Sister-in-Law wants ME to PAY for her Wedding but DOESN’T Want me Involved - Finance Reddit Podcast 

Story 1: If you are not involved and not respected they can pay for their own wedding and not take you for granted. Not a Jerk!

The cams in the bedroom. I would have call the cops. It's that simple

In the second story, there are actually privacy laws regarding cameras in private residences. That mother in law likely broke the law by doing so without the consent of the op and the husband, and the excuse of “I was just worried” won’t hold up in court.

Story 4 fills me with rage. They blamed her! They blamed her!!!

12:20 So his immediate response to having his manhood insulted is to run to the bathroom and break down crying 😂

I don't understand why people want to hold weddings that is way out of their means. It's bad enough that some people take loans to have their dream weddings. But to be completely funded by a family member while that family member has no say in how the money is spent? That's jerk move right there. Rich people remain rich because they use their money well. They know the best value for their money and do not waste things on stuff they can't afford to acquire. If it was me, I would say, "Nuh-uh. You want me to pay for everything, then I decide everything. You don't want me to decide, then I will only pay a quarter, you fork the rest of the money on your own."

For people still lingering, Story 4 has an update: OP stopped feeling that they possibly should feel guilty due to the original post. Their dad repeatedly showed up from April to about August talking to her and her sister in a "baby talk voice", first visiting for her sister's bday and winning her and their mom over with gifts and words. OP called him out on his blatant flakiness and being a coward who ran instead of fix things cause that takes actual effort...and he takes her sister and mom out for dinner in July. On her birthday. Without her. Saying she doesn't understand "Daddy loves her" Mom and sis are still blaming OP now that he's silent again but now OP is confident they're in the right

Story 1... As much as I love my siblings, if I was treated like that I would pull my money out and tell the bride's family if they want to look perfect for their own family and friends, they should pay for it, if op's brother doesn't understand that and gets mad, he's as bad as them... Story 3... I find hilarious when people try to humiliate others, it backfires and then they sulk. It gets worse when people are aware of the entire story and then turn against the person attacked first...

Last story: the mother and sister need therapy, you dont cry for someone who abandoned you and you dont blame the people he abandoned for crying over him

story 2 : BRUH i'm so angry, both at the mother AND the husband. dude value his mom intrusiveness more than his and his wife's privacy. story 3 : "you disrespected someone older than you, you're wrong" respect is earned not owed. also if you need a moustache to prove your manhood, there is something wrong.

Story 1: OP is not a jerk, and she should stand her ground. People with a lot of money are often the ones who are taken advantage of. Story 2: Not a jerk. OP, your mother-in-law is a nutjob who literally broke the law. Forget about banning her, call the cops on her. Story 3: Not a jerk. It's a huge red flag when a guy needs things like mustaches or guns to feel masculine. I can imagine OPs sister puts her through a lot of similar crap. Story 4: Not a jerk. It's on dad for walking out and refusing to have contact with his family instead of trying to maintain a healthy relationship with them.

Story #2 sounds like an over-bearing mother who has coddled her son his entire life, and the son has become such a beta momma's boy that he lacks the balls to defend his own wife. If I were the wife, I would ditch the useless husband and the clueless mother-in-law.

If your mustache is a sign of your masculinity and a crack about it causes a breakdown. You are not actually masculine enough to rock a mustache. I've been wearing a mustache for a long time you gotta deal with some flack from time to time

Second story is a no-brainer. Load injured husband into car, take him to his mom's house and drop him off. MIL can be caretaker, and OP can talk to a lawyer about what to do next.

I had a similar situation with my aunt about hair. In our last family meeting, my aunt, a woman who is known for having a volatile attitude, literally pointed at me and laught, saying how i was beggining to go bald. (i´m 40 and my father was bald, i´m really surprised my hair lasted that long) so i said "Well, that was not a nice thing to say. I mean, we all can see your mustache but nobody is saying anything about it, are we?" Aaaand she exploted, as she always does and suddenly i´m supposed to apologise to her.

Story 1: just tell them, "If you don't want me to involve, then I won't pay for anything (any, but not all of it)." That's it. To her, they were the jerk first. Her money belongs to her only, and she had all the right to demand what she wants when they want to use her money for whatever they wanted to do.

1st story: If she's paying for EVERYTHING at the wedding she should be involved in the wedding as more than just the one who finances it. 2nd story: You do not have the right to spy on people in their own home. 3rd story: People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. If you can't stand people making fun of your body hair then don't make fun of their body hair. 4th story: If you don't remember someone you don't remember them. It's not an insult. That's just how it is.

