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Can I use your sentence in my journal? I want to make two pages talking about depression and suicidal thoughts, cause it’s something that touches me more than anything, and I want to use the most beautiful quotes I’ve seen till now. I just want to know if I have your permission 💜
@@BG-pl1zx Pipe down cause I'm calm, I was just truth telling. He didn't tell us something we already know, well I guess can't speak for you huh? So you didn't know I assume.
@@zoraideale4046 You’re literally being argumentative for no reason. The guys talking about something his father told him that he obviously found inspiration from and he’s sharing that here. Yet you have to put him down like that and try to act all cocky. Grow up and have some compassion for your fellow man
That's just exactly what's happening with me I take days, months, maybe years to take the courage to tell people but when i do they just think I'm joking
It's bad when you have nobody to talk to at all. I hope you're ok. I've figured the pain of my bones hitting the ground will be fleeting compared to the pain every day. My eyes hurt from salty tears. There's nothing left.
"i don't want to be healed. i have a strong urge and desire to just disappear and never be seen again. and at this point, pain is sweet." yes, there are people who feel this way
@jenkinsrower7380 I didn't want to waste people's time with my pain, I felt like it would be an inconvenience to my peers to ask for help, so I just didn't. I broke out of it last year, and genuinely smiling is a great feeling. Sometimes I just do it for no reason, besides being content. It can get better, and I knew that one day I might not regret leaving, and it came sooner than I expected
@@that_guy_standing5754 Trust me you don't waste anyones time I often had that thought that I was a heavy weight for others if I would tell them of my feelings but it resulted that I got the deep bondings with some friends and not only those who could relate in some way.
My friend sent me a text message about 10 years ago. He wanted to hang out. So we went shopping just for fun. He paid me a bunch of stuff, food clothes etc. He wa smiling and happy. At first. He was " normal " but the same day at night he sent me a message saying that he loves me and he was very happy to be my friend and that he was sorry for what he was about to do. I knew something was not good. So a jumped in my car, i was riding so fast that I don't even know how I didn't crashed. I broke into his home and he was cuting his wrists. I saved him. He was very mad. He never said thank you and i never asked for. But now he has a daughter and everytime I go visit them he always says to his daughter "look that's my best friend the one who saved my life so many times"
People might misunderstand and think those weren’t genuine moments of joy but they very well could have been. You can be suicidal and still have happy moments.
Depression doesn’t necessarily negate other emotions such as happiness, but rather negative things such as extreme low self esteem and self hatred become overpowering. Obviously there’s also the biological side which explains it (which still is hundred percent as there has to be more to it than we know), but low serotonin levels doesn’t mean there can’t be moments of high serotonin levels. Depression, just like anything mental health issue is extremely complex which we still don’t understand fully
Every single tiny moment of happiness is lived as if it were even more meaningful than what it really is, just cause what is regular to everybody, is precious to those who lack of it.
@@lunaoliveira8771 Statistically, men are more likely to do it impulsively than women are; this video seems to reflect that, as it appears that there are mostly men in this video. I don't know if that has to do a cultural pressure for men to hide feelings, or what. For those in the U.S., 988 is coming up, a phone help line for people having a hard time with their mental health.
I know how you feel. I won't try to cheer you up with a comment because I don't know if a comment would help. I'm there with you, also staying here but without a reason. Something I find funny is how people say we all suffer in life. But you see them experiencing it way easier than you. If it's of any consolation, life is harder for some of us than for others
been depressed for six years up until last year. Younger brother is a drug addict. He was overdosing about twice a week. I dug up hundreds of pills from his room each month. This went on for years. My parents visibly aged twice as fast from this. One day i just sort came to terms with the fact that my young, little brother will die. Sooner or later. Probably sooner than later. That day my depression collapsed into an emotional numbness. I was able to slowly rebuild from that. You sort of grow older when you accept the unneeded death of a close relative. Less innocent, but with more space for new happy feelings. Last weekend i invited my parents to a concert of their favorite band. I cant stand groups of more than five people and loud sounds. Yet, i stood their with my Parents and 66000 other people cheering at ACDC. It was awesome. I saw my dad behave like a teenager again. I loved it. I love them. There is always a chance to come back, friends. For all of us. No matter how dark it seems to be.
I’m sure they love you a ton and their lives would be hell without you in it. Don’t just stay for them but stay for the random people like me who read this comment. I know it probably doesn’t mean much coming from a stranger but your life does matter. I know it might feel like you’re going through hell right now but even if it’s a cheesy thing to say, it does get better. I believe in you.
The loved ones not getting hurt is my top reason as well, with the second one (and the cause for the first) being the need to leave the world a better place before leaving it, but oh, it is so hard to see the validity of said reasons on some days.
My husband killed himself. And yes, it destroys everybody who ever loved you. Suicide does not end pain. It increases it exponentially and transfers it to the people who loved you
It's quite funny how a suicidal person could appear perfectly fine in front of everyone. When in reality, it might take them a single, just one thing that would throw them back again in that state to end it all.
Been trying since i was 13 (not very good at it guys) I haven't held a gun to my head for a record amount of time. Everything comes and goes. Bad emotions and thoughts and the sort. But it takes longer for something to come than go. Stay strong💪
My brother started to play video games all day long for the last 6 months before he took his own life and he was always playing the same game. One day when I asked him " are you not bored doing the same thing over and over again?" He said "it's not that I'm enjoying this but at least I'm not self aware when I'm doing this" he was crippled in a car accident and couldn't accept living a life he never thought he would. I miss him so much
im sorry for your loss. Car accidents are so hard. Its been over 10 years since mine but im grappling struggles that started that day (driving being scary, hard to get around). A handicap can really set you aside in life, then everyone says they have to go to fast to even think about you coming along. Its really lonesome & feels like a deadend. I wish I could tell him (or anyone in a similar position): Youre not alone in how you feel. Youre not too damaged to find healing. Youre worth it.
damn. that quote perfectly describes me. "it's not that I'm enjoying this but at least I'm not self aware when I'm doing this" when i listen to music, try on the rare occasions to play a video games again, movie, show, exercise, its all the same. I'm just waiting for the end.
What people often don’t understand about suicide is that when someone has been depressed for a very long time and they finally make the decision, they finally start to feel peace and calmness because they know that the pain and suffering will end, so if you know someone who has been under the weather for a very long time and all of a sudden one day they’re in a really good mood, that’s not just a sign, that’s a whole siren because that probably means the decision has been made Edit: the amount of stories in the replies about how you guys had loved ones that committed suicide is heartbreaking, I am so sorry to all of you that have experienced such horrible losses and to all the people who have taken their own lives, may you at least Rest In Peace
In high school, my best friend popped into my job on a Saturday just to hang out for a bit. It was a little unexpected but there were no red flags. He killed himself on Sunday night. I still have his picture in my wallet more than a decade later because he's the only reason I've never hurt myself regardless of how I'm feeling; the pain it inflicts on others is not worth it. I miss you so much man. Edit: Thank you for the supportive comments, and I'm so sorry for those who have gone through similar situations. To those who doubt me, I wish it wasn't true. To those saying I should have done more, I hope you get help.
