Stop caring about what other people think | Mel Robbins

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How do you stop being paralyzed by the things people think about you? Changing your thoughts, simply not caring, or "positive thinking"...way easier said than done.
You are still reading for a reason -- today is the day you pick ONE thing you haven't done because you are fearful about what other people think -- and you DO IT. Just one. Whether that is taking the step in booking a trip, getting a URL for a new website you want to start, picking up the phone and calling one person you need to clear the table with, or simply sharing a success on social media.
Thinking your way to it won't make it happen. Today, one small move forward. You'll still care what they think, but you'll do it any way, and that is how you stop caring about what everyone else thinks.
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@knittingdoula 6 лет назад

Remember, too, that the people you're so worried about are generally so wrapped up in their lives that they're not going to give much thought to yours. Live your life and live it with as much bravery as you can summon forth. You won't regret it, even if you were scared at the time. And even if you make a mistake and fall flat on your face, you will have done so pursuing your goals. And life will still go on.

@cocofoster5505 5 лет назад

Great wisdom!

@Hanaaajabeen 2 года назад

Yupp...it is true that most of others wont even care about u as half as u care bout them...the only way is to feed urself first and move on..

@simonac9321 5 лет назад

I actually gave this a go, while watching this video. I was in a full library, watching this video on a huge computer screen, while taking a break from hours of studying. I would usually refrain from watching stuff like that at uni, because "what would people think if Im watching a video titled "Stop caring about what other people are thinking" IT'S RIDICULOUS. My thinking that is. This time though, instead of clicking off it, I watched it, not a care in the world. Surprise, nothing happened. But now I have a small win to comment about ;)

@edgepixel8467 5 лет назад

Simona C Simono, Simono, nu mai arde curentu' instituției cu fleacuri :P

@awakenedsouls3206 3 года назад

@BobRocksBaby I am . That is one of the scariest things for me.

@BeautyintheEast 3 года назад

I love this comment!

@awakenedsouls3206 3 года назад

@@BeautyintheEast 🙂

@hassanmaxton7942 3 года назад

I realize I'm kinda randomly asking but does anybody know a good site to stream new movies online ?

@Elkycreates 3 года назад

Just do what you want to do. Don’t let anyone stop you - especially those who unequivocally tell you something can’t be done or can’t be achieved. If you allow yourself to be controlled by others you are wasting your life.

@liamc7097 5 лет назад

Summary: You have to take action and do the things you haven't been doing because you're worried about what people might think anyway. Taking action in spite of these feelings will help change your brain not to care so much.

@sethjamison1 6 лет назад

we spend most of our lives worrying about what others think of us--only to find out they never did

@stevenhillshow 6 лет назад

Wow I was just freaking out last night because I was caring what people think about people and then you post this. Thank you, Mel!

@whateverittakes9000 6 лет назад

I did stop giving myself to people for free, just because they wanted to use me. Everytime someone asked me anything, I would say yes, "whatsoever" it may be. Now I'm learning to say no. Thanks Mel😊

@upstatenewyork 5 лет назад

That's good

@IAmAStepaholic 6 лет назад

I am moving forwards everyday (not as fast as I would like, but it is in the right direction) and the excitement definitely knocks out my fear. But it is still a journey of getting knocked down and getting back up. I write it down in my journal every day and then start a fresh the next day which means no baggage and always moving forward. Love your RU-vid clips, it has definitely kept me going. Thank you

@ruchika.1201 6 лет назад

For a long time I had stopped myself from taking action but once I decided to pick that thing and do it anyway, it felt amazing to see myself doing that thing successfully. Agreed that it is difficult but once done, it is life changing as well. I am very grateful that I finally gathered the courage and started my RU-vid Channel which people are liking and appreciating. If I wouldn't have done it, I would have never seen it happening.

@laurinhamariotto 6 лет назад

Mel is so sweet....this is not about get crazy and turning out a workaholic, but having peace of spirit and mind. This is quality of life!

