Should you trust your first impression? - Peter Mende-Siedlecki 

+Ouss DZ Every guy at every football match where I live is like him, but I ave been stuck in the rain more then once, and nobodies ever shared their umbrella with me. But, I live in a town of assholes.

Same here

+Ouss DZ true that.

+Quantustellar dz in my country, if u are walking in a park and it rains. someone offers u an umbrella, then it means u're abt to get robbed. be careful

ngNudraconis I forgot that. That's also in here too! This gives me trust issues.. ://

***** That guy! 'Marcus Tullius Cicero' Deleted his comment! XD haha was he afraid of you? XD this has happened 2 me many times! after they delete their comments, our comments feel like a total joke! But even I let them be as they are.

Ethan Walker because you are kind.

Ethan Walker bv vgghhhuyyyujjioo

Shubham Thakkar nbqbnoiibcbb . .pmh*@ ¿+¿ .+}.[》_[

So that means, ur ppl in ur enviroment rarely gives umbrella to someone in need?

my favourite quote

+carnotricecooker lmao

YES! Best comment of my day!

Therefore, I should avoid a dishonest person 100% of the time!!

Its true when i would lie nooo onnnee knew 😄 people take me way to seriously. Though i do admit i tend to be honest even when it causes trouble

little bubble

Same!

good explanation

I think that's what lacks in many cognitive psychology experiments, context. We don't judge in a bubble, but use our prior comprehension of social situations to do so.

Agreed

The man is most likely in his 20 or 30s and only NOW is he figuring that out? Leave him. Have a warm shower and change when you get home.

+TheTsugnawmi2010 Well most criminals are at least twenty so one less potential asshole in the world wouldn't be so bad

***** Why "most likely"? Where's your evidence to conclude that? It was not said in the scenario so you're just making excuses. Further, why are you getting drunk in a public place around children who are also present? So? You and him are not friends, colleagues or acquaintances. You have simply bumped into each other twice. The information is not "valuable" at all. You're never going to talk to him again. Go home and have that shower.,

Alcoholism is a very bad trait, it'll only make it wore worse

Spiritof Perseus I totally agree.

+Tuệ Liên Nguyễn Yes, I can asure you that it took me some time to get used to the people around me when I started working with new people. In the beginning, because you don't know each other, you kinda dance around each other to not say something stupid. But after a while, when you know each others names and like personalities, you can lift the relationship to a new level. So then you know what to say to which person, what to not say, how to interterpret if what he says is meant seriously or not and so on. And when you're comfortable with the other person, you can start talking to them about many things without letting it sound awkward or forced. And based on the first impression, I myself would not like if someone would judge me without maybe even hearing me speak, just on the way I look or my facial expression . I do that too, I can't help it, but what I can do is to say: Okay, this guy might seem weird, but since I haven't talked to him yet, I stay open minded and try to have an at least neutral opinion toward him and be nice to that new colleague or person. After some time passed, I see if he's a solid worker and when we have talked, I know at least if he's an okay person, see how moral he is and if we both like eatch other.

I feel it can only take a few hours of continual interaction and or observation, people deviate in different environments around different people. I remember how my mom as a kid would be really ghetto around my sister n i but when on the phone with a billing company she was sweet as pie. I striggled with this issue as a child and subconsciously determined it to be a fraud and mask, i see in my own character that i dont deviate my behavior around anyone, as my general behavior is set to be appropriate at all times. This is not always true but if you met me youd see the consistency of my attitude and behavior to be very similiar and seemingly unchanging

You sir are slow

One of my best friends used to hated me because my classmates badmouthed me to her. Nonetheless, after unexpected incidents, we became friends since and are still friends now.

