Should You Have Sex Before Marriage? Can They Agree? | Middle Ground 

Totsie V friends shouldn’t shame you for anything lol what?

Happens all the time. People are really weird about it

I’m religious and I hate when people judge and shame others like that’s probably the only thing I hate about the religious community.

That's not new

• amber • I get shamed for having sex with someone I deeply trust at age 15. We’d been dating a year and are still dating 3 years after sex. I don’t know why people have to be so touchy about this stuff and why my parents can’t see that I am with someone that I love and should be able to have safe sex without them making me feel so shitty for it.

You go bro. Here waiting till I'm in college and settled with someone meaningful to me 😊

Whaaaat you are fineee as wine! Are you waiting on purpose?

Hhhh 😂Same

I think this is one of the first times that I believe that someone is a virgin because "they're waiting for the one". Bruh if you wanted to you could have sex whenever you want lol.

@@carlabarreiro4 yeah for the one, but things are looking sorta bleak. I'm getting mentally prepared to be alone tbh

All purity means is being genuine with your thoughts words and actions. Purity is not the same as being holy. So it does apply to abstinence. Abstinence is staying grounded for what you want.(you can even abstain from coffee). Abstinence is only a genuine desire want to wait for whoever you think is worth giving yourself self to. Religious or not.

Cheryl Powell ok, but the way it's painted by a lot of people is negative & toxic.

@@eliza3986 Agreed I would really like for them to actually figure out what it actually means. Purity is a mindset not physical.

Cheryl Powell yeah, that'd be interesting!

@@eliza3986 Lol Right!

Annaliese Jameson i would fly from england to be on that episode 😂

Annaliese Jameson YES

my name's blurryface and i care what you think same i’m in year 11 rn in an all girls

Annaliese Jameson lmaoo i study in an all girls private school and it's not that bad. i would love to see people discuss their experiences with each type of schools though

I would fly to the US do do this

ay

XD

and i am the latter

Is that considered being an incel?

Laurel yup

True

That’s all I come for the comments

True. 89% of the time I click cause of the comment section. It's *gold.*

Comments is better than Content

Random ppl are the best form of entertainment. Fact! ^^

It's not really a controversial topic lol that's why it's so simple, all people making decisions for themselves. Not so easy for other opinions sadly.

Not really they were eating eachother in tn the eyes🤣

Yes but this is bad for RU-vid, no conflict))

That's how it actually is but what we mostly see are people fighting or being disrespect and usually those times are for views or ratings

Accepting? On the outside maybe...

Abstinence. Pffft. What a horrible idea.

Truth and why is that

that hardly makes sense tho... people choose abstinence because of their religion.

@@truth2972 why tho

@@thatamericanbritishbloke5672 not really, it can be because of personal opinions, hence why abstinence is a choice

Personally I'm muslim and that doesn't exist between us xD So when I heard of those sort of competitions I was surprised, but like really ... I thought 'why would that be cool ?', I always thought having sex after marriage was the thing to do (still thinking that) at least I'll have no or 'less big' regrets.

Yes, I agree but keeping the virginity doesn't make somebody worthier neither

@MR. Right No, those that don't are modest and are less 'bestial' since they don't let their sexual pulses overcome them. That's real evolution.

@@lara.lauter In my eye I'd see someone who didn't have sex until marriage worthier than one that did it, but still what you think/believe depends on culture.

@@khletus8511 I'm a virgin and I totally agree with you 🙌💯

let's talk about harry potter A-Men 😤

It's not so much about what people do privately, but about how we handle the topic. That's why this was made, to create a discussion about the stigma we have about virginity, premarital sex, abstinence, safe sex, etc. No one is talking possitions here, they're talking the impact of their choices in their life and in the society around them

Quel How has premarital sex negatively affected society?

Genghis Smith teen births, more stds, less satisfied in sex during marriage, etc

blue 2122 Lol, people have ALWAYS being having sex before marriage....humans are very sexual creatures, after all. The fact is, good sex-education lowers the prevalence of teen births and std's.....so why aren't you advocating for that? As if I didn't know.....😂😂😂 Hmm, I’m sure I read somewhere that teen pregnancies and std’s are higher in the ‘abstinence’ loving Bible Belt. Will have to do some research....

It may not have been illegal but it's not okay

It isn't, also, to each their own. It happens in a dayly basis all around the world. You can't pretend it doesn't. It may be a good or bad experience but it happens.

Luke Green I mean that’s a freshmen and a senior in hs. Not really a huge difference, and it’s not illegal everywhere either. Plus it clearly happened a long time ago given that girl was like 40.

Uncommon opinion but 18 year old dudes who've slept with 14 year old girls are not pedophiles.

@@vintage7256 I definitely wouldn't equate them with pedophiles, but I do think they are often being predatory. That's primarily based on personal experience though, so to each his own.

14 & 18 aren’t that big of a difference. People just don’t see the inside perspective of the relationship

@@waxtopia but its illegal

@@waxtopia Wrong, that's a 4 year difference and 4 years is a long ass time. There's also the fact that they are in two different age groups. He's legally an adult and 14 years is too young to even bring up Romeo and Juileit laws.

maddy sykes homie a 14 year old can be an 8th grader and someone in their first year or college. That’s not a big difference??

@@waxtopia that's a senior dating an 8th grader.

Lmaooo

Lmao me

Be confident. The right person is written in your story. I know you said you aren’t religious but you may have heard the saying “He May not come when you want Him but He’s right on time.” God sends blessings only when we’re ready and prepared for this and because of the way God views sex as well as the way He loves you, he wants you to be prepared for that. He wants you to be whole.

