Starting life over at 35... as a divorced single mom 

Girl, I feel ya! At 34 I decided to leave my horrible husband right after we lost our baby. His reaction to that was all I needed to know I was making the right decision to leave. But at 42 I’m now happily married, with 2 amazing step daughters and a husband who is so supportive and amazing. Cheers to coming out a better version of ourselves!

Divorce was the best thing that ever happened to me. The breakthroughs, lessons, growth, self-worth epiphanies, and my strengthened relationship with God was birthed from it. It all works out. 🙏🏾✨✨

I got divorced in 2019 as a 29 year old. Single mom to a 5 year old. I left an 8 year marriage that did not serve me and where I was headed in life! Best thing ever, at the time it was difficult but I’m so happy I did that. I spent 3 years finding myself and not competing to any relationship. Today I am married to the man of my dreams, with another child 6 month old and my 10 year old from previous marriage. I am an entrepreneur, with a very supportive husband. We live on a 5 acre land living my version of happiness today.

As a child of divorce, I can say that what matters is not the divorce, but how your parents choose to live their lives and work on themselves afterwards. Your path to loving yourself again is the best thing you can do as a parent. I've been feeling lost in life and really resonate with your struggles in your 30s - watching you gives me hope that I can learn to love life again. You're glowing inside and out!!

"Not starting over. Starting new" New book. New chapter. New you! You got this. This will be a new happy you. Stay strong, focus, and happy. You got this! ❤

I was diagnosed with cancer just before my 30th birthday while I was TTC and it's completely changed my perspective on life. How I show up to work, how I view friendships, how I plan to live the rest of my life, etc. I know I would have looked back on my death bed regretting so much if this hadn't had happened to me. It's crazy what divine things have to happen to make us realize happiness isn't in things, it's in experiences with the people around us and in our mindsets

I started over FROM SCRATCH at 53 and left with nothing except for what fit in my car. It was hard, but it made my stronger and happier!

I left my husband of 12 years last year...he put me and my kids through hell...and then i found out he did the unforgivable 😢 We are starting over as a family. Today I turn 33.

Starting over is scary especially when you’re in your thirties, but it’s the best thing to do if you’re in an impossible marriage. I divorced at 36 , got lots of therapy, worked on myself and then I dated for a couple of years (that was not fun! The pool of eligible men had changed quite drastically compared to what I was used to when I was younger). I finally met a wonderful man and remarried at 39 and have had two healthy babies with him. Although it didn’t feel likely at the time, anything is possible. Never give up on yourself and expect to be unconditionally loved by your partner and always walk away from anyone who has your dealbreakers. Good vibes and good luck to you!

I feel this to my deepest core. I also got married at 25, same reason. A check box. I also had an an awakening once my son was born. I also had a rough postpartum, i had open heart surgery after my son's birth. I will also be 35. And now going through divorce. I see so much of myself in you. Thank you for this video.

Wow, I'm really impressed by how you were able to describe your journey - with clarity and confidence, while conveying the raw sheer pain you experienced for so long, acknowledging the role your culture, society, relationship, and even your own decision making played in the process, while also not tearing anyone (including your former self!) down and instead channeling all the pain into your own growth and love for your child. That really speaks to your growth, compassion, and maturity. Congratulations, and thank you for sharing.

Having a baby and another life to think about really changes EVERYTHING. I’m so proud of you for taking that leap and having the courage to choose yourself and chase happiness. My first baby was also born on Feb 20th and let me tell you… after I had her there was this huge flush of clarity and desire to protect that little baby that I cut out so many toxic family members like my own dad. So you go girl, I’m rooting for you!! ❤

We are so worried how we look to other people that we end up so miserable in making ourselves shiny on the outside all to realize years down the line…no one cares. No one literally cares. They only care if it benefits them or your life provides gossip for them. Why work so hard for other ppl? Do you girl. ❤

You are one STRONG mama!!! I am so excited for your new chapter in life. Sending you LOTS of love❤❤❤

I cried hearing your story, It must be really tough to go through all of this alone, take care of yourself during this challenging time. Your well-being is important

Happy to see you back. I have been there, starting over with a little one is tough but just know that baby sees you and one day he’s going to thank you for choosing yourself and your happiness to be the best mommy for him ❤ cheers to you!!

