Sisters! Please stop being that Apple laying on the ground, desperate and begging to be picked up by anything and anyone that walks by. Instead, be the Apple high up in the tree where it takes effort to get to. In the meantime learn to love yourself more, and protect your peace at all costs!
You are absolutely right,,the apple analogy had me 😃,not funny but facts just lying there rottening away over the lack of what you consider being "loved" by someone, anyone.I use to be just like that apple,fallen and thinking that I would never get up.Until the God of Love raised me up and showed me what Love is, God is love,seek Him first and everything will be given to you! ❤🙆♀️🙏🏿
Thank you Miss Jackie...huh they don't just walk by those apples---they actually stomp on those apples, they kick them around... Thank you Father for Your Mercy and Your great Grace!!!
Yep! Everything Tony is saying is 100% true. I had a guy I was interested in tell me he was talking to me & another girl. I automatically lost interest & left him alone. I refuse to allow a guy make me an option & become a pickmeshia 😂 he tried to gaslight me & tell me if he wanted to date her, he wouldn’t be taking me out, blah blah. That block button came to use real quick. Ladies please do not settle for a man bc you’re desperate. It’ll always backfire on you.
👏🏽👏🏽. Love it. I tell guys upfront that I don’t chase. So, if that is what they are looking, we can part ways now. But actually, I always PRESUME that a man I am dating is seeing other women so I don’t get too emotionally invested too soon. Some men lie about it anyways. So I keep my legs closed but my options open, too. Until a man asks for an exclusive arrangement and I agree, we’re both free. I prefer it that way. Of course, there is no physical intimacy until there is an exclusive agreement. If after a couple of months, he is still not trying to lock me down, NEXT!!! 👉🏾✌🏽
My cheating ex said the same thing. "If I didn't want you, I wouldn't be with you." My response was, "Lucky me!" 😆🤣😂 "So, I get to be the one cheated on?" (Snapz fingers) "Gee golly will-achers"... "A dozen red flags? You shouldn't have."
Tony preaching on this one! My now ex husband left right after we had our baby. This lady had him writing a pros and cons list on why he should leave me. She was telling him she cooks and all this other stuff he complained about. Here we are almost a year later, and he trying to come back. Naw 🙅🏽♀️ Enjoy your new family.
I have a friend who did that. She'd been helping her male colleague for more than 10 years, she coached and helped him to pass his exams, so that he could have a permanent position. She's been his therapist for years, while he was complaining about his partner.They were friends, until her husband dumped her, and guess what! They jumped in a bed after 10 years of friendship. She thought she was better than his wife, cooking for him and stuff. She thought that someday he would realise how wonderful she is. After 2 years, she realised she was wasting her time. Tony, you're right! Women love to put their cape on.
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED ! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
It’s hard to admit but I was that woman. 🤦🏻♀️ I was “captain-save-a-man” with a cape on. It almost destroyed me. I genuinely hope this message reaches a lot of women out there because Tony just gave a very VALUABLE lesson.
I was that woman too when I was so naive to the true ugliness of a man child like this. One day, by the grace of God, I just woke up & I saw my worth one day and it was over for these fools.
Love this video! Ive always found men to be so unattractive if they can’t cook for themselves or if they were fresh out of a relationship trying to pursue me. They reeked Desperation. I have been single for years and they’ve been the most peaceful and content years of my entire life. I wish more women would allow themselves to be free of men for a while. It will bring so much clarity to their lives. No confusion!
Listen I'm a therapist and I refuse to play "fix my life" with a man ever again. I use to until I woke up one day completely empty. I'd never felt so drained in all my life. Tony has helped me to take my power back and focus on my own well-being. Yall better listen to Tony he's preaching real good!
