounds divine 🥰

@JominC 3 года назад

So what happens to his house when you breakup?

@aellalee4767 3 года назад

@@JominC he can move it if he needs to. Or we can sell part of the property. Or we could sell the whole thing and I drive my house down to the next property I purchase. Or we keep the property and be neighbours.

@JominC 3 года назад

@@aellalee4767 But to do any of this, you will have final say right?(except movig a house but that is very expensive and requires him owning a suitable property which is somewhat proximate) So at the end of the day you are giving him a financial reason to stay on your good side. That sounds a bit toxic in my opinion. My advice is, you should sell a part of your property to him and he should build a house on that or he can buy a neighbouring property and build a house on it.

@ellereadsalottt 3 года назад

My partner and I heard the ‘honour and obey’ vows at his sister’s wedding (and his dad physically passed her over to her groom with this handshake thing) and we were so shocked by it that we searched out alternative traditional vows. These are what we’re going for; You cannot possess me, for I belong to myself, But while we both wish it, I give you that which is mine to give. You cannot command me, for I am a free person, But I shall serve you in those ways you require. And the honeycomb will taste sweeter coming from my hand. I pledge to you that yours will be the name I cry aloud in the night. And the eyes into which I smile in the morning. I pledge to you the first bite from my bread, And the first drink from my cup. I pledge to you my living and dying, equally in your care. This is my wedding vow to you. This is a marriage of equals.

@unmercifulfate 3 года назад

I really like that!

@MathAndComputers 3 года назад

New tradition: get married first, then invite people to a Zoom meeting party.

@hannahwitton 3 года назад

Yesss omg we did a private livestream for people who couldn’t make it! Maybe zoom weddings will be a new tradition!

@cliff8675 3 года назад

My 3rd sons wedding was facetimed due to Covid, and my 2nd son had a brother-in-law do the same for his older brother and his family who were stationed in Germany and couldn't fly home at the time several years ago.

@AlwaysArty 3 года назад

I got married last year and a few things come to mind to share: Our speeches were by my bridesmaids, which they rehearsed and had props! The two best men did a speech each. And then my husband and I stood up and just did a bunch of thank yous. I didn't ask my Dad to do a speech as he's the tangent King and I didn't want to put my guests through that! He absolutely didn't mind. We did do favours. Our 'wedding breakfast' was afternoon tea so we had little pots of homemade (by my Mum) jam, which also doubled as the place settings as I put name tags on the jars. A tradition that you didn't mention, which I chose to leave, is the Dad giving away the Bride. My Dad wouldn't have done this even if I'd asked. He's pretty liberal and isn't down with the whole idea of that and neither am I. So I walked down the aisle by myself behind my bridesmaids (who had tambourines instead of flowers!)

@nymphrodellsalavin 3 года назад

I know "something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue" from the Little House on the prairie books

@salmaben9730 3 года назад

from "AnnE with an E"

@nrdcoyne 3 года назад

I've seen it in a lot of places, but the one that always comes to mind first is the final episode of Sabrina the Teenage Witch when she ends up wearing the bracelet Harvey gave her to her wedding to Aaron.

@yani4645 3 года назад

I remember it vividly from How I Met Your Mother

@Frankenzebra 3 года назад

Seen it in lots of things but somehow just known it was a thing since I can remember 🤷‍♀️

@Narnendil 3 года назад

I'm thinking of Doctor Who ^_^

@26121996Maria 3 года назад

I'm surprised that no one mentioned one russian tradition called "Выкуп". I have no idea how to translate it properly (google says it's Bride price but i'm not sure if it's the correct term). Basically on the wedding day the groom has to do quest-like things, prepared by the maid of honor, bride's parents, friends, and relatives, while the bride is sitting in her room and waiting for the groom to finish the tasks. Usually it happens at bride's childhood home or her parents' house. And usually for the quests there are some things like having the groom to tell some fact about the bride, or guessing something about her, or telling 10 reasons he loves her, or screaming from the top of his lungs that he loves her, or sometimes even paying money. Essentially through completing these tasks the groom proves himself worthy and he "buys" the bride from her parents. (i'm really sorry for my english)

@daanegberts7572 3 года назад

Yeah! I once went to a wedding in Bulgary and they also did this

@teszter704 3 года назад

In Hungary there is a tradition when the bride gets kidnapped during the reception and the groom has to solve tasks and eventually buys the bride back with some objects 🤦‍♀️

@Frankenzebra 3 года назад

@@teszter704 sounds like a way to liven things up 😂

@aheddle1623 3 года назад

This happens in Ukraine too!

