I'm really surprised you've never done a video on Dolly Parton. Shes absolutely magnetic, tactful, and makes everyone around her feel wonderful. Her energy is genuinely beautiful.
I was an extra on a show she made - she was a walking beacon of joy and positivity and left everyone feeling great. And she sang a song perfectly in the first take. An absolute legend.
I found that a way to make people let their guards down is by talking about those things that we usually try to hide. When you confess to those embarrassing yet universal experiences, you can really see the relief coming out of people, and it’s really likely they’ll confess back. It is important, however, to keep in mind who you are talking to, the context, and how you deliver it
I am on the Autism spectrum. Thank you *so* much for this entire channel and taking the time to break down the social rules which have never come naturally to me at all. I think a lot of autistic people will feel the same. I would watch the hell out of playlist on what normal social interactions are meant to look like!
I can relate myself with you ...going through more or less the same kinda notion so please share your findings with me as well ...it would be a great help ...thank you and god bless🙏🏻
@Miguel Mayorga Jr. @Dreamer i really like this one. Not so much that I want to be liked particularly, but because it taught me to have more positive interactions generally because i have no real idea what good conversations 'look' like.
Hope this helps: 1. Magnetic effect of having fun 2. Soften your tease with a laugh 3. Mix in compliments with your teases 4. Use warm platonic touch 5. Make your life relatable to others 6. Give expansive answers 7. Turn the conversation back on the other person 8. Be a likeable listener. Also, read 'How to Win Friends and Influence People' by Dale Carnegie. It's good.
Honestly, I feel like most of this can be summarized as just "agree, expand, and make people feel important." Agree with what they say and expand on their thoughts, but also expand on *your* answers during small talk. Make people feel important by listening well, complimenting them, laughing at their jokes, etc. :)
Thank you for your thoughts ...really helpful ...please let me know if you have any reference to give on the same topic as I am really struggling with learning to make deep conversations as being socially awkward person and inability to express myself and comprehend my thoughts and yet have the urge for such conversations.
@@user-fw8js2yq4n That's something I struggle with, too, and am still working on myself. One thing I struggle with, in particular, is I might have something I want to say, but for some reason I just let it float around in my head the entire conversation instead of saying it, so something I've been trying to work on is reminding myself and getting up to the courage to just *say it.* I don't know if that speaks to your specific situation, but I hope it helps!
Hi K. Try this trick: You have a coin. One one side, keep in mind that there are plenty of people, thousands, or millions who would love nothing more for you to just keep to yourself and not bother them with any of your views or thoughts. They dislike your presence so much, they don't even want to see you. Those are the A-holes, who you've allowed to control your life for too long, and it's time for you to take the power out of their hands, and back into your own. On the other side of the coin, there are just as many people, more in fact, perhaps billions who have been yearning to connect with the wonderful and amazing person that you are. They want to hear your deepest thoughts, as well as your quirkiest humor whenever it arises, because they just want to get to know you more and more. They are like puppies, or little children who constantly long for your affection, and your attention, but never despair if you don't give enough. They are perfect angels, like you, and they'd never want you to feel guilty for not spending more of your time with them, however they will be happy to soak up what ever love and joy you have to offer at a moment's notice. Hope this helps, and feel free to bounce a few messages back and forth with me if you want to practice a little, although there would never be any pressure of course. I just happen to be one of those little angels on the side who would love to know more😇❤🔥
That’s because she’s arrogant, rude, interrupts her costars, and will physically bully them. The only reason people treat her well is because she’s famous and pretty.
@@payt00n The footage of every interview shes done, if you can't pick up that shes being rude that makes all the more sense why you are here learning how to read social cues.
@@Bearforceone everyone she's around seems to have a good realtionship with her so. She seems like an ok person who's very extroverted, can u explain exactly how she's what you described cause I guess I'm not seeing it
@@2Chenzzzz Raymond come on, she was noticeably annoyed he was there, it's blatantly obvious and matches so many other interviews shes done, don't fall into the trap of defending someone just because they are famous.
@@Bearforceone or don't fall in the trap of attacking someone just because they're famous. She didn't look annoyed to me but just low energy. But even if she was annoyed, maybe she and Noah had a little fight recently. You don't know what's going on with their lives. She's a teenage girl who may not be socially perfect on camera. What a shocker. I literally see people calling her out for interviews she did when she was 12. Like seriously? Don't people have better things to do than to knit pick on a teenager's imperfections.
