Should You Ever Break No Contact? 

"best thing for you to do is shutup!" Love it!😂

Having a weak moment today. It's been just over a month of NC. Found out she is dating this morning. This feels like slow torture. So hard to walk away.

It's absolutely true. It's okay to reach out, but after some good time for both parties to have done some genuine reflection on the entire matter. Reach out in love, but without the intention of getting them back, just the intention of caring for their well-being.

I've recently experienced my first relationship where I felt No Contact or Radio silence was absolutely necessary. The amount of mental clarity and mental strength you obtain is PRICELESS. This is where you can analyze the situation from a calmer mindset and really ask yourself some hard questions about your ex, and yourself. This has given me the time and opportunity to focus solely on myself and make significant changes to my mindset and life around me. All of the changes I have made were changes I needed and wanted to do for myself, and now I have this understanding that the better your personal life is, the better you can supply a relationship with your side of the commitment. As time passes, I realize that I wouldn't mind showing my ex my full potential, because I know the person I am now is more suited for a relationship than who I was before. I know nothing is guaranteed, but after 3 months, I know I deserve another shot.

So, I waited nearly 3 months. I reached out for coffee. She said, yes! I told her that we should catch up. She agreed. Right off the bat I knew she had missed me as much as I, her. We met, sat for at least 1.5 hrs. Laughed. At some point I asked her if she had eaten, said no. Then we went to get some food. I invited her to see my new place and she was ok with it. I could've ruined it w sex but I didn't want to go that route. She was engaging as much as I was, we were laughing and touching eachother. I drove her her a couple hours later. She texted me the next day and said she'd had a great night and appreciated that I had apologized and thankful of me being a gentleman. Backing up, during our coffee, I apologized for not staying consistent and being the man I'd showed her in the beginning. She'd seen from the coffee meet to even my new place that my mindset was in a better place than the few months before. CL, is absolutely right when he says to take care of yourself! You have to, both for you and the possible reconnection but mainly for you. It's been nearly 5 weeks and it's been great. She comes over, I cook. I want to, it's my home. She brings me food, groceries. We've been out to eat a few times, but more importantly we both put it all on the table and spoke about what was both good and the not so good. We laugh more and it's just better because we both worked at it but mainly me on myself. I had to, I was in a dark space and I knew I was taking things out on her that had nothing to do w her. Thank you, Coach Lee, for reminding me of the space and respect that was needed to grow and become a better version of myself and also to not be so hard on myself and, hell, even take the chance of reaching out. What else did I have to lose! 😉

I reached out after 5.5 weeks because of our circumstances. Asked him how he's been. He was receptive. He reacted positively to my progress in therapy, which I started in order to work on myself during no contact. He suggested we meet for coffee. So far so good. I hope I'll have a happy ending to report soon!

You speak the way that my big brother talks to me when I'm just flat out being stupid and I love that! Very no nonsense. I'm going to give you a call soon.

You deserve a noble price for breakups man...you are the boss when it comes to coaching because we were receiving wrong info that say NC is permanent.

This is a great approach. If it’s been two months, who cares, reach out. If they say no, move on for good!! You have nothing to lose at that point!!

In my case I had an ex fiancée who dumped me and I did all the wrong things to get her back. After I finally found a way to move on, I met someone else, but as soon as this other girl (who ended being my rebound), ended breaking up with me. I immediately called my ex fiancée and found out she had been trying to reach out to me. I gotta say I SHOULD NOT have reached out and should have let her find me. Why? Because we got back and it only lasted 6 months. Once we broke up, she was expecting me to do the same thing again. However, I had grown. I was not the same person and was stronger. In my case, I say DON'T EVER break No Contact. You are not the same person after it and you have to let that other person put in some work, if they really want you back. Otherwise, it was never meant to me.

if you’re watching this video, chances are you have something to lose by reaching out. don’t break no contact until you’re absolutely ready to deal with the consequences. that doesn’t mean get used to rejection. it means you need to be strong if you want any type of positive reaction from them

“I’ve missed you so much would you please consider taking me back”. 🤣🤣. 💕❤️

The coaches who advise to never break contact do not have enough information to even know if the "other" person has your contact information or your last name. I had a short term relationship and had been recovering from a car accident. I never even had a chance to tell the person what I was going through and we were in college and from different towns - miles and miles apart. This is a great video by Coach Lee!