@cymph1157 3 года назад

An obstacle for me is painting but not because what others may think of me - because what I may think of me. "You are not as good as your younger self. Your concept is not that original. You are busy with school and you are spending too much money on school, so focus on school." Ouch, these words sound piercing and so mean. I think it's time to address them and become my best advocate for me. :)

@constsncedaniel3028 6 лет назад

I stop myself from really committing to working hard at college. I know where I'm at intellectually but I stop half way in the study cycles and do Ok. But I know deep down I'm better than an Ok student. I know where this self sabatoge comes from and the whys but I do it anyway. Why cant I just believe that I deserve a better life that excelling at school will give me.

@ar1079 2 года назад

It is very much difficult in India to fallow your heart when you live in a big family specially for women who had to face hurdles every day in her life in the name of culture, tradition, family and society norms and expectations..I am already facing that ..and trying to do my best to overcome that..

@wiemcowybieram 6 лет назад

Of course, it is not easy to stop taking care what others think, but with this method you can notice that you can do many things despite other opinions. I totally agree with it, the most important is realize that all thoughts and worries are external. :)

@landidecruz522 6 лет назад

I've always put off doing art because I've been worried about what people might think and say, that's why I've never grown in my art at all. Today after watching this video I will be doing 1 art piece every week and no longer worry about self doubt and failure. I have to start somewhere. Thanks so much for this video and this amazing channel which has slowly started transforming my life just by following what you say and believing in myself

@lorrainewalters4640 6 лет назад

Mel you're so right. I suffer from this too. Doubts, am I good enough? Etc. Thanks so much Mel I'll take your advice.

@mrs.smitathakur9236 6 лет назад

Thanks Mel. Thanks to you I stop hesitating in promoting my work and got a spot in local art festival. It was huge experience and real confidence booster. You have made a huge difference in my life.

@maimohamed3590 6 лет назад

Actions louder than words 💪

@stompi3 6 лет назад

My whole life I have not really shown interest in anyone, sure back in the day I would find people interesting from a far but the moment they interacted with me.. and I know I can be easy going but can also be stubborn (We all have our up and down days. . But I am happy with the voices in my head and feel no need to ever have to speak to a human being again.... but I will and have from yesterday started involving myself more... and actually try to give a few shits here and there.. and my daily actions just seem more eventful and meaningful. The secret I feel to accomplishment feeling... is the fact that you accomplished something or someone benefited from the interaction that just took place. So now I will constantly try to add value to each interaction with everyone in my a.o.r Outside the comfort zone... it just feels exciting thinking about it...

@asma10shoot45 6 лет назад

i have found the best way to attack it is through keeping your ideas to yourself don't reveal them until you have started it. because in the start they'll criticise you no matter what and it's completely normal! you know why? because they don't have the vision as you have in your mind. lot of great achievers of the human kind were criticsed and if they cared any less the world wouldn't be the way it is now

@bobbijothuet8797 5 лет назад

Thank you MEL!!! Today I started my Etsy page, my RU-vid channel, updated my linked in and am starting my email campaign announcing my new business model!!! 🙏💙💫💞👌

@missmandyq1 4 года назад

I am so grateful for you, Mel! You inspired me to take action and I did it with your help! I am excited to overcome the paralysis and am so thankful for your help. The way you speak really really resonates with me and helps me feel empowered. 😊

@SkyHighAffirmations 6 лет назад

It's funny that you mentioned making art, because that's been my biggest fear throughout my life. Especially since I love abstract art, instead of the landscapes and still lifes that everyone I know prefers. But I powered through it, and I've been painting for a few weeks now. :)

@swethakrishnamurthy6791 4 года назад

I look up to you every time I need that push or a clarity. What you say make ao much sense. I am so glad I bumped into you Mel. Thank you so much.

@panzerthecat 6 лет назад

It breaks my heart to know other people are talking about me in a negative way. I shut down. Mel. Why?

