As a dumper, I felt relief. I even thought it was over for good. I even forgot about my ex sometimes, felt free and confident, wanted. And I came back... 🥂
@@Josee2486 It has nothing to do with time itself . Of course time is powerful, but when you change something your ex will feel it. And that is your neediness. You cannot experience something that you put on the pedistal , because energetically you say "You are out of my reach" just because you are the one who's dumped. Trust me, today you are dumped tomorrow you can be dumper. Tables turn. Just do NOTHING 🙂
@@Josee2486 + It feels strange, but I never wanted really to go, just to exercice my will and control of my life. So let them see that they can break up with you and that doesn't mean that they will become Kings of Universe...
He truly is, and guys, I know we’ve all been through the loss of someone we fell in love with, supported through everything and in my case, a year later, she broke up with me and acted like I never existed as well as spoke to me during the break up like I was the “Pandemic” - it hurt deeply, and my stomach still aches over it. I am still in the “No Contact” faze with my ex, so I have had some positives happen because she did contact me, but I wasn’t willing to just jump right back in. I may be making a mistake, but my self worth is worth what I allow and expect from those I hand my heart out too. I know it’s silly to some, but if you loved someone and put your heart abs soul in it, lost it... you have to put yourself in a reality check so that you do not allow the wrong person to literally ruin your life over their emotional moment. Best of luck all!
Neil Boquiren - We dated one year - have been broken up two months now. I have known her for about 15 years and we played in a band together and various music projects and only asked her out a year ago. We are both musically gifted and it should have been perfect, but she broke up with. I am still in complete no contact until this day and hanging on. She has called me a couple of times but I kept it short and I’m waiting for her to be genuine and 100% before I give in. Not to be mean but to save my heart and hers, because I am never going through this again with her no matter how much I love her.
How long it took you to feel all of those things? I'm just wondering because I was dumped for no reason out the blue n we was two years together than he left me haven't heard from him I am doing no contact for 7 months now I just wonder if he would think the same but he did a rebound so probably I won't pass his mind at all
@@milagrosrodriguez4136 I broke up at the end of 2016. At first, I was sad, but stuck with the decision. There was no contact at all between us. My ex blocked me on every possible platform. She said she couldn't bear to see me with someone else if it ever happened, and she would probably be single for a while. Around the beginning of July, she called me twice, but I didn't pick up. By the end of August 2017, I found a Google Drive we shared with all our pictures. I started looking through it, and remembering all the fun we had. I also promised to add to it while we where together. I began adding pics. As I did this, a great depressing feeling swept over me. Why did we break up? She was amazing. I felt so shitty. I got a strong pain in my heart. Never have I felt like this. It was soul crushing.
@@milagrosrodriguez4136 She deactivated her Facebook account for all of 2017. It's back now, but not updated. There's a lot more to my story...but probably too much to write here. As of this moment, I am unblocked only on fb messanger. I wrote to her, she sees, but doesn't respond.
What I really like about this Coach, is the fact he's always considering "us" his readers... like part of his team... He will say from time to time..."we don't want to do that..." "We don't need to say that.." It's always "we" there... like part of a team that works together to solve things...❤️
@@liepajaonboard7368 dreams make it worse.. the feelings you get are all euphoric and you can't describe them. I've had em where I feel a feeling of love so indescribable (no.. not a wet dream) with my ex in a dream, then you wake up... man
I swear this Coach Lee is the most logical, practical and psychological in the whole utube platform. I feel like I am sitting in the room with a therapist, if I have a question in my head, he covered it! So simple with all complexity! Thank you!
Coach you're saving a lot of lives. I've been in depression, anxiety and insomnia from last 3 months (and still am to some extent). But whenever I watch your videos, I feel so good, powerful and energetic. Thank you. :) May God bless you.
Petros Giorgallis i been watching craig for 10 months and i still do, he is fantastic with Margaret . His fees for coaching are way to expensive ... but he is well qualified
Out of all the breakup gurus I’ve watched on youtube, this guy is the best one. One important thing he gets right that other people miss is that you SHOULD respond short and polite when they reach out after no contact.
