You summarized meaning of life of married women in less than 5 mins.... Bass Allah apko aur apki generations ko sakoon, izzat aur arooj atta farmain Ameen
Bilkul sahi kaha sir ji.. Mae M.phil hon Law m. And m.a political science.. But me ny apny bachon k liye ghr ko tarjeeh di h.. Aur apny bachon k hobby k liye art gardening jaisy kam ghr m un k sath krti hon.alhumdulillah mery bachy mery sath apna bachpun guzaar rehy hn
Khushi ki baat hai lekin fakhr ki nahi, kiuke aise bayan me ghuroor ajata hai. Ap ke halat ijazat dete hain ke ap ghar pe waqt guzaren, lekin jin ke nahin dete unko nikal ker kam karna parta hai.
Ache se sun kr comments krna chahiye is mai kam na krne ki bat nai howi is mai bachon ki tarbiyat ki bat howi pehle bachon ki tarbiyat kr lo phr bd mai kam kr lo. Agar musalman ho to duniya ki books ko rattne k sath sath islami talim b hasil kr leni chahiye mazhabi talim hasil krna jahalat nai hai.1
When I got married my husband was abroad. ...I felt very lonely. ....after six years of marriage, I was a mother of two kids n I got a Government job in school....after a year my husband came back to home permanently because kids were growing up....now he is here for six years n im working...he is not having a permanent job...im supporting my family...if l was not he would be living abroad , me n my kids would be here alone.
I Am MBA marketing specialist but Alhamdolilah enjoying a focused married life and kids .I can better run my home and family and teach my kids v well .
Ayesha Arslan apny mu ap mian mitto banana hota he is tarha jab k esa nai he ye safed jhoot he jo ap bol rahi ho balkah ap ki tarha ki or orain b isi tarha jhooti hn abi tak Pakistan mein ksi orat ko hum ne to koi dhang k kaam karty nai dekha he bas apni job ki waja se nekama pan k siwa kuch b nai hori hn humry haan ki working women
I am replying to all dekhain baat ye h aurat ko Allah Talah ny bnaya he pardy mn rehny k liye h lekin es baat ki smj atay atay he bht sy logon ki umaren beet jati hen . I am also online seller of branded clothes stitched btanay ka maqsad ye h k if an educated women wants to earn then she can earn in limits . And jo khwateen job krti hen mn unko galat nhi keh rahi Ho skta h unki majbori Ho but sb sy pehly Un ways and options ko select kren Jin sy ap ghair mehram aur bepardagi sy Bach saken. And dua ye h k jesi hm hen Allah jb hm as a beti hn to Allah hamary baap ko itna dy jb hm biwi hn to hamara husband well settled Ho and jb hm maa Ho jayen to hamari aulad hm ko paal saky to shyd kisi ko b ghar sy bahir na nikalna pary ameen
He is not interested in that. His only goal is to indoctriinate and braiinwash ladies into giving up any shrred of indeppendence and ambiitions and focus their life around the husband.
@@rayyana.8538 Don't worry i will make a video about father's role in child's grooming and upbringing Inshallah soon will upload a video on this topic. bye the way thanks for giving an idea for the topic.
@@hakimdiwan5101 yeah you buffons will convey opinions based on a single thing someone said without knowing anything about them and without using a thing called "aqal" to think.
qasim ali shah sir, sahi baat as always. ALLAH barkat dae apkay kam ko aur ALLAH sab logon ko(whether they are young or old) ap ki batai hui baaton ko serious lae kar amal pera hon
@@mad252Ajeeb Sawal he , AP log itnay Unrelatable kiun hen? She is Talking about her education and you are asking her a question out of the way. Ajeeb!!!! Kiya Pta wo aap se kahin ziada namaz ki pa-band ho.
The problem is that people dont value the immense and indispensable contribution that women play when they are full time stay at home mothers. People value money more. There are some who even go to the extent of saying that the men work while women do nothing at home. This mindset has led to women wanting to prove their mettle in jobs other than at home. Most dont work outside because they love their jobs but because of the two above stated reasons- their 'own' money or to prove their worth. Social change can help in this. It is extremely important for women to be highly educated to be good mothers who can also stand up for their rights.