Yes NC works. Alhamdulillah! I'm in LDR break up with him (9 months together and we haven't even met!) I broke up with him then regretted in days and begged and cried to him to have me back and he dumped instead. It was a mess! So I watched Coach Lee NC vids and went NC for 18 days. Today is day 19 and I felt stable enough to reach him out. I just texted him an hour ago asking how is he doing and he replied right away even with emojis 😊!! The vibe was warm like old good friends catching up. I didn't mention anything in the past. Just greeting and genuinely happy hearing each others news. I'll take things slow and will try to close the LDR gap by hopefully be able to inspire him to fly across, come down and see me in person for the very first time. It's a good start for me. Thank you Allah and thank you Coach Lee. So glad I watched this video.

I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t want to break no contact even if when she does contact me.

I and my ex broke up about 2weeks and 5days now. Ever since I came across your coaching tutorial here on RU-vid, it has been helpful to me. The most amazing is that my ex has reached out to me 4times and they are when I am in NC rules watching your videos to know how to cope with the breakup fever. Thanks coach Lee.

Reached out after 5 weeks because I hit a point where I was happy with myself and feel like I had gotten myself together. I reached out saying that It had been a while and I wanted to check in. I told them that I was being respectful of her space and gave her time and told her that I also needed that time and space to grow and reflect. I said that they didn’t have to respond and I wasn’t angry or bitter or had any negative feelings and that I was open to the idea of talking again if or when she was ready. I sent it two days ago and as of writing this haven’t received a response. But I went into this not excepting one. My whole mindset going into no contact was to get myself back and because I had gotten to that point I was confident in myself and felt that I had nothing to lose. Could I have waited a bit longer sure, but I’m at the point to where sending out that text wasn’t for her it was for me because I had nothing to lose. Some may think that I should’ve just stayed in no co fact forever but I feel relieved after sending that text because it was like I was finally 100% letting go of her and my tone of the text was confidence and strength not chasing, or sadness. It’s all about your mindset.

I was in a short term relationship that was really intense and we said I love you to each other. He introduced me to his parents and all of his friends. He broke up with me because we were arguing a lot towards the end. He said I needed to heal from my last relationship and that it was not good timing when we met. On day 39 of no contact and it’s really difficult but I know it’s my only option. I’m trying to stay staying and watch Coach Lee’s videos every day to remind me to stay in nc. I know it’ll be worth it, whatever the outcome is.

Hello. Great advice coach. A little background on my case. My ex broke up with me five weeks ago. We went out for three months. The last contact I had with her was 2 weeks ago after I texted her a lot during days, trying to understand why she did it. She finally sent me a 7 minute voice message telling me she had a great time with me but she did not like the fact that I used to like one of her friends before we were going out (she said she felt like a second option) and that I was a very jelous man (the irony!). She said she offered me her friendship. I sent her an even longer voice message where I did not argue with her about the breakup but said that I felt sorry for it and tried to explain many things to her, thanked her for offering me her friendship and told her I might contact her again in the future. After that, no contact at all. Ok, to the question: Two days ago, out of the blue, she commented on one of my whatsapp statuses (funny one, guy kicking a sign and falling down); she asked jokingly: "What is the name of the play?". I chose not to respond. Was it rude? Or was it ok, since it was nothing important? Thank you again.

This is why I love you! You’re not so hell bent on NC for life. I did NC for 4 months & dropped a short line in January. Response time was quick from her so ball back in her court. It’s safe to enter ... 💕

I reached out after a month to my dumper, the best thing I ever did. We are now back together, but this is what I can say. I had what almost all of coach Lee's videos from a previous relationship that rnded really badly, i did absolutely everything wrong. This time, our break up was a really good break up. I did absolutely everything right this time. We are back together and couldn't be happier

Was in a 4 months relationship, after 2 months of no contact I reached out, she was still kinda cold. Asked her how she was, work, college and family. The answers were short and I got the feeling she was still kinda hurting after ending the relationship. I hope I got my answer and will never reach out again. Overall I'd say it was worth it just to move on and let go of hope. edit. I've changed my mind, I should not have ever reached out, I feel worse.

Contacted her after 2 and a half months. Back story: worked together for a year and flirted the whole time. After that time she accepted to hangout outside of work. We did that for a month then realized we wanted different things. I didn’t accept the friend zone. Tried to convince her for a few days after. (Big no no but emotions got the best of me) she ended up quitting for other reasons. Reaching out after 2 and a half months: had a moment of weakness after leaving the night club and texted that I missed her. She replied the next day saying she missed me too and wanted to reach out but thought I didn’t want to talk. I said I’d like to talk but would rather talk in person and tried to arrange a time to meet. She said it wasn’t a good idea and I respected that. Then a few texts about work before I said to have a nice day and keep in touch 🤷🏻‍♂️ Honestly idk how I feel. It’s like I feel shitty and good at the same time. Good because I feel like she isn’t going to change her mind so I can officially “move on” but shitty because she isn’t going to change her mind 😂 oh well. I’ve been really working on myself lately so I feel more confident and that I have the strength to resist her and move on.

