What's sad is that a lot of us hang around because some men innocently use you. They are good guys and they don't mean to, but because they don't know what they want or they can't make up their mind, they will lead you on.
Makes sense I thought I was going insane when I was with my ex but it was only because he didn’t know what he wanted and played soo many mind games with me ! :( they have no idea how much damage they can do to people when they are like that only when he has the exact same thing happen to him will he realise how much he fucked me up !
He is not confused. He thinks he "can get better." He wants you now, but knows he can string you along as he looks for "better." You cannot be a soul mate w / a demon.
Leyah McMillan Girrrl I checked my blocked messages and noticed he has been reached out numerous times, lol. I feel in control of the situation. It's not easy but I know what I deserve 👌🏾💪🏾 blessings to you 🙏🏾
@leslie aluoch ...so do I...keep him blocked. It's best if use a block service that does not allow u to see if he has tried to contact u. If u r checking, u r not serious about ending things. This is how I heal my heart after breaking things off and I still have feelings. As long as he has access to u, u will expect to hear from him..having hope, holding on...no, that's self-destruction!! Blocking his access eliminates that hope and u will soon forget about him. Do not look for a replacement, u have to be strong...there r so many things about yourself to u put that energy into...your health, education...find something to occupy your mind and time that makes u happy..trust me it works!! When u meet someone new, do not let him be a distraction from what u found that makes u happy...always keep it a priority!! Take care😊
A confused man is a man full of unrealistic self entitlement. He has over the top expectations that he himself hasn't achieved. He's inconsistent with love/affection & constantly changes what he says he's looking for. When confronted he's full of half ass excuses & rebutals. He'll criticize everything about you & have you feeling insecure & never good enough.
Omg I called my X out on being a spoiled little brat he went absolutely off at me cause I think he low key knew it was true he would always want everything his way he was one of these confused little boys with major mummy issues that completely stole my heart and wasted my god damn time !
It's like they have a spirit of confusion on them and if you mess with them you end up confused too that spirit gets on you.. Stay clear of the confused type.
Missy The Fabulous just KEEP watching his videos...😊🙏😊..they'll make YOU🙇♀️😊🙇♀️...Stronger and Stronger🙏🙇♀️🙏...Prayers🙏🙏🙏 UP🙇♀️🙇♀️🙇♀️..for YOU🙏🙇♀️🙏...Sis🙏🙇♀️🙏🙇♀️
Kapresha Davis I honestly don't think Derrick Jaxn has a woman. By choice of course. I say this to say, 95% or more of the women who watch or comment on his videos are either lost, broken, damaged, or CONFUSED. The other 4% don't watch or comment, and the 1%, well, they're the 1%. The very small percentage of women who are truly in loving, healthy relationships. So where does that leave Mr. Derrick Jaxn huh? With approximately 99% of women who don't match his swag. On the flip side, don't so easily accept everything you hear from him and look at him like he's some messiah from GOD or something. EVERY MAN has his flaws. DJ is undeniably a great "talker" but where he excels in one area makes him imperfect in another.
He has a one year old so he was in some type of relationship. After people went in after that birth announcement I wouldn’t mention anything about my personal life if I was him
Watch out for "CASUAL MEN"..They dont want any commitment..run for ya damn life..hold ya head up and Stop playing the "Wifey"Role without a RING..for years on end
I just can recall my ex, he said to me that he was confused about his feelings towards me. It hurts a lot because someone you deeply in love isn't giving you same amount of affection. I let him go and that was the best decision I've made in my life and that was the worst decison of his life because now he regrets losing me.
@@amberlittles6395 he regrets losing her and he would have regreted staying with her, because he wants his cake and eat it too..and then 'a bite of another cake' confused man=unrealistic man. .childish man.
LordHelp TheWorld It sucks when you’re emotionally connected to them. 🤦🏾♀️sometimes I hate being a young woman that dates. I feel so naive. Especially when they presented a front 🙄. I’ll be okay.
He is not confused, he is not CONFIDENT. That's a Narcissist btw. They never change. The confusion comes from not believing in himself. He will leave when the feeling is gone because he believes you lost it too. He also has no object consistency, he can't love you if he feels any negative emotions towards you. He doesn't know what he feels, so when he feels anything bad, it's YOU that's the problem. Dead end relationship.