Exactly that’s why new generation girls r more interested in working than staying home mums coz they grow up looking at homes that their mothers has no respect.
Jazakallah Sir I follow u.I did alot of degrees(MA English MA Economics,MA Political Science MA Education M.Ed etc etc) Now I give 7 years to raise my kids InshaAllah and after tht I continue my Job bcz tht give me satisfection and joy.Having so many degrees with hard work it kill me tht I m nothing.But InshaAllah after 7 years for child rasing I thn strt my job again whch make me happy
education is important fr women even if dey stay home or doing a job ....who want to do a job if its nt required fr sm valid reasons doing it is no harm if its ur ambition nd ur husband support ur ideas nd vision it bcm a beautiful bond between dem..
Many women CHOOSE to work because it makes them happy. Look outside Pakistan. There are many successful Muslim business women and working women in every field. They manage homes and family too.
ماشللاہ Allah bless you Yeh hamesha sahi aur moderate baat batate hain, thore log bohat extreme peh puhamch jate hain jaise ke bohat zada liberal ya bohat zada conservative. Lekin ye bilkul darmiani aur saheeh bat karte hain.
Hazrat Khadija, by today's standards, was the CEO of a giant business empire that eventually financed Islam. Hence, not sure why he thinks "aurat kamaanay wala ghora nahi hai". Besides, raising children and taking care of the household is the responsibility of both parents. If the father helps with house chores, it is certainly possible for the mother to pursue her career.
Bilkul sahee baat hai... Meri Maa kamyaab thin.. Isi liye ham sab behan bhai kamyaab hain.. Meri ammi bhi working lady thin.. Bank job 9to5... Lekin porey ghar ko saath lay ker chali thin.. Ek manage life guzari..
My advice is every case is different ! Work out whats best for you and your family ! If both of you work outside home then workout a plan ! Kabhi biwi khana bnaye tou husband bartan dho dy ! Biwi kapray dho rhi hy tou husband safaye kr dy ! Agar responsibilties ko bantein gay tou u will have a strong marriage ! And dont forget ghar ka kam sunnat hy !
@Abid Hussain nhe aisa bilkulll nhe hai han yh personal choice hoskti hai apki aur apki wife ki k ap 2no ny apny kaam ko is trh sy divide kea.. Lkn agr ap 2no job kryn+ 2no ml k gar ka b kryn to is sy b koi mushkil nhe hoge.. Q k gar k kaam mn hath bathana ya biwi ki hlp krna sunnat e nabi hai r jb vo krskty to r koi kon hota.. Bs yh prsnl choice py dpnD krta hai k 2no ki khushi r asani ks mn hai.. Baki krny k lye nah bahir nah koi kaam mushkil nhe.. Working womens b hoti hyn vo b gar+job 2no dkhti hyn.. Mard k gar k kaam mn hath bathany ka mtlb yh nhe k sara kam he vo krny 2no k ml k krny sy b muhabt mn bht izafa hota hai r bonding stronG hoti hai believe me..
@Abid Hussain han g smj rhe hn mn apka point of view.. Aur is mn koi kabahat b nhe hr insan ki apni priorities hoti hai.. Bs mn yh khna chah rhe k agr ksi ko shoq ho ya usky ps itna ilm ho to bs rokna nh chahye agr koi manage krskta to.. 😊
Ghr ma bs husband and wife ni rhty pori family hoti waha sas ,susar,nanaands ,jeethani jeeth unky bachy dewar dewrani unky bachy bi hoty in sb ma ek working woman kase stay kry r baki females ghr pe hun r job kr ky any wali ky hissay ky kam bi rakhay hun to kase manage kery
Bht achi baat ki ap ny iss leay mn ny faisla kia hy k mn khud dr bnn rha hon tu mn kisse dr sy shadi nh kro ga q k mn nh chahta k us ki wishes kill hon q k dr bht mehnat krr k bnda bntaa h kisse ka passion hota hy unn ko job na krny denaa zulm h is leay mn kisse educated lrki sy shadi kr k ussy ziada khush rkho ga Is sy ghr ka sakoon b rhy ga aur bacho ki parwarish b achi ho ge...pray for me
Zindagi guzarna koi phoolon ki sejh nai k phoolon k uper se chal kr zindagi guzar jaye. Har rishta har pehloo different hota hai. Ye logon pr depend krta hai k wo kis ko kese lete hain.