It's been less than a week and I'm already starting to go nuts ugh

Been just over a year. I still watch your videos because you have helped me and its good information. Did not get my ex back, but that was her mistake. She has to live with losing me. Keep up the great work. Plenty that will hopefully find you.

Hello Coach Lee, I really appreciate your experience on the No contact Rule...thank you.🙂🙂 it gives me a second thought...😏😏😏

My ex was furious that I didn’t contact her. This is good advice though for sure. Thanks Mr. Lee

Did break no contact. Don’t do that, all the progress gone and now she is gone forever, I told her my last thought about the break up. She said she doesn’t know what to say and what I expect her to say, but was happy that I’m happy and she wished me good luck. I hate myself right now!!!

I have been in NC since April. Worked on myself and have lost over 100lbs. We were together for 3 years and we work together. Just found out today that she’s moving out of state with her family in two weeks after her birthday. My heart has sunk into my stomach

She keeps posting every day on her Snapchat either looking kinda gray or of her cat. She never use to do that but has done it almost everyday since she broke up with me. I haven’t looked at her stories so I remain in no contact. She still has all our photos up on her Instagram, trying not to read too much into that. It’s been 8 days, I didn’t fight the breakup, I calmly respected it and I’m glad I did. I think she is surprised I haven’t been trying to o talk to her because I was needy during the end of the relationship.

After 3 months when he broke up with me and 2 months of no contact, I decided to reach out to my ex. He responded nicely and even asked how's me and my family. He also said sorry, he is happy to know that I am okay especially my family and that I should always take care of myself. I just don't what will happen after this. If this time he will initiate in reaching out again? Thank you Coach Lee! ❤️

If you're reading this it sucks ass I know. It's so much pain, but YOULL GET THRU IT BRAH! I reached out after 1.5 months and asked if she was up for meeting out, she said no. I feel better now, weight lifted off my shoulders, I feel free, I don't have her back but why would you want someone who doesn't want you? It wouldn't work, I know it hurts like hell. But it'll mold you into a stronger person. If you're thinking about reaching out and it's been around a month and a half, I say go for it,. especially if your breakup was weird and "mutual" like mine was. I know it's hard to let go of your ego and contact them, but who tf cares? It's their loss, you're extending an invitation to your fun bus and life and they're the ones saying no, THEY LOSE, YOU SPEED UP YOUR RECOVERY PROCESS. My ex said no, and I actually feel happy because I'm not guessing any longer, she's pushed me into the arms of all the amazing girls who will have me instead. REMEMBER BRAHS if they say NO now you KNOW, good luck to all you people, and let it be as Paul McCartney once said. YOU CAN DO IT MOTHERFUCKERS

NC works guys! It can be permanent, but you can reach out in some cases. Make sure that you’re emotionally stable enough to take any response from them. NC really helps you to grow and be emotionally stable. In my case, she dumped me and I texted a bit for about three weeks (once every week). At the beginning she was responding nicely but the last week she became cruel and mean. I stopped and went NC. 60 days after, I fell emotionally stable and decided to text just to check in and find out how she had been. I told her that she doesn’t need to reply if she doesn’t feel so. Honestly, I didn’t expect any response from her. But guess what, she blew my phone with messages, told me everything she had been doing, sent me pictures of her, asked me mine, she was concerned about my life, asked me if I had been going to the gym etc… I fell it mate, i could feel that she really missed me. She was completely a different person from what I saw the last time we spoke. NC can recreate that spark. This video really helped and gave me the strength to text her. I will wait again and see if she initiates a convo. But, at this level I really feel okay and will take things slowly. Next time we speak I will ask to meet face to face. Thanks a lot Coach Lee. I wouldn’t have made it without you. NC works.

He called off our engagement 3 days b4 our wedding... I was caught off guard because he said the day b4 that he didn't want to lose me. Apparently, his 14 y/o daughter threatened to not see him again if he married me. I thought she and me/my family were good after spending times together. It's been 8 days now. Coach Lee's videos kept me going with NC although there are moments I get so low and to the brink of reaching out. 😢 We were together 6 yrs 7 mos and not a day passed by that we didn't talk. His absence is taking its toll on me.

Back to Day 1! Ugh!!! I am so frustrated for breaking NC. My grandmother passed two days ago and I broke down and let my anxiety take over! I broke the news to her and got...exactly no response. Stupid me for breaking NC! She responded the next day very cold. Back to NC and moving on with life.

Love this video! Thank you Couch Lee. I needed this.

Never break it ever. Don't wait around either. Be silent and move on.

