Nisha is bringing Ben to court to be removed from child support. She says their son is almost 18, she takes care of him, and should not be paying child support to Ben.
How 🤔 the father is a liar if your child walked in with new clothes and shoes you wouldn't ask where they came from just asking if my son walked in with anything I didn't pay for I want to know where it came from or that makes me a bad parent
How 🤔 the father is a liar if your child walked in with new clothes and shoes you wouldn't ask where they came from just asking if my son walked in with anything I didn't pay for I want to know where it came from or that makes me a bad parent
Probably bc he's getting nothing out of the cs. Then she's a fashion designer so she makes most of his clothes and shoes are probably refurbished celebrity shoes..ik son son be fresh asf tho 😅
I wanna know how his father doesn't notice that he has new shoes 2-3 times a month. Something tells me the dad knew something was up but just didn't ask since he didn't have to pay for it.
nah its the dad who's the problem, nothing she does above and beyond is never good enough, sounds like hes just trying to scam even more money from her for HIS 2 other kids, hes lying thru his teeth
The kid has it pretty good. He's playing both parents. Seriously, 2 or 3 pairs of shoes a month plus clothing, pizza etc? He's definitely doing alright.
@@raymondsolisjr.1262 what would change according to you if he was a girl, I don't think gender matters here. A cunny person is cunny whether male or female
So you’re telling me when that child comes home with some new sneakers the father doesn’t ask his son how he come by those 2-3 pairs of sneakers per month? YEAH RIGHT! He knows well that the mother is doing over and beyond for her son.
@@DemelicosHelsaint Did you even watch the video? I didn’t say that buying a lot of sneakers is supporting a child. However, shoes are considered “A NEED” and fortunately for this child, he gets more than he needs. As stated by the mother of this child, she pays the father child support and supplies other needs, like clothing and give the child other money than the child support that she gives to the father. So yes, the mother supports her child in every way she can. Nothing wrong with spoiling your child. It’s her child and she can do what she wants. Don’t be mad at him having a lot of sneakers. Stop hating!
The mom sent the money to DIRECTLY to her child without the fathers knowledge. You're assuming this 17 year old kid didn't spend the money on girls/alcohol/drugs and used it for a legit purpose.
She’s genuinely doing her part and more and I applaud her for that. I can see why she would appreciate a decrease in the child support payments. All together she is paying just over $1200 a month
@@rodericksears638 she’s getting disrespected right now too 😂mothers get flamed way worse for not being there than fathers do, and this women IS there ☠️
If the dad paying for equipment and uniform and stuff. The momma paying the money directed to the son and stuff for those things. What’s the son doing with the money if the dad still paying for the uniforms and all that stuff.
He's probably using that money to purchase more shoes while his father has just purchased uniforms and shoes. Kudos to Judge Vonda for stopping the childishness between them in court. Glad that the father didn't face Judge Judy with all of the looking around that he did with Vonda. She wouldn't play that.
I think this ruling was definitely fair. That mama may not have primary physical custody because of her career but, she spends 2 to 3 days a week with her son and gives almost DOUBLE what she is ordered to give him for child support. She is trying to do right by him. 💜
I think the son is taking advantage of situation telling Mom he needs this and then telling Dad he needs this . You gotta give credit to the son for running a game on his parents
I want to stand up and applaud this mother for going over and beyond to care for her son. She was willing to prove via cash app that she is telling the truth. Great and unique case!
Lets be realistic Mari, most fathers who do pay child support do the same thing so there's not much to applaud here, as many of them in the end are pushed to the side by society. If the mum giving money is such a great thing, then why not applaud the father for taking care of his child and his new family and working too? Why just applaud the mother?
@@Jp-ny3qh it’s not that he doesn’t get an applause but more so just the situation of him saying she doesn’t help more financially like she said she was. Finances are such a small part anyway. I hate what she said at the end. It doesn’t matter what the father does with the child support. He could buy himself some shoes with it but the week before he could have bought his son a pair. Parents start to get so petty about child support. If your child has everything they need and more then who cares!