😂😂😂😂 pay a sex worker.

@@aycaiix people who complain about 'appearance discrimination' tend to look for people way out of their league. I thought it was a biological fact that humans were most likely to mate with someone similar to them on the 'rating' (not sure how to phrase that) - it's also not a real thing. The amount of 3/10 guys or girls I've seen complain about not getting with 9/10 guys or girls really irritate me. If they see past appearances and fall in love with your personality or vice versa then that's amazing, but it's not entitlement that brings them to you but being a great person. If they aren't attracted to you, then that just sucks. I think people also forget that '2/10s' are also '8/10s' to the right person.

Molly Woods at the same school

Or teachers and parents. As in an aspect of the parents getting mad at the teacher for lack of “not teaching” when reality we should be helping our kids, giving them that one on one time at home.

Lol

Mind blown

Molly Woods y’all get this to the TOP

Some people who have anxiety when speaking with new people or in public will often have their upper lip freeze while they are talking. That may be the case with her.

Paulina Sjöberg she can smell their farts !

Her face is just like that.

Paulina Sjöberg I guess her hormones are making her smell a lot of things😩

Arwen Yoon then she sinned since she has anxiety,.oh wonderful Christianity

You need more likes

Oh yeah yeah

Alpacalypse he was nodding and she barely said anything lmao

I was waiting for someone to comment that lol

I was looking for this comment 😂

and sons

I would love this video

Daddy issues

would love to be a part of this

Sons would be way more interesting that’s just a given

I’m commenting mostly because you don’t have any comments but have 532 likes. 😅

One more like and we'll bring Satan to the discussion. 😈 (Before anybody gets offended: it's a joke.)

Right I just like the fact nobody mentioned the pedophilia

She a victim

She consented you idiots I would do the same if I found someone........

@@angelica1577 still statutory rape

@@angelica1577 4 year difference would've been reasonable if they were adults but here both are biologically different states of psychological development. An 18 year old has most likely completed his puberty and the 14 year old is still on the way. The difference between intellectual capacity between 14 and 18 would be a lot more than 22 and 26

Completely agree! As a Christian, one option to help Christians be less judgmental is to tell them they are being "arrogant." We believe it's ok to judge sin, but many get confused and start being arrogant about their beliefs.

Elizabeth B completely agree

@@Nathan987651 While it's true what you say, I don't think Christians are more judgemental. It just sticks out more because Christians are held to higher standards. Atheists fail their own standards too though

@@michaelmiky11 Yes that's very true. It's hard but we are held to a higher standard.

@@Nathan987651 Yeah and just to echo what you said about judging sin. People who deny that must have never read Matthew 23 haha. We can judge, with the condition that it's not hypocritical.

Kookie Kusu u were gettin freaky in the womb then

Kookie Kusu I'm 32

Who cares

So you did in the womb?😂 jk haha ik whatchu mean

Im 23 and virgin, beat that

Leah Kennish then wait for a longterm committed partner. The right person is the one that doesn’t mind waiting until you are ready. And maybe even a bit later than that.

Girls of High Value not the point lol you can love someone with your whole heart but not wanna get married it’s not always about the other person if that makes sense

Jayden Hutchins it’s always up to each person individually. But what is best is not relative :)

Just have sex whenever you want and if you never want to have sex that's cool too

👏👏👏👏💯 exactly

I rolled my eyes at that. There's no such thing. Lol she's just celibate now and that's okay

Yea born again virgin is not a thing. I applaud that she made a commitment to God to wait following her mistake, but I don’t think born again virgin is a legitimate concept

she rededicated herself? its a thing she repented

@@GerryKeenan that's fine but she's not a virgin. You can't be a born again virgin..

Mário Branco Mestre You can be a born again virgin in Christianity, it’s not just a concept that Jubilee made up

Jeon Jungkook climate change deniers vs sane fckg people

ahahahah ahahahah bless you Climate change is a god damn fact. Are you going to deny facts?

Jesus Christ thanks Jesus!

Jeon Jungkook The thing is that topic isn't an opinion. Climate change is a fact backed by every scientists in the world. Hell even China agrees it's real

Lmao

1.9k likes and 0 comments???

​@*_ Ominous_* dats crazy

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Your body your choice

That's really nice to hear

same I don’t want to risk getting pregnant but I don’t believe in any religion or religious purpose

That’s great too!

well, that's your choice and its the one right for you! i am an atheist too, but i personally do not want to wait until marriage. idek if i want to get married lol

Stand tall in it girl ✊ its hard but I know it has to be worth it!

I am religious but I'm not waiting because of my religion. I don't like being touched.....and people tend to get hung up on me. It's weird.

Me too i support that

Stand strong! The Lord will help you

@The Moon you right

I agree with this, and also Afro-Caribbeans.

Look at the movie documentary "the lost boys of sudan." It takes understanding the richness of African culture to realize the answer to this statement. African Americans (not immigrant dual citizenship or beyond first generation) are americanized and not the same. Though you see resemblances of black culture and traditional African legacy in dances, music / rap, and drumming, the two are different cultural streams.

I don’t know if the cultural tension was always that obvious though? I feel like that point has been exaggerated much more in recent years, than it has previously.

I think theres also a tension from stronger paternal bonds in Africa and the decreasing paternal bonds in the states. Lord knows we need stronger black fathers

Yes ! This really needs to be addressed.

Angelica Pasek me! I’m 20. To be honest its not about “purity” i dont believe in that. Idk i just wanna wait and im not really that intrigued about sex. Plus for me i dont really wanna have sex with someone i dont love and I’ve never really loved someone. Dating at such a young age for me is a waste of time because i have too much shits on my plate right now

@@injiyoo7962 not wanting to have sex is not really abstinence.

