Changed the gender but the soul and the spirit of the person is still the same. So when you connect with someone on a soul level. Gender doesn't matter.
That sounds nice and all, but I am sitting here trying to imagine my husband (with whom I have an amazing connection with on a mostly non physical level for nearly 20 years) turning into a wife and it's just not computing. I guess everyone is different, but my husband's spirit and soul is tightly wrapped up in his physical looks and gender traits I have known for years and if he just turned around and said he was always identifying as a gay woman I would feel betrayed.
I'm a middle aged woman, open minded but things are changing so fast I feel a little out of touch. Sometimes I don't fully understand or know enough about stuff but I do know love , it's beautiful and precious and you look like you got it. So enjoy, treasure and keep on loving.
I absolutely love your perspective. As a trans man in my early 20s I wish more people would think like you. Love is what matters the most. If the world ran on love instead of hatred it'd be a very different place indeed.
@@yardieforlife5189oh whatever, that isn't even true. Trans folks are just finally comfortable enough to be open about it. It isn't social media attempting to push the narrative that EVERYONE IS DOING IT.. trans folks just happened to also get Tiktok. And it's fine. We all deserve to feel comfortable in our bodies.
When I first started following your relationship, I found it very scary. It was very scary to me, because I was afraid of being witness to rejection and the pain of losing a spouse. I was very fearful for Amanda, because I thought Shaye would want to leave her for a man. I have my own baggage that made that so sad and frustrating and frightening for me. But as I’ve continued to follow you, I see that Shaye loves Amanda, just as she is and Amanda loves Shaye just as she is! You are such a beautiful couple and I am so glad you have peace and freedom and love and acceptance in your lives. I wish you beautiful ladies a lifetime of unending joy! Thank you for sharing your journey!
I feel this same way. I've resolved to give myself the best life I can until I cross paths with my future wife. Until then, I'm enjoying my life & not waiting on anyone to enjoy my life... NOW.
Quit looking. Not kidding. My daughter was stressed about not finding anyone. I told her quit looking. She quit looking and now my grandkids have a fantastic step dad! So don't stress yourself out about and enjoy life. When you least expect it, it will happen if it's meant to be. I wish you luck in your journey. 😊
First thing is to love yourself more than anything in the world and you won't give time to someone who doesn't deserve it. Second thing is to not look. Third is denied expect every single person you go on a date with to be the one. Dating so you can figure out what works for you and what doesn't. There are more but I think those are the most important❤
@@EveCole23yes. I fully support her choice to stay and assume she is happy until it’s shown otherwise. But I’d also support someone leaving, as this is a drastic change they did not sign up for. No judgement either way honestly. People should take an honest and hard evaluation before committing. Accepting doesn’t mean a romantic relationship is still on the table. But I am happy that things worked out and wish them peace and blessings ❤💜💚🩷💙🤍🧡🩶
@@kayla7562 exactly. And I bet you love him very much. You just love him as the man you know him to be. I'm not attracted to women, let alone a masculine man thinking he's a woman.
when you truly love someone for who they are inside, it doesnt matter, they could gain weightm change their appearance fully (in this case transitionning) they are still the same inside. that love doesnt go away. I would understand if the partner suddenly reveals they pretended to like x and y or hid stuff but in this case the person is the same, they just matched the outside to how they've been inside.
This kinda happened to me and my hisband after six years of marriage, I knew he was bi when we got married but I was still so nervous the night I told him that I didn't think I was a woman. He said "You don't have to explain anything to me." And that's why I think we're going to be hisbands forever.
I’ll try to keep this short. I promise it has a positive side to it. My husband spent most of his time growing up at his best friends house. We call them his Mormon family. My husband gives them the credit for turning out the way he did. And they deserve it. It’s nothing against his biological parents, it’s just that they didn’t have the best parenting skills. Anyway, a few years ago Mormon dad transitioned. He had kept it a secret for most of his life, a few years after the death of their son (my husbands best friend) he/she came out with her feelings and plans. Their children do no talk to them, won’t acknowledge us, and that’s sad. But we refuse to walk away, we love her just the same as before. We didn’t know what to expect but she is so happy! They have stayed married like you have. They did a podcast and I just cried. It was just a beautiful love story. They have a marriage that most can only dream of. With all they have gone through, it has made them stronger. We love them, we won’t walk away, and can only hope this world sees all the amazing people in it for who they are. ❤❤❤
Life's literally too short, and true love is beyond hard to find. Soo if you find it hang on too it. If anyone judges you just smile and keep on walking with your head held high.
