Charles is bringing April to court for an increase in child support. April is currently paying minimum wage support and says she cannot afford an increase due to being in debt and paying for her bipolar medication.
Him getting anxious seeing her foot tapping is a huge trauma response if I've ever seen one... I hope this man is doing better and has found better in his life
As someone who is and has bipolar run in the family line, being bipolar does not justify physical or mentally abusing anyone ever. It was her choice to have a physical altercations not her bipolar, she alone is responsible for her mental upkeep and she should have been aware of her mental health in the moment and practiced coping skills to handle the situation safely. It offends me when people blame bad behavior on bipolar, it contributes to the stigma to the mental illness.
They were probably both abusive. He was financially and emotionally abusive, you can tell that just from this clip, he used to not buy her medication, he used to leave her to do the majority of the childcare, and he has recently sold her a faulty car. She used to hit him. It's all abuse. It's good they are not together anymore, their relationship was obviously toxic.
Okay well not everyone had healthy coping mechanism and sometimes the disease does get the better of you, and you don’t have HER bipolar… or her temperament- bipolar people aren’t a monolith, sighed someone with adhd, bpd, and anxiety. Not saying violence is ever okay, not saying she was justified, but u inserting yourself into the equation of her life and her emotional maturity is downright obnoxious and dogmatic.
As a war veteran, I struggle with PTSD. You are right that it is our responsibility to take care of ourselves. Self-care mentally is important. For a couple of years, I was in total denial that I can handle myself just fine. But if you don't take care of yourself mentally you will break down.
The judge should’ve thrown the book at her immediately when she confessed to domestic violence. Treat men victims the same way women victims are treated. 🤦🏽♀️
People who use their mental illness as an excuse for abuse and being an all around horrible human disgust me. I also have BPD and I don’t just go around physically abusing my partner on my bad days.
i kinda get it but i do believe her story should matter. i am all for parents needing to help support their children but not taking into account other things in their lives is wrong. if she has debt shes working to pay off fixing a car etc taking almost a thousand from her could result in her not having power or gas to work or money to pay rent etc. thats wrong imo
@@anthonyruiz8519 So we shouldn't hold people to their financial responsibility as parents because they have proven to be financially irresponsible by racking up large amounts of debt? She has no explanation as for why she quit her minimum wage job but left without anything else lined up, relyed on credit and built up debt and now she wants to be cut a break on her child support obligations so she can save up money to pay off her debt. See unfortunately considering someone's debt is irrelevant in child support cases, your support obligations are based on your income so even if she was allowed a grace period to take care of her debt she would just be accumulating more debt in the back payments on support from the date of the ruling
@@anthonyruiz8519 she needs to pay her debt yes but the kids come first so they should not miss out because the mother has debts... she needs to pay up...
@@tylergartner4069 She actually explained that her husband refused to buy her medication that she needs to manage her mental health condition. I believe it is relatively obvious with that information why she quit her job, and I believe that he should be considered an abuser in this scenario.
@@nellysmith6006 "he let my medication..... well I was off my meds and he said he couldn't afford to cover my medication" It's convenient that everything is his fault, notice how she claimed the reason she went upside his head was because the child was crying all day and he wasn't giving her enough help. Then when the judge asked if was an isolated incident and the husband clarified it wasn't suddenly the story changed to it being because she was off her medication. Seems to me she's just allergic to accountability, her debts are his fault, her violent outbursts are because she's bipolar and he's not helping her enough but then they're actually because she was off her meds and that also wasn't her fault because he couldn't afford to pay for them....
Eye of the beholder . But he's very ugly emotionally bc you can tell he drug her through the mud. Sickness and in health. Bipolar is Sickness. So he should have been there for her.
They need to, I'm sick of Judge Mathis, always have Bitter Single Mothers, he always downgrade all Black Fathers down when it comes to Child Support, he never had any Single Dads Cases.
