When he said "strangers treat me better than my family" made me want to cry because it's so real for a lot of people. But it also shows you how loving the world actually can be and is.
To me, this guy is a hero - anyone who hasn't read about it - he got so depressed because of his dad's sexual abuse as a teen that he wanted to committ suicide, but what held him back is the thought "then he will take it out on my little brother so I won't do it". To me, that is a real hero.
What a good man. Kevin hid his traumas and never delt with them in turn becoming a monster himself and "rod" was open, honest, and sincere and he seems so at peace with life.
All the evil assholes get rich and famous and the truly honest good people nobody wants them around. I love this guy. I would love to sit down with him and have at least a day long conversation. He’d be a great friend. What a forthcoming sweet dear man.
Despite all the sadness and the terrible things they could experience in their childhood, I see an admirable and wonderful man full of strength and braveness. What an inspiration!!
I hope Kevin Spacey sees this. His brother obviously loves him no matter what. I'm assuming Kevin is at a low point right now, he would be 1000% better with family in his life. God bless them both.
FKNA YEAH Kevin Spacey is clearly a narcissist Golden Child and God protected his brother by keeping him away from him and out of his life, no contact is the only way to heal
When it comes to the choice to be a CHILD RAPISTS you choice to stop the Abuse and become more of a monster that hurt you! He said I we BE A CHILD RAPISTS!
I hung out with "Rod" at a party, back in the 90s. He looks different, but he is really down to earth and very friendly, and I liked him immediately. Keep doing your thing, Rod, you are epic!
his look is a coping mechanism and it works for him, he is completely sane and balanced, albeit quirky. His brother is living his truth, a strong fellow given his past.
Goes to show. You can't judge a book by it's cover. I thought when I first saw him, "this guy must be weird" but no, he's so down to earth and friendly. You can't help but like this guy.
L Exactly. I wish I knew him and more like him. Most ppl are really scum. Ppl can’t stand ppl who talk like this and are this honest. I know because I’m just like him and my parents molested me and my whole family hates me for telling the truth. I disowned all of them. They are cruel and disgusting. This guy is better than me because I haven’t yet reached that level of forgiveness. I’m working on it though. I so admire him. God bless him. I can’t wait to read his book. He has the greatest attitude.
I really appreciate this brother ‘s honesty. His story is extremely important. This is more pervasive in our society than ppl want to face. I was in a similar family so I really get it. I have no relationship whatsoever with any member of my family because I told the truth and I exposed what my father did. No one wants anything to do with you when u tell the brutal truth.. I really appreciate and get this his man. He’s a hero.
Telma Elma Thx for hopefully getting it. This so devastating when u tell the truth and get beaten down and ostracized for being truthful. My heart goes out to Randy. I totally empathize with him. This kind of rejection for telling a huge truth is demoralizing and so hurtful the rest of ur life. This man has such a beautiful forgiving attitude. I’ve forgiven but still in that process. He’s a better person than I am. I’m just not that kind with my attitude but I’m working on it. This Randy should have his own channel and be hammering this topic. He has a beautiful soul and spirit.
Lara O'neal this is absolutely classic narcissist abuse where one brother is The Golden Child and the other is the scapegoat. Kevin Spacey was the delusional Golden Child and this brother was the scapegoat, who usually gets away because everything was dumped on them, but they get to be authentic and see the truth where The Golden Child lives their whole life in delusional lala land
CobraDove So true. I was the scapegoat in my family and blamed for everything. I came out the strongest and only one who went into incest recovery. Painful stuff but I’m a better person for it. I can’t stand the denial idiots. Knowledge is power. I have so much in common with Randy. He should be so proud of himself. God bless him. These types of families are so common but ppl like us are the only brave ones who openly talk about it.
It happened to me and I used to be a successful actor but that industry can't take the truth. Even lost my family over it, plus my children were threatened and taken to Europe
I get it Laura. My story is similar. I tried for years to get it told, and almost had a production company make it as a movie at one point. Mine is a little more a slice of history as well but the family pain is the same. You are correct that the ones who tell the truth are the most hated of all. Although, I read somewhere a quote from Kevin Spacey saying that his Dad had sexually abused him, dressed up in Nazi costumes and all sorts of crazy stuff. So, I think Kevin just went to the dark side and that his life was not protected the way that Randy seems to think it was. For a long time I thought I had protected my younger siblings as well, but I don't think so anymore. Sometimes there is a child who isn't abused. In my family that would have been my older half-sister. I think the three of us all got it. Regardless, it is a sick family dynamic and everyone in it is effected. BTW - When I first saw Kevin Spacey on screen I was totally taken by surprise because he reminded me so much of my abusive father. He also would have been my choice (back then) to play the character. So, there you go.
F W Completely agreed. I've lived all over the world and find your observation to be universally true regardless of culture, language, socioeconomic level, etc...