@@emmagrace1638 She's finally coming around still needs some time to heal , main thing just give em some space let them rememebr your memories give em time to breathe
If anyone knew my situation it’s a mad one!! 5 years together with a beautiful daughter , lived with her mother for two years , finished me off completely!!! love of my life I ain’t an ugly guy never had a problem atttacting good looking girls when I’m out and about god blessed me with good looks not an ego just being honest in the this story!! done all the wrong things after we broke up had to move back to my parents!!! just started all this no contact stuff and that and feel like I’m getting more change out of her!! I don’t want another man in my little girls life and that’s where she knows she’s got me , don’t know what to do been a messy few months for me emotionally... if I don’t get her back I’m gonna make sure I bring the stunner of all stunners through to let everyone know I’m never down and out... but all I want is my angel back done a lot of wrong things in the relationship and that may cost me... anyone sees this send me some energies ❤️
I did all of this, he came back and then I found out HE WAS CHEATING....I was just something for him to do when he couldn’t be around her. PEOPLE IF YOU LEAVE SOMEONE OR VICE VERSA ... THERE IS A REASON WHY YALL BROKE UP. Don’t go back to anyone who has lowered your value!!!!
True katrina, I have been in the same situation, when she dumped me and come back after she has been trying a single life out didn't work out well. it the end I become her back up plan. i force my self the accept her but at the back of my mind still struggling to accept that i have devalued myself after break up. We tried after couple of month i made a wise decision to leave the relationship.
I came and binge watched these videos to get my ex back. After starting no contact I realised I was fine without him and don’t need him. I guess when I was pretending to move on I ended up moving on?
So far all your advice has helped perfectly. Mine has been a text book case. From no contact to us getting back together and all the support for my mental anguish in between. Thanks Coach Lee!! He's back after 2 weeks
Love your videos. They helped me through. I went radio silent and he started calling me. I stayed cool. Then he tried to have conversations about us in the future. I called him out on that. I reminded him that we arent a couple at his choosing. I also remnded him that I let him go graciously. He broke, told me he messed up, missed me, and begged for me not to disgaurd him. It was a complete reversal of attitude.
@@hrithikkumar4201 Sorry for the late reply. It was within a week of no contact, that he started calling me. Wanting to know if I was alright. I said I'm good, bye
I just know she doesn`t want me back since she hasn`t contacted me after a year:) Then again, she was so cold during our last convo I don`t want to be with such a person anyway.
you know what Lee, Although i love almost all of your videos and advice , but at some point im so much precious than waiting for a dumper to reconcile with me again regardless of the strength and the love we shared before the breakup . Im better off without humiliation and wasting my time hoping that a person would come back and it was not at all my fault . I have never dumped any of my ex's and i deserve the same treatment . No more waiting for dumpers . there are so many important things in life to go after . THANKS .
Moyasser Elgendy You are so right. Take care of yourself. Focus on what you enjoy. Look upward and be reminded how precious you are to God. Take time to get closer to Him. Guard your heart. Waiting for someone who let you go to come back or want you back is destructively painful. You are worth more to the world than that, so keep taking care of you. There are good women out there who have love & respect for good men...no fakes, no manipulation, no games. Hang in there, my friend...
Thats what no contact is for. To improve yourself and get the other person out of your mind. If u see it as waiting, you are already doomed and can just chase her aswell. Get your shit together and do something for yourself. Hit the gym fucking 5 days a day and u get her out of your mind. And after a time u dont need them anymore they oftrn reach out. At that point u can think about it if u consider it or that u are better without.
