awesome!!! i got something to add. focus on your senses at the current moment. focus yourself on what you see, hear, feel or smell. that brings me back every time :) thanks mel
I was Really high once and was running on a hike and bike trail and i kid you not. I went into the moment of now and it was one of the most beautiful things ive ever experience and its so powerful. It almost felt like looking at the world through a child's eyes
My problem is that I’m just such a nostalgic person, I can’t help but constantly think about things that have happened in the past, and how badly I want to go back to those times.
To me that seems like you're really appreciating the beautiful moments that you had in the past. I think that's a good thing! The tricky part is to then remember that the present and future also have equally beautiful moments waiting for your attention. They may take a different form, but life is capable of providing an infinite array of lovely experiences. It does take a focused intention and willingness to experience them, but I believe you have it in you! Life did not just limit them to your past. Wishing you all the very best!
Hello Trinity and others 💙 My wish is that this message reaches you and anybody that ends up reading this even if this great video was posted a while ago! But it relates to the subject of it very well. The Now. All the monents since the idea about making this video until my now writing this text and your Now reading this is always in the present. It's not past despite the date. The past exist because you remember it, there is nothing you can change. The future exists only because you imagine it that way now. Some events make sure it will never exist. So, knowing that action and feelings only happen in the Now isn't it the only place to be? 😁 By doing things that bring you joy, you live the emotions Now, creating your future good memories... You like to remember the emotions you lived then and it's good! But now, you prefer feeling great being busy to live, creating new future memories... Big hugs, with love, always!💙💙 Sophie
I have grown up living with a dad that always talked about the future, about how much money we were going to get and where we'd be financially, and over the years I either worried about the past or the future, and sometimes id be worrying about why i couldn't live in the present . I struggled a lot with showing my emotions and not being able to express them correctly, people would tell me "all you have is now" and it was very difficult for me to understand. I have lost many people, things, by worrying. I am going to watch this again when i wake up and I'm going to work smart on understanding "how to be present". This is my first time watching you, and you triggered something in my brain that now I'm conscious of and im going to change for the better of me
I needed this today.. I'm starting fall semester in a couple days so I was worrying about the future.. then all my past mistakes and disappointments were tugging on my heart as well... thanks for the special message, I'll carry it with me ♡
Great advice. Thank you 🙏🏽. I struggled with anxiety and panic attacks. I have to say that at least the psychologists I saw, did not help at all. But that’s another story. We don’t become aware or we do not wake up into awareness unless we have experienced difficult times in our lives. I was a multi task multi functional type of person. I developed anxiety and anger through the years for many reasons. I was somehow good at not dwelling in the past, so I do not know what depression really is, but I got to know anxiety very well and not the light state of anxiety that most people feel. I mean crazy constant anxiety attacks that lead to panic. That you feel you’re gonna lose control of yourself. It was awful. But I found out doctors could not help me. I started reading about Buddhism and books of Thich Nhat Hanh and Eckart Tolle and my life started to change. Living in the present is the key,. But I’ve learned to control my feelings and my ego while interacting with other people. I leave work and get in my car and forget about what happened at work. Just enjoy the driving home. Just like when I’m at work I’m present at work and I don’t even look at what time it is. When I’m home I’m home, not anywhere else. I am calm now. When I feel I’m a bit anxious I watch my thoughts and I know I have to come back to the present. It hasn’t been easy but it’s simple. You just have to be aware and practice constantly being in the present moment.
this is beautiful and what I'm looking to achieve. I'm reading the power of now at the moment. such powerful things. I just keep bringing my mind to the future or past. I want to stay in the present. any advice?
@@cupidfairy89 recognize all the blessings you have , and know everything happens for a reason . And be grateful for everything and I mean everything and be nice to everyone , someone else always has it worse ,
The Loving Troll yeah typing is ez, jk but really as I’m feeling anxious and depressed right now makes me unable to focus on something in my room in order to live the moment.
I've been living in the present my entire life it seems man I had to cut off many people bc I was being abused but now I'm an adult and I'm choosing happiness
I savor my friends, after we hanged out last night and talked about silly things, I realised how grateful I am, the gratitude that you should be feeling is there and right at that moment, I realised also that I’ve enjoyed the moment and the happiness it brings is much more comfortable. ❤️
Past -depression Future- anxiety You may not be in control of how you feel but you control what you are thinking Being present : Having your thoughts in this moment If you caught yourself having bad thoughts -Ground yourself in the moment: 5 4 3 2 1 and get yout thinking straight
Difficult to do but very true. I have to constantly keep bringing myself back and noticing. Being grateful. It does work. I hope more people can find this technique too.
always dwelling in the future or past, been controlled by depression and fear, was not nice. one early morning, i awoke, the sun was doing its magic, i was led through the door of gratitude! i realised my life was so blessed, apply grattitude to all aspects of your way, and watch what happens:)
Great tips! I really enjoyed the video. I was feeling awful about eating unhealthy for the past three weeks. Yesterday, I had a wake up call. I felt so sick for half the day. I haven't exercised for over a week, but I forced myself to take a walk. And today, I chose to eat yogurt with fruit while watching your video. I felt that little boost of happiness you were talking about. I'm so glad I found you through Ted talks. A lot of the things I struggle with such as procrastination, lack of focus and anxiety, you have great videos on how to overcome those challenges!