I’m turning 35 next month and I am a newly single mama too 🤯🤯 Omg I needed this video so bad it’s so inspiring and positive and is helping me feel like this is such an amazing new chapter instead of feeling like a failure. I’ve never seen your videos I literally just looked up “single mom have faith” lol. Thank you so much 🙏🏻 I resonate with so much of what you say. I cried when you talked about your love for your son because I feel the same way about my son. My son makes me want to be the best version of myself so I can give him the best life and ever since I was pregnant with him I have completely changed my entire life. I would love if you posted more about your journey with your son what your daily routine looks like with him and what you’re discovering about yourself in this new freedom you have 🧚🏻‍♀️🩵🙏🏻

When I subscribed to you, it was because of your style. Nowadays it’s more about your incredible personality! Excited what the future has in store for you!

You are awesome! These things happen. Nothing harder and more satisfying than being a mother. Just that gives you that super strength. Blessings to you.

Oh girl, the best is yet to come! 🎉. I turned 48 this month. Every year I toast to no longer being in my 20s. 😂 Thirties were great, and 40’s have been even better. ❤ It broke my heart when you said you just realized that you are worthy of being loved. YOU ARE!!! 🥰 And now that you finally know that, no one can ever take it away from you! That knowledge is going to shape your life in every single way. ❤Can’t wait to get to know the authentic you! God bless you! 🤗💗

Erica!! Thank you first for sharing your story. We have parallel trajectories and those expectations can cause us to deviate from our true paths. This experience hurts, but then that pain is replaced with moments of joy, new memories with your loved ones and the journey of discovering yourself. Here's to a new chapter 🎉

I’m so proud of you. You’re coming to a place in finding who you are at 35. That is something it takes many women years to get to. Go you!! And look at how brave you are! Go you!!

You go, girl! So eloquently expressed! We are all behind you.

You have incredible courage and you have done what I wished I had. You are still young. I can say that because I’m 65years old. Was concerned because there were no posts for a while. Really looking forward to your future content. You’re a good person and you’re amazing.

Been here since the beginning. You can totally see the light in your eyes! Wow, what a journey and what an amazing grasp on the situation you were able to have at each point. Each moment of realization and then growth! Very excited for you. True inner peace ! Amen 🙏🏼

Thanks Erica for sharing your story! I’m so happy you are thriving and so empowered now. Your story is also validating to me as a 27 year old woman who has been mostly single but focused on my goals and happiness. I’ve had a lot of low moments questioning whether I’ve had my priorities straight due to the constant societal pressure to have been married and have kids by now.

rooting for you! i've been following your content for a few years now, and you've always been a source of inspriation - like an older sister. in fact - you're part of the reason why i started this new account! in any case, you've got us in your corner. cheers to you!

Sending you lots of strength to you and your son 💕. I got divorced and never looked back - best decision ever to change the course of my life. Go you!!! Here’s to your future 🙌 xx

Been watching you since my senior year of high school and I’m now almost 30. I know what you mean by feeling societal pressure to achieve milestones by a certain time. You inspire me Erica, and thank you for continually sharing your life with us. I’m rooting for you!! 😊❤❤

You’ve made it through 100% of EVERYTHING that has happened in your life! How powerful is that?! You are amazing and that sweet boy is so blessed to have you as his mommy! They say that God gives his toughest battle to his strongest soldiers and you are a testament to that.

I am so very proud of you, Erica! As a divorce attorney, I am all too familiar with the all-out wars and then the peace that comes after divorce! Sending light and all my love to you and Clark! God bless you now and always! Keep your head up! Keep going! xoxo

I’m so proud of you sissy! Thank you for sharing your story to the world. It takes courage and we admire your strength and resilience through your journey. We are staying tuned for Erica 2.0. Unleash the best version of yourself. The best is yet to come. Get it girl!

I like how you said I GET to reinvent myself (something along those lines). Shows you are truly embracing the growth mindset and not seeing it as a hindrance.

