Silently Suffering After Pregnancy Loss | Cassandra Blomberg | TEDxSDMesaCollege 

I've had 2 miscarriages. The hardest part about it, for me, is the invisibility of the pain. If you break your arm, when you go through your day, people can see that you are clearly injured. The checker at the store will be able to see you need a little help. Your co-workers will automatically jump in with difficult tasks. People will ask what happened and if you need help. No one expects you to act normal. To act like nothing happened. With miscarriage, you suffer immense pain and grief. And you are forced to go about your day as if nothing happened. No one can see any injury. No one sees at the grocery store that you are in so much pain, it takes everything to pay and get out of the store without crying. Friends and family ask normal everyday questions like “what are you wearing for brunch” when brunch is the last thing you want to do. Women go through the everyday tasks without so much as skipping a beat, all while hiding this invisible trauma that no one can see. It’s a superhuman task to expect of us.

It's almost been a year since I lost my baby boy. Lost him at 33 weeks. Named him Ever. Still breaks my heart, but he will always be my first baby boy. I've been very depressed more lately and I just found out I'm 10 weeks pregnant. Makes me so emotional. Every Dr appointment I go to makes me cry and I hate it. But I'm mostly scared for my baby. Needing prayers please 💕 and bless all you mommies!

Had a miscarriage today. It hurts so much. Im 20 years old and was 6 weeks pregnant up until today. I will pray for anyone who lost their baby ❤️ and I pray for every pregnant women to have a healthy pregnancy & delivery

All I’ve heard is “try again”. It’s not OK to say that, I had hope with this pregnancy, I felt so much love already...

I don't understand why people don't take miscarriages seriously

Just lost my first baby at 7 weeks. And you are right, we talk about other deaths but feel shameful about miscarriages. It's one of the worst feelings I've ever felt.

i lost five babies...i do not have children... its a very lonely experience... not being able to be a mommy ....its devestating

My husband and I have had 3 miscarriages and 2 stillbirths, over the last 8 years of our marriage. To say I am hurt and devastated is an understatement. I feel hopeless. Thank you for this, really needed this. I know that one day we will be blessed with children❤

"You can always have another", "Something must have been wrong"... these words are killing me. My parents refuse to let me grieve openly. My husband wanted to live like nothing had happened too. My son was actually born alive! But he lived only one day. And it was less than a month ago! I know, that something really was wrong because he had an anasarka. But it didn't make my grief any less.

It’s true we prepare to grieve in silence in order to not make other people uncomfortable...but also to avoid people’s strange reactions to your loss, so awkward.

i lost my son at 41 weeks i have so much support around me but ive never felt so alone

I've had about five miscarriages. No kids yet. I just had I think my fifth giant mental breakdown last night. I don't know..this grief hits different. It really does. And you can't escape it constantly being bombarded by seeing other people's children and pregnancies. It's destroying my marriage and mentally I'm cracking. As hard as I try to not be jealous, it just doesn't work that way.

I just loss my baby at 17wks...the pain is so horrible..but im trusting God to pull me through!

I lost my my first baby in 2009. I had every one of those phrases said to me. They don't help at all. There is NOTHING you can say to make us feel better. If a woman you know lost a baby, give her a hug. Let her cry on your shoulder and just be there for her. Listen to her when she needs a sounding board for her anger and sorrow. That's all we need.

I just lost my baby girl almost 4 weeks ago. I was 22 weeks and 5 days when I went into preterm labor. Honestly I feel like I don’t know what to do. I try to keep busy. I try to talk to people. But I keep hearing the same “you’re so young, you have plenty of time to have lots more children”. Or “it just wasn’t the right time”. But for me, being pregnant was perfect. Every aspect of it. A child is a blessing. No matter what stage of life you are at. Her name was Avianna Rose. She had lots of hair and looked just like her father. And every single day I think about her. And it hasn’t gotten any easier yet. I’m not sure if it ever will.