@@whynot9771 Its not real. They're actors, they even clearly state that in the video and channels profile. Also, the wardrobe department would have been responsible for that choice.
I could tell in the beginning, the judge was not on mom's side. The dad was not believable...couldn't give a straight answer or give eye contact. The judge made the right decision.
Yeah cause the child support is being used to care for his wife and kids lol which is why she sent to money to her son and not to the dad. If I’m not mistaken equipment is only paid for once a year.
Doesn't matter when he started playing sports...the $700 she is giving is her part if his sports needs... the farther still has to pay his part...Child SUPPORT is to help the other parent support the custodial parent not pay child supoort and fully pay all activities...remember the other parent has to have food & shelter also...all parents should do more than Child support if can but in all actually they are only obligated by the court order..he didn't even want to give her credit for the extra...this goes if it was visa versa...
it’s not like she wanted to stop providing support, she just wanted to stop giving the money to the dad. She wanted to be able to just send money to her kid…he’s 17 years old, that seems fair to me.
I disagree. Child support also covers food and shelter for the child. Pretty sure the kid isn't taking the money from Mom's cash apps and throwing it on the household bills.
@@elyhenu8449 right!! I remember when 25 bucks was a heck of a lot of money for a pair of shoes! And we were lucky if we got new Payless shoes they were usually hand me downs. ☺️ I wouldn't change a thing though it makes me grateful for everything I have.
Actually, it doesn't make sense for the judge to require the dad to produce written evidence to prove the mom is not paying extra and then accept the mom's assertion that she is paying extra without the mom producing written evidence to support her claim. If anyone is in the position to produce physical evidence to support the extra payment, it's the mom. I tend to think the mom is lying and is upset about the dad having a new woman and having moved on with his life. Also, there is a reason the dad was awarded sole custody of his son. There should not have been a reduction based on an unsupported verbal claim that the mom was paying extra. This judge's ruling leaves a lot to be desired. I have worked in juvenile law for decades, and I have never seen a judge accept a person's word without corrobarative evidence to support it.
It's refreshing to see that the parents, though separated, are both taking care of the child instead of just one parent. I love seeing this. It might not get enough views as "bad mom" or other videos of yours but this was heart warming to see that parents care for their child
Body language is a huge sign I always look for. The mother is paying for everything her child needs and wants. The father was clearly lying. Him and the step momma is gonna be pissy come graduation.
Why assume that the Dad is lying? It might be that the son is double-dipping the parents. And, the only reason the Mom wanted a reduction is because SHE thinks that her ex is using her for his needs. This is a clear case of not communicating with each other
It never ceases to amaze me that she is doing all that she can she sees him at least 2-3 times a week along with providing for him financially yet she is looked at in a negative light !! Wow Some men don’t do half of what she is doing and society says to the mother “ you should have made better choices when you laid down with that man! Or that’s on her for letting him get away with stuff!! Pick a side! He pretended not to know that “ she buys him clothing for his activities she isn’t physically there but maintains everything for his well being and yet he shrugs it off like he is Stevie wonder and can’t see anything!! Smt If she was physically there would that have been what the child needed ?! Notice his father shrugged off 80% of what she said!! But I bet you if you revisit this upon graduation things will be completely different cause she will be paying for college and another set of financial stuff for him and his dad will still require help from her for day to day stuff for their child!!
I can see it if they are specialized for track and basketball. Sometimes they wear out, you need different street shoes and court shoes, and sometimes if you play hard enough, those shoes wear out fast.
@Jaila Primm because the parents aren't together and the kid goes between 2 different homes....if you have to go to one home to see your father, and a different home to see your mother...that is a broken home lol
I’ll be honest… if my son’s father was actually active in his life without needing to be told by the government or anyone else, I DEFINITELY would not put him on CS. Heck… he hasn’t been in my son’s life since birth (he’ll be 4 this year) and I’m JUST NOW petitioning for a DNA to receive payments.