Thank you so much for being so transparent, so happy to see that you are in a better place 💕 your son is so lucky to have such a strong mom. Can’t wait to see future content 💕

that made me tear up. you’re new version is so inspiring. i’m glad i saw your video! i’m subscribing!!!!

I’m about to turn 30 and have been in a slump lately. I feel very identified with your story ❤

Thank you for sharing. This is going to help so many women make that decision to leave or start over. I am a mom of two and I tell you, your child or children will push you to make those changes because you are now living for them. I wish you only the best going forward. To a happy and healthy life; you deserve it. ❤❤❤

What an uplifting video! Whether you’re in a bad relationship, looking for general life inspo, etc. This video was awesome, and what all of us need to hear, especially women! Thanks for putting this out there, and I hope you continue to do so and share on your journey. ❤ Wishing you all the best.

I’ve been patiently waiting for you to come back 🥹♥️ thank you for being so honest and thank you for sharing your journey with us. Love you girl! ♥️

this is the first video i've seen of yours, but I see your growth and empowerment through the trials and tribulations. Extremely empowering for those that go through super hard times, including the "embarrassment" of divorce when you're asian and have put your life online. I'm really happy for you that you came through the other side. You did good

Your journey resonates with me so much, you are not alone. I cant wait to see your new content! And more importantly, how much you grow from this, i can already tell its going to be an amazing new life ✨ I would love to continue seeing more of your glow up journey and all the things youve learned along the way.

You go, girl! So happy to watch this video and not only see, but feel how free and happy you really are!

Thank you for sharing your story ❤ I’m thrilled you are back and better than ever!! Sending love and positive vibes your way!!

Wow, easily one of the most inspiring talks, ever. Authentic, raw, and vulnerable. What gift you have and such a great content gift for all of us. Appreciate you empowering others to feel like this is all ok.

Round of applause Erica!! I'm so very proud of you and looking forward to seeing more growth and prosperity in the future ❤

So happy you're back! Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story ❤ I'm so excited to see where you go! I've been following you since I was in my 20's getting ideas for what to wear to work! Now I get to watch you in my 30's as I figure out my new life as a mom! I'd love to hear anything you'd have to say on transitioning to Mamahood 💕

Omg I got out of 6 year relationship at 35 and it was the best thing ever. I feel sooo at peace now and found my true self! Good for you!

So happy to see you again! so happy to see how confident you are. Congratulations for making it through a very difficult decision and time. Looking forward to all of your upcoming content.!!!! XO

This genuinely brought tears to my eyes; tears of agony at seeing your pain and understanding your emotions (I have a similar story), and tears of joy for the freedom you now have to experience YOUR life, consciously, lovingly, and fully. Erica, you are a truly beautiful soul. You are an inspiration!

Girl, this was such an inspirational video!! You didn’t let materialistic things and a fake façade get in the way of living a free, peaceful and happy life!! Sooooo happy for you!!

Wow! I loved your energy in this video. I love seeing women come out on top of difficult situations in life and with immeasurable amounts of self-love. Congratulations on finding yourself and your new journey ❤

I am 31 and will soon be divorced. I've been married to my husband for 7 years, and 6/7 years have been HARD. He has suffered from addiction for over half of his life, and my son & I have greatly suffered from it as well. He's been in and out of addition, in and out of jail/prison, and recently has gone back to jail for drug possession again. And this was the last I could take, after everything we've been through. I have compassion for him, and still will be his friend, but I cannot be his wife anymore. This hurts so much - I invested so much of myself into him and our relationship all these years, tried to be the best wife, and I've lost myself. I know divorcing and moving on is the best for me and our son, even though it is very painful. I am looking forward to healing, and building a life that is good for me and my son. I am looking forward to peace and freedom. And I'm looking forward to one day having a real, healthy relationship with a strong, whole, healthy man who will love me and my son. Thanks for sharing your story. 💛

The intro of this video hit home. I hear you, I went through the same at 37. I will be 40 in two weeks, looking back in wonder (and shudders as well TBH) as everything that's transpired. But we are here, starting anew, strong women, great mommas, doing our very best every day. I honor you and your courage, thanks for sharing your story with us.

So proud of all you’ve been through and where you are going. You are an inspiration. You are amazing!