Tony I promise you could be an actor. 😂 The way you come up with the impromptu scenarios is so good! Thanks for all the laughs along with the knowledge and wisdom. ❤️
Man I don’t know why people think Tony don’t be on our necks. He’s not soft on us 😂he be telling us women about ourselves but it’s in a respectful way. It’s always said to uplift, never to break down and that’s the difference between him & the others. The others I find seem to get joy out of bashing women, but Tony on the other hand WILL get us together but in a polite way and because it’s coming from a good place you can’t help but to take it in and apply it to the area you are slacking in. Thanks TG.
Yeah, I definitely got convinced so many times when listening to Tony, but! The quality of my life improved so much since I found his channel it's crazy!
Tony, you’ve said it ALL! I’ve been a desperado before, cooking and being unpaid counselors for dusty men that were still entertaining their exes. I was younger, thinking that was the way to catch a man. But it wasn’t, and I surely got my feelings hurt multiple times. 😖🥴😮💨🙃
@@veronica_sm_ Veronica, I’m telling you- once you realize that they aren’t treating you properly, you will exit left. I no longer stick around when I feel like I’m being played.
@@LittleMissSunshine721 yes, you’re right sis! I did the exact same - I left, but that man was shockeddd, he thought he’s got like million other chances to destroy me again😬😬
I have never disrespected another woman in the dating game because I have always felt that I am a woman first and I will always respect a woman on this principle which is the standard I set for myself. I have always been bewildered watching a woman competing for a man's love with another woman. It's really degrading for women to feel like they will lose their world over a loser. Women have to have enough respect for themselves that as soon as they meet a possible suitor that they take a step back and listen to what the man is saying about his past relationships and their issues. Don't jump in bed with a man because he's talking a good game. TEST HIM and he will start to show you his true motives. If he disappears from your life you will still be able to hold your head up with honor because you didn't let him have your body and soul! Good advice Tony!
At some point in life, a woman hopefully realizes that loneliness isn't as bad as they think it is. I know personally that when I have stepped back and not have taken on the role as a therapist that I have experienced one man coming back to me as an available man speaking words to me that I couldn't let go of and we experienced 11 years of love until he passed away from a work accident where he was pronounced dead on arrival at the hospital.
Ladies no need for desperation. I was walking to work midday on 5th looking fly. Dude stepped to me with a card and his number, he said: baby when you're ready to come home, here's my number! I smiled the rest of the day! My point; there's another dude round the corner. D...is plentiful. Move on.
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT!GOD BLESS US ALL GOD LOVES US ALL!SELF LOVE!BELOVED!LET YR LUGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS, ! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW ! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
A man would never go through everything women go through to keep a man 😂 they be GONE! Thats one thing I learned from men and I applied it to my life. Soon as I see you off and you want somebody to save you? IM GONE 🤣 I’m not no therapist! Life too short to be playing therapist I NEED A CHECK! 🤷🏾♀️
There is a certain danger associated with being desperate. This is marvellous commentary and I can relate to much of it, especially considering that I recently (and ashamedly) succumbed to being desperate. I fell desperate with a younger guy and lowered my standards in the process. I also disrespected God and disgraced myself too. I felt sooooo disgusted and defeated with myself (mostly afterwards) because I had been so strong in a solid foundation and commitment in God. But this situation showed me that I'm obviously not strong ENOUGH and more work has to be done in me to build greater resistance to temptations. I had been celibate for many years and found myself vulnerable to this particular incident. This incident could've gone further than it did and could've yielded worse repurcussions than it did. I suffered (spiritually and emotionally) greatly for many days as I toiled with the aftermath of this incident. I repent to God with a greater determination to be BETTER as I move from that incident. Sin is dangerous and sin ain't nothing to play with, as my anointed Pastor recently stated. I thank God for second chances, grace, mercy and helping to reset me with new healing and new faith. In Jesus' name. 🙌🏾
If all the lessons are for somebody else you will never get your own lesson. Growth spirts come at its appropriate season.... Must have prepared soil. Humility prepares the heart and mind to receive what takes you into the next season. I learned that lesson. Challenge to self has made me better, stronger, happier. Praise God 👏🏽
Tony you are a whole "actor". I love how you give examples of how we women talk. Lol You really broke this thing down on how we get played without ANY real solid commitment from men because of just having to have a man! 😌
You have to be extremely careful when you take somebody back, be it male or female. Because if they are a narcissist they will slowly but surely punish you a lot of times without you even knowing it for breaking up with them in the first place. Stay aware people! Words don't mean Jack! Changed consistent behavior is what you look for
Man this is great I have been watching your videos for days you are spot on. You are also funny I have been out of a narcissist relationship for a year next month. He was verbally abusive and then one day I was putting him out he hit me like he was hitting a man. That is what woke me up I got order of protection and hope to never here from him again. Your videos have helped me threw this so much.