I'm pro abstinence and non religious. Ask me anything 😂

Yes! I am religious but there is some really interesting scientific points too

Angelica Pasek I feel like a good non-religious argument is that I don’t wanna share the risk of potential STDs with someone by going in raw, even though that’s gonna be significantly more pleasurable than using a condom. Also, you don’t have to worry about catching feelings with someone whom you already love from having sex, like some people do with FWBs or even sometimes a ONS. Additionally, having sex with someone who has a clean slate entirely eliminates potential jealousy or confidence issues that stem from how well the person’s ex(es) had sex with them. Sex is about as natural as food and even more gratifying, which is why it should be handled with caution regarding who you have sex with.

it depends on who you have it with too, it is really good, it might be exagerated but i feel it like, as something normal just as kissing if the 2 people are in a relationship or both agreed to do it safely, i don't really know why it still is a taboo, we just hit 2020 and have old ways to treat stuff that should've changed long ago with sex

@@edgaral As for me it can only be great if there's a communication between partners. Speaking as a man, the woman should be clean and beautiful likewise men should also be clean and handsome.

@@michaelmuiruri3623 so sex is better in fantasies than in real life?

No way, fantasies are worse than sex

Sex zitth your partner than you truly love is probably the best thing, especially the cuddling after

Saaaameeee:)))

Is sex a purpose in it self in Christian marriage? Christian marriage life is not based on relationship of two body but on relationship of two characters , two people who are free , special , have full respect , evaluating his human value , important In. Itself, loved in itself not for anything he has , and not for his body , cause person in itself is more percious , more valued - without measuring units - more then anything we have , cause the thing is used , consumed ,played with ، we may dispense with that thing , but person his freedom is respected ، reasoning with him , live with and he is special and unique and indispensable . In christian marriage every partner love each other for being him as whole entity , love his presence , mentality , ethically ، characteristics , bodily, behavioural and this is the christian marriage but love the other for what he have or for his body it is not original Christian marriage . Sexuality in bible by adel halim

Same hahahahaha

Fr like I’m wilder than my non virgin friends bruh….. virgin is definitely not purity, it can be innocent but def isn’t pure

Ik the mentality of....

We all have the choice to commit sin or not...

@Jay & Rengin Well said 👏

@@leahjames6870 But we all have the freedom to do what we want. Do you eat pork?

@@leahjames6870 yes, it's a sin

@@leahjames6870 Not everyone considers it as a sin.

XO OX Suppose curiosity

@@laurenmclellan8829 Curiosity is one thing. A ot of people seem judgemental though..

Something something puritan morality leaves lasting impressions on our culture at large, especially when so many of us have carried on being Christians.

XO OX & ur watching this? 🧐🧐

@@bethdwyer7518 Im watching out of curiosity. I'm not here to judge people's sex lives. They can do whatever they want. And my orginal comment isn't about this video in particular.

💣💣💣

Yes

yes yes yes

that would be wild.

I can already see how that video would go. *Body mod people* : Even though we believe in Body Mods. It's still important that you try your best to love your own body and love what you were given. But sometimes you might lean towards wanting a quick fix. *All Naturals* : OMG IT'S SO AWFUL THE WAY PEOPLE PROMOTE IT AS IF IT'S A GOOD THING TO DO!, REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE. What a lot of All Naturals fail to realize is that people do it usually through insecurities. It's absolutely gross to shame people for wanting to boost their confidence more and just be happy with themselves more.

Zayy Star yesss

That's like Pro Air vs Anti Air for people with really bad illnesses

Oh yeah yeah Yeah okay..

@@freakcree6218 makes no sense

It's 2019 i didn't know ppl were still fighting how other ppl treat their ailments naturally or make themselves happy. Strange...

Ha ha!! Me too.. I was looking for some ace comment. Finally!

@@soumi1816 ace gang!!!

Why wait until marriage when you just can do it never at all because why

@@wa11ie exactly

Yeah.. It would be nice if there actually was an ace group... Just for chatting

Is sex a purpose in it self in Christian marriage? Christian marriage life is not based on relationship of two body but on relationship of two characters , two people who are free , special , have full respect , evaluating his human value , important In. Itself, loved in itself not for anything he has , and not for his body , cause person in itself is more percious , more valued - without measuring units - more then anything we have , cause the thing is used , consumed ,played with ، we may dispense with that thing , but person his freedom is respected ، reasoning with him , live with and he is special and unique and indispensable . In christian marriage every partner love each other for being him as whole entity , love his presence , mentality , ethically ، characteristics , bodily, behavioural and this is the christian marriage but love the other for what he have or for his body it is not original Christian marriage . Sexuality in bible by adel halim

That was not grooming, that was sexual assault

@@shriyasamala4771 not if it was consensual. Obviously it’s still very Immoral

@@shriyasamala4771 you cant just throw those kind of terms around, without knowing the situation...

Being 100% factual the only way to 100% not have a chance for a baby or std is abstinence. You can never be sure that a child wont pop up or get an std.

@@orangehiccup5726 Actually, you can be 100% certain that you won't have a baby by taking necessary precautions with contraceptives. Namely, birth control and condoms COMBINED. You're fooling yourself if you think kids are gonna listen to your ramble about abstinence and gonna stick with it all the way till marriage. Ridiculous.

@@rayofsummer720 agree

I think abstinence should be taught in school because like you said it is a choice like having sex is! Both should be I introduced with the pros and cons, so people don't feel forced into needing to partake in sex before they are ready! The other side of the sex talk that is often neglected!