Hi im going Through the same the he said wht u mentioned here im waiting that he will come back to me as he went to his home and after going through the family issues now he feel he is in mess and he wants me not to expect anything from stay like a frnd but when he was at hstl he was damn nice to me now he brokeup with me ,he said he is not interested in me nor any other girl he just wanna comeout of realtionship kinda stuff wht should i do whethee i should expect he will come back to me r not
Be strong and know your worth, it may hurt to stop the relationship, go out with dignity and find someone who wants the same thing you do. Drop casual men they will waste your precious time.
I was broken up with today. He told me “he just doesn’t know.” He’s trying to figure out his life work and school wise. Sucks because whenever he would become distant, I would always have to be the one to address it and then he’d start again with his “I don’t know anymore”. I feel like I went through so much crying and anxiety in the relationship that I didn’t cry in front of him. I cried a little on my way home but I’m hoping for the best because I know I went above and beyond for him yet he didn’t do the same for me so it’s time to move on.
Ivonne same thing happened to me. It hurt me so much because unfortunately I let him decide my worth. Now I’m moving forward knowing that I first need to learn what love really is from God and then learn to love myself as well. How are you doing now?
The first time he displayed this behavior and said these words should have been when you walked away (hindsight is always 20/20). But, know this....never let a man tell you more than once he is not that into you. When he said he didn't know what he wanted.....he did know what he wanted....and being in a relationship with you was NOT what he wanted. Never stay where you are not welcomed or valued. This only leads to devastation and brokenness.
These confused men should work on themselves before getting into a relationship. Life is too precious to be wasting time out of nothing. Grow, improve yourselves and know what you want before getting on a relationship.
A Confused man will break your heart if you continue to allow him to go in & out of your life...because he's confused. This hit home, & you provided excellent advise. Thank you for confirming. 👍
@@godsgift2916 your name is presidence over all just believe that you are a gift from God and lead your life that way... It will be easy to let go of a toxic person once you start Loving yourself
They are still confused even when they claim to know what they want smh.. They get the woman they claim to want, but still mess it up. So I don't think they will ever know what they want.
A “confused” man (or “uncertain/unsure” man OR any other similar label) is incapable of offering anything to a girlfriend. Let him get back to you when he’s sure and demonstrates it.
God is not the author of confusion. We should surround ourselves with people who are disciplined and focus. Your mate should possess qualities you want to possess. Your mate should be progressing, constantly moving forward, growing. You will be distracted from your destiny if your time, attention, and resources are focused on someone who is confused. If your love interest is confused about you, they are more than likely confused about other parts of his/her life. Is that what you want?
I'm still asking myself how did it happened to me. Nothing prepares us for these type of men. As the saying goes you live and learn. We have to go through these experiences to know better! Thanks Derrick, right now am enjoying knowing me.
fabian imbert there is something that prepares us and it's called waiting there's a scripture that God says wait on the Lord and be of good courage and he will strengthen your heart again he says wait on the Lord and one of the things I teaching my groups and while we need to wait cuz it gives you a chance to do a psychological background check on some of these dudes and also a criminal background check and sexual background check Financial background check or moral background check all of these checks will help us to make a decision before we get with the dude because we be so much in a hurry no kind of historical background check has been done and then we end up in the mess that we're in I've been there done that got the gown and the T-shirt we just have to learn from my mistakes and not make those mistakes again
Men who keep saying " I just want someone to love me and love her back" and can't say anything specific are not gonna appreciate a great woman in their life
TheWiLdOne Dana so true...I just broke up with my guy because he is one confused man I swear I can't even drive my daughter around without him throwing some shady ass. Comment my way like I'm the cheater oh hell noooooo I don't play that
So true & I thought age would make a difference but once you reach that 40+ mark, YOU'RE NOT CONFUSED ANYMORE. YOU'RE JUST AN OLD MAN SET IN HIS WAYS & WILL ALWAYS BE CHASING A DREAM.... #Sad
Also,, when he says he doesn't have romantic feelings for you but keeps acting like he'd want to be your bf..buying gifts, buying food, talking personal stuff.. All of that for casual sex? These men unknowingly waste their own time as well!