Dude, this is all spot on, right on, well said! I am totally on the same page. I loved and cherished and accepted my partners and they still kicked me to the curb. Done. We're high-value souls that just chose unwisely. We had love in our hearts, but we chose unwisely, for whatever reason that we've hopefully figured out. I know I have and it sounds like you have too. We chose wounded souls who saw something special in us, yes, but then they got in their own way, and in mostly unconscious, selfish, uncaring ways. We are fortunate and blessed to be free of people who treated us like garbage. We are the farthest thing from garbage. Stay strong and keep going and growing!
My ex has contacted me 3times after 3months but I honestly don't care. The pain he took me thru was more than death itself. Now that I have regained my self worth and healed I don't want to ever go thru that again in my life. I love my new life so much to even welcome him back in my life. No contact helped me to move on
COACH LEE IS A LIFESAVER I've followed EVERY SINGLE one of his steps. Went into NC, I start seeing signs my ex is missing me and trying to get me to reach out She reaches out, we have a short upbeat conversation, and I end it. She reaches out again, we have an even longer conversation and she is really happy to hear from me. I tell her I have to go, but said "Let's catch up over some coffee sometimes" She agrees to meet up for coffee! Now it's time to show her all the changes in an in-person meet up! COACH LEE IS A BLESSING FROM THE SKIES. EDIT: Still gonna keep following the steps and not "confess emotions" for her. My guard is still up too. She ended things, so I have the upper hand. She's gonna have to come to me like Coach Lee says. I'll still be myself. Funny/goofy, flirty, fun, etc....but def not going to be relationship-focused.
He’s definitely on point, my ex did all these things and it was because he wanted me back, we actually went back together and he wanted us to get a house and get engaged, but the love was gone on my end, so I ended up breaking up with him for good.
I have very little sympathy for dumpers who later regret their decision. I am the dumpee after a twelve year relationship and have gone through hell the past three months. I didn't deserve this hurt and am now in the angry phase and am not sure how I would react to her wanting to try again. As for the dumper having regrets, grow a pair and contact the dumpee. Send a damn email if you don't have the guts to call. Apologize and ask them to meet with you and see if you can work things out. Stop looking for sympathy or being worried about being dumped by the dumpee. If mine comes back, I'll be expecting an apology. If I don't get one, she can get the hell out of my life forever. Again, I didn't deserve this hurt. The reasons for our split just indicates that she wanted the easy way out rather than working on things. Not one of her friends or family members will stand with her on this. In fact, her parents are very upset about it and still want me and my kids to remain in their lives. I have told them that we can't. Their daughter wanted the breakup? She got it and she can have it.
I'm at day 57 of NC. It's hard but it's the only way. And, I don't expect her to come back but a simple 'are you even alive?' after everything I've done for her, just from a material perspective, would be a good thing.
Nick Fire This is bs. I am a woman and I was basically slaving for my ex. He took my virginity, also. He took everything and gave me nothing in exchange. I took care of him for years. He just dumped me and never said sorry or gave a closure.
laura b That’s where it starts, sweetpea. You hang in there. It takes time. Focus on you & what makes you happy. Get closer to God. Remember how precious you are...
Thanks coach, your advices very helpful and also help me to move on. All stages that you mentioned, happened to me. My ex want me back by giving him the breakup, your advice straight forward and helpful.
This video is absolutely amazing!! Thanks Lee!! Time, patience and faith in what we had is what I am left with now after 9 months since the last physical interaction. I am working on myself. I know he is working on himself. The best for both will happen if we let the ego go and concentrate on caring for ourselves first. Thanks again, your videos have given me so much comfort and made me feel that I am not alone in wanting my ex back!
Guys Coach Lee is the real deal, his videos helped me build my self confidence and YES I got his Subscription only 79$ and YES I got my ex back but more importantly I got myself back
Well I'm glad my ex is gone forever for good. I made sure i couldn't reached at all. The samething that'll make u smile will make u cry. I'm at my best of best levels of being so happy.