I wish I could like this video 1000% times. I’m always of the opinion that these mammies and pickmeisha are the most problematic. They make excuses for men ALL the time and will throw other women under the bus because they will do ANYTHING to have a man.
Im glad I came across your video because this man at my job try to say I'm masculine because I'm saving my self for marriage. I'm so glad your youtube page. I'm thankful I'm not desperate because I'm getting closer to thirty.
There are levels to maturity spiritually, emotionally, mentally, intellectually and financially. What do you expect if you go for someone who is not on your level AND IS NOT WILLING TO BE COUNSELED OR MENTORED ? 🤔
OMG! I watch you all the time, however I never commented but man, I couldn’t help myself on this one! You are telling the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. And it’s an on time word for me! I’m currently fasting and praying about a guy I’ve been seeing for 2 months. I’m watching him and discerning and staying off my back! Lol But I got my answer tonight. He’s gotta heal before he deals (w/me at least). Let God use you TG! I appreciate you brother. Shalom
This is such a good reminder. I dated a guy who had 2 baby mamas, super bad credit, homeless ( staying at a relatives place)n in between jobs and then cant hold a job down, serial cheater. (AWhen I got to know him he hid all these truths from me and just presented a really different version of hinself- fooled me he did!) I on the other hand had my own apartment, retirement plan, great credit, and a great job. And yet, he wanted me to prove myself to him. I just laughed and walked away. What a clown.
Everything you are saying is so truth. My marriage of 17 years ended because of my ex's infidelity so now I have high values and high expectations that I will not negotiate with another man because I'm not desperate for a companion.
This truly has convicted me in my spirit! You talking about stepping on toes??!!!! I have no more toes! I have enabled an abled bodied man for almost 15 years. It’s been a wrap for 7 weeks now and I am not looking back! I have helped start LLC’s, purchased vehicles, and supported him and his children/family but now it’s time to take care of me and mine! Thank you Tony! 🙏🏾
Tony THANK YOU!!! After a bad break up in 2019 you have helped me see the error in my ways in how I have dealt with men and myself. Thank you for helping me to see the thoughts behind the grown boy behavior. And for helping me to recognize grown boys from the start.
I DO NOT want a man bad mouthing his ex to me!!!! I am the kind of woman, who looks down on that. Especially, when children are involved. And dont keep talking about your past failed entanglements!!! PERI-YOT!!!!! A dog that brings a. bone, will carry one! If he speaks ill of her, he will speak ill of you!!! I mean it's negative energy. And I am NOT his therapist or counselor!!!! I will tactfully tell him this.. Just sayin
I hear you NephewTony, that's how I got here. My mother who was separated from her husband and 3 children. Then started with a man who wasn't married, but had 2 children. He told her if you mess with me you're going to get pregnant. Then 9 months later , here I come. Then she abandons me . But get my siblings back and raise them. Then has 4 more children and raise them too. That was 57 years ago. The story doesn't change much, just different names and different people. We must continue to work to change that narrative. God bless you for doing that every day . SDG
Love it! Tony is right on it because I am getting close to 50, had been married for a long time, divorced, then dating, and what he describes is what goes on! He has been saving me from giving any attention to any men who say things are going bad with their women trying to get me in bed or whatever.. Thank you, Tony!!
