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I have done one mistake I was jobless for nearly 5 years and then i got the one , there i told that i was doing some job and everyone believes me also , so whenever interacting with anyone the topic arises and find it uncomfortable to misguide myself and others again and again so i started ignoring people around me and avoided every interaction now. Its all superficial and i feel left out of the group Can you provide a way out to this problem? Thanks for the video This is the exact replica of me
It depends on how you want to be perceived. I’m not saying you should care about what others think, but rather possess a positive energy when you do have interactions for example. Being on a positive path, possessing positive energy can bring many opportunities and that’s just how society works. You’ll be depressed going against it. If you prefer to be isolated, as the video says, don’t expect the knight in shining armour to come to you.
Yes because Satan gives us the comfort and easy way out he doesn’t seem like what he’s offering is so bad but it’s to deceive us and get us to do stuff that’ll make your life worse but it’s the easier and more fun way and to improve means we have to overcome and beat those temptations because god can change your life so making it better and getting to that point is gonna be harder with all the things Satan offers that’s so much easier and tempting
This is so powerful. The funny thing is, telling someone how TO ruin their life as if they should do it is actually more powerful and shocking than telling them how NOT to. A genius idea, presented with exceptional footage.
The Ad snapped me back into reality..... I felt a deep feeling of regret for what has been happening for so long, thank god for the ad.... and this video.
I’m only 16 and may not have ‘lived life’ yet but this video made me rethink. I relate to a lot of this video but I’ve always lacked the motivation to change, always lacked the mental perseverance to be better. I spend too much time wasting away on my phone when I could be working towards my goals. I lack the spirit in myself to talk to new people and tend to either be the one in the corner, or trying to be the centre of attention. Thank you for posting this video, and thank you to whatever is out there for putting it on my RU-vid feed.
I am 22 now. I know how you feel. When I was 16 I was stronger than I am today. Even though I have a job, a beautiful girlfriend, and I am about to graduate college, I can relate with this video. I always had a bad “trait” as I am always late. If it would be to give you a piece of advice, i would say this: 1. ALWAYS try to solve the problems as soon as possible. Never say “I will do it tomorrow”. You won’t. 2. Never lie. If you did something wrong, just admit it, don’t try to hide it.
My bro, when i was 16 i didnt think i would have a great future, i had no friends and had issues with my parents. 22 now and i am more social then i ever was before, im living on my own with great friends around me, not a care in the world and have more confidence than Chuck norris. Your time will come soon enough, take every little chance you get even if it makes you oncomfortabel
Hit the gym my man. Trust me, it sucks and that's the best part. Becoming used to okay with suffering opens up a whole level of self improvement and resilience. Discipline and strength.
Man… this one really hit me hard. By the end of it I wanted to cry. I felt like I was watching a recap of my own life over the past year and realized how much of a negative attitude I’ve adopted about everything. So well done. Thanks Joey
Dude i used to watch this guys self help non procrastination videos thinking something is wrong w me to fix. Then i got a over 100k job and im like totally normal hardworking gym when i wake up.. so really i just didnt have a job and was bored drinking. Its amazing how like u can try all u want but it still feels pointless and its so easy to just be lazy until ur gettin paid and the light switch flips and u naturally become a machine. I guess thats what he does... tries to inspire people who have nothing. It didnt work for me.. i just kept listening to the stuff thinking how good it sounded. Hah
First step to change is awareness. Good on ya for noticing your bad traits. Start working on them man one at a time at a pace your comfortable with. 💪🏼
I can only really relate to the first two points but I’m autistic and have bad social anxiety so it’s hard to change this but I’m trying either way People might not be as bad as I thought and I’ve met someone I really want to be friends with and he deserves great friends that’s why I’m trying to improve myself, to be great for him
THAT LAST POINTTT!!!! Regret is a poison. I feel like a lot of people are aware that they need to change and want to, but the feeling of guilt or being unworthy of redemption keeps you stuck. At least that's how I felt and wasn't able to put it into words. I hope this video frees a lot of people from those shackles. Wish you all well!!!
Fastest way to ruin your life (alternative route): 1. Force yourself to be outgoing and appear friendly even when you don't want to be, make sure that everyone gets the impression that you're happier than you are. After all, can't be looking like a loser! 2. Never be satisfied with where you are, what you have, and what you have accomplished. Always strive for more, even if you don't know what you're striving for or why, because what are you going to do, be happy with what you have? 3. Be as diligent as possible, sacrificing all of your time, energy, and most likely creating goals that you will fail to meet so that you can feel as bad about yourself as possible. Remember, if you feel good about yourself and your inadequacy, you're only lying to yourself because you're a pathetic piece of garbage with no friends and no success. 4. Blame yourself for everything without really understanding the root of the problem. The important part to recognize is that it's your fault that you're a failure and everything is going wrong. 5. Believe that you have complete control over everything around you and that what you believe to be a problem or something that you don't personally enjoy is really just your instinct to hate on the world around you. There's nothing wrong with the world around you, except for the fact that you find a problem in it. Make sure to ignore all red flags and enjoy what other people enjoy. 6. Be scared of attention. Never talk or do anything if it gets eyes on you, and make sure that you're out of sight of most people most of the time. 7. Constantly praise people you have even the slightest shred of respect for, when it is that you're actually talking, and make sure to compliment even the most mundane elements of their character not because you actually have respect for them but because you believe they are better than you. Never judge anyone, and ignore red flags that people have. And make sure that your friends and people around you have the same blind respect. 8. Be inflexible, never change how you think, and make sure that you can stick to your goals and identity even if it's something you don't identify with at a later time. If you fail to stick to plans, remain consistent, and constantly code-switch around people, make sure you understand how much of a failure you are. This is crucial if you want to stick to your plans, regardless of what they are and how pointless or detrimental they might be. Side with the voice in your head that calls you a failure. 9. Stop dreaming and live more than you want. Even if you feel as though you are going through the motions without any understanding of what an ideal life could look like, constantly cut off any wishes about life you have. Make sure that you understand that while life is worth living, the grandeur and idealism that you seek is never going to happen so just suck it up and accept the world you are in. Kill all of your desires in an attempt to conform, and never try to create a world for yourself that might be better. Plan every move to never allow the current of your desires to flow into your life make sure that structure defines your person more than your dreams do, and try to be more of an adult than a child in this sense. 10. Only do things because of how they are supposed to make you feel rather than how they make you feel. Don't try to chase the life that you want and the desires you have, try to do the things that are supposed to be truly good. Even if you feel detached and depersonalized in your attempt to do these things, eventually all of the hard work will pay off. You might not ever know when, but hopefully one day down the line all of your efforts will pay off and if they don't then just remember that it's your fault. 11. Linger on to the hope that you can change your life so that you remember to feel bad about not doing so every time you wake up in the life that you forgot to live. Always seek change, and if you don't get it then understand that it's not because you can't but it's merely because you won't, rather you are too lazy, undeveloped, or inadequate to make the changes necessary. It's not who you are, but it's who you chose to be, and you chose to be a failure. Hate the life you're given and always have that lingering feeling that you need to do something about it so that it can weigh on you at all times. Make sure that in the dead of night, you're always asking yourself "what can I do right now to change my life?" And, every time you are doing anything, don't focus on what you want but always focus on how you can fix things and improve yourself. I don't think all of the advice in this video was bad, like number 8 was pretty good, but I think it's disingenuous to portray these behaviors as the problem because pain is different for everybody and what you do has nothing to do with it but more it has to do with why you're doing it and how you interact with your pain. While the story presented may be the case for many, it might also serve to gaslight people who are perfectly satisfied with their lives into thinking that they are really just lying to themselves in their happiness because they have behaviors such as these.
