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You see Stephan you know it’s gonna be a banger. Side note: the intro is soooo true. We do do that, that’s why I had to stop daydreaming and release expectations. It’s not fair to hold someone to a fantasy that you made up in your mind. It’s actually insane.
I really felt what Chris said on a different level. Ever since I’ve been on my healing journey I can’t help but to notice whenever I have a conversation with someone, a guy or girl I’m instantly thinking “You need to heal.” Or “You’re damaged.” Typically all it takes is one conversation. It’s so crazy because you start to see really those who are damaged so easily once you start putting in the work and bettering yourself. You took the words right out of my mouth. I blame Stephan too😂😂😂
Yes 🙌🏾 and people act like you’re trying to be perfect like nah I’m just trying to be BETTER. If I lead the way and put in the work as a man to heal and become high character and high value I just want the reciprocation of that
He said the key thing: Women want high value men but are not doing what's required of them. They are not making themselves prepared for them.💯💯 It is easy to say you want something or somebody but you are not setting your intentions inbthe right place.
I don't blame the guy for not wanting me, I appreciate the honesty. But, it's the guy that lies and makes it seem like he wants you, tells you he wants you, but then doesn't back it up with action over time. Those are the ones that are a problem. If you're not interested, walk away. Men and women.
Totally agree, it's hard out here because some will even do the "actions" for a period of time but once they got you.....its game time for some of these dudes. You have to be really objective and see the subtle cues that show their character
@@jamalmuhammad06 No, the problem is not that some choose to believe that the spoken word should be truthful. The problem is that some have no integrity. Blame the victimizer not the victim.
@@colossalbear2037 no that's people's problems, you always want to blame other people. Both sides take blame. You can't control someone elses actions. As an adult you need to realize that this person doesn't mean what they say they mean, and that's when you need to walk away. If woman says that like me and their actions don't prove it I just stop talking to them. I'm not going to get upset and blame them for anything
As a Pastors kid that was a tough line to balance when I got to college. I never wanted to go out, go to the college parties, or kickbacks in fear of how I would be perceived or if its not Christ like. Years later I wish I had just gone and had fun in moderation.
It wasn’t a part of your already scripted Journey. God doesn’t write for every one to have the same experience. Some folk He keeps out because there are devices for the flesh that can consume some. Then He built some to experience and to be drawn out. In order for each to have a great testimony of what blessings came from such exposure and being called out; and what safety was provided for never going.
As a straight women- who is a christian- not all women look up to married women with families and not all women fantasize about being married with children. I personally look up to women that have been professionally successful. I enjoy my independence!
Do you know that you have an admirer from Kazakhstan?! Im female 25 y.o. and muslim, your advises are so relevant, cant stop watching your content, bless you
Forget those haters!!! I listened to Stephan and Roommates and it made me believe and remember again that there are Godly good men out there. Now I just got married in January because I let go of what I thought was out there and allowed the right person to come way.
This entire interview was gold. The last few minutes however were most def meant for me to hear. I was hurt "ego" by a job who fired me not because I did what I was accused of but because it was the easiest soultion for the company. And I was saying things like never again. But I had to change that mindset because in a weak move I basically gave them the power over who I am. I let them remove who I know in my mind and my works to a lower level because they truly hurt me. I was walking in weakness and at moments I didn't even recognize myself in the mirror most mornings. It took friends, my mentor and actually my current boss and her best friend who was my boss before I took the other job that I was fired from to pull me back up. They saw in me, a high value, high character black man that I didn't even see in myself. I had already been operating on that high level and didn't even know it. I've done the work of self-reflection and true healing so that I will not continue damaged by the experience in order to operate at a better level. I thank God for them, the messages of encouragement from the Roommates channel and of course Stephan. Be blessed!!!