@ThatRomyKate 3 года назад

@@teszter704 I feel like this should be a TV show :D

@estrellAllertse 3 года назад

I love the little Doodles accompanying each point! And also the video in general was very interesting and fun to watch.

@ishabhandarkar4912 3 года назад

You’re the only RU-vidr I’ve stuck along with since the last 4 years! Love your channel, Hannah x

@hannahcowan9890 3 года назад

Your wedding sounds so perfect to me! Love how you and Dan did your own thing and didn’t get dragged down by tradition, you’re the coolest! 💁🏻‍♀️💃🏻

@faeriesandrainbows 3 года назад

The Friends reference - the one where they're in Vegas and Chandler and Monica almost get married :-)

@cheyenneysewijn7343 3 года назад

Or Phoebe freezing saying she will be her something blue ;)

@rjfaber1991 3 года назад

I suppose that back in the day when extramarital sex was a complete taboo and it was actually the norm to 'wait until marriage', there would have been quite a bit of eagerness from most (not all, but most) newlyweds to immediately have sex at the first opportunity, but really it's the same as any other part of a wedding; it's your day, so do what you like the most.

@_stephanie 3 года назад

We more or less did the same ones as you! I adore my husband, but we mainly got married because I needed a visa to stay in the country. My parents couldn't come, we only had a few months notice, and I honestly just don't like being the centre of attention, so it was a quick courthouse ceremony followed by dinner with his prents and our witnesses, then straight to the airport for a week in Paris. It was so much fun though, and still one of my favourite days.

@corneliastreet2491 2 года назад

Which country are you from?

@admirbarucija2018 3 года назад

I don't really know much about weddings since I've only ever been to one like 15 years ago, but your wedding vlogs have me intrigued about them haha

@danielleferguson2332 3 года назад

My fiance and I are skipping all of the "traditions" that aren't fun for us. No "grand entrance" to the reception, no bouquet toss it garter toss, no traditional vows, we are staying together the night before and getting ready together, my fiance (a cis guy) is having an entirely female party, that we are calling groomswomen. We aren't giving favors, our cake is going to be colorful and nerdy and delicious, and we are both wearing converse. Oh, and our bridal party is walking down the aisle to the jurrasic park theme. Fuck traditions.

@rachelesee 3 года назад

brilliant 👏

@dharadattani5992 3 года назад

I love this 💛

@babyslooth 3 года назад

Love it 👏

@unmercifulfate 3 года назад

We too are skipping traditions... Elopement! 🤗

@kee-tu4cq 3 года назад

The majority of the recent wedding I’ve gone to have been non-traditional and they were so special. I am lesbian anyway so I’m not a part of (nor support) the catholic religion like some of my family still does. My bro just recently got married with a small wedding, a justice of the peace, and had it outdoors. It was beautiful especially to not be stuck in a church with archaic beliefs. They already have 2 children, 1 child from a previous marriage, and 1 child together. It was awesome to have the kids involved in the ceremony. It nice that some of society is breaking out of old ingrained traditions. Traditional is great if that’s what you still want but it’s nice for those that don’t to be able to freely have their wedding be how they want it. 💕

@georginarhodes3014 3 года назад

With the something old etc rhyme I was always taught that the rhyme ends with ‘and a silver sixpence in her shoe’ as my grandma gave one to me and my cousin when we were young for our respective wedding days

@abracadabra8501 3 года назад

I submitted the marrying a man suggestion! I hope you remember. It is such a simple one that I thought it would be unnoticed so I suggested it. This has made me happy to be included in your video :D I hope you're having a great day

@georgie_lyons 3 года назад

Loved watching this! I’ve just recently got engaged so all of your wedding content makes me so happy!