I can relate. A close friend of mine committed suicide when we were 16, and his funeral still haunts me. I could never do that to my family and friends. I'll never forget his mom standing by the casket as we all walked by for the viewing, she grabbed me by my sleeve and kept asking me if I knew why he did it, if I had noticed him acting weird beforehand, etc. Almost as if she felt she could fix it if she could just figure out why it happened. I could never do that to my mom & sisters. He didn't just kill himself, he killed his entire family that day. They never recovered from it.
@@waltertanmusic1100 my son did. Everyone we spoke said they had seen him, went for a walk, had diner, spoke to him. His last night was with his cousin (almost like brothers) they had fun, music, film, diner. It seemed a normal evening. Only the part when my son left was different. We all felt that. Looking back it was strange. But we didn't know it back then. that he visited or spoke to everyone his last 2 weeks.
I`am 35 years old, I`ve been under psychiatric treatment for half a year, due to severe depression and generalized anxiety, and I tell you, I don`t wish it on anyone. Many people believe that depression is like crying like a baby in the corner of your room, when in reality you simply lose hope in your goals, plans and objectives. You stop caring about what happens to you and in some cases you even start thinking of ways to leave sooner. I have often felt and had these thoughts more and more frequently and the simple fact of thinking about it brings me a calm and tranquility that I miss feeling. My advice, never underestimate what your family or friends tell you about this topic, most people who decide to end their suffering have expressed it at some point, pay attention. Good luck fellas.
@@andreasullivan2419 they're referring to a suicidal person that has come to peace with their decision, having depression doesn't always equate to being suicidal
@@onserutiri4359 Thanks I'm also referring to suicide. I'm 53 and I've had suicidal ideation for a long time pretty much all my life. Just barely a year ago I've come to peace with my decision to not go through it. I still feel like I don't belong in this world but that doesn't mean that I want to kill myself.
I was able to beat depression. I had a serious eating disorder that took a serious toll on my mental health and my social life. I felt like I wasnt loved and that nothing would change if I were gone. My parents had no idea I felt like these, not even my siblings. I knew if I told them, they wouldn’t take me seriously. I felt so lonely and my thoughts were getting to me. One day, I decided that it was time, time to end it all and disappear and finally cure the pain. I thought of taking lots of my pills. But then, there was a voice in my head asking me if this was really the right decision. Did I really want this to be my fate? I thought about all the good moments in my life and it made me smiled. I know that what I would be doing would be selfish and that my parents wouldn’t be able to handle the death of their teen. I decided to give life a second chance and started going to therapy, working out, and even going to church and reading my bible daily. I wouldn’t say my life changed completely because I do still have bad thoughts about myself and how people view me, but I don’t let them get to me, not as much as before.
Lost my best mate to suicide 24 years ago when we were both 23. Had no idea he was struggling, not always easy to spot the signs if they’re not there. Funniest bloke I knew and we were out together the night he found the courage to do what I guess he felt he had to do. Rest easy Dean Kerry. I miss you and wish I could’ve helped.
So sorry to hear that man, i feel like the way you’re describing your friend is how people who know me would describe me. I am 23 next month and nobody knows anything. I’m just a strong pillar everybody looks up to. I feel like it’s a taboo and people tend to ignore it when they experience it firsthand. I owe my life to a lot if my people i won’t do anything of that sort but i live like i have done it already
The last few days before my dad took his own life, he appeared so happy. He smiled, laughed, played with us, took us out to more restaurants and then suddenly he was just gone.
Im not giving details so dont ask. I saw a young man at a park several years ago struggling and crying with an object in his hands, I decided to stop running laps and make my way over to him. As I approached him the object turned out to be a g_n. I immediately disarmed him and he completely lost it. He didn't know how to chamber a round. It turned out he was a minor who took this sidearm from his older brother. I yelled for help and had another bystander contact law enforcement. He hugged me and refused to let go. I often wondered what ever happened to him until he unexpectedly called me 2 years ago. He is now married with 3 sons!!! We had the opportunity to meet and It was very emotional for both of us. Im sharing this story for awareness, I dont need any recognition and I DONT consider myself to be a hero. Im just a regular person who helped someone in need. Never be scared to say something or offer help to anyone, we all need assistance at some point! God bless everyone
The thing with suicide is, as soon as someone says they want to end their own life wether it be in a moment of depression, a moment of stress or even in a moment of emotional exhaustion, that statement should tell you that you need to stand by that person and keep them going, no matter what the context, always take the threat seriously.
The thing is, people who say they want to commit suicide are the ones that never go through with it. Most often it's the people who won't admit it and seem relatively happy in their life. And that's the saddest thing about this.
Really hard to do when a person starts abusing the attention he/she gets by saying that. Seen it happen many times and it makes me so mad... but you can never be certain that they're doing it for attention. Which is the worst form of emotional manipulation.
@@Blugharm yea true, I hid it always, I made a plan when and how I'm gonna end it all and the day came , but I failed cutting open my wrist with my veins, I still have the sign
Suicidal people don't usually say it, because they don't want people to intervene, normally the people who say that are the one craving atention and in most cases don't have the guts to take their own lives.
@@freddo9682 There's nothing courageous about taking your own life. It doesn't take "guts". Sometimes people express their desire to die because we ride a constant wave. Sometimes we're up, sometimes we're down. When we're lucky enough to have another up, we want those closest to us to know that we can't guarantee that our next down won't be the last and that we're not sure we'd have the strength to pull ourselves out the next time. Think before you speak.
Hearing my son confess his level of depression to me hit like a ton of bricks. He always seemed so happy. He confessed having bad thoughts. I went from not wanting to bother my adult child by calling and stopping by to see him to now calling him multiple times a day and doing things together. We have dinner once a week on Sundays now. We both realized how hard life was for each other and are making a commitment to be there for each other like never before. Him and my daughter are my whole world. When they became adults and moved out i was crushed. I am dealing with it better now. One day at a time. We need more open discussions when it comes to mental health and depression. I felt so alone. I know I'm not. Thank you to everyone for the kind words. Reading through replies made me both happy and sad at same time. This life sure can be hard sometimes. My son lost a good friend a few days ago to suicide. A friend he has had for many years. A friend he had no idea was having such a hard time with life. Be kind to everyone. You don't know what thoughts are running through their heads.
I do underst and. I have 5 children but still when my oldest moved out i was crushed too and cried alot. She does alot with her bf and his family now and i have come to just let her be. I should draw closer to jer too but i seem to always say something she takes the wrong way and gets upset amd says i make her cry. It really breaks my heart cause i love her so much but i dont know what to do.
you are a good parent! not even most parents put in the effort of their loved ones when they hear news but i’m glad you did. don’t ever give up cause you are wanted, needed and loved
What I find very sad about suicide is how a lot of people become really happy right before they do it. It's like they have already died and are just waiting to pass over. The sadness completely leaves them once they decide to do it, because they now feel empowered and feel like they now have control on when the pain ends. I've just always found that to be the most troubling is that bout of happiness right before they kill themselves. The people that have quietly been worrying about the person sees this happiness and is relieved that thier loved one finally seems to be coming out of their depression, but is then hit with the earth shattering suicide. It's like how a person that is dying in the hospice seems to come alive and are full of energy right before they die. They'll be in a coma state and suddenly wake up and start talking to everyone in an alert and excited manner and then falls over dead. Life is strange as is death.
This felt very similar to terminal lucidity in people with dementia or Alzheimer’s. They cant remember even the names of their loved ones for years, yet a few hours or days before their death they can recall memories and recognize people. Kinda like bliss.