@@Leo42.069 he was in charge of the finances and didn't give her the money to buy her the medication for her mental health condition, so that she would become unstable and he could use that instability as an excuse for having full custody, and then claiming child support. He was just manipulative.
@@nellysmith6006 bro you cant give someone money you dont have plus she should be working to get money even if its just enough for her medicine as everyone in chat who says they have bpd it is no one's responsibility but hers that she stays medicated
I scratch my head every time I hear ppl say "...umm about this much or around that much," they should know exactly what a cost they pay is...bring receipts should be mandatory 😤
Yes agreed they should have to bring proof of the things not being mean but people can easily lie about something like that and the proof should have to be shown on paper of what they are paying
That was such a civilised hearing !!! I mean yes there were disagreements, but no yelling!?!? Wow . All the best to this beautiful little girl in her ballet .
My ex wife suffers from bipolar disorder and it caused extreme harm to our children and myself. It got to the point I had to divorce and take the kids. This was in a time before Bipolar was even a thing. Today it's much better for her so long as she is on her medication. She had brutal highs and suicidal lows. She came close to ending our children's lives a couple of times. That's when I got out of marriage and took the kids. It was so bad her own lawyer wanted me to get the kids. Don't worry as the kids are fully grown and doing excellent. I have three grand children. My ex wife is not allowed around the grand children ever. Thankfully the ex got the help she needed and is doing well and lives alone. She will never have a relationship by her choice. If you know anyone suffer from bipolar disorder please get help.
I would never hurt my baby and I'm bipolar but when I was unmedicated before I knew, I had bad hallucinations and paranoia so hopefully she got the help she needed. Sounds like more is going on as well but I'm happy for you and your kids. Does she talk to them at all?
@@mmokuso I get along with my ex very well. She called me yesterday for some advise. My son has a limited relationship with his mom. My daughter has three children and has no contact with the ex by her choice. The ex is ok with this arrangement and is doing well. I can hold decent conversations with the ex and I know when to either change the topic or end the exchange before she goes into her usual ranting. I can tell if she skips her meds but she rarely does that as she doesn't like herself from it. She can't keep frends or even get along with her own family. She is not a bad or evil person at all. She simply gets confused with her emotions like she is on overdrive. There is no middle ground once she gets an idea in her mind she has a difficult time understanding how to change or let it go. It wasn't all bad all of the time but when it went wrong it was definitely a struggle as she could see the harm but couldn't stop herself from her mission to make everyone see it her way. That's why many people have a hard time being around her as her behavior can be disturbing. The good news now that she is much older and understands how her thought process was off kilter she is aware and is on proper medication and is living her best life. I'm actually very proud of her for being able to defuse her own behavior. She has the ability to slow down and think about things and what's the best outcome where before she just bullied her way through. The best news for bipolar sufferers which has many different levels there is help if you find the right doctor and choose to listen and learn.
So your perfect? Everyone deals with her when it's convenient for them. But if anything happens to her I can tell you now a lot of y'all have to check your own flaws? So are your children punishing her because of the disease and she has no choice other to agree not to go around people.
They are both abusive to each other in different way. The relationship was a dumpster fire, but she's not the only one at fault. Witholding someone's medication is also abusive.
Now, that father there is a very handsome man. But I hate how she tried to use those tears and that sad face to get some sympathy from Judge Vonda. It didn't work. She needs to pay that child support and get her life together.
What’s sad is that the first thing out of the judges mouth when he said she was abuse was basically “she looks to nice to hit you”…. Unfortunately women can abuse men just the same
As a mother that has a child with the same issue doesn't really give her any reason to do what she has but she's deflecting using her issue as an excuse. Smh pathetic the length she is going to.
