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Right?!

That’s fair but you don’t need to have 10 dogs when you can’t afford their vet bills.

She's a hoarder, it's a mental disorder. You should watch episodes of hoarders to understand them that they have mental illness.

Fact that she has like 15 dogs. She cannot afford them. Just like you shouldn’t have 15 kids if you can’t afford them😬

@@ilovebunniessparks5121 She has 18 dogs. You are right, nobody should own 18 dogs when they can't afford them.

Maybe not so much about saving the pup, but they realized her animal hoarding was not addressed, which completely ruined their plans for getting her on track.

COMPLETELY AGREE!!!!!!

Honestly I was livid

She’s shockingly irresponsible to have 18 dogs and no funds of her own to pay for them, yet she continually treats herself to “250 skirts, 100 glittery scarfs, 50 ball gowns etc etc” Had she have sold some of her massive amounts of stuff to free up some cash to pay for the vet, fair enough, but she didn’t! But as Jay points out, sacrificing her own excess stuff didn’t even cross her mind! She’d rather spend money that’s not hers!

No they are a luxury she CANNOT AFFORD

Very attractive lady, I hope she paid off her debt.

She is old school gothic like me 😉

@@lisadempsey9259 her hair is pretty! Love the color!

Disagree

Definitely agree. She’s very pretty.

And the Hair... thickest gorgeous head of hair....

The psychiatrist agreed

I think she would be a Kibbe Theatrical Romantic. She is lovely. Hope she doiing well Didn't fancy that shower cap confection she was wearing at end though. But I appreciate the vibe of her personal style.

Yeah, paying a vet bill is a basic responsibility. They're pointing out normal things and putting meaning to it that isn't really there. I don't think paying your puppy's vet bill or being comfortable while lying down on a padded surface can be traced back to a person's medical history. I wonder if they wrote out the episode before meeting the person and are trying to make her fit the narrative of someone who isn't in control of their life because of past traumas. "What I worry about is that in saving the dogs life, you might be killing your dream of the future." I know he was implying she could've put the puppy down instead, but I'd like to hear them say out loud what they think Lorna should have done when they were discussing her going over-budget. I wanna know if they have a better answer or if they just wanted to chastise her.

By the time you cant afford them its a problem....

@@FredrikThool All in good time. Clearly, she will need to find homes for, say, all but two. It will be difficult for her to do, but yes she neds help from a fostering-to-forever type of organisation. In the meantime, she did what any real human being would do and that is get care for the animal, no matter what.

Right on! Well said…I was just shouting my anger at the tablet when I saw that I wasn’t alone in my opinion. As a responsibility, animal owners MUST put animals above savings, or just don’t have any animals.

@@FredrikThool we found a lovely family to have our 10 month old puppy as we were unable to cope. He's having a better life now. So if she can't afford the vet then it's time for her to find a new lovely home for her puppy/ puppies.

@@jaynestag95 why get a puppy if you didn't anticipate the responsibility. Fuelling puppy farms as well with no regards to life. a million eye rolls.

I'm surprised they didn't think it was another shoebox!😉

I'm surprised she knew where any of them were.

Lots behind the scenes are rehearsed or We'd never have a programme under 10 hours.

I mean Benjamin was a bit sarcastic when he said that! Lol. It is a produced show and in every episode they miraculously find the CC statements and bills “laying” around.

I know, I couldn't belive she was bitchung about that, the dog is family and needed the care.

Same.

Ofcourse she should save her dog , but the most people , at least the people i knew , have too save money in case something happen.You cant use creditcards too pay your bills

I get that it's important to pay the vet bills but how do you get to a point where you're paying vet bills for 18 pets? Before she knows it, she won't be able to afford to keep them safe and well, and then it's not really a matter of whether she loves them or not

No - if you go back to the beginning it’s ten dogs and eight puppies. I’m weak in math but that 18 dogs. “I want a 5 bedroom house, 18 dogs, 2 kids, a room full of clothes, and I’d prefer not to work, thanks so much.” At times people have to make a choice between feeding the kids or taking care of the pets. My son in law ADORED his dog but they didn’t have $5000 for emergency surgery. No one is a harder worker but they had to be realistic. Heartbreaking, but it’s the reality of keeping your head above water. This women has parents who are enablers. She believes things will change for the better - like her parent’s estate?

Reducing the dogs would be a huge improvement.

