Yep, happened recently and too be honest, I feel so much better being away from that place. Nothing I did was good enough and the micromanagement and bullying was killing me. I am healing now with therapy as I have found the job gaslighted me a lot too. Could you do a video on boss' gaslight you?
It's happening to me now. Everything you said. The job market has only just started to reopen in my field, so I've been stuck with a boss who can't find time to read my emails or meet with me, but she finds time to craft the perfectly vaguely worded performance review that resulted in $0.00 raise. When she pauses in our Zoom meetings it's not because she's writing down what she's promised to do for me. It's because she's writing down something I said so she can use it against me. She sends emails that make it clear she's trying to frame everything I do in the worst possible way. I'm documenting everything she says and does, and responding in email to all of this so that her behavior is also being documented (and I'm bcc'ing all of it to a personal email account). At this point, I'm trying to protect my unemployment benefits, since there's no hope of protecting my prospects for a raise, my enjoyment of my job, my ability to do my job (everything has to go through her and she doesn't green light my projects until there's no time to do them, if she pays attention to it at all), and I certainly can't protect my dignity anymore. All attempts to defend myself against unwarranted criticism have been framed as "unwilling to accept supervisory direction." Even tiny mistakes are counted against me in performance reviews, while my boss is extremely careless about her work and always gets really big raises. I have given up the fantasy that the workplace is a fair place, and have resigned myself to just marking time until I can escape. Meanwhile, I'm contributing to my national professional organization and turning my focus to anything that can go onto a website not controlled by my boss. Also, in case my boss has installed a keystroke logger onto my computer: Hey, there, boss! Did you know that I hate you as much as you hate me?
@@obgfoster exactly what I have just gone through. My manager forved me into an emotional break down and in the first time in my career I was off with work related stress. I walked from that job due to management sticking together abd basically held my under duress to resign. So glad I walked away and I hope you can do so soon!
I got made redundant and they hired someone who i shoulda known would be the person replacing me. Thank fk i did the shittesr hand over known to man. I heard shes struggling lol 😂
because you spend more hours with them than with your real friends and even than with your family, you think they are friends but they are not, they are actually relishing the prospect of you getting fired if this means more responsabilities for them
this is all wrong. It shouldn't be like that. It's an institutional thinking but it strongly make our lives so hard. Have a look ta this world : How about "sharing everything willfully" and I'm not being ideological really but I feel this is a way out. No one should find it hard to live, eat and get a decent sleep in a home. Resources should be enough for everyone and they are. But billionaires are a role model to average people and this is the problem really ! As if people want this bad system. No billionaire can be as such without the agreement by the general public on the scarcity of money, here comes the virtue of "sharing willfully". This isn't initiated by the government btw, everything starts from the people. The bad system will break within days and all suffering shall end everywhere. We have great powers ! This is what no one wants us to believe, especially those in power who would like us to feel fine about being selfish and to be satisfied by any downside perspective or low ambition in life as low as preserving a job, and delude us that the problem is technical somehow and try all means to distract us by leveraging side topics. We can write articles about how bright our future will then be after we start sharing everything willfully. Things are devastating to local citizens only ? no. What happens today in Gaza is a natural byproduct of the arrogance of elites which happened 100 years ago back in Palestine when land was stolen and natives there didn't ever have the chance in self determination. Ever. Forget everything about democracy. All lies. And then resistance against the Z people (who control your government now) emerged and grew ever more and we reached here.
That's what I'm going through, I'm now training a guy to do the job i've been doing and they told me that they will move me to do something that "fits more my profile of worker" aka a shitty job that will make me want to quit.
They are terrible they'll never be able to do what i can do and their oversize will go down from here someone please close this place down they want one company rep and a bunch of these agency
This is happening to me right now. Every tiny little mistake I make is being blown up to epic proportions. The worst thing is that people I thought were my friends suddenly started talking behind my back and actually doing my boss his job of pushing me out. I hate people.
Don't lose heart, you are not alone. You will find something better and more suited to you. As for that boss and your former colleagues ...karma can be a beast!
take great comfort in malicious compliance, do EXACTLY what they ask and NOTHING more, I have been through this, I used to laugh my ass off knowing they were trying to get rid of me but I was too awkward to let them shit can me. I did eventually leave when something I was interested in appeared but I also enjoyed the pathetic attempt they made.
Hardest part about being pushed out is people think you are crazy when you try to describe what is happening. The harder you try to describe it the crazier you sound. Classic gas lighting. It's brutal to go thru.
America has the most guns per people. The least mental healthcare. Let that sink in. Yes. This is a threat. Someone will shoot the damn place up lol best be aware that pushing people out maliciously is a bad idea. Also, companies pushing people out maliciously can cause specific… investigations, by the IRS. Just saying, you can report anonymously to the IRS or OSHA.
*You have inalienable rights - speak up for yourself when people do this and don’t be afraid to CHARGE in retaliation. Unless you’re deliberately doing something to sabotage (FOR NO REASON EITHER - OTHER THAN YOU KNOWING THAT YOU’RE A SADIST) the business, then you’re 100% innocent and have every right to stand up for yourself.*
Haha, yes. I remember I started cataloguing the ways in which my manager was lying about me. At the same time, I was fully self-aware in the knowledge that to someone who was not paying close attention I might look like I had gone batshit insane.
It's brutal, but the good thing is it happened to so many people that it's practically an open secret. People do believe you, even those that don't want to admit it.
