Stephan Labossiere Talks Dating Multiple People, Myths On Falling In Love + More

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@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

Thank you all for your support and checking out this episode! Be sure to check out our previous episodes via any podcast streaming services, soundcloud.com/theroommatespodcast.

@deannab4175 5 лет назад

The Roommates Podcast this was awesome 👏.. touched on so many important topics.. great work.

@harrietpierre403 5 лет назад

Hi there was a show you that you guys had that featured a women talking about women cheat more. I saw a small clip but wanted to watch the full clip where can i find it

@dequantissmith4670 5 лет назад

The Roommates Podcast where is the podcast women cheat more then men seen a clip but no video

@xavierevans3147 5 лет назад

I definitely needed to see this 💯

@chaniera87 5 лет назад

Hey guys! whats your location? I think we should collaborate on a podcast episode, check me out on itunes search uncommon women and email me so we can connect

@christianyannick4048 5 лет назад

Each time he drop knowledge and they say “ hmmmmm” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

Haha it was great stuff lol

@whoknew5940 5 лет назад

🤣 So true. I found myself "hmmmmm"ing right along with them. It was funny when I realized it. 🤣

@Chanelfairclough 5 лет назад

I was thinking the same thing. I think they should write their questions down next time. 😁😂😫

@appetite4chic878 5 лет назад

Kouassi Christian that’s how you know he dropping jewels lol

@thedavisdimension 5 лет назад

I hate that shit😀

@ladycoble389 5 лет назад

“The right women will stand apart from the rest”. That part. Amen.

@mngwanamngwana4790 5 лет назад

@faith umuk the right men do notice

@SWIFTzTrigger 4 года назад

@faith umuk I think barely any stand apart nowadays

@miguelma3237 4 года назад

once you're used by many machos, you desgust men! a 25yo woman has 10 year of rotation and 25yo is the peak of fertility and estogen for a woman after that it's all going down(it's science). So men just pump and dump!!! If a woman does not give herself to men when she is between 16 and 25 which is the range in time where fertility and beauty is a its peak, from there on then men just pump and dump!!!

@miguelma3237 4 года назад

Men want the phase in life of a woman where she is before the peak meaning before 25!!!! Why do you give yourselfs to many other man when you are before 25(the phase you are growing in beauty and fertelity)? Why do you do that!!? i have no respect for woman over 25yo whatsoever!!! after 25 there is only 5 sometimes less than 5 year to 30yo. And we all know what happen to a 30yo, everything is sagging! everything is hangging down!! it's sad that many woman give themselfs at their worst physically to a man!!! AND DONT COME TO THE INNER BEAUTY BULLSHIT!! WAKE UP FOR LIFE!

@stocks4bt 4 года назад

I totally agree with you. I have experienced that 1st hand. His comment at 40:00 is dead on the money

@janaya.6943 5 лет назад

Man if he ever have a daughter she gonna be set for life cause he gonna be dropping all the gems on her about men and life 😌🙌🏾

@mattjames4674 4 года назад

providing the daughter is mix because you know black men, they dont like their black daughters and always split frm the mother to get them a white or spanish woman to get mix daughters

@n.amanfu9297 4 года назад

lion THE KING so you’re saying raising a kid well is just luck?, I feel like that’s discrediting good parenting. Yeah they can still turn out however but more than likely that they won’t.

@monicathebeautiful6483 3 года назад

She gonna know the game when she's 3!!

@GenerousChicken5 3 года назад

@@mattjames4674 dumb ass

@MissyASTB 2 года назад

💯💯💯💯💯

@eteldias5176 Год назад

So cool to see Stephan paying close attention to the boys' concerns. It's great that he takes the time reaching out to the younger generation.

@Leshay5 5 лет назад

“Love does not keep you where you do not belong”! FACTS!

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

Such a great point. You cant stay in unhealthy places.

@mrs.pwilliams2604 5 лет назад

So what does?🤔

@halaluyahuahhomesteaders9550 5 лет назад

This comment though ......“Love does not keep you where you do not belong”! FACTS!....SHEW

@messieeber6323 5 лет назад

@@mrs.pwilliams2604 Infatuation!!!

@chriscurtis8344 4 года назад

Mrs. P Williams , fear!

@rebeccapalazzo3221 5 лет назад

How you treat YOU is a perfect indication of how you’ll treat ME. I like that. Good word

@Cascadia2011 5 лет назад

Rebecca Palazzo - ❤️ Truth. Facts.Thank u

@Michelle-so6nc 5 лет назад

My ex treated himself extremely well. Spoiled and treated himself to all his needs and wants but.. he was unable to show love to another other than him. I think it's important to make sure that the people we're considering not only treat themselves well but have a compassionate and giving nature to go with that.

@zerospecs2331 5 лет назад

Michelle Fermin Right, of course.

@kaylasheppard7746 5 лет назад

@@Michelle-so6nc on the flip side of that, I dont treat myself well at all really, but I do everything I can for everyone else. So the above statement isnt always true.

@jornkirkengard8238 5 лет назад

Good point. Sometimes the way a person treats themselves remind their partner of how they should treat themselves.

@w2spec 5 лет назад

Love is getting mistaken for infatuation nowadays. Just gotta be patient. Love will stand the test of time. Keep working on yourself and she or he will come.

@reneesimone6667 3 года назад

@Abrar Samen it's that mentality that has men and women panicking and settling... You die alone no matter what

@reneesimone6667 3 года назад

@Abrar Samen my apologies in misunderstanding your comment

@lindagatwiri869 5 лет назад

"Great woman doesn't mean the right woman"👏👏 "A woman you have a connection with will easily separate herself from the pack" Those two points were an eye opener for me.