This is all based on if they even valued you thru-out the relationship to began with... they may have been using you the whole time. so no contact won't do anything to reunite you with your lost love, only provide you with a chance to move forward and grow towards a unhurt version of yourself.
what should i reply for my ex text "im sorry for everything + i deletedmy phone number and im sick now i have corona😔 so because of it please im sorry for everything i've done to you" im in no contact now and out of the blue this text came. the final word i said to her that i changed my religion which was the problem in our relationship. but she never talked about that. i just replied you will be okay and everything thing will be fine . what she mean in that text. what should i do now ?
Been in no contact for 15 days ! My ex loved a pic my mum put on Facebook. I did not reach out in 3 days I received a text but it only said just sending you this message to say take care x !! Wasn’t sure what to reply so I just text thank you . Hope you are ok . Take care too x .... was this the right thing to do ? Not had anymore contact as yet but was only this evening
I don't know if these are signs or not. I could be misinterpreting them. It's been over two months since the breakup. 12 days ago (the amount of time since I restarted no contact), I took something of hers that I had found to her. She seemed really nervous and awkward, she didn't even really say bye, she just kind of started walking off. I then asked her if she wanted to go get ice cream because it would be nice to catch up. She said she would let me know when she wanted to hang out because of the virus and her parents being older. That was the last time I spoke or even interacted with her. Ever since that day, I've noticed she's started to change her behavior on social media. She suddenly has started hiding her posts from me, something that she never did in the months prior. But yet she DOESN'T HIDE certain posts that pertain to me or that I believe are trying to make me jealous. She's been posting a lot of pictures with this new best friend of hers and she looks super happy. However, last night, she shared a post about needing to be cheered up and MADE IT so I could SEE IT. I feel like she wouldn't have shared this if she was happy, and she deliberately chose to let me see it despite hiding the rest of her posts. I don't know what's going on in her head. Sometimes I feel like she's waiting for me to reach out, that's she's miserable. But then I think that I could be misinterpreting things. It's just strange because her behavior changed after she saw me for the first time in months. I attempted to get her to react by posting some videos of me working out on my story. She did not view it, but her brother did. Could he be spying for her? UPDATE: She's been posting A LOT of pictures lately - that I can see.
This guy is practical and on point! My ex reached out just as he said and it is a good thing that I watched this video ( and others) during my no contact period. Irony: she reached out on Day 29. (lol).
Aurum Insanity I did that and that turn my ex faaar lol. After that she said I want to be friends only, and I said no and I blocked her. A month later she added me on SC and I didn't accept her. A few days later our mutual friend told me that she wants to call me and I refused. Now she asks about me through my friends and they told me that lol.
Lee ... if I manage to go through my break-up using your tips I will get you a beer :) I feel so much more calm by listening to your advises, less anxious. I used some already and they proof working, which is great! It makes the difference understanding what is my ex-girlfriend (possibly) going through right now Listening to your voice is soothing by the way. I love to educate myself in regards to the relationships and your videos are brilliant! Thank you :D
Every lesson you taught is on fire dude, I'm the one who's really always had a burning heart but still stand strong like a pumpkin and now after two months with no contact she apologies what she did, but to me driving my life like no break just b cool and a positive guy, focusing my own works and keeping things here n there silent is everything but there's always an answer when question comes. She reached out to me I played it cool just like in a chess game, I master my mind. It's her turn now to start the engine.
I broke up with my ex cause he didnt know how to treat me and things just were not the same. I practiced the no contact rule and sure enough he tried to win his way back in. But the joke was on him cause when Im done im done. He should of appreciated what he had when he had it and that will forever be a thought in his mind.
After 3 days, my ex reached out and said “ Thinking about you and I miss you 🥺 “ I didn’t say it back because I feel she may just want attention right now and I don’t want to feed it to it. Just went around what she said and dead the conversation
Coach Lee and Rory on The Love Chat are the only two breakup coaches I'll listen to. Their advice has made me such a better person the past 40 days, definitely know their stuff and care with honest knowledge, not pay this amount and I guarantee your ex back
Haha. Trying to get your ex back is like gambling and your ex is the house. The house always wins. Your ex most likely isnt coming back and if they do then it's only temporary if even that. In reality very few ex's come back and even fewer stay'. And of those that come back, its usually when the relationship was really good and both people are mentally stable (excluding immature teens and young adults). Use your alone time to grieve and then work on your self. Everybody thinks they're perfectly fine and they dont need to change but I'm pretty sure there plenty about you that needs change. Just accept and embrace it. Become enhanced.