They did this to my dad right before he was about to retire. I guess the "reasoning" was that they didn't want to pay for his retirement. Dad, however, is both obstinate and petty, and did everything he could to make sure the boss' life was hell without doing anything that would get him fired. He won, and was able to retire.
@@bunnyboo6295 it's hilarious the things Dad did, from heating fish in the microwave to not restocking the coffee station to replacing all the chalkboard 's white chalk with pink ones to getting rid of the office candy and putting out fruit instead to moving all of the desks over 2 inches to the left...he got really creative and I applaud him.
Do NOT go to human resources, they cannot help you. Also, unions cannot help you. If your boss doesn't like you anymore, the best thing to do it find another job.
Union will not help you at all. I'm in a union and I was suspended for 3 days and wrote up again a week later. They are trying to make an example of me to everyone else hahaha 😂 I don't even ask for a union rep because they always just side with the company anyways.
Your boss does not own the company. Never quit your job just because someone is bleeding down there. Do great work, be on time, be a team player and make your money. Leave in your terms
@@ronc3348that just defeats the purpose of a union. Unions were made to help workers initially, but yeah if they basically just a sheep in wolf’s clothing taking sides with the company more than the workers then fuck them.
@@kenanaojacob2854Yeah this isn't africa or some 3rd World country. Here in North America if they don't like you, you better start looking for another job.
I went thru this. God pulled me out and kept me around long enough just to show the others what was going on with me and the boss. Finally, I went above him and left the place. And now, I give everything to God who saw me thru that place and put me in a better spot.
Amen! Nothing is too hard for God. This gives me hope. I’m being pushed out of my job right now. Very stressful. But that’s why I’ll always put my faith in Christ who strengthens me.
Yes. That's actually a lesson for which you should be grateful: no matter how nicely you get along (or not), they are always your colleagues, not your friends.
best way to get back at them is to refuse overtime or cover a shift for another staff member, they think you will do anything to keep your job but just do the bare minimum of helping them, don't quit your job just annoy them when they need you most
For good measure, secretly spread their wussy plans/behavior of pushing you out to other employees so that coworkers would be aware how they aren't really respected. Eventually, production is going to go stagnant or sink, the turnover rate's going to be high for the company and they get a bad rep in glassdoor or something haha
That’s what I’m doing right now. I’m not fighting for my job I just stopped caring when the cut my wage. You think I’m going to do overtime after a wage cut ?! Hahaha
I've been in a similar situation - 10 years ago. The worst thing was, I knew it was coming. I saw the emails going back and forth plotting my 'removal' while they were all smiles to my face. They never quite understood why my attitude towards them changed, and I resigned the day before their plan came to fruition. It was a learning experience. I was 27 at the time, still naive enough. Now I don't really trust anyone I work with - I'll work with people and do the job to the best of my ability, but I don't get chummy with colleagues - because a knife in the back comes from anyone in the work place. I don't attend functions, and I don't go on work nights out. I've completely compartmentalised my work life. Trust no one.
@@parker1981xxx Because I got what I needed regardless, I got the same pay as if I worked my notice and I was still paid all my accrued holiday time that I hadn't taken (I'm in the UK btw not the US). They didn't hold me to working my notice and were happy to let me go. In the UK at least, that's normal. Companies want an employee gone quickly if they're departing on 'bad' terms. I resigned though for two reasons: 1. I was taking control of the situation, and denying them the satisfaction of firing me. 2. Its far better at an interview later to say you resigned because the company no longer met your aspirations. Its crippling if you have to admit you were fired. I probably wouldn't have seen it coming if I hadn't been watching their emails (foresight by me as I didn't trust them when things started to go sour) - it was a learning experience how duplicitous people in the workplace can be.
@@bobpage6597 the last sentence: '....how duplicitous people in the workplace can be...' gets me time and time again, how/why do they do that? I know it is a rat race but how much is it really worth? Are they the people who will say at the end: Hmmm, I stepped on everyone and did not gain much (regret) or I stepped on everyone and now I am rich? Would't want to be either of the types. The sentence: I resigned because the company no longer met my aspirations..... was an eye opener for me 😁but isn't it a bit complaint-ly towards the old company, a bit negative? (the Uk view here as well). I am sure you are doing well 10yrs on and wishing you all the best going forward too! 👍
@@jaz6382 Yeah I'm doing fine now - I've never had a problem with saying a company no longer meets my aspirations. Its not impossible for an employee to hit a ceiling and find within an organisation there's nowhere else to go. If they're not giving you any new projects or not looking to promote you......well, you're not going to stay in your cubby hole forever. You can further slant that to be a positive at an interview by clarifying you're looking for new and fresh challenges etc. To be honest, its all BS anyway - you fluff it all up in the hopes they give you the job ha! That said, I'm 38 now and I'm a very different person from how I was 10 years ago. I'm getting my own side gig turned into a business so I'll be self employed in the next six to eight months at most, but hopefully sooner than that :) I've had enough working for someone else - time to do what I want now.
@@bobpage6597 Yes interviews are funny games, I usually lose interest half way through 😔 Glad to hear you have exciting plans and wishing you lots of success in the future 🍀
I’ve been through this. It was miserable. They did everything they could to push me out. Finally I quit because my mental health was worth more. It destroyed my confidence and is not only inhumane but it’s so cruel to do to an employee. The criticism was horrific, excessive and petty. I met impossible deadlines but I wasn’t part of the clique. I put up with this for over a year until I hit my breaking point mentally. It was all horrible and mentally exhausting but I think the most gut wrenching was having my usual assignments taken away. Things I worked hard to master but my boss said I was too slow. This didn’t make sense because I would have everything done by the end of the business day and zero errors. She said I needed tasks done within 2 hours so I could be assigned more and I wasn’t up to standard. Looking back it was insane what I put up with and that level of mental abuse
Your comment shook me to my core. I thought I was the only one going through this. Trying to be optimistic and hoping things will change for the better.