@sosouth15 3 года назад

For me as well. Just broke up with my woman because I could sense it. Kinda felt like I was making a mistake, like I passed up a good woman, but my gut never lies.

@maseengmasitha6212 3 года назад

I’m tired of being told that I’m good person 😔.

@denniskimathi3251 3 года назад

Gatwiri uko wapi?

@cherrydeleon9646 Год назад

869, FACT'S girl. Men are crazy. I thought the younger guy's had a better perspection of women. Guess I was wrong. The order's are worst.

@cherrydeleon9646 Год назад

South, follow your gut feelings son. Things & better must come. Peaches JAMAICA 🇯🇲 HARLEM NYC

@sscott504 5 лет назад

A man that does a Full Spiritual Fast is nothing to play with!!!!

@wendyberkel4643 4 года назад

So true that a real man

@destaylor9999 4 года назад

@@wendyberkel4643 that doesn't make you a real man one bit😂😂😂🤦

@justlookingandobservingpeo521 4 года назад

@@destaylor9999 it's a start. A start on becoming a better man.

@destaylor9999 4 года назад

@@justlookingandobservingpeo521 👍🏽👍🏽

@licki9176 4 года назад

Des Taylor try going on one i bet you tap out in 2 days

@Thriftblackgrl 5 лет назад

Are we going to ignore his fresh line up on his beard

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

It can't be ignored.

@kimberly0717 5 лет назад

PrintsAndSequins Lol nope..noticed but I was a hair stylist so my eyes are trained. Again..nope 👀 peeped it early on 😊

@SincerelyBP1 5 лет назад

No we’re sure not. Lined to perfection...😂

@1OfdaKoldest 5 лет назад

I think he sprayed black ice on it. it looks nice anyway.

@marissawilson4644 5 лет назад

It is why I clicked #BeardGang

@thebeamli 5 лет назад

I respect a man who calls me out on my flaws respectfully. Tell me "babe, let's go to the gym"

@shay-shaylawnmayfield920 5 лет назад

I usually do not listen to male relationship coaches because it seems like they are capitalizing on single and lonely women. BUT Stephan is a genius he has my attention. This is good stuff.

@AS-eq2qm 3 года назад

Same here...derek jaxn or whatever his name is i believe is one of them

@kc7476 3 года назад

@Dinero Fire good point. Is there any piece of advice directed to men or women that applies only to either men or women? Or are we more similar than dating coaches lead us to believe?

@shantoriascherrie7938 3 года назад

right! he teaches

@saladbisch6977 3 года назад

@@AS-eq2qm this aged so well

@bananapee86 2 года назад

@@AS-eq2qm white boy rick agrees

@kdori787 5 лет назад

Doon't know how why this showed up in my recommended list but I'm glad I clicked on it, great podcast!

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

Thanks so much!

@mizzzelly69 5 лет назад

Karen M Me also Glad it came up Yet super random

@a.victoria3371 5 лет назад

Me too

@Jasmillmelisa 5 лет назад

same, in my recommendeed

@PhaMa1002 5 лет назад

Same, new sub!

@leaellas8400 5 лет назад

If these conversations are your norm... You are real men. Because real men seek growth, and I am happy to see young black men have these conversations (that they should have). I am a young black women so I have some hope for the future. @The Roommate Podcast

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

Thanks so much. Be sure to subscribe and check out more of our episodes.

@leaellas8400 5 лет назад

@@TheRoommatesPodcast My pleasure!

@tifawt3736 5 лет назад

Lea Ellas I agree FULLY!

@gerardobambu9021 5 лет назад

We need more people willing to seek these type of knowledge or wisdom...and stop talking about idiotic subjects ....

@beautifulsoul8415 5 лет назад

I definitely agree with your statement! Thank you

@seesi6842 3 года назад

"If you haven't accomplished nothing in your life, expecting her to embrace your lead? It is going to be real tough" . MMMM

@maseengmasitha6212 3 года назад

If it’s any consolation, I’m a woman and feel the pressure of being accomplished too from the men I meet.

@seesi6842 3 года назад

@@maseengmasitha6212 Difference in culture I guess. Either way, I think we owe it to ourselves first, whether male or female.

@NubianQueen100 3 года назад

So true, but so many dont wanna hear it..

@oaklandsoldier5920 5 лет назад

I'm 33 years old and male This dude is dropping some serious knowledge. I need to do better and get better.

@nessava4965 3 года назад

Hope you’re still on the path to love.

@TheZeroManifested 5 лет назад

It boils down to Authenticity. You gotta be really honest with yourself first. After that everything falls into place.

@newgrowth74 5 лет назад

Isabel Montero truth

@soystef 5 лет назад

100% 100%

@jeremiah8716 5 лет назад

Facts...being transparent plays a major factor

@nikkyshamz2696 5 лет назад

💯💯💯

@VeeVeeLL3Gemini 4 года назад

Empress Nin9 facts

@takeauthority30 5 лет назад

Nothing is more attractive than a BLACK MAN OF GOD... knowledgeable, strong, bold and caring. Yesssss Lord... Getting the books for my loved ones and self... Thank u awesome video

@komplexsimplicitydavid5353 5 лет назад

Absolutely!

@LuckLuckie1 5 лет назад

Bitch you're attracted to his looks shut up

@nhearts 5 лет назад

why bring skin colour in to this? Hes talking about love which knows no boundaries or skin color

@Godsgraceish 5 лет назад

nhearts because it’s relevant to her!

@Godsgraceish 5 лет назад

nhearts and he is black.

@ms.claudia4855 5 лет назад

Folks need to get healed and delivered before entering relationships.