I appreciate a different topic for those of us who leveled up and no longer struggle with having options in terms of dating. Hopefully that's a lot of us here, and the encouragement to keep at it despite ending up as the "bad guy anyway" is much appreciated. My purpose is 100% to bring value and be a positive influence in the women i date, but as you said just because that may be one of the best dating experiences they've had with a guy that doesn't guarantee things will move forward or that they will get a second chance, especially not when they come back to you years later lol. It's just dating, even it it's with purpose it may not lead anywhere and that's something that more often than not they will come to resent. But keep at it boys, don't change, even when things don't work out it will never be as bad as when you date without empathy and choosing who you date carefully. No false allegations, no slashed tires, because you are not adding fuel to no fire.( Good topic for another conversation )
I love the way you put you were at a lower level making excuses for red flags. Explains some of the people I've dated. Now that I am seeking to be a high value man I am working on being the best man of character with continual growth. Thank you.
This is the reason why I can relate to these guys. Because they realize everyone has their own personal walk with The Most High Elohim. This is the difference between Religion and a Relationship with The Most High. That you know inwardly when your honoring your walk with Yahweh or when your doing the wrong thing vs. Letting the world or the church tell you what is right or wrong. When you walk with Elohim you know that He gave us a gift of discernment. I have even more respect for The Roommates now that I know that they realize this. Thanks Roommates for spreading the Knowledge. Y'all keep doing well Brothers.
Tbh after listening to this podcast consistently for about a month, I realized today I don't want to be in the 1% of men. The stress of life and money that comes with it is to much and frankly seems unenjoyable for a guy like me. I think I'm gonna aim to just finish my degree and live a comfortable life with purpose. To all the guys out their not every one can be the best but every one can love them selve for who they are and want they want to be. Just my two cents
It’s funny you say that. After consistently listening I finally came to the realization I don’t care about having a high value man, but my desire for a high character man has gotten stronger and more intentional.
Thats a big step. knowing what life you want and actively making your own decision. Don't let anyone shame you into say that's a bad choice, you know what you want and thats good. Best of luck on your journey.
Huge respect to you. It takes a lot of courage to say that and the reason behind that decision makes you better in itself. Everyone’s not the same and knowing what you want is so critical. Good luck in your future endeavors!
This was SPOT ON to what I feel I’m dealing with. I was not raised in the church but in the party scene. Thank God He found me but again that’s all I know. It’s a battle because I am out under the influence many times but I am going deep with someone about God. I feel so bad because I feel like a hypocrite but it was good to hear Stephan say don’t worry about the rules keep working on building that relationship with God and He will handle the rest. Very good topic, this one. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I think it’s okay to have a good time as a Christian. But, I think we do have to be careful with the appearance of evil in that we are not becoming a stumbling block for a weaker brother or sister in Christ.... be in the world but not of it.
So true! I remember saying to Hafeez that it’s just so difficult for someone who’s attractive, financially comfortable, and actively working on themselves to date! There aren’t many viable options. Being 100% single is actually better than talking to someone who’s not on the same level.
I'm at -33:30 already knowing that Stephan is a gem but he comes through with the sensible facts every time... Healing is work, it has it's difficulties but it's totally worth it for a proud, productive, and progressive life. Taking your life seriously has so many benefits and it makes it easier to unwind for enjoyment.
You guys are awesome! I love your content. I’m married already but I still listen and learn something new from each video I watch. I’m recommending your channel to everyone I know. ALL young men needs to hear your message. Keep up the positivity.
I was raised as a pastor’s kid so I know how the people in the church can be super judgmental. My mother was a pastor and basically just taught me key things to build my relationship with God, however she wanted me to enjoy my life when I went to college( party, me new people, explore restaurants, etc.) In the Bible, I believe it does speak on enjoying the fruits of your labor. Enjoy life while working hard. People who are judgmental are the ones who wish they had the courage to step out and do what you guys are doing. Do you have to watch what enters into your spirit and has a negative influence on you...Yes! But everyone is different. This was a great video!