Having a partner with mental health issuses is emotionally draining and can get to a stage you just can't cope with them anymore for your and your children's health. Sad but true
How much these people have to pay amazes me! I received maybe a quarter of that and sometimes nothing. He didn’t even start to pay child support until he was 4 or 5. I always told his dad it wasn’t enough. You have school supplies, field trips, lunch money, clothes, sports and whatever else. Nothing is cheap. My son is 21 now. Time flies and ur kid is a grown up before you know it ❤️
2:34 I can’t believe the judge just let her abusive behavior go. She was having a bad day and he didn’t want to help? So she has to right to hit him? The judge just moved to him and asked if it was an isolated incident. She did it multiple times. Then blames him for not paying for the medication. Everything is his fault. It’s classic narcissistic behavior. Imagine if it was a man who did that. That judge is sexist. Her silence says women can abuse men. Unsubscribe.
I know someone who takes their child one day a week and doesn't pay support. They balked at being asked for 50 dollars a month for clothing and will only give it if they get a receipt. I looked up how much he should be paying in child support and it is close to 700 dollars. I just shook my head and thought he needs to be dragged into court if he thinks 50 dollars a month is too much to pay.
@@Francofit When they first separated it was supposed to be 50/50 custody (3 days with the child and then the next week 4 days). Each would pay for what the child needed. Then it dropped to one day a week (usually it is about 3 days a month they see their child). I suspect looking after a toddler half of the week was too daunting.
@@shannonbrice8012 -This happened with my ex. As soon as I had our child 95% I went straight to court for full custody and support. What is stopping this mother from doing the same? If she isn’t going to take him to court then she can’t complain. Once he is ordered getting behind will have ramifications like jail time or losing his dr. License
Bipolar is a disease. It is tough to deal with. People sympathize when people see physical illnesses. Mental illness can cause a lot of stress in one’s life. Based upon watching various previous videos, I feel child support law needs to be modified. It shouldn’t be based on income only and who is keeping the children. She won’t have anything left or even go in more debt to keep her expenses (food, rent, utility bills), retirement, car, insurance, gas money, federal tax, health insurance, cable, phone etc.
My ex husband didnt start paying child support until my daughter was 13 years old, he was court ordered to pay starting at 3 months. The amount was only $80 per month, and he always used his younger children as a reason not to pay. he also changed jobs to get out of paying. It was ridiculous.
"I have bipolar your honor" girl, I have bpd and so much other shit but I'm not abusing my friends or family. Just because you have bipolar doesn't give you a free pass to be abusive. I've also had to be on and off so many meds, where withdrawal would make me miserable. But again I wouldn't take it out on my friends or family. You chose to put your hands on him your bipolar didn't.
That girl is broken. She needs help. It doesn't dismiss the fact that she needs to pay appropriate child support, but she needs help for her mental health.
Ha! The minute he said she went upside his head I KNEW BPD was involved!! Dude, do ANYthing else to take care of your kid without her help, stay away from this lady and RUNNNN!!!!
Being bipolar is not an excuse to assault anyone..i am bipolar and it’s up to you to make sure you do what you need to do.. he’s not obligated to pay for her medication
She tossed the car issues out there as a warning that she is going to quit. Oh the car brokedown, the higher child support means I can't fix it, so I have to quit my job so no child support for you.
I think both the parents should be responsible for half the insurance and uncovered costs . It's ridiculous that only one parent should have insurance. I think they both need Insurance
i dont understand that either, when the judge said that with the insurance it was going up to 900 i was like what bout the guy? isnt he going to pay half?
I have bipolar 1 as well as PTSD and sensory processing disorder and I NEVER put my hands on anyone regardless of my state of mind. too many people use mental health as an excuse to do things that’s are NOT okay to do
As someone who has been with a bipolar person. It’s scary especially when they aren’t on medication. I think the medication doesn’t even do anything at times because they can really manipulate and destroy yourself. They are very manipulative and 2 faced. I still can’t get rid of them.
I also dated someone bipolar and had the complete opposite experience. You just dated a shitty person. People with mental health issues are more likely to be victims of abuse than abusers. That being said I’m still sorry for all of the pain and potential trauma that they may have caused you and I hope you’re able to heal.