@intergalactic_butterfly 3 года назад

Bookmarking this vid to help my fiancée and I plan our wedding (which we'll be doing after COVID, no matter how long it takes)

@MdmERM 2 года назад

Love this vid! Getting married in a less traditional ceremony in a few months and always enjoy hearing about how people tailor their weddings to themselves as a couple

@firefly24601 3 года назад

My partner and I always wanted a very small wedding, and COVID made it all socially acceptable! Literally 7 people including us, the photographer, and the celebrant. No parents (flying in your at-risk folks during COVID? LOL) me, partner, celebrant, photographer, her assistant, and two witnesses. I did not wear a dress, but my partner wore a white one. No veils, garters, cake, dance, "giving away" of either of us, wedding invites (though we'll send announcement postcards with our wedding pictures on them after), speeches, We DID do engagement rings, which then doubled as wedding rings on the big day, partner had a bouquet, and we all had a sit down meal at a nice restaurant after. We DID do a wedding registry, but only put things we actually needed (like kitchen stuff), and it was mostly for the Boomers in our family, who would have been weirded out that we didn't do one anyway. The only thing we would change is our parents not being there. We don't have a lot of money, so a super-low-budget wedding was EXACTLY what we wanted!

@gabiimg333 3 года назад

You’re a QUEEN 💙 I love how you’re unashamedly yourself 😊

@kelseysawesometastic 3 года назад

YES TO BASICALLY ALL OF THIS!!! I'm getting married next year and wow I agree so so so much. So many things make me uncomfortable like making a speech and doing the first dance. I'm only keeping a few of the traditions.

@robertmenzies6939 3 года назад

OMG of the 26 things you talk about 22 of them happened on my wedding day 😳 didn’t realise I was that traditional.

@mumblbeebee6546 3 года назад

Well, I clearly did not pay attention to YT for a while, so may I add, bleatedly, my best wishes for your health and happiness for many many years to come!

@valle1973 3 года назад

In Germany we have the tradition of "kidnapping the bride" (Brautentführung) She will go with some friends and they drink alcohol until the groom and the other wedding guests find her.. I'm usually not a fan of tradition but I love this one :)

@emmynoether9540 3 года назад

Ist mir neu. Klingt lustig. ^^

@nichcool4651 3 года назад

Das klingt nach meiner Art Tradition! Hab aber auch noch nie davon gehört

@KateLately 3 года назад

I love this video! I want to do my own now - I think it’s cool how everyone is different and that’s what makes weddings so cool!!

@LollyLovesBeauty 3 года назад

F*cking love this video, Hannah! Your wedding dress is still the best I’ve ever seen! The most befitting!

@toin9898 3 года назад

YES! I am a wedding photographer and I've been saying for literally a decade that wedding brownies need to be a thing! Wedding cake is usually bad. Brownies are always good! You're the first person I've seen do it :)

@EliseHewlett 3 года назад

Amazing! I just got married last weekend and have my own channel too and would love to create my own take on this (credit to you of course!). Love your work Hannah, you're always so articulate and a huge inspiration to me xx

@pandasandmushrooms 3 года назад

The fluffy Disney top is everything. Also so excited for this video, forgot we all filled out the poll. xD

@cheyenneysewijn7343 3 года назад

The something blue in friends is when Phoebe gets married in the freezing cold and says "I will be my something blue"

@Frankenzebra 3 года назад

And Monica and chandler's almost wedding in Vegas where she stuffs the New and Blue sweater up her dress, saying they were borrowing it so it was a 3 in 1

@FlamedWater 3 года назад

My boyfriend and I are getting married in 2 years and I am excited to discuss with him which traditions we will keep for our wedding. Not only do we come from different cultures but also I couldn't care less for most traditions in general and he finds many of them to be romantic.

@Efusco97 3 года назад

Oooo I’m so glad this video is finally made :D! I did expect it to be on the more Hannah channel tho :P!

@hannahwitton 3 года назад

eeeeh yeah I couldn't decide but it's about relationships so put it here!

@Efusco97 3 года назад

@@hannahwitton omg you should do a review of this !! au.perifit.co/products/kegel-exerciser-with-app?Acquisition_CA%2FAU%2FNZ&WC_Health%2FWellness%2FYoga%2FPilates%2FSelfcare&S39%29_Video_CandiceJane+%2F%2F+Product+Page+-+Copie+2&fbclid=IwAR3xRbxi0M45v2A4Q1sgo5eRa3cxHEOjK2Qw4RpLhLeLlQ1ycLXbAvnPECA It’s supposed to be amazing 😍

@emelia33 3 года назад

I married my husband in March before the COVID restrictions begun in Melbourne. We ended up getting married on a Wednesday afternoon in my in-laws backyard. It was just our families & I ordered from our favourite pizza joint for food afterwards. It wasn’t what I had planned but it was perfect 🧡