Been there, done that! Sounds like you learned so much about yourself and that is everything. You are beautiful, strong, and smart and you are just getting started! To you! I raised my son alone - he is my pure joy always! Sounds like you also recognize this gift! Best wishes!

I feel you so hard. I hit rock bottom a couple of times in the last couple of years but hoooo I am a frickin’ Phoenix, and my peace/freedom/creativity/son/family is what I am FERAL for. I am happy you are claiming your life, healing, and sharing the journey with us. Thank you ❤

You have given me such courage for the journey I have been stressing for a literal decade of doing - thank you!

I am so happy for you and so in awe of your strength. I’m excited for this new chapter in your life and can’t wait to see where life takes you. Sending love and positive vibes your way ❤

Love this for you!!! Thank you for sharing. I went through my own divorce journey not that long ago and can empathize with all of what you said. I felt I had completely lost myself and then as I was finding myself I realized I had no idea what my style was. I worked with a personal stylist. She helped me figure out my style and empowered me to shop on my own. It felt great to be able to embrace my body and love myself again ❤ thank you again!

Hey Erika! Just wanted to say, your journey from a tough, long-lasting divorce to now embracing life with peace is truly inspiring. Your strength and resilience shine through, and it's been amazing watching you bloom. Sending you so much positive energy on this beautiful new chapter! Keep shining 🌸💪✨

Erica! I’m loving the vibe and your energy is blazing positivity! I can’t wait for the new content! Sending you lots of love!

Women like you inspire so many. Sharing your story is brave and difficult. But it is so beautiful to see how happy and fulfilled you’ve become ❤ Similar to you, it took several horrible tragedies for me to find the confidence to work on my happiness above all. But like you said, it’s all worth it!!! ❤ I can’t wait to see what your next chapters will look like.

THANK YOU for sharing this. You are so inspirational and I take comfort in all your life’s realisations ❤ so excited for your new chapter!

Erica, thank you for sharing ❤. You have gone through some though years, and I wish you all the best in finding yourself and your own life. You are on an exciting journey!

Thank you for your transparency, your strength and your wisdom ❤I went through something similar .I got married young at 22 and left that toxic relationship and now I’m remarried to the love of my life! I’m 36 years old now and a proud mom and I never regret that decision I made.

My life started when I had my son at 36 years old ❤ your perspective changes when you become a parent. Divorce is like grieving a death. That’s the only way I can explain it.

Thank you for sharing your story. It is great to see you so happy, excited, and energized! Can’t wait to see the amazing things in store for you in this new chapter of life 😀🎉🎉

YAS hunty! the inspiration is contagious. thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story!!

Yassss queeen!!!! This video had me in the feels. I’m so happy you’re back. I can’t wait to start watching your journey again. Cheers to you Erica! 🥂

I’m so proud of your growth. Enjoy the Beauty while you are growing. The journey is the prize. Keep sharing your journey as a series called finding me or loving all of me. We are like flowers, we grow then bloom. Eventually our soils needs to be replaced or we need to be replanted. You have now replanted yourself for your growth and new blossoming journey. Every season this happens. Yours is now. Excited to see you grow and blossom. Stay blessed. Peace and blessings. ❤

❤❤❤ so much love for you!! Rooting for your happiness!!

This was amazing. I'm so thrilled for you that you get this opportunity to start anew with everything you learned through this process. You look and sound unstoppable. 💗💓💗

Yasss…cheering you on this whole video! I love your fashion vids but even more I loved any organization (travel, packing, bujo) content. You got me hooked to Bullet Journaling 5 years ago!

Erica, thank you so much for sharing this with us. Such grace, courage, and beauty you are. I really appreciate your vulnerability. You sound so healed and confident. So much love for you!! ❤❤❤

Congratulations on getting through the trials and tribulations! And thank you for sharing that with us. Can't wait to see what you have in store. Girl, the best is yet to come! And can only get better from here! Woo!

Welcome back dear. Missed your videos a lot. I am so happy to see you feeling strong and free. Sending you and the baby lots of love. ❤

Wow! Sorry to hear that you went through all of that but really happy you are moving forward. Thank you for sharing to encourage us. All the best! Keep pursuing what you want to do xxx

I’m happy your back! ready for the your next season ❤

Your story is so empowering and I’m so happy you shared it! I love the zest you have for you new life now and all the best for you and your son!