As a Ambassador for Christ, a Pastor gives an account for the souls that God has assigned to that person. As a Pastor and parent, you must instill to live as God instructs and to remember the teaching of Godly principles. Train up a child in the way they shall go, so when they are older they will not depart from it. The book of Proverbs is the Wisdom book. If you’re a Pastor and you raise your child and say enjoy life 🤔🤔, that’s not how God operates. Yes we have free will, yet as a parent and as one that’s to be a leader like that. Umm, nah. Because it’s written that if we see another headed in the wrong direction that can kill them, and we don’t warn them of the dangers, if they die, their blood is on our hands. 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ Study the Word for yourself, rightly dividing the Word Of Truth... The religious folk are judgmental and the non Spiritual that have no relationship are unfamiliar with God and His ways. And I’m Speaking as one who operates in All 5 Offices Of God. Y’all folk just say anything and it isn’t pleasant to The Father.😔
@@Chevonne8 yep they are I’m with u being self righteous is a sin too. Everyone has their moments and struggles. EVERYONE. No one is perfect if Jesus was tempted then we definitely can have our struggles. It’s just some of these “righteous “ people don’t have a platform and people judging them through content so it’s easy to look all great and perfect
I have done the healing and am on Stephan's 6th book he wrote. He is a very good coach. I hope I can reach as many people he has when I move into the mental health field. And as far as cooking....I can and have helped my grandmother in the kitchen since I was 9. I even had a guy asked if I can cook and I told him yes, and I asked him what is his favorite thing to eat.
Oh man I totally understand the whole "if you don't marry who you date, you become the bad guy"... I get that so often when trying to get to know someone. People fall head over heels so fast! God bless you guys for having to deal with this on a higher level than most and for wanting to handle things with INTEGRITY. I love this! Thank you for openly sharing and being transparent. Well done.
This podcast is my favorite podcast the energy and content that you both bring is so fun specially Chris laugh 😆 lol. Keep it going!! Don’t let the judgement get to you all
Being good is not good enough, that man has to choose to be with you and that’s sometimes a hard pill to swallow but as a truly good woman I will never tarnish someone’s character it’s hard but you have to take it for what it is and hold on to your integrity because it’s easy to get in our feelings and feel less than...I mean if you know you did nothing wrong but there was just no connection just move on and stay good ❤️ I feel the same way of being a high value woman sometimes it’s difficult for me to tell women don’t be a scammer, dont just have sex for money, don’t hyper sexual, be feminine etc without stating how difficult it is, it’s disheartening at times but I have hope that it’ll be worth it... but at the current moment i haven’t succeeded in marriage it’s like how can I say you can have what you want and be of high integrity when it’s like hoes slick winning lol it’s a struggle all together but I’m staying true to what I believe in so it gotta happen
@@ethannaka1822 I stated I have not succeeded at marriage meaning I’ve never been married, but I never stated that being married would make me feel successful. I’m still successful in life but I’d be lying if I stated I didn’t want a partner, why should I be ashamed to say, I desire to operate in my feminine energy and love a man I’m not a woman that’s going to be satisfied with only my financial gain, community service and friendships,... Is that wrong?
@@nakialicreates it's not wrong. but the way you wrote your comment seemed as if you were jealous of other women even if they scammed / were unfaithful in a marriage. So to me it implied that being married is the ultimate way of showing if a woman is successful in life.
@@ethannaka1822 oh lol Nawl I’m not jealous of them I be trynna knock some sense into girls like that but they be focused making they points ( i.e. i got a man and you don’t, or get what you want out of these men cause they not gone do right by you anyways, etc) ! I guess it’s like they be trynna shame the feminine women and I’m like it’s a difficult route but the most righteous path is always the hardest to follow but the most rewarding so I’m sticking to this way, if I don’t ever get a man I’m still going to be pleased with myself ya know
I am 43 yrs old and at this age I look up to kind and compassionate married couples which is very few, hardly any.😳 This trumped the wealthy professionals or even people who are in the place I’d like to be professionally. This changed at age 40. Late because I was stubborn and delusional like lost men & women are. No one wants to die alone. 🤷🏻♀️ You are right, domestic skills are lost.
Wow this episode just like all the others really hit home please continue to bring Stephan speaks on as many times as you guys can because he’s always hitting home with these messages just like you guys do regardless of a guest
Wow this was as usual one of the best videos I've watched this year. I have been treated exactly like you have mentioned. I've had women create false narratives, create stories in their heads or just make up things. And yes you are correct I stopped immediately talking to her. I have grown because I would have gone back and forth back in the day. Thanks everyone for this video blessings 🙏🏾
Thank you Stephan for clearing this up. You definitely touched on the relationship that we have with God. I just felt like going to the club is tempting and putting yourself in that situation makes it 10 times harder to negate the corruption. However, you’re right about touching those in the club who need the guidance and direction. Keep putting out great content. Much respect ✊🏾
I really needed to hear this....on your path of life, not everyone will walk with you and even some that you thought were supportive will leave your side...but as long as your right with yourself it doesn’t matter.