Same thing I just went through! I made the best decision to just quit. It wasn’t worth my self respect and mental health. Best of luck to you as well 🫶🏽
Just remember "Karma" will catch up to the bad boss or supervisor. Nobody needs to be treated badly or singled out, especially when it isn't your work quality, it's a personal grudge or dislike, even jealousy.
Yup !!!! You’re right !!! I️ got pushed out by my boss and his boss (me and my boss were actually “friends”outside of work so I️ thought.) and apparently the whole office knew but me. They actually tried to have me train my replacement also lol ….not…. But karma came right around a couple of months later. The whole office staff got fired by corporate. Including my boss and his boss. Lmao I️ loved that I️ got to see it (over Facebook) but I still got to see them squirm. Lol What goes around comes around. You’ll always reap what you sow when you treat people that way.
Yup. Something great will happen after "being pushed out" Criticized first then " pushed out" by the small company I was in + used covid as an excuse not to call people to report back, after many months, I was able to find a work in the govt, with laid back type of coworkers + boss. Everyday is a happy day now. My entry to the company was so smooth because I am qualified to what they are looking for (civil service, work experience, etc)
@@dennismclaurin1487 sure does ! We shouldn’t want God to punish people, pray for mercy on them over all but you WILL. NOT get away with messing with Gods people. He don’t play about that. At All!
True. Once you see the writing on the wall that you do not have a future in the companh. My best suggestion I tell everyone is. Just do your work that you are paid to do. No more no less. Stop staying late for them and going out of your way for them. Do that until you either find a job or get terminated so that way you can take an extended vacation with some unemployment
Being fired doesn’t reflect well on your cv. This isn’t a game, so resign, get your reference, and work out the remaining 4 weeks or whatever with less stress. In the meantime, find a new role.
I once faced 2 of these situations. Slowly buy surely, my projects were reassigned and I ended up with **nothing** to do. I was coming to the office and had strictly nothing to do. All of the sudden my colleagues started avoiding me like I was a tree about to be struck by lightning. Fortunately I was already looking for a new job, found it and left the company. It took me a while to get over this experience: it is psychological violence, and it leaves scars.
@@maryfuentes5110 In a toxic company the first thing you learn is that HR (Human Resources) are company stooges whose only job is to protect the company from lawsuits. They are not on your side. They are not your friends. Don't even talk to them.
@@maryfuentes5110 Unfortunately, HR typically defends the company and bad bosses. Despite their "alleged" role of supporting employees, in reality, HR only protects the company.
Friend of mine once just resigned when faced with BS disciplinary action. Couldn't be bothered with the process and felt he'd just had enough. He would probably have won his case (because it was garbage and he'd easily have won at tribunal had he been sacked), but that was a culmination of other compounding factors that made the job intolerable and he decided to go on his own terms, rather than risk losing and being fired which would have been a nightmare in terms of getting another gig. The court action would also have been too stressful as well. It was a blessing in disguise because it forced him to wake up and take some real action having stalled forever.
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100% true! I just left a job that I exceled in for 7 years😢. They wanted me gone! I decided to quit on a Friday. Found a new job on a Monday without references. That's how valuable my new employer wanted me. Plus I'm making $5.00 more an hour.
They'll use all the dirty tricks and you'll get to a point where you cannot fight it, because you're not willing to sacrifice your ethics the way the corporates are.
I quit after being picked on for months. For your well being and sanity, just quit. Make them feel it by coming in and quitting on the spot no 2 week notice.
I stayed till they fired me then collected unemployment almost immediately got a way better job that paid $7 more and made double my yearly max gross pay that I had at first company 😂 they can suk it 😮
@@GibetTheCatFOURTWENTY666XXX69 I prefer to be my own boss, as well. That POS I work for doesn't deserve his position. If the world were right, the wicked in charge would be the ones pushed out,and working in lower positions for less pay
If they suddenly watch and scrutinize every little thing you do while glossing over obvious wrong doings from other people it’s a sign they want you to quit.
@@Incel_81 after publishing a book on the dangers of wiretapping, I actually do leave wiretaps in my workplace. I like using the DOJ's silly tactics on employers. The amount of toxic gossip I get to tune into is almost more interesting than watching the new Fallout show, which ironically has wiretapping in it so someone learns that unpleasant truth about someone 😂
you make a good point, why do we blame ourselves when it's them that are not being fair to us? I kept feeling this way at my previous job, feeling like a loser
I've been through this several times. It's absolutely horrific. The modern white-collar world is a horrible place to work, riddled with giant egos and people who do not want you to become greater than they are. Best thing to do is figure out a way to become self-employed. Glad I'm retired now and don't have to deal with all that nonsense.
Whoa there, Partner. It is also in the menial, manual blue collar jobs. Many companies think skilled labor is a dime a dozen (especially prior to 2019) and you can be replaced by an untrained blind monkey at 4 pm on Thursday. Being over age 55 is deadly. Does not matter how much formal classroom training you have had, the number of State licences, or how many years experience.
I guess this should be termed quietly firing. I went through it last year. Apparently nobody liked working with me which is why over 20 texted me right after I walked out asking what was wrong. Many ironically claimed the manager wished I would have spoke with him before I left which is a bad idea when he and several supervisors were spreading lies. By walking out without talking with him he no longer controlled the narrative. My new job pays way more and it's much better. Don't beat yourself up if this is happening, just leave. Better things are out there.