These are some tips from us: - Practice good personal hygiene - Smile a lot - Display open body language - Listen to the other person - Ask questions - Give a compliment - Ask them for help
I’m not really socially challenged, but I’m always trying to improve myself and this channel has taught me so much and, in my opinion, made me a better friend and a better man. It gives me the tools I need to be and stay confident in situations I may not be familiar with. If you’re watching this channel, congrats on trying to be a better you!!
I honestly don't find Millie charming at all based on what I see here, and I usually agree with your videos. To me, she still comes off as spoiled and self-centered, and a lot of her attention on others seems forced. Like she asks questions without actually caring about the answers.
@@mihalalus plenty of kids aren’t rude like Millie. So now what’s the excuse? She’s also 18 now. Compared to her other costars she’s a brat and a diva. Go look up interviews see how she treats her costars and their opinions.
Interesting. Watching this video, although I found myself agreeing all tricks in theory, I don't feel her likeable (or charming), instead I feel a bit uncomfortable during some clips. This is also the only one time I have different view about characters demonstrated by this channel. Then I asked myself why I feel this way. Surely, I don't have definitive answers. But maybe, just maybe, tricks are only one part of equation. There is something deeper in someone's personality or character at work.
Yes, I agree. I think you can't "make" someone like you no matter what you do or how you act. It is also about your personality and how that fits with someone else's.
I find it very hard to like Millie too. Something about her just seems rude and a bit bossy. I know people are gonna give out to me for saying that but it's how i feel. I can't warm to her at all. My intuition tells me nope
I do think she is bossy and careless but I don't think she's a bad person. Some clips I can see she can fun to be with and can actually compliment people. Maybe if she recognizes her own behavior and puts effort she'll become a better kinder communicator. She's got her flaws but also her merits. Just my opinion.
@@sakuranovaryan9261 Very true. We all have things we can work on. I notice i can be snappy with people when it's not my intention at all. Like the way i say things sometimes sounds very abrupt. I've noticed it recently and it annoys me so i'm really gonna try and work on it.
Agreed, I don’t watch a lot of tv so I didn’t know who she was but I would have definitely not used her as an example on how to make people like you, quite the opposite
Interesting. Although I agree with your advice, I find that the clips of her were "off" and didn't land well. Maybe she isn't the best example? The whole catering thing didn't land at all.
Hey guys can y'all please, please do a video on James Spader's character of Raymond “Red” Reddington from The Blacklist, i mean not only is he a total badass but he's also super smart and confident and doesn't care what others think of him at all, he would be great to do a video on i think.
I need to see a video on Adam Driver. He seems to defy every good social rule but is still generally considered charismatic. I thought maybe it had to do with being attracted to him but even straight males love him.
Would like to see this to. He's an odd looking cat. I guess some women might be into that but I can't see it. Fantastic actor but he's also had the misfortune of being a part of the disaster of that is the new Star Wars, which seems to have hurt the career of nearly everyone involved other than him.
I can't put my finger on it, but I find this girl extremely unlikeable. When you are at the top of your game, people become sycophantic, exaggerating their charisma, humour, good qualities. This seems to be the case here (not by charisma on command but the people interviewing/around her).
Finally more women charisma breakdown. This channel definitely doesn't analyze women enough. I've seen several videos using Zendaya in the thumbnail but there's no video breaking down her interactions and she has this sort of quiet charisma that is worth noting. Stop using her as clickbait!
I'd suggest Bill Hader as another person who embodies Charisma on Command because of how instantly likeable and relatable he is, and would do well to illustrate what it takes to be a good storyteller.
She's a very talented actress - Eleven in season 1 has very few lines yet expresses a lot of emotion. That's why she's popular, not so much IMO due to a charisma outside of her roles.
yes, exactly! i think that’s something a lot of people miss with Millie’s acting. Eleven is a girl of few words, yet Millie expresses so much emotion just through her facial expressions and body language. another actor by the name of Sebastian Stan, who plays Bucky Barnes in the Captain America movies, is really, really good at this. Bucky doesn’t speak much for himself in these movies, yet the emotion on Sebastian’s face is so clear that we as an audience can understand Bucky without hearing what he’s thinking. it’s a skill, and Millie is mastering it.