The emotions and the way you read is what make me keep coming back keep it up

I like how his bro said he’s not their parents ... but wants him to pay for their wedding lmao ... I would’ve said I’m not your parents so I don’t have to pay anything

I had a very similar situation to the last story. It’s almost exactly the same. My parents are divorced and so my father and I were like, for a lack of better words, penpals. One day, I realized that I didn’t remember his voice, what he looked like, nothing. Then we slowly stoped talking. Years later he tries to come back into my life and immediately hugs me. This makes me extremely uncomfortable and I express that to him but this keeps happening for days. Eventually I just decided to cut contact with him all together and am planning on getting my last named changed (it’s his last name and he caused me to have PTSD so I just want to get away from that). So not the same but fairly similar to a certain degree.

Apologizing for the late reply in the premiere, I have notifications sent to all and so far watched 110 videos on the playlist so far.

If the brother in law can't take people talking about him don't talk about others.

I was not prepared for that Cleveland Brown voice in story 4 lmao

First story: The Sister is not a jerk. Although there's a common rule, for me at least, is to simply do a good thing and don't expect anything of it. However in this situation, the sister is the victim and the sister-in-law as well as her family are the ones doing the wrong doing and they had her brother involve with it. Story 2: That Mother-in-law has broken a law so great, i don't think she'll ever get to see her son again. Sure he's a concerned mother, But you don't have to go to such extreme lengths to put a camera in OP and her Husband's bedroom, without the forethought of breaching in privacy. Third story: Oh my god, does this guy have a screw loose and his wife blaming the OP, her sister, to apologize to an older man, even though the older man should have a better mental stability. And why do he have to comment, when hair can grow on his legs as well. That doesn't make a lick of sense at all. Also, maybe everyone is a bit of a jerk, mostly the sister and the OP. Last story: Not a Jerk. Rather it's the Father's fault for leaving the family and the family acting so irrationally. Remember, not many people can remember their memories the earlier you go down the line.

I say the husband knows of the camera in the second story. Divorce his ass. NTA

Story 1 : Clearly the sister-in-law considers OP as the ATM, she's a gold digger and clearly shows that outside of money, she doesn't even try to consider OP as nothing more than a wallet for her to get stuffs. OP should consider cutting any funds towards her and also make sure the entire family knows that SiL said that she didn't want OP to be at the wedding to begin with and that it hurt her feelings to not be considered family after all the supports and money she gave her.

Story 1: At that point i would demand my money back so they can make their dream wedding within their available price range. After a big apology and involvement in the planning I would maybe contribute a little but never pay for the entire wedding. Story 3: Age does not earn respect. Story 4: Being the biological father does not mean anything. If I was adopted I wouldn’t care about meeting my biological parents because if they were never there for you they are not your parents.

Have the mother in law arrested for violation of privacy and what ever else the cops and D.A think she can be charged with.

Anytime you have more than the average person there will always be people that expect you to pay. Doesnt mean you should, but dont let it get to you either. Just say no I'm not comfortable with that nor am I interested in discussing it. Then just move on, and if they persist then go no contact. People like that will always keep going if they think theres a sliver of hope they can get something else out of you, so just be firm.

Imagine ending a bloodline with only you being child free. Wow what a selfish bastard

Wow, the OP from the leg hair story is not the jerk at all. The brother in law mocked OP for not shaving her legs, which I read as him checking her out, not liking what he saw, and vocalizing this, then getting extremely upset when his own appearance came under scrutiny. And the way he broke down for it is pathetic. If you need to be proud of your moustache to see yourself as a man, then you aren't one. And it's not OP's fault that her BIL didn't have the self awareness to realize that, or the confidence to ensure having "the symbol of his manhood" being mocked. I'm not the kind of guy that thinks men shouldn't show emotion, but that guy is way too sensitive and needs to grow a pair.

Story #2 : mother wants to watch her son, she can do it with her own eyes while helping him with what he needs, rather than by telling the wife to do everything and installing a camera to spy

2nd story. I would have LOST it if my other sided with their family over this. I would have thrown them out.

for the last 2 stories I wonder if these people even understand the word hypocrite. the brother-in-law started making fun of the op's hair and she made fun of him back and yet he is the only one who "suffered emotional damage" The father left for 8 years but apparently that is nothing toward the emotional damage of the op telling him he was forgotten. the fact that these people get so butt-hurt when anyone says anything to them even if they literally did the same or worse to someone else is very reminiscent of r/entitled

his videos are so good that i watch the after part with him telling you to subscribe

Pay for your own wedding.. mother in laws are quite often nuts! The father needs to stay away

Story 3: Why tf does she need to apologise?? If someone should apologise it’s the brother in law!! I can’t believe the sister has the audacity.