@RC-fe9py 5 лет назад

So none should marry then because no one is totally ever healed. As a matter of fact a good marriage can actually cause healing. The problem is that people need to be honest about themselves from the start to each other...

@namastewellness 4 года назад

Relationships are often what God uses to help heal and deliver us. If it's the childhood relationship(s) is what damaged us, it would make sense that that would be the same means by which we are healed.

@hizbonnymyclyde12 4 года назад

I agree...I truly agree from my own personal issues and reason.

@percyastronautstatus.8780 4 года назад

Can u PLEASE say that AGAIN?? ppl our here trying to FALL in love and they straight up needing THERAPY from pookie, Ray Ray and Tyrone.

@Killerpanchetas 4 года назад

actually quite the opposite.. People need to stay far away from religion and their relationship. I've learned that strongly religious people are very hard to get through to and communication/logic is the essence of a successful relationship. I've been married for 10 years in a happy successful marriage and one I was looking for a spouse i found ladies who weren't religious had better logic/reasoning skills..

@BP-fh8np 4 года назад

That connection bit he's speaking of is something that is all spiritual. It already exist and cannot be destroyed just avoided. Once you've experienced this connection you'll understand the difference between love and infatuation.

@kimallnaturelle 3 года назад

Truth.

@moizahqureshi6983 Год назад

have you experienced the connection yourself

@gloriamariadc7757 7 месяцев назад

Amen👍🏻

@WilliamsPinch 5 лет назад

Falling in love is soul RESONANCE! It’s baffling how many people don’t believe in this. It has nothing to do with similar interests & values, that’s compatibility. Also, unhealthy attachments get coined as love. Ugh these young men are being schooled by Stephen. Teach them king!

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

Haha, being schooled lol. We are all learning.

@tylynn256 5 лет назад

This is why people can fall in love AFTER they are in a relationship with someone else.

@BluDrop5 5 лет назад

@@tylynn256...or still remain in love with an ex...

@tylynn256 5 лет назад

@@BluDrop5 yes indeed

@misssterling3094 5 лет назад

@Tory Shaye LOL- I'm on the fence.

@RealLadi228 5 лет назад

A spiritually awakened man is a beautiful powerful being🙏🙏🙏

@findyourpixiedusteveryday6344 3 года назад

as is the spiritual awakened woman

@Filmyism 5 лет назад

"people use the label of love to validate and defend relationships that they're in" - Stephen. Wow. Just wow. That's incredibly on point.

@royjohnson79 4 года назад

Wow! This brother future is bright. I been with my wife for 20 great years and can relate with alot with what he is saying. The connection has to be there and men be a leader for the woman to support you and love will never leave.

@goldengirl7625 3 года назад

That's awesome, congrats on your long marriage! I'm only 23 and hope to be married in the future, the mindset of the people in my generation makes me question how much people actually value traditional marriage, though.

@trishbayhi2902 3 года назад

@Golden Girl: you have the right mindset - do not conform to the ways of this world, yo. (I felt the same way, and I did not marry until I was nearly 33. I had 3 beautiful children with my beautiful FOREVER husband; however, after 15 years together (nearly 12 of those married) he was killed in an auto accident. I do not regret waiting for the right man - just wish I’d had more time. When we said “till death do us part,” WE MEANT IT. It’s 3 & 1/2 years since we lost him, and I am STILL in need of more “healing” I think, because I loved him so deeply, it’s just VERY HARD to navigate through life without him - I still feel broken... (suppose that’s why I’ve attracted “broken” since then.) Anywayyyy... the point I originally meant to convey is this: marriage is 100% successful when you do it the way God planned it... Love and Respect. Men need respect like women need love - and we both (men and women) need it like we need OXYGEN!! Seek God first, and everything else you need will follow!! (Oh, to be 23 again... lol) God bless you

@bananapee86 Год назад

@@goldengirl7625 don’t forget to bring a towel

@soystef 5 лет назад

Men: TAKE NOTES Women: TAKE NOTES

@oaklandsoldier5920 5 лет назад

Great point.

@DeeplyJenny 4 года назад

Kids: TAKE NOTES ( break the cycle)

@thompsonerica09able 5 лет назад

He is impressively aware sand knowledgeable of his expertise. Love it!!

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

Indeed. Great conversation!

@becky5937 5 лет назад

He is a true Hebrew Israelite, El favor de papa dios!

@annettescroggins3905 5 лет назад

Awesome work!

@asiajac 4 года назад

I remember a saying I heard say: A woman has the power to take you to heaven or drag you to hell That’s the power of a woman Heal. Evolve. Choose wisely everyone...

@EvieBam 5 лет назад

So much truth here. I LOVE it when a guy walks closer to the road naturally. It shows me he subconsciously wants to keep me safe and cares for me.

@mimimontoya401 5 лет назад

This brother is the truth... I sent him a message on facebook and he responded to my comment within minutes. Mind you he had over a thousand comments. So he really cares about people... Yes, he is God filled. Thank you, for what you do. I can't wait to buy your next book. Love you with GODLY LOVE

@cyndigooch1162 2 года назад

Honey M I would've responded to you within minutes if I was a man as well though. Lol. Seriously now, he does reply quickly to many people, yet not all of them because that wouldn't be possible, unless he did it 24/7. 😊

@baby_d777 5 лет назад

“i don’t call it a feeling, i call it recognition” oh my!!! ✨ speak. on. it.

@1st_b 4 года назад

DeAja lol anything gasses you lot I swear

@michael-ronin 5 лет назад

This helped me save my marriage tonight. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.