Ebony Blackley Singleton never seen these kinda men today wanna be the ones getting attention they have their panties on. Bunch of NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER FOOLS
Man, you are so on point right there. Men know when they have figured out what they want, just like women do. When you get to that point you are wasting folks time dating people who aren't on the same page as you. Talking nonsense about you don't know what you want at 50? Boy, bye.
Soul Source Tarot cool beans you read tarot as well. On waiting? Oh me oh my been doing that for more than 25yrs. With that being shared lol I'll just continue this joy ride with spirits.
I completely agree with you Derek. I have experienced this before. Ladies when you see these types of men run!! There are grown ass men out there who still don't know what they want and expect you to wait until they know what they want! My time is just as precious!
A “non-answer” from a man about what he’s looking for in a relationship or in a woman could also be that he already knows you’re NOT the woman or you don’t possess the qualities he’s looking for so, discussing them is unnecessary. To reiterate “He’s just not that into you” but is interested in how far he can get you to go while stringing you along UNTIL he meets the lady he wants a relationship with, and possessing the qualities of his desire... I confess this to be how I’ve handled answering the question, even as a lady, when I knew I had no real interest in the person asking.
Same here. Married 21 years on paper but he had mentally checked out 19 years ago. Us, divorcing hurt me & our sons, but at the end of the day, I am better off without him bc he still say today, he doesn't know what he wants. Divorce pending...
Angela Mahaffy same here. Letting go was hard but once I did I felt like life truly began. Mediocrity is unacceptable to a queen 2 years to learn a very important lesson
Yes ladies I wasted years too. My last two relationships. I wasted time energy everything else. I can never get back my time or years. Team Single until the right one comes###
This is why I believe that standards must be maintained no matter how great someone "seems" especially after the initial phase when the rose colored glasses may still be on.
DEADASS. been in a relationship with someone for 4 years now and he still wasn't able to say what we were when i asked him and gave him chance after chance. it just won't work.. i left with my heart broken and my hope somewhat shattered for love but i know it had to come for this for me to truly learn what it is i want &i what i should require for a man that WANTS to date me. period. standards and what you tolerate is a HUGE thing ladies and makes a biiiig impact. don't be wasting your time on confused dudes!!! - a determined woman
Hey Derrick. Great point. But please help women see that a confused man by definition is someone who is emotionally unhealthy, emotionally unstable, and emotionally unavailable. Ladies, don't do it to yourselves. Drop that frustration.
Charlene P Thanks Sis. AGREED. The brothers are not ready for relationship. We don't know anything about their (confused males) backgrounds their childhoods, any existing tramas and late bloomers. We can start anew with just self acceptance! as by OUR maker, self examination, setting boundaries and speaking life.
LaNita Kelley That’s what I encountered in my last situation. It was hard to walk away but I had to love me more. Usually their pretty silent about their upbringing too. You won’t find out anything unless you ask them and even then they make a big deal out of it smh.
This was my situation. I stuck around too long dealing with his “confused” ass. Unfortunately still in love with him tho but one day imma break the chains off my heart that are still connected to him.
I know a woman who fits that description. She was/is a very confused woman. Got married, was happy at first,but when the feeling died down she went off and cheated and got pregnant by the side dude. Left husband, and now is talking about possibly cheating on the guy she left her husband for. So I think this can go both ways, both men and women can be confused.
Jahnae Taylor The confusion happens when one thinks everything about a relationship is reliant on emotion. People who can't "stay the course" are confused about "Life feeling like a fantasy" vs. "These are the ebbs and flows of life and relationships, and I'm not going to throw a temper-tantrum." The situation you describe sounds like selfishness and temper-tantrums and always thinking "the grass may be greener", which is a childish thought within itself.
Yes ,just got burned by a confused man ,heartbroken.Hurt so much it's hard to breath ,I ignored the signs thinking oh he will change ,I will change him...nope not at all The man has to want to change .period
I really needed to hear this today! I used to think it was me being unreasonable expecting him to open up about his feelings but the reality is it was me dealing with a utterly confused man! I was expected to play the wife role without receiving the husband benefits in return. I'm glad I made the choice to move on and simply enjoy life until the right one finds me.