Bhot achi baat ha orat ka educated hona zaroori ha mari sis teacher thi lakin shadi k bad full time ghar ko dheakti hn cooking best ha bachon ko khud tuition dyti hn bachay mashaALLAH first atay hn her husband proud her sacrifice she is very happy in her life bachay to un k moti jasay hn bhot tameez dar
Well Said Sir! I totally agree.. but there are certain things we should consider 1. If you prefer career over marriage don't get married , also dont cry k shadi kyu ni hrhi you yourself chosed it 2. Secondly there is unnecessary hatred for husbands. Boss pora din dantay aur baatein sunain koi masla ni because paisa derha hai. husband kuch keh de ghalti se b to bass uska jeena haram. 3. Most men want their wife to be a good homemaker not the money making machine. Man should be the provider. Money would be the last thing a man can expect from a wife. 4. Decide all these matters before marrying. ye ni k pehle shadi krlo chup kar k phr azaad azaadi ke naray bhi lagao
Bht acha explain kiya aap nae. I agree with you but one more thing is that if you prefer career over kids and also your counterpart prefers that, you still have the option to not have kids.
@@zuhairfan2490 although nasal rokna is something not encouraged in Islam. but if both are more happy without having kids go for it. But there should always be a room for negotiation for later. because later at some point of life one of them wants to have a kid, the other counterpart should at least have the tolerance to revisit the decision. This is life, its unpredictable. If both have low tolerance better to not get married. So as i said discuss matters before marrying , which our society discourages
M Msc chm hn or inshallah next MA education krna chahti hn lakin agr mjy Mera husband khy ga k job nae krni to nae kro GI mere dgrees us wkt Kam ay gi jb mery ghr m skoon ho ga
Its very true.. Meri shadi ka 4th year chal rha h.. Mere twins 2saal k han or my 5 months pregnant hn again.. Ab my shoqiya b job krne k qabil nae hn.. Inshallah jb 3rd wala 2 3 saal ka hojaega phr job krungi
you really A Motivation for me sir.. Ap ne Mere kamoon me asaniyan dal di hain ... Allah ap ke kamon me barkat de.. Or Mujhe Is Qabil Banaye ke Mein bhe Aik Motivational Speaker ban sakon... JaZak Allahu Khair😊
On one hand, society says women shouldn't work but do as they husbands want. But the same society doesn't offer women any support in case of divorce Because of financial dependency on husbands, women often stay in abussive marriages. Or else they become poor and homeless. You can't have it both ways.
Loved it. But I wish u also mentioned that sometimes a woman doesn't work but she still doesn't have time for her kids because of the expectations of her in laws.
Respected sir, i listen to your lectures often.. ap k apny views lekin m es baat se itefaq nhi krti... I've done alot to get my mbbs degree. I have spent my youth, valuable time, health to study hard. I too have dreams, aims of my own other than having a good family. I too want to participate in the wellfare of this country. I too want to be ready for any financial crisis. I want to support my own self. i want to earn extra money for my own self too. You shouldn't discourage girls from going ahead. Every job isn't related to "shoq", some are also "ambitions". And it is commonly seen children of working women are more civilized and patient to difficult circumstances than otherwise. It is actually a woman's characters that impacts on her children, whether housewife or working woman. It is responsibility of both the parents to help children grow better. I respect your views but I've my own. Thanks.