Yup because they have alot of rectitude they're honest with themselves so they got no reason to lie to you. It's not really the eccentric either it's just people who have lived through hell and learned to talk about it.
Stumbled on this when looking at his brother’s impersonations. Very interesting to hear his clear forgiveness and bearing no ill. Has a clear all round perspective of why people act the way they do.
Yes he seems "whole" (whatever that means in this context). And has done pretty well considering. Cheerful about life and comfortable with being comfortable. Has a clear understanding of people and motives and that's what's healed him. I wish him well.
His older, wiser and grounded brother actually could be a major help for Kevin Spacey's in finally dealing with his troubling childhood demons... I first heard Randy's shocking story years ago when he frequented a Spacey fan board and believed him instantly.
What a great guy who seems to have had major growth in dealing with his horrible childhood and repeated trauma. Bless his sweet soul, it's heartening to see healing in a person
I was Kevin's biggest fan until last year when I researched him and found out what kind of person he really was, this stuff was all over the web for years. Randy has been saying this for years, it's a shame people are only listening now cause a celebrity said it happened. All Randy ever wanted was to tell his story to help others. He's struggled so much and still has been involved in many charities. He's also been trying to publish his book but couldn't because Kevin and his lawyers wouldn't allow it. I love Randy cause he never used his brothers name to gain fame. And their father being a nazi loving child molester is old news. The fact that Kevin severed all ties with his family is very telling. Before this scandal came out, people assumed Kevin came out of this messed up situation as a successful love able guy and that's why he distanced himself. But obviously he didn't want his remaining family to discover who he really is. The fact that Randy still wants a relationship with Kevin just shows what an amazing guy Randy really is. How about Randy plays Francis underwood! Great interview Randy!
I think pretty much all of us can relate to Kevin Spacey because he was a fantastic actor we thought he was a great man but you can never judge a book by its cover right very well spoken by many people. Sad but true
Within the first 2 min of the interview I could tell Randy is an extremely concise, honest and intelligent man. He is open about his history and himself and that in a way gives him a better understanding of life and reality, versus his brother who although may be more rich and famous, is very hidden/secretive about who he is. I wish Randy all the best, great guy.
IT IS BECAUSE HE WAS BRAVE ENOUGH TO CONFRONT THE TRUTH, NOT THRIVE IN DENIAL AND COMMIT THE SAME CRIMES AGAINST YOUNG PEOPLE HIS FATHER COMMITTED AGAINST HIM!! (MOST PEOPLE, LIKE ME, NEVER SEXUALLY ASSAULT OTHERS, KNOWING THE HORRORS IT CAUSED THEM!!) I SURVIVED THE SAME AS RANDY DID AND HAVEN'T BEEN CRAZY FOR YEARS!! IF ONLY MEN KNEW THE HORROR THEY LOAD ONTO THE BACKS OF CHILDREN AND YOUNG PEOPLE WHEN THEY WANTINGLY AND DELIBERATELY GIVE IN TO THEIR LUST TO USE THEM FOR LIVE SEX TOYS TO SATISFY THEIR SICK FANTACIES!!! THIS HAS TO BE THOUGHT OF AS THE BIGGEST SIN AGAINST GOD, JESUS CHRIST DID SAY, "SUFFER THE LITTLE CHILDREN TO COME UNTO ME~~~~" i DON'T REMEMBER RANDY SAYING HE HAD THERAPY, I DID UNTIL I OVERCAME!!
You say he's just a regular guy and I assumed by that you mean he was very down-to-earth and didn't think he was better than anybody else ... yet he seems to be such an extraordinary person ... so open and genuine ... maybe more open and genuine than the average person . Can you tell us anything about him that shows what an unique or wonderful person he was ?
I'm real emotional listening to this brave survivor talk. I know what its like to be the scapegoat. it's nice he's having a chance to tell his side. Too bad it had to because off such disturbing matter.
What a great interview! "Survivors" aren't always joyful and entertaining. I have a feeling that every minute of a two hour conversation with him would would hold my attention. One of the things that has gotten me this far in Life is humor. His laugh is so genuine that I found myself smiling repeatedly during this vid. I'm pretty sure he would "Get" one of my "Donisms" that has gotten me strange looks over the years. If someone has been hassling me, I've often said: "If I wanted to get sh*t on, I'd spend more time with my family!"
I loved and adored Kevin Spacey so much that I can't even explain and now I fucking hate him. And I adore his brother so much right now... So sad ... Now we know the real face of Kevin smh
This is the same story of so many victims of abuse when it happens within families. Years ago one of my family members came to me and they told me they were being abused by another family member. She was brave enough to share her story with me. My whole family turned on her and eventually I had to disconnect with them as well. I can really relate to this man in so many ways, even down to the mother’s dying wish.