@TheEmmaHouli 3 года назад

Oh my god me too! We got married on the 5th of march and as soon as my parents flew home lockdown was declared

@Mrules123 3 года назад

I love the way you think! You inspired my wedding! Thank you for allowing me to check myself before I wreck myself

@isabbygabbyorcrabby 3 года назад

My parents got married back in the early nineties and my mum was that radical feminist who refused to say "to honour and to obey" (she actually has an argument with her parents over it!) I'm glad that now it is much less common in the vows 😂

@DragonDancer 3 года назад

I want to do this now too! Such a fun idea! I got married two years ago and had a pretty non-traditional wedding. The one thing we hella splurged on was the invitations. I live far away from all my family and close friend, so neither my mom nor my bridesmaids could dress shop with me. My mom cared the most about the invitations, so when she visited me, we went all out at a local paper shop.

@corneliastreet2491 2 года назад

I keep all the invitations of everything I am invited to. Better than a souvenir or gift or party favor imo because it’s personal :) plus cards don’t take up that much space comparatively

@paddystyles6641 3 года назад

Support for Hannah’s moving into in together registry 👍

@holliekendall7897 3 года назад

I like the "something old something new something borrowed and something blue" thing but I like the idea of it all being the same object like they used the tardis in doctor who

@emawyy 3 года назад

This was so interesting. I don't plan on marrying anytime soon but one of the things that always puts me and my partner off is the sheer thought of the cost. So interesting to hear what you guys did x

@lindsie_sky64 3 года назад

My husband and I got married in September in the US. we had originally planned a more traditional big wedding at a hall, but even though there weren’t too many restrictions by the time we had our wedding, we just didn’t feel safe having 200 people in a room together for a big party. We had a mostly traditional wedding party, but I did have one bridesman, so we called my whole group bridesfolx. The girls did all have matching dresses, and I wore a white dress, which also contributed to the something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue. I wore my grandmas wedding dress from 1950, the only alteration being removing the sleeves. I bought some new jewelry to wear, and got my nails painted blue. The borrowed was my mom’s garter from my parents wedding, and my sister is planning on wearing it for her wedding next year too, so we started a new tradition. I did have wedding flowers, I made all the arrangements from red wooden roses. I made my husband’s boutineer out of ribbon rosettes from his mom’s wedding veil. We did a first dance and a father daughter dance. We got married at a drive in movie theater, so my dad drove me in to walk me down the isle in his 1956 Buick. We did say “I do” and exchanged rings. We threw out some traditions, kept others, and started some new ones. Overall it was the perfect day.

@chiaramancin3288 3 года назад

Wedding favours are a HUUUUGE thing in Italy! Favours in general, you prepare them for all sort of events/ceremonies, often linked to christian/religious 'moment in life'

@renfort3925 3 года назад

My parents broke a lot of traditions lol. My mother made outfits for the entire wedding party (her and my dad as well). Her and her sister were in purple (and gold) and my father and his siblings were in blue (and grey) (no formal bridal party i think).Their parents were in whatever. My father actually borrowed a spare pair of boots from a friend. Everyone was dressed in medieval clothes. They have since worn their outfits a few times as costumes (They weren't historically correct so not a lot of uses unfortunately). They did a handfasting ceremony because my mother is pagan but no rings (my mother already has multiple per finger!). My mother bought a lotr one ring years later for my father for like a $1 on ebay as she had black titanium one as a sort of wedding ring but my father doesn't wear it, my mother wears hers on her middle finger and I actually wear a matching ring sometimes as my ace ring. They had a picnic in a park with the food being bring a plate to share (my mother's grandma refused to attend because of that. too untraditional. idk if she just didn't know about the medieval clothes or...). they arrived by horse and carriage and walked in with someone carrying their heraldic banners from the re-enactment group they are part of. for the honeymoon they went to Tasmania (We're from melbourne) and stayed with family down there. Entire wedding+honeymoon cost less than my aunts wedding dress.