@@kerbeezzz Everyone I've ever know that was old and dying always saw people in the room that no one else could see. It's weird, but I always think of that being their guardian angels.
All the people with children hit the hardest for me. I'm grateful to God I'm even alive today to love and raise my son. I'd never want to leave him or his mom alone.
people who are suicidal often feel trapped, so having suicide as an “option” brings a sense of comfort. that’s why many people seem to be suddenly really happy the day/s before their suicide/attempt.
Shits always seemed like an out for me. Ive never heard Anyone else say it like that. But it is like that, kinda like a last resort, but saving it for when u really need it. I'm 32 and been thinking of suicide 90% of days since I was prob 14. It dont discriminate. Some the most seemingly well put together or seemingly doing in life , physically, financially and mentally, people I ever met killed themselves. My step brother was 24, smart AF making like $170,000 a year (legally) had multiple degrees, well spoken , held his head high. Made eye contact etc. He Shot himself in the head one night... Another, My best friend since grade school, was 26 when he took a twelve gauge under his chin and pulled trigger. This was after he joined the US marines, infantry, he did like 3-4 tours, when he came back he was much more quiet, more serious, would randomly throw up, wouldn't sleep unless I or someone was awake, he wouldn't sleep without his boots on and laced, side arm with him. When he drove, same, but with loaded shotgun in the back seat. He'd never talk about what they did over there besides guard poppy fields, only spoke of killing random wild dogs because they were vicious and would bark at them, spoke of combat and shootouts but only when asked and never about anyone being I injured. He did mention after his last tour, that out of his 12-13 man group, almost half of them committed suicide before he did, and he was only home maybe a year lil more.. many of them got hooked on opiates while they were over there because local children would often come up to them trying to trade opium or smokable heroin in exchange for food and water or what ever .. He told me they thought it (opiates) made it easier for them to relax and do or deal with whatever they had to do or already done . Anyway back to point, these were people I looked up to, and were strong, go getters. Never would have thought theyd take their own lives, considering how strong they seemed. .. Peace and prosperity to those deserving!!!
@@HUYI1 it's true, I've dealt with depression and anxiety, I even have OCD and it infuriates me when people say "how you you depressed? Go take a walk or go see a movie"....WTF? Those very fortunate people that don't have any disorder or illness, just don't understand and it needs to be more talked about 🥺💜
@@SeatLeonMK2 there's a million factors. Pressure at school to be beautiful, rich and popular in teens/adolescents, social media and bullying, pressure to make more money and provide to your family, homelessness, drugs and the withdrawals, anxeity/depression that comes with it after getting clean, trying to stay clean...I could go on and on..
It's important to know that you can't _always_ help. I was in a place like that many years ago and I made sure nobody could tell. One day I thought of a reason that I couldn't do it and that was the end. Nobody ever knew.
That is the truth. Personally, I’ve always wanted to but my family and fiancée need me. I was so tired and I wanted to feel peace. I became so talented at hiding my pain that even to this day, the only way it comes out is through nightmares. I’m trying to be better though. Pickup hobbies, try to appreciate life, etc. it’s working but I’m afraid it won’t be a permanent solution and the psych ward might be seeing me one day.
I think media has overemphasized that angle and made people feel responsible as a result when in reality most of the time people can't help. They would if given the chance but usually they're not given one. Hard to not feel responsible but the media has made sure that people do.
I will always regret not answering my friends phone call and finding out two days later he was gone :(. He was dealing with severe depression and I was there to help as best I could. He called the day of my brothers 3 year anniversary of his funeral and jjst wasnt wanting to talk to anyone. I say he called that day at 5 pm and I didn’t answer thinking I would talk to him later but unfortunately he passed away later that day. Please check in with your people ❤️❤️❤️
Hey, don’t be too hard on yourself. You did not know what was to happen even if you did answer the call, there may have not been anything which you could have done. The decision had been made already. God bless your friend and look after yourself ❤🙏🏻
@@Blindswordsman1994 making me cry god damn 🥹🥹 appreciate your kind message❤️❤️❤️ just hurts because he was my best friend and the feeling of letting him down or not doing enough by not being there when he needed me most. Means a lot :))) god bless you too ❤️❤️❤️
Got a similar story... had a friend who had cancer... i couldn't deal with it... i just was a mess, i just denied it i couldn't believe it... he stopped contacting me, he died from cancer probably... he was going through a breakup i think..., i still regret not being there for him, but it wasn't my fault, i was just... simply in pain myself and idk how to comfort myself let alone him... not feeling empathy made it worse, i miss him
@@hodayfa000hI have very similar experience bud. It is just awful. Like you I still regret it dearly. But it is not your fault. In order to help others you must help yourself first. To be honest thanks for sharing I thought I was only one who experienced this. Let's try to get over this together. I'm here if you need someone to talk to.
I don't know who you are, I don't know where you live but I want you to know, from a total stranger to a total stranger, my heart goes to you, It's okay to feel how you feel, and I sincerely hope you can find some semblance of peace, whenever you are ready for it. Do take care.
In 2012, I attempted to take my own life. I briefly left this world, and a team of paramedics determined to bring me back. I am now ten years into an EMS career, three of those years as a paramedic. Two strangers cared about me not because it was their job, but because I didn't deserve to die. So take it from me, a stranger, you don't deserve that either. I don't have to know you to say I care about you, and I need you here on this planet with me for a while longer.
@@spicydramarama852 I struggle to see the connection between this scripture and the Brad Meltzer quote (genuinely). Love != kindness, but being truly loving might lead you to kindness (maybe). And giving your son as a sacrifice out of love seems unrelated to being kind to a stranger who is having an internal battle of the mind. Also being God being loving or kind feels far removed from the struggles of us mere mortals being loving or kind to others. I'm not trying to be difficult - but the connection seems tenuous at best.
I can’t count the amount of times I have written ‘Goodbye’ letters for my parents, sister, and friends. I don’t want to die, I just want to end my pain. My friends are getting married, this Friday, and my cousins are getting married, next week. I should feel really happy. Instead, I’m just feeling really depressed. I thought I was being selfish for not feeling excited for either of the events, but that’s not the case. My mental health has come to the point where I feel so drained, exhausted, and just so done with everything.
I feel you, I’ve been there. Seeing life happen while you have this weird empty feeling in you, eating away at you at all hours. I never wanted to wake up from sleeping, always disappointed when I did wake up that I didn’t die in my sleep. I drank to numb the thoughts. I’ve been there, writing that letter to my friends and family. Not knowing how to explain why I feel this way even though they always gave me love and care. Hyping myself up in the bathroom to commit, only to have my dog walk in dropping her toy at my feet, making me break down in tears because I couldn’t believe what I’d do to her. I’ve been in that spot. I’ve gotten better, I’ve made life better. It’s a lot of fucking work that won’t feel good at the time, but if you get through it, life gets better. The exhaustion decreases, you feel like you’re apart of life again. I won’t lie, there’s flare ups, it’s a part of you. You can manage it if you learn how though. I went to therapy to learn, changed aspect of my life that helped it grow, and I was open to those who loved me. There’s hope my friend, I’m glad you did not follow through with those letters. I know that probably doesn’t mean much coming from a stranger from the internet, but I mean it. Don’t give up the fight to experience life. Your depression will convince you it’s not worth to see, it’s a lie.