It's EIGHTEEN

I thought that too

But she shops at Primark and other similar places....lots and lots of cheap clothes! Better to have a few good pieces.

My heart stopped for a second when she suspected that she was depicted as the bride in her daughter's dream drawing... She always talked about her kids either after everything else or not at all. There's something very broken about their relationship as a family.

She's a hoarder.

There's a long way to go to start a college fund for either of these kids.

yeah shes a child and her parents keep enabling this.

When she listed what she had to spend her $50 on, feeding the dogs came before the kids.

This man should never have pets.

@@katehenry2718 you know he would let animals die. it doesnt matter that she has pet hoarding disorder (which they didnt even address??) and he's not a hoarder, he probably views pets as a waste of money and replacable if you have them

i unironically love that her decorating sense is a like that of a highly creative 7yo child

That struck me as so narcissistic. I also really wonder how accurate the "near death" childhood experiences were. If you watch her body language when she tells Benjamin that, it is telling. I wonder if she has dramatized or exaggerated the illness as a way to justify her behaviors. It would have been interesting to hear the extent of her childhood asthma form her parents and get a sense of whether that was really true.

Nope. She is divorced so probably getting child support and parents are obviously huge enablers. My youngest daughter had multiple health issues from 8th grade on. I have a tendency to indulge her a bit - I think because I feel badly she went through so much and missed out in her teens. I have zero debt, nor would I ever go into debt for her (or anyone), but she needs some new clothes since the last baby, there was a 50% sale on jeans, and I told her to pick up a pair of two for an early birthday gift. My mom died when I was eight and I always wanted to give my daughters the childhood I didn’t have. I’d much rather buy for others than myself,but I never touch my next egg nor do they ever ask for a thing. It’s my little pleasure. I realize the “childhood “ ship has sailed but they stay your kids.

double mortgage!!!!

Im gonna guess she got student grants/loans for being a mature student, she'll probably get some sort of Universal Credit to top up her income/help with bills & child support from the children's father. Plus she's a homeowner so (pre credit crisis of 2008) she could get plenty of credit from banks and credit companies secured again her home.

In the beginning they say she‘s a textile student and brings home £990 a month

I have to skip over the ‘therapist’ parts because of how much leading / manipulating questions are used

the worst thing is benjamin isnt a real psychologist. he is a "psychological coach" - he has no medical degree or doctorate...he is merely pretending to be a therapist/psychologist. which makes it even weirder/creepier when you consider what he has the participants do and the questions he asks the participants in all of these episodes. they're opening up about incredibly deep/personal issues to a guy who has no medical training/education and is playing dress up. it's all pretty twisted

@@jamnbryan1 yeah I think he's a creep

@@jamnbryan1 OMG I hadn't realised - but I do find he brings preconceived ideas to this practice - which is not what a good therapist does

She doesn’t need a a man to be Happy ~ she needs to get her life under control and if a Man is in the future let it Happen just don’t go looking! You need to be Happy with yourself first!!!

It was a thought that occurred to me. She did have some past baggage but I do think that the day you have a child is the day you have to change your focus away from yourself. Our lives are nowhere as difficult as those in the past! They had a lot more resolve, resilience and responsibility. It's time we matured back into the strong people we once were!

@@SB-dx7kb I guess she is a dress hoarder . 😃

She bought them because she loves them but she doesn't need to wear them.

Exactly lol

Miranda V I didn’t even notice that until you said something 💀

She said "It's a part of who I am", not "apart" though...

Lee D The original title to the video was something along the lines of, “Shopaholic says looking good is apart of who I am”. They changed it maybe a couple hours after upload.

A bit kinky!

LOL 😆

Hun listen I've gone thru this. But the way I got to save and stopped spending (not totally) was trying out minimalism. 1. Use up what u have. 2. Photograph every month the things you used up that month 3. Track your spending online 4. Give yourself an allowance to treat but go a few days without shopping and then go. Trust me when u start to save up and see the money grow. The thought of spending will make you think what have I been doing all these years! When u do your own shop your stash you will feel like u bought something every month. Hope this helps