@gemmi1 3 года назад

"then we had to un-invite a load of people" 😂

@TaylahLouiseBudgets 3 года назад

I lovedddd this video so much

@werosification 3 года назад

omg a first dance to think about things with the dance from the music video would be absolutely fantastic 😂😂

@kriscynical 2 года назад

I've always thought my friend did her bridesmaids dresses quite nicely. We had to pay for them, but rather than choose a specific dress that all of us had to wear, she told each of us to get whatever style of dress we liked. The only requirements were that it be from a specific wedding designer (she chose an affordable one with a HUGE selection), in a specific color, and a specific accent color of the style we chose had an accent. Then our shoes just needed to be silver, and several of us ended up getting the same strappy heels from Payless. Her reasoning behind doing it that way was that 1) she chose us because she loved each of us for who we individually were, 2) she wanted our bridesmaid dresses to reflect that individuality, and 3) she knew that each of us had VERY different body types and wanted each of us to wear something we would feel beautiful in. As a result, all of us still looked uniform because of the matching designer and color while still looking fabulous since each of our dresses flattered our body types. I seriously think every bride who goes the bridesmaid route should handle the dresses that way. It was an incredibly positive experience.

@spriddlez 3 года назад

One thing I liked when I got married is in order to obtain a wedding license we had to swear that neither of us were being bought or sold. A bit alarming when I was told but in retrospect I am glad it's a thing

@corneliastreet2491 2 года назад

They should ask you that in a separate room if they are really concerned about the trafficking element. Make sure there’s no coercion by asking separately and in private.

@saadtyphoon 3 года назад

I wish people use their brains to plan their weddings like you. Tradition is fun and everything but not all of them are nice and some of them are don't even have any base. As people are getting more educated and also in this pandemic situation you guys did a really perfect job.

@misswinnie4.8 3 года назад

Congratulations Hannah💝

@MewWolf5 3 года назад

I LOVE Think About Things! I would have been 10000% in favour of that as your first dance!

@RoisinsReading 3 года назад

I thought you would mention the walking down the aisle/given away moment. Definitely one I would leave. I also recently found out that cutting the cake is meant to symbolise "breaking" the hyman and then the crumbs are about fertility! Definitely put me right off

@TiaBonfield 3 года назад

Loveeeee your jumper!

@elenacherepanova5490 3 года назад

I like your approach very very much!

@Musikchic47 3 года назад

We didn't have full gifts for our guests, we just got them small little boxes of chocolates at each place setting at the reception

@KaReyx 3 года назад

oooh great video, hannah! such an interesting topic. also what about the names tradition? did either of you take on each others names? :D x

@olgamartinezlopez5902 3 года назад

What about having your dad walk you down the aisle? I was very against it because it's such a patriarchy thing... but I ended up doing it because my dad was so excited about it. I am so glad I did it, it's one of the nicest memories (and pictures!) I have.

@MsGlamourcat 3 года назад

That is so cute that you did that for your dad :) Life is short and goes so quickly, and one day it will be one of your most special memories too.

@paigeerlank8 3 года назад

I see this tradition in a sweet way, I really want both my parents to walk me down the aisle, not just my dad

@samanthawatkins1787 3 года назад

I got a veil, then forgot to wear it on the day! 😂

@brandileema5298 3 года назад

I've heard of all of these. And I say do whatever you want to do if it's what YOU want to do. I've had more than one conversation in the past telling the bride to do what they want, not what others tell them they should do. I feel like too many "traditions" are continued due to peer pressure and not because it's what the couple actually wants to do. My advice is usually "Tell them to f*** off, this your day, not theirs."

@LinaLovegood 3 года назад

I LOVE this topic

@auditoryeden 3 года назад

In the States it's pretty normal for the bridesmaids/groomsmen to have to buy their own clothes, to the specification of the couple getting married. I think that's probably why you sometimes see wedding photos (usually of very young people) with like eight people lined up behind each of them. I bought my dress for the only wedding I've been in, but the bride basically said, "this color please, but otherwise get whatever you like and think you'd wear again" which is pretty reasonable.

@lara_xy 3 года назад

I can 100% relate to the awkwardness of speeches and a first dance, where everyone looks at me... ugh no

@strawycape9693 3 года назад

Having a bouquet so you don't have to think about your hands is so relatable! Must remember this if my partner convinces me getting married is worth doing

@mykittiespuppy1972 3 года назад

My friend wanted to keep her bouquet so I told her to throw one of the bouquets from the table arrangement cuz it is her wedding and that bouquet will mean more to her than anyone else.