@@bowenc24 I’m really sorry about what you went through. Honestly, I’m so glad that your dog came in, when they did. I’m glad that you decided not to do it. Your family & friends love you. My schoolfriend died, last December, due to mental health, and that’s had a massive impact on my life. Last year, I sent her a message, saying, “Happy Birthday!”, and she replied with, “Thank-you, lovely! ❤️”. I didn’t reply, as I felt there was no need. I regret that so much. I didn’t know that she was gonna do that, but I regret not checking on her.
@@blockedmedusa1737 Thank-you, that really means a lot. Sorry for the slow reply, it’s been a really hard time. I wish you the best, and I hope you’re ok.
Nothing anyone can say will change how you feel. That's all on you, just know, you are not alone. Life is about struggle and moments of peace, laughter etc. Find something that makes you happy, carry on. A relationship won't make you happy, it will just show you you're still depressed and make things worse. Don't do that to yourself or anyone else, find peace first. Then you can live, or just stay depressed. In the end, it's 100% up to you. Nobody can make you happy, but you. Good luck, it doesn't get easier, only harder as your depression pushes loved ones away.
Had a student commit suicide. Leafing up to the time, she seemed happy and calm because she had already decided what she was going to do. So the last week was one of relief for her. Afterward, we were all, of course in shock. This was 19 years ago. I have not gotten over it. I know her family and classmates will forever be affected by our loss.
lmao you are fk weak if you sucidal i went from home abuse straght to my first psychosis but idgaf now i have fk greek god body heading into psychward for resocialization and i still dont have bad thoughts in my head just becouse i know i will menage just keep your head up and fight dont forfeit your biggest blessing that you could breath
As a former suicidal person, I can tell you on one sense to respect what that person wanted and be at peace with it. It is what that person wanted at that time. I went through this myself, you mentally check out- your done, like a hotel sign out checkout 11am. In my experience, nothing could have changed my mind. I cannot fully explain it, it's suffering, it's numbing, I was screaming and in pain on the inside and nothing could make me happy? As hard as it would of been to my family honestly I wouldn't of cared because that was- what I wanted. It was a peaceful, comforting decision really. I tried to od on pills and somehow survived. The only bit of advice and I know it will come off as aweful but I speak from my experience, is to respect the wishes that person wanted, unfortunately I know how that person felt, and nothing would of changed my mind. In my experience, I viewed it at that past time was that this was a sole based decision I wanted to do. I was set out on a mission and nobody was or could stop me. That was my former mindset. Somehow I survived and thought how am I alive? I think I see it differently because I experienced what it was like to feel that way and oddly , I don't know why, it was a peaceful, comforting decision. It was sad, but I made peace with the outcome. I'm not sure why I survived, but I wanted to shed light on my experience to try to have a better understanding ❤ in my experience, there wasn't anything anyone could have done, mentally I was checked out. You suffer on the inside for so long in silence. People say they care but shelf off . It's very important for anyone reading to build a social network. It's people around you that will pick you up when you fall. Or advice, knowledge and guidance. It's important to have a social life, if you dont have one- form one by any means possible. It's human nature to want interaction and acceptance and guidance. I was so lonely I truly was suffering. Some people maynot even realize what that's like. But I do. It's important to have a social circle , by any means even if it's just talking to strangers and making it routine to say goodmorning to the local cashier and ask how's your day, or have a good day, join a chat group and find some regulars to talk to because sometimes any interaction is better than no interaction. ❤
My friend killed himself few weeks ago. We hadn't really been in touch for about a year before it and we knew each other for a short time, but man, this information left me shocked and devastated. He helped me through one of the hardest moments in my life. Since his suicide, there hasn't been a single day I wouldn't think about him. He was the purest soul ever, always eager to help others, always energetic and always cheerful. Such a beautiful, extremely young, lost person. As far as I know, the reason was bullying and it makes me fucking mad. It seems he was just an angel, too delicate for this shitty world and fucked up people. That feels bad as hell.
It's hard because most of us didn't choose to feel damaged. We had that stripped from us through unsolicited life experiences. You grow into an adult expecting to be able to carry all that weight and the weight of others. Sometimes that weight feels too much. I say this as someone who has dealt with suicidal ideation since I was 8 due to trauma. Not a day goes by that I don't wish it would stop. But I love life truly and try to make the best of it. I fully understand when others have had enough and I don't judge them. But unless you've felt like this I don't quite think you get it. When there's certain days if you just didn't wake up you could ignore the pain. That's the sad reward for death.
Hey bro, just know that you are loved and you matter, regardless of your traumas and life experiences. Also, I want to kindly recommend you to five David Goggins a listen on youtube, after that buy his book. You are going to change so much that trauma will mean nothing to you. I believe in you brother.
Dude, I fkn lost it reading this. Perfect description. All I can say is hang in there. You only get one shot at life. The odds of being born are 1 in 400 TRILLION. Remember that.
I'm sure they all had many happy moments. In some ways, it would be better if there were no happy moments--you can get used to that. It's those brief little bright spots that give you hope. Then that hope, all those good feelings are ripped away with little warning, leaving you cold and hopeless once again. The cycle becomes tiresome and soul-crushing. You begin to resent yourself for thinking life could stay better. Sometimes I feel that a complete lack of happiness would be a blessing.
People rarely seem in as bad of shape as they really are. I lost my 13-year-old daughter to suicide last June. I know in hindsight that I missed subtle signs, but I really thought she was okay. She seemed happy. Genuinely happy. Maybe that was because she had already made the decision at that point. Thank you for sharing this message with the world.
Gonna be honest with you rn, this video had me crying. I lost my mom to suicide 2 years ago and I remember the last time I saw her she was so happy to get remarried and I was happy for her. I remember standing in the kitchen with her as she pulled out a t shirt that said "Future Ms (his last name)" and I thought about how I was going to have both parents in my life. I didn't care he wasn't my biological father, he still loved me just the same and wanted to adopt me and my siblings. I cry all the time thinking about how I never spent a lot of time with her. It hurts me looking at her pictures knowing this is how it all ended. I remember my life shattering the night we got the call she was in the ICU from her attempt. She passed away days later. I'll never forget the pain I felt when they told us she was brain dead. Knowing she was slipping away right from under us. Knowing I'll never see my mom again. Knowing I took it all for granted. I took having a mother for granted and I kick myself in the ass everyday because of it. I remember the last thing I said to her when she was in a coma. Before they took her off life support... "I'll see you soon". I had every intention of taking my life weeks after all was said and done. But I didn't. And I'm glad I didn't. It still hurts carrying on, but I'm stronger than I used to be. My last attempt was October of last year. And I plan to keep it that way. Because I'm going to keep fighting. Even when it hurts.... Edit: I'm on new medications and I'm feeling so much better. I look back on this comment because this was at my worst. I'm a year free from self harm and replaced bad coping skills with better ones, such as tattoos and piercings. It's boosted my confidence so much and I never looked back. I can confidently say I'm doing much better and I plan to get married to my fiance very soon. He's been there at my worst and now at my best. My heart goes out to everyone who's lost a relative or good friend to suicide. It's definitely not easy, but you will get thru this! It's taken 3 years to heal and recover from my past. I did some stupid stuff in order to cope, but I'm glad it's not something that follows me to this day. You are loved and very much wanted in this world even if you don't believe it. I have the best dog and fiance in the world that keeps me going! It may not be much, but I'm get grateful for them both! I still fight and keep fighting for a better life than I was given. Even if it hurts, I still get up and keep going! If you're in America, the new suicide hotline number is 988. It really works and someone will be there to help you with whatever you're going thru!