Schools teach abstinence for more "the best way to prevent STDs is abstinence"

I totally agree! Self discovery is powerful imo :) And you're right - although it's "normal" to be having sex ect, we're just choosing to take MORE ownership as to when we want it to happen and with whom, rather than conform to social constructs. I wouldn't "pressure" anyone to do as I do because I think it takes a lot of honesty (within yourself) to get to such a decision (being it without religious reasons)...that being said, I can totally see how sex is a healthy part of life. Never be ashamed for being you and making the choices that are whole with your spirit :)

Oh haha, yes I understood you meant masturbation, hence why I said "self discovery". I don't know if you're younger than I because if you are than maybe it makes more sense to feel ashamed of masturbation...I think it's natural and essential in life; at least in order for you to figure out your own body and see what gives you pleasure (at the end of the day, we have ourselves alone). I personally would be honest in admitting I do it but then again it depends to whom haha! You don't have to share that intimate part of yourself with anyone you don't feel comfortable with or even mention it if you're uncomfortable, of course. Hope that helps?

Agree completely! Nice to know others have the same opinion. I don't feel like I'm repressing myself by not having sex, like some of my friends have told me. And my decision isn't based on my religion either. It's just what I feel in my heart.

Haha yes, I had a feeling you might be younger - I feel you! It is super embarrassing to talk about when you're younger, for sure. No doubt about it. So yes, I do "do it" lol ! It's natural though - don't feel bad about it if you yourself also do it or enjoy engaging it it, with yourself (as long as you're being safe and respectful of your body ect, I would say). So yeah, I'm too told to deny it or act like it's gross haha :) Thanks for admiring my courage! To answer your question, I think it's easier to admit it maybe so in my age because it's like...I'm a grown Lady and it would seem odd (as a virgin) to deny my natural instincts and sexual "needs" that already are not exactly fulfilled by someone else...so I think it's natural to assume I "fulfill" those needs, for myself. I think people would assume that to, about us. So maybe that makes it somewhat less awkward? hopefully so and hope I'm making sense. I think the MOST embarrassed I had been (admitting to "doing it") was while I was asked in Therapy by a MALE Therapist that I'm soo attracted to - he literally flat out asked if I masturbate because he couldn't understand why I've never had a bf or been in a relationship (at my age) and so he of course had to go back in time and ask if I was ever attracted to men (which I am) and then got into this awkward space asking if I even fantasize sexually about men or even engage in masturbation...you BEST BELIEVE I was red as hell lmao !!! I could barely admit to it but I did, yes. Awkward as hell! haha. So yeah, even people like me get embarrassed for sure ;P

Hey there, Nic! I'm glad you agree with my comment. It's lovely to hear others such as yourself who totally understand where I'm coming from. You said it best - "I don't feel like I'm repressing myself by not having sex" - totally!

Learning

educate yourself fam u doin great

You're bored

Learning is important

Mate same, what am I doing with life...

Not really that's for those who don't know better. Waiting for Marriage is another way of saying wait for someone that worth your time. There's more things to do in life than just have sex.....and that's if you even have the energy to do it with how tiring and hard life can be as an adult. Don't waist your time with people who aren't worth your time and will cause unneeded heart ache & stress, when you still have other things to do.

waiting can be a beautiful thing. For a man to stand with his bride on their wedding day, and for her to know that this man before her, having waited 20 something years to share his entire self with her, commits himself to her, all for her and her alone. Waiting, or re-commiting to waiting, is realizing how very precious and special his or her body is, and that this is a gift not to be given out so easy because it's so special. Imagine how difficult it is to wait, especially in the world live in today, crazy difficult! I hope that "waiting for marriage" is not a shameful topic, however I know that can be put that way, and that makes me sad. To shame someone into doing anything is the worst and very unhealthy. Waiting can be a very beautiful thing.

@Matthew Garay Fair, personal experience is not universal by any means. I disagree that virginity *itself* is a shaming thing... but I definately know that it can be used as a way of shaming others. I don't understand what you say "virginity is confirmed as not real", because how then is something real? Of course not all practice virginity, but that does not overlook that it does exist for some who choose it. Of course, a person is free to go ahead and make decisions, abosolutly. I think that's a really important part, to think and choose what is best. I think however, that virginity, although a definately difficult road to take, does have major benefits and anyone can take that road, anytime!

@Matthew Garay in another way, someone who does not have values that align with virginity, that is their choice. Of course I'll be friends with that person and want the best for 'em, but I'll just disagree with that person in that regard.

@@rachelw3533 I’m not sure if they deleted their comment but I don’t see it. I’ll answer you though. Virginity isn’t real because it’s just a social construct. There’s no word that means “I haven’t broken a bone” or “I haven’t gotten a tattoo” you just simply state those things. Virginity was made up as a way to shame women for having sex with more than one man. I know that it’s weird to think about because it’s so ingrained in our society that it’s a real thing but it’s just a fancy term for “I haven’t had sex”. It shouldn’t matter to anyone whether or not someone else has had sex unless you speaking in the sense of “is it possible you have an std” because that’s the only time it’s necessary to ask that question. Every other time it’s just out of curiosity or the want to shame that person

I do the same😄

This is so true that it's almost scary

Heh.... Actually not

False. Go to the video on "What if there were no Black people"

I've been scrolling for like an hour now haha

not really, it affects entire human race like 1 person can do, sex befr marriage is called codependency and it makes you narcissistic, you live with the shame of lack of strenght and quality of marriage is low with high chances of divorce and sociopathic children

@@ArianTheDon88 This is why there's birth control pills and condoms and other way of protecting yourself. The entire humanity? That's a bit big and who does it make you selfish? We are all selfish in some degree, you work for gaining money. You could say it's selfish since you keep it for your self and don't give it to others people. We're individual, it's normal to think for your self. But it doesn't mean that you harm other if you're responsable.