@reiliv_ 3 года назад

I remember being a bridesmaid at at wedding when I was about 10. I though it was really weird how it was put together and felt like it wasn’t genuine and felt more like a TV set with rehearsals and specific lines and placements. I then was set on never getting married because I didn’t see the point and felt it was just old traditions that had no importance to me personally. Now I am with my partner and we’ve talked about marriage. I would happily marry him because I now see it as another part or step of our relationship. I don’t think you have to do things or do things in a specific order for a relationship to be valid, but I think for us it just makes sense and works for us, which is a very different mindset than what I used to have. I’m also not someone that likes all eyes on me, even for birthdays, I avoid telling people till the last minute because I don’t want attention or anything. I would not want the big traditional wedding and I would have one in a church as I’m not religious and neither is my partner. I’m also lucky that my mum is very much in the camp of she would have got married in jeans if her mum let her, so she doesn’t care for tradition either. I also much prefer calling him my husband and we joke about already being married anyway. We don’t care for the terms boyfriend or girlfriend and partner often feels clunky or formal in some situations. But I would definitely be specific about what I wanted and what traditions I was not interested in. Personally there’s nothing I would have to have, but there are some things I would like, some things I’m not bothered about and some things I definitely wouldn’t want.

@glitterberserker1029 3 года назад

At my sister's wedding she threw one of the bridesmaids' flowers. That way if they got smooshed or the person kept them it didn't matter. It was her wedding planners idea and I think it's pretty smart, personally.

@LotjeG 3 года назад

We wanted a simple wedding where we would do the bare minimum in terms of formalities and then for a party we'd have a meal with close friends and family instead of a whole complicated dinner and dance. The meal would have to be good, because we enjoy that and we wanted to have a special beer brewn for the occasion since we have a lot of brewer friends and enjoy having a drink. I wanted a dress that I could wear afterwards as a normal dress and we did not want rings. The plan was also to start trying for a baby sometime soon because I believed that we'd have a hard time conceiving (because of previous medical things) and thought it would easily take us half a year to two years, maybe longer so it'd be best to get a head start. Then I got pregnant at our first attempt and we didn't even bother to plan the whole wedding. We did the official part for free in a very basic setting and had apple pie at a local café afterwards with our official witnesses. That was it. We did get a caligraphed marriage certificate to surprise our friends and family with. Oh and the special beer brewn for the occasion turned into a special brew to celebrate the birth of our baby. We did a special brew for the second one as well and got coasters printed instead of birth cards to hand out. I'm pretty sure a lot of people don't even realise we got married.

@ThatRomyKate 3 года назад

At my brother's wedding they had a nice tradition called a dollar dance, where guests queue to have a quick dance with the bride or groom, they pay a dollar which goes in a hat and they get to spend a minute chatting to the bride or groom. Gets the couple a bit of money and means they can spend a minute talking to each guest :) Also I like the Greek tradition of pinning money onto the bride and groom - at my friend's wedding they ended up with thousands because people were pinning £50 notes to them!

@robertmenzies6939 3 года назад

Ok here’s something very wrong... section 12 of the matrimonial causes act 1973 states that a wedding can be annulled if it is not consummated. So this one is actually more then a tradition it’s a legal requirement to seal the deal. They don’t mention that one in the ceremony do they 🤷🏻‍♂️(p.s. we were knackered as well and sex was last thing on our minds)

@hannahwitton 3 года назад

this is true! but it doesn't apply to same sex marriages!! the law is so fucked and weird.

@robertmenzies6939 3 года назад

@@hannahwitton completely agree, old rule for a different time and just shows how laws have not yet caught up with equality and inclusion.

@AwesomeSpyro 3 года назад

I don't think that law is in any way enforced. I mean, I very highly doubt that some government worker comes to knock on your door a week or so after your wedding to ask you if you fucked yet. Even if that did happen, and you didn't consumate it, you coudl always lie because I don't think they would have a way to check. I agree that its a stupid law and it shouldn't exist, but no one follows it and no one enforces it, so in the end it doesn't really matter.

@SonsOfLorgar 3 года назад

@@robertmenzies6939 probably stems from iron age practices where the consummation was even required to be in front of witnesses!

@robertmenzies6939 3 года назад

@@SonsOfLorgar I dread to think.......

@athab8256 3 года назад

Fun video! Thanks!