I'm so happy you didn't. I know it must be painful but I'm sure she'd want you to carry on. I myself have considered it and have decided I won't do it.
I havent dealt with anyone close to me committing suicide but I've had many close people to me pass. It's hard to deal with the guilt, thinking that you couldve done more for them or spent more time with them but try to remember that, at the time you did what you did. You would do things differently if you could and that's what matters. Taking the decision to keep going is so strong of you, you're a fucking champ.
Thank you guys for the comments. It really means a lot to hear this ❤️ I'm working on getting trauma therapy, grief therapy and cognitive behavioral therapy as I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder a month after she passed. I'm taking small steps to recover and I'm working on finding an apprenticeship for body piercing. It's something I've always wanted to do and body modification is something I love. I have a puppy that keeps me company and really is helpful when I'm emotional. I have videos on my channel lol. Thank you for all of your support! Still fighting because I know my past and disorder doesn't define me and rule my future. If you ever feel down, don't give up. I promise you will find a way out of this dark place!
Depression and suicide are not the same for everyone, it is sad to know that for many dying is the solution but they want to live, but there are also people who do want to die, who genuinely do, and this is even more devastating because it is more difficult to combat.
Adopt whatever animal you could see in your life. It's a game changer. And if it's not a game changer for you, at least you made that animal not feel alone anymore.
I've called the hotline nine times. Told family about it. Finally after three years and six months of extreme gratitude focus (I've said thank you probably ten thousand times... literally...), I pulled myself out of it. I'm one of these smiley people myself, and yeah, I get what these people were feeling.
@@basedbroskiworldgot back into church earlier this year. Been fighting suicidal thoughts, depression, and a few other issues, since 2014 when I was discharged from the Navy. I decided to try some churches again, because I was feeling utterly hopeless and I knew what that was gonna mean. Used drugs and alcohol for years, to just keep making it another day. Now, I'm in church, getting clean, volunteering again, and trying to help encourage others. It'll still be hard but at least we have hope.
My dad died by suicide on Thanksgiving Day.It was absolutely shocking and he was always a major extrovert and the life of any party. I now understand that he showed the world one side but inside he was feeling opposite.
i had a gunny in the marine corps do the same thing and he was the same way. we all came back from holiday leave and was told the news. it still doesnt sit right with me.
It's very bizarre, because you expect people that are suicidal to be so sad and depressed that they walk around frowning with their heads down all day.
@@TedEhioghae That’s something I think you should keep to you. Just imagine if it were someone from your family. You wouldn’t want someone to tell he/she is going to Hell. Also, God is merciful, don’t try judging anyone. Have a good day. 🎉❤
I recently lost a friend to this and she really was so calm on her last day, it's so painfully sad looking back but I'm hoping she's doing better now up above. It's so hard to deal with the loss of someone close, sending my condolences to these families and friends
@@Yarghoul_ In some religions, people don’t go up. But nonetheless it’s still sad and these people really deserved help and depression/anxiety are real killers.
Yeah, the thing is I could already read everyone’s eyes. Depression is easily noticeable for those who can read people well. I can tell when someone’s hurting or not.
That's untrue. The person with the happiest eyes I knew died yesterday due to suicide. I wasn't just not smart enough to notice, everyone knew she was struggling but CPS and the school refused to intervene with the bullying and abuse she was going through daily. Now she's gone. But don't say bullshit like this as if it's fact. Your just gonna lead people to say bullshit like "their lying because they have happy eyes," and guess what, PEOPLE DID SAY SHIT LIKE THIS TO HER SO SHE STOPPED ASKING FOR HELP.
@@babycakelingsI believe you are misinterpreting the comment. The comment is basically saying, you can fake being happy, but you can’t fake being depressed. Which supports the point you are making in your comment, people can look happy but still be struggling and depressed.
Yes this is true I suffered for 4 yrs with depression and nobody knew iam still suffering even after losing my brother it hurts when you feel like you have no one and your by yourself so you feel like why bother to even be here when no one cares that’s where iam it’s very empty and a dark cloud hanging over my head I’m tired of talking and no one hears me 😢😢
It's a sickening feeling. I often think how much of an a$$hole I am for not ending it before trying to start a life I knew wasn't meant for me and dragging everybody down with me. Burnt a bridge with my best friend the other day, everything is horrible and getting worse. It's scary how many people feel this way.
It's been almost a year since my little brother took his own life. This brought me to tears instantly. Man I miss my little brother. No note, no warning signs. Just gone, guessing he felt that life wasn't for him. For those who feel this way speak up, call somebody, anybody. Man I miss my little brother. 😔☹️
Tried to speak up. Told them. Everyone thinks I can't have depression. Nobody ever takes it seriously. They think I'll be fine. Time will heal everything. I have spent a long time here in this emptiness and darkness. I have no energy left to fight. I'm suffocating so badly I'll die.
@@MisaHalit keep going every day. Find peace within yourself. Pray if you believe. 🙏 ask for guidance and relief from your pain. I care about you and I've never met you. Love ya keep fighting to find yourself again.
@@907Ak Thank you for being kind 🌸 yes I do believe and pray. It's only because of God that I'll never attempt suicide. This is life. I'm trying everyday. I'm sorry about your brother I pray he's in peace. I just want you to know that you don't have your brother anymore but you have this sister and you somehow saved her. And there your brother will always live ! As a beautiful reflection whenever you'll help people this way 🌸
I was a volunteer firefighter in high school and began fighting my ptsd. I was involved with multiple successful suicides and that was a major factor. I struggled with aggression and isolation at times. One day I really got stuck in a loop of suicidal ideation, but I never acted. One hour later the same day, I responded to another attempt and saved a patients life on her living room floor. That was my call to keep serving and get help
No one ever talks about the suicidal ideation loop, where you constantly think of ending ur life at that point, you are realistically very very very close to it, n it takes alot of willpower to come out of it. None of the fuckers around me will understand it, they will only know the actual attempt, the actual attempt is easy, it's the not doing the attempt.... I understand
The one person at my workplace who ended her own life was the happiest most sweetest person we knew. She was always bringing light into other peoples lives. That’s why it was the biggest shock to all of us when we heard she had taken her life. The whole office went quiet for a whole day. I cried thinking about her and I rarely cry for people I don’t love.
I remember talking to my mom about feeling suicidal. She made the conversation about herself and complained about my father. She wound up crying about her own problems and I ended up comforting her. Gotta love being raised by a narcissist.
Same, that is very close to what I experienced. Actually 1:1. Except that I got screamed at and told to "go to my father" (who lives divorced from her)
Maybe your mom is depressed and you’re the narcissist…. Maybe she needs that comfort as well. Not everything is about you either bro. Put yourself in her shoes
Truly an honour to have been a small part of this incredible campaign and to have my voice associated with such an important message. My heart goes to the families and loved ones of those featured in this film and to anyone else affected by this subject.