Tiffany J Sis, we're doing too much! Let us be anxious for nothing but through prayer and supplication make out every requests be made known to HIM with Thanksgiving.
I just went through a relationship like that and that's exactly what I learned from it and I ended up leaving that confused man behind because he always believes that I'm going to be there because of my love for him but he's wrong. Real women can only take so much before they turn the page or as you would say gets fed up and I'm fed up. I wish good luck to him and his search and I wish him the best with whoever. it's time for me to move on and that's what I've done. I'm a strong woman. there's plenty of fish in the sea and I ain't bad looking so, bon voyage baby...
And this truth is exactly why I am so excited to be on my journey of celibacy!!! To me it's the surest way to prove that you are more interested in what's best for you rather than what your ego will settle for
Been there, done that, got the t-shirt and soundtrack, plus the movie poster. My ex was the most confused man ever. He was telling me that he loved me, making plans with me, etc...., but then he started ghosting, and posting stuff on social media, calling other women sexy, flirting, etc....then on top of that, he started with excuses too. I told him where to go with a quickness, and last I heard he's still running that game that he did with me. I wish him well, but I feel for any woman that gets him, and expects him to settle down and be faithful, because no matter what he says, his actions proved otherwise.
Confused men. That’s a good evaluation. I will just keep working on myself to give the man that’s knows what he wants a chance. I am giving myself time to get the confused man all the way out of my mind heart 💜 & soul. I seen the red flags 🚩 duh 🙄 on my behalf.
What's so sad is when you come across a good man or a good woman and if you knew how long you had on this earth. A lot of men and women would try and stay. Life is short and once you' ve tried over again and the other person don' t care. Do the same thing and don' t care right back to him or her.
Nikki Flores that just means that they changed their mind and no longer want the relationship. They're just not adult enough to say it but their actions will speak loud and clear. It's up to us to decide to stay or walk away from the foolishness.
My ex had me convinced for a brief moment in time that my want for a marriage and a nice ring and a pretty wedding was too much. He was confused and “going with the flow” at the age of 24. Had me feeling like I was asking for too much by wanting a man that wanted the same thing as me
Too young. He wants to be financially stable before marriage. Or right now he just wants to have fun and check out his options. When you are young you often pass up the one that was perfect for you because you are having too much fun in the street. Men often regret this later and come back, but it may be too late.
I am in a similar situation. I’ve been dating this man for two years and he’s been playing yo-yo with my feelings. I tried to understand his many excuses. They never did add up. Of course is the classical this is too scary. Thank you for these videos.
Omg. So true!! I had a guy tell me the EXACT same thing...."I don't know what I want, but when I find it, I'll know" I think, when you know what you want, YOU'LL FIND IT! I always felt like I was trying to convince him of my value and our connection. I was heartbroken when he told me he "simply fell out of love" with me. Now I thank the universe for holding space for the one that knows what he wants.
Daaammmnnn. You are 100%. Thank you. My outlook just changed. And I realize that I also need to become very clear on what I want and leave as soon as I see different from him.
It’s crazy how the things you need to hear appear just when you need them to🙏🏾 I’m currently dealing with an ex that broke up with me but yet won’t leave me alone because he does not know what he wants in any aspect of his life...smh
My ex too.. best thing you can do is cut them off cold turkey. Otherwise they’ll want to “stay friends” which leads to just gettin back together! Gotta cut the cycle off
Holy shit! This is it!! Me and my ex. He said some of the EXACT phrases...."I'm not sure what I'm looking for...when I find it...I'll know"he absolutely expects everything to be easy and feel good 1000% of the time. The SECOND it started to feel different he told me"I just fell out of love with you" haha. He wouldn't know a good woman if she slapped him in the face. I had to kick him to the curb for the last time Saturday. Found this video just in time.
Perfect timing! Thank you so much! He will not be part of my 2018 and on! We are a perfect match, great soulmates but, if he can't see it, I'm not dealing with his immaturity and confusion anymore. He wants that magical love at first sight, Hollywood movie story... well keep looking for it on Instagram, Facebook and Snapchat within all those "social media 'models'" and "perfect couples." I'm done and moving on.