@malimal4972 3 года назад

how so? you can’t say that without sharing some details lol

@pepertualamoah2887 3 года назад

@@malimal4972 lol right😁

@malimal4972 3 года назад

@Kuba P Dude, remove thy stick from thee ass

@b100dr4g3 4 года назад

15:45 man that was some of the realest, most relatable things I've ever heard. People can definitely be in love, but it just may not be the right time to be together.

@PriyankaGupta-ew1li 3 года назад

Well.. Men use it to not commit🤣👌🏻

@valerie5732 5 лет назад

“We often forget and neglect intuition can see through illusive intent, listen to it” H.E.R.

@RC-fe9py 5 лет назад

Eve had intuition......

@suzanlamwaka8743 4 года назад

@@RC-fe9py ĺkvdyAwst.mb

@hnpet4245 5 лет назад

I fast monthly for spiritual reasons and it's been so beneficial for me. As someone who deals with depression, fasting has helped me think clearly and I've lost a gang load of weigh but I eat healthier too now. It's like you reach a different level of consciousness.

@boujieekaylonnii5238 5 лет назад

Hlumelo Petros great

@mariamalhotra8228 5 лет назад

Wow

@missnewyork4116 5 лет назад

Hlumelo I can concur with everything you stated. I was spiritually lead to water fast November 1, 2018 due to depression, anxiety and insomnia due to fighting multiple circumstances. When I tell you how great I felt it's unexplainable. I told my doctors I had a Supernatural surgery. I'm still on my journey. Keep up the GREATNESS and God bless. ❤

@BorisThePA 3 года назад

"If you're not good to you, you won't be good to me." Love you guys, keep up the great work! Stephan is a legend.

@Kweenduhmconversations 5 лет назад

Where in the world did he come from. He is on point about so many things. Old soul!

@martajajackson1836 5 лет назад

Finally dating advice ABOUT a man FROM a man. I am tired of women trying to speak for both sides. I am like...no no honey.

@elloello4484 5 лет назад

Mar'Taja Jackson AccurateAF!! Well said

@AogiritreeLindo 5 лет назад

Vybz Kartel

@ambercolored3090 5 лет назад

faith umuk if you think you can accuse every man "for not listening to women's perspective" because your husband doesn't, then don't be surprised when someone generalizes you to the lot of women

@workingonmyself 5 лет назад

Mar'Taja Jackson Amen

@workingonmyself 5 лет назад

And not from Steve Harvey

@yogaflame4128 5 лет назад

This is simple logic. If you’re at a buffet, you taste all the choices, if you like one more than others, it will soon dominate the plate. You won’t go back for the other choices anymore.

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

Thanks for sharing that analogy.

@BluDrop5 5 лет назад

Cornbread does it to me everytime...

@samusgenesis 5 лет назад

But the meal will still have to have other items as that would be the healthiest option. Can't have just all biscuits or all ice cream on that plate. Need proteins, fats and carbs on that plate lol. Men are polygynists by nature. A masculine trait all but lost to the masses IMO.

@La_abbess 5 лет назад

BluDrop5 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@nikkyshamz2696 5 лет назад

Well well well👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@missnewyork4116 5 лет назад

As a 3 months shy of turning 49 seasoned Woman I must say, "I really enjoyed your Podcast Gentlemen." Keep up the GREATNESS and Always keep GOD first. ❤

@Passion84GodAlways 5 лет назад

I admire how Hafeez consistently asks SUCH INSIGHTFUL QUESTIONS!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@kannishawashington9904 5 лет назад

You have to give her something to believe in!!! POWERFUL SENTENCE RIGHT THERE!

@shemekadavis351 5 лет назад

When he's speaking of connection it's the same thing as a spiritual twin flame. I can totally resonate

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

Thanks for sharing.

@danadavis8333 5 лет назад

Yep 😊

@animusrye2342 4 года назад

Girl!!! I was looking to see if someone else was hip. This is exactly what came to mind watching this.

@animusrye2342 4 года назад

And yes, I definitely resonate as well. "I don't call it a feeling, I call it recognition" 💫👁️💫

@Bigbodipapi 5 лет назад

*Stephan talks* The roommates: hm *stephan mumbles* The roommates: hmm hmm *stephan breathes* The roommates: hm hmmm hmmmmmmm

@jmoney20106 5 лет назад

Chavie Doe lol

@RachelNicole 4 года назад

😂 soon as I read this they did that yoo

@eems6859 4 года назад

Asians so this often, if not more. Lol

@maryem8263 4 года назад

Armando Chavez They are learnin alot here!!! Hahaha

@missmagui8135 4 года назад

Lol

@victoriousayesha825 4 года назад

When we learn the true value of sexual behavior between a man and woman, and why it’s not permitted before marriage, we actually respect a man more for not wanting to lay with us unless we made a Covenant first. At least I have. And it’s a beautiful thing. To be valued in such a way.

@JohnDouqh 3 года назад

"Learn the true value of sexual behavior" - excellent choice of words to describe the solution to the destruction of our society. Thank you, beautiful woman and ❤️❤️❤️

@richardjet2 3 года назад

Amen

@Ednet34 3 года назад

The Problem for many is, that they have a Sex Addiction. That Sex is a Tool to compensate low self esteem to have this feeling of being desireable. At least thats how i feel sometimes. I had some hookups quite a few times and i just realized that i actually dont really like that, or at least it gives me nothing. The reason why i still did that was more, because of me wanting to get her to the point to have Sex. To know that i scoed or archieved. The result was not really fulfilling.

@PhaMa1002 5 лет назад

Lord, please send me a woke mature man like Stephan. In Jesus name I pray Amen 🙏🏾

@joanlissa 5 лет назад

NaturallyMe amen🙏🏽

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

Hahaha

@Sulanboujetbeauty 5 лет назад

I agree, I neeed one too, Amen!