@@feliciamartin9771 you harm yourself because you go against the sanctity of marriage, you build on yourself in solitude while being on a progressive and evolutionary path, only when that is achieved you can have a connection with someone which is infinite, that's when you get married and interdependently work with your spouse till death do you part or Yeshua returns. You were always too exposed to the sinful ways of the west. Lust is destructive, we might not be Yeshua(Jesus) but he clearly told us how it is and it makes sense, be weak and you'll feel the consequences in this life or on the day of judgement, ultimately the universe or God whatever is larger than us and created us beyond our will knows it will end with him joining us.

@@feliciamartin9771 I'm 26 and male and dodged it at least 10x even tho I'm not as holy as I wish I was, the things I did do.. I live with the shame because denial aint my thing but I'm not going to double down on it anymore. Do I sound socially awkward? Do I sound unhappy? Keep prayer up and meditation and ask for forgiveness everyday and attract someone as real as possible so I never get divorced and my kids future or my legacy is secure, pave the path for heaven on earth. 1 Human can change everything, I think history has proven that. It's about self-respect. Sex is temporary it means nothing if you've felt what heaven feels like. Now imagine the relationship I'll have. Pretty fun huh how God rewards us for self restraint and devotion to him.

@@ArianTheDon88 not everyone is religious. You can't use religion for an argument.

glad somebody has the rational to logically scrutinize this argument. I 100% agree.

While I also 100% agree with what you said I don’t think it’s so much that sex causes an emotional reaction or connection I think it’s more that sex causes a release of serotonin and dopamine which makes us think there is an emotional reaction or connection. If you don’t know the person and it was just a one night stand or even a quick fling once the serotonin or dopamine is gone it becomes just a physical thing where as in a relationship you get those same happy chemicals from just being around them sex or not.

preach

I mean aromantics don’t seem to have a problem

@Matthew Garay Sex before marriage is evil.

I still obviously use condoms to prevent stds but my birth control is 99.8% effective. That’s good enough for me😂 I definitely agree though the focus should always always be on safe sex because it’s sex ed. How are you educating people by saying “just don’t do it”

@@Roe97 If you believe in God then you shouldn't use condoms because he's method of birth control is better.

@@masonnix9566 Okay Mason relax

@@masonnix9566 Chill

t.j._ edits YES

t.j._ edits That would be totally intresting

t.j._ edits yes

Yuck porn stars are disgusting

they did something similar with sex workers!

Brandon Write thanks for keeping it 💯 ! 🙏🏽

+Brandon Write I agreed with everything you said, and have the same beliefs coming from a Christian background.

Haha I didn't notice you did it until watching!! Glad we were all able to have an open and honest convo :)

@@AtLeastTryALittle You really thought you were making a statement, huh

Nicholas Berry you don’t have to agree with how he feels but you shouldn’t disrespect anyone’s religion or lack thereof.

Maya Occomy fax

10,000% agree

That’s lust, and everyone goes through it. Controlling it will give you discipline and make you stronger.

Hey there! Your comment was made one year ago... in that time, IFS statistics have shown that people with more sexual partners before marriage are more likely to divorce, be bad parents, and the children of such people are also more likely to cheat. So it's now a scientifically proven fact that pre marital intercourse is bad....

But you can love and care for someone that you're not married to. Think about married couples when they were dating or engaged

@@veronicahaney6005 I absolutely agree , if you truly love that person and care about them it shouldn’t matter

@@veronicahaney6005 caring love and lust are two different things

They did

Nobody is abstinent out of choice.

Whole Food Plant-Based Man Hi, guy here. Never had sex, never plan to. Don't believe in God, either. :)

@@MrShyguyRS You never plan to have sex? Interesting, can I ask how old you are?

RIGHT?! Thank you!! I mean come on, it’s not all about religion and social norms now. Whether you choose to screw or you not to screw. There are more “definable” circumstances to it, so why not bring somebody who goes by some other rhyme/reason.

Keep up the good fight!

Patience is a virtue!

Aurora Sparks lol u got that off a yearbook quote eh?

But what you did do is lose your dignity while writing that

@@catherinembidde3498 LOL

Get it gurl lmao

good for you! haha, i love these kinds of situations

Hopefully it can last forever

Thats so cute

Is sex a purpose in it self in Christian marriage? Christian marriage life is not based on relationship of two body but on relationship of two characters , two people who are free , special , have full respect , evaluating his human value , important In. Itself, loved in itself not for anything he has , and not for his body , cause person in itself is more percious , more valued - without measuring units - more then anything we have , cause the thing is used , consumed ,played with ، we may dispense with that thing , but person his freedom is respected ، reasoning with him , live with and he is special and unique and indispensable . In christian marriage every partner love each other for being him as whole entity , love his presence , mentality , ethically ، characteristics , bodily, behavioural and this is the christian marriage but love the other for what he have or for his body it is not original Christian marriage . Sexuality in bible by adel halim

Agreed jkjk

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Holding hands before marriage? *You damn heretic.*

Is sex a purpose in it self in Christian marriage? Christian marriage life is not based on relationship of two body but on relationship of two characters , two people who are free , special , have full respect , evaluating his human value , important In. Itself, loved in itself not for anything he has , and not for his body , cause person in itself is more percious , more valued - without measuring units - more then anything we have , cause the thing is used , consumed ,played with ، we may dispense with that thing , but person his freedom is respected ، reasoning with him , live with and he is special and unique and indispensable . In christian marriage every partner love each other for being him as whole entity , love his presence , mentality , ethically ، characteristics , bodily, behavioural and this is the christian marriage but love the other for what he have or for his body it is not original Christian marriage . Sexuality in bible by adel halim

Heng Hui Mei I agree about the “losing” virginity but I think the way I’ve always interpreted “falling in love” is less the scary side of falling and more... skydiving. A little scary, especially at first, but exhilarating. It’s risky but it’s a rush, and it’s beautiful when you stop to appreciate how marvelous it can be.

