If u add a please and real quick (so can you please pass me that piece of paper real quick) ppl will feel more compelled to actually do what you’re asking
The name thing is HUGE, it is very true. Someone's name is the first gift they get in life and they like hearing it. Read the book how to win friends and influence people it teaches this point very well.
After the small favor, you can also add “thanks, you’re the best!” or “omg ily so much” for a bit more important of a small favor (like if the food is too spicy or you need something across the room when it would be very inconvenient for you to have pause what you’re doing/get up)
That guy in the bus: “Ocarina, you forgot your water bottle.” Me: *Yo that’s kinda hot* Edit: guys after I switched schools my friend messaged him on snap and he said the n word so 💀
My great grandpa always wait at least one to two minutes before he would respond and I thought he couldn’t hear me because he had bad hearing that he would give the most philosophical answer ever and I still always cherish all the memories I have of him giving me really good responses to things that I was going through in life he was so wise I miss him so much
Don’t wait too long. I met this girl who legit took 5 seconds to respond and it made me think she was judging me or something, it was really annoying. That trick doesn’t work.
@@aaradhanashrivastava7088 idk what u mean but it not like my name is exactly normal and Deborah is my other name so no one call me by that name and i won't reveal my first name and there a boy with a similar name as me and we both get made fun of so yeh
Love all the funny people weighing in on this. Hilarious!! But I did think about that for a few sec first. Seriously, you have hit the nail on the head again. Because I am a clinical outpatient therapist I am well aware of the vast majority of what you talk about. But I am much older than you, and when I was your age, I would not have been able to articulate those concepts nearly as well as you do!! I really enjoy listening to you. 😊
The name thing is absolutely spot on. My best friend and I were talking about it and we thought we were psychos because we could almost developp à crush for à guy who would say our name at random moments . Guess we're not insane haha
Non sense. Beauty fades. Please don't be so superficial. Nobody is satisfied nowadays. Thanks imitations and social media. If you are attracted to beauty. There is always someone more beautiful than you.
I had a friend who I had a crush on say, “Chardé, what are you doing tomorrow?” I was instantly like 🥰🥰🥰, he said my name? It’s funny because I hadn’t realized how infrequently he said it.
I think the “Benjamin franklin effect” works mostly on guys while “being helped out” on girls. It’s a way for you to make a guy’s day and make him feel like a hero. They like it😊
It’s so easy, as a woman to become a dominant actor in society. This is because there is no great burden of achievement placed on women. So they can learn a few psychological tricks, and they are already at the finish line. A man has to accomplish SO MUCH just to be given a modicum of respect. This is UNREAL!
Help, when my old friend texted me (he’s not my friend anymore he ghosted me and I totally didn’t spend nights crying about it.) whenever he responded late or didn’t reply fast, I thought “oh he’s not interested in this convo” “I’m so boring” “how was he supposed to answer that” or “he definitely doesn’t like me” (as a friend) I really miss him. He was the only person I could talk to and the only person I did talk to.
My guy bsf does all three things to me and it irritates me so much because I told him I prefer to be called by my nickname and also my parents ask me favors 24/7 so I got a lot of stuff to do and then my friend asks me for really big difficult favors and expects me to get it done in two days. And also if he takes too long to reply I’ll literally overthink everything and might not hear what he says, then I ask what he said and he’ll reply “forget about it, never mind” Also sorry for ranting btw, just wanted to prove the tricks don’t work on everyone.
Number 2 only works in the countries where names are used in a conversation. In other countries the effect is opposite. It tends to irritate me somewhat if I hear my name too much.
If youre shy like me, it might be hard to say their name after saying "hey" or "hi". Especially if youre not friends. Make it a small win to say "Hey, name" every time you greet someone. Always reciprocate when they ask "how are you". its better than saying "Im good" and thats all . What i learned from this video: always say "hey name" if you need to get someones attention. For example, "Hey name. could you pass the rice". I taught myself to say "thank you" with a smile instead of "thanks".
1: People don’t want to even do something for me because they know subconsciously they have to like me to do it. 3: Does not necessarily work. It’s just make others feel listened but that doesn’t mean they will like you because of it. They might even feel that you are rude and not interested in them for replying late.
I HATE IT when someone asks me for a favor as if we were close. I can see it from a mile a way that they want to feel I am serving them and I give them a nasty LOOK!
The last past isnt because they’re thinking of what to say to you, yet the person who asked is more likely to want your approval since you act like their question isn’t worth your time. So they want to try harder to get your attention. The more you do it, the more they want to get your attention
i was at a party once and was trying to boost my social skills so i was just going up to random people to talk to them, and on my first try, i made eye contact for a couple of seconds without saying anything, went in for an unprompted dap up, did it wrong and ended up in a minute long handshake with the guy while making intense eye contact the entire time with blank expression on our faces. i don’t think i’ve ever seen someone mess up so bad before
Damn, I can really feel the akwardness, but for real, I'm still proud of you, 'cause I think, that just every social interaction gives us more conversation skills, especially the hard ones
My ex-coworker tried these on me. I saw right through her. Turns out, she was a snake🐍She complained about everything and everyone behind our backs and she ended up getting fired. When being nice comes from a genuine place and not acting manipulative like using these tips, people can tell.
No cos when i was a kid and people called me by my name instead of like heyy or something, my heart used to start pounding so much because I thought I've done something bad but I'm getting better
hearing someone calls my name makes me feel uncomfortable, if you call me by my name I get the idea that you barely know me and because of that I tend to be distant to such people, I personally feel way more comfortable if people just start the conversation with "hey you" or don't use any names, that way it feels that I'm familiar with the person, also when I meet someone I don't call them by their name, I just say "hi, how's going", idk but calling someone by their name feels so intime to me but at the same time I find it intimate and familiar if people refer to me as "you"
