stop getting influenced by influencers- find your personal style 

i also feel like a "no buy" month really helps, cause if you still want it by the end of the month you can always go for it but it will definitely stop those impulse buys

it’s actually a psychological concept where ur more likely to like something if u keep seeing it

I started doing the “what I’ve always liked” in middle school before I was on Instagram and constantly in my head I had a true style. So when I buy clothes I ask “would middle school Lydia like this?” I’m so much happier now that I’m fulfilling my inner child. Not just in fashion either. Just listening to my inner child in general

Golden rule before you buy: fast fashion is designed to go out of style, fall apart, and end up in the landfill

when you said "you are being influenced if you didn't like something the first time you saw it but now is growing on you" is SO TRUE!!! there are some stuff that I never liked and are now trendy and sometimes I realize that I'm looking at them and trying to convince myself that I like them when I don't, just because it "feels right" to like it. fortunately I'm now aware of it and gaining confidence to stick to what actually is my style

I am definitely an outfit repeater now and IDC. I remember in high school it would be a crime to wear the same thing within a week of wearing it. The ONE time I did someone called me out and said “didn’t you wear that two weeks ago” lol

the crocs thing is so true. im from australia and we've had crocs for years and we use them as the shoes you wear to put the clothes on the line or just around the house, never out in public, (maybe sometimes the beach). its so weird seeing people from the us make crocs trendy and fashionable, because they never have been from this side of the world.

ok why was I just drunkenly telling my friends last week that I'm now sure Avril shaped who I am as an adult hahaha AND the pink and green we are the same

this is a really important message! when i was at my worst mentally i used to binge watch hauls and only consume influencer fashion/ algorithm fashion, i would want to buy so much stuff, i would change "aesthetics" constantly to try to keep up and fit in and honestly today i could not see myself wearing most of the cloathes i used to. i feel like on instagram we get pushed to consume the same items, that are being used by the same people, styled the same way, ALL THE TIME. there's a really cool article called something along the lines of "if an influencer is using it, i don't want it" bc honestly,is so tiring seeing the same trends over and over again shoved in our faces daily. and day go out of style so fast and then we end up having like..... 5 pink metallic mesh cowprint croptops that we only used once bc 5 different influecers used them for one instagram picture with a 20 off code. i love your channel cause you have an unique style and helped me find mine! laini you have so much fun with your styling choices and colours and chooses unique pieces and for me that's fashion and that's the key for being confident! that's why you content makes me so happy

theres nothing wrong with getting inspo from trends and whatever, its just you dont have to shape youre whole life and style around it! whatever it takes to find ur own personal style!

Here are my influencers: Practicality, budget, and joy.

I always liked the more edgy/casual style, I think the outfit I feel most comfortable in will forever be a leather jacket, baby tee or white t-shirt, lots of jewellery, jeans and boots, just in different variations.

When deciding whether to buy something, I think to myself: would I rather have this item, or would I rather have someone hand me it’s price in cash? I also think about the longevity of pieces, and pick actual fashion influences from the past that I like, and stick to those regardless of trends. I’ve been on a seventies kick for a while now and it’s actually starting to come into style! I also try to only buy secondhand. In person. I don’t get a cart, I carry around the items I want, so I have to stop every once and a while and look through my selection and get rid of pieces. It makes me only get pieces I really love. Oh! And also! I keep editing this sorry. It’s important to know that you can think an item is cute and know you won’t wear it. You don’t have to/you WONT wear every item you think is cute. You have to know the difference between liking something and finding something that you will reach for and will fit into your wardrobe.

The 90’s and indie wave literally shaped the way I dress since 2015

tbh i am that person that likes a trend, knows that they will like it in 2 years and then waits for those 2 years for everyone to get sick of that trend to buy the trend cheaper 😂

I hate the idea of limiting my wardrobe to one particular style - so I pick and chose what I like from different trends - gotta be functional and suit the occasion

Ahhh she so pretty and she literally sounds like the most kindest person ever!!

when i was younger i always was obsessed with pink tones, aswell as fun prints and patterns, but also a good mix of neutral tones. now i have really started to see my personal style reflect that and i couldn’t be happier:)

OMG YES ABOUT THE CROCS!!! Ive always thought they were ugly and then I saw Nicki Minaj wearing them and I went “hmmmmm maybe they’re not that bad 🤔”

little shirt (literally any top, any color) big pants (white cropped linen pants) will forever and always be my style. the accessories can make it trendy. don't have time to try and fit these trends as a big girl!!!

THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO!!! it reinforced some things i’ve been thinking but i just feel so glad that someone who is like an “influencer” understands the impracticalness of over consumption and only buying things you KNOW you’ll wear. whenever i wanna buy new things i’ll think back to this and remind myself to be conscious of how much ill wear it and how much i LOVE it to justify the purpose:) also i hope you’re okay after the robbery it sucks to have everything taken from you sending you love xx

I do get influenced by what influencers wear but only the outfits that I like. You can get inspiration from influencers but it has to be close to your style. Ask yourself do you have clothes that you can recreate what an influencer is wearing? Is it close to your personal style? Would you wear it even if it wasn't trendy? You can still be inspired by influencers but it has to be outfits you actually want to wear.

dang I love this. I’ve been trying to find my whole style too and my friends never get it when I say “do I like it or is it trendy?” Excited for this journey lol

I've really been trying to work on this...but it's so hard to find clothes cause all the stores sell the same trendy clothes

Yess love this video!! I'm so happy you encourage us to find out own style rather than encourage us to buy trendy clothes using a discount code. No shame to influencers who do sponsored hauls...there's a time and a place for trendy fun items...but this is so much more sustainable and uplifting 😊💕

ugh i'm in love with those slip dresses!! i haven't found good ones at my thrift stores in months, i love actually wearing them to sleep lmao, it makes me feel so regal!! also i've always been almost anti-trends, like i think some are cute but noticed for myself, they get oversaturated which makes them go "out of style" or i get tired of seeing them too soon, so i try to avoid giving into them and if afterward i like them, i give them a try

I haven’t changed my style much since ever. Like I’ve always loved super girly stuff- like dresses and the colour pink, and flowery skirts with white and blue cardigans. Like a soft girl kind of aesthetic. But I’ve also always worn cute jumpers and jeans and also hoodies because they are super comfy. Also love flannel shirts and tank tops. So like a mix. Oh and of course super cute dungarees like with sloths on and dinosaurs.

this is exactly how I feel about the "Twilight" inspired outfits on TikTok, I didn't like it the first time I saw it and I have to stick to that

This video came at the perfect time. I was getting dressed and started getting stressed that I was repeating an outfit and was about to go online to buy the newest trends 🤦🏽‍♀️

I made my own brown patchwork denim jeans but bc I made it, I'll always wear it... i dont make the rules, i just follow them 💅🏽

It really helps me to not be subscribed to any fashion newsletters, not watch haul videos and not be very active on Instagram and other socials. I get inspired (better word than influenced in my opinion) by people I see on the street! I live in a very international city and people have amazing style here! So many different styles as well

you don't have to be attached to clothes, the fun thing about exploring your style is changing and evolving, no one style is concrete

I love vests but I'm not sure if I'm just getting influenced...

thank you for talking about this bc I’m trying to really discover what I actually like and my actual personal style but it can be so hard when you see trends all the time ya know??? and then you feel like you need to wear what everyone else likes bc that’s what’s “trending” and that’s why I love your style so much bc you don’t care what people think and I love that!!!

This is so amazing!! Just as i was starting to wonder about my own fashion addiction and cravings to be trendy, your last video about personal style came up and this video was just at the perfect time!! Ty again Laini💕 I love this concept so much

I love this video so so so much. It gets so exhausting trying to keep up with “trends” and seeing them styled the same way over and over to the point where you feel like your style isn’t worthy if you are not wearing what these influencers are wearing! That mindset and cycle leads to you losing interest in the trend within a month or two also. It’s so important to dress for yourself & if you happen to really love a trend, re-evaluate if you actually love it or if you only like it because it’s been shoved in your face all over social media.