@ekl1457 3 года назад

I've been granted exceptional circumstances for my wedding so we have a lockdown wedding on the 20th of February. We can't even have a picnic in the park outside afterwards so I've organised some individualised tea boxes for our 4 guests. No bridesmaids, no groomsmen, no bouquet, no meal, no first dance. I'm not wearing white though I do have white accent items and a veil (got it off Amazon). Can't speak to the threshold bit (might be a bit scary my flats right next to the stairs) or the sex on the wedding night bit yet but we might be too full from all the cake and sandwiches

@NadiatheDestroyer 3 года назад

Love this! Certainly from my perspective (Australian-Sri Lankan) wedding favours aren’t common but it’s Sri Lankan to give a fruitcake (essentially the wedding cake) as the wedding favour instead - and being fruitcake it lasts ages so the guests take it home and have it when they want.

@abbycolby4543 3 года назад

The garter toss may be more popular in certain areas. In my family (in various parts of the US), a lot of people do the garter toss

@MagicofKeelanWendorf 3 года назад

I've been at two weddings this year plus I'm an ordained minister and officiating my first wedding at the beginning of 2021. I'm in an amazing year long relationship currently and I feel one thing that may be silly is a promise ring for the time being. I'm looking for the near future but most definitely lots of interesting points in your video. One thing I was interested in was what I saw at a recent wedding was they had a donut wall instead of a cake just like your brownies. I feel it's cheaper plus a bit more fun. Plus you can get a variety of donuts rather than worrying about cake flavor and people being picky.

@hummerchine 3 года назад

I simply adore you...and I’m 63 years old! My wonderful wife and I have been married for 33 years...I was fortunate to find the right person We lived together for five years first, married in a court of law with my mom, brother, and grandmother there. It was perfect:D

@Poppy90866 3 года назад

I actually don’t think I have ever been to a wedding that didn’t provide a gift... either seeds for flowers, a key with the couples engraved on it, or my favourite a bottle opener! I never realized people didn’t do it, I thought it was “mandatory”

@anamiscabre 3 года назад

One more thing about the garter tradition, at least where I live, is that after the groom takes it off as you described, he tosses it to the single men (yes, the thing that the bride was wearing is now owned by a stranger, why!!! 😫😫😫) and the one that catches it has to dance with the woman that catches the bouquet. Just when you thought this tradition couldn't get any worse...

@we.genuinely.think2882 3 года назад

I mean the garter thing is weird but wouldn't it be fun if the tossing wasn't devided into men catching the garter and women catching the boquet but everyone is there to catch both of these things so you might end with two men or two women dancing with each other no matter their sexuality. I think that would be a nice modern twist ti this tradition (even though it definitely doesn't make taking off the garter with teeth any less weird)

@XxlonerxinxlovexX 3 года назад

Re: alcohol, we're still debating it ourselves... We're in Ireland so it's pretty expected to have an open bar, but neither of us drink, and we hate being around drunk people, and know a few relatives who get pretty ... troublesome, shall we say, when drunk. But still, the thought of a dry Irish Wedding is apparently insane xD

@AwesomeSpyro 3 года назад

Exactly the same when it comes to Polish weddings. Not having free alcohol for the guests at a Polish wedding (or a wedding where there would be quite a few Polish guests) is considered an insult ot the guests. My mom's brother got married last year and I think they spent around 1-3 thousand on just vodka alone, not to mention all the other beverages like champage, juices, cocktails, and soft drinks.

@XxlonerxinxlovexX 3 года назад

@@AwesomeSpyro yeah, no way! We'll prob just leave guests buy their own so hopefully things won't get too crazy then xD

@hiccup548 3 года назад

My friends got married in a tent in the bride's garden, and they had an open bar, but there was only so much there, so it wasn't like being at a hotel or whatever where they'd keep supplying it endlessly. There was a drink with dinner, a drink for toasts and then a drink or two after, per person, but not enough for everyone to get outrageously drunk. Obv that depends on your venue but I liked that as an option.

@jadebear200027 3 года назад

We had one! You're not the only insane one. :D

@XxlonerxinxlovexX 3 года назад

@@hiccup548 that sounds good, too! :)

@cecygarciadeleon4990 3 года назад

Soooo interesting and cool to see how many traditions are the same and how many are different in different countries, i'm mexican and let me tell you, we go hard on weddings hahaha traditions + lots of guests + live music + long fancy dresses... obviously not all of them, but we do make big weddings in general

@christianacali4326 3 года назад

I've been a bridesmaid over 5 times and I've always purchased my own dress. Its never been mentioned that the bride and groom would pay for the outfits of the wedding party.