I couldn't have. I married a man so I wouldn't be attracted to my husband if he turned into a woman. I could still love the person but I don't think I could be in an intimate relationship with them.
A lot of couples stop having sex, at least having good sex, if it was ever good to begin with. I am not going to ask about their sex life but the cis wife has a video about how she's more attracted to her wife now than before.
You'd think that. Although my husband, who has gender dysphoria (whom I was led to believe only liked drag every so often), started dressing and changing more ways than I could count one year after we got married. His entire demeanor changed and it wasn't changed for the better for himself, me, or anyone else in his life. This new person who I was married to started partying, drinking, and doing big drugs while having a wife and 2 special needs Irish twin sons at home. I ultimately had to admit him to the psych ward after realizing he had suicidal idealations then months later ended up needing to kick him out for mine and our son's safety.
Yet men be like “dude she’s gained like 10 pounds since we met 10 years ago“ 🙄 meanwhile women will accept you chopping off your most prized possession.
I'd just like to add, not all trans people get bottom surgery, and for many trans people it's not something prized as much as a source of dysphoria. For me, I'm a simple trans man and I'm quite happy enough with my results from hrt 😅 I do get the tone and sentiment you're going for and mostly agree, cis men in my experience are less accepting of changes in a partner
I would never accept my partner cutting off his pen*s. And I think a lot women out there might feel the same. The physical intimacy is so important as well in a relationship. I just couldn't.
A beautiful couple. My partner now wife is transitioning. Some of these comments doing not pass the vibe check. We care to see our partners happy more than anything. Gender is gender.. Means nothing to me.
@@keelyk3908 except the people who've thoroughly studied this for decades specifically say that for many the only actual "cure" is matching the body to the brain (as shown by brain scans) i.e. transitioning. This is not for all trans people, many trans people have no interest in transitioning. But in order to transition you're REQUIRED to go through intensive and invasive therapy and medical examinations. You can't just make the decision one day and do it. Trusted medical experts walk you through other treatment options and if that doesn't work, only then is transitioning an option. But I'm sure you, with all your medical expertise and experience in the scientific community, know much, much more than they do, right? I'm sure your heart and intentions are completely pure and you're definitely not coming from a place of fear or aversion to new things you don't understand.
@@juliaweigel9519 I get what you mean. I mean it means nothing to me in the sense of you be you as long as you’re happy. Tell me what to call you and that’s what matters to me.
Truth I tell people all the time live in your truth, because those people telling you what to do with your life are living their lives why not do the same.
Not to be rude or mean or anything but I just don’t get all of this! Why all of a sudden in history are men wanting to be women and women wanting to be men?? Why is all this happening now?? Again I just don’t get it!!!!!
More and more people are just being open about it. Previously the expectation for trans people was to transition as quietly and as quickly as possible and to never be open about the "before." It's called being stealth but less people are feeling obligated to do that now.
Everyone being bigoted in these comments need to stfu. They are happy and in love and not hurting anyone. MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS AND LEAVE THESE GIRLS ALONE
STOP ASSUMING THEIR LIVES! You don’t know their relationship or the conversations they’ve had. So stop assuming deception where there isn’t any. Ya’ll just hate to see people happy
When you post things online it becomes a public forum where anyone can reply to it. Some people don't have an issue with this type of thing and the other people don't have mental health problems. In either case anyone can comment their opinion on a public post. It's America, remember?
Changing one’s gender presentation does not change one’s sexuality by default. This video makes it seem like sexuality is a choice, which is dangerous rhetoric.
I don't think that's necessarily true, especially with bisexual/bicurious or pansexual people. Sometimes the thought doesn't really cross someone's mind until they meet someone different that activates that attraction in them. After they realize they'd just never met someone of the other gender that they were attracted to and accept their open, more fluid sexuality, we tend to be more vigilant and look for attraction with broader horizons, now mentally attuned to the realization that it's an option. (Which starts to draw those relationships to us more frequently!) This definitely happened to me the first time I fell in love; a woman who was my best friend and a lesbian. I never thought I'd date a woman before her. I think it's difficult to understand if it doesn't apply to you or the sexuality you identify strongly with.