Thank you, genuinely. Thank you so much. This video popped up in my recommended when I really needed it. I really needed that wake-up call, honestly. I’m fifteen years old - a freshman in high school. Ever since quarantine, I’ve suffered from a major depressive disorder (diagnosed). During quarantine, my previously very caring parents slipped into their own depression and were unable to take care of me. I became dependent on technology, and four years later it’s still hard to break away. My dad died back in August, and my mom was hospitalized several times for the abuse of prescription drugs. It’s been rough. Often, I do wish my circumstances were different. I wish quarantine never happened, I wish my parents weren’t mentally ill, I wish my dad were still alive. But recently, I realized that wishing isn’t going to do anything. I’ve been wasting my life as a result of depression, often just staying in bed and doing nothing, neglecting basic self care in the process. It’s not fun. It doesn’t make me happy. But it’s so much easier than getting up and doing something I might actually enjoy. And that’s something I need to change. No matter how much I wish, my happiness isn’t going to come to me on a silver platter. I’ve been dealt a shitty hand, sure, but I have to find a way to deal with it. Letting my life waste away as I wish for something that won’t ever come true isn’t the way. Recently, I’ve been taking steps to improve myself. Deleting all social media (save for RU-vid on Safari) off my phone, spending more time with my mother (who is no longer hospitalized), cooking actual meals, partaking in my hobbies, etc. It’s been… maybe two weeks since I started doing this. and I’m already starting to see some improvements. Of course, it’s still very difficult. Like I’m facing symptoms of withdrawal since I decided to stop doing nothing. Sometimes, it’s hard for me to believe that I can change and make a better life for myself. Truth is, I can. I know I’m still very young, and I know I still have a lot of time left in this world. It’s a process - one that might take a while. I’ll have to heal several scars in my emotional state that have been neglected for years. But I have hope. There’s at least a part of me that believes everything is going to be okay. I made this comment to share my story, and to remind whoever reads it that things can get better. Even if you’re thirty years older than me, it’s not too late to change. If I can make an effort to improve myself, so can you. Good luck out there. I wish whoever reading this the best of luck. You’ll find your happiness, as long as you keep making the effort. It’ll be a difficult journey, but it’ll be worth it. While we may be strangers on the internet, I hope that we can take our respective journeys knowing that we are not the only ones. We’ve all got this!
You’re very self-aware which is a good thing I’m 20 years old, And I can relate to your story as well. I really struggle with Socializing I have Social Anxiety. It’s definitely hard for me to step out of my bubble, and meet new people but at the same time it’s a gift and curse. Because it taught me how to be independent and not feeling the need to constantly surround myself. With people to fill the void, it’s a big difference between being alone and being lonely I admit I do feel lonely at times, but that’s one area of my life I’m currently struggling with that is taking a toll, on my mental state.
freshman year was where it all went down hill for me. i was a smart kid who couldve done whatever i wanted, but i came depenant on substances and stopped giving a fuck. got hiigh and slep through school, now i have a 2.6 gpa. im in my junior year now and im scared because i wanna move out when im 18 (my home life is shit like yours) but how the hell is a 2.6 gpa fuck up gonna have a sucessful life and take care of herself? i find myself wishing i had just been like everyone else and did well in school, cuz my future would be a given, but i guess life had other plans. i dont regret shit, im not like anyone else and im truly one of a kind, but sometimes i really wanna kms over ts. im turning to art, music and literature, the only things that kept me comfort in the past, and hopefully they'll comfort me in my future. im notsaying dont do drugs, im not syaing give school everything you have, just be concious of every descision you make. because theyre not small and meaningless, they add up and fuck you in the ass. anyway, good luck charlie.
29 turning 30 this year, and I’ve never stopped feeling this way since I was about your age. I let relationships go, with myself and others. I’m just now working out getting help and being better. I amend you and I know you are capable of great things solely from your post. You have a great head on your shoulders. I’m very sorry for your loss and it’ll never truly get easier, I won’t lie to you. But you have the recipe for success and as long. As you keep trying everyday, you’ll always do and be better. Even if you take a step back, that’s completely fine and normal. Shake it off and keep going. I promise you, you’re right on track and even as a stranger, I’m very proud of you. Take care of yourself and your family. You deserve the best, treat yourself well and you will love a fruitful life. Hydrate often, eat healthy foods but don’t forget to enjoy life and splurge once in while. It’s not wrong for you to love yourself.
Really powerful message the world needs to hear. There are so many people like you and I that live lonely, hopeless, and seemingly directionless lives, but at the end of the day, you still hold the responsibility as an individual to take control of yourself and be the best person you can anyway. Living a miserable life doesn't give you the right to make others' miserable. Do better, and it can get better.