Oh my god. Yes, yes, YES!! I couldn’t agree more. Started to stop myself from constantly buying trendy pieces a couple months ago and I have feel in love with my style again & finding pieces I personally love at thrift/vintage stores❤️❤️

Thank you for sharing this ! I’m doing my senior capstone at my college about trend acceleration because of tiktok and influencer lifestyle and our over consumption of trendy clothes. I’m really really excited for you to make more videos about this!!

100% agree with everything you are saying. I also was over consuming and I stopped and it feels so much better.

this is exactly what I needed! I was just watching mina le's vid on shein and the points she was making and u made on ur last styling vid about finding ur own style is all ive been thinking about for a week! totally gonna use all the tips u gave to find my personal style. love u laini and cant wait to see ur next vid🥰

Glad you are sharing this piece of advice; so important for people to find their own unique sense of style. You had begun to promote trends & fast fashion--happy you are now staying true to what's stylish & most comfortable to you!

honestly your channel has really inspired me. i was thinking a lot about what i was buying and often felt really bad cause i wasn't really appreciating what i had or aware of how much i consumed. i also thought about how my style was highly influenced over the years and have been trying to find my own style and feel confidence through that. your videos really helped me understand that sometimes its okay to not be trendy and that you could style various pieces in your closet so you can mix and match different outfits instead of purchasing new clothing. thank you sm for your videos honestly!

This was amazing. you spoke about things that have crossed my mind but you said it soooo perfectly..... seriously just what i needed to hear to make these decisions easier for me

this video was genuinely soooo helpful for me! i’ve definitely noticed that shirts that have certain colors or tv shows on them that i’ve always loved are more timeless than just a fast fashion trend that i didn’t even like in the first place. thank you for this video :))

love everything about this! my best friend and I were discussing this topic the other day and we both agreed to move away from trying to keep up with trends and I felt such a weight off my chest, immediately !

Love this omg!!! I am definitely moving more towards this. I love your take on finding a raw and authentic style for yourself by looking at your childhood faves.

It also helps to look at what pieces that have been in your closet for years that you still love and wear ! It gives you an idea of your own personal style and what you love to wear

loved this so much and needed to hear this. i too have been feeling this way and have been keeping track of how often i’ve been purchasing things

Definitely seeing a change in your content and I love it! I think I’ve been trying so hard to find my personal style, that I’m lost in the sauce. Your tips will def help me on my journey. :)

I’m really happy I came across your channel you’ve reminded me why I like fashion so much, it isn’t cause of all the new trends but the things that I really like, that speak to me and make me feel amazing while wearing. I don’t have to confine myself to aesthetics or trends but I can wear what I want and how I want and it’ll be my own style ((:

Yes Laini!! this is exactly right!! thank you for using your platform to speak on this! Love u xx

love this video!! your videos have helped me a lot on finding my personal style and thinking about fashion in a lighter way. sometimes talking about fashion seems just superficial and brings out so many issues, but people like laini and many other youtubers and influencers that i follow make it such a healthier conversation and safe space. thank u so much for that laini!

LOVING where you've been taking your social media presence recently. So refreshing ! Keep killin it !!

thank you 4 this vid !!! ive been thinking a lot about my personal style and aesthetics so i think this came at the right time with the right advice ~ especially the one abt our tastes & preferences in other things

I agree with so much with these points and it’s refreshing to hear an influencer speaking about it love you 💗

i love this. it's very tempting to jump into trends easily but this video reminded me to try to explore more whats in your wardrobe !!

i love the direction you're going into!

i love this video and the message!! sometimes i get caught up on social media and trends but it’s something i’ve been working on :) love all the new tips🥰🥰

loved this! getting so overwhelmed with fashion trends coming and going so fast

I love this!! Honestly needed this video so much

I am loving these videos, this year I really wanna work on my personal fashion and style, so much so that I’m debating on whether I should switch up my RU-vid content. Anyway when you mentioned nature and colours that you are inspired by or music, it really made me think that how I dress hasn’t always been self expression because I’m worried I won’t look stylish & trendy

we do not have similar styles AT ALL! but i follow ppl like you bc i enjoy how you express your style and it’s inspiring. and i appreciate how you don’t push skinny “aesthetic” videos saturated with self deprecating humor making you beyond relatable 💗

exactly what i needed right now! thank you laini

this entire video had me going PREACH 🙌 i finally found my personal style this year, and im so happy 🤍

I really like your content and this video is what I needed. This is new. I really wish your plateform never stop growing. Love from 🇫🇷

GURL , U R THE TREND THAT’S HAPPENING RN , do u know what I said when I was done watching ur vid , • I love her … she IS the moment • . PERIODDD

i literally went on youtube to look up capsule wardrobes.. perfect timing !!