Thank you for this. I am currently going through this. I was literally pushed out, I couldn’t take the bullying and emotional abuse anymore so I resigned.
I've been bullied at work to the point when I just fell into a depression. They fired me and I am still on therapy, I am picking it up working on my self-esteem . Your videos help me!
1:00 - Sign #1 - Micromanagement 1:51 - Sign #2 - Passed over for promotions or raises and/or low performance reviews 2:38 - Sign #3 - They now document everything 3:45 - Sign #4 - They take away work with no explanation 4:28 - Sign #5 - You are excluded from meetings, calls and emails 5:40 - Solution #1 - Start looking for new work while employed 6:00 - Solution #2 - Do not blame yourself or be too self critical if you're being pushed out as there is no way to win 6:20 - Solution #3 - Start focusing on your next project, your transition
When my boss wanted me out my coworkers also ganged up on me, so happy I am over that toxic place and I took my time to build my self esteem back again.
Here's a first sign: Your boss hires someone (without your knowledge or consultation) and you are told by your boss that this individual was hired to "report" to you and help you.
This happened to me but on the day he was going to write me up because I was on PiP, in order to fire me,he drop dead of a heart attack at the office in front of everyone and I mangage to keep my job when they hire another boss and I even got promoted.
Because the last thing they need is to write I fired him because I don’t like him not only that doesn’t look good in business it makes you look like a little boy or little girl which could lead to getting them fired them selves so that you settle tactics and gas line to get away with that is disgusting but it happens right I don’t think there should be no excuse for it.
@@freedomdude5420 Yes, which is why Human Resources needs to get more competent at tracking these situations down. REMEMBER: if they do this for a racist, sexist, xenophobic, age-discriminatory or (in some states) homophobic reason, it could lead to a lawsuit that costs the company tens of millions of dollars. The case law clearly says that hostile work environments ARE discrimination, even if they are not intended by the company. One idea we need to be rid of is the "chain of command". Your attitude should be more like an FBI agent trying to get info from the mob. Encourage underlings to rat out destructive, selfish and immature managers so that the company may be cleansed of their filth. You aren't the military, and even the military doesn't interpret that idea like this BS. Maybe we should even institute a quota: a certain percentage of managers have to be fired each year?
Make them fire you for not liking you, and make it hell right back. Piss on the rugs and drink everyone’s drink, or throw it away and pretend to not know what’s wrong.
Look for work while you are still there. Always easier to find work while you are still in work. It’s only a job at the end of the day folks, don’t let it affect your mental health or get you down, it isn’t worth it.
It depends. If they have to pay you a lot for firing you, it is sometimes better to wait for that depending on how much $$$ it is. Also it is different when one has invested money and the salary becomes a lesser part of the total income.
Thank you. I needed this. The only ppl crying at my funeral will be my family and not these abusive conniving managers that rather dump work on good employees instead of confronting the lazy ones.
As someone who has been managed out of a company many years ago, this is the best advice I've seen. Just move along there's plenty of opportunities in the world and some are amazing. Keep truckin' ☺️
That's what I'm going to start doing. I have been thrown under the bus twice by my boss. I've tried to do the right thing as a leader of my program, and yet my boss always has a criticism for me. It's always my fault in everything. I've stopped engaging in my job. I do maybe 2-3 hours worth of work, and then I putz around and take my jolly sweet time on other miscellaneous projects (a webinar, organizing books, printing whatever) and I always sneak out early at the end of the day. I no longer push myself to go above and beyond anymore. I am just coasting for the most part. Striving for greatness in my job is not a priority.
Also remember that the HR Manager will not be on your side they will be protecting the company. Trust no one who may be in the circle of your boss if you are in a situation like this.
The boss's inner circle is everyone that is still employed with him. No one is above getting a bonus or favors for putting you on the hot seat. Even if you feel your fellow employee is your best friend, that will mean nothing when faced with a inquisitive boss and the needs of his family and a steady pay check.
This happened to me at a former employer I had, it was a great job but the managers were terrible. I ended leaving and finding success elsewhere. I guess my only advice to anyone who is going through this is: Don’t sink to their level Don’t take that shit home Continue to do your job And the biggest piece of advice aside from getting another job is, every time they tell you something no matter how informal or obsolete it may seem, say these words: “ I want it in writing in an email or statement, everything you just said to me right now” I bet they will start to back off. Because they are the biggest crooks of all
@@myemmotion yeah I had the recent bad experience of being put on a PIP for a week and a half just to have a reason to remove me, so I'm back looking for another role I was only there for 4 months
@@tercial I am really sorry to hear that. PIP with a management that isn’t supportive is a “slow death” at the role. And 4 months is such a short amount of time, they haven’t really given you a chance. Have you applied to other positions?
In nursing you get bullied. How they push you out is write ups, criticisms, cruelty, yelling at you, very difficult assignments that are not able to humanely get done, they won’t communicate with you, and working every single holiday or switching you to nights. Then, your colleagues stay away from you. This is very heartbreaking for anyone who goes through it and screws up your mental health. They do this over disabilities, being the wrong religion or anything they deem wrong. You also get mental beaten up. Due to my disability I am leaving the profession and never returning. I am not the only one. Many people are leaving the profession. 👩🏭👎😪
Burn out rate for nurses is about 6 years. Stay out of hospitals and nursing homes. Very toxic, very political. Look into working at a Doctor's clinic. They are usually lower stress, better hours... Unless the Doctor or office manager has a giant ego.