U are the best coach really🙌🏽🙌🏽

Don’t reach out it’s been 4 months if I reach out and hear nothing back it’s like she has one over me and I’m back to square one again

NEVER coach Lee! I will never surrender to ex gf.

6 months since the breakup, 5 months no contact. I took this advice & reached out with a friendly text sharing a memory of something we did that I was doing that day. I didn’t get a direct response. She kicked me off of her instagram & unfollowed me. Definitely wasn’t the response I expected or wanted especially after 5 months no contact. On one hand I regret reaching out & on the other hand I got an answer. Overall I regret reaching out. Instagram may not seem like much but it was our only connection that we would ever see what is going on in our lives & now that is gone. In my experience I wouldn’t reach out again, then you have nothing to regret. If it goes south then you may find yourself regretting it like I am. Hope your situation turns better than mine did.

I’ve started NC a day after a break up. I’ve been listening to coach Lee this whole time to calm myself down and find a plan on how to get him back. You know what? Today is exactly a month after a break up. I’ve lost some weight and fixed my body a bit, got promoted and improved relationships with my friends! I’m happier than ever. I got a new hobby (cooking different healthy foods and going to the gym). My ED is way more silent than before and I feel so much energy and happiness! I don’t even want him back anymore. I’ve grown to realise that he’s not a right person for me and I wish him all the best from the bottom of my heart truly. Stay strong, when you’re down - the only way to go is up.

You can’t get the power back if you break no contact!

I was just considering breaking no contact, literally watching this video for about 3 seconds, when he reached out... It was something random, and I did respond in a positive mature way, just answering his question. Now I wonder... should I take the chance to talk to him? I've been in no contact for almost a month now, he texted me twice before, also random stuff... I'm afraid I'll lower my chances, but then again... We've already broken up, what do I have left to lose...

After 40 days i reached out asking if she would be willing to be friends. I got no response. At this point idc anymore. Im healed. I know my worth. Im a good man and an excellent father. Im stable and any good woman would love those traits. Im moving on. Ive already left this to God. If its meant to be it will. If its not then it wont.

It’s been a half of month no contact and I think he is starting dating his ex or communicating It is so hard 😢

After 58 days of NC I sent my ex a text and got a response 3 hours later. What happens next is anyone’s guess. I’m not really expecting much even though we had a great relationship, never fought, had loads of fun times and created a little family with our kids. He ended it for reasons he couldn’t even explain to himself. But whatever happens I’m good either way. Life is fleeting and has to move forward. If it’s not meant to be with him, then God has someone else more suited for me. I hope you all get your exes back if that’s your hearts desire. Peace and blessings.

Hey, if anyone can give me some insight as to weather or not I broke NC. Here's the story: My wife and I have been together for 3 years. Over the last half year we have split and gotten back together twice. This split makes 3. We have a 1 year old daughter and I have done the brunt of the bread-winning through the relationship. She is also Bi-polar and medicated, but is prone to an occasional manic episode. The last two times she tried to leave, she had said she doesn't feel that love anymore. I decided to try to save the relationship and talk her into all of the reasons we should work on us for our daughter's situation. That's how the last two splits went. I realize now that my problem was not respecting her wishes. She said she wanted to split and I didn't give it to her. I talked her into coming back twice. I basically strong armed her into staying while also saying "I know you want this, but I want this" With this split, there was a little pushback from me but I was tired of being told "I don't love you" so she went to stay with her parents. It's been a week. I broke after two days and said she should come home. Then I broke another two days later but I more so feel like that could be considered my "Clean Slate Text" I told her I wanted her home, but this needs to happen. I acknowledged that I always chase her and never respect her wishes to be away from me. So I'm okay with what she needs from me. I apologized for the way I acted for our first two splits. So that's when I decided to start NC in hopes that my absence and respect for her decision for once would bring back that attraction. Which brings me to where I'm not sure if this counts as a break because she's the mother of my kid and we've been switching with the kid on and off. During exchanges I say nothing about any of this and only quickly ask for updates and leave. Today though, (day 4) she had one of those episodes and called me freaking out to come get our kid. I drove over there and when getting the kid, I asked her if there was any way we could work to just living together. Her living situation isn't ideal and she's prone to stress seeing as now there are days she has to take on our 1 year old by herself. She said no, because she thinks I'm going to try to get her back. I didn't push. I told her I was sorry for bringing it up and she said it was okay, she didn't feel awkward or pressured because we need to talk about how we're going to do this. I said "I'm alright with what you want from me, it's just hard that there are now days I just don't see my daughter. She then said we should start facetiming and sending pictures. The last thing I said was "I do think we're in the best situation right now, so I don't think Facetiming is a good idea, but I would love some pictures" I also helped her calm down from her episode and that doesn't bother me. I feel like actively leaving her in tears in a panic alone is a hostile move and regardless of weather or not we work out I refuse to be hostile with my daughters mother.