Thanks for doing this video. This video gives everyone who are going through the process a lot of courage and reminder that we as woman are stronger than we think.

I’ve been here since you started, and I’m just going to say I’M SO PROUD OF YOU!

I love this new and empowered you! I have been following you from almost the beginning of your RU-vid journey here and I'm so glad I stuck around

You are amazing. I truly believe everything you went through was meant to bring you to this point and to make you a mother to that very special and adorable human. Wish you nothing but the best. I don’t think you need to chase happiness anymore, you’ve found it!

Thanks for sharing your journey! We are the same age and I have been following you for several years, so I can tell you're incredibly strong, valuable and inspiring woman. Happy for your new beginning LET'S TAKE THE NEXT STEP! 💜

I absolutely love you! Watching you grow throughout the years and I couldn’t be more proud 💗

Been watching your videos for quite a few years. I know that it’s not an easy phase but just wanted to drop by that you are amazing and I wish you all the peace and love on earth!

Wow... Thank you for sharing you're story. I really needed this as I'm going through the same thing. Single mom at 38 with an almost 4 year old and walking away from a very toxic relationship. I would love to see more videos like this ❤

Just clicked on this video, I pray blessings and happiness for you 😊 I know I cannot relate but I know you inspire a lot of women who just got divorced or being single, thank you

So happy for you! I found your channel years ago because I was reinventing my style. Then I started teaching a course for young ladies about work and how to dress for work. Guess who's videos I showed them? You stand as an inspiration not only for me but many young ladies who are now women in the professional field with a sense of great style. Thank you! I look forward to this next chapter. 🎉

We all put a lot of pressure on ourselves,but you will do great,now you know what you want❤❤i am happy you are back..

This is what I wished I heard when I was younger!! This is great of you to share ❤ So excited for your future!

Thank you so much for being sooo honest! I feel like so many people due to family or culture has to walk by there standards. Not their own. I am 38 and I do feel like at 35 you’re truly growing and in the 30’s is when most people should get married so I do have a lot of friends who had been divorced and are now with partners they know they want to grow old with. I personally went from being a hustler single mom for years and now that I’m married to my second husband I now want to be a stay at home mother. Just know things change in life all the time. Ladies learn to love and grow with and in every season in your life. Give yourself a good amount of grace and remember no one knows everything and the things you do know teach the next generation of women to help them. ❤❤❤

I am sorry you had to go through all that pain... But girl... You are GLOWING and your soul is shining through ✨

Thank you so much for this video I have been struggling after a 5 year relationship. I’m in the midst of the after break up and it’s soo difficult. I’m so glad to see you happy I found you when you were doing bullet journal

So good to see you again! I have been looking for you on RU-vid now and then! The very last time was just yesterday! So happy that you are happy!

I’m so happy for you, Erica! You deserve the best. You’re doing a GREAT job being a mom. Peace and time is very important. Can’t wait to see what is in store in the near future! #newlifebaby🎉

THANK YOU SO MUCH for sharing your story. I have a similar story and I don't feel so alone now!! It takes so much courage to choose your own path, Rather than the path society expects of you. I applaud all the single moms out there carving their own path. You are the strongest humans on the planet. Love to all 💞

Wow, this put so much into perspective. I met this guy when I was 22 and broke up by 25. Obviously we talked about marriage and I was bummed I hadn't hit that milestone. I also felt so dumber wasting 3 years of my life with someone who made me less happy every day but luckily at the time I was able to think well it could be worse it could be 4 or even 5 years. Looking back on it everything that has happened since the break up has been awesome, especially getting to know myself again 💕

Thank you for sharing! For those of us who have been in relatable experiences, it helps to hear and share with others. Social media can give the impression of perfect lives and cause a depression of comparison. Knowing that we are all living real lives and making it through helps, and inspires people in the pits of to know there is a light at the end of it.

Content I need: more of this. Passion, compassion, gratitude, self-inventory, perspective taking, love, and 🔥. Congratulations on reclaiming yourself, your story, your love. It really was something I needed to hear.