@@mackenziek830 I’m glad it’s only my experience with them because now I’m actually afraid to even go near one to friend them. I don’t want to discriminate so I definitely need to work in it (:
no no feel bad lol mental illness is a spectrum the people you dealt with were unstable and whatever qualities came with that but to slap that label on every bipolar individual is childish yes you went through something whatever that is you can go get that fixed though and learn to cope and move along
She looked embarrassed that she has to have supervised visits and as they should with her bipolar disorder wouldn’t want the kid to get the same treatment the dad did
She did and is taking responsibility for her mental illness. She's taking medication and when a person stops medication for a mental illness such as bipolar disorder it can cause extreme highs and lows beyond he or she's control.
I'm glad this man didn't marry this woman. She is responsible for her bills and children are blessing; however, she doesn't need children. Vonda B you got it right.
I think she only took her meds that day in court to sweet talk the judge 🤣🤣🤣 why whenever women get judgements for child support you always want to ask if the man works or say that isnt fair. Now yall know how men feel huh 🤣🤣🤣
I notice the Mom didn't even TRY to deny it when he said she doesn't give anything more than what she ABSOLUTELY HAS TO for this 5 yr old daughter they have together. And since Dad is the one doing the asking, I assume the child is probably living with him as well. I can appreciate that the Mom is bipolar, and she was off her medicine and stressed out because the child was crying and she's in debt....but that DOES NOT justify he physically or emotionally abusing her ex...or ANYONE for that matter. What happens if she's off her meds and her daughter is having a bad day? Is she going to hit her daughter in frustration too?
I've been married to my wife for 23 years had 3 children and they have all grown up and left home. My wife has mental illness, something I found out after we got married, during her many many lapses into psychosis, I've been attacked more times than I can count I tried my best to give my children the best upbringing but they are angry at me for staying. I stayed because I would have lost my children to her, I would have lost my house I paid for, I had zero support, you can imagine, no one wants to be associated with chronic illness The law is not on the man side.
I have as nurse has taken care of people inpatient psych hospitals. Alot of patients have reported to me that the meds side effects are the reason why they stopped taking their meds. I hope one day your children will understand you. I commend you for sticking to your vows because you could have gotten a divorce. People with mental illness need not just medication they need a support system along with therapy. Next time your children give you grief over staying with your wife. Tell them how would they like to be diagnosed with schizophrenia (I don't know your age) a mental disorder that usually affects young adults in their prime, should you have left them or kicked them out. Good luck
My hubby is diagnosed Bipolar and has really really bad days, ya know what he does when that happens? He blares music and does his best not to communicate with me beyond text messages because he knows he gets loud and it makes me nervous due to how i was raised. He doesn't take meds. He simply does his best to be aware and not take it out on me. if you can't control your hands due to bipolar or not, you need to put forward more effort before getting into a relationship unless the person your with is Capable of helping you with that.
Bipolar and NPD are often misdiagnosed as the other. Her deflection and victim mentality, plus the fact that she physically ( and more than likely, psychologically, emotionally) abused that man points to something deeper and more malevolent than just Bipolar disorder.
I have a question... The person paying the child support always has to reimburse the full amount for medical insurance, instead of them sharing that cost equally. What is the reasoning behind it? Just curious.
This couple seems really sweet. They both are honest and didn’t argue about anything despite mom being bi polar. She was honest about that and got a better job. I believe these two could end up back together and not be in this tough situation anymore
She was so abusive she has to have supervised visits. If a spouse hits, smacks, throws things or is violent; the other partner should not get back together. If he gets back together with her the child should be removed from their custody.
Me personally i would feel less of a man to take the mother of my kids to court and ask for child support. I am the provider. Like i said me personally but to each his own.
Even though it’s scripted, it does hit very real life situations. I find it interesting that in Texas they require Medicaid for a child be repaid. I think that’s brilliant!