@DaTa-wm5yc 5 лет назад

Panzerthe Cat4 i am the same. But what i come to realize is, who cares what stupid people think. You should care about the opinion of good people, not of bad people who talk negatively about other people. A lion doesn‘t concern himself with the opinion of a sheep

@everythingislifetv666 3 года назад

@@DaTa-wm5yc I think you shouldn't care about all of the opinions of others bad or good ones that's how you become independent from this

@cyndirodriguez4587 4 года назад

I went from only posting in my business Facebook page to sharing my business on my regular page. I quit worrying about what people think of me and it has been a game changer!

@MrBrianDuga 6 лет назад

A siding project on my house. It's been half done for years. Partially because Lyme disease took all my energy and still dealing with a lot of fatigue and brain fog after treating it. What you mentioned is a HUGE factor. I'm so embarressed to go out there. Tyvek and insulation deteriorating, any one of the neighbors could strike up a conversation. I worry what they all think. My parents. I've talked about walking away from the house because it's so much undone. I used to have a lot more energy and it all creates a lot of anxiety. I keep saying "THIS is the weekend I make a dent" and I find a way not to go out there.

@katecosettevocals 6 лет назад

Mel!!! You answered the same question I had YES! I’ve been dying to hear your take on this. I love that idea, of *proving* to yourself that you don’t care. That’s such a great way of putting it! I can’t wait to try this. Thank you thank you thank you! :)

@avedafaye1366 6 лет назад

I have fairly well moved on from fear of judgment, now I have been dealing with lack of motivation. A lot of that has to do with circumstances, a lot of that has to do with chronic illness, but I am certain that most of it has to do with mindset. Even though it isn't about judgement so much for me anymore, I think the advice to pick one thing and just do it is still valuable and powerful, because starting can often be the most difficult part. I give myself permission to not hustle like I'm dying tomorrow or anything, because then when tomorrow comes I will feel like dying from the pain/fatigue/fog/etc, but doing SOMETHING, even a small something, and just getting through it, is better than doing nothing. I can't change my circumstances until I do something about it, and that will tale many small steps. And as I take those steps, there will be a change in mindset as I prove to myself that I can do it and it is worth spending the energy on. Thank you 💖

@twigsoflife 3 года назад

Love you Mel.. just what am doing since I was 30.. now am 38😂.. though honestly sometimes it occur and attack my conscious like when am preparing birthday for kids but really by the moment I fell into that thinking I always shift my thoughts to .."I will do what I can and I should not care what people will think.. because either way.. people has something to say anyway.. so stop thinking what other people say.. start thinking how yourself will thank yourself after you did well and if not well.. take it as a learning to do better not for others but for yourself😉

@julieshaffer4321 4 года назад

It was well worth the 2:34 minutes. I wrote the outline of the business plan. I contacted a person about starting a business. More to come.

@dorcasrutherford8669 6 лет назад

I'm finding myself stuck because I want to start my business, just not with the friend I currently do residential cleaning with? We have been friends for years. However, I would like to do more, do better and make more money. I have taken the necessary steps to be a legal business, insurance etc. I need to break away without hurting her feelings. I have carried more of the load for a long time and only received half the money. I'm feeling taken advantage of and am aware that this will continue if I don't continue my own business without this constant half-assed effort on her part. I've tried to bring attention to certain things with her but she sees no wrong in her actions. I can be friends but working together is becoming stressful to the point of anger.

@ldavies3280 4 года назад

You’ve said that you asked for more help, and nothing changed. This doesn’t mean that she’s a nasty person, but she doesn’t care greatly for your feelings or opinions - not enough to do what she doesn’t want to do for your sake. She’s putting herself first, and so can you. If you do this as kindly as you can, giving her time to make arrangements, then you’ve played fair. You can make it clear that you want to remain friends if you like, and if the friendship ends, then it wasn’t that strong anyway. It might be awkward for a while, but you will get through it, and you will be free to do what you want to do.

@LUSHImboundMarketingFKcom 6 лет назад

This video came up at the right moment! Like karma!!!!! T h a n k you!...Just DO IT! .....Just DO IT! I will...

@MissMeeWee100 6 лет назад

A great 2 min Mel!!!! You are so right!