@enjolique367 5 лет назад

Exactly!

@hlulanimongwe3584 5 лет назад

You have to be one first, he's an alpha male, be an alpha female

@ladycoble389 5 лет назад

Dude is the Truth. People please listen to him. He is truly telling it like it is. I’ve learned this to be true by living the experience myself. These young people don’t know what Love is. Heck even some old heads don’t know. OMG he’s on 🔥

@wshelby83 5 лет назад

Love your comments!!

@alexvang7572 5 лет назад

"No, You don't fall out of love, you can reject love, you can run from love, but you don't really fall out of love. When its True, when its Real Love. When you are falling out of love, you realize you were never in love to begin with. When you have that genuinely connection with someone, you will always love them." "When its the real connection, it never disappears You can't create a connection, you can't destroy one. But you can run from it, you can decide not to nurture it, you can pile a bunch of crap on it. But it's still there. One way or another." Hits like a fucking truck.

@1st_b 4 года назад

Ayaya of course you can create a connection , where do you think connections come from in the first place

@kekemcclure 3 года назад

@@1st_b no such thing as creating a connection. You can’t create a soul, it’s just there. And connections come from the soul.

@azizifoster6242 5 лет назад

He really has a gift ! This is definitely his calling. I've watched this numerous times but now that I am building a relationship with someone, it hit me deep..

@wshelby83 5 лет назад

Right!! I've watched it numerous times as well

@kimberly0717 5 лет назад

Soooo many things I wanted to comment on. But connection is KEY! Having a connection where you are genuinely his or her friend, you enjoy each other company etc. you LIKE them as a person will keep you doing right by them and y’all together for the long haul.

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

Thanks for sharing!

@wshelby83 5 лет назад

I agree with your comment!!

@bernibee4307 5 лет назад

IT takes TIME to get to know a person. How do you know instantly you have some deep connection..you have to have the patience and willingness to establish a genuine connection. Everyone wants INSTANT gratification.

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

Instant gratification is indeed a problem in our culture.

@evianpree9619 5 лет назад

I believe it is possible to have an instant connection someone. it happened to me. its just energy that you are exchanging with each other.

@BluDrop5 5 лет назад

Connection and compatibility are not the same thing - with the latter taking more time to recognize. Let me ask: have you ever met someone and determined that you didn't like their energy, attitude, or personality? You didn't need - nor wanted - to spend more time getting to know them. You just knew you weren't connected.

@justanotherabc8888 5 лет назад

@@BluDrop5 Facts... I'm still connected to friends i've had an instant connection with from Day 1

@animusrye2342 4 года назад

Instant connection is real. I've experienced it. Only once romantically. However, it doesn't mean jump into anything. Still, get to know each other. Let the connection grow. But that draw towards each other Stephan talks about and that instant connection you speak of is what I have with someone. People settle and don't believe in instant connection and maybe that's apart of the problem. Wait until you get it. Not saying don't give anyone the time of day but pay attention. Once you have that instant connection the draw towards each other will follow.

@Virtygo22 5 лет назад

I really enjoyed this podcast. It's so refreshing to see black young men open to a very intimate and vulnerable conversation about love and relationships. It seems like a lot of men nowadays are not willing to consume the knowledge as much as women are. As a woman I want to say I appreciate every man that watched this video in its entirety and was open to the conversation. God bless

@richardjet2 3 года назад

Hmph

@Nate-ph6gv 3 года назад

“As much as women are” tf is that supposed to mean the same gold digging a$$ females and only want hood dudes because “good guys are boring” nah g don’t make such a brash assumption like that. There are a lot of good men that y’all females don’t want.

@20yrs_oldBlackGuy 2 года назад

@@Nate-ph6gv 😆 🤣 lol

@riannaHermione 5 лет назад

"When men get appreciated for the things they do, they do more of it." ooh.. good! Healing: Get a detox before you work on you. Your body can't even process all the good stuff before all the bad stuff is out. SO GOOD.

@JaeWest 3 года назад

This is just human nature.

@vaniathomas8859 5 лет назад

Preach. You can have someone who is madly in love with you and doin nothing about it. Preachhhhh

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

Thanks.

@Annjenkins806 5 лет назад

Vania Thomas That is deep..I think they have to have strong connection both ways. Love will not allow you be there if its unhealthy.

@Annjenkins806 5 лет назад

This is a good conversation..

@NonanoN-er6de 5 лет назад

I dont get that....why arent they?

@kaylasheppard7746 5 лет назад

@Amandiquin TRUTH

@jenebam62 5 лет назад

Speaking nothing but facts 🙌🏾love this. I feel like when your self aware you know who’s for you and who’s not for you

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

Thanks for the support. Be sure to subscribe and check out more of our episodes.

@rachelramirez7654 5 лет назад

Djeneba Mansarae I’ve been told & feel that I am self aware, but also feel like a brat about wanting a man. If I like him I usually don’t give up, which ends in me accepting unhealthy behavior.

@jenebam62 5 лет назад

The Roommates Podcast will do ! Very interesting male perspective 😊🙏🏽💡

@jenebam62 5 лет назад

Rachel Ramirez I think it’s ok to go after a man but it’s also important to observe him and understand the type of man he is to see if he is a good fit for you. If he shows that through his actions.

@Lifeisfun84 5 лет назад

I think Im selfaware when Im single Im at my best ! Confident, Sharp, job good , money good , friends good etc. But when Im dating I AM A MESSSSS, knowing who i am in a relationship is still a struggle , because that emotion Or balance is so weird to me.....