I need to learn to embrace quite I hope his anger softens if not then I'm strong enough to do this

I'm losing it she left her dog here who she raised and I raised along eventually out of our 6 years, all her stuff, called me from her work phone and told me to tell her what I've been wanting to tell her which is a genuine apology, she sounded so happy and agreed for me to call her later. She's my best friend as well. Not trying to be cute. I'm starting to get angry and that's something that really hits me, I hate being mad. I just lost my best friend and girlfriend at the same damn time, I am not ok. Only 2 weeks and it feels like a lifetime. While I sleep with her dog who's like my daughter, I take care of the animals because I know she needed space. But after 5 she seems to stop answering, answers me in the morning before she heads out to work. Why is she not answering? If she's with another guy that fast, I will leave. I will not turn back and I will erase her. I can't mentally hang onto her, it's impossible. I want to love her and show her the right way, but i feel like she's already gone.

Hi Lee, After over a month of NC I texted my ex asking how she has been, She said that she was ok then texted that she could give me back my luggage she still had, not today but sometime this month (something that she said she would never return) I told that I don't need the luggage back but thank you, she read the message and didn't respond until I wrote “plus it's really big and difficult to carry”. She immediately responded with “I don't need it and if you could come to the station it won't be a problem.” I said if you don't mind when do you think you'd be free. She hasn't responded since (two days ago). It seems to me that this is a positive interaction, because she responded quickly and found an excuse to see me without being to forward, if meeting with me was something she wanted to avoid at all costs she wouldn't respond let alone offer to meet with me. Is my train of thinking correct and how do you recommend I proceed from here? Should I text her again implying it would be nice to meet up, or text her with something else to get a conversation happening or simply wait for her to respond? Thanks for taking the time to read this and your videos have been very helpful.

Here is the thing, he is RIGHT. Because, my girl in begining of the break up. Calld me and said in a very angry cold voice ”Just so you know, we wont be seeing eachother on like a mounth!” That was the first time she told me that, and i did what most people did. Reached out. But after my 5th meeting with her, she told med ”Just you wait and see...after a mounth you will forget me just like other men do. Because men dont ever change” Guess what, i will prove her wrong. Im stronger than her, and i will reach out after the No Contact mounth.

I did break when her father died, I sent her my condolences and that was it, after that I continued no Contact and moved on, that was 4 months ago she tried calling me afterwards I stopped answering, I have moved on and enjoying my life now

Yes but if you contact them too soon after they dumped you, like, after 2 months of NC, MAYBE HE WAS JUST CONSIDERING TO CONTACT YOU AND BECAUSE YOU BROKE IT FIRST HE GOT SCARED BACK!!!

Lee is one of the best

@Coach Lee - did I mess up? I broke no contact after 1.5 months as we had a short term passionate relationship (I watched your video on this). He was very responsive and it was going great so I suggested a meet up. He said 'of course!' and we met up a few days ago. It was going really well, I was very upbeat, positive and mentioned new things in my life I was up to. I also changed up my look a little bit. I could feel him responding well to this and him even flirting a little bit. He even asked which weekend I was working so he could visit some day and said he had missed me. But during no contact I heard he was engaged to someone from mutual friends (just some stupid rumour) so I of course wanted to know if it was true so I could move on if so. Right at the end the of meet up I sort of blurted out the question 🤦🏻‍♀️ It was not true, but I just said to him that I wondered if it was true just because I was a little surprised by it. Have I completely messed up this first contact? Should I go back into no contact after this?

Broke no contact and Reached out to my ex girlfriend after a little over a month in a half. Reached out with a simple how are you doing. Hope all is well. How’s school. Got no response. I’m cool with it. Sure it sucks but got clarity about my situation. Time to fully move on I guess

2 months is still very raw. If you really feel you want to break NC do it between month 4 to 6. Earlier, for relationship of over a year would be a mistake. Most depend by his or her state and where she is coming from. Mine was with anxiety and panic attacks

After 46 days She reached out on Snap Chat. Saying "I was doing some homework, I was just Checking on you". A few back and forth messages. I let the conversation fall . Went back into NC since October. Did not wish Her Happy Birthday on Black Friday either. Any chance she will reach out again while in this New Relationship of 3 months?