Heng Hui Mei Heng Hui Mei "falling" refers to the more or less involuntarily nature of developing attachment, as there's so much biology and chemistry beyond our control that's involved . Also to explain "losing" virginity: most cultures recognize intimacy of any kind is only worth something when it's the the context of some kind of life-long commitment(marriage).we all intuitively know this, it sucks to be vulnerable relationally with a human being only to have them pull out on us as soon as we become inconvenient. The consequences for this now are only social these days, but back then, especially for women who relied on men for their provision, this was often deadly.

Heng Hui Mei I agree with virginity, you don’t lose something, but you rather gain experience and knowledge. Thinking virginity is worthy (or shameful) is quite harmful.

Free Hugs - maybe to* you* but the romantics of the world, myself included, would strongly disagree. love is sort of a dreadful thing, in the sense that’s it’s terribly frightening. But it’s so warm, it’s just (from my perspective) undeniably beautiful.

That is interesting. My grandma never phrased it like that, it was always "giving away" your virginity. Virginity is supposed to be considered a gift to your partner, not a burden.

jequestrian Of course, but that’s what some people want. No committed relationships, just sex. Which is all good in my book, as long as both parties consent and are safe.

I agree, in the high school I went to we weren't even allowed to ask questions about safe sex, it's absolutely ridiculous. I lived in a fairly religious state and religion totally influenced what I learned about sex.

Addie H you don’t want to know if you have STDs? A potentially life altering situation?

Addie H Telling them that they can get STDs and should get tested after any form of sex to make sure they didn’t catch anything is bad in a high school curriculum? They need to know these things. They need to know that just using a condom isn’t going to protect them from everything and there’s multiple ways to catch it. They should be aware that it’s a good thing to ensure your health after every partner.

Taha Hagar I’ll say morality is subjective. As for myself, I have. I banged someone outside of marriage, consensually, and only that one person. We’ve been together for 7 years and are having our two year anniversary this March.

Mexton flat earthers vs mentally stable

Megan Carrington Not gonna lie as much as I disagree with flat earthers, I wouldn’t call them mentally unstable. I have some respect for them challenging scientific theory, even when round earth has been proven over 2,000 years ago lol

Mexton This shouldn’t even be an argument

Ooohh that would be a good one

Every scientist is paid off by the government though. Look up Warner Von Brauns (the head of NASA) tombstone, he even admits the world is flat on there.

Beat me to it. Also, that tune is in my head now. Nice.

Same here! *Love* over lust!

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I can't help but sing it, no matter how hard I try

Good for you. No one wants your Genes boi

I'm so sorry you had to go through this awful experience

I know this won't fix anything, but you are not worthless or dirty. You did absolutely nothing wrong. I'm so sorry you went through that.

Is sex a purpose in it self in Christian marriage? Christian marriage life is not based on relationship of two body but on relationship of two characters , two people who are free , special , have full respect , evaluating his human value , important In. Itself, loved in itself not for anything he has , and not for his body , cause person in itself is more percious , more valued - without measuring units - more then anything we have , cause the thing is used , consumed ,played with ، we may dispense with that thing , but person his freedom is respected ، reasoning with him , live with and he is special and unique and indispensable . In christian marriage every partner love each other for being him as whole entity , love his presence , mentality , ethically ، characteristics , bodily, behavioural and this is the christian marriage but love the other for what he have or for his body it is not original Christian marriage . Sexuality in bible by adel halim

I think it’s definitely wrong to say it has no place. You always give them an alternative and let them know it’s okay to be celibate, not just “you can say no”.

This. Abstinence is not a thing in my country. It is never mentioned, not ever. Teaching consent picks up everything when it comes to choice. It's also called sex education and not religious education.

But if kids should have the ability to choose, shouldn't all options be presented? Not in a "you have to be abstinent" way but more of a "there's nothing wrong with being abstinent". I think it would be great to have a curriculum that teaches all about safe sex (and what sex is, because a lot of people seem to think there's things that are "technically not" sex), as well as talking about abstinence and how to handle pressure to have sex if that's not what you want.

yessss

@Matthew Garay what do you mean virginity isn't real? It's the state of not having had sex. If it's used to shame women why do some people make fun of men who are virgins? Kids really shouldn't be having sex at all. But they should be thought about what is and isn't safe, and how to protect themselves if they find themselves in an intimate situation.

They are used😐

@@thesismoon8125 Human contact make people used? Do you not hug or shake hands? Maybe some virgins have had more human contact than non virgins, thus they are more "used". There is no logical moral distinction

@@shuepsx652 not the same thing..what the heck

@@rochelleforsberg8870 Can you give me a single logical reason for considering one contact damaging and the other not?

Agreed

Being a virgin actually mattered when getting divorced was a big deal and was shameful

Sadly majority of people don’t take marriage seriously anymore

actually in the bible the act of sex was marriage, adam knew his wife meaning sex and that was the marriage. There was never a ceremony. So i think God wants us to have only one partner

So many people attach Christianity to marriage when 1) marriage existed before Christianity and 2) marriage exists outside Christianity.

Did it exist before Adam and Eve?