Thank you for this video! I've noticed when I think about the good times in the past, I get a little sad. I need to do better of living in the present.
Now when I see myself busy with a past or future not so good thoughts, I say to myself come back, this is not the place I want to be. Then I feel happy that now I can monitor my thoughts and control them and bring them back. I feel so thankful for gaining knowledge and moving forward in a better way.
I'm so glad there are people in the world like you.. Anyway I am either in the past or future... (past fixing my walls I have built up because of pain or mental trauma.. If I don't have peace with what happend or at least accept what I have been through I can't grow in life) (Future oh boy this one is the most used one.. For I must constantly plan etc what will I do blah bla bla.) I could just have faith.. But instead I worry or yes anxiety. The present moment I only find when sometimes alone.. And with family or animals.. Sometimes with friends.. Maybe because of circumstances I am anxious and jumpy or sometimes panicked.. Well I'm 25 years old living in South Africa without a Job finally studying and unfortunately still with my mother and stepfather.. Maybe because the difficulty in the situation or certain things I don't understand... Because I found out that you can find yourself or mindset in a maze... I sent allot of applications out for jobs and still not getting any were... This COVID-19 really put everyone in the world upside-down Even in South Africa allot of people lost their jobs But anyway hope you find time to read my story Would appreciate it if you can give me your honest or criticism on what you see.. I love it when people are straight forward... I just think I put myself in this position maybe because of the country economy? Fear of responsibility for high taxes or hatred towards this system our country is in... The all bad negative things and how corrupt our country are.. Anyway just wanted tonget that out.. In the meantime looking forward to hear from you.. #blessings
My mind is BLOWN. I do gratitude journals and I try to live in the present. But this video finally connected the two. I freakin get it now! I was wondering why doing gratitude wasn’t really clicking…I didn’t understand why I was trying to be grateful…I’m just told being grateful is good for you…… and I was wondering why being in the present seemed so dull. This makes so much more sense!!
The sentence where she said that people survived the worst Things like Holocaust i mean its not so Hard in my Moments but I was Very often in Hospital and that brought little tears to me and hitted me right in the Feelings ❤️
Try to think of something awesome that happened to you.. I remember when I fell off the chair in science class and my best friend got blamed for pushing me because she couldn't stop laughing.. it was hilarious and I found it so funny.. I directed my thoughts towards it. You can't control it 24/7 Because your brain is working on the subconscious 90% but you can reprogram your subconscious by repeating thoughts and feelings through your conscious xx you have a huge impact on your thoughts and life... take everything as a positive
You and only you is the boss of your own head! Only You can decide what thought will have the priority and which ones you push aside because they lead to nothing you can do or change bc already past, they bring you down, are negatives, shameful, judgmental... They are all a waste of your energy. When you decide to stop the story the second you have identified it as being a waste, you have stopped it because you are the boss! Imagine all the energy, the creative energy, the one that makes you look inside and let's the best of you being expressed. Listen to this voice that helps you find your beauty, your value, your love... For yourself and for all there is. You Are All there is to be, All is Love and Love is God. Love yourself, and be assured that there will always be someone loving you. Big hugs of Love, always... 💙 Sophie
Slowly getting better with being in the present more often. Get short bursts of happiness that drift away as soon as my autopilot kicks back in. I found I am also more productive when I’m in the present. I’m finding that I’m only present about 30 minutes a day.. even my drive to and from work is autopilot..
Where do you draw a distinction between conscious decisions to be happy/unhappy, and mental illnesses like depression, which something people have no control over?
Honestly it sounds rude but i think even in depression, when you surrender to the moment you feel better, and after that you can practice graditude in the moment. I got out of depression by surrendering to the moment, but don’t worry, I didn’t know this then, that was somehow unconsciously that I did that. With the time you’ll always be better in that and to prevent Depression, you need a deep meaning for your life, so you should find your true self and then create your goals etc. I’m sorry to explain, how I think it works, in my kinda rude style but I want to keep it short. Love
wow just wow this is amazing mel you are really a philosopher i wish everybody some day will gonna find you and change their lives with you,you are the thing that people has to hear all of us thank you i feel lucky and happy for having the luck of stumbling this video have a good day sir with respect and love ❤️❤️❤️❤️
For me being in the present is more than happiness, is that amazing feeling of peace with yourself. The thing i do when i caught myself not being in the present is to visualize myself go from the 1st perspective of the body to the 3rd perspective of the watcher (the real you). It really work great for me.
Small and simple acts of savoring. I like this phrase very much. I am glad I stumbled upon your video. Thank you for clarifying what it means to be present at this moment.