I’m 19 and in my second year of college, i have no idea what to do in life and I feel extremely stressed knowing that I have to pick a career. I do a lot of these things; closing my body language, avoiding interaction with others, isolating myself… etc. Viewing this video is like the creator is describing me, which makes me feel horrible but it helps in making me realize that I do want to change instead of just fantasizing. Commenting this on a youtube video is easier than talking about it with friends, more specifically my 3 friends. I feel lost in life but I have many things to be grateful for; a loving family, a home.
Wow you sound like me, even being 19 and having 3 friends lol. Career stuff is so stressful. I have no idea what I’m doing or what to pick. Do you have any goals?
@@newleaf777I can relate to this aswell, being 19 almost turning 20 and having no idea of who I want to be or where I want to go in my life. I feel like everyday I waste time because I just think about what not to do and what to do and it frustrates me. I’ve never felt so socially isolated and everything for me is going downhill. In any way you can think about I have lost hope for my future. I have no one else to blame but me😢
I pass my bachelor exam when i was 29, coz since i was 19 i choose many different paths, i though i wanna study this or that, and when i fucked up the first one i found a job, simple one that gave possibility to cut of from my parents(financially). It changed me, gave me some courage that i didn't expected i had inside. Don't be too hard on yourself. I finish environmental studies and now i work as Linux admin, so as you can imagine, my 10y journey with 4 different field of studies(i finished one) didn't give me perfect job maybe i wanted at the beginning. One little lucky detail made me who im am now(at work). Do i have still problems with what i want in life? Yes. Do i struggle with some problems(bigger or smaller)? Ofc. Like many ppl. But i think i would never take this time back and i'm 37 now. Ask questions, let yourself make mistakes. And, if you have possibility to ask specialist, like psychologist, don't be afraid. Sometimes short conversation with "stranger" is better than with best friend, they don't know you, they don't judge, they want to help. Hope i didn't make it worse :) Have a great time, be yourself, all the best for you.
At 19 I thought my only prospect was working retail. I left high school with no qualifications and took an entry course at community college in admin and finance. 5 years later I met my friend who got me a interview for an assistant role at an accounting firm, and I instead got offered a management role. I am now 26 and have a new born and a wife. I think the most important thing to remember is you are working to better yourself in life,not for a job. Push yourself to make friends and see family. Life happens regardless, but it's the investment in your happiness that makes it worthwhile, just be true to yourself and all will happen naturally 😊
This video really opened my eyes to how I often times steal the spotlight, Ive been noticing that it feels like I push people away more and more the longer im talking to them, especially coworkers
For a long time, I always thought "I never planned to be here." Only now to realize that is the exact reason I am where I never wanted to be. The plan that I chose was "Not planning at all". Procrastination, destructive habits, pointless daydreaming, etc are the things that got me here. Inaction paired with negative self-talk is a genuine slow death.
So that's why sometimes I thought to myself, "I don't wanna die" even though I don't have serious health issues or anything. I didn't realized that I am slowly dying and my inner self told me not to, wanting me to stop my way of life.
What got me here was 2020 lockdowns, it destroyed my business. An event that happens once every 100 years destroyed my life. Ye buddy, some of us are destined to fail and it's none of our fault. Even when you try your hardest, it's not guaranteed success. So, do whatever, life happens with or without us, so are we necessary? The harsh truth is, no.
I’m about to turn 22, and this made me start crying on my couch at 2 in the morning. This video struck me so profoundly and I hate how I feel like I’m looking in a mirror on some of these things. What I hate more is that I wasn’t always like this. I watched my 49 yr old veteran dad die as a pedestrian victim in a hit and run (cold case to this day) at 18 before I graduated highschool. I was legally responsible for his DNR and I signed it. I lost a lot of my faith in the world. My anxiety shot through the roof. I don’t like who I am anymore. Im about to graduate college and I’m terrified of the future. I can’t hardly sleep at night. I really needed to see this video because I want to change. My negativity is going to destroy me and I can’t live like this forever. God
Honestly I feel like most of the things you're describing sound like the aftermath of being traumatized by you dad's passing (which is completely reasonable). Do you think it'd be possible for you to attend professional therapy? I'd say that's your best option rn. Anyways, I wish you the best of luck on your journey!
@@richeeg3271 hey, thanks so much for responding. I’ve been in therapy since I was 9, and I don’t plan on stopping anytime soon. I think this vid gave me a lot of things to talk about in therapy that I wasn’t already aware of. Thank you so much for your suggestion though, therapy is awesome and I’ve made a lot of progress coping with things from my life. Thank you for the well wishes, I wish you the best in your life as well!
Not too late to rebuild your life and mindset. You can do it man. Realizing that you want to change your life is the first step. I want to do the same too. Good luck and God bless you
Just know you’re not alone out there man there’s always someone or someplace to reach out to if you need it, I felt the exact same way Watchin this I’m just so glad to know ppl know what I’m going through
Sometimes I'll leave a comment on a video, sometimes I wont. But for this one, I'll choose to leave a comment. Thank you for the insight. It defines well the struggle that I see in my life and the lives of those around me. For the sake of doing something, Id like to share what I am grateful for: I'm grateful for being able to attend college these past two semesters. Im grateful for the friends and delightful professors I've gotten to know over the last year. I'm grateful for my leaders in family and in religion. I wouldnt be anywhere without my parents. I'm grateful for prayer, and for laughter. Im grateful for the sincerity of others. I enjoy seeing the in-the-moment grin of a stranger. I ought to remember that I have a lot to offer this world. And I remember that I feel like my best when I take care of myself, and I work diligently in anything I do. Thank you again for sharing this content.
The cinematography, editing, and of course the writing in this video is incredible. People underestimate how hard shooting intentionally for B&W can be, but the lighting was on point throughout.
Deep down I know I can't really blame my lack of success on being abused as a small child, but man, overcoming negative programming from age 5 has been a lifelong struggle.