The Holy Spirit's body, the life Jesus died for, God's choice.

@@precious1918 Amen!

@@precious1918 Amen to that sis!

@@precious1918 No, their body. Not your deity's.

if you get pregnant then no, it's not your body. you can't end another life even if it was a mistake, or if you didn't plan it, or if it's inconvenient for you... i know im most likely not going to change your mind but i feel like i had to say it. just like you feel like you had to say your comment. it goes both ways. well, i suppose neither one of us "had" to say what we said but you know what i mean... we both just want to get our own points across.

@Zayan Tahir that’s true and also you can be born with a very flexible hymen that doesn’t break even if you use tampons or have had sex. I think Jade’s point was that when you ask someone how to tell if a person is virgin they immediately say it’s whether or not their hymen is broken which as we’ve both stated is utterly false but that’s the myth

That’s a pretty flawed standard. Usually a virgin is defined by whether someone had sex or not, not by if their hymen is intact (which, btw, is more of an ancient misconception due to the fact that hymens can be flexible/some girls aren’t even born with one/a hymen can break from other things outside of sex like riding a bike).

Is sex a purpose in it self in Christian marriage? Christian marriage life is not based on relationship of two body but on relationship of two characters , two people who are free , special , have full respect , evaluating his human value , important In. Itself, loved in itself not for anything he has , and not for his body , cause person in itself is more percious , more valued - without measuring units - more then anything we have , cause the thing is used , consumed ,played with ، we may dispense with that thing , but person his freedom is respected ، reasoning with him , live with and he is special and unique and indispensable . In christian marriage every partner love each other for being him as whole entity , love his presence , mentality , ethically ، characteristics , bodily, behavioural and this is the christian marriage but love the other for what he have or for his body it is not original Christian marriage . Sexuality in bible by adel halim

Hey Liz! This is Ien who works at Jubilee. Thanks so much for the kind words :) Onward and upward with respectful, mature dialogue - even between people who might disagree deeply! Spreadin' the love, yo

@Liz couldn't agree more. Just bl**dy love this set-up and channel. Doing amazing things for modelling tolerance & respect in a pretty polarised, quick-to-judge, even hate-filled modern world. So much admiration every time I watch one of these videos for the maturity and open-mindedness of the volunteers with polar opposite viewpoints.

So refreshing to see

It is a really cool setup..!

That's a sweet sentiment on the face of it, but the religious asian guy was essentially saying that sex and sexual health education for children should be about a crucification story from the desert. This is sinister and dangerous, and not to be brushed aside with plaintive, surface-level loveliness in the form of 'we should all respect each other's views'. Not all views are equal, not when they have aspiration to control educational policy.

You can have premarital sex if you have found someone who really loves you. Just don't do it too much, focus on strengthening your emotional bonding, be more empathic toward your partner and everything will be fine

@@s.d.966 If he or she wants to wait, they can wait. I am 20 years old still waiting for marriage because IT IS the right thing to do. More so the BETTER thing to do. No matter what you think, there will always be some kind of spiritual attachment. So if you're not with your spouse, there will most likely be some soul-tie there. Those are some demons you don't want to deal with.

Rendaboyd for you to say that one is more right than the other is disgusting and wrong. Everyone has the choice to either wait or not, and neither is right or wrong.

Ellen Jensen Yes that is true, everyone does have to choice, but to say it is not wrong to have premarital sex is in fact... wrong. There’s a word for it too, it’s called fornication. The Lord said this is a sin against the body. He commands Christians to flee fornication as a sin against self and God, for the believer's body is the temple of the Holy Spirit (see I Corinthians 6:18-19). It is very important to understand that neither fornicators nor adulterers will enter the kingdom of heaven (see I Corinthians 6:9-10). In today's world, the term fornication is rarely used and immorality between unmarried people is commonly accepted as a lifestyle. But immorality, however commonplace, is a sin that will keep millions of people out of heaven, unless they repent.

Rendaboyd but not everyone is a Christian

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Thanks! I thought I was the only one!

Well sOrRrY, he was jamming out to his Christian playlist.

Still nodding 1 min later

I totally agree!

I agree

Nicely said, totally agree 👏🏽

I was about to say it lol

Agree

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Nina Ahgase i am jealous

That's so random but yeah they got nice noses.

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so random but okay..

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i love Kim Namjoon tooo :(

@माेहत्रा but why tho? I think that if there is trust and communication it doesn't matter, she's not yours and it shouldn't be a problem what she did before you married her, you know?

Yeah it does, no guy wants to be with a girl that has slept around before she gets married. Even you wouldnt wanna be with a guy that has slept around with 500 women before being with you because that's just gross. The odds of him cheating on you goes way up, and his odds of him being able to stay bonded to you for life decrease tremendously. Not to mention STDs. This isnt subjective opinion, its objective scientific facts. So yeah it does define you. Sex isnt just a physical act. It's spiritual, chemical, and emotional things that happen in our body and mind. That's why rape isnt treated the same as assault. Because rape affects someone 10 times worse. Just something to think about.

@@nickhaddad9778 very true !! People undermine the effects of sex on the mind and body soo much! They think it’s just on a physical level when it is not.

Delightful Daisy so true

@@nickhaddad9778 oh but a guy can be with as many women he wants right? Why is it okay for a guy to be with a million women but women are expected to be perfect virgins? Sexist comment

Same. At least I think both side need to have the common ground that abstinence-only education doesn't work.

You cannot have a union of people that do not share the same set of beliefs, religion. If you want to be marginalized just continue sinning.

eax2010EA well then maybe religion should move into the 21st century.

wait when did he say that??