It has been nine months without contact. I have to admit, if she ever contacts me again she will get the storm right into her face. God, feeling much better after all those time. The real question you have to ask yourself is; is it really worth it to jump back to your ex if he/she reaches out to you? Because a healthy relationship will always stay together without breakups.
Both my ex and I had personal issues in our relationship. We both did stupid things which eventually lead to our breakup. For that reason, I would not take back my ex unless we both have worked out our own issues before getting together again. That way, our relationship might even be better than what it was before. But yeah, by 9 months of no contact, I would probably have moved on and started seeing other people.
This is so true my ex reached out after we had a horrible break up cops called I went into her apartment and threw all her school books away lmao I thought it was over after that her mother got involved she said the last day I was with her she can’t talk to me and she knows that. Booom 2 months later I get a ding!!! At 4am in the morning I was shocked!! It was her I’m like damnnn no contact really worked. We plan on seeing each other this weekend wish me luck and use no contact don’t freak out be strong and use it man trust me it works.
Antonio, just relax and enjoy catching up with her. Don’t talk issues or the breakup. If she does, be a good listener and only discuss as needed with a positive, easy going attitude. -Coach Lee
Yeah I just had an interaction with my ex randomly in a bar that was karaoke which we never got to do together. I wished I stuck around maybe I could’ve gotten him to sing a song with me. But I left it short. He’s already missed my bday and grad and he was a jerk and threatened me w security when we were breaking up. I told him to his face he didn’t need to threaten me he should know that and he looked guilty and upset and I really got him in his feels, he even wanted to hug me and he tried to wink at me and he did laugh with me about something. He was there for someones birthday and I was annoyed cause he had missed mine and it was a girl he was friends with. That he never dated but almost did. Just shows how he didn’t like me hanging with the opposite sex and he’s doing it but there were guys there. It was hilarious he went bc he didn’t invite her to his birthday cause I was uncomfortable but also he didn’t want to. She was curious when my bday was she didn’t know it had passed and I’m like yeaaaa it was this day and I knew my ex heard me. That motherfucker… anyways I got interrupted talking to him but he asked me a lot of questions that he could’ve texted me or called to me… but I have discovered we are open communication in some ways. Damn I wish I asked him why we are half open lines and half not tho when he said he wanted it all open
My ex and I were together for only 3 months. We live 1,200 miles apart. It seemed like the real deal, like it would never end. He bought me tickets to fly there, hed fly here, flew us to Vegas..(so lots of time together) But because of my dysfunction (ok, maybe his too (?) and attachment style issues, I became very dramatic...(I'm very insecure and did things to make an already jealous guy "even more" jealous 😭) I became needy, clingy, you name it, defensive, began drinking quite a bit) Actually, never eever thought he'd leave (go figure) but sure enough he did. I was SICK for what seemed forever. (The breakup was mid/end October) First couple days I did everything possible wrong 😭 cried, begged, blew up his phone, sent "books" of "texts".. .screenshots of tinder conversations with other men. (I know, I was out of control..could not handle another man leaving me (abandonment issues.. father, ex husband, etc) So he texts me every few weeks... Very vague things...verrry confusing 😭 First time I kind of blew him off. Second time I latched on, sank my teeth right in... Laying down the law .. ugh... Ridiculous. (It's like I neverrr learrrn). But he recently texted me again. We texted back n forth about getting back together and it all seemed great. Then he friended me on FB (initially, after breakup he immediately deleted n blocked me 😆) Then he just went dark!!?? THEN, worst part is, he deleted all of my pics and any posts about me on his page. (I know he patrols my fb and probably saw something that made him jealous or mad? Btw I've never cheated). But he still kept me as a friend on FB!!?? I've never been so confused in my life. I texted him yesterday that I loved him. He said he loved me too. But, here's the thing. .. he will not ever CALL. ME. If we're going to talk, I have to call him. So weird. Sorry so long. Just some input for others. I know my story is pretty dysfunctional, but we all feel pain. Trust me. Coach Lee, I love you. You got me through my toughest days, weeks, months, darkest hours. THANK YOU
Hey coach. After a month of no contact I almost caved in and wanted to reach out first. It's funny I'm watching this video now glad I didn't make that mistake. I know my self worth now, if she is curious at all she will reach out.