Not everything is your fault tho. You have to grieve the fact that because of childhood abuse your growth HAS been stunted. It is more difficult. GRIEVE that and then move on. Can’t move past it if you don’t grieve
📍Bullet points for NOT ruining your life: ➡ - Step 1: Maintain open body language, stand tall, make eye contact, and engage in social interactions to appear welcoming and receptive. - Step 2: Be present in the moment, minimize phone use, and approach interactions with genuine curiosity instead of relying on distractions. - Step 3: Be punctual and take responsibility for mistakes, openly admitting faults and learning from them. - Step 4: Develop an internal locus of control and take responsibility for your actions, believing that you have the power to influence your own outcomes. - Step 5: Practice active listening and encourage others to share their experiences, avoiding dominating conversations with personal stories. - Step 6: Promote positivity by speaking well of others and seeking to understand their perspectives, rather than putting them down. - Step 7: Be consistent and authentic in your behavior, presenting your true self to others rather than adopting different personas. - Step 8: Actively plan and work towards positive changes in your life instead of wishing for things to be different passively. - Step 9: Engage in activities that make you feel strong and embrace challenges, avoiding the path of least resistance. - Step 10: Foster a positive self-image, recognizing your worth and potential for growth, and believe in your capacity for redemption.
Absolutely soul crushing. Thanks man, genuinely. Deep down we're all aware of what we're doing to keep ourselves unhappy and in an endless cycle, but choose not to act. I've been dealing with the consequences of this recently but in that time, I remembered a quote from a childhood movie. I think it's something many of us have forgotten. You are who you choose to be!
As someone with Aspergers I had to learn how to fit into society, now I know how to fit in to a 2000s model society which has become completely useless today with everyone acting like Autistic children. If you think your life is bad...
Funny part is the dude in this video has a job and gets invited to parties so even though he is supposed to be an example of what not to do he is a lot better off than many people watching this.
@@ponternal Nah I used to be a DJ but I hate social circles, so I was living a similar life. Going to parties and hanging out with people all while carrying a fake smile and no soul. You can look like you're living your best life, all while being dead misserable inside. Now I spend most of my time on my PC and even though I'm alone, I'm happy not dealing with society nonsense.
I'm working on the last 2 steps but I'm excited to see my journey to ruin my life going so well! Thanks for this tutorial, really helped me envision how to achieve the worst me.
Yes - developing the habit of smoking cigarettes is a tough one if your not a fan of cigarette smoke. But be persistent and pretty soon you'll be smoking like a chimney!
1-open up your body language 2-don’t check your phone regularly as a habit 3-be early 4-don’t make excuses and know how to apologize 5-develop an internal locus of control 6-don’t try to be the spotlight of every conversation 7-enhance 8-be true to who you are 9-plan and pray and don’t be wishful 10-engage in behaviors that make you feel strong and resist your comfort zone 11-be optimistic it’s not too late to change If you’re still breathing then it’s not over yet ❤
You make it sound like it's easy - ruining your life - but it's a slow process. I've been working on it for years and I still haven't achieved my full misery potential. But thanks to your tips I'm just a bit closer to my goal.
@@K-reami lost my job, my 17 years old died, my 15 years old dog died, my 5 years girlfriend broke with me, and the cat i addopted 3 years ago just dissapeared. You really think making eye contact with people would help with any of those? You think if you dont look at your phone anymore you will prevent your mother to get diagnosed terminal cancer? For example? Life is much more deeper than that, there has nothing to see with how early you arrive work or how late, how much you look at your phone or how much you say hello to people. Life will strike, and strikes will be hard as motherfucking fuck, the strikes may be several and may stack, and you may fall in a state you cant come back from, because when you face real pain, and real depression, there is no come back. Sometimes pain is the only thing that remains, so you dont want to let it go.
This was a masterpiece!! The acting from all the actors was very good. The way they convey emotions so subtly really makes the impact of the video more poignant. You should think about releasing a full feature film covering many different topics including what results from living your life a certain way. Thanks again.
This video got me crying. I never thought i was actually being like that . The hardest part for me was loneliness. I never cope up from it and i think it will never be.
@@cdargartz i tried. I made new friends also. Even i tried to get in relationship too. But i ended up everything because they can't fill the gap of loneliness inside me. Now i realise i become more needy, selfish. But everything got failed. From 4 years nothing changed. I used to think that if someone is be with me then i will never feel lonely.
You have no idea how hard this personally hit me. Especially the part where you bring out your phone around people to detract. Man you hit so many personal flaws and brought them to light. Thank you for helping me start my day off on a positive note and the content you bring to the world. Keep going man your changing the world one person at a time!!!
@@brianbchi Reported cases might have risen because of technology. Also, population grows faster in uneducated regions. Possibility of getting murdered in a city is much less than dying in an accident. So calm down you don't need to rationalize your misbehaviours.
@@brianbchi I truly hope for yourself this is a troll comment. If not then I would implore you to think about those statements for yourself. I do not know how old you are so maybe this will take some time, but at least question the things you are saying. Is this way of living really making you happy, or are you consciously or unconsciously walking a path to unhappiness or at least away from happiness. Hopefully that helps and if not then that is also okay. Merry Christmas😋
so glad there's people like you with the power to inspire people, especially young men like myself and many others to change for the better, modern life has blinded us in a way, to how bad the way we live actually is for our social and mental wellbeing, thank you for this video
I have faith that things will work out, but this was a wake-up call reminding me faith is simply not enough; putting in the work is the only way to get to where I want to be. Thank you!!!
Ever since i grew up with anxiety and experienced episodes of depression as severe as major depressive disorder, i was always unsure of what habits i should be practicing in order to improve my outlook in life. Now i can clearly see which aspects that i haven't worked on through this video
As someone who grew up with the same disorders, just know that this video makes it seem much easier than it really is for those who truly suffer in this way. Overcoming genuine depression, anxiety, suicidal ideation, patterns of isolation, self-hatred, etc. is a battle you will fight forever. It is a fight against forces outside your control. The battle may become easier. The battle may become harder. The battle WILL shift between the two. I continue to struggle hugely, to this very moment. The closest thing to victory is the refusal to surrender. You can only wake up and agree with yourself that you must continue to struggle, to suffer, and to keep yourself afloat in the hope that you will see better days - and you always will. If you continue to fight, then you continue to deserve those better days. To live is to struggle beautifully. Never stop fighting. The fight is all there is.
