I had someone like that thank God that's over and done with. He had no job and hadn't worked one in years. No money no place to live. Living in some old lady basement. This dude was looking for a come up. He didn't even have a place to lay his head. What a wasted year for me #NEVERAGAIN
Maybe I was just desperate for companionship. But seriously he didn't really court at all. Because all we did was talk on the phone. I was living with my mother. So when the time came for us to be alone. He suggested a hotel room. Saying he would pay for it but when the time came for him to pay. Oh my bad I don't have the money. The relationship was manipulation on his part.
@@sherrellmartin4870 it was definitely a learning experience for you. Glad it made you better. As women, we turn a blind eye to alot of things but growth makes us wiser!
It’s true never chase a guy I have done this with one guy and he treated me like shit another guy who pursed me was so lovely to me and didn’t even pressure me for sex however he turned out to be very controlling.. this is good advice I have learnt to be patient and wait to learn the mans character with no sex at all 🙏🏾
yes, dont choose too much, listen red flags,,we are alone, desperate and then find a weak idiot who run later, everyone are great in the beginnings, when they need you
I think when your being desperate your vision of love isn’t clear. But once you have standards a better self esteem you’ll be more willing to be patient because you’ll learn your not equally yoked with everyone
Yes you can be single and happy. I am 😊.... I love God, love myself and love others. I messed up a lot, very embarrassing. I been "love hurt". It only made me run to God. I drew closer to God and He got closer to me.
Same here! A lot of mistakes! Never had a good role model to teach me three things! I've also drawn closer to God as well due to all the pain and suffering!
Yes, you're absolutely right💯 Desperate people often attract weak, predatory people. They may even attract the type of person who will only use them for attention/ego stroke, knowing full well that they have no intention on ever getting serious with that person (mind games/stringing along). Where there's no desperation, there will be no room or tolerance for these types of things.
I’m single and lonely!! I hate being by myself. Yes I travel, go out, and do EVERYTHING by MYSELF!! At the end of the day, I think it’s only natural to want to be with someone or have companionship. 🤷🏾♀️ Never chased a man and I never will!!
I'm seeking companionship too. I do everything alone. I've been single for a while but I refuse to be desperate. I do date and I've had a few guys call me their girlfriend but it never led to marriage. I'm praying and waiting on God to send my husband!
Women should never pursue men. How are you going to know if he really wants you? After a man pursue you , it’s alright to let him know that your interested. I’m speaking from experience 🤦🏽♀️ Sis let him do the pursuing
Perfect way to stay single jessica Guys respect girls that can ask a man out. It aint just a mans job and with that way thinking its just gonna keep you single.
I really want to trust someone 100% and have them trust me 100% I would give anything for deep once in a lifetime type of love I don’t need no jokers or pretenders - I want a strong real man ❤️and I will be the best woman for him Thank you so much for advice 🙏🙏
I’m so glad I found your channel today! This is THE truth. Because of my low self worth, I pursued low vibrational men. I was desperate for validation and love. I am embarrassed when I think about it. However, I realize my worth and respect the gift of discernment. It has been a long journey, but God has been gracious to allow me to heal. God bless you, Coach Rod.
if a woman make the first step into a man life on her own she might find out that he was a dream on the out side but on the inside of him he was a hell cat he could be a woman beater being alone some time can be your best friend and peaceful .
I have read books, I have watched hundreds of hours of RU-vid videos of relationships experts with various professional credentials, but you are the one and only person who has been able to get through to me. You are definitely one of God‘s angels on earth spreading his word and Directing people to his will and his promises to us. Thank you for your service. And I thank God that he sent you for us to learn from.
I'm single , I'm happy and would love to share this happiness with a GOD fearing GOOD Man. And if not, I'm will STILL be happy as my LORD has blessed me
You are exactly right! I am single and I am satisfy I have been marry before and gave him three beautify children and my husband left me for another women then after marrying the women in two years he wanted to come back to me but, i would not take him back because the way how he left me and the children but he thought the grass was greener on the side..I know that he regrets leaving me but its to late..I love being single and I am not lonely. have no regrets not taking him back.
I’ve met men who have gotten so upset at me because I’ve kept them at the distance of a friend. Later finding out that they were angry because I did not pursue them..... it’s so hilarious to me 😂 “I will not settle.... pray to God if that bothers you”... it’s my declaration.