Coach my fiancé has been gone for almost two 2 months. Living with her brother. Has not moved out she only took her work clothes and forward her mail. She left on a angry outburst I been in no contact for 2 weeks. Is this mean she in confuse and thinking of coming back.
I would like to see more videos about partners who have kids! Like no contact rules and everything else cause I think a lot of these videos are non parent couple bias 👍🏻
She will call and want to talk with me when she is broke and homeless and she is needing support and money just like my ex wife I was married to her for ten years she left me and divorced me to be with a drug addict who dosen't work and doesn't earn income so she is broke and homeless and if I support her bills and give her money she might get back together I say no way but angie evens matlock now if she calls me I would be eager to talk with her about this I didn't want her to leave the relationship but she chose to she developed issues and made excuses as to why she had to leave after she used me for money
So my ex is a coworker. I see him almost every day. At first he kind of ignored me the first few days during nc. Then the 4th day (today) he came up to me and talked to me for a good 10 mins about a post i put on fb. He used the nickname he gave me when we together and he also told me he wanted to help me with a project I’m doing. I told him thanks and I’ll keep him in mind if I need help. It ended on a very high note and I’m pretty excited to see him at work tomorrow. Does this mean he’s missing me? We only dated for like 3 months and he was actually my rebound guy from a 5 year relationship I ended. He had a huge crush on me for the past year and I finally was ending my long term relationship and I gave him a chance. I see him staring at me some times and I gave him a smile back. However, he still hasn’t reached out through text or calling or anything. Like I said this is only the 4th day so I guess it’s a good sign? How do you think I should play this out? I was working on myself physically and mentally during our short relationship and I was pretty vulnerable. He helped me a lot and encouraged me to better myself so much. That’s one of the reasons I like him so much and why I want to pursue him so much. We have a very strong bond. We never actually broke up, but I know he wanted to space and that’s what I’m giving him and it really seems to be working. What should I do to keep this going? Thanks for the help. Ps. I’ve been working on a promotion and lost 15 lbs due to working out and eating healthy.
im happy for you i really am but this is the reason im fucking terrified of this rebound dude right now. and my ex has know him for 15 years. not just some toss aside andy. this hurts knowing you wanted your rebound back. but this is what terrifies me. happy for you thou just not for me in my case these stories fill me with dred and maybe its cause me and my ex have a baby together.. and ive wanted nothing more since i was 18 to have a family. not a broken family a family. big difference lol i wont even lie my confidence has been shut down bad after all of this.
Everyone that types NC just replace it with north Carolina lol:-) spice the comments up a bit. I WENT THROUGH NORTH CAROLINA, IT WORKED FOR ME! I LOVE IT! lolll
I broke up with my ex one month ago because she was keeping secrets and cheating. I started no contact after one week she called but i didn't reply. I ignored her once and since then she is ignoring me she didn't contact me since then. What should i do please help me it's one month of no contact i didn't break nc. Please help me 😭😭😭
Thank you Coach Lee. Your advice has really helped me a lot. My ex broke away from me without a quarrel. It was such a painful experience for I loved and cherished him so much. He got someone else probably he thought was better than me. The 2 have been together for a full year and 5 months. He went into NC and I did the same, we were not communicating at all. But at the beginning of 2020 in Jan, he started reaching out to me, asking me how I am doing. Then in the first week of May 2020, He again asked me if I was ok. This time round I replied but he responded telling me about the problems he's having with his current relationship. He is asking for advice but what can I say to him?