@@christiansanders1To you, and the feller above, I give you nothing but my best wishes. Life is extremely difficult sometimes, and it can truly feel like we're dealt an unfair hand, and it may even be true. But as long as you keep fighting, as long as you try to do right by yourself, your loved ones, and the world, you deserve better days, and eventually, you will reach them. Just keep pushing through. The only way to win is to never give up and keep trying until things start falling into place. One more thing, manage your expectations. You may never become the happiest person, and that's okay. You shouldn't blame yourself for unhappiness. As long as you're doing your best, you will be on a gradual climb, improving day by day, even if you sometimes stumble. During the journey, you should try to enjoy the little things in life, such as feeding some animals, or doing little things to help people in need, or just eating food you enjoy.
im glad to see some people acknowledging mental health here. sometimes i feel offput by these immediate things offered to me, because it can feel really dismissive. but we can be strong too. our fight may be paced different, but its a worthy one. i feel a bit more motivated from this.
I relate with you all. Having suffered and prone to depressive episodes and anxiety, my inner voice gave the same answers of being humble while expecting, grateful of everything, enjoying little things, being more on the positive side, facing reality and accepting that life is not black or white but grey and would be complex, with many unanswered questions, hidden truths. I will need to be vigilant, struggle and always embrace and protect myself. I will "struggle beautifully". Hope best for us
I'm SO glad I turned my life around the past year. My life used to be just like this, and seeing it from another perspective is confronting. Maybe even more confronting than when I confronted myself at the start of 2023. Keep going lads, you got this in the bag!
@@bruhhda_mancakes3953wake up early, take cold showers everyday, go to the gym at least once a week, eat healthy, drink water A LOT, smile to strangers (learn how to smile), walk confidently knowing that you’re a king (or queen idk what you are), try different hobbies
Biggest wakeup call ever, this was an exact description of me. Every single point was right. And here have i been wondering why i have it hard with new people and such. Thank you for this!
0:21 close your body language 0:51 check your phone 1:19 be late 1:47 make excuses 2:17 develop an external locus of control 2:48 steal the spotlight 3:22 detract 3:52 shapeshift 4:16 wish 4:39 shrink 4:58 despair
The first step is dumb af. I mean, try to walk with the best posture as possible and all, but why should you look or smile at every random stranger you meet on the street? Edit: in response of the comment below. No. Everyone is minding their own business and going about their day, you’re not the main character in the mind of every random stranger you meet on the street. Nobody really cares about you. Not to add that rather than “projecting warmth”, lmao, you might just pass off as a creep, weirdo or as provocative depending on the person judgment.
@@Ancelottis why not though? It costs nothing. Try going a day projecting warmth instead of averting your eyes/body every time someone walks by you. You'll feel much more confident and likable.
This is crazy. Im 18 and felt like nobody is thinking the same way as me at this age. Ive been struggling a lot with trying to motivate myself and actually do things that help me grow not just be on my phone and consumed by social media like everyone else around me. Im so glad I found someone who doesn't feel that being 18 means just partying and saying yolo and doing whatever the hell every college student does. Today was my 2nd day at a new job and a high schooler was asking me so what do you do as a college student now in the break, party and drink and smoke, I tell them no actually and they are shocked. This is the standard now and we really have to stand our grounds if we want to be different and run after our goals and dreams instead of wishing them away.
im feeling this so hard, i'm 20 now and i am/was dealing with this endless feeling for like 3/4 years now. Ive wasted so much time being bummed that i don't have someone elses life. Since this year i have come to see that living a happy life is not based on luck and talent but on having discipline, routines and making little steps. Recently, after being free of social media for 1 year, I looked up at my homepage for 5 minutes ( that was the idea, it turned into an hour), i realized how quickly i had lost all my energy for that day. and don't let anyone tell you that you are to young for all those patterns, if you are not happy with yoyr current habis, why not change it? You can do it.
My brother you sound like me at your age. Im almost 40. Pls don't be like me. Work make a family find a purpose forgive and forget always get back up as quick as possible no matter the pain dont drink dont smoke plan kids if poss save money If you don't welp. Dont expect the world to open its hands.
You are so young, you have your whole life ahead of you. Change your attitude now, im 34 and this video summed up my life and it honestly made me sick to my stomach, reality punched me right in the gut. I have a lot of work to do, it's never to late to rewrite your own narrative.
Someone in my life does all of these, and it's immensely draining, yet getting away from them is unattainable. I sent them this. Thanks for the inspiring, cinematic piece of quality content, Joey.
God, this video is art. Your cinematography is nothing to scoff at, mate. You know, I sometimes worry about just how much subtlety I'm missing out on. Kind of like the anxiety of knowing you'll never read enough books. And all I can say is youve successfully induced that anxiety in me with this piece, which is a good thing. The aspect ratio immediately draws the eyes, the introduction of green into the black and white video during the sponsored section makes it really pop and stand out with a unique color profile for the shots, also obviously symbolizes health and vitality with the more layered message of "Hey, if you focus more on your health, you introduce the color green into your life" which immediately leads me to think thats the guiding light behind your color side of videos. "Living bad makes the world grey, living better introduces color back, with every facet of life being a different color introduced back into your lens". Ugh, its just SO good! Would absolutely love a video just breaking down the artistic process for your videos.
Ephesians 6:10-18 says, Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might. Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness; above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God: praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints. The bible is no old book. You have to really let Christ open your eyes; to see the world in shambles. Many people say it's a religion to lock up people in chains, and say it's a rule book.. why? Because people hate hearing the truth, it hurts their flesh, it's hurts their pride, it's exposes on what things have they done..people love this world so much, s*x, money, power, women, supercars.. things of this world. Still trying to find something that can fill that emptiness in your heart. You can't find that in this world.. only in Christ, the bible is no chains, it's a chainbreaker. Breaking your sins into pieces... Repent now, and turn back to the true Lord only.. God bless.
I struggle with number 7 and number 8 a lot. Being proficicient at noticing other's flaws especially. This then reinforces my belief that others are always searching and concentrating on my own flaws. This then creates trust and anxiety issues on top of this.
