I'm currently 15y/o and I fit all the signs in the video perfectly, although other people thought I look happy and always kind to people, but tbh I feel sooooo unworthy of myself and i always feel upset because of how poor others were actually treating me, I'm really thankful for this video, I will try my best to stop this bad habit and treat myself better ❤
I recently stood up for a guy with autism who got bullied. Half ot the building stood around me and that bully and in the end she looked super stupid and she was obviously very embarrassed. But afterwards he got bulied even more. He yelled at me that I shouldn't have said anything and that it got worse just because of me. I feel bad because I've made it worse. What did I do wrong? I just tried to help but it would've been better if I kept my mouth shut. And I didn't even yell at her or anything. I was calmly talking to her and pointing out every wrong behavior. I said that it's not cool to make fun of others and stuff like that. And that made her super angry. Should I argue wirh her again or what can I do? Teachers don't care, there's noone that guy could go to. He has noone to talk about it, at least not at his school. I'm from a different school but we have the same cafeteria. I dont wanna watch him getting bullyied. But it seems like sometimes there is nothing we can do to help.
Autism or not, if he can get angry at you, it means he can defend himself and get angry at her but he chose to get angry at you because you obviously less threatening to him. Put yourself first and let him take charge of his own life.
The way you were just all up in my business is just wrong lol! Seriously this was another knockout video! Great advice! Abandonment issues (especially from childhood) can cause these same behaviors in adulthood! Ask me how I know… I’m doing the work now for sure! This was such a necessary video! Joining your newsletter distribution list as well. Thanks again! 😊
Facts, im in my 30's and most of my life (a good 85 - 90%) Ive been a people pleasing nice guy. Did things I thought was acceptable to those around me. Never spoke up for myself, did things often to fit in, always the one agreeing to do favors for others. it got so bad to the point where I'm an adult and its hard to even think about what I want for my own life. I developed resent towards myself and others around me because I regret being that way. Also, that same resentment and bitterness I feel has turned me little self-isolated, irritable, and cold. So please if you are young and you align with the things that he is saying then please stop being TOO nice!
This is very helpful I stopped always saying yes but people still don’t value my self worth and make jokes at the expense of mine so I need to be more confrontational
Lost a lot of friends over the years, if only i knew that i can just talk to them and let them know how i feel instead of just fighting with them.. thank you for this video, i appreciate it.
I discovered you on tiktok about 2 or 3 years before. You are a really good content creator. You are one of the certain people i follow in every social apps. Your advices always help me and i'm trying to be better. Thank you for that🙏🏻
This video definitely was designed for me because for as long as I can remember I’ve always been a people pleaser to the tea. Thank you so much for this video, and I will definitely take the steps in order to garner more respect from others, but starting from myself thank you.
Hey josh this video really helped me out , hearing to what u speak was like looking at a mirror without actually looking at. I think u got it , it was the exact same loop I am or more like I was goin through , but thanks I am out of it . With lots of respect and love , vyshnav from india.❤❤❤❤
God..really needed this one rn. I even have ruined my academics just because I can't say "no" and stop a convo with someone and lost my parents trust on me. I'm a teen btw..any more tips to get better..?
I appreciate what you teach here man! One question : how do we remember all these things while talking to anyone, frankly I forget half of the things that I learn and cannot implement them on a daily basis
Actually you can give people what they want without being nice cuz people don't want to be too kind and they need that space and you. Need your space too so if you a people pleaser that's fine but please yourself too .
@JoshuaOtusanya I don't know if you already are or not I just had a feeling to tell you so you can ignore or not 🤷🏽♀️ but GOD loves you fully and has never left or abandoned you and he sent his son Jesus down to Earth who is 100% man and 100% GOD, he is GOD in human form and he can understand and sympathize with all of your struggles, he was and always will be with you and I'm just asking if you can give him a chance :), De Marcus, and Grow in Faith Grow in Christ are good channels if you're interested anyways GOD bless you 😊🙏🏽❤️
8:30 is a really great lesson for me.. And I feel people only call me when they need me.. nothing more. I will also be careful not to do such things to others too.
@@JoshuaOtusanyaI fight that hard. So much as a normal disagreement on an abstract topic of conversation can just send me into straight "flight" mode. Workin' on it. But it's kinda like tryin' to ice skate uphill.
@@JoshuaOtusanya most definetly man. your short skits and funny videos are cute and funny but these long videos are SUPER helpfull man! id absolutely watch more!
The only thing stupid is saying: "You should always be nice." But on top of that I wanna add something to 11:05 aka sign nr 3. I do suppress my emotions as well as feelings. But I don't care or think about keeping the peace. It's because I'm hypervigilant and paranoid of being open with that stuff. Why? Well I did try to so that and I did not only experience being abuse because of that but also being manipulated as well as taken advantage off. (Yes I decided to take a risk and be vulnerable.) But I wanna Josh if there is a video on that from you. A video where you can learn to express your feelings and emotions without being hypervigilant and paranoid.