@theperfectcircus 5 лет назад

This man just reaffirmed damn near my whole approach. Having a purpose, knowing your "why", always working on yourself and that foundation. I've been single for a number of years and when people ask me why I don't have a girlfriend I always reply with "because I deserve the best." I'd rather be single then be apart of something that I really don't want to be in. I see it all the time and it's sad. It's crazy how people jump from one partner to the next...it seems that people are super desperate to belong to something...guess what?? You are already apart of something special.

@gloriamariadc7757 7 месяцев назад

Amen👏👍🏻

@waakkeuppp 6 месяцев назад

Well said. Do you still feel this way?

@mostlyvegan6034 5 лет назад

This was great. The big take away for me was healing yourself first. I think a lot of folks are going to hear the connection part of this and not the healing and solid foundation for yourself first. You will mistake a connection or not be open to connection when you haven't healed yourself. Lot's of important stuff here. Thanks for this 😊

@beniciabowcher-royce7661 5 лет назад

Stephan makes TOTAL sense. So wish guys would learn this stuff - so often it's just women who look into these subjects.

@BG-sq7zf 4 года назад

Projection At Its Best!

@BlessedDivinely 5 лет назад

IF you don’t have a genuine connection with a person be afraid. #RealTalk

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

Don't get stuck.

@a1fam560 4 года назад

That 7 day fast is what's up I've done this and my mind body and spirit felt 100x better

@angeg100 5 лет назад

when you have a connection, it last forever..

@PhaMa1002 5 лет назад

He made some very great points regarding abstinence and chivalry. My ex-boyfriends were always chivalrous to me as well as all of my male friends, therefore I look for a man with those mannerisms. When single I choose to be celibate and I tell that up front and it has helped tremendously in the past when single for a year and a half because it helped weed out the men with the bad intentions real quick. I'm back on that same path until I meet the right one that actually will court me for a couple months and not press me to be physical. That guy I have a strong connection with is still my friend and since I moved we can't see each other like that and he doesn't want a relationship right now, so I am moving on and starting a new beginning in my new location. This video really helped. Thanks, guys! :)

@jniellerivers5938 5 лет назад

This is real!!! My boyfriend is extremely open and honest and definitely different from what I used to so I was shocked at first but now I do truly appreciate it and I am more open as well.

@Resdei_TV 4 года назад

Are yall still toghter?

@victoriousayesha825 4 года назад

We must be whole in God First

@kbflawless93 3 года назад

Amen sista!

@Angelinesekle 5 лет назад

A LOT of women are not sexually satisfied and it’s sad because men swear they be laying it down smh

@queenred.6159 5 лет назад

Might be that the connection isnt there

@whoKnew1621 4 года назад

Exactly

@VeeVeeLL3Gemini 4 года назад

I’m definitely not staying or boosting..at 41 I’m never settling again because a man definitely won’t

@justaprogrammer3764 4 года назад

@@VeeVeeLL3Gemini i dont blame you, this world has turned into a very disgusting place. I personally am young and dont have as much experience as you might, but its clear enough for me that this whole relationship thing aint going anywhere anymore.

@cmg4p 4 года назад

Maybe if some of us (including myself) would stop "faking it", then they would realize that.

@missdrgirlfriend 5 лет назад

Google, I know you're giving me recommendations based on my emails and notes, but it's fine. I'm not mad at this one, tx.

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

Glad you checked it out!

@girlcalledmango 5 лет назад

Lol! Same.

@freereign911 4 года назад

😹

@melissaechols1969 5 лет назад

I married a man that I didn't have a connection with. I stayed 10 years. I now realize that I made the right decision in leaving. You are right about thinking you're in love with someone and that person being the wrong person. Great podcast. I'm saving this one to go over again. Thanks

@soystef 5 лет назад

melissaechols1969 yup this one is definitely a saver!

@DianaGarcia-lb9dl 5 лет назад

I agree a couple of years ago I realized that the person who I was with for 20 years wasnt the person for me

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

Thanks for checking out the podcast.

@genevivenc 5 лет назад

I married and had children with the wrong person. He was a great provider but a horrible mate and partner. I stayed so long for fear of being a single mom, being labeled a failure and that I was not enough and somehow deserved to be abused and cheated on. The crazy part is as long as I only loved him, catered to him and neglected myself, we were fine. The moment I started loving me, working out, went back to school he became jealous and figured he could beat it out of me. Leaving him was the best thing I could have done for myself and my children. I thank God for my Life and my Freedom.

@DianaGarcia-lb9dl 5 лет назад

Nicole Cole I'm so sorry that happened to you..I'm glad you decided to love yourself and that you decided to put yourself first..many blessings to you

@j4884 4 года назад

Stephan is just 😫😍 ... the way he expresses himself is truly a gift from God. He is very gifted.

@cyndigooch1162 2 года назад

Janae Williams I totally agree with you and just mentioned that Stephan has a special gift in another comment! He's beyond intelligent and very easy to understand too. I'm also thinking that he'd make a powerful cult leader, due to his charisma, so I'm relieved that he's using his gift for good. ❤

@charlesbutler4363 4 года назад

Going to "church" doesn't mean you're "spiritual".

@kbflawless93 3 года назад

Thank you! That is something that starts within.

@TheZeroManifested 5 лет назад

The whole not being able to trust a man who talks a good one but doesn’t get anything accomplished. Omg that just kills me. I had to break-up with someone recently after a couple of months because I just couldn’t trust him. I felt like he really didn’t ever do what he said.

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

If you can't trust then you have to let it go. Make sure you subscribe and check out more of our episodes.

@n.b.0212 5 лет назад

Wise woman! He showed you who he was. You took heed. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@boywonder2120 4 года назад

And yet he still landed you and probably fucked lmaoo you didn’t learn your lesson.....

@msqueenlyminded7579 5 лет назад

His side profile is extra crisp!