Sarah Malik so true!!! I was reading all the comments and finaly found one sensible and mature person here and thats you. SARA Dont get discouraged BUT go ahead With your ambition and your dreams😀😀😀.
But it's a fact that ladies can't balance between there family and profession,instead of throwing away children to multiple care takers it's better to nurture them yourself a mother, profession should not be our first priority , it's better to raise them to school going age then do some of our work but should be relaxed.i am army paediatrician myself and I really appreciate sir qasim shah opinion about working ladies
suniyaarshad butt that's good to know that you are a pediatrician. Are you saying that this milestone achieved in the form of mbbs is enough ? I don't get the idea of starting doing fcps at the age around 35-40 when most of energy is already worn out.
Qasim ali shah sahib u r very inspirational... Kindly mjy is baat per kuch solution btain k husband agr bv ko meky jany sy roky yn tang kary is bat per ky meky jaa kr nahi rukna to bv kia kry.... Reply meee..
Sir, We both are so impressed with your this video . But in our case my wife has a govt. Job as a Nirman Sahayak in gram panchayat. And she dont want to let me work cause i am a motor mechanic and she thinks my work is tough . Anyway as she wants i take care of her ...prepare meals and arrange home ...exept washing cloths . Obiously i dont let her to wash cloths alone . Here my problem is that whenever she feels balance is coming down in her account she comes in tress amd starts misbehaving . Then i try to get some solution and asks her previous spenditures . I find that she had transfer some to her family and tryin to save for his bro. 's and sis.' marriage . Though her bro have already a gov. Job . Then in this case a argument occures between us . We are not happy . In Every two days we have to face a same problem . If i wish to earn she keeps a condition not to stay with her . Within a month many times she have to visit village as she is an enggr in gp . I used to take her for the visit. Please sir if you have any idea or solution please suggest me .
Brother it always happen in families where husband is working and does not want his wife to work. Man helps his families too when he works so your wife is helping her family as well. And believe me all men get stressed up time to time due to work or his spendings but wives have to be patient and put up with his stress and many times with his anger too. Please be patient. In my opinion, your wife should straighten her priorities as her married life and children come first. Yes some time if her siblings or parents need her help or yours as well, you both should discuss it with each other and if you can help them without creating stress and problem for yourselves, then go ahead and help. I think it's not fair for anyone to forbid their partner to work and earn for themselves. Every man and woman should be financially independent and if one of them is not then the other partner starts to use this agains them and give threats of leaving. Marriage is a sacred bond, we should always think of ways to make it better with our efforts. I hope you both find a peaceful solution that suits both of you. ✌🏻️
Save some money and learn about business and start your own business. If she has a problem try to solve it that stress is not her work and she clearly can't handle it. If the situation get out of control and just split it may hurt but it is better for the long run. If she does not respect you then she does not love you. She might leave you for another man hypergamy is real learn about it. If you leave her take legal advice and careful steps she might try to destroy you legally which women can easily do in this time and age and maybe she will since she blackmails you and gives you ultimatum.
I agree with you. I have seen professional and such well mannered women but due to lack of time they had for their kids, children were no match of their mothers. Your kids and home comes first unless job is an absolute necessity.
Sir aj k senario m femaleka Kam krna must h agar wo Kam nahe kraingi to Sara waqt mob bhabhi parosun is k elawa kch bhi positive nahe hoga better h wo 4 6 ghanty koi respectable job kr le
Video dekhne se pehle mujhe laga yeh bhi sab ki tarha women freedom / job ke naam per family system ki aesi ki tesi kerne ke hami hai, but really he said great things ke aurat kaam kerne wala ghora nahi, ghar ka banda hai !