Brilliant video and very true! A job did this to me. Its called constructive dissmissal. If a place does this to me again, instead of fighting for my reputation, I am going to go and go where I am valued.
Exactly. The fighting eventually gets exhausting and draining, we end up getting into a more complicated situation which affects our physical and mental health.
This is what my supervisor, Jackie did to me. I had been working in this field for 35 years and had been at this office for over 25 years. She would always deny that she was listening outside my room and would call me into her office for petty things. After going 3 years without a raise, taking away teaching newer techs, and promoting someone that had been there 5 years to my 25 years, I put in my 2 weeks' notice. She called me into her office after one week and sent me home halfway through the day saying there was no need to work out the full two weeks. What a slap in the face!
HR is NOT your friend. The company pays their paycheck, not you. Also, they have KPIs you are unaware of, most having to do with finding ways to save the company money. That will either mean low balling potential employees with low offers or finding the cheapest way to get current employees to leave. Do NOT trust them. When speaking to them, just believe that anything you say to them will make it back to your boss.
My last Boss, the CEO, tried this with me. The rudeness, bullying and hostility was daily. Projects were handed to others. Promotion was denied to me. I decided that he would be the one to leave first. It last five long years. Eventually, the Board of Directors fired him. He has another job for now. He created such a mess in our company, I can't begin to describe it. But I am free. My advice is: never give in and always leave from a position of strength.
This is happening to me right now... I don't understand why they employed me in the first place. I find when you're junior/middleweight level you're safe, but as soon as I became senior level I've had nothing but trouble from supervisors etc. When you show you're capable - supervisors get resentful and nervous. In my experience, Senior level jobs aren't about being productive, it's about staying alive.
@@dianaverano7878 correct me if i am wrong, really depends on the company, there are those firm who really need to produce vs those companies who are saying to produce but underneath have other goals or purpose decided by the management
@@---zg7ex it is true that it depends on the company culture + boss. I experienced favoritism in my first job by the boss micromanaging as part of the system from executive to all employees. The favorite employee is absent for 1 month but our boss signs her DTR form with no remarks = receiving complete salary She was last yr employee of the yr. I went out of the company in 2017, and to this day, my former boss still mentions me as a good employee (my friends who remained tells me the story) That boss made it sure, nobody gets permanent position unless you are a favorite. Everybody else became contractual because of her.
This has been happening to me at a new corporate job I started over the summer. When I began, I thought it was just what I was looking for. I thought wrong! At the start, I had bi-monthly 1:1’s with my director when initially enjoying my new role and was excited to be there! It was as if she detested my happy and positive demeanor. Reflecting back, this memory comes to mind when she boldly stated: “Ha! Wait until the honeymoon phase wears off!”.. Lately, I’ve been thinking about that first red flag moment.. especially when I see where things are today.. Now each week returning, I’m getting panic attacks, insane migraines and feel so anxious, trying to smother my emotions to carry on throughout each day. This is a job where there is no training or if you get any bits of information, it’s certainly not enough to be successful in your role. I’m a very independent self-starter and team player, always showing up each day, with a can do attitude.. however - reading their Indeed reviews and seeing they have 2 class action lawsuits right now.. it says a LOT! I believe it’s purposeful that I’m being pushed out as my supervisor also has this strange up/down vibe. It’s very bizarre and she treats me much differently when her friendly colleague’s are in meetings with me Vs. us communicating solo. There are too many insane bullying tactics too. I don’t know how many times I’ve been told I have apparently done something incorrectly, and when I ask to see the alleged “error”, there are no example or training opportunities that come of it.. just a blanket statement without any specifics. This has happened 3x now. This video is spot on with showing the warning signs of a toxic workplace. The more I question and stand up for myself, the more “ad-hoc” assignments I magically get dumped upon me. My workload is completely insane, more than any senior has in my role. I’m not trained in anything, just given snide remarks that “if you don’t know, Google it” -or- “use your common sense” .. which shows me that my supervisor is incompetent at training. She will also defer me to meet with another colleague who is extremely condescending with a short fuse. This colleague will say things like, “you can do that, right?” in the most cringy, demeaning tone. People like this really strive to bring others down to feel a greater sense of empowerment. It’s disgusting and doesn’t warrant ANY professional courtesy on my part in terms of providing a 2 weeks notice before jumping this sinking ship.
I am currently going thru this. How can they get away with doing this to people? My manager is being petty, lying, and pulling all the tricks you just mentioned. And yes, making my life miserable. You can never defend yourself. And searching for a new job isn't easy, especially if the market does not have many openings. I am a single mom and my job is my only source of income. Plus, I have been in this field for 30 years and yes, get paid nearly $20,000 less than I deserve. They know all of this. Deliberately doing this to people just because they can should be illegal. They are messing with people's livelihoods and get away with everything. This is not right and it also hurts your reputation. I'm a new subscriber--thank you so much!
I am being pushed out of my job because I complained against being harassed by a bully. The management is so bad, thry used my disability against me in performance reviews. They can't fire me as I did nothing wrong, but they demand I stop having hearing and focus problems. Im taking them to court
Same thing happened to be I put in a serial harassment complaint and they are doing everything they can to get me out, the supervisor that sexual harassed is still at the job. They did nothing
Based on my past employment and my current employment when your boss doesn't like you trying to push you out they will criticize and talk down to you while a boss who appreciates you more will give you constructive feedback and motivate you to do your work.