Mate! For me, from a filmmaking standpoint, this is the best video you've ever made - and that was a high bar to beat! You can tell you really put a lot of hard work into this and it definitely paid off. Nice one man 👌🏼
@@ItWontLetMePutMyName259 God has no children nor partners nor is there anything that has any resemblance to Him. 'Isa (Jesus), peace be upon him, was no more than a messenger, who spread the same message as all other prophets, worship God alone with no partners. Associating anything with Him is the greatest sin. I invite you to Islam to submit to the One God and devout your life in obeying and pleasing Him alone.
I’m 19 years old. I took a gap year from high school and have 5 months left until the summer. I still haven’t looked for any colleges and do almost everything in this video. I’m the oldest sibling out of six, I don’t want to be a bad example. I want to make a fix, but am so mentally drained from working retail fulltime that I have no motivation to ever do anything and simply just daydream. I wonder if it’s too late for me, but I don’t think it is. It’s still scary to think about. Every year I seem to mature and become wiser and more sour towards my past self. This will be the year that I finally push myself into the right direction. Godspeed, guys. We are all in this very confusing world together.
What a perfect approach. In a world full of "how to make your life better" videos, it's time for some reality check. Often we find ourselves doing things out of habit and not realizing they are fucking up our lives but we're too stubborn and self absorbed to recognize them. Thank you for this perfect video.
I felt these in my bones. I was unknowingly and unwillingly doing the steps, scraping away my life, wishing for the 'if only' possible timeline. This is a wake up call for me, and i know reverting back to my pre covid self is tough but a necessary journey. Wish you all for bettering your life, living your life and loving the journey. (Ps like so that i can come back to this masterpiece)
This makes me realize how tough of a place I used to be in. I used to do almost all of these things as recently as last month. However, I have since put a huge amount of effort into changing myself and improving my stance on my own life. I’ve taken my path into my own hands and have expressed myself more openly and I can safely say I am a much better person now. If you want to change, please do your best to. Your efforts will pay off.
How can i change though? I’m in highschool and I feel like I’m wasting my last years in school. I try to go out my way and interact with people but it’s just hard for me to be outgoing
just keep trying. stop believing and thinking "im not outgoing" bc as he said in the vid humans act according to what they believe they are. you choose who u wanna be. if u dont wanna be like that and WORK for it, keep trying and put yourself out there, maybe not only in school. you can be whoever you wanna be if u worl for it. keep going, even if it doesnt make sense. one day, randomly, it will all click.@@danielmarmorstein321
This is incredibly powerful. I feel like you could make a full length anti-film, if that makes sense? Like using this negative technique in order to make people realise their current lifestyle choices. It really puts your mindset back in the present time.
Yeah! And the end of that film should be a 4th wall break, the "pro"tagonist looks into the camera and ask the audience: "What were you thinking? Waiting on a happy end? Look at yourself!" something along the lines.
For those who are self-improvement consoomers #8 really hit me hard. I realize that I am a complex person, not because I examined myself deeply, but because I keep adding more things to examine about myself. The ego of me trying to validate myself rather than going out and actually doing something has caused me to become so numb to everything. My heart has hardened due to this information overload and sensory overload. If I focus on simplifying myself in morals, character, and personality, I could actually make decisions that are based on a solid, unshakeable foundation, rather than my flacid character. This video helped me realize that consuming so much of this content made me think in so many ways, and yet I am directed into the astray path. Conviction allows you to go farther in life, even if those presumptions might become false in the future. I am in the path of indecision, and because of my complexity of so many different perspectives, I think in ways irrational to myself and to my fellow humans.
i needed to read this so thank you for sharing your insight! i’d honestly say i’ve been addicted to self improvement and over analysis for awhile now. i never considered that the amount i watch, read, talk about, etc could actually be hurting me more than improving. thank you again for talking about this!
yes i've realized this recently too. overthinking everything has always seemed like the rational thing to do because, you know, the more you think about something the better decisions you'll make, right? no, not really because after a certain point, it just leads you to not make *any* decisions at all because your overthinking keeps coming up with reasons why your choice isn't the perfect one. i realized i'm better off doing *something* even if it's not THE ultimate best decision ever, rather than stand there paralyzed by all the information i consume and the knowledge that nothing i'll ever do will be perfect.
The production of this video is unreal, you’ve seriously grown so much over the years and it’s inspiring to watch. The content was amazing as always. It really shows us how so many things we assume to be “givens” are actually in our control.
the last tip really spoke volumes for me. i’ve become someone who i never imagined myself to be in the last year or so, continuously making bad decisions without any improvement. i’ve felt like im just designed to be this way and i can’t change. but my new year’s resolution for 2024 was to start actually making the change i want to see. to give a fuck about my future. this video further helped me recognize my want for that.
Thank you. I stumbled upon this and have never felt so called out. I feel so good to see this and finally be able to recognize my acts I knew I was doing. Thank you.
Thank you. Just to add to this motivational ride, nothing is ever too late to change. Literally last week I decided to change before the new year starts (It’s December), and just like that, I don’t smoke anymore and I’ve pushed myself to meet up events after a long isolation I blamed ‘trauma’ for. I just poured out my glass of wine after this video. I have to inspire myself if I want to inspire othwrs.
I've concluded our lack of passion for life comes with a lack of change. Since change is a constant of the universe it must be accepted and practiced upon, change is about flexibility as Bruce Lee said the rigid tree cannot handle the storm as well as the flexible one.
Dude i used to watch this guys self help non procrastination videos thinking something is wrong w me to fix. Then i got a over 100k job and im like totally normal hardworking gym when i wake up.. so really i just didnt have a job and was bored drinking. Its amazing how like u can try all u want but it still feels pointless and its so easy to just be lazy until ur gettin paid and the light switch flips and u naturally become a machine. I guess thats what he does... tries to inspire people who have nothing. It didnt work for me.. i just kept listening to the stuff thinking how good it sounded. Hah
thanks for make me realize. i am 20 yo female. i am nearly about to dropped out from college. I think i have hight function Autism, i got no money to go to psychologists. but i have a lot of symptoms. in my head, I'm done, I believe that it's not my faults. I'm a innocent. i blame my parents and the environment where i grew up. i hate myself the way i think this 20 years i life is the key what i get in future. the key is just broken rusty metal. its like i got no more time to change it. i hate it. after watching your video, i realized yes its my faults, the way i eat, the way i think, the way i act. it's not ending of my life. I do have maladaptive daydreaming. i live in it. i am a scientist, a queen, a popular friendly friend of my non exist friends. i need to make it to be my reality. it's hard but not an impossible dream
This video made me cry. I'm 24 and I feel so lost about my life and myself and I couldn't find the answer, until I found this video; I know I'm young but I'm ruining my life and I didn't want to see it. Thank you for making this video, it hit me pretty hard, but now I know what I have to do.