Sari life agr respect dti rahi end m wo phr b na badly to faeda kia ply app dekhen kia wo insaan wakae badal jaega respect deny se piyar deny s phr to sae h warna plz leave burhapy p pashtawa hga
Q k mne dekhi h aise aurten sari life shohar ko apna bnany m guzar gae na bana burhapy p chirchiri hgae bacho k sath b per mne aisi b dekhi h jo piyar s apna bnalti h app ub us bndy ko janti hngi behter faisla kre
Ali Faisal mohabbat yaktarfa ho sakti hai mgr izzat nai... Islam ne aurat ko mard ki izzat bnaya hai uski jutti nai... jo jb dil chaha pehn k ghissa li jb dil kiya utar k phenk di... Ap koshish kren unko badlne ki agr phr b kuch na ho to separation hi solution hai...
sb sy best part ya ha k tarbiyat karo us k bad job karo lakin ma ya khti hoon k aba g ko tarbeat my role dana chaya ama g k sath sath phir koila kundan bn jata ha
G bilkul mari ami 5 class pass thi or Abu inter pass lakin Dino NY hum PR bharpur tawaja di Ami Parna janti thi or hamari taleem my bhot madad krti thi ALLAH hamari maan ko jannat ul firdous at a kray ameen
Please don't discourage girls from not aiming high if husband is understanding the. No one can stop her from reaching her aimbitions it can happen with job as well many day care center are located in many organizations. What's the point of doing flawless upbringing when you eventually hate your husband because he wasn't understanding to allow your for your aims. It's pointless to have kids without mental understanding.
I am glad I didn’t listen to commentary from random unrelated men and continued my job because it’s my company’s incredible health insurance that is paying for my daughters cancer treatment which has cost $1 M (17 crore rupees) Never in a million years would we have been able to afford $1M that’s been spent on her treatment!and my husbands company’s health insurance wasn’t as good. So don’t go around giving advice about what a family should do. It’s a decision between husband and wife based on their individual circumstances
Sara T I am so sorry to hear that. MAY Allah have mercy on you. Ameen but I guess you missed his point that you should work if it’s NEEDED. ask yourself if it was not needed would you still pick up the same life that you currently have.
I think you don't deserve to tell anyone what to advise or what to not. You didn't like it,move on! If one thing worked for you,good for you but it doesn't mean it will work for everyone I don't know your story personally so I'm refuse to judge you!
@@NadeemWolverine she has the right to express her opinions. You on the other hand don't have the right to be mean to someone just because you don't agree with their views.
@@sameenshahid7457 I think then that goes for everyone not just me! You are telling me that I don't have the right to share my opinion about someone who thinks another person does not have any right to share his opinion while you are sharing your own opinion. I am glad that something worked out for her and I apologize to you and her as well... It was an old comment but I don't think if I meant to be mean!
I made this comment a year ago. Looking back I could have been more respectful in my response. My stance remains the same though that every family must make this decision based on what’s right for them. No two families are alike and there is no right or wrong answer. Ultimately it’s what husband and wife decide is right for their own family and own children. What’s right for my family may not work for yours and vice versa
Exactly .... After getting job i feel like i am not mafe for earning ... Now a days people demand and prefer the girl who is jobian . I wish Allah make my way easy so that i dnt have to continue job further .
Father does have a role mry bhai Or father ka sb se bra role 1 mentor or protector ka hota hai Usko role model bnna hota hai apny bachoon k liye. Usy apni bivi k bachoon ki tarbiyat k liye gye steps mein uska sath dena hota hai
array father's play a very big part other than earning ,just wait for a while i will share my own experiences in my video Inshallah. Don't forget to watch
The biggest problem of our society nowadays is that when talk about one side of book people start arguing and questioning about other side of book but not listen to current ongoing topic... please listen and understand what’s going on and then talk about other side as well. If i say 2+2=4 .... then we say nahi nahi 2-2=0 hota hai aur behas start. Both are different things discuss one by one thats it!
@@maazhassan5427 I'm still not clear why u can't understand a simple statement. Any tensed person, whether husband, wife, parent, sibling, relative can create tension in the family. That's all I'm saying.
.pakistan ka.ek motivational speaker llog es shakhs sy rehnumaye laty hai intihaayi sharam k baat hai ham kese tarqi kry Hum ney abi tk awrat ko insaan Hy Ni manaa