Yes and that's exactly why we shouldn't blame ourselves because the very act of pushing people out of their jobs verges on criminal incompetence, it's certainly highly unethical and costs companies dearly. It's basically because the 'manager' can't be bothered to manage!
I’ve noticed this at my job. They’re hiring a bunch of new teenagers. They’re the ones getting promoted and taking on more roles and hours. I’m still pretty low in the ranks. All the older employees are the ones still on the bottom. They want to promote the teenagers to they can stay with the company. When honestly, it’s the older ones that are the ones that should be promoted because we’re more likely to stay
Many employers like low wage workers nowadays are are laying off workers and replacing them In about six months with students fresh out of college for a dollar an hour above minimum wage!!
This happens to people at toxic companies, I hate how toxic bosses bully you out. It's horrible because it took my company almost 2 years to fire me. I was exhausted, I could do a proper job hunt so getting fired actually made me happy!! You are right about this being one of the worst things at work, you either get out or put up with it. Unfortunately I put up with this for too long.
@@myemmotion Hi, Marat! Thanks for the video, it's very insighful. I'd like to ask a question: how do I handle on my CV if I get fired? Or if I leave a job quickly? Never got fired, but I was once pushed to leave (even if when I resigned they tried to persuade me to stay because they were short in staff) and recently I left a job after only two months because my boss was micromanaging me and made my health deteriorate to the point I couldn't stay any longer. I have been advised to leave that experience out and made up some stories to justify my out-of-job gap (like I had to look after my sick parent or stuff like this) or to name the experience "short term assignment" on the CV (basically to lie). What's best? I am based in the UK, I guess it's different in every country according to the country work culture and etiquette? And what should I tell to recruiters and employers if asked? Thank you 🙏
I won't ever forget my toxic boss telling us at some point: "I could fire any of you right now and I won't have any trouble sleeping at night". So answering your question, they simply don't care, they've kept doing this for as long as they remember.
I suspect my manager hired because I was a weak employee so she could blame someone and fire me later at some point, basically blaming me for her transgressions. She was a very sociable psychopath and was stealing from the company probably along with others, so even though I was in my position for 4 years, I think my purpose was to either make my manager look good, take the blame when needed, and eventually get fired so my manager had a job of hiring a new person. I ended up reacting badly and reporting my manager which got her fired, but the company sued me too, which I didn't expect, and now I was a court record online. It really sucks, the most traumatic time in my life!
Actually, getting pushed out of your job happens exactly the way you have described. And it can happen even if you are among the best of the company. Jealousy is often the basis of this phenomenon. If I feel that my workplace is starting to be toxic, I always search for another job and let my former toxic colleagues suffer from one another! At a workplace where workers are being pushed out nobody will feel safe and will suffer.
@@puppy969 Sure, but for most its extremely challenging to find an equivalent job so they try to ride it out. The "find a new job" is tossed around rather cavalierly in the face of reality for most.
@@4040smokey I know what you are talking about. The reality is that it is very hard to find a new job that you think you will or could like, and there is no guarantee that your new job will be better, especially on the long run. But still! If your job is already toxic, you best get out of that situation, because you simply can not deny yourself the chance of working in a better a job. But it is a lot easier to toss quitting my job around than quitting my job in fact! True!
A lot of these methods are very true and valid. But often times I feel like it happens if someone or some people want to harass you or bother you for the hell of it. It can be jealousy, retaliation to something insignificant you said or did, they don’t like they way you look or talk, or just plain hate. I’ve noticed that some people are able to get away with things in the workplace, others are simply not if they do or say the same exact thing. You can only put up with it for so long, it may even be years, it’s like being in an abusive relationship. When you appease the abuser you live to see another day without an recourse, but if you try to standup for yourself and demonstrate your higher worth, all of a sudden you’re the problem.
Keep track of the "you are not good at communication" BS. It is the easiest way they have to get rid of you. It happened to me: each time I delivered a task someone would come 5ln later to pretend I didn't and told me I didn't communicate the task was over although it was in his mail box and therefore the task was deemed not performed
I had this happen once and is happening right now, especially with the pettiness and micromanaging. Im stubborn and petty too and refuse to leave and gonna make them fire me 😂 I know brighter days are ahead and my heart goes out to anyone that knows this struggle. I think they want me gone bc layoffs are harder on them, but idc. They hired me, im their problem 😂😂😂
Always remember you work for yourself, you are your own company and brand, treat any employment as working with a customer, remember that customers can always go elsewhere, but there are always more customers, therefore always position yourself as an attractive brand which customers want to buy 🤔 😉
At Chipotle, it was my first job and I was happy to work. I even offered working late and wouldn't give up. Of course the employees bullied me and cut my hours after a couple of weeks. A month later I came in for work, and they sat me down the moment I entered and said "we are letting you go" I couldn't even work that one last day. I cried walking all the way down the street blocks away trying not to cry and found my family shopping where they said they were going. I hated them for how they treated me and I was so depressed for a year. I couldn't find another job. I then became a caregiver for my state and I'm happy. I'm appreciated and great at my job in the medical field. It's just as well, I wanted to work in the medical field since I was a child. Not fast food. And I make 20 dollars a hour. So I'm happy.
I worked for five years under a toxic boss that did exactly that type of micromanagement and punishment. I was a new graduate employee and this was my first job. I managed to hang on barely and even learned a great deal becoming one of the best employees over time. This same boss started in with another round of the hypercritical micromanagement after five years so the second time I put in my resignation and found another job making more. I'm still at that second job after 25 years and they have treated me well consistently.