I just lost my baby yesterday at 7 weeks. I was told that the probability for miscarriage was high. Yet the reality hit me hard. I feel sad,angry and shame. I wasn’t ready for the intensity of the emotions.

just lost my little baby boy at 21.5 weeks... he was born alive, fully formed. He was beautiful. He reached out to me and held my hand. he was trying to take a breath but couldn't breath. watching my son die in front of my very eyes with 4 doctors just sitting there staring at me saying "theres nothing they can do" was awful. I felt absolutely powerless. I was SCREAMING for somebody to do something. Was in the hospital for a full 7 days prior with severe bleeding. had to have 8 blood transfusions and nearly died. Fiance had left me for someone else the month prior, so I had to go through this alone. Its only been a month. Picked up his ashes today at the funeral house and nearly lost it. Im scared ill never be happy again. And the man I love doest want me anymore, so I have to grieve the loss of the both of them at the same time. Im scared I'm never gonna be happy again :/ terrified ill never see my son in the next life. Im not religious, so the thought of never interacting with his soul again is unbelivevly heartbreaking. I don't know where to go from here. No one understands

My wife and I have had two miscarriages in the last six months. Thank you for this. We're still hoping and praying for the day we get to meet our first child

everyone around me is having a baby. I'm happy for them but I feel deeply saddened by my loss. I lost mine at 5 weeks. It happened last year but I still cry about it every now and then. everyone said to me "try again", "it happens more often than you think", "better lose it early than later on", "wait until you're married". Only 1 cousin said get help & talk about it. reading through the comments really helps. sending you strength & love moms and dads.

Feeling very isolated and unsupported ; throwing yourself back into work - that EXACTLY what I did ! The feeling of coming into the hospital pregnant & leaving without your child is just an experience I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. My son, the first boy to be born into my family since my grandmother was giving birth, pasted away full term , fully developed. 2 years later - I am still lost and confused because I don’t think I allowed myself to mourn and grieve correctly. I miss my son so much I pray God gives him back to me but I’m terrified of pregnancy now. 😢😢😢

I lost my child at 7 weeks… I had already figured out what my announcement would look like as I imagined revealing our little presence to the rest of the world. And then the rug was suddenly whipped from beneath my feet. A future I had begun to visualize was suddenly erased before I could even wrap my head around what was happening. And a family of four slipped through my fingers. We've been trying for 2 years already. We've started for another baby when our daughter was 5. There were tests, drugs, shots, unsuccessful insemination…There were two failed IVF cycles, and along the way, one miscarriage. The social media algorithms became absolute torture. Only a few mnths prior, I was clicking through a zillion ads and articles daydreaming about the tiny person growing in my belly... Now they're nothing but a constant and incredibly painful reminder of what could have been... And this is so unbearably hard. Your body heals slowly. Your head even slower... And your heart may never heal completely.

One of the best things for me while I was in the ER with my miscarriage was the doctor referencing the miscarriage that he and his wife had had.

my wife and I just lost our first baby last night at about 6 weeks. It is utterly hopeless, as a husband knowing that there is nothing you can do when your wife is suffering! you're supposed to be The Protector, The Provider but how do you protect against something you can't see!? The grief is just as bad! We had little cutesy names for our baby, "lil sweetpea" "lil blueberry" "baby lentil". The stress and worry while you're a work wondering how she is doing is unbearable! I can't imagine how she was feeling. Then, you get that call, "honey I'm not feeling well, I'm going to go see the doctor". I had to leave work in the middle of the day, to drive and meet my wife at the hospital, the longest 40mins of my life wanting to bulldoze every car on the highway because they were keeping me from my wife and our baby! the stress of sitting in the waiting room while she's having cramps praying that everything turns out okay. wanting to punch through a wall getting the call that you're baby is gone! I'm thankful I was able to be there with her but the pain is excruciating! All i can muster up to say is I'm sorry for all your losses and it is okay to feel how you feel! 😔

I just lost my twin babies at 24weeks this was our first pregnancy, I went into labour unexpectedly while my husband was abroad and he could not be around to see them, they were born alive, held them in my hands with their little fingers holding mine and their tiny toes moving around, but unfortunately they couldn't make it, I feel guilty and worthless don't know what to do except that I trust God and please keep us in your prayers 💞

Thank you for speaking out. This taboo needs to be broken.

Thank you for sharing your story 💙 I'm sorry for your losses..I lost my baby at 10 weeks to a missed miscarriage .I had to get a D and C. My body thought I was 14 weeks. the pain doesn't stop and all the grief is real..I know sharing my story with others has helped me tremendously and probably vice versa. I am grateful for the short amount of time I had with my baby.

The ONE thing i wish i had known when i went through each of my 3 miscarriages was that i wasn't alone.