@roberthughes6919 6 лет назад

Thank you Mel Robbins

@mariajolinacoronel7312 6 лет назад

Thank you for reminding me to take an action. Simple but powerful. 👍

@romellyarde907 6 лет назад

Breaking that threshold can truly open new ways of thinking confidently. It actually opens other avenues that you can keep practicing it continuously.

@angelarutherford1840 3 года назад

I love to sew and make things. I watched this video the day I finished a little dress with ladybugs. I almost just put it away with all the other stuff for when I get up the nerve to have the audacity to ask people to spend good money on anything I make. But I thought of what you said and realized, as usual, I initially wanted to put it on Facebook. Just in case anyone wanted to buy it now. Usually I don’t post the items. But this time I did, and immediately sold the dress. :) Working on the next one now.

@angelarutherford1840 3 года назад

From this, I made and posted two dresses. Both of which sold hours after being made. I’m dropping them off tomorrow for $80 and starting a new dress. Thanks Mel. :)

@LoriWattnz 6 лет назад

My brother thinks I hold myself back using epilepsy as excuse to not do something with my life but I had to find a way to live life to the fullest regardless. Action I took is finding something that I'm good at making and sell it also I do coaching online blogger as well. I did something that made my brother back off he hardly knows me anyways he has been away from home for so long he doesn't know me enough to judge my situation as a person so I walk away and find a way to be myself.

@maneltaouli2128 6 лет назад

sometimes i feel like i want to post a quote or and idea in english on my facebook but then i just stop my self and say no no i wont post this maybe my english is not good and my friends will laugh at me :(

@sharvarikaulgud1159 4 года назад

Thanks Mel. I took the first step to make my creation public. I put my first youtube video online, my first stp in starting my channel. Love you.

@lorrainewright9643 6 лет назад

Thank you for all your amazingly motivating content. The title of this one definitely caught my attention. Sooooooooo good. However.....my issue is not that I DON’T do certain things because of ‘what others think of me’ but that I say YES to just about everything because of the fear of saying NO! So, kind of the opposite problem. And because I have a few different groups of friends/ family I find myself often overbooked. Even though I enjoy doing all the things I have agreed too, I have a hard time prioritizing what i can realistically accomplish ( time wise) while still having time for my husband and myself. ( AND not offending anyone OF COURSE 😉)

@kiranpannu1025 6 лет назад

Thanks Mel.u rock.start practicing yoga again so that I can teach....🙏🏽🌻🌻🌻

@anabelagasparinho6408 6 лет назад

That's just what I needed to hear. I can do it!!!!

@ladeedaa1419 4 года назад

Mine is, I want to do some spring garden clean up but don’t wanna see my neighbors. Weird, I know. I feel judged and insecure

@MrGatsu 4 года назад

The mindset I use to overcome it is this. The reality is, nobody cares.i repeat NOBODY CARES! We are by nature engineered and conditioned to be selfish. Why are the words me and I the most common words used today? Exactly! It’s like I go to a bar enjoying my time and a fight breaks out all of a sudden. By the end of the day I’m gona forget who were the two who got into a fight, and I’m just gona move on and say “let them solve their beef. I don’t even know who these dudes are and who knows, but I’m gona continue enjoying my time.” So yeah just focus on you.

@kirstenfaulkner5344 6 лет назад

Took a step I was avoiding yesterday :) Go me!

@rahulajayan5546 6 лет назад

Thanks Mel. I ve started this.

@alelaserna 6 лет назад

You're awesome and inspiring Mel! I'm working on it.... I am!!

@RegenaO 6 лет назад

Excellent video!!! Very true - STEP INTO ACTION 🎉

@clarily-561 6 лет назад

My sister was terrified about what our family would think about her divorcing only 3 months after her wedding. In the end every one thought she was brave and looked up to her, not down on her, because it was a very difficult decision to make but she was willing to go through the pain and fear in ordrer to become happier in her life. (it was a mentally abusive relationship)

@evablabla9231 6 лет назад

I always wanted to have my own RU-vid channel but I never seit my wish into action because i am worried about my school mates and what they might say

@tejaswinibappudisundar6540 6 лет назад

Thanks a lot , you are making a lot of changes from your ideas to all

@viniciuscorrea1997 6 лет назад

Thank you so much Mel ❤️

@valerie4912 4 года назад

I was JUST talking to my niece about the paralysis of analysis and how it has and continues to keep me stuck. I have a fairly large list of things I’d like to do but I get overwhelmed with where to start and how my parents and siblings will react. I’m 41 years old.