The worst thing that happened to me was getting put on a performance improvement plan. Literally 5 minutes after being given the plan, someone in the company called my desk pretending to be a client, and gave me an impossible issue to resolve. It was a literal set up. I don't think it was fair to fabricate a scenario, and do one where I couldn't perform well. It's been over a year, but I remember exactly how the fake client call went because to me it was so fucked up.
Lol. Too funny. I spent 16 years, mostly successful, at a NYC company working in sales. Eventually a lot of mid level mgt changes and suddenly I'm on the outside looking in. But I would not budge. Yep, I also got the PIP. Lol. That was the start. Thankfully I was working from home (this is pre covid days actually) and I never had to deal with the bullshit in person. That woulda gotten ugly. Lol. After about 3 years of nonsense, I was fired over the phone but given a pretty decent severance package which was all I wanted....a nice long vacation. Never looked back. No regrets. P.S. I was grossly underpaid. Had I been making market salary I would have done what was needed to stick around.
Wow! Thank you so much for sharing this information. You have no idea how much better I feel about the situation I am experiencing at work. The tactics are escalating. I wouldn't have called them brutal, but that's the correct term for what's happening. I have been looking elsewhere and haven't found anything yet, but it's only been a few weeks. I know there is something better for me out there and I am determined to find it. The worst part of it is that I see them treating other colleagues the same way, as if none of us matter to the company anymore. The company therefore no longer matters to me, and it shows.
Bosses these days are worse than back'n the day when integrity actually meant something. Any employee who attempts to create a fiasco should be held accountable.
It happened to me, my boss slowly excluded from projects and meetings. She even hired a new student “because our Dept. Was busy”, however I would not be given any new work. I kept my head down and put up with it, until one day I was invited into the board room and terminated without cause. Haven’t been able to work a job since. My confidence is gone.
What I don’t understand about situations like this is, why couldn’t your boss be honest? Why couldn’t she have a meeting with you and say “look, I don’t want to work with you anymore. Please find a new job within sixty days. If you can’t, I’ll fire you at that time. Sorry it didn’t work out.” Isn’t that simpler for everybody?
This is the cruelest...Places of employment with such behavior should be sued or given bad reviews. It's sad that a successful person works hard every day and his livelihood of taking care of his/her bills and family is affected because a toxic boss doesn't like or jealous of you. Yes, it could be those two reasons as well. I believe in walking away, but the effect it could have on a person could actually be life threatening as well as the job getting away with doing it to future employees. Bad behavioron the job should be handled properly so critical fatalities don't erupt. Be bullied and disrespected at work shouldn't be taken lightly. I believe in taking the high road and walking away, but having a moron who pushes you away from a position you worked hard for is beyond wrong and shouldn't be ignored or tolerated.
I remember when a boss wanted to push me out of my position for a mistress of his. I had to train someone who wanted to know everything I did for my location even though they were supposed to be training for another. Any small failure was magnified and I noticed a ridiculous paper trail started to be formed to paint me in a negative light. My work ethic is solid... So I went to a job that rewards hard work and merit. I'm super happy!
I am a victim of all of these five aspects. I left the company without thinking. In aviation safety is paramount. Hence, I high tailed it out of there without looking back. All the aforementioned were all true.
I have found that if you're company is not giving you enough work, even though you have told them that you can take more on and don't have much to do, then that might be a sign too.
I been pushed out once. Not at this job, but it seems like it, but no signs like you showed. I welcome it, I will find a better job. You have no real friends at work, remember that.. I thought me and this guy were cool, the day I was fired, he was distant, I was really mad he could not tell me I was being fired, I learned the hard way. Most people at work are just gossipers with no life anyways.
Yep. Job was eliminated when I had 40.5 years with same company, part of a cost-savings program where 6 R&D folks were released. I was 63.5, and was going to retire at age 65 anyway; and since I got 52 weeks of salary as severance pay (2 weeks per year of service but unfortunately capped at 52 weeks) that took me almost to age 65 anyway. But such tackiness to not allow an employee who'd won their highest achievement award and had 4 decades of service to have no part in their own retirement.
Well, you're problem was that you stayed at a company for 40.5 years! You had this delusional belief that you stay at one company for your entire life and then you get to retire from it. That's where your problem laid. It's too late now for this, BUT the one life lesson you should have learned was to never work for a company longer than 3 years or 4 years if the company gave you stock options. The reason for this is because leaving a company and going to another one, gives you the chance to learn more AND increase you salary higher, than the slow pace salary increase over a 40 year time span. And when you get your salary high enough, quicker, then you're able to take your own finances into your own hands and put money aside quicker so that then you don't have to work for 40 years in the first place. This is what life lesson you failed yourself, to learn.
@@berniecruz8405 He didn't fail anything because that perspective of our current generation and job market is to bounce around every 3 to 4 years. However, he is from the generation, likely Baby Boomer, that were known to be loyal and stay at jobs when jobs were actually more loyal to employees. The way we do things now is much different because the employer is no longer loyal to their workers in terms of pay increases, promotions, and tenure. I stayed on a job for 7 years and regretted not leaving after the 3 to 5 year mark as I started seeing people hired coming in making more than me with the same job title yet I never reached their salary with only two 1% pay raises in the 7 years I worked there. I will never make that mistake again!
@Carlton Coleman LOL... SMH... First you try to say I'm wrong. But then you go and prove my point! LOL Yes, I know what generation he's from and that's my entire point! Because what happened to him is and was common for his generation to go through AND is the reason why 401k's was created. Because companies would screw people over when it came close to them retiring. And that's ALSO why now, these days, is why my generation and the current generation moves from company to company after 3-4 years. All because of what happens like with this guy. But even at my age (50), I kearn at a very young age, like during my early teens about bouncing from company to company because I seen this happen to my dad as well!