I just lost my first at 7 weeks and it has been really hard. I felt like everything was going ok and that my partner and I were getting through it but after a month of distracting ourselves we have both realized that maybe we aren’t ok and need to get some extra help. Thanks for your video and for all of you in the comments sharing your stories it helps to know we aren’t alone. ❤

'It wasn't meant to be' and 'your body wasn't ready' is something that was said to me when I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks in December 2021. Little did they know that was my 5th miscarriage. I had 4 miscarriages over the space of 4 years. I had a successful pregnancy and gave birth to mt gorgeous little boy in February 2021. I found out I was pregnant again in the September and I was absolutely over the moon. I was frightened to transition from one baby to 2 and have 2 babies under the age of 2 but I was so ready. I had already planned out our lives for the next 5 years. I was so ready to give my son a little baby brother or sister. When the process of the miscarriage started my heart just broke into a million pieces. This miscarriage hurt so much more than the previous 4 because I had finally got to experience the end result when having my son. I finally knew all the love I was losing. All the memories i would never get. And people thought it was appropriate to say things like 'you can just focus on logan now' (logan is my 1 year old son) and things like 'it would of been really hard for you to have 2 babies so close in age, this was for the best' Its only been 4 months today since my miscarriage. I would of been 7 months pregnant right now and that absolutely kills me every single day. I pray every month that I miss a period or that I wake up and it was just a bad dream. That loss has sent me into such a horrible depression. Its changed me completely. Im not happy anymore I struggle to make it through the day sometimes without crying. People say 'logan should be enough to forget about it' or 'you can't be depressed youve got logan to think of' but what they cant seem to understand is that... everytime I look at my son all I see is what his little brother or sister should of looked like. All I think about is how we should of already known the gender and have decorated a nursery for him/her by now. I should have a big pregnant belly by now but I dont. And I'm not okay about it. I can't just move on from what I've lost. I love my son to pieces and hes the only reason I get out of bed in the morning hes the only reason I survive each day. People who haven't experienced a pregnancy loss should never try and give advice if its just going to be a back handed piece of advice.

This is so important. My wife and I lost ours a month ago. And although I appreciated all the support, I to was shocked at how many people in my life had losses and never told anyone.

Lost my first baby at 7 weeks. Gestation age doesn’t change the amount of grief you carry, it’s been 4 months and i still cry nearly every day.

Appreciate this talk so very much. Remembering my 7 babies gone too soon. Baby Wichita 1999, Baby Augusta 2002, Ean Rigel 13w2d born 13w6d on October 30, 2017, Riley Ember 8w4d born 12w on April 14, 2018, Baby Wynn 3w6d December 12, 2019, Baby Zita 4w5d January 18, 2020, Willow Rayne 8w2d born 10w6d September 19, 2020.

This woman is so amazingly strong! I don't know how she did this excellent talk without pausing or crying. Thank you so much. You are helping me to deal with my loss I'm actively going through.

I just lost my baby at 8 weeks 3 days ago. There’s no other pain compared. Feeling that physical pain and going through it and theres nothing you can do is just so frustrating and sad. The worst is the aftermath when you have so many questions as to why.

Thank you so much for this message, i really needed needed to hear this from someone who actually experienced miscarriages like i did, God bless you

Thank you for validating my experience. I lost my baby at 5 weeks and struggled between telling people and keeping it to myself. I also heard all of the 'do not say these things' list but for those I opened up to and supported me, it meant so much. I feel like I do not need to keep it a secret or push it out my mind after watching this.

There’s just a hole in my heart where hope lived, a dream that ended too soon, and now the unknown stretches out, vast and dark before me. I’m afraid to try again.

😭😭😭😭 the guilt. I had an early loss a week ago. I feel like I have no right to feel sad. I have 11 beautiful kids. But this baby was dreamt of, prayed for, loved. We were all excited. And now nothing. Empty. I feel like I can’t be sad. I’m trying to hide it but I’m so so sad. I feel depressed but I don’t know what to. And we only knew for a week. I can’t imagine going through this more than once, further along, with no children. I can’t imagine it 😭💔💔💔💔

The worst response I got was " At least you lost it at 6 weeks and not further along" I was told that more than once. To me it wasn't better because I lost it at 6 weeks. I was expected to just keep moving on with my life and pretend nothing is wrong. So here I am a month later pretending I don't care so everyone else is comfortable.

had one loss too many, this time via surgery. lost a right fallopian tube. it's been about 3 months since this recent loss. been in denial of the surgery , and yet the loss of the three other babies, including this recent one (3 total) have been weighing on me every day. didn't realize i've been mourning until recently. and depressed. i feel very alone in this and yes, it is easier not to talk to anyone because of the depth of the pain. i've just been isolating myself. can't talk about it. it isn't acknowledge.d they "weren't real". but they were real to me. i wanted each one. thank you for letting me finally cry .. been cryhing for the majority of this video. much needed.