@nidhidhaliwal288 Год назад

Thank you soo much mam Your advises are soo much helpful God bless you abundantly

@kumudinisundaramani3833 2 года назад

I love you !! You are my best inspiration

@susandomenichini6096 Год назад

Thank you

@ScottGlifecoach 6 лет назад

Action of progress creates the power of change.

@mariamkinen8036 6 лет назад

I am being very much my individual SELF. I DNGA rats about... I am not dependent on other ppl. Not in that sense. The choice is ours. Smile 🙂

@nadaaouiti1060 6 лет назад

The first day I'll start I hope I get this thing done

@shellyvlogs1182 6 лет назад

U know what i scared the most im so scared of going on to the stage and speak or recieve award i get paralyize so i want to be more confident and believe in myself

@crystalwaters8714 4 года назад

LOVE LOVE LOVEEEEEE HERRR MELL ROBINSSS I LOVEEE UUU IM STARSTRUCK AND OBSESSEDDD MELL ROBBINSSS I LOVEEE YOUUUU🗣

@saniezehra9660 Год назад

I am going to start studying in September!

@nikitanamrani1042 3 года назад

Just loved your trick

@san534 3 года назад

Thank you for this video

@arthurmintoogue7460 Год назад

Thank you♥️

@Dragondollx 6 лет назад

I stopped myself from second guessing myself and launched my art gallery. :)

@nbbn2449 3 года назад

Great news!

@firdaussayed9196 Год назад

I will start sketching once a week

@fromred2black436 6 лет назад

Thank you Mel! 5,4,3,2....

@lilys2887 4 года назад

This is so helpful! Thank Mel!

@kokovelichkov5915 4 года назад

I was stopping myself form the thing I LOVE -> swimming because other people used to say "Huh swimming sucks"...

@paulineaird5040 3 года назад

Swimming is awesome! Go for it!

@aromalsk5100 6 лет назад

Law of attraction + 5 second rule(action)= massive success

@mszstephy516 6 лет назад

Needed this. I will try it !

@brainstretch7884 6 лет назад

GOOD LUCK!!!

@nickjohnson2101 6 лет назад

How did that work for you?

@bric2292 3 года назад

Superb!

@Paulaschoicefan 6 лет назад

Public Speaking terrifies me....I've had a family who has been critical of me for about 30 years....

@inkypie7142 6 лет назад

I've topped myself from doing RU-vid, but I will start creating content 😊

@Zarouge 3 года назад

@imposter fuck off.

@Zarouge 3 года назад

@imposter no.

@thelauralindachannel1149 6 лет назад

Thanks, Mel!

@tanviramin7149 6 лет назад

One day i will meet u, hug u and tell u that how much i love u. The moment i see your vdo you dont know how much Dopamine increase in my brain.

@BaljinderSingh-uz6nk 4 года назад

Hey bro

@bybelbeauty4854 5 лет назад

Love this

@sarahbrown8767 6 лет назад

This video spoke to me!!! Thank you!

@lwstruyk 5 лет назад

I like this gal good job

@rawan8452 6 лет назад

Talking public in class it's so hard cause I'm scared what they will think about me:(

@harryboigaming 2 года назад

"don’t let what other people think, stop you from doing the things you love." -some one in history, idk he sounds wise, maybe a saint?

@HappyHolyHealthyLife 2 года назад

Awesome 🤗

@OgalinoAlvin 3 года назад

Your videos are good!

@madziam7893 6 лет назад

My problem,great advice.