ColbOnTheCob I’m really curious, after 2 years do you still think this way? I won’t judge any answer so I appreciate honest answer :D

Wise!! Start meditating man. It will change your life. Search for the benefits here on RU-vid. Practice it everyday and your will transform in terms of happiness and other measures

Amira ZB I know some psychology and it makes sense. Right away you judge someone by sosial rules (hiearchy) and secondly you can think for yourself

I tend to disagree with this. Sure society has some standards but it's up to you if you want to follow them or not and sometimes you see those standards so often, you follow them without realizing. But those standards are there even at the second thought. So i'd just say that society is affecting both first and second impression. How much is up to you.

It's society, man!

+Jonanthan Salte ---- Screaming crazy drunks + football = go hand-in-hand. :D

I was thinking that if he had beer, he'd be drunk.

Yes. I’ve been. And men are all so crazy :D

It's just an example

This comment made my day.

me too

Same

You weigh the extraordinary more than the usual. In this case, the good person over those bad people

Caleb Singletary Forgiveness does not exist. And if such a thing as forgiveness happens somewere sometime it's just for a short term, until that person does another thing that it's bad in our eyes. We, as human beings, are not able to forgive anybody on a long term/ permanently.

Claudiu Semionov Then im not human

forgiveness is something that 90% of people dont know how to do it

+Claudiu Semionov yeah like when you discuss with a person that has hurt you, but you kinda have "forgived" her, she will bring up those bad memorys, looking like you guys haven't move forward about this subject. It happens everywhere with anyone. Basically it is a short-term solution to a discussion that will end when you guys have another one. Its a infinite cycle.

you choose to move forward , simple as that

i offered a stranger my umbrella. it ain't that hard.

Why unusual? Seems like the natural thing to do, assuming you're sharing the umbrella and not just giving it up for the other person.

Cloudclaws AJ I can relate with you because in school people assume me being rude and annoying even though I am not they just saying that for being dishonest person. in reality I somewhat shy and awkard person it really frustrating is that people tend to judge me but didn't try to understand me in personal level. If we all have telepathy to understand people thoughts and emotion then we shouldn't have these problems from the beginning.

@@redd-qh4xn This misunderstanding happens so often that im still thinking of building a machine or something that kinda seems like telepathy but science or something. Like it allows us to 1. feel the pain other people are feeling 2. be able to share thoughts and emotion kinda not possible for me tho HSAHH

Same 😭

#NuKEhUmAniTy 😂😂😂 who hurt you son

nice hashtag

I support this hashtag😂. We must create a movement.

Most people I know are openly selfish and when they do that 1 nice thing everybody's like WOW THANYOUSOMUCH THATWASSOTHOUTFUL

Mani Kryptic's: Magical World of Obscurity you didn't get enough attention from your parents?

This is a really great observation! Thank you for that!

Yea I thought that too. We think it's the rarity because it's not like we expected it

Agreed!🙌🏼

Hey you alive

+MadBunnyRabbit True, but that was just an example. His point still stands, though.

P. Marios Christodoulou the problem I have is not with example per se, but with simplifaction and generalization. Like I said, if it was to say that we judge people based on our idea of good / bad, typical or not (in a given situation) then yeah. But if you generalize it to, it's typical that people do good, etc. then noo.

Yes same point. plus a football mach is a place for noise and competition in the first place maybe that person acts good all the time and that game is his outlet.

This response is really not understanding the video correctly.

stickmanymickmany do explain where is the error of my interpretation than :p

Lol... Your profile pic matches your expression (Question) perfectly....

Abort mission? 🤣

That can lead to two phenomenon: 1. Halo effect: the initial good impression is strong enough that it overshadow the later bad behaviour, or you'll find ways to justify that bad behaviour. 2. If the bad behaviour is an extreme case, polar opposite, or if the initial good impression wasn't as strong, then you'd be shocked and you may consider the bad behaviour as much worse than it actually is.

@@Shreya_Springs i think i'm falling in love with your intellegence ! , How do you judge me based on this first imprission ? , lol

@@Shreya_Springs i also like eminem too , we have something in common already , :D

I love life too but I wanna know if you still have life in you are you alive?

@@TD-jt4iy comment was from seven years ago, I died 5 ago, dude.