@@PopCrusher She's among the best child actresses of all time, possibly will be among the greatest actresses of all time. I'm excited to see where her career goes when ST wraps up
For some reason MBB just really annoys me in recent years. I am not sure it’s the overly mature / sexual styling or all the negative anecdotes I’ve read online - it’s all pointing towards her becoming a Kardashian real soon. I think Sadie Sink is the lovely one.
4:57 "we all face the same complications" Nah, we don't. We all have complications, but not the same. And saying that as a famous rich kid is quite ignorant (and yes, I'm sure it's not easy to grow up as a child-star)
That statement was quiet strange, but I think in context it makes sense, because teenagers seem to think all eyes are on them and get embarrassed easily. I think she was trying to compare the situations to make it appear more relatable. She was probably also trying to downplay her situation a little bit. She may be rich but fame doesn't equal that she leads a better life. If you've seen the way child stars turn out, it'll be a miracle if Millie makes it out alive. I know, 'I'd rather be rich and depressed rather than poor and depressed' but considering all the terrible unspeakable things that happen to child stars, sometimes it's better to be poor and depressed.
@@yamyam493 yeah I think she meant it that way too, but it came out kinda ignorant. She probably didn't think about it. You're right, her situation isn't the same but she's a teenager like every other teenager and some problems are the same + she has to deal with it in the eye of public. I wouldn't want to switch with her because like you said being a child star is dangerous and not really healthy. Nevertheless she does have privileges that she should be aware of
Nope. She comes off as someone whom your close friends really wont like around. Its like she s the kind of person who s too dominant for others to have real fun in a room.
U r entitled to ur opinion. And I know what ur talking about. It's hard to navigate that vibe where a person is being too dominant? I don't know the right word for this. But gotta recognize this can happen to anybody. I'm a very non assertive person but I can feel like getting assertive sometimes. But I keep in mind to reciprocate. Make sure everybody is having fun. We shouldn't put restraints on ourself and express genuinely. But we should also not steam roll over people and mistake it for "confidence"
Oof, I find her endlessly annoying in interviews. She regularly cuts off her co-stars or interviewers, and all in all she just gives off narcissistic vibes. So no, I will not take these tricks to heart.
I think the relatability point is a big one, we like people who we feel like we can understand and can relate to. It’s a hard thing for a celebrity to pull off because superficially it can seem like their life is so out of touch with ours. But at the end of the day we’re all not as different as we think 😊
This video could have been more about why we feel that something is off with her. She is not genuine. She is an actress, who is learning how to Act to be likeable, and she is not really good at it. This could have been a clear example of how to catch someone who is lying to you about their genuine interest and kindness. When she sais something relatable to everyone, like watching Hannah Montana, she immediately says- and she was watching the Godfather when she was 8. She indicates that she is special and gives an I’m not like other people vibes. And when she asked , hey tell me about yourself, she did’t even look at the other person, who laughed not only because he was surprised, but he also felt that it is awkward. She is not interested in you, she just wants to be likeable and quirky.
I like Eleven in Stranger Things, but this video actually made me like her less. And I like her sidekick Noah. He seems quietly confident and caring, whereas MBB and Fin Wolfhard come across as attention seeking in their clips. Maybe it's out of context, but it seems really bogus that she would tell her best friend Noah to go back stage, implying he's ruining HER silly little interview. That clip is gross to me.
100%. She didn't even act like she was happy he was there, it was all about her and she was clearly very annoyed he "stole the show" when it was supposed to be about her. I'll be real here, Charisma on Command should've picked up on this, as a channel that is supposed to be teaching people about social awareness, they clearly aren't aware of how people don't like Milly Bobby Brown because shes famous, majority think shes an attention seeking narcissist
@@Bearforceone I can actually understand her attitude here, she was probably thinking "oh they just see me as one of the cast, are they not interested in having me on my own?"