Thank you both for your understanding. It's very heartbreaking knowing i could be saving this money to make bigger n better purchase investments n just to save. I have nail polishes that are 20+ years old. Every great once in awhile I'll find one that's dried up. Usually after my daughter or step daughter didn't replace the tops on tightly. Other than that, sometimes they get a lil thicker n i just add a couple drops of nail polishish thinner n they work perfectly after that. I have tried posting things online that are new or very gently used for very minimal cost, but eveybody sends me messages with a sad story n how they really need it. I do give a lot of stuff away for free to help others that are in need, but i would also like to make a couple dollars for stuff too sometimes. My BBW collection I would say 1/4 of it has been opened n used. Nothing is seperated or foul smelling. I didn't know they were going out of business. How sad. I really hate having this problem, but crazy enough my mom does too. It started for her after my brother committed suicide at 19 yrs old. I just went Wednesday n kinda overspent on things I really didn't need because I was really depressed. I didn't go as excessive as i normally do. I'm really trying to be aware when i go out that i have this problem. It's kinda like an addiction disease such as alcoholism or gambling or over or under eating. I really appreciate you both for your advice n will really try n apply your advice. This is the first time I've ever told anyone about my problem n why n I am very thankful for the helpful advice versus being negatively attacked. Thank you so much💜

@@the76libra2 I lost my brother in November 2019. I feel your heartache. It's hard to think life will continue without them. But its something we learn to live with. Get support from your family and friends. If it makes you feel better talk about him to your mum in casual convo. I do that and I feel like hes always here with us. I hope you feel better and dont beat yourself up. You still have life left in you to make a difference to some one elses life. Do something positive or just chat with some one and ask how their day was? Do this everyday and you might feel abit better in yourself. Be kind to yourself and most of the difficulties in your life will ease. I hope you feel better x

@@shoppaholic90meah91 I'm sorry to hear of your loss. My brother died 2/11/2000 at 19 n my dad died 11/12/2017. Losing my dad has wrecked me more than I already was. My mom is the one that started the excessive shopping from the depression of losing my brother. I just have severe anxiety n depression n have my entire life. Most don't know i have those issues or even how severely. I have lost count how many times I've attempted suicide. I struggle n fight daily just to make it thru just one more day. I don't have what i call family other than my mom n my 2 kids. I have a couple aquaintances, but not really any friends. I just fight my demons alone. Right now things are in a really desperate place for my kids n I. We may end up homeless within the next month or 2. I just plan on putting everything we have in a storage n talking my mom into letting my kids stay with her n I'll handle myself. I survived on the streets when i was younger. It wasn't easy n went thru a lot of bad things. I can't let things i went thru happen to my kids. I couldn't make it now because of being disabled n having severe pain issues n sick n other issues. As long as my kids have somewhere safe n stable to go, that is all I care about. My life has been gone for many years now. I just merely exist. I'm ready for whenever the time comes.

@@the76libra2 what your going thru u need to share with your mum or speak to some one for some therapy. I can only tell you that your kids would be at a loss without you. My brother left behind a 2yr old daughter and she asks about him all the time. He suffered from mental health. But I hope you reach out for some help. I live in the uk and I'm assuming your in the states. Remember your never alone. It might feel like it but you aren't. But you have to remind yourself that if crappy stuff happens it doesnt matter as long as your family has you. For your kids you mean everything to them. Speak to your mum and tell her what's going on. You be surprised. It might take some weight off your shoulders to reach out for some help. What you feeling right now isnt how your gonna feel like forever. Remember that. It's a feeling and it wont last. Your gonna have better days. Things and places are replaceable but people aren't. Pls reach out for some help. You aren't alone in this. You sharing your feelings might help your mum too.

She expects them both!

With her skills she can have both.

she probably doesnt. i think she's very lonely. in other episodes of this show they frequently get the friend network of the main person in to help. i think if she had any friends they would have done this, so...

Jay made a valid point though! This women has chosen to have 18 dogs but doesn’t have the funds to care for them! So when an emergency happens, she’d rather spend money she doesn’t have (as appose to selling the excess shoes, dresses, gloves, hats etc to generate the necessary funds)

Greedy companies want the fees they charge for partial payments. Some are 30% per year. They can afford a few deadbeats who declare bankruptcy every 7 years. Right after that, the offers for more credit cards come pouring in so it starts all over again.

I thought it was way over the top, he has no business going that far

no responsible therapist would make someone do something like that. especially when they just met them and barely know them.

She needs a good one as a textiles student !

Yes, you can.

Dont be rediculious

You don't get even a little bit of psychology do you?