In 1991, my husband & father to our 4yo son & 1yo daughter, ended his life. 32yrs of unanswered questions, not an hour goes by without him in my thoughts. Please know that you ARE loved, you are NOT alone & we’re ALL in this together! Reach out & I promise you, someone will take your hand. 🙏🏻
When my best friend was actively suicidal, he was very outgoing and fun to be with, he attracted everyone. He seemed so happy because he was literally living each day like it was his last. Nothing mattered to him, because he didn't know if he would see tomorrow. You would've never guessed how much he was suffering, being he was so brave and confident. And now that he's finally fully healed, he's actually quite shy and anxious. But he's healthy and truly happy now.
"Sometimes the pain is too much, and sometimes everything is not enough" "It's hard to look forward to tomorrow when today and yesterday look the same" "You just don't understand" I do understand, not because I've heard it but because I know the pain. I spent alot of time helping/listening to suicidal and depressed people. It's not an easy thing to do but I have yet to hear of anyone of them commit suicide. They all still suffer and hide their depression though, but I understand why. People often compare strengths but they never understand this type of weakness and mental illness. Medication only suppresses it but the love of people around them makes depression easier to ignore, and ignore the triggers. Being alone and being left alone for too long is not a good idea.
Thank you for sharing and I Hope you're doing well today. Just wanted to let you know that you are here for a reason and know that someone cares for you💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖 Have a blessed day 🕊🕊🕊
Having severe depression/anxiety is like being terrified and exhausted at the same time. It’s the fear of failure, coupled with no urge to be productive. It’s wanting friends but hating socializing. It’s wanting to be alone but not wanting to be lonely. It’s feeling everything bad at once, yet being paralyzingly numb to anything good. Wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
@@eva-ov8sp You know Eva...I think it will always be a fight. I haven't experienced full blown suicidal ideation in quite some time - thank goodness, because it's absolutely horrendous - but that shadow is just always there, lurking, you know...? But thank you so much for asking. That you did that in itself sets you apart. ❤
What a powerful video. I’ve never personally lost someone to suicide and I can’t even begin to imagine the pain they themselves feel and in turn their loved ones. I’ve dealt with depression and suicidal thoughts but I’ve thankfully never gone through with ending my life. Sending love to anyone dealing with this and reminding you you’re not alone ❤
The opposite to depression is self-expression. So when a depressed person isn't "acting" depressed, the person is self-expressing his/her light soul - when the person goes in a depression it's when the person isn't expressing him/herself. We all need to start to be kinder to each other and embrace happiness and kindness.
Nah, the void of the afterlife sounds better, imagine it. Nothing, just pure nothing, no one, no worries no feelings, just so much nothing that even you are nothing, the worries of life are gone and the daily life struggles that everyone says are so satisfying to over come, but only bothers you no matter how you handle it, are gone. Pure bliss, none existence is true heaven.
To those who may not understand.. The relief of knowing the pain will come to an end gives a euphoria.. So they can appear very happy for a little while, talk to them, love them, don't judge them.. Always the chance that'll be the last time you get to talk to them..
Wanting to die, but being unable to fully go through with it because you know how it'll destroy those around you, is awful. Suffering life so others dont have to suffer without me is me living in my own personal hell. *Update* I see this post has received a little bit of attention. Because of that I just wanted to post an update. First of all, I'm still here. Secondly, though my life certainly has had it's ups and downs, things are generally trending upwards. My life has mostly stayed the same, but my perspective is slowing shifting towards being slightly less negative. I just hope that those of you who see this, just keep hanging in there. I'm with you all, maybe not physically, but spiritually. We can do hard things, like facing this life. We can do it together. Keep your heads up. But don't hesitate to reach out for help, to those close to you, or even me. I do my best to read all the comments. You have my heart.
It's crazy how a few words can change a lot of things. It was mid 2020, a few minutes pass 6pm, i was in my shed humming to my favorite tunes with my earbuds on while looking for a rope to hang myself later that evening when my brother suddenly showed up outside the shed, asked me if I'm okay and apologized for everything then invited me for dinner. Soon I'll be attending his wedding as his best man.
@@Harry-fk5ofI don't think this person was saying it's his brother's fault. Even a little sibling argument or bad attitude cause be blown out of proportion when you're not in the right state of mind and he probably realized that when his brother apologized and invited him for dinner. Siblings fight all the time but I don't think anyone expect things to end in such a way.
My mom called me at 9:30 pm when I was still at office. Though it was an unusual time for her to call me but I didn’t answer the phone as I was busy. The next I got to know she drowned her to death by deliberately jumping onto a 100 feet deep canal. To this day, I regret not answering her phone. Maybe she just wanted few minutes of support, empathy…someone who could listen to her and that could’ve calmed her down. Please talk to people around you who are going through this. People who are nicest and laugh on smallest matters are the ones who are shattered the most
I’m a 20 year Firefighter recently diagnosed with PTSD. I used to go on suicidal ideation calls and think they were bullshit. I’m now in complete darkness trying to fight my way out, but I’m losing the battle more and more every day. I’m fighting so I can be here for my family, but it is so hard
It's hard I know but if you take your life you will leave behind so many people that love you! I hope you overcome this and you find the strength to continue moving forward with your life. Lots of love and healing to you at this time. Stay blessed. 🙏❤️
I don't know you but I deeply care about you. The world needs you in it. Your family needs you in their lives. Don't give up and keep fighting. You're more important and stronger than you realize.
As an army veteran, I would say to you that you have probably seen more stuff than the average person, and shit like that changes you. I was diagnosed with ptsd 4 years ago and struggling every day. I just don’t feel like I belong in society anymore. People just don’t understand, as much a s some people would want. What helps me a lot are my dogs, don’t know if you’re a dog person but they are right now the red line in my life, I would definitely recommend a dog in your life if you have the ability to have them. And I am also blessed with a very patient and understanding wife. I sincerely hope you find your way in life my friend, everyone who feels alone and in darkness is not alone in that feeling. Peace to you 🤜🏼🤛🏼
i’m 34 and it started when i was 17…half of my life have been fighting…can you imagine? as you said the KEY word is “family” you have to catch your life by teeth and nails… DO NOT LET GO
People don’t realize how much those moments really mean because once it’s over, it’s right back to depression. I think we really live for those small moments but it’s still not always enough. Edit: never thought 2.8k people would like this and be able to relate but thank you and I hope everyone is okay. I don’t think Im one to give advice but I do think life is precious and that everyone should keep pushing through all the bullshit and the tough times. You are special, and you mean more to people than you may think. Keep pushing, the world wouldn’t be the same without you.
Yeah that’s very true. As a kid me and my brother would visit my dad at the weekend, I cherished every second we got to spend with him and my other siblings. But as soon as I got home I felt empty, anxious and suicidal.