First story, he can pay for his own wedding

Finally,a British story that I can finally understand the currency:)

Definitely would suggest pressing charges against the mother-in-law if they can't give her time to deal with the invasion of privacy.

When op in story #2 husband said that he'd move in with his mom, the op should've asked if he needed help packing. 😌🤪

With the last one I can relate as my dad left my mum when I was 2 but still kept in contact with us and my mum is adopted and I met my bio grandmother once. If you asked me who my family was it would be me, my mum, my sister, my cat and my grandma and grandad on my mum’s adopted side. I feel awkward round my dad as he’s a man who the only reason he is I’m my life is because of genetics. I don’t really know him and I’ve probably spent more time with my caving club over the past year then I have with him my entire life.

Facing a similar situation as #4's OP. While I would have kept it to myself I feel it was fair for her to say & fuuuully wrong for the mother to have blamed her. The action for him to leave originally & now are his own choice regardless of what someone does or doesnt say. If he is this unstable & theyre without knowledge of his background these last few years how can they know he's safe for the kids to be around?

The mustache story with hilarious. It actually made me laugh out loud. 😂

1: some people do not deserve or are able to care for children, this example shows that perfectly 2: weddings are not only a scam but also creepy when you think about it... "Here I like you so much that I'm going to get the government involved and you cannot legally leave me" that's what a wedding says.. if someone could explain why everyone gets them that would be helpful

Thx for the quality content I always get max at people using siblings for money

I'ma be honest your videos are addicting

Damn the dad got lost buying milk

Story 1: No, you have gone far and above what you have done for them. I would feel the same way. ❤️

“Wine in my pjs raging” i need that on a tshirt

Absolutely love your videos keep up the amazeing work guys.

Aint no one gonna talk bout why the OP in story 1 said she earns 150 pounds a year?!

You have gave them enough. They need to learn to be self sufficient.

My sister and me are all that's left and I would never ask or expect her to help me financially in any way.

If I'm going to be paying...I have final say over everything to keep things under budget..no? I'm not paying s**t!

Person: I have high paying job, I get £150 a year

I mean she's partly right you can't blame a mom for being concerned for their son but you can blame mom for invading your privacy

Story 1 is from Northern Ireland you never hear story’s from here so glad I finally heard one

For those lucky enough for a good marriage, I always say forget the whole marriage venue and spend that money towards a solid vacation instead. Why spend 10,000 on an expensive 1 day venue when you can spend that same amount on a stunning vacation which is so much more memorable and fun anyways.

14:02 I was listening to this, when I heard Cleveland brown. I legit thought my tablet had gone on strike and started playing family guy lol

I did the same thing with my children and grandchildren. Now that I'm old and can't pay anymore I am the bad guy and they don't even call me. At 65 I'm on my own.

If you can't take an insult don't insult others

I had an incident when I was flying to Florida one day to see my dad, and i don't think I could have been older than 15, but I hadn't seen him in a few months, and I saw him for the first time, and I didn't recognize him

Hahaha, i love the voices you do!!! You sounded just like Clevland Brown off Family Guy, lmao

The last story (4th). I don't have to imagine myself. My father vanished when I was 9 months old (I'm 35 btw). My siblings were 9 and 10 years old. No contact no nothing. Then he appeared when I was 24 years old. Me having two kids, and I was like the OP of that story expresionless. I didn't know the guy. My mom died 9 years before he reapeard, just for the contex. My sister also missed him, and wanted for me to have a relationship with him, but I said no thanks you. He passed away couple of years ago. Never tried to make any contact with me or my oldest brother. I know from my counsin (older then me) that he pretty much thought that we would cry and hug, and all that stuff, and when that didn't happen he backed up again. So that being said the OP is not a Jerk. He is an adult who made the decision to leave, and now he has to face the consequences of these actions. We learn to live without people. OP had to learn in from a young age, and you can't force anybody to be happy to see a person that is pretty much a stranger. Her sister is 19 so she remembers more but I don't see OP at fault here. She stated her point, and if he can't take it, he might as well had something or someone for those 8 years, and after it's gone he just tries to crawl to his "safe space." In my opinion this is what he may had wanted, and OP voicing her point of view on the matter showed him clearly that it will not be as easy cut as just saying 'sorry' and crying a bit. But as I said it's just my point of view. Still OP is Not the Jerk.

It's called invasion of privacy and this is a gross invasion of privacy not only can you sue her it is Criminal

1. Not the jerk 2. Not the jerk 3. Not the jerk

WTF is wrong with the mother in story 2 she was going to dictate how the wife was helping but not helping herself

Whoever pays, gets to play...shot caller! No one can force him to pay! Stand your ground!