Thank God for Tony😩😎 we need you. I cant believe how ignorant i used to to be. I believe God really is using Tony to help me not be Foolish and to be a better woman‼️ 💜
Tony you are not lying, I have been guilty of all that you saying! But, now I know who I am and who’s I am and I Deserve everything God has for me 💜🙏🏾☀️
I had a woman tell me to my face that she would continue to sleep with my husband if we stayed together. She justified it as “a married man is sleeping with me. She is not sleeping with a married man.” It’s crazy out here ladies. We have to do better for each other by holding these men accountable.
I see all the Questions on IG & think us woman need to do better. Many of these toxic situations can truly be avoided with common sense and discernment. It’s tiring just reading them at times.
You telling the truth! Had a much older lady try to compete with me over a guy I was praying for God to remove from my life...long story short...I told her...you can have him. He ended making her life a living hell. I tried to tell her...but she wanted to learn the hard way.
If your toes ain't getting stepped on, you're not gonna change. Most of us need it. We need people to do it because we don't want to do it ourselves. Someone gotta do it to have us check ourselves and come back to reality. Be blessed
Mr Tony steps on his own toes, why you mad he stepping on yours for your own good. Come on Mr Tony, step on our toes..who can't hear will feel..we need it. Be blessed.
He walking in here still smelling like love potion…or watermelon cucumber. LOL! Another great one!! Thanks for injecting some humor into this harsh reality.
As women we need to know our value cause when you don't, you allow other people to set your price. Stop being hardup and desperate for a man that makes you feel like you are not enough.
We say that like it’s easy for a woman to know her value. And when you don’t know you’re value you don’t see that you’re hard up or desperate. How about we start lifting up and praying for those women who don’t know their value. It took me until my 40’s to know. Not all of us had parents who poured into us..some had parents who tore them down making them prey for men. It takes a lot more than telling a woman stop. It make take therapy and prayer to get whole but first she must recognize herself that she doesn’t value herself. In meantime let’s have some compassion for those who are yet healed.
@@lcjones4682 I agree, I had to learn through loneliness, rejection and abuse. Losing my mother at 12 years old and growing up in a house with just my father and brother was not easy. But life itself has tought me a lot and coming into the knowledge of Jesus Christ. Lord knows its not a easy process.
God bless you Tony! Yes, don’t be desperate. God said be anxious for nothing! I pray everyone under the sound of your voice “especially women “ wait on God, pray to him,and ask for clear vision to see the distractions. Woman where is the virtue? Where is your dignity?Thx Tony. If it’s unhealed… don’t deal! Period! This was real real , but funny 😄. My toes were hurting from a past grown boy. Do the work. Keep preaching Tony.
This is crazy! If you're not a good dad to the kids you have,I'm not interested AT ALL! As long as healthy boundaries are set, you should advocate for the man to be a good dad!
Tony is right! As soon as i found out someone i just met had a newborn, i would leave him in the dust. I would tell him he need to focus on his baby not dating for now. That's a huge red flag if you dont see it he will spin you like a fool
I don’t agree! When I met my husband he had a newborn from a woman who wasn’t his girlfriend but got pregnant purposely to try to trap him. We are married and have a very happy healthy relationship the baby momma even told me he wasn’t in a relationship with her but she wanted one with him. He is a good father me and her get along great.
If this isn’t the truth I don’t know what it is.I was the rebound. He had 2 failed marriages talked about his exes to me. I felt so sorry for him trying to be the one to Love him.. left me and went to another women. He jumps from one situation to another. Thank you Jesus for getting me out of that toxic relationship. He has never healed
That was awesome ... and the last sentence spoke directly to me ... break up with the guy & then chase him 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤡 , that’s silly ! will be taken one of these classes man !!!