@sukhan9854 3 года назад

Now I cant stop thinking that his hair and beard feels crispy.

@linettboyd4380 3 года назад

Cant keep my eyes off the beard

@mergerogue4291 3 года назад

His whole self !

@dominiquemanning2521 3 года назад

He just fine

@nishisalott1839 3 года назад

I peeped that

@mcharle01 5 лет назад

I love his advice, he’s the truth !! Even the way he speaks is with discipline.

@LittleMissHoop Год назад

true

@openseason1450 5 лет назад

I've never heard someone drop so many bars in my life.

@ikayajansen2127 5 лет назад

“LOVE DOES NOT KEEP YOU WHERE YOU DON’T BELONG”

@kimberlyshaw4775 5 лет назад

He had me at ketosis. I lost over 90 lbs in a year with the keto diet. It’s life changing.

@boujieekaylonnii5238 5 лет назад

Kimberly Shaw how do you stick to it

@dmacs1187 4 года назад

I did it for 6 months lost 130

@billion86 4 года назад

@@dmacs1187 wow! Now I'm going to look this thang UP! TFS

@dmacs1187 4 года назад

@@billion86 it's real bro. I did it like 5 years ago 350/360 down to 220/230 up and down with water weight. Just eat no sugar at all. Anything white ain't right. I didn't even eat fruit tho..

@FalaqX 4 года назад

Keto is just the Adkins diet revamped.

@melodiousmag 4 года назад

“You got to give her something to believe in”!!!!

@legdaytacos62 3 года назад

💀💀💀💀😂😂😂😂

@glofishdesigns 3 года назад

I’m seeing this a couple years after it was posted, but the content is timeless. So much insight. So much gold. ❤️

@darvellwilson386 5 лет назад

Thank you for this podcast. I can honestly say that ones intuition will lead you in the right direction. Ignoring my intuition 7 yrs ago is taking me down the long, frustrating, and expensive road called divorce! Stay real with yourself!

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

Thanks for sharing this.

@thulanimgabazi3124 5 лет назад

Please tell us what made you getarried to him/her so that we also learn from your experience

@alocintsruh 5 лет назад

Wow, this brother is so on point. Great conversation.

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

Thanks for sharing. Be sure to subscribe and check out more of our episodes.

@madeline6043 4 года назад

Stephan, I can feel every word you say with every cell of my body. This man is a beautiful human. Much love 💖

@catroirenee6519 3 года назад

For whatever reason I never liked Stephan like i wouldnt even give him 5 mins until this video and I CANT STOP SHARING IT! Thank you Roommates! I needed this x

@harmscharm 5 лет назад

Lmao when he said “what if you meet 3 girls” ... “nah bro”😂😂😂

@london221 5 лет назад

I agree when he said a woman should be supportive and positive to her guy, but my ex would put money he really didn’t have towards a dream/investment and didn’t see a reward/return on it. I do believe we all have to take risks, but after multiple risks with no reward, it’s time to find another path. Him and I had lived together and he couldn’t even provide food/toiletries, had things in collections, didn’t pay bills on time, didn’t budget, and didn’t save but put money into a dream and mention it later as if it’s not a big deal. Nah... Support is cancelled.

@s.m.8654 5 лет назад

London Michelle, that’s me right there. Good for you. A woman will always support a MAN! But the man’s gotta be a MAN!

@london221 5 лет назад

S Beckmann Thank you! You’re so right.

@TheRedstar212 5 лет назад

You picked said man take responsibility

@s.m.8654 5 лет назад

kamaar sterling That’s exactly what we are doing!

@TheRedstar212 5 лет назад

S Beckmann The responsible thing would to pick men that are about shyt in the first place and men that you know you won’t eventually start losing respect for eventually.

@jahreigns888 3 года назад

Upon meeting my wife the Lord clearly said,"This is your wife." We've been married almost 21 years. She is bone of bone and flesh of my flesh. We are definitely peas in a pod. She knows me. That being said, marriage has been a refining fire. Hopefully, we'll come through the fire as pure gold.

@Qutypie22 3 года назад

Amen!

@spetrenko7149 3 года назад

❤️❤️❤️ AMEN.

@rebeccaledam7544 5 лет назад

As a Swedish woman I find this talk very interesting! Our culture is so different where the traditional roles really are part of the past. There are very few women here who expect the man to pay, or be the one who makes money, and very few men who expect women to do all the work at home. Sometimes I think it's harder for people here, since it's so much about equality, that no one knows what to do anymore. At the same time, do we have to have roles? With having roles comes many shoulds, musts and it's supposed tos. Can't it be more open for people to find their own roles in a relationship? Some men are more feminine, and some women more masculine. It's hard for everyone to follow a certain mold, as we're all different. I think completing each other is the most important thing! What are your thoughts about that, traditional or non traditional relationships?

@BlkMedusa 4 года назад

I’m all for traditional roles but u must find a balance about what u and ur partner wants.

@pvaz 4 года назад

If you both work, then you must share house work. Here in Portugal it's more traditional, as a man I used to pay most of the dates, though my now wife would often do it to. We have joint accounts now, so it doesn't matter who pays, but for social convention I'm the one that asks for the check and pay. In the house I do all the cooking cause I enjoy it and am better at it. She does most of the cleaning, though I'll help too.

@findyourpixiedusteveryday6344 3 года назад

@@pvaz sounds to me like the same as in sweden hahaha

@waltslife155 3 года назад

I believe in a man's traditional role. Men should be masculine, build their physical strength (which keeps them healthy), do what it takes to be competitive in the market place and bring even more resources home. At the same time they have build the discipline to commit to one woman and have some domestic skills. The role of women has evolved drastically over the past 70 years and I see that as a positive thing. However, the feminisation of men is very negative thing for any culture or society. I think if a man is truly masculine any woman he couples up with will likely choose to contribute to their relationship through her feminine energy. The good thing is that in our society a woman can choose.