Dude have you heard that Bisexual, pansexual, ect people exist??? And a lot don't realize it untill they meet someone of the same gender they're attracted to and realize it. This is not someone saying sexuality is a choice. I HATE when people act like Bi/Pan ppl are straight if they're not in a queer relationship and suddenly "turn gay." She just most likely realized she wasn't straight when her partner came out as trans. I only realized I was Bi after meeting this girl while I was traveling. I started to question and realized so much about myself and my past relationships/friendships/crushes. I realized I had also had crushes on girls throughout my life and a huuuuge one on my best friend in middle school and high school but I had repressed it hard.
Really? Two consenting adults making a decision that doesn't harm any one is the 'sickest.' 🙄 you are either being disingenuous or you're woefully ignorant to issues in the world
This is what happens when youre in a relationship with and love someone for who they are as a *PERSON* and nothing else. Im so glad you both can continue to be happy with each other! ❤
@@artstudiogirl784 Yeah but there's so much societal pressure on them. Them coming out is releasing the "betrayal" as it were. They're no longer lying about themself.
@@matthewvivian7235 That feeling should be shared with your partner before marriage so they can make the choice of being with you for who you truly are or not. NOT wait till you been married and than decide you want a change.
@momsmusic8136 I was as honest with my partner as I was with myself. I hid nothing, lied about nothing. She and I journeyed and changed together. I'm fortunate she's been able to come along with me for better and for worse, thru thick and thin. I've been the best partner I know how to be and she treasures me for it.
I actually TRIED to do this for my gormer spouse but they went through a lit of emotional confusion during their transition and ran off. I would have had no problems staying with the but ghey had to go through their own journey. Oh well. Happy for you all though. I am since re-married.
bro im so slow.. tell me why i thought the wife left her husband bc she realized she was gay.. it wasn’t until i watched it the second time and noticed the captions when it clicked 💀.. anyway im happy for yall ! that true love right there ! just beautiful to see :)) 💗💗..
It'd be sad for the wife as well if she had simply kept lying to her about her identity forever If she wasn't okay with it, they'd go their seperate ways and that's okay
The whole thing reeks of deception. He was willing to lose her if she didn’t accept his transition and he’s acting like she’s gay now because she chose to accept it. Narcissism.
This in my eyes, is true love!! No matter what adversity you both faced, you never gave up on each other and you upheld your vows. God Bless you both and you are definitely a testimony of devotion ❤
Im so glad you guys are still together. I think this is really sweet. If my husband ever transitioned it would be really really really hard for me to stay. I just would lose all attraction to them and I would probably leave so that we both could have a better life, sad as it is. Thats also a reality of a situation like this.
Ngl this makes me happy. I'm so happy to see people like you and I'm so happy that there are as many trans-supporters (probably even more) as transphobes
This is one of my favorite shorts. The "ask me why you deserve HELL" poster is the best irony ever. Some people don't actually understand commitment to another. Keep showin us all how its done.
Always the woman sacrificing herself for some man. 🤦🏾♀️ Well at least you guys are happy but it sends the wrong message. When will a guy ever do that for a woman who wants to transition into a man. Heck, when will a man ever sacrifice anything for a womans well being. Very rare.
I wanted to type this but was afraid. Why do we never see the reverse of a man staying with his transitioned partner 👀? In my opinion all women know how to do is sacrifice themselves to be perceived as a Good Samaritan while also causing self harm to her and people around her which in a way *IS* egotistical. Not all sacrifices are done in good faith. Most men will be always be selfish. Trans/gay or not. Their ego is based on competing for validation while disregarding others feeling, but still wanting their support.
Emmm i think your forgetting about a little world war here and there. 1 or 2 sacrificing there i think for women no? How about when a man gets up a 5 in the morning to work a really hard job every day while you get your hair and nails done? When he puts in 50 hours work every single week so you can live without every doing a full days work. I 100% agree when the livestock gets too fat and lazy we need to reduce the food a little to wake them up a little. Be careful big grazing ladys.
And the homosexual couple raise the offspring that nobody wants. Highly look into homosexuality in the animal kingdom, like with Albatrosses and Penguins. “Survival of a species” is not just dependent on procreation, but caring for the young after parents die and adopting the young that are seen as weak and a detriment to the tribe.
Not even that she’s a little bit gay! She truly loves you no matter what! I would hope that in ANY MARRIAGE the spouse would love them and accept them.
The emptiness people feel, the need to change themselves all comes from the God size hole in their heart. Such beautiful people, all we have to do is "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight".🙂❤💗
Yeah I’d have to cry and start leaving if my husband did this. I married A MAN. I only want A MAN. A whole man. I could never pretend any other way. I’d grieve for a very very long time, but I can’t lie.