This is one of the first time where I think that the example isn’t good. The things I hear outside of the set is that she isn’t really liked or well percieved and this vid didn’t show me the opposite. The advices are really good doe
I disagree to an extent, you don’t have to change who you are but if part of your personality is something negative like abrasiveness or being argumentative(not talking about MBB), then don’t be mad if people don’t want to be around you
of all the people in hollywood that you could have leveraged skills from to help make people "instantly like you" she si without a doubt down towards the bottom. there are no shortage of videos showing her as rude, arrogant, and an attention hog. look at the way she disrespects her costars. she is insufferable t best. I love your channel and watch everything you put out - for me, regrettably, this one missed the mark.
What an odd choice, this actress is known for being unlikable and fake. There's an entire campaign to get social media to stop bullying her because people don't receive her well and are not kind about it.
Millie reminds me of Adele in some interviews. Also when she speaks in interviews she's emulates older celebrities (vocabulary, confidence etc.) but is at the end of the day, a teenager so it can probably rub people the wrong way.
Hey Charisma on Command. It would be awesome if you did a podcast with Vanessa van Edwards. It would be interesting to have two charisma experts having a discussion and you would both learn from each other immensely
OOOoooohhh, I LOVE this idea!! It could be the most charismatic connection we've ever seen between two people, or it could be an awkward battle of egos, mounted with the pressure from a large podcast audience, to see which of the two comes across as being the most charismatic!!😍🤩 To put even more pressure on them, we could do an audience poll afterward to see which one get's the official nod for having the most charisma😛 Let's jump on this winner, I'm thinking it will be HUGE!!
Please consider a video on Billie Eilish. I can't believe you haven't made one already. She is one of the few people who are unapologetically themselves, though of course, she can afford to be because she is good-looking, likable, famous and rich. But still....lol She is at least very different from other celebrities. Should be an interesting video
Lads, I need help… I am setting up a event. A charity event. Now, what I need help with is, interacting with dozens of people, so... I want to treat each individual that comes up to me in a well lit positive regard, how does one give great attention and joy to one person and in a matter of a second you meet another guy, and then another guy. How can one mange to be super respectful and awesome to each individual, and give decent time to them?
Curious if theres a video on what to do when your in a convo with someone and others coming into the event stop your convo to say hi. How do you keep the person your talking to feeling focused on. - without ignoring those trying to say hi.
Have you all ever considered creating a charisma university program focused at teenagers -- with speaking more slowly, simpler words, etc? As a parent of a child who has had lifelong struggles with regulating his emotions and genuinely TRYING and WANTING to be funny and playful (but regularly misfiring and failing to understand why his peers take offense), this has been one of the most challenging parts of parenting! How to help an 11-year-old get past this? (And all the more so because he's getting at the age where he needs to be having his parent NOT "pre-pave" the road for him before playdates -- to discuss/warn/give a heads-up about the challenges that will inevitably arise, etc.)
Have you seen yung filly’s sidemen video. He displays personality traits such as polite and inviting. I believe it is clear that it would make a great video to describe these characteristics.
Hi, I really like your content. When someone asks me a question like what is that book about and then I start explaining, they end up looking very bored. What should I change?
I saw this title and thought he was being ironic at first. Needless to say, I was flabbergasted after watching it. Normally this channel is spot on. This, however, seems disingenuous. It is common knowledge that this person is widely disliked, in the same way Ann Hathaway just rubs the general public the wrong way, or Brie Larson. It makes me wonder…why are you doing this? What is your agenda? Is this part of some campaign to stop online bullying of this person? Objectively speaking, there is nothing charming or magnetic about this person’s personality. Quite the contrary. Even celebrities I personally don’t like (like Chris Evans, for instance), I could always objectively acknowledge the validity of the points you were making about certain attributes that make them charismatic. This is just so off the mark, it makes people question where the quality of your content is headed…and judging from the atmosphere of the comment, this seems to be the general consensus. This channel has always been solid, and I know you can do better than this. I’m going to give this channel another chance and I hope other who are complaining about this video do as well. I’ve seen you hit it out of the park so many times. We all swing and miss sometimes. Just want to point out that this is a miss, because I think feedback is a useful tool.
Everyone is commenting on how Millie was a bad choice for a video about being likable, but I actually admired that they were able to use someone unexpected like that as a good example. Everyone has flaws, but sometimes it's good to let our own pride/presumptions go for a moment and learn from those who we may not like. Millie has a lot of good traits, but she's still very young and learning.