It’s been 4 weeks of no contact... and I just saw a picture of HIM having fun with friends. My heart breaks everytime i see his face. We never fought. I didn’t beg or text him at all when he said he wasn’t in love anymore. I just miss him so much and can’t even think of anyone else. I just don’t understand how he could go on without me. I really don’t know what I ever did wrong to him and it breaks my heart to think that he didn’t like me anymore. It. Has. Been. 4. Whole. Weeks... I thought he would’ve contacted me by now... anyways... thanks again coach lee. I need to get back to your video’s to stay strong.

I was the dumper who realized their mistake just one day after I dumped my ex for a situation out of our control only to get rejected back. I think in my special case that if my ex (who was a very healthy-minded and amazingly passionate lover) doesn't reach out then it is only fair that I reach out cause I kinda caused this.

We were just days away from our wedding, and we got into an argument. I’m not the type of person who just stays and continues to argue because the anger just escalates and can cause a person to make rash decisions so I just went for a drive next thing I know she messaged me and informed me she had canceled everything. I came back to the house and she’s packing all of her things and leaving, I’m stunned and in shock I haven’t slept at all and my head is swimming. I have no idea what to do or where I go from here. I have no family or friends she was all I had and now I have nothing I’ve never felt so alone and crushed in my entire life, I’m not the kind of person who leaves comments online anywhere I don’t do any social media or anything I don’t even know why I’m leaving this comment. I guess I just needed to vent somewhere. I apologize for my poor grammar. I’m not thinking straight right now I’m just massively hurt and in disbelief And lost about what to do with my life now

Broke nc after 123 days because i couldn't hold on any longer. Texted her, she replied but refused to meet. I feel like im dying again. My hatred for her increased tenfold

just broke no contact after a month and a half,she was pretty responsive and accepted my invite to a date, we ll see how this goes

Ex reached out after 5 months diligent no contact. I responded to the text and he didn't reply to me..I want to try reaching out one time .. a call maybe. Bad idea? Maybe he got scared.

Was with my girlfriend 6 years, i had step daughter and so did she. She just left, packed up and walked out, now wants nothing to do with me, deleted me of everything, removed our pictures on social media, got her family to dislike me....im in the panic anxiety stage, dindnt beg but told her i love her. 3 weeks later i still send the odd message because of the kids, she is blunt and blank. How the hell does anyone manage the no contact rule! Its so difficult when that person had been there for you every day for 6 years..

I went through no contact for axcatly nine month after she break up with me, today I sent her a Greetings and said to her "missed Breaking fast with my step Son" who is turning nine years in September, instantly she responded my greetings and said"They'll come on this weekend to be with you" And I asked her "is it possible you join us" she said "yes but I wont stay over" Is that a good sign??, What should I do next when she arrives at my place?? Thanks

I’m in the limbo state. He broke up with me in september, because I was kinda avoiding him for 2 months because of my personal issues and depression. Then by the beginning of December I realised I hurt him very bad and miss him a lot and I’d like us to try again. I broke the no contact, he responded the next day and we met one time, I apologised. Then he said we can be platonic friends and that he did miss our communication too. Now we’ve been texting weekly for over a month on different topics but he has not tried to set up another meeting. I don’t know what to do anymore and if I should keep texting and waiting for some miracle to happen?

My ex contacted me one time a month after the breakup. I replied but very short and vague. 2 sentences. Here is the kicker: Since we broke up she has repeatedly texted my mom - I mean 8-10 time about once a week. She knows my mom but not well. She even told my mom she "adores her" and sent my mom a pic of her. They do not discuss me. Should I tell my mom to stop this communication?

6 months of dating my ex. Nothing but fun, me spoiling her rotten. She unexpectedly broke up with me over a rather trivial reason, but claims “we are just not compatible”. Is there room for reconciliation after such excuse for a breakup, or is a woman saying “not compatible a finality? Update: Approximately one week after I originally posted this, I saw signs that my ex was missing me, (which is what led me to watch this particular video in the first place). Well, needless to say, I did break NC after watching this video, and Coach Lee, everything you just said in this video is absolutely CORRECT! My ex was happy AND relieved to hear from me. We set up a date, went out, and had a great time, she even did the unheard of, and introduced me to her friends, and now we even have another date planned, haha. So yes, thank you Coach Lee. You speak sound reason, and truth in everything you say. Breaking NC at the right time indeed worked for me.

My ex left me for her best friend. A guy who knew her for even longer than me. We all hung out as friends a lot. I always was somewhat concerned but i genuinely didn't think she had love for him in that way. Few months after he left for the military though she left me for him. she now visits him wherever he is stationed from time to time. I'm devastated. I'm glad she didn't leave me for some random person but the fact that she is with someone that has a strong connection to her makes me feel like all hope is lost. Been in no contact since the breakup (2 and a half months). But she went to go see him in chicago just 3 weeks after we split. It's not really a rebound because she likely developed feelings for him a while ago. On top of that they have a lot in common. Is there anything I can do? I genuinely thought that they would make a good couple but they wouldn't last whenever I thought about them together. But she left me for her best friend and I'm both less upset and more upset about it. No contact forever? I really did love this girl. I feel like him leaving and getting that uniform is what did it. And the moment she started having doubts about us he pounced because I assume he always liked her.