@@berniecruz8405 "That's where your problem laid. It's too late now for this, BUT the one life lesson you should have learned was to never work for a company longer than 3 years or 4 years ". Sorry Bernie - maybe I didn't explain thoroughly. I retired as a multi-millionaire after 40.5 years due to my pensions, 401k, and how I handled the family's life; we denied ourselves very little, and the kids all finished college and had zero student debt. We live off the pensions/401k all handled by a financial company because I'm an investment idiot. We own two homes outright, one on 2 acres of land. Did I say that Mrs. Cuss also owns two horses and has a horse trailer? There are multiple paths to get "there" and I chose mine.
@The Cuss ah, if you're a "multi- millionaire," then why would you even care about being let go from your job? Being a multimillionaire would mean that you wouldn't even have to work in the first place! Point being, either you're not a multimillionaire and that's why you posted a rant OR you are a multimillionaire which then means you don't really have any bases to complain about being laid off, in the first place because of the fact, you never really needed to work. As for whether or not you're a multimillionaire and have everything you stated or not, I don't really care. I'm more focused on the rant posted over being laid off from a job you worked at for over 40 years.
Great points. I'd like to add that if you do decide to stay and sit it out, you'll be bombarded with additional work so you won't have time to focus on your main job, the one that's being evaluated at the end.
On the other hand, future employers won't really care about those evaluations, and the additional jobs could constitute useful experience in new career areas, especially in an era like today's where skilled labor is scarce.
At the moment I’m training someone after I spent three months covering the role I’m training this person for, whilst trying to keep on top of my normal duties and my manager takes every opportunity to belittle me for dropping tiny balls and not backing me up when I try to say how much I’m struggling. This video has brought the situation into sharp focus. I’m definitely being pushed out.
Human Resources the absolute WORST thing that happened to businesses… when it was personal dept it was wonderful and business owners cared about their employees, greed has taken over the world , such a shame 😢
It's actually funny when you think about the contemporaries and the management actually focussing on pushing people out rather than getting shit done,it's truly funny lmao🤣🤣
I had this done to me and I went to work for a competitor. Then put my old company out of business. I was put in charge of selling it off peice by peice.
Many people commenting here (including myself) have had these exact same experiences. I pity all of them because I too have been there. This type of management is toxic on many levels because not only do they ostracize a specific employee but create an overall toxic environment about the place which can linger for years after the targeted individual has left. I offer this advice: create an exit strategy because things will likely get worse. I began my plan in 2018 after coming back from a month's holiday only to be issued a "corrective action request" for not cleaning my workspace...while I was overseas. Here was my plan : 1)Start the countdown and see the final date as release from service and tell no one. 2)About 4 months before D-Day, get written approval for 4 weeks annual leave (our EBA required 4 weeks notice for resignation). 3) Minimize contact to keep your sanity. I would eat my lunch in the parking lot and start work very early in order to avoid management. 4)Make sure that you have it in writing from HR exactly how much leave, etc. that you are entitled to and also read through the EBA for any hidden clauses. 5) A week before D-Day, remove your name, personal articles and details from intra office pc's and noticeboards. 6)A few days left then prepare your resignation letter both digital and hardcopy. On the day before my annual leave my boss had given me all sorts of shit jobs that he wanted done by week's end (he had forgotten about approving my annual leave). In the morning another employee had resigned giving 28 day notice. She was raked over the coals in his office for 45 minutes. A few hours later I threw my resignation at him not saying a word and then walked out the door. I was the: workplace health and safety officer, first aider, fire warden and a host of other unpaid positions that no one else wanted. I left a mess behind me and did not even say good bye. Then I sent my email resignation to HR informing them of my entitlements. The boss lost 12% of his staff that day and tried using Chinese students to replace the revolving door that he had created. A few months later the pandemic hit and Australia was cut off. He reaped the bad seed.
Many years of experience has taught me having 2 jobs going at all times is the only doable protection there is. One starts to crash and burn, the other will save you. That and keeping your resume updated and ready at all times.
I went through this a few years ago, but the ones doing this ended up leaving, and I got promoted. Even though it eventually worked out for me, I still think I should have quit rather than endure the hell they put me through.
This is happening to me right now. Training a new co-worker and being moved to a secondary position at work as an auditor at a hotel because I had a stroke. Very bad feelings,
Unfortunately, there's a huge imbalance of power between the employer and employee relationship. In most situations, the employee needs the employer, but the employer does not need the employee.
You hit the nail right on the head, I was recently forced out of My job after 28 years, it went pretty much in the way that you mentioned. I think when this happens, each person should evaluate their unique situation for what it is. For me, I was a rock, unmovable and unshakable. They tried all of the things you mentioned and I still was steadfast in my position because I knew that as long as I didn’t make a mistake, they would have to make me redundant. And eventually they did. This meant a few unique things like they had to give me 4 weeks notice of redundancy and then they had to pay me 3 weeks pay for each year that I have been with the company which totaled $105,000.00 usd. I could tell during the final meetings that they were really having a hard time parting with that money but they were forced to do it and today I have been out of work for six months however, I am still OK and looking for my next job.
@@jjr1728 i’ve come to realize that loyalty means nothing to the corporate bigwigs. The irony is that they want your loyalty however, they do not appreciate it and only want to use it for their benefit.. meanwhile, they plot on how to screw you out of any benefit you have accrued as a result of that loyalty.