My husband and I had a few miscarriages over 12 years of ttc. I've never actively and mindfully stayed silent about them, but I think because my pregnancies were still so early and so private I didn't want to share my miscarriages right away. I felt like all the hope was mine and my husband's and I didn't want anyone making the wrong comment out of kindness only to make our pain worse. In the moments after my miscarriages I wanted it to be our loss, but the truth is it wasn't just our loss. And realizing this helped me grieve so much better. It was my mother-in-law's grandbaby she lost, my sister's niece or nephew, my niece's cousin. We all had a loss, and not staying silent let me know how much this baby meant to everyone around me and they wanted to share the hope, the joys of future baby, as well as the pain and anguish of losing that possibility. I even saw a change in my dog after my last miscarriage. She quit laying by my belly at night, something she began very early on in the pregnancy. She became very gentle with me, but was barking more at other animals and was very antsy. Then one night, I laid in bed and just began balling my eyes out, while by dog put her head under my chin and just stayed there until I had no more tears. She gave me a sweet little kiss on the cheek and we fell asleep. She stopped barking began playing like she did before. She was feeling my pain with me, and needed me to grieve; to get my energy back to our normal.

Each and every word makes sense. Lost her at 34 weeks..The pain is so real.. nicely addressed!

Thank you for this. This is exactly what I needed to hear. The immense joy I felt finding out I was pregnant to the extreme devastation. I am still trying to figure out how to move forward a couple months later. I am so sorry to anyone who has had a misarrange or stillborn. I find peace knowing I will one day see my baby in Heaven.

1 yr loss, this month... I have endometriosis and it meant everything to me. Never was sure that I could even conceive and when you find out that you are, I started a registry at only around 16 weeks... didn’t tell anyone except close family & friends, but felt ashamed as if I couldn’t do what i felt most women can. Didn’t realize post partum depression also comes with loss of a baby & this should be talked about more thank you ❤️

I lost my baby at 9 weeks 3 days ago. All the plans.. the excitement I felt just knowing my baby was growing in me. I’m hurt. I’m broken. I feel empty without my baby..

Just lost my baby yesterday. I was supposed to be 28weeks but my baby died at 15weeks. I carried him without knowing for so long. My insirance wouldn't cover more than 4ultrasounds so I had to wait a long time. I can't even finish this video because her talking about her sons makes me so angry and jealous. I want my baby back.

After my ectopic pregnancy and near-death due to medical neglect, round 2 of being traumatized was getting these awful comments from family and friends. The isolation lasted a lot longer than the anemia and surgery recovery. Think before you speak, ya'll.

I’m so scared to get pregnant again. It’s joy, but it’s also walking on egg shells because you never know especially if you had recurrent miscarriages.

Lost my son on 12/20/21 at 19weeks! The worst experience of my life. Such a traumatic process and lonely even if you have people around you for support. I have family, friends and my boyfriend. However, no one will understand it quiet like yourself.

I really thought I was in the clear. I had just accepted her, and was ready to become a mom of 2. I've had 7 miscarriage and with elith I was 18 weeks. I just don't understand. There isn't any words to help, I just want my baby. She is absolutely beautiful and unscathed. I'm grateful she only knew comfort safety and love. R.i.p elith Annemarie. 3-1-22❤️

I’ll admit, i used to think it was sad but it wasnt the worst thing that could happen. I used to think that having a stillborn or a newborn die was the absolute worst and that an early miscarriage wasn’t that bad. But i had a loss only 2 days after finding out, and I will never minimize anyone’s journey again. Im currently pregnant again and I still grieve my first pregnancy and think about the what-ifs. I’m so sorry that i ever dismissed anyones loss. Any loss is a loss, and you deserve to grieve however and whenever.

Thank you for shedding so much light on this painful time for me. God bless you and you beautiful family.

Thank you so much for sharing. So glad I found this video. I just had a miscarriage on May 22. My princess Kailey was only 19 weeks. She was my fiancé and I first child and it hurts so much. I feel like I don’t have anyone to talk to because everyone around me has never been through this. I never would have thought I would have had to bury my own child. We visit her grave every week and I never want to leave. We tried for 5 years and when we found out we were pregnant we were was so excited. It’s a wonderful feeling❤️. Come to find out I have a incompetent cervix and its crazy because I just had a doctors appointment the week before and everything was fine. I feel your pain and I’ll be praying for everyone who has been through this❤️

I lost my baby boy at 29 weeks and 5 days. It’s been a month now. Can’t believe this is my story. But I really appreciate watching this video. Thank you for sharing your story.