Believe me, you're not alone. I'm 32 and I'm overweight. I did some shitty things out of naivety at my current workplace that I'm now regretting and will bite me in the ass in the near future. I don't have my own place, my own car. Heck I don't even have savings yet. I finished college yet I'm not working in that field. I earn minimum wage. I'm lost and I need to take actions for all the wrongdoings I did these past years (the ones that cannot be solved are another story). I did all the mistakes again and again which is idiocy. So yeah, you're not alone. But this is life. We have to learn from past mistakes and try to be better. Best wishes! Wishing you all the best for this upcoming new year! Greetings from Hungary! ❤
24 as well. its all about your attitude towards life. read good book, talk with good people, experience life and all its beauty. you can do this, i believe in you!
Hey, I wanna say: thank you for making this. Genuinely puts a lot of what I’m doing and a lot of how I act into perspective. Coming from experience doing most of these things, this is 100% how you ruin your life, and it’s a slow and painful process that feels like when an inexperienced hunter shoots a deer wrong, and has to gather up all the bits of their courage just to clumsily and hesitatingly finish it off, putting it in more pain than it already is. I wanna see the next video :)
Many tiny steps add up to change. Focus on one small thing to work on and when you make some progress set a new goal. Don’t overextend yourself or be discouraged by stagnation or setbacks. You can do it. I can do it too. We can do it.
@@minecraftprovie5076 You can brother, We all can and we all will if we want to. Just try and keep trying, Sooner or later you will reach the goal even if each time you try you only make it alittle bit closer each time. I believe in you.
as someone struggling with social anxiety and low self-esteem, it's not at all easy to change these ways of life. but i truly hope and wish to one day be able to, so that i can start living to the fullest instead of letting my fears make me miserable
What I love most about this video is that it appears you, the content creator, have been through most of it. Perhaps many of us watching this video have or will struggle with our character at some point. The fact we are watching this video shows we are in the conscious incompetence stage, meaning you are aware you are doing something wrong.
Most of us actually just scrolled into this, watched because it sounded interested, and scrolled to the next interesting video. It's not all about you.
This is a huge eye opener. I’m 34 years old. I’ve been going through it. Last year almost lost my older brother twice also have been in a funk since my separation from my wife a few years ago. This video literally had me think of things subconsciously I’ve been putting in my head. I need to change and be the best version of myself that I know I’m capable of being.
Man, I'm 33...never had a wife, no kids, got laid off, went to rehab, moved back in with parents one who has a multipersonailty disorder, lost my car and all else. I'm just about homeless without a job. I stillblamemy dad for how my life turned out because I asked him to sign for me at 17 to join the military. He said no and that I'd go crazy...... I'm trying. We can always be in a worse position. Life is tough. You'll make it to where you want to be.
It caught me off guard how... similar this feels to myself. This video made me think on how I act and my habits, opening my eyes to the truth of my actions. Thank you for making this video, and I hope this recommended to other people to see what not to do.
Wow… This was certainly some kind of a lightening struck. I’ve “ticked” nearly every point from noticing flaws in people and focusing on them to taking the phone out to avoid any communication. For the past year and college application process I’ve tried to convince myself of how great, and worthy, and genius I am, I forgot about what a person I’m turning into. I haven’t done anything to fix this, I was, again, just constantly finding excuses. I was just “discussing other’s flaws, to understand what to do with them” (I haven’t done anything except for discussing). I was just “realizing the advantages of doing something this way”, even though I’ve been criticizing them. Thank you for this clear and bold sign, a final push and alarm that something is going the wrong way. I hope that this first comment in social media in the past few years will be a step in the right direction. Thank you.
I'm 27 and I used to tick the boxes of 1 through 12, except 6 and 8. I literally ruined my life. This video is 100% accurate. Don't make the same mistakes. Work on your issues, one by one. You still have time to turn it around.
This video made me realise just how much of a negative person I have become. I forgot how to interact with people. I forgot what it feels like to interact with someone. I forgot how to approach someone. I forgot how to start or end a conversation. I forgot how to keep up with a conversation. i forgot how to form a clear sentence... I forgot how to voice my thoughts. I-I forgot how to how to even think clearly. All my peers are ahead of me, I am the one left behind. I used to "think" that everything will be okay. But here I am, an 18 years old, bawling her eyes out knowing she is ruining her life.
You are only 18. You have so much time to change your life, don't worry. There are 80 year olds in here watching this video, imagine the amount of pain they feel.
First time coming across this channel, really loved this argument format. It’s easy to let things like what was mentioned in this video just happen, but when you hear them phrased as firm recommendations, something about the thought process totally changes to “Uhh no, that’s ridiculous!” That’s exactly the point, and I love how this video brought that reaction out of me and made me reflect on some of these tendencies that I have. Thank you for sharing.
This hits me so hard, 80% of them is so accurate to my daily lifes for over the past few years until now.. The negativity stated in this video just taught me a lesson to change myself and do the opposite of it..
I admire the way this video was done, and I do agree with some points , e.g. simply wishing things were different and wishing for success without doing is one way to screw up one's life. But I don't agree that one has to be socially open to other people all the time. Occasionally, sure, depending on the time and place, but I find social interaction draining and would still rather just avoid it (and rather focus my energy on something constructive). E.g. I definitely don't want to sit on a short or long flight and chat with the person next to me. I want to be left alone. At work, I'd rather use my time to plan, than to have a pointless chat, which distracts me from planning or preparing my task ahead. Some people make social interaction avoidance out to be a deconstructive trait to have - whilst others think its, on the contrary, constructive and useful for staying focused, relaxed, and determined.