That’s great advice about looking back to childhood! I’ve been thinking about getting a collared shirt-shorts set. But I’m like eh it’s a little masculine/don’t really see people in it… but looking back you would only catch me in cargo shorts and more masculine clothes as a kid. This is something I actually like!! Thank youuu

okay but this is actually so important ! i’m trying to be more sustainable in my everyday life but i love shopping so understanding what i GENUINELY love and gravitate towards regardless if it’s trendy or not is an amazing message :)

laini you're too underrated omg i love your vids sm!!

I love the thought you’ve put into this 🤍 I also felt grateful for all my clothes and after buying so much that was lost. Love the tips!

laini is so sweet, full of kindness and wisdom

LOVE your style and that you're doing this!

I’ve been watching your channel since your first video, & the aesthetic evolution you’ve had is amazing! Amazing video on sustainable fashion & how to stay stylish without overconsumption! & super inspirational 💕🌸

I love the concept of this video! Thank u!! ❤️

9:51 this is such a cool idea! when i got my walls painted i got them magenta, white, and gray and i just realized how nice of a color scheme that is lol. im gonna incorporate it into my style now 🥰. tysm for making this video, its so important to be sustainable!!

yes!!!! fashion is such a good form of self expression and while trends can be fun to me that’s not true fashion

I'm so happy that you're trying to figure out your personal style really loved the way how you explained in the whole video . and yes thrifting or hand me down's are better than purchasing something that isn't going to last that long . as trends come and go . thankyou so much for making this video imma send this video to my friend so that she can find her style.*:･ﾟ✧

Needed this right now !!

I needed this video so much, thank you thank you thank you💖💖💖 I need more content like this💞

this was sooo inspiring!!! thank you

you are now my favorite youtuber 😭 ive been thinking about what my “personal style” is for a few days now and i literally took notes from this video YOU HELPED SO MUCHH

When I was younger I watched every kind of Scooby Doo, the movies, the different shows, and now my Scooby Doo shirt is my favorite in my wardrobe. I also find myself dressing like shaggy (kinda embarrassing) but he was my favorite

This is the best video you've ever put out (I love all your content but this kinda set me free!)

This video is really helpful thank you laini ❤️

Laini I love how reflective you became! I was also getting a little bit repulsed (not by you but by the consumer monster in you and the content that resulted). I hope you don't lose sight of yourself in the future either!

i could hear you rant on forever, loved the concept of this video

love your new approach ❤️

you’re glowing in this!!

i love this!! i’m currently rebuilding my wardrobe and trying not too buy stuff that i know I won’t wear in the future💛

God I loved crocs as a kid. I used to wear them all the time. News to me that they were fashionable. I just always wore what I wanted

I needed to hear this. thank you so much!

you have an amazing personality and you're so inspiring I LOVE YOU SO MUCH ✨✨✨🧚🏼‍♀️🧚🏼‍♀️💖💖💖

you are totally right with the child memories and what you liked that time. i was a huge fan of Avril Lavigne too and ABBA. Now, I love them and my style is between those two genres and i love it

this helps sooo much !!!!!! thank youu

Thanks for making this video- appreciate you for speaking sense!

So true!! Thanks for this little reminder

I needed this. I've been thinking about my style a lot lately but i didn't knew were to run(?). As every other person, i have multiples sides of my personality that i want to showcase through fashion but i didn't knew how. You reminded me what i wanted to wear as a kid so bad, obsessed with Barbie, Bratz and somehow Hocus Pocus too 😂. So definetly girly, femenine, end of the 90's/y2k with witchy vibes should be my style.

I relate to that Avril Lavigne story so much hahaha I was obsessed with her growing up, and I still love her!!!

Everything u said makes complete sense and I’ve been thinking the same thing. Finally someone understands😫