This video was genuinely so helpful but it brought me to tears thinking about how much time I've wasted. But then I realised, even thinking that, I was looking to the past and trying to change it. And now I've changed. In an instant. What an incredible video!
I came up with a little trick that can help kick us in the moment, basically it's paying attention to your peripheral vision at the same time as while focusing your eyes on something. So for example, while texting a message on your phone, at the same time pay attention to what peripheral vision see. Like the stuff/background behind your phone.
I have been meditating for 4 years and I'm at the point where I can no longer stay in the present moment. Meditation helped me a lot at first, but now I feel I have regressed and it no longer helps me because my brain is overpowering my desire to focus on the present. Worry, depression, anxiety, hopelessness, loneliness, regret, disappointment--those all take over. I don't know what to do; I know I'm sliding down into depression.
I know people who dwell constantly on some wrong that was done (or happened) to them in the past, and it literally led to a downward spiral and eventual death. Despite being surrounded by positive kind people, they just WANTED to wallow in their own misery. There's a reason it's termed 'wallow' - like a pig wallows in muck - they enjoy it. Hard to believe but some people enjoy (in weird way) rehashing their misery all the time. But I saw a Ted Talk by an amazing lady who was extremely happy in life. Incredibly, she had been raped in the past and made the conscious effort that she was not going to let one awful event ruin her life. She worked hard at it and moved on to be a very happy person. Now THAT's an inspiring change in outlook!
Exercise is a good one for this too, and very effective, whenever you are making yourself tired and you want the exercise to be over, and when you actually finish, you are very *present*
I really love this video. I discovered the psychology of flow, very much living in the present moment whilst taking those microsteps towards the future. It's blissful alignment that's all based on proven positive psychology.
The Bhagavad Gita, a sacred Hindu scripture, emphasizes the importance of concentration, focus, and staying in the present moment to achieve spiritual growth and success. It encourages individuals to channel their thoughts and actions towards a singular purpose, focusing their mind on the task at hand without being distracted by past regrets or future anxieties. This practice aids in achieving a state of mindfulness and flow, enhancing overall effectiveness and inner peace.
I usually ride motorbike for work and this one day while riding it, i just went into a now moment. And EVERY Single damn thing was seemed so innocent or life like to me weather living or non living .maybe word simulation can may describe it. its such a beautiful experience, the different noises from my brike, the engine roaring, the tyre griping, the keys clicking, the indicators etc..all of them hit me all at once. I heard noise that I didn't thing it was there, like going over a hump and noticing the noise of backpack friction on my back, and I'm wearing a helmet which limits noise abit.. The people talking, screaming, shouting all seems so accepting without any form reaction from me( and I would 100% react if I heard someone shout or screem). All of th noises from the environment around me was coming at once. My eyes saw more thing at once than ever before. This whole felt like a simulation to me. But not the simulation we knew where we go into analysing, but rather the simulation where everything was just doing its thing.
Liz Grantham consider her your mom..respect and have gratitude, for all those who inspire you; a parent gives us life..but the universe has many ways of helping us through out our life..through inspiration and awareness from many vehicles
that was great deliverance. It well put and informative. I, now, understand the basic fundamentals of living in the moment. I was searching and searching on how to be happy and with your help, today, I can know refocus my attention on the present. It is very true that i have focused on my past and future too much, that's why I haven't got ahead. Thank you so much for sharing you wealth knowledge to help those like myself to reach for higher goals and achievements with that simplified answer.
I recently came across your channel, Mel. Your videos are very relevant and they really hit hard. You make it so simple too. Will inculcate this. Keep it going.
This is great, thank you. great communicator. Would this be considered something in the realm of CBT? Secondly, I also notice the destressing effect when I have something to looking forward to. It is v calming. Guessing both are interrelated.
The best savor which have been discovered by the indian sages is the human breathing movements. Because the breathing is continuous, in the present moment, evidence that we are still live. We can focus on the sensations created by the natural breathing moments near the gates of the nostrils and that will help us to keep in this present moment and make us happy!
Its so hard because we constantly do most tasks to finish them. I recently remodeled a bedroom in my house and the whole time I just wanted it finished… that attitude logically bleeds into secular work and then unfortunately into the best parts of life, free time, vacations.
hiiii Mel , you are always inspiring and you always fill up life with positivity can I please ask you questions in here ??? I wanted to ask you something
We live our lives in our skulls. All the five senses we live by are deciphered in our brain. We live life in our heads. Even our emotions are played out in our heads.To be present is to just simply observe. Observe without labels , criticism or describing to ourselves what we see...oh that's a lovely flower..why is he/she angry etc. As far as my past..especially the bad bits..they did not happen to me. They happened to another Jack..in some other historical past. I am not that Jack. I have learned also that events can change in a moment, that planning for some none existent future is a waste of time. Everything happens in the now..in this moment. Most of the big decision in my life, including getting married, was done on an impulse. It was instinct that told me if this or that was right or wrong..you know, that still small voice that some call, a gut feeling. Many times when I have gone against this instinct, things did not work out.