This hits home. I am one to force myself into situations I hate, and sometimes I fuck up. It's "awkward". Sometimes I cringe at it. But fuck, at least I gave it a shot. Sometimes it works out, and it's a good time. It works out more times than not to be honest. I'm also one to not give up. I spent 100 thousand attempts and 2 years on a level in a videogame, what's asking a girl out to a dance? And so I did, and she didn't expect it so much to the point she didn't even show up. Fuck, better luck next time. But I don't put all that time into something necessarily expecting results. I've been taught better. I spent 3 thousand hours in a competitive video game yet I am hardly above average. But I still keep going, keep trying, knowing that I'll find a way to get past these barriers. And when I do, as I have, and as I will, it will be great. It has been great. It is great. Thanks for coming.
I love watching videos with the reverse effect, where instead of being shown and told, "How things should be done", you're shown, "How it goes if you leave it the way it is", and you can learn from other people's mistakes while really understanding why. That's awesome! Thanks for the video!
Absolutely. It's about showing the "heaven" if you do xyz, and showing the "hell" (as this video does) if you don't. Some will be more motivated by the former, others by the latter
@@piquedcommenter6252 You're right. The two options are not mutually exclusive, and working together create the very effect where you actually realise (not just think you realise, but you do realise) that maybe your behaviour is worth changing. In the first case/heaven, when you're told how to do things, you don't always understand the point, and in the second case/hell, when you're shown the consequences, you probably won't understand what happened. Balance is important.
I was falling on my face in the mud. Then the mud turned into a puddle. But I could not even realise that it was neither mud nor a puddle, but something deeper, and I could not realise how deep I could go. No one around me could tell me that there was something wrong with me until I was in my new environment. In my previous environment my behaviour was natural and approved of. I noticed that my new acquaintances acted with me as if we were F.R.I.E.N.D.S., and it was kind of nice in a way. I've seen many videos that tell you how to live your life, how to become more friendly, less rude, and just plain nice (which is still no small thing), but it wasn't until I watched the reverse position videos that show you step by step "how to slide into the abyss" that I finally put together the puzzle, "so that's the point". Only then I realised where I really am, I know where to go, backwards and forwards, and now I am looking for where the roads to the left/right can lead, in order to properly adapt myself to new conditions without breaking myself, while keeping my personality intact and unharmed.
I’ve always been doing these things subconsciously without knowing and then blamed everyone around me as to why I felt unlikeable so I’m glad I found this video and hopefully I’ll change.
i believe in you:) i saw this somewhere and it’s been rly helpful- meet anger with exercise meet burnout with boundaries meet jealousy with humor meet anxiety with grounding meet insecurity with mindfulness meet depression with sunlight meet loneliness with volunteering meet guilt with realignment speak for your emotions, not from them we all have the capacity for change ❤️ but remember it takes little steps, and lots of time. good luck man
hey 16 and guy with aspergers here this video genuinly has helped me in life because i always am unintentionally all the things in this video without noticing because my brain worked like that but i have been learning the past months even years to improve myself towards me and others even if i dont like it it helps. but dont force it, just let it happen. my tip to everyone is keep yourself safe and be nice to others even if you dont like him or his opinions they are still humans i dont think anyone will read this but im still writing this because it removes a heart from my stone, i am moving to a different place and lose most of my friends because of it, because i never tried to socially interact with them out of the internet
Casually stumbled upon this video during my daily yt scrolling due to being homestuck for a surgery. I admit that it was really hard to watch it to the point I had to pause the video more than once - the reason: it called me out in such a way that made me wake up from my current slumber. Of course I am aware from a long time that this behavior has already damaged my social skills, but the worst thing is that I keep blaming my past traumas for that instead of my cowardice and lack of will. Using them as a shield to protect myself from further harm at the price of being considered as a strange, if not crazy, outcast... And the fact that I'm a procrastinator doesn't help at all. Thank you for this video. Not sure if I'll be able to change for the better, but I sincerely want to try again - especially now that there will be some important changes in my life.
The key takeaways; be more open to public interaction, be early to events, take responsibility for your actions, success won’t happen without planting seeds, don’t seek attention or validation, be authentic & honest, don’t let your vices take over, and never give up.
@@christiank7837"take responsibility" is such a bullshit retard statement. If traffic causes me to be late because someone gets in a crash its not my fault, if i want to kill myself because of my depression its not my fault. This guy described introverts and autistic people, acting like any of what he said is wrong.
The scariest thing is that we may not observe that we are like that and we're gradually ruining our lives. I must say that a lot of these traits I have in myself and only this video made me think of all the moments when I was like that, which is quite often. Thank you!
As a master student in the university where I got my bachelor's degree two months before starting master, it really feels like I had my shot and it's over. Friends at my age started to have their jobs and moving on different paths while newer faces who are bachelor students already have their friendship groups and relationships. Despite being 25, I feel like a dinasour walking in the campus. I have few friends, never dated someone and I can neither find a professional job despite applying everywhere nor earn money (financially dependent on my family). So I'm stuck in a circle where I constantly eat, go to bars and cafes to find a familiar face, get annoyed at any noise, resent at random couples and groups I've never known, and finish my school works on deadlines. Even if I finish my master thesis, I am so hopeless about what will come after. So, the circle continues. No improvement, no end, just a long-term nihilism with short-term gains.
Why don’t you start by drawing or writing out a list of what you want your life to look like. What would be the most perfect life for you? Write that out and hang it on your wall next to bed. Make it the first thing you see everyday
This would have been me if I didn't play guitar. The only reason I have friends is because someone walked up to me while I played guitar on a bench at campus. Never spoke to anyone in my classes that much. Find a socially powerful hobby or something. Something you can get good at and people will just gravitate towards you.
You're never without choices. You're in charge of your life. 25 is a full fledged adult. If you don't enjoy your school, change it. Want to meet someone? Try dating online. Go volunteer somewhere and meet friends. 25 is too young to not embrace life.
We seriously need a class on filmmaking from this guy. A behind the scenes video for this video perhaps? Well taken video, music and visuals are amazing. The content is simple and straight to the point, concise and short. Love it !!