I love the vlog personally and it was good to see y'all coming together and being able to party together. ( Enjoying the fruits of your labor) I was happy y'all let us inside to see it!
I respect u again u are spitting facts. Masculine and Feminine have their own unique power. I want my women feminine there’s nothing wrong with that. Keep doing that.
Thank you for another great video. I've never been to the club not out of social awkwardness but out of uncertainty if it would be a good place. I have no issues with people going to the club as long as the person's being responsible.
1:19:54 this conversation was so powerful. I was hesitant to watch this video because I don't consider myself high value yet (as I'm still in graduate school) but something told me to watch this video and I am so glad I did. Great conversation and great video. Love you three fr. For the conversation about the video in the club, I think I'm starting to understand it. Personally, I'm not the type to be in that environment but that doesn't mean I should assume the people who are don't have the self-control to act in a Godly manner. MY question to you is how do you discern between making a false-assumption vs actually ignoring a red flag? (Just like you were in the past, I've been hurt and through this healing process am very cautious on who I let into my life). P.S. Anyone feel free to respond if you feel confident you have an idea what I'm talking about.
I think because unfortunately a lot of people are damaged in various ways that conflict in a relationship. They take the damaged character to someone else, there forth is the beginning of relationship issues. I think so many of us need therapy and can greatly benefit from it. I have personally made a promise to myself to never settle with a woman who doesn't see the advantage of us both having some therapy together however ready we think we are. For me it shows you are serious and determined not to let subconscious and conscious habits and shortcomings affect the union.
When you said the sheep tried to blame you guys for them going astray, it made me think of you guys as shepherds. Honestly, I think when sheep(the people) blame the shepherd for going astray, its because they lack the discipline to stay with the pack that is being guided by the shepherd. Message to you two(Hafeez and Chris) and Stephan: You can't watch all of our moves(the subs who view your content). You can only guide us through the videos you use to help us evolve and get better as people. The shepherd(or in this case shepherds) must not go astray to save one sheep that decided to go off on it's own. If you do, then the rest of the pack fall off course. Your job is to lead the sheep. You're all doing a great job. Just continue to lead and guide us. Just like God does with those who lose faith in him, he doesn't go after us. He lets us make our own decisions. Only without him do we realize how much we need him. Let your presence be felt in their absence when they are absent from your presence.
Appreciate the Work You guys do! It's the older generation that tries to continue this traditional mindset where you can't have fun! It's sad. But I just wanted to say I appreciate you guys frfr! God Bless!
If you all are going to be a public figure, you MUST release your need to worry about what others think. What matters is what GOD thinks and what you think about yourself. This will definitely be an area of growth for both of you, Chris and Hafeez. It’s definitely a part of your healthy masculine manhood journey.💯😉
Wow Hafeez and Chris are some of the nicest guys out here!!! You guys do not disrespect or degrade Women.Hey Stephen L.👏👏👏👏 Ladies your image matters, be feminine, wise and confident..
PEOPLE need to keep leveling up YOU GUYS ARE NOT THE ROOMMATES and Stephan you Hafeez and Chris and all the other GREAT GUYS you are people and you do have lives.
I will say that it takes strong individuals to withstand the temptations that come from the party environment. I only know a few people who could curb the temptations. I know far more people who made life long terrible decisions when they were hardcore partying. So, I think The critique of partying is veryyyy legitimate, but if you’re strong enough you shouldn’t be condemned for it. I will also say that I think the people critique the women being in the video because of the comments that Chris makes at the beginning beginning of the vlog video. (when he shows his room and insinuates that that’s where the magic happens). I fully support the fun... no problems at all, but I think that’s where people are coming from
What are your thoughts on men ghosting women? I’m a woman in my early 50’s and my expectations of men my age is a higher level. I feel ghosting is immature and rude. If I don’t find a connection, I’ll let him know. I don’t want to waste his time and definitely not mine. Good ol’ fashion respect and dignity.