What is wrong with all of you in the comments saying this is sad? Even if you are not bisexual, you sure are able to see this bisexual womans perspective and understand how beautiful of a a connection and a love story this is? Sure, i am bi too, but this is a beautiful testimony of love, connection and companionship and I can only wish to have a partner like any of these two. And all of you with your negativity would appreciate a partner like this, too, when a situation comes up in your life, where you have to be brave and follow your own path, which might lead to a breakup. It is scary. To figure out that you partner is on the same page with you to this extent, it is such a relief and restores the belief in a better world, at least for me.
Little reminder: Your identity and sexuality is valid. Coming out of the closet/ transitioning late is valid. Staying with your spouse is valid. Feeling uncomfortable with intimacy after their transition (bc they don't match your sexuality anymore) is valid, too. Neither of those things makes you a bad person.
I love that you show before and after pics. It keeps it real. It also shows that she's beautiful no matter what. You both are beautiful, awesome, and loved! We should all be so blessed. ❤
I would have so many questions. Did he marry her bc he loved her or felt like he had to conform. Did he ask her about how she would feel. So selfish bc she had to transition her life for his transition.
@@allisonpettin3483 Ok fine, its like going into an eye appointment, getting new glasses, following up your appointment with a shopping spree to buy matching clothes, then maybe meeting up with the girls for lunch. Its not some life derailing surgery/treatment like yall are suggesting; honestly kinda troubles me this is how you react when someone wants to make changes in "THEIR LIFE" not yours.
@@Asta_Rose but if he really thought he was a girl he would have known that inherentley all his life and that is something he shouldhave discussed with her when thdy were dating.
@@michellespeight5972 Not necessarily. For some kids, they do feel that early on that they wish they could be a boy/girl, but many people it isn't inherent. Many people can't recognize immediately that the anxiety, or discomfort, they experience is coming from that gender dysphoria. They may confuse it for social anxiety. It can start off as simple as preferring their hair long or liking flowy clothes. They dated back in 2003, when being trans wasn't as well known. Many people don't recognize it in themselves until they learn the language later on in life. Even then, it could take longer to accept it for themselves.
@@Asta_Rose so was he at least honest from the beginning that he prefered female things and liked to dress as a female etc? Because he would have at least known that. If he wasn't then he was decieving her about who is personality actually was.
Kudos to this wife. Much as an ally as I am, I might have some trouble with my husband transitioning to a woman. I mean, I would still see him/her as the same person whom I love, so I would still want to live together, share our life, raise our kids and consider us a couple, but I would probably struggle with the intimacy part... Probably I would ask him to accept that our relationship too transitions to an open one.
I don’t think anyone is complaining, they put it out for all and I’m are sure “they” knew comments would be made whether your congratulating or have opposing comments.
I mean, if I was with someone for 17 years and they transitioned, I'd definitely be a lil gay for them too bc you still are in love with their personality and soul and a deep connection is something you fight for and protect and cherish and I can tell they have a deep connection 🥹🖤
It breaks my heart when folks transition and then date the opposite gender. This really warms my heart. I’m so glad they’re really in love and support one another.
@@usahanagirlThis is about love? I thought it was about them telling us that it worked because she's into the transition and realized that she's "a little bit gay". So they both have sexual preferences and, in this case, it worked and they're happy. It's not an example of stronger love. Just regular people who like sex, in their particular way.
I honestly don't think she is gay she just loves her partner more than anything. If it was a different person, she would not be with them, only the person she married.
she's not a bit gay she just loves you! you can turn into a martian or a smurf and she will still loves you because that's how LOVE (real love) is and I am so happy for you both 💕
@@truthmerchant1Vows aren't a contract, a marriage certificate is, but vows are a promise. And most vows involve till death do part, and being with your partner through it all. Not just being a man or woman. It's about love not what's in their pants.
I love this. I have two friends who kinda have the opposite story. They got married as two gay boys then one transitioned and she was so worried she was gonna lose her husband and turns out he's quite bi. 😊
Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and acceptance regardless of our differences wether it be age, nationality, religion, culture, social status and gender. We all have the right to ve happy and choose what we want for our lives. No one should be ashamed to walk down the streets holding the hand of the person they love. Because love is love and at the end of the day being part of the LGBTQ+ community is a human reality. You may not agree with it but atleast respect it. It should be a universal thing.