Thanks for sharing, enjoying all your content. I think you may have been slightly off on one of your reads, at the four minute mark when you said it was hard to relate to her comment about the catering I don't think she was sad to lose out on the catering I think she is a nice person who got to know everybody on the set so she was sad because she was saying goodbye to the amazing people who made her awesome food. When ever people cook for celebrities they make it extra nice for some odd reason....
I find it so interesting that several people in the comments don't like her. I think she is incredibly charming and likeable! Goes to show you that no matter what, there will always be people who like you and dislike you. And that's ok!
The advice in this video seems spot on, but she still seemed extremely unlikable to me and felt fake. I don't know why I felt that way so I looked up more of her interviews to see if I was wrong or that she was just weird. Upon seeing more of her interviews and how she treats her co-stars, I understand why everyone finds her cold, rude and self-centered. It's because she is, lol. Good advice, wrong person to use as an example.
See I get the video but a lot of the time it seems like she went head on into the fame business and just does whatever she thinks makes her popular. Sometimes that's being nice to her coworkers and other times it's like she feels threatened. In the hot ones interview when Noah made his surprise entrance it seemed as though she didn't like him stealing her spotlight and you could read it so heavily in her tone and body language. And this video makes the point that they get along well other times but if you'll notice, it is only when she has control of the situation. And also note when she asks her interviewers questions, she is also doing something herself like drinking or painting her nails. In addition, she does not let them finish before saying something herself or asking a new question without letting them finish their answer. She doesn't communicate she is genuinely listening, just buying time for herself. Take that as opposed to Paul Rudd when he asks his interviewers questions, he leans in and listens intently while mostly maintaining eye contact. There is a huge difference in character if you throw those side by side. And also she full bashed Tom Holland and contextually they don't have a public relationship where that would seem like a playful jab. It was out of pocket.
More cuz I'm petty: In the interview with Noah and Millie where Millie was being a "good listener" you can read in Noah's body language he was caught off guard by being asked to start. It looked like he was fully expecting Millie to talk first, cuz she always does. That mixed with the slow head turn by millie followed by a slowly cracked smile reads a lot into their relationship. Taking it back to Millie's interview about being watched all the time, it isn't hard to see in her body language and facial expressions a dialogue of: "should've been me, but I have to be supportive" and very begrudgingly at that.
idk about the other ones, but the hot ones interview was obviously not that big of a deal. You guys really think that Millie Bobby Brown's holding Noah hostage or some shi. Cuz like why would Noah be friends with her if he thought she was always like that towards him. Like it's really not that big of a deal. They're kids. The body language thing to me feels more like Millie wants to not be there. Neither do any of them. Actors generally don't like interviews. And judging by all the hatred Millie gets, I doubt she wants to constantly be asked questions and be in the spotlight as she used to. But even that might not be true. Just because we see actors in interviews doesn't mean we know them well enough to hate them, especially when they haven't actually done anything wrong.
@@yamyam493 people can be with abusive people because they seem to be familiar to them, because they are used to it. You can see the dinamic of that duo. She is controlling, and he is ok with being controlled. She is testing how far she can go and then she throws something nice to him to kind of compensate and not to chase him away too much. You assume everybody is looking for a healthy relationship.
I agree with everything except the Paul Rudd example. He might be genuinely curious about the interwiever, but don’t forget that they are actors and some are better then the other. It is not that hard to fake being interested in the other one, even for people who are not actors.
@@elenae497 Perhaps you aren't British (maybe you are, I wouldn't know) but we are generally not as nice to each other as Americans. (I know this is a cliché example, but Harry Potter perfectly encapsulates how we are towards our friends. We insult each other and can be mean , without anything taken to heart. If you've ever paid attention to the conversations the characters have, you might be able to see it). I have seen people like Millie everywhere, and I find no problem with her. In fact I find her rather funny, and I don't think she means most of the things she says (we tend to not have a 'tell' when we're being sarcastic, and we tease our friends a lot.) That's just the culture that I grew up around. Maybe for you it's abuse and abnormal behaviour, but as someone who grew up in this culture, she is just a normal girl who can also be dominant in conversations. Most of the hate I see coming from her are American people. I think that's the reason why. They simply don't get the humour.