God…I needed this video so much…I’m struggling just like any other mother that had lost her baby. I’ve had 3 miscarriages. Two in the first trimester and one at 13 weeks, which had happened on December 19,2021. I delivered the baby. I caught it in my hand…I can still remember and see his/her body in my palm…he/she was as big as my palm, a tiny baby, with a beautiful nose which reminded me of mine …and I had to stay silent…because just like she said…I didn’t announce my pregnancy and consequently I had to stay silent… I needed to see this video so much…she gave me hope… Thank you!

Thank you for sharing this. We just lost our Angel Baby in August 2019. I’m glad to know I’m not the only one going through this. Thank you ❤️

Thank you so much for sharing your story.

In October 2021 my husband and I suffered a miscarriage. We hadn't told everyone yet, I was waiting for the ultrasound first. It was at the ultrasound that we found out that our little one had passed away. There was no way I could grieve the loss of my baby without letting the world know that my baby exists. It was hard, but I made a post that detailed everything and let everyone know that we lost our little one. Fast forward to tonight and I am 6 weeks pregnant and telling everyone. I figure that I want everyone to know of my baby either way and society will just have to deal with it. But all of that love and joy of being pregnant again is overshadowed by terror that I might have to announce a second miscarriage. My back yard cannot handle that many more trees.

This is so relatable and I’m glad that I’m not alone because like you said it’s very isolating and lonely

From the bottom of my breaking heart, Ty for helping me feel wayyyyy less alone. For the past 4 weeks I’ve been made to feel I’m dramatic & I’ve got to just move on. 😢

Just found out yesterday that i lost my first baby at 7 weeks due to blighted ovam. Thank you for this I needed to hear that im not alone

I lost my baby at 12 weeks. It's been more than a year and my baby, if she was born, would be one by 01.01.2020, I never got to hold or see her. I never got a chance to hear her heartbeat and even know the gender but I always thought it would be a baby girl. I named her Natalia Claire and even after a year, it still breaks my heart remembering her.

Thank you for the encouragement.

Thank you for your talk and for contributing to breaking the silence. I have had nine miscarriages, and am a mum to two healthy girls. I am now advocating for breaking the taboo surrounding pregnancy loss through a Miscarriage Podcast and coaching for bereaved mums. It seems so hard and like running against a brick wall... we can do so much better as a society.

Thank you for sharing your difficult journey, and for encouraging others to do so as well

Just lost our third baby at 12 weeks. Thank you so much for this

Thank you 🙏🏾❤ Also thank you to everyone sharing their stories in the comments. It takes courage that I can’t seem to muster up. I can’t believe it’s happened to me again…I can’t speak about it any more than that. I’m just grateful I ran across this video. ❤

Everything she said touched me and I truly understand. I go through those things still. I don't want to talk to my friends or family about it because they don't understand.

It's been 20 years for me but feels like it was yesterday I miss my baby boy Gabriel 😔

Thank you for this talk❤

This touched my heart ❤️

First miscarriage was 2015. Recently my niece and I were pregnant at the same time. I was 9weeks she was 8. I lost my baby and niece is still pregnant. I’m so excited for her and I keep thinking about her baby. Very bittersweet bc I’m still mourning the loss of mine. Idk how to shake the feeling. Please pray for me.

Thank you for sharing your story, it helped me a lot 💙

It's been 1 year and 1 month my sunshine since I lost you. I'm praying that I could hug you right because I really missed you so much and it still breaks my heart knowing that I can never have you by my side. The pain is still here and it keeps deeper and deeper every 17th of the month comes. Please help me get over this my love, please.

I am going through a miscarriage and the hardest part of it is the invisible pain. I was told I was going to have a healthy baby then to be told there is absolutely nothing I can do to save my baby, when the doc told me the news I felt my heart shatter into a million pieces! I never felt so much pain inside. I’m in constant prayer and can only remind myself that I have an Angel baby watching over me, and baby will always be in my thoughts with any and everything I do. My heart goes out to everyone going through this, I understand your pain. And I love you

I lost my baby on Father's Day at 3.5 weeks last weekend. I had just started having terrible pregnancy symptoms. That week was awful, but I was so excited. I never knew I could love or want something so much. I am still going through terrible grief and I am so angry at the lack of resources for dealing with miscarriages. Thank you for making this video. I am definitely going to talk about this and make a video about my experience for my channel to help other people. Nobody should have to deal with this alone. ❤️

I cried and cried and cried whilst watching this. After losing 7 babies, with 1 being stillborn at full term and 1 I buried when he was 6 months old. So this was difficult to watch but I needed to hear it.