Thank you for the wisdom and the humor! I really feel your concern, it's like you're talking to a bunch of daughters and you're scolding us all 😅 and thanks for introducing people to God in your own special way. God bless you more Coach 😊
💯 He's telling the truth as always. I had an ex friend literally get on her knees and beg the father of her children not to leave her. I seen it with my own 👀's ... How many times she did it?! The world will never know. 10 + years and 5 kids later, he finally married her. It's not all love at the end.
Amen Coach Rod!! You went in on us with this one. Thanks again. A man recognizes a desperate woman fast and will play on that desperation. Everything you said, I've experienced. We got to grow up in able to truly receive the person God has for each of us.
Truth: Single is not a death sentence and Love start inwardly and projects outwardly. Self love is your first love. Self is the ginnie pig to practice the proper skills of love and once you have the skill it can be shared with another. The single state is the starting place for the practice of love..The merging of being single and love have a synchronistic beginning that has the probability of future success in relation to human relationship and social skills as well as love; (when properly) (embraced)...ONE LOVE❤
This video was very informative to me! I can't believe how desperate I was in the past and I didn't even know it! Lol!! I guess no one around me had the heart to tell me. Now that I want to be alone I have a different perspective on my past behavior and it's easy for me to see why I got the results I got. I would love to see a video on tips on how to be single and happy. 😊
Great advice thank you. I'm doing everything by myself,financially stable just bought a house as well. I would like to meet a real man and that's what I'm doing,if I meet one I will see how he acts over several month with no sexual contact.I'm definitely not moving fast at all.Any signs a man wants to put pressure on me as far as sex and other red flags I'm losing interest fast and will not put up with any of that.You're so right I am the queen.I would never pursue a man💯👍🙏
Thank you so much for this advice! I will take this to my grave. I was pursued a2 years ago,and decided to give him a chance after dealing with my husband suicide 3 years ago. Turned out he just used me. He was nothing,but a thief,and addict. I'm glad that I cam across your channel.
Don’t be on that desperate stuff guuuurls!!! Get off the merry go round! Hey coach rod thank you man. Jesus is really using you to help me. Praise God man.❤️❤️❤️❤️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️🔥☀️
Like I guess my mindset really improved and also letting the past go don’t hold on to your past mistakes, and being honest about what you want right now it’s easy to keep going
I use to feel like that until I actually started to like my own company, like I had to change my thoughts and perspective ever since the i been at peace until a good quality man that’s for me comes along
Men pursue women all the time marry them and still are miserable whether a woman pursues the man and marry him or he pursues her when people are not ready not responsible and never ends well.
There is too much to do and see in the world to day. Women need to do ALL the wonderful things they can do before they get married. There is no guarantee that marriage will allow for all a woman wants to do. This can cause disappointment even resentment (bitterness) in the long run. At least she will have some memories and feel more content or satisfied if she decides to marry for love and very little with Mr. Broke.
Im reading all these comments talkin about dont chase guys. Thats why your single learn about the dating game and when to chase and how to be bigger then looks and youll attract a good man.
What are signs of a desperate man or can this apply ? The guy i’m dating is showing strange signs rushed into a relationship . Wants to spend too much time together and has openly told me he looked up all my family members on social media . Also mentioned marriage from all the information I have gathered the women usually mentions marriage first or relationship status but i’m not sure sure what’s the norm . I was married for many years I was married so young so I’m just learning and trying to figure out what’s what .
Slow him down. If he wasn't moving too fast for you, you wouldn't have commented. Beware of love bombing, a narcissistic trait (how can he talk about marriage and want to spend every minute together and you two just started dating it seems like. . .), Observe him and move slow. 🤗
That’s a sign of a controlling .. using or narcissistic person. They always push for a committed relationship before fully getting to know you . Don’t even go any further with him. Telling you from experience
Hi coach rod, a woman not to pursue a man, he is not going to love you, respect you, and then leave you for a woman he feels that is wife. Never quite to go out let him do the pursuing not you,just ask questions to fine out his intention.
Not this one 😅 because of how painful and traumatic my pass relationship were i don't care if i dont have a pot to piss in or window to throw it out of it im not going to get with just anybody period lol smh in wen they do be like that they be a wolf in sheep clothing smh