Why is this so difficult? :( i am so heartbroken right now. Feels like i wanna hurt myself so badly. The pain.. :( I'm dying inside. I can't focus on anything. When i get to work i just lock myself in the bathroom and cry :'( help me 💔😢

We had the best relationship but got into a bad argument and misunderstanding and now she wants to cut me off. It’s been 5 days of no contact. We were never in a relationship but definitely had feeling for years. I would talk to this person every day for years! I hate to sound like this guy but I seriously need someone to talk to right now

Hey Coach Lee, is it a good idea to be friends with them AFTER no contact? After we started talking a bit again I told him I still considered him a friend and he felt the same way. I know you have said being friends is a bad idea and that it won't lead to getting back together but what if it happens after no contact?

It’s day 23, of no contact . He’s never actually spoke to me, he texted the break up and has only communicates through text . 23 days ago I asked him if he was still 100% sure this is what he wanted, and he said “yes I am sure”. Should I just give up? We dated for over a year, we’re both in our mid40s. Spent almost every single day together, and I got very close with his children. Came back from a nine day vacation with his kids visiting both of our families and he broke up with me three days later in a text saying , “I am done.” I’m so devastated. Help 😏😔

I would like to schedule a call Coach Lee. Say your not taking any at the moment. Is it possible to book a call with me Coach Lee?

Thanks Coach!

when u go in no contact , the main thing u gain isn't her or him , is to actually heal and become a better person than u were back then ,then if u decide to contact or get contacted by them ud be a new person to their eyes

At first I thought of doing no contact to attract my ex back. But then I realized I need to do this to move on. Because staying friends with them will be difficult when I still have feelings. I thought about breaking no contact because I missed them and would rather be their friend then not have them in my life at all, but then I thought to myself. Would I be okay if he told me he met somebody new? Would I be okay if he kept taking a long time to respond to my texts or never ask to hangout? NO so that tells me that I can’t handle being just “friends “ with my ex. I need the space from him to be able to heal.

Hello Coach Lee, in an other Video you said, that they become a Dictator, if we (dumped person) reach out...🤔 My brakeup is already 5 months😢 ago. We just met to change thinks...6 weeks ago I wrote a letter...sweet and salt...f.example what I could have done better, what I liked .. .that I like him a lot, but do not run after him, that I'm also beautyful without him........and that we could do something nice together, swimming, boat...walk ( No answer until now)- we have been during the Relationship mostly very nice😟 together...I do not know the real resons 😟

Me and my ex dated for 5 years, amazing relationship, no complaints. I’ve been doing no contact for 63 now. My ex reached out day 50 and asked to see my dog. We also talked on the phone about the dogs day 57. She unfollows me on Instagram and watches all my stories. I’ve heard from her friend that my ex is over me and glad we broke up.. is this true? Also, we’ve talked 2 times since the break up, and when we did she asked me a million questions of what I’ve been up too. I am not living in the same state as her because I am on a work trip temporarily.. is it possible to still get her back when I’m not in the same state? Do I continue to not contact her first?

Broke up just before summer my guy, the no contact is gonna get extended bij 3 months at least!

Week 2 of no contact. I'm hanging in there..😅

Hi coach lee, i have a situation would like to ask your opinion.. currently, my gf has broke up with me, and i tried my best(mistake) to win her up and it gets worse, so as for now, i decided to do contact for 33 days, curently on day 11, why i decide 33 days NC, because at 33th day.. NC will fall on her birthday.. i plan to send our last year video of celebration, and a simple Happy Birthday text to her.. then meet her and return her belonging tht still with me, and walk away politely during her birthday..what do you think of this situation? should i prolong no contact more than 33 days or.. how

Even if it is difficult. I am Maybe reaching out after I sort out few planned goals in my life. Next 4months maybe🙂

Hey I am in strange situation a gal whom i love We always fight with each other she knows i love her but she always say we are just frds last week only we went russia for 10 days vacation but we fight and we enjoy and the last fight we had at airport while we miss our flight to St. Petersburg that is also becz of her thats ruin our vacation and back on within 3 days and now she block me on social networks whatsapp viber even my mobile number i try to convinced her but no she don’t understand what should i do can u please suggest me what to do last 5 days i didn’t contact her with my other number as well if i talk to other gals she have problems if i walk with her she fight if i walk away from her she have problems and so much issue like this last three years we together but always like this

