Great pointers. I find that most of the time I don’t care enough to keep going and just share less and assume they might have underlying issues or behaviors they can’t regulate causing interruptions. Relationships I consider different and will invest more interest and passion in sharing.
Thank you - the simple raised hand and “I’m not finished yet” is a confident, assertive, graceful alternative to an aggressive approach I’ve sometimes witnessed in meetings: “Would you let me finish?!” Love your channel!
Prefacing the conversation with, "I've got 2 points to make" and letting them know that they'll get a chance to chime in with their thoughts after you're finished. Excellent pointer.
Thank you very much Cara. I suffer from childhood ptsd. This podcast is very helpful. It gives me the ability to have control in my conversations and overcome my own fears and insecurities.
Great advice. There is one thing to consider though. Are you taking too long to make your point when talking. I have heard people many times say 'Please, get to the point". My father used to say to me, when I would ramble on about a certain subject I was trying to talk about to get to the point. He would also say 'You're loosing your audience'. I just mention this because a lot of times when I have had to deal with a 'talk over numnum' I noticed that I was rambling on and on about the subject and taking too long to get to the point. Not saying this is always the case, but sometimes it is and it is something to consider.
What if someone is trying to undermine you and the interrupting is part of their strategy to diminish your influence? Would you have that private conversation in that case? Could you make a video for the scenario where group meetings are used by ill-meaning individuals as opportunities to undermine co-workers?
Yeah it's so insulting to your intelligence because they've already said what it is in the title and then they spend 2 minutes telling you crap that you don't want to hear
I'm very timid as well. I find just straight up saying "Hold on please or 1 second" and then continuing my sentence to help. I have a lot of practice at this because I have a long distance friend who will literally not pay attention to what you said until their paragraph is over. He tries to interject and when I stop he just continues on. Lol Frustrating sometimes but funny when I think about it.
Only watching this video makes my blood boil again. I had a meeting last week when at times I had a hard time bringing one sentence through and three different people interrupted me. Yes, I understand that i need to take over responsibility for adopting a more assertive speaking style and setting boundaries, but still its so disrespectful and overpowering. For talking with the interrupter personally: at this point I would have to talk with nearly every person in my company.
Thank you, I always hate when two people talk at the same time. As the saying goes, we can sing at the same time but we can’t talk at the same time so I’d let people go ahead and speak.
"I've got something I want to run by you, and then I want to hear your thoughts." It tells the person you've got something to say, and that they'll get a chance to speak after you're finished. It works.
Summary: [00:27] 💼 Fight for your talking space. Don't give in to interruptions easily. [03:14] ✋ Raise your hand to signal that you're not finished speaking. [04:22] 👀 Make eye contact with the interrupter to convey your seriousness. [04:51] 🗣 Directly tell the interrupter that you're not finished yet. [06:00] ⚖ It's the interrupter's fault, not yours. Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. [07:25] 🗣 Have a private conversation with the chronic interrupter to address their behavior. [08:35] 🛑 Reset their expectations and set new boundaries to prevent future interruptions. [09:02] ❗ Use strong language to convey your message clearly and make an impact. [09:43] ❌ Avoid passive communication that dilutes your message and confuses the other person. [10:11] 🛑 Deter interruptions by using phrases that set expectations and request space to speak.
I have a friend who just interrupts me whenever she gets excited about the subject and then keeps going and going and goes off on tangents until I get so frustrated I yell At her to shut up. That never works well. Other times I do it more kindly and she finally stops but when I continue, she begins to yawn and yawn and obviously is no longer listening. I basically stopped hanging with her. She has told me That she doesn’t understand why her friends avoid her. I tell her but she is never listening. 🙄😤😡
I work with a guy like this and he doesn't back down with the stop sign and my continuing to talk. He just talks faster and louder, and he doesn't even care. So how about a back hand instead?
My husband and his cousin both interrupt (any talker) constantly and take hostage of any conversation. It pisses everyone off. I have repeatedly asked him to not interrupt and it does no good.
If she keeps trying to interrupt me but I can’t understand what she’s saying because her mouth is full, so I still use the hand raise technique? My concern is that she’ll think I’m about to slap her and inadvertently bite down. Asking for a friend.
As the meeting leader, some people need to be interrupted. They're aggressive, sending the wrong message to the team, spreading negativity or annoyingly repetitive or rude. If you're being interrupted also think about why.
An email that says it makes me feel insignificant simply tells the stronger person feel confirmed that his strategy to make you look less important is working.