It seems like the sister forgot about how rude her husband was to the op with his comment

I love the "bank of sister is paying"

Story 1: The OP helped out her future brother, paying for his master's degree, the wedding, her sisters education in the U.S. and multiple rounds of IVF for the SIL? If I was the SIL, I would be bending over backwards to involve the OP in the wedding. I've seen this happen with families who are poor when one of their members becomes well off; they start expecting them to fund everything because they have the money. Frankly, I think the brother has started to expect that it's the OP's obligation to make his life easier. I'm pretty sure that if they get in over their heads financially, they will try the bank of OP again, then get furious when told no.

Story 4. Op isn't the jerk, her sister/mom/father(if he gets to be called that given his actions) are. She was honest to a question and he took it personally. What did he expect. How many 15 year Olds recall people they havnt seen in 8+ years? I'm 35 and when I heard my "fathers" voice for the first time in 7 years last year(was 34 then so 27 last time I heard from him then)on the phone, I didn't recognize it. Toxic family situation. Hope this op is able to escape the family at 18 and has a better adulthood

11:54. OH GREAT! You maked him cry.

That mustache crack was pretty good. Well played

OK, seriously the voices u are using have me rolling 🤣😂🤣😂

Bruh I have an emotionless face meeting family that took care of me as a baby but a parent that left at a young age than expects you to be happy is pathetic

Hahaha ‘traditionally wedding are about the bride and her family’. Amazing how traditions are used when it benefits them. Traditionally the sister of the groom doesn’t pay for the housing/education and wedding for them either.

Story #2: Not The Jerk.....pack ungrateful husband\momma's boy up & drop him off at his mom's house. Now he has all the time he can desire with her, and you aren't being miserable with her and his bs. Also take camera to police station, file a report for breech of privacy, and get her arrested, and\or sue.

Story 2) i would calling the police and telling partner if he is ok with the camera then he can move out, and have his mother look after him.

Bro anyone else have hella family probs and love binging these

What the mother-in-law did was a crime. Police need a warrant for that sort of thing.

Love ur vids🥰🥰

“£150 a year” Me: do you mean £150,000 because £150 is NOT ENOUGH TO SURVIVE A YEAR

Not a jerk, don’t give them crap

Ha had something similar happen to as the girl from the 3rd story was 16 at the time hadn't seen my bio dad since b4 I was 8, randomly met him in Walmart with my younger brother who didnt remember him at all long story short he gave a 30 minute monologue as to why he was gone blah blah blah and had the gall to ask for a hug after. We refused! Walked away and didn't think about him again lol so no she is not the ahole!!! More power to her.

The first one. I get that they should have included O.P, but the they shouldn't have been paying for the wedding if they wanted something in return. You either pay because you want to, or don't. If they wanted to get something in return, that should have been clear from the start

If one gives a gift it should not come with strings attached.

Don't dish it out if you can't take it.

The op in all the story’s is not the jerk

Story three: the brother in law can dish it out but can't take it

Im an amateur, i laughed at the mustache 🤣 💀 😂, lol

Me imagining the situation after reading title: SiL: i want you to pay for my wedding but you can't come Me: lmao no, im not paying shit even if you invited me

this man should be a children's storyteller

Tell them to pay for their own damn wedding as he said you are not his parents.

If my father left my family and wants to meet up thats not happening. If i did he would regret it. You did good

As a comment, the mother-in -law crossed the line. She took 'privacy' for granted. In the first place, it is the daughter-in-law's house/home. The wife can not be dictated what she needs to do to her son. If the mother-in-law thinks she is incompetent taking care of her son, she can hire a private nurse at her expense. As I see it, the mother-in-law is a meddler and controlling.

Story 1: I'm also in Northern Ireland, the OP is not the jerk. The average wedding cost here is approx £25k and for 100 people they've got more than enough money from OP. The least brother could have done is ask OP to be the the best man. The wedding here is about the bride and groom. The bride clearly doesn't give a damn about her partner's family. If you can't afford the majority of wedding costs you either reduce the size or hold off until you can. What I want to know is what job OP have where they're earning £150k a year without a degree?? I have a degree and just about make £21k 😂

To story 3, this reminds me of my own dad. I dont consider my dad family anymore after what horrible things he did to me and my mother in the past, so i simply cut contact with him and dont wish to ever see him again

Yup going no contact from my narc relatives. It’s just not worth it. You literally have one life and narcs have decided to live it in pure misery and insanity.