I want no contact on my ex-girlfriend, blocked her on social media and blocked her phone number, and blocked her friends numbers and their social media accounts, and seven months later she made a different Facebook profile had tried to message me. I ignored her message and blocked her profile and seven months later she showed up at my house, I was not home yet, Then when I got home and saw her car there I just kept driving past my house

Sad truth is I did everything right, but she still went back to the rebound after they have broke up multiple times, just because he's more attractive to her

Should you be the one to reach out if they ghosted? And yes I tried multiple attempts cause being he works on the road I legit thought something happened. Come to find out he was ignoring me. He ended up blocking me too (but not on Instagram) when I got angry about it. He'd be the one who'd have to contact in that case, right? Mind you there was no argument, no break up conversation. I understood things to be fine at the time.

He started talking to me again after a couple of days. Casual talks. Should i ignore or keep talking? Because i want him to miss me. Not friend zone me

My girlfriend after 7 months was breaking up twice and after couple of days we got back together again. I didnt do anything wrong, she has emotional issues and untreated depression. On first break up i tried to convince her to stay but at the second break up she came back to me after 2 days no contact regreting her decision. When she broke up for the third time i showed my strength, i showed her that i am fed up with her shit and if she doesnt want me in her life i am walking away. After we exchange bags of our personal belongings i said only "thank you", i turned around and walked away. She was shocked. She didnt say even a word. I think she was expecting me to trying to convince her to stay like i did on the first breakup. This time i have rejected her. Tables has flipped. Now its 4 weeks no contact and i am wondering should i just text her with birthday wishes???

So should I message her? She has called me two times to “check up on me”, I don’t message or call her, but she checks up on me

I broke nc after like 4 days and she didn’t reply. I hope I didn’t screw anything up. She broke up with me because she was struggling with depression and after about a month I told her maybe we shouldn’t be friends and when I texted her, I only did it because I wanted her to know I was there for her. I felt like I needed to be in her life again for support but I guess she doesn’t want me to be.

My ex texted me saying “I hope you are doing ok” just four days of no contact and I have not responded yet because I don’t feel that’s enough time for me to talk and process the break up. I loved him very much but he wanted to have options in love and I’m still hurt from what he has done and said to me. Not sure if I should respond or if it’s important to do so.

Hi coach Lee. I'm In a tough spot right now. I accidently viewed her story and found out she got in a accident. I deactivated my account as soon as possible, to hide i viewed it but wondering if I should reach out and make sure she's OK. AM I screwed? I'm so worried for her.

I broke 5 months of no contact RIP.. did it when I was drunk... wokeup feeling sooo bad

She left me for her boss (a tiny, fat ugly old pig) 2 days after our engagement. i went through hell. but i let her go because i love her. In less thant 5 days i found an apartement and moved as fast as humanly possible. Ever since that day she contacted me EVERY single DAY. ive minimized contact, replying only 1-2 words. its been 5 weeks now. i lost over 30 lbs, eating only 1600cal a day, doing sports every day. i know she is the love of my life but the hardest thing ever is to set someone free and let tham make their mistakes on their own, standing by and watching. im focused on myself now, putting all my energy into myself, becoming my true self. finally. at 38 years old. it was about time. i needed that haircut. Take care, fellas

It’s been 6 months . I guess I might as well. My sponsor tells me not to reach out. It’s frustrating because I love her. I also listened to his advice before and it led to me not communicating with her and our problems got real bad .

Had an intense relationship with my ex for 2 months, some stupid mistakes on my part as well as other commitments through work etc prevented our bond from growing so she lost feelings for me pretty quickly and ended things with me; we met twice after the separation to try reconnecting and starting again slowly but after the first proper date (which was the second meeting as the first meeting was deciding to start again slowly) she texted me to say that she didn’t feel anything and it wasn’t right for her at the moment- it has been 2 months since then and I’m considering dropping her a text just to test the waters as we haven’t spoken to each other since and we haven’t blocked each other as that would be petty. I’m not going in with no expectations as she might just reject my approach straight away or might not respond but I have nothing to lose at this stage. If anyone is reading this and is interested, I will let you all know how it goes 👍🏻

I’m in a hard spot. It’s been 2.5 months now. We have texted at the one month mark and the two month mark. Some good conversations but mostly polite responses. I messaged I wanted to talk and got a maybe later~. Followed up and hit her on the way out. Now I’ve reinitiated no contact after showing I had interest in talking but it’s been two weeks and I’m not sure what to do. I don’t know who the dumper or dumpee is either as it was kind of mutual.