Coach lee what about when they were breaking up they told you you are a good guy but you aren’t accomplishing anything give me advice what should I do during this situation.
After an 8 year relationship my ex wife left me 4 months ago to jump straight into a rebound. I begged and pleaded way too long, for about 2 months. Went no contact and feelings alot better about myself. About 2 weeks ago (after 1.5 months no contact) she texted if she could come over. She came by my house and just wanted to know how I was doing. It was a very short 5 minute visit. Haven't heard from her since 2 weeks ago when she came over. I think she might have second thoughts about the break up, but I'm staying strong and I am not going to be the one to initiate contact. I'm just out here living my life!
I got the I love you, I miss you message last night after a few weeks of no contact. I didn’t say either things back to her. I just talked casually to her before ending the conversation with “it was good to catch up, but I gotta run”. It felt good and powerful. I don’t think anything more will come of it, but a little victory is nice.
Great videos but it would be nice to see more vids about what to do once you're hanging out with your ex again and what to do to avoid ending up in the "friendzone"
It has been 1 month since my ex broke up with me, she blocked me everywhere and recently i noticed she unblocked me. I know this maybe means nothing but man false hope is HARD.
Thank you brother. Just watching your videos comforts me. I really hope I can get her back and if not at least I can say I tried something. I’m gonna purchase the kit and hope I can get my fiancée back, despite the fact that I screwed it up. Wish I could talk to you in person however. Thanks.😊
I 've been feeling a bag of bones😔Can't wait to get out of this situation...I am on the third week of no contact...He hasn't reached out neither showed any regret of dumping me😓
My situation is tricky . I was the one who dumped him a few times due to his temper . He always came back & I have always taken him back. This last time he asked for closure & I ignored him. When I reached out he ignored me . I tried a few more times & he responded saying how depressed he is but he won’t get back this time as we became toxic. I decided to leave & I’ve been in no contact for the past 2 weeks . It hurts a lot because I love him but I also wouldn’t take him back if he doesn’t change . I’m surprised this time he is silent so I don’t even know who is the dumper anymore
So my ex is saying some pretty nasty things to me after we broke up. I applied the no contact rule and I can clearly see that she is upset, however she has BPD (boarder line personality disorder) and she doesn't know how to process her emotions correctly. I'm giving her exactly what she wanted space and time and I'm still getting someone harassed by her in a negative way. I replied saying I'm busy and will talk to her some other time. I don't want to deal with her negative attitude, so I gotten to a point to not responding. I'm not sure if she misses me, wanting my attention or if she just being flat out nasty. Not sure how to handle the situation at this point... help!!! hahaha
she needs (needed cause long ango now) to heal first borderline is going to dissapear out of the DSM5 soon. it's all trauma emotion regulation and enmeshment in the family and later on or still family or with the partner. bounderies honest and open communication and not accepting the behaviour so not the person are key to help with the healing. but serieus relations have to with until after the healing else other people get hurt and they can't focus on themselves.....
He finally reached out after more than 3 weeks . Said I m looking great & first thing he asked if I was dating anyone or searching grooms n I said no as I m busy with work. He said he won’t let me & he informed me he’s coming to meet me end of month (I am staying 1852 miles away from m workplace at home currently doing wfh) he wants to meet m family too. I didn’t show excitement and he told m I have changed on how I m replying with no interest. I also found out he was stalking my Whatsaap status by disabling read receipts 😒😒
OH BOY...LOL...Our last conversation was casual...couple laughs until I started walking around his apartment telling him how sick it made me feel to see things from his girlfriend there that he left me for...and I left and have not talked to him in 2 months. Longest in 10 years for me....He went 6 months without talking to me.