@@chrisklappich5998 Religion does not move based on the wishes of the people.

For real

ew fkn gross

Tf in 5th grade I didn't even know what testosterone was

Lol dude wtf why you watching 5th graders

@@dustysdisciples2205 literally child porn...lol

I here. You is virgin?

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User1 ght good for you it is a great thing seriously to wait

I didn’t wait but I respect that

It is important to wait until you feel ready and are mature, whether it be waiting until marriage or in a committed relationship outside of marriage.

User1 ght same here.

Same bro. It's all right. Focus on school and money

Why? Not everything has always to be about lgbt

@@Sara-jh1ll Bruh it's fine to have our perspective on things too

S K not everywhere, it’s fine to sometimes just have the perspective of the average

How do you know none of these are? Don’t think they’ve mentioned sexual preference

@@Sara-jh1ll because sex doesn't just exist for straight people, this video also isn't just for straight people

Add catholic schools there too just for fun

To be honest, I think the debate in America surrounding public vs. private has much more do to with how much funding private schools draw away from public schools and how many more opportunities students have as a result.

@@ramywiles i totally agree and thats why it would be great to see people debate about this!

Great idea never thought of that

Georgia O`Connor Public Vs Private School is definitely a must they have to do it! I’d love to hear the opinions of not just the volunteers who will be in the video but the many viewers here on RU-vid.

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I WAS THINKING THE EXACT SAME THING

Sex is such a strong urge for people, that to reject it they need a lot of strength. Abstinence is not something people would do just for the heck of it. That group is very very small.

King_Renn don't know why you put quotes around that phrase but okay 🤷‍♀️

Yeah, as others have said, it kind of makes sense. Abstinence is a discipline choice. Without a strong reason for discipline, like religion (the strongest source an average person is going to have), there's not much that's going to give them strong motivation AGAINST sex. There are some people like that, yes, but I would guess that a majority of people who choose abstience do so because of religion. It's the only common source of that much discipline in actions.

@@michaelmiky11 "that group" is more then 50%

Sex is sacred

il villain lmfaooooo she looks like the girl from limitless hahahahahah

nah she looks like the gal with the christian man in the punisher season 2

It’s not that serious honestly. People I’ve had sex with, I barely remember them or the connection we have because it’s been years. The man I’m with now, we share a connection mentally and physically that makes me forget I ever shared myself with other people. It’s not as taboo as it’s painted out to be.

@FireEmeralds76 It’s really not lol it’s not impossible to hook up with someone just for the sex and enjoyment. Not every sexual encounter needs to involve emotional connection. Maybe for you, but to each their own.

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*She even said “one and done” LMAO*

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never trust an edited comment

Only the sith deal in absolutes

Yes true, as even married and serious, long term, respecting couples want safe sex!

Amber Kelly I did a whole research paper about abstinence only education and in the areas it’s taught, it actually increases teen pregnancy :/

@@baileybabb2124 I grew up in a small southeast Texas town and they only "taught" abstinence only sex education. I was pregnant at 14 a month after losing my virginity and was married off to the father that was 22. They built a school for teen mothers to take their babies to school with them that I started going to when my son was 6 weeks old. Why they thought that was better than education beats the hell out of me. And that was 1997, the school still stands 3 blocks away from where I live now. I'm a grandma at 36 years old from the son I had at 14. He was almost 20 when he his so son. I also have a 17 year old son and 14 year old daughter. I've taken it upon myself to be open with them because still to this day, they only "teach" abstinence only. No changes at all in 22 years and it's damn shame. So I teach my own kids. The cycle ends with me. Condoms and birth control. And a lot open conversation. Something my folks didn't do. I'll be damned if my daughter will be a child bride like I was!!! Or if my son's will knock a teenage girl up. Very open line of communication in my household...without it being awkward

@@amberkelly8055 You're doing amazing work. I am only 20 now and cannot imagine having a kid, much less at 14. I am glad there are mothers like you that are willing to have open communication. It is the key to safe practices, less teen pregnancies, and awareness. I grew up in a southern town myself and they had abstinence-only education. I had one teacher that spoke about condoms and birth control even though she wasn't supposed to and I honestly think she might have stopped a few pregnancies based on some of the conversations I overheard. Keep up the good work breaking the cycle, one day it will hopefully be gone for good.

@@amberkelly8055 I can't imagine what that must've all been like. You're a badass and seem like a really good mom, even though it's been far from easy. You're doing great XXX

The fact that I know who you’re talking about 😂😂😂

HAHAHAHA I SAW THIS COMMENT AT PERFECT TIMING

Is sex a purpose in it self in Christian marriage? Christian marriage life is not based on relationship of two body but on relationship of two characters , two people who are free , special , have full respect , evaluating his human value , important In. Itself, loved in itself not for anything he has , and not for his body , cause person in itself is more percious , more valued - without measuring units - more then anything we have , cause the thing is used , consumed ,played with ، we may dispense with that thing , but person his freedom is respected ، reasoning with him , live with and he is special and unique and indispensable . In christian marriage every partner love each other for being him as whole entity , love his presence , mentality , ethically ، characteristics , bodily, behavioural and this is the christian marriage but love the other for what he have or for his body it is not original Christian marriage . Sexuality in bible by adel halim

Candace Juan ikr I was like, isn’t anyone gonna say something??

I was like “ wth that’s rape sis”

Why did I have to scroll down so far to see this wtf that's staturtory rape.

I think that we’ve all seen this happen far too many times to single this particular scenario out. We all know that it’s wrong, but half of my friends lost their virginity in a similar situation

Age of consent in Japan is 13 maybe they went there 🤣 but tbh if they're both good with it and are safe don't care