Funny. It made me have more compassion for Kevin Spacey. Because i realize how messed up he is. He might have been raped when Randy wasn't there to protect him.
A very tight hug to you, Randy. This interview got me so emotional and i felt the sincerity, honesty, and love that you have in your heart despite all you've gone through. I experienced different kinds of abuse too but hearing you share this way with all the acceptance and wisdom makes my heart cries with compassion. I hope I could read your book. Wishing you all the best!
Honesty? Wow, who knew? I like this dude. His brother, don't even get me started. Randy, I am sorry for what you had to endure but you seem like an amazing guy, not to mention super intelligent. It was nice to meet you.
You should give Randall Fowler some respect and put his name in the title. Maybe put Kevin Spacey's brother in brackets but please give Fowler some credit on his own
This guy looks like he's in the 1970s. I wasn't going to watch this but after reading all the comments I have to. Just 6 minutes in and I can relate to what he is saying. Sounds a bit like my childhood.
L God bless you. I went through the same thing too. Thank God I am a fierce child protector in spite of my sexual abuse. I made up my mind a long time ago that I don’t want any child to go through the incredible pain I went through.
audio books Thank you for appreciating my empathy for this special man. If u were never abused or scapegoated in your family how do u relate? So interesting that u should say that. I do have deep insights on these types of families for many reasons but I don’t understand why you would want to exchange our family experiences if u have not had any of these experiences. I’m a blogger on YT and have helped some ppl here if they asked me about their own abuse and what they should do. I have shared my abuse with many ppl mostly offline when i was in recovery meetings for my abuse for quite a number of years. Long story. However online I don’t go into specific details of my sexual abuse by my father because it is not necessary for them to get the point. Give me reasons for your interest in my family dynamic and i will get back to you. Best regards.
Yes , irritated me because I would be hanging on to what this guy is saying and sometimes once this guy interrupted him that guy didn't finish what he was originally going to say and I can't stand it when interviewers do that
For someone who went thru' so much hell, he is the sane one. Kevin is extremely damaged. I know first hand that the truth tellers in the sick families are the ones who are the most sane, the survivors. The ones who cannot bare to see the truth or hear the truth or confront the truth are the sickest. These are also the ones who break away from family to avoid the truth.
I'm sorry you and your siblings had to go through those things, and I hope your bother is able to give a more formal sincere, apology to any victims of his harassment / assault.
Randy, I'm so sorry for what you endured with your father and now your brother 😢❤ Look at all that cool stuff in the background! You are a collector and an open person and it's a light! Thank you!
Lucid? Come on man- he’s no different than hundreds of other musicians Ive met. Because he’s not dressed like an old man he is lucid? Whatever. The dude is awesomely cool.
He hasn’t let go of ANYthing. Ive seen it so many times. If I had a dime for every time I’ve been in the presence of this trick of mind, in people who keep insisting (over and over in every conversation) that they have ‘let go’ - oh ! “But I underSTAND it”. As if that was letting go. It’s at him all the time, and he’s filled with resentment - and sentimentality. ‘Sentimentality, the mask of violence ‘- William Blake. It actually is about finding forgiveness. We’re locked in a culture of information and intellectual ‘understanding’ -and we bank so much on these two imposters. And they can’t provide that much.
Amazing person. Very personable and I believe every word he says. It is very common for one sibling to take the most abuse to protect other siblings. I know.
That had got to be the best interview of a celebrity’s relative I’ve ever seen. Trust me I’ve watched plenty. He is so honest and down to earth and is not trying to make a name for himself on his brothers coat tails. I will definitely by the book, even though I always found Kevin Spacey creepy. My instincts were right about him.
I love this guy. He's a goodie he's a mensch. What a beautiful soul to grow up the way he did and turn out so beautiful. I got to say, I also love his style and would like him to show me around his office! Well done, sir!
From now on he's going to be known by his own name as Randy B Fowler and stop being known as Kevin Spacey's brother. This is wisdom, I like him... I want to know more about him, and I'm getting his book. Cheers
What an amazing soul. Healing , not forgiving but accepting. THAT IS TRANSFORMATIONAL and can only happen if you are truly honest with yourself. Amen for his healing because he can show others that are suffering that it can be done
What's interesting is that he has the same speech cadence as his brother. Not the same pitch or tone, but cadence. Particularly in how he pronounces his "r's", "s's" and vowels.
I truly know how you feel! I prayed for a brother like you! GOD bless you ♡ The only difference between us, is I'm a female, and my family puts the D in disfunction!
6onyourside. What is ur name. This interview is so necessary and beautiful. I love this man. I’ve been treated exactly the same as him by my family. Thank u for this so much.
I am sorry for what this man went through in his childhood, surprisingly he managed to survive and be a good hard working man. He always was truthfull maybe that helped.