@abanfrancis6400 3 года назад

@@waltslife155 true but as you see often it's the wrong person.

@lanijabarber5377 5 лет назад

So I came to this video from a small clip on instagram..I was so intrigued I went seaching for more And wow I can not be thankful enough for this video!! but yall should have warned somebody to come with a whole note pad and pen... Cause this was alot in one hour. I wanted to pause several of times to absorb what was said but at the same time don't want to press pause from the eagerness of wanting to know what was he going to say next... So ill be watching this again

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

Yes indeed. Stephan has so many gems. Be sure to subscribe and check out more of our episodes.

@pinkcoko51 5 лет назад

Yes, that's how I got here, And I am SO THANKFUL! The JEWELS BEING DROPPED BY STEPHAN ARE LIFE CHANGING! REAL TALK!

@Patience679 5 лет назад

Omg thank you, I knew I wasn’t crazy when my ex was in serious contact with his “child” hood friend who I approached as a grown woman and disrespected me. Thank God that part of my life is over.

@evarosario17 5 лет назад

The healing part really resonated with me. I was hurt by a very toxic relationship with a narcissist and during the off times I tried to date multiple and different people. But kept coming back to him. Until God spoke to me and told me to allow him to heal me and I stoped trying to feel better by casual dating and stayed completely single. And allowed God to heal all my past wounds since childhood. It’s been over eight months of me purposely opening to God, allowing him to do his work, and also reading and listening to good motivational speakers and experts in different self help subjects. I feel so much better and I have a new perspective in live, I love myself more fully, and God has become the center and foundation of my life. And I know without a doubt that just as he wants to bless me with my life partner he wants me to be a blessing for him. So God has prepared us both while we waited and it will be phenomenal when God reunite us. God bless you Stephan may the Holy Spirit continue to fill you with wisdom, love and strength to do what God has called you to do. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

@Haruki_chan 5 лет назад

That’s the 1st time ever that I’m watching a 1h long video on youtube... that was SO interesting, really ! Thank you so much for that, I’m feeling so blessed with all those advice about love

@MercLife100 5 лет назад

The part about intuition hit home. I wrote something in my journal previous to marriage regarding my husband and after separation I found that old journal and everything negative thing I expressed in it came to pass throughout my marriage. I knew he wasnt the one in the beginning but I tried to make him the one because I was afraid to be alone. It's going on 2 years of me being single. I've learned to stand on my own and truly evaluate and discard those that don't qualify as a completion to my life without fear.

@TheXOXOJAY 5 лет назад

I love seeing people having these conversations. Having the ability and mindset to indulge yourself in a conversation like this says a lot. There needs to be more conversations like this 💯

@rachaeleena 4 года назад

46:25 ...I had to realize within myself that Was my reasoning for running from a great guy to a wrong guy ... I’m so glad I realized that... Now I’m consciously continually choosing the great guy

@trafficcontrol2420 3 года назад

I love how Chris and Feez looked at each other when Stephan said "chose none of them."

@Laurynski 5 лет назад

I am ecstatic that I found this podcast! Hearing the vital information Stephan has shared is encouraging and serves as personal confirmation. I am currently on my healing journey after letting go of a five year toxic relationship four months ago. Three days after the breakup I went on a 4 day vegan cleanse to detox my mind and body and gained so much clarity, new found perception, and heightened spiritual connection that I decided to commit to a vegan lifestyle. Daily prayer, practicing yoga, focusing on self care and attending therapy has played a significant role in my healing process. My brother just completed a 3 day dry fast and a 4 day water fast and encouraged me to try it. I have observed in every instance that when I sacrifice my flesh of its desires, my spiritual connection with God becomes stronger, I have more discipline, my life immediately flows into balance and I make substantial gains towards my own personal growth. After seeing this I am definitely willing to commit to a water fast (maybe not for seven days though 😄). This was a great show. Stephan, thank you for sharing your expertise and wisdom. Please keep allowing God to use you to help others heal, grow, and discover true purpose. You are a blessing and inspire so many! Thank you 🙏🏾 😊

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

Thanks so much for checking it out!

@mizzzelly69 5 лет назад

What’s crazy is men want the chick to stay slim n sexy yet he start getting chubby I made the suggestion for us to get n the gym, since it wasn’t his idea, it wasn’t a good idea. (Relationship was doomed from the beginning) No both should go to the gym. People shouldn’t be so sensitive Baby, lets both get memberships and let go to the gym. If two people can’t be honest it’s not real.

@sweetlo3424 5 лет назад

This was probably one of the best Podcast I've ever heard! Amazing..the host asked the very questions that were on my mind and the speaker spoke very directly and clearly with much wisdom greatly appreciated!

@NotYourMommaMia 3 года назад

As a young womans seeking to have a Happy marriage / family this has been some of the BEST information Ive gotten. Thank you. 💕

@veronicahaney7934 5 лет назад

A man can do all of those sweet things and there's no chemistry or spiritual and mental connection there. The opposite is also true.

@datofficial6062 5 лет назад

All the right questions were asked for La"BOSS"iere to drop those gem. Perfect for this point in my life. Thank you! Ive never considered watching a podcast more than once, ill be watching this a few times.

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

Thanks for the support!

@LSPACE23 5 лет назад

Thank you for this. It addressed every relationship question or issue I have ever struggled with. I feel very clear and empowered just having listened. If you value and desire a quality relationship this q & a definitely deserves your undivided attention.