Dear friends Jesus Loves you ❤️ Jesus is God the Son There is One True God Existing eternally as three distinct persons God the Father God the Son and God the Holy Spirit all three equal but distinct from eachother and have the same attributes united in perfect Love God Sent the Son as the son of man born of a Virgin to save us BY GRACE HE DIED FOR YOU HE DIED FOR YOUR SINS SO YOU DON'T HAVE TO GO TO HELL ETERNAL BE IN TORMENT FOR THEM THERE HES BLOOD SAVES BELIEVE ON THE LORD JESUS CHRIST AND YOU WILL BE SAVED HE IS ALIVE HE ROSE FROM THE DEAD GOD RAISED CHRIST FROM THE DEAD AFTER BEING BURIED FOR 3 DAYS UNDER THE EARTH IN A TOMB JESUS IS GOD WHO CAN SAVE HE WENT BACK UPTO HEAVEN DO YOU WANT ETERNAL LIFE IF YES BELIEVE HE DID IT FOR YOU BY FAITH 1 Corinthians 15:3-4 King James Version 3 For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures; 4 And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures: Ephesians 1:7 King James Version 7 In whom we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of his grace; Colossians 1:14 “In whom we have redemption through his blood, even the forgiveness of sins:” Romans 5:19 King James Version 19 For as by one man's disobedience many were made sinners, so by the obedience of one shall many be made righteous. Hebrews 6:18 King James Version 18 That by two immutable things, in which it was impossible for God to lie, we might have a strong consolation, who have fled for refuge to lay hold upon the hope set before us:
@@loouuiisssss296 in this case it's likely that Sue Cade was the last one to have contact with said person, which makes sense for the police to investigate, in order to determine the course of events
@@kitvalentin4292 1. I'm pretty sure in her story the police came to inform, not investigate. 2. The police do not investigate suicide case the way they investigate murders. Unless they find the suicide case suspicious, or someone has assisted suicide.
My late sister-in-law took her own life nearly 4 years ago. In the hours before she did it, she was joking around with her father and playing cards with him in his room. Afterwards she popped the shelf out of her closet and hung herself there. And her mother found her when she went into her room to wake her up for school. She was 14. Nobody noticed anything at all because she was laughing, joking around, and being herself the night before. You never know what people are fighting behind their grins and laughs. Always reach out, even if you don’t think it will help, it does.
@@user-vi4xy1jw7e just try to not assume that everyone is okay + when you ask someone how they are doing, try to really mean it and ask them on a deeper level.
Well fuck I’m crying. I never cry, let alone at RU-vid comments but I think this hit way too close to home. I’m so, so sorry you and your family had to go through that. I was intently suicidal and attempted around that age (peaking at 13) until I sought help privately and no one ever knew, not even my family, until many years later, since I was the always the joker of the family. The past 5 years since then haven’t been all great but showed me that life is nothing if worth living. I can’t imagine actually going through the pain of losing someone as young as your family member. I just wished that every depressed person knew it gets better and that you will soon have some of the happiest moments of your life after recovering. Thanks for sharing and rest in peace
I had suicidal thoughts since I was 14 years old until I told my school counselor I didn't want to live anymore... I've struggled so much with the health care system here in the US. Pills only made me feel stupid, numb and spacey. Thankfully, one of my jobs recommended to go see a NATUROPATHIC DOCTOR. I was extremely skeptical my depression wouldn't go away. Thankfully it went away. 🥹 Now I'm really HAPPY to say that I'm living my best fucking life without depression and those stupid antidepressants!!!! Please be safe!!! You will get through this!!! ❤
As someone who attempted four times, the state where you finally decided to do it is scary. First, you become blank. Then, you plan when and how. After that, you wait and then act normal. Basically the mindset is "I'm gonna die soon, so I'll make the best out of my remaining hours."
It's about society failing each other, economic depression, lack of true compassion, lack of social and mental health services and the list goes on and on.
@Twey Tweyun I can only define my own experience. Every morning i wake up wishing i hadnt. i dont smile i dont laugh anymore. I feel empty i have no family left to talk to. I feel a shell of myself. All this feeling inside my stomach makes me feel so sad that it makes me very emotional. What the OP said is very true but i have this sadness in me that i cant shift. Ive tried for so many years to get better. Im too tired now i have no will to carry on. The one thing which i find sad is the only thing that makes me feel ok is knowing i wont be here much longer.
Difference between sadness and depression is that sadness can be fixed with an entertaining activity. Depression can only be distracted. It always comes back, whenever anyone turns away, or you remain alone, the thoughts always come back.
@@ThejuiciestgossipThe best way is to go to the psychiatrist or any specialist of mental health. They can help with journey of getting rid of deppresion. It is really worth. It's also good to talk about it with others to undestand that you're not alone with it, even if you might think like that
@@Thejuiciestgossipyou can’t get rid of depression, I deal with it all the time, you need to learn and accept to live with it and find ways to distract yourself and keep yourself happy, remember it will always be there but you can make the choice to fight back and make sure it doesn’t win and take away the good things in life
@@Thejuiciestgossiptherapy mostly, but you can’t just go into it thinking that all you have to do is attend those sessions and you’ll be ok, all therapists do is give you the tools to dig yourself out of the pit, you’re still gonna have to dig at the end of the day, but it’s gonna make it easier. You also have to go in with the mindset of actually wanting to get over the depression, which I know sounds weird, but I took some therapy sessions around 2 years ago and found I wasn’t really ready to move on from my depressed state, I hated myself and loved to revel in it and kind of romanticized the struggle in a way and enjoyed feeling like shit every day. After I got myself out of that mindset and started doing more with friends I mostly got out of it, it comes back every now and again but it doesn’t seem to last anymore than a week or two now. TLDR: therapy and a good mindset, or antidepressants
My sister’s boyfriend was a theater actor and he always looked happy, we used to watch movies and play videogames all together, he committed suicide last Christmas while his family was celebrating. He didn’t looked depressed or anything, just a bit stressed, he faked his happiness very well. I still remember the last time we played together, we were playing Half Life 2: Deathmatch, It was 18 December. He was like a brother to me
I'm pro choice on suicide, I see that as a right we all can have, but I gotta say, choosing his moment to be on one of the biggest holidays and without ever discussing his plans with the family so they aren't shocked by his decision is one of the most selfish things I've read. As much as we have that right to go, those we love should be aware to get their goodbyes and certainly not be done on holidays or special get togethers.
@@queenieburgers50 your ignorance here is crazy. Knowing people who tried as well as myself. The amount of pain you have to be in to try to end it all is so great your families reaction is so irrelavent and small to yourself and your impulsivity. Why tf would they discuss it with their family who would stop it. Also pro choice on suicide would lead to so many people including myself that could/would be dead that didnt get to reach the other side of the tunnel, where one regrets that action and is thankful to be alive.
@Noah Sylvester as someone who has been dealing with chronic pain and depression my entire life, suicide has been talked about with my family and doctors often so there wouldn't be any surprises if it happened, or if I planned on going to a clinic for doctor assisted death. The more it's openly discussed, the less family members are caught off guard and obsessively wondering what could have been done or why they even made the decision. Eventually, people understand the decision why and they will stop involuntarily hospitalizing at some point.. They don't want their loved one to be suffering. We didn't ask to be here, it's our right to go. Talking about it is something those who are in the chronic pain community do more openly than others, so maybe it's shocking to you that I'd respect someone's decisions or speak to family about it but if you ever see other comments similar to mine, you'll understand that that's probably a chronic pain patient. It's not always an impulsive decision, shit builds and builds for weeks, months, years and one more thing can have them follow through. Throughout that time, plans are being made, and throughout that time, discussions can also be made. Kind of strange that you didn't realize I was saying what I had based on *my* experience, so not everyone has had the same experiences *you* have had, your ignorance here is crazy.
It's sad how true this video is, not only because of having had a few failed attempts myself, but having a friend who ended up going all the way through, the most lovely and liked person I have ever met, a guy who lit up every room he entered, becoming friends with strangers in an instant. I just hope from the bottom of my heart that any person with suicidal thoughts would reach out to someone, whether it's family, friends, or complete strangers on the internet, just to see that you are loved, and that you should not give up.