@fluffyclouds555 3 года назад

Mel Robbins is the badass conscious lady I want to become

@Alexanderschtegenburg 4 года назад

I love ur advice I am in my 20s like fuck I do what I want!, I am making trying to make most of my life time while I am still alive"

@aliciaburchell3012 6 лет назад

Love the idea. Question - what if your dream requires more money than you have, as well as being a lot of work to prepare? This is something I'm passionate about but I feel like I need to dive into it, ready or not, and I'm scared to death! It could change my life though, or it could leave me broke. I would appreciate your advice on this. Thanks!

@aprildawnsunshine4326 6 лет назад

Alicia Burchell hedge your bets. Either do it part time or make sure you have some other stream of income, not necessarily a full time job, maybe get on mechanical terk or put yourself on care.com as a sitter/dog walker/housekeeper, just so you're not putting all your eggs in one basket. Figure out how long you can give this b4 you'd end up totally broke, write it on the calendar, and go for it. You might fail, you might not, but if you hedge your bets and set a deadline for becoming profitable, you can find out.

@aliciaburchell3012 6 лет назад

AprilDawn Bennett thanks for taking the time to reply! That was some very sound advice and I'll certainly keep that in mind. I have the opportunity to try and open a business in town and provide a much needed service to those around me. I'd need to hire a contractor though and put some money into it before even opening my doors. How would I even begin to figure out how much money I'd need let alone how long I could last before going broke? Are you referring to a business loan? And rent or mortgage? I'm guessing...

@aliciaburchell3012 6 лет назад

AprilDawn Bennett I've tried care.com but only got a couple of interested people that ended up falling through so I gave up. Maybe I need a video so people can see me? I'm thinking too about starting the business out of my home but I'd still need money to create the desired space to start. Do I just look at what I'd need and start calculating the funds needed? How do I know if I need a license to move forward? I have a passion for dogs and live in the country so I'd like to start a doggy daycare service....do u think I'd need a permit or license? Or just start it and see?

@aprildawnsunshine4326 6 лет назад

Okay. 1. Research and figure out what you need, Google is your friend. 2. Figure out how much it would cost to support yourself and the biz 100%, no income for 2 years. Ideally you'd want to have that much in hand when you start, but if you can find another stream of income you can factor that in. Also, I live in the country and I've seen 2 doggy daycares and 1 doggy salon close up since I moved here 4years ago, so that's maybe not the best market for that. However, vets are mostly understaffed and there aren't enough to meet demand so maybe start as a vet tech (minimal schooling at most) and learn & save until the market recovers and then you'll have the knowledge and connections to create a thriving doggy daycare biz.

@Arbonnette 5 лет назад

I'm just seeing this post now - I'm wondering if you've found a way to to start working toward your dream?

@tsich3226 6 лет назад

VERY GOOD video!!!! You are so validating. ❤❤❤

@lizestes4746 3 года назад

I am going to start painting again! I want to create art!

@christoffernordenstrom 5 лет назад

I'm going to create my own website from today :)

@eleanorlouw3987 6 лет назад

Ive just put my blog out there!

@shannon150 4 года назад

Great video

@yatinsawant4492 4 года назад

0:56 I really thought the video was replayed... and as I was about to close it... I realized it was not. Who else felt the same way??...

@athar_Winter 4 года назад

Thnxxxxxx🌷🌷💜

@dummonkey1706 4 года назад

I'm one of the lucky ones I don't care what anybody thinks they don't pay my bills they don't live with me they don't matter I've always had more friends than I can count I spent my life having fun on whatever I wanted to do skydiving skiing boating hiking biking fishing having a ball other people only matter if they're yelling at me for having fun.

@azfilms3240 4 года назад

and.... with this, I start my own RU-vid channel :) come support your boy! lol

@oinambilson778 4 года назад

I am from India. If i post a video of a singer wearing an off shoulder T-Shirt on my social media , the people who saw the video would be like," Dude do you like white girls who show skin a lot ? ".But my intention was to share her talent not her physical appearance. I grow up watching Disney movies and series and Hollywood and also listened to English songs a lot. But for these people they grow up in rural areas, watched regional conservative movies and devotional songs sung by Saree covered women. So i guess their upbringing is different.