This was so helpful for my grief. I lost my daughter in may at 22.5 weeks and I'm in therapy but currently looking for someone else. I felt everything the speaker has said. I'm also an early childhood educator and it's a painful profession to be in.

I would’ve been 31 weeks pregnant today, with my last pregnancy and I’m still grieving the loss of both my babies, I’ve had two miscarriages 💔 my husband doesn’t like to talk about the subject because it hurts but I suffer alone. I keep hearing “you’re young, you’re healthy” I’m only 23 but why haven’t I been able to carry a pregnancy full term ? 09/19/18 🙏🏽 08/28/20 🕊

I lost our baby at last day of my 9th week. I'm really devastated. I'm really sad and cry silently. Especially I imagine what my baby will become in the future. I have to much plans on us. I feel really sad I had this kind of guilt and regret. I'm not that kind of emotional but I really love my baby. So so much, I always say I'm sorry and cry silently. I'm hoping that I can get over this. I love you my baby.

I just miscarried yesterday after finding out I was pregnant earlier this week. It’s absolutely heartbreaking even though it was short lived. I wasn’t even sure if I was going to keep my child. But the fact that that choice was taking from me is just, devastating . I can’t even sleep

Really eye opening. Thank you so much for this talk. Still waiting for my first. 😢

thank you for sharing your experience and showing people that going through a miscarriage isn't easy.. but us woman are strong...and god is with us, he walks with us through every storm that we face in life....

listening to your post and reading the comments. hard too for single mothers and their mothers and siblings to go through through.

thank you for this encouraging message...😚

Thank you for you message ❤

Its really easy to feel like a failure! So sorry to all the women suffering, Its so painful! (One of the hardest parts is going into the hospital with your loss, and seeing all the pregnant women and babies) :(

I really needed this 💔 was avoiding my grief but it is real & should be acknowledged. Thank you for this video

Loved the message ❤️

Thank you!

Lost my first baby at 23 weeks, it's been 3weeks since delivered my baby boy...I still find myself crying at awkward times of the day💔💔🕊🕊

Oh SHEESH. LOUDER for the people in the back. We had our loss earlier this month, found out at 19 week appt, a "missed late miscarriage". When I was told by one of my closest friends the "something must have been wrong" spiel, I about was ready to lose my mind. I was so angry and upset that I haven't talked to her since this conversation, a few weeks ago. I love this woman and I know we're still friends but my deep gut feelings when hearing these words were that I felt ultra furious and mad at her, disgusted by the idea, overall just more brokenhearted than before hearing it. It's exactly like Cassandra says. I wanted my baby!!!!!!! I WANTED my baby, no matter what she looked like, no matter her health situation, whatever, yada yada. That baby will always be my little saint, my princess and to me she was/is PERFECT...

Just found out I had a missed miscarriage. I did not expect myself to feel the way I do. I feel so broken and alone. I keep replaying when they told me that they couldn’t find a heartbeat. I know miscarriages are common but I just never expected it would happen to me.

Thank you for posting this. I just had a miscarriage at 5 weeks and it hurts

Thank you so much. I lost my baby July 19th. & this has given me the emotional support I needed

Thank you for this TED talk Cassandra Blomberg! I've found your TED talk to be more comforting and understandable than other resource I've connected with. I had a miscarriage this past Saturday, they would have been 8 wk 1d and I am trying to find ways to support myself, allow space and ability me to grieve. Thank you!

I needed to hear this.

Mother’s Day is always the hardest. I thank you for this video as I sit her alone.

I am 13 weeks now, and we found serious issue with the baby. Dr recommend the only option is termination since there is almost no chance the baby will survive. It is painful and devastating. I thank god for the short time period with my baby. My baby will return to heaven soon.

This video helped me so much- I feel seen... I went through a miscarriage with my first and only at 10 weeks, not too long ago. We are TTC again and the emotional rollercoaster is overwhelming at times. I feel isolated in my own emotions and all the words that people meant to be helpful, hurt more...