I've heard a doctor say in an interview that is exactly when a person that was severely depressed starts to feel better, that the people around him need to pay more attention. Because when the mood starts to recover, then comes also the "strength" and the "drive" to do such an act.
I’m suicidal and the way I can explain it is think of a roller coaster. You can go up and up and up and then all of a sudden there is this huge down out of nowhere back to the bottom and that’s the point that we feel so uncomfortable in our bodies and void that we just don’t not want to be alive anymore. At least that is my own experience. I’ve had had such good days/weeks/months before and then out of nowhere for sometimes no reason at all that feeling comes back. I don’t know why but it does.
@@taraalan1131you are correct, I actually do have manic bi polar disorder. That’s why the highs feel so high then the lows get really low both extremes can and have happened in the same day before sooo many times.
As someone who has lost a lot of friends and a brother to suicide here are two things to look out for: 1. giving away possessions 2. Being really happy before it when they were real sad before
The thing about suicide and depression is that nobody really takes it serious until it’s too late. And that’s the sad truth. I’m hurting but I’m just the type of person who won’t speak. They ask you are you okay and you tell them yea they believe you and just keep going about their day. Makes you feel like they don’t even care. But when it happens now they wanna care to the upmost. Family friends they’re all the same when it comes to this. But that’s why you gotta care for yourself even if nobody else does you have to learn to be you’re own support. It’s harder than it sounds but it’s possible and those who suffer from depression can benefit from this the most. Learning that yes there will be days where u feel alone and like giving up. But you have to always remember you are never alone and the only way you can give up is if you allow yourself to. Be a warrior don’t let a thought pattern control you. You are more than the depression you are more than suicide you are more than sorrow. To emerge from the darkness as bright as the sun is the goal. God is always with you, since you are always with yourself so you have nothing to worry about. Never succumb always fight. The easy way out is just as pathetic as the life you think you live. The feeling of looking back at you in those darks times in your life, and being able to proudly say you’ve overcame that is a feeling that is unmatched. You’ve conquered the beast inside and now you are the true king of your temple.
@@KeweenawPatriot You are the scum of the earth. You are just as weak as someone who wants to commit suicide. You lack understanding and are inconsiderate. If the world doesn’t need weak people than it definitely doesn’t need you 😭.
@@KeweenawPatriot Look alzheimer Joe Biden, you might not care, but videos like this is where you gonna find people with real depression. Just be aware that a single word from you can cause serious consequences.
We suffer alone and cry silently. No one could ever imagine people like us are capable of this… we have learned to mask and stay strong for others even though the world has stepped on us. I’m only here for my 2 kids.
It sounds pretty much alike my mother. She used to be a great mother before she became alcoholic. She still says I and my brother are the only reasons she is still alive but I because of her has my own health issues and I might just give up as there is no point at studing if the family could never pay for my colage and if I can't get a well paid job then I will end up just as my mother in small house woth big problems... so whats the point at even trying. Why should live just to get dissapointed
man I cannot stop crying every time i watch this video. remember that you have a reason on this planet. maybe right now you don’t feel like it, but eventually you will find your purpose.❤️
What is even sadder is that some of these people who commited suicide had children Imagine growing up with just one parent it feels like a big chunk of your life is missing I feel terrible for them and their children must have been a lot going on to do that😢
If someone tells you they are struggling with mental health issues. Don't invalidate them by saying ' everyone has mental health issues ', even if you are struggling yourself. Find a space to listen to them. We are all different and cope differently
I think that's a big part of the problem. People reach out and a lot of people now will respond by comparing themselves and try to become more hard done by rather than just saying "I'm here, you are valued" and letting that be it.
@@RosieWilliamOlivia Yeah or say they are saying all that stuff just for attention. And I mean...that's kinda true? People that are hurt obviously seek attention and support from others, but people made it so it's a bad thing to seek attention and talk about your problems, so many people just keep stuff inside.
@@Pastelova if someone is feeling worthless and "looking for attention" they are looking for confirmation they aren't worthless. They really *need* attention. When they get rejected for that need they become more depressed. Eventually when they stop looking for someone to give them the positive attention they need and realize the least painful way is leaving forever they're relieved and they feel happier because they know now the pain will end. Then they take their life and we who are left feel bad for ignoring/ dismissing them when all we had to do was acknowledge them. There's nothing wrong with needing attention. We are an incredibly social species and need (healthy) attention from others to be whole. We do not do well alone. I think social media and a whole generation or two of selfish a$$holes has detached us from that need/ fact.
@@Pastelova Right. And seeking for attention most of the time is still needed to be valued or whatever. Because that still can hold trauma and is still concerning
Because people will just tell you to stop being negative. Or when you do express that you want to die they tell you to stop being dramatic. Then one day you’re gone.
@@RageUnchainedexactly this. Plus the lack of sympatheticness especially from those closest to them just ends up making them feel even worse, since its constantly reinforced to them that their issues are not valid.
I was suicidal for years and years, eventually I went to hospital. When I was suicidal, I tried hard to keep it from people around me - partly because I knew there wasn’t much anyone could do, and also because I didn’t want to cause them distress. I’m so glad those days are behind me
Great to here but in the future Just say it maybe not even think just get it out and let those you love comfort you. I’m in no position to be able to relate but all I can do is assure you that coming out will be very difficult and apprehensive but it’s better than being silent
@@JoelHeidrich In my case, a really good psychiatrist and a long course of medication with only very occasional therapy. Before going to hospital, I had avoided medication, I chose to focus on lots of therapy and meditation thinking I could find a spiritual answer or some way to fix my feelings on my own. After going to hospital, I realised things had gone too far and that trusting a doctor who was scientifically trained to help people in my situation was a much better idea. Without his help and the medication, I would've really struggled. If I were to find myself in that position again, I would go back to trusting the science as much as possible. I rarely revisit that part of my past now, but I remember how impossible it was to see a way out when I was going through it. It took time but my recovery was straightforward. I've had the best memories of my life since then and my life is now rich with purpose
The only reason I’m still here is for my parents my mum and dad don’t deserve to suffer because I don’t know how to man up and handle life…. Good luck to y’all may you find some happiness in your life I certainly haven’t but maybe one day
Never give your suicidal friend a chance to be alone. Never leave their side. Be sensitive with what you say about and with them. Mention them as you're happy. Show them that you truly care about their existence. Show them that they are truly loved by someone in this world. Edit: What I'm trying to point out is that generally you should support those who are suicidal (OBVIOUSLY) I never said that they should never seek medical attention, I never fully stated that you should babysit them 24/7, I never said that you should just devote your life to that person and that person only forever, no. My message is for those people that do not know how to handle having friends with suicidal tendencies. Yes you should seek medical attention and I even think that that's the first thing you should say to them or help them achieve. Regardless, my main point is not to leave them be and to just call it a day by saying "stop being this because this very bad."
Hello there. I am Abhijit from kolkata, India. My family is going through a tough situation. My father took a loan from a local lender during the covid. During covid he and I lost our jobs. After that my father had a brain stroke, which made the situation even worse. We do not have money to survive. No one is helping us. We need to save the house and my papa. Please help. 🙏🙏🙏
@@bonky8043 That doesn't change the fact that just by being there for them can truly help them recover in the long run. The best solution is love and effort.