@@ChristopherMei86🤣🤣🤣👍

yes you are right

Hey it’s been 7 years you alive?

@@TD-jt4iy yes I am...and I do not remember writing this comment LOL

Still love their videos tho

+Rachel Wang Darcy in Thor.

+Rachel Wang Spoilers... I hate you!

+alwayslate Spoilers for 19th century literature? That seems completely reasonable.

NekoNēsan Little damn do I give. As long as I have not read the book yet, I'll classify that as spoilers.

+NekoNēsan Spoiler alert: Darth Vader is Luke's father. Even if everyone and their dog knows that by now...

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Rare nowadays? How can you say that if you can't really compare to how it was back then because you weren't alive back then to see?

keep learning, however you can(:

Good :)

And now you are 14 or 15😂😂

*Cheers*

You are lucky ☺

That's what I thought too, Batman.

Χριστίνα Σπυρίδου 👍

+Bartu Muzo -- maybe they were at a Little League game! ;-) -- or do they have two sets of bleachers at little league games also?

Neutral ground.

Lol stop overthinking this video😅

Creo -Tan Let me tell you. There are people I absolutely dislike. Very, very few of them, are actually bad people by my standards. Most of them are just either obnoxious, or annoying, or have very disagreeable traits or personalities.

Creo -Tan Everybody has good things and bad things about them. We like to classify people as "good" or "bad" but it's waaay to simplistic. Even the best of people have bad traits/tendencies/things they struggle with. Everyone has bad days. Even the most evil people won't usually think themselves as inherently bad. They might see themselves as having made a mistake, but really, deep down they're a good person. Obviously no one else thinks that about people like Hitler. My point is, no body is perfect, or 100% good. Everyone has bad things about them- what's important is whether or not they KNOW they're bad, and if they're working on it. So he's not an entirely bad person. Sounds like your average human :)

+Creo -Tan Usually nobody is 100% good or bad. And also as one smart guy told me, we all play roles when we are around other people. Like myself, with friends, with girlfriend, at work, at school, at a meeting, at the supermarket and so on and on and on. That means, we do not behave the same way when we are around different people. Like I can talk to my friends about stuff that I wouldn't ever talk to my work mates or parents. I would be nice to a friend, but not knowing what to say to a work mate. Or a bully would enjoy playing sports or hanging out with friends, but being bored in school and therefor being obnoxious to his school mates.

Nop you are wrong.

I agree I rarely go off first impressions and I always give people second chances. I am more weary, if they make bad first impressions, but if the second and third time I meet them they've been nothing but nice etc, my first impression goes away.

YT is all over the place and its up to you to keep a schedule. School expects you to adhere to a specific schedule. They are not the same, but they are complementary

I do youtube to get myself in context, and school/books to really learn it.

That's because you're watching youtube videos instead of paying attention lol

School= indoctrination

And you grown up so are you alive?

+WiseDude50 I agree! Judge a person on a few impressions, of course you can't forget the first impression but since everybody has a bad day and their flaws, do unto others as you want them to do onto you (sorry for bad English). I see it as this. Think of work. If you screw up once, your boss or colleagues get angry. Even though you did everything right 99 times before. So that one mistake is weighing heavier than all the 99 good work days before. Or if a club that has lost 8 games wins a game, it's something special, if a club wins every game, they expect it and it's as almost nobody notices it. I think "special" and the element of "surprise" are key words here. And all movie and tv show watchers know how much they love the element of a suprising twist, when it turns out that the nice neighbour actually is the murderer.

You alive? Yes maybe no

@Li yeah she was a lunatic, but this quote I agree on to a certain extent, just that judgment is inevitable anyways, it's on one's decision to act on it though

She was a foul lady

*I will post diz*

@@zahlen_0092 that women was so devious they should have declared her satan's bride instead of saint

No. Humans are typically more good than bad.

Obviously the past is only what we know or remember.

no. you need to evaluate every piece of info. you learn about someone. I think that's the point

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