@@mogetit5999 I appreciate it thank you. I really tried because he is 2 years younger than me so at the time he didn’t even turn 21 yet when I got pregnant.. so I somewhat get it.. but cmon now… at some point you have to grow the hell up. I wasn’t ready either but I put myself to the side and became the best mother I can possibly be. Not perfect but I try with my night
I agree. I never asked for child support in the beginning because my sons dad was there 1000%. But when I refused to get back with him he stopped doing for our son. So after trying for a long time to compromise with him with no luck I finally took child support out on him.
You're a good person for that. Ive always felt the same way.. and I did the exact thing you did. Waited til 4 years of him being inactive in my son's life. Now he's going on 8 and he still ain't around and neither is that child support 🙄
My youngest son went to stay with his Dad and I was put on child support. His Dad thought he was gonna continue to collect child support AFTER our son dropped out of school. Nope, didn't happen. So I was taken off of CS. But I continued to give our son money when he needed things. His Dad was pissed because HE wasn't getting the money.
My parents got divorced while my dad was making about $38 an hour so the child support wasn't an issue for him until he got laid off and wasn't able to get a job or a stable one. He wasn't able to pay child support so it just kept stacking up and he lost things like his drivers license so he wasn't able to even drive to get a job. I was about 8 at the time and now I'm a full grown adult over the age of 25 and this year my dad was able to finally pay off the rest of the child support. Keep in mind I spent every summer with my dad and ever day I could with him and in my mind he was supporting me more than my mom
The parent that keeps the child is the one sound the chores feeding clothing cleaning after taking to doctor so many thing you don't see because dad was fun does not negate all the stuff mom was doing for you also it's as much your mom and your dad duty to make sure you have a roof and heated home
She sounds like such an amazing mom!! I can tell dad is just mad he isn’t getting what he wants in the equation ! This mom deserves so much love and gratitude because she’s doing such a good job I just wanna hug her
BOTH parents are doing great. He's caring for his child just as she is. The son is very likely going to both parents saying "I need this or I need that". All 3 need to have a sit down. My brother did this to my parents until I ratted him out and they had a sit down with his spoiled butt. Dad is doing a great job, he just needs to monitor what his son is doing a bit more closely bc I think the kid is pulling the wool over his eyes
I'd say she's a good mom. An "amazing" mom would tell her 17 year old "No, I won't pay $400 a month for two pairs of shoes. I'll instead put that money away for you for college"
The favoritism is insane here… Nowhere did I get the impression that he’s mad. He literally did not put up a fight whatsoever for the lowered child support. He looked tired from a long days work and was ready to go home. My personal opinion I think they are both good parents. I’d argue that the child support amount should have been kept the same as there only a couple payments left and sneakers/pizza are not necessities… BUT I’m not disagreeing that the lowered amount isn’t fair either because it is since she sees him half the week etc.
Honestly this is why people need to have connections and contact with their parenting partner because kids realize then there is a disconnect and if they can get out of it they will
Exactly I do not speak my exhusband however my is a manipulator and I know that he thinks because we do not connect that he can manipulate situations. I have learned that that my son tries it
Mom only only has 6 months payments left which she can handle....good job....jerk knows he and so called fiancee was usin that 700 for themselves and their children.....KARMA
Whoa! $700 a month….I hear so many men complain of 200 a month! No wonder the mom wants a reduction since he’s almost of age. But like the judge, I don’t think she’d take dad off if roles were reversed. And most people would agree. But…700 yeah I don’t blame her
Baby I had 3 minor kids and was only given $146 per month for all three! Not they are 28, 26 and 20 I just started getting child support last month from 2017!
He’s almost 18…she just need to hang on. Let’s keep it real the issue is the finance. It’s the mom feeling like she’s supporting his woman. Technically it’s true, but thankfully she only have 6 months to deal with it.
Me either because at 1st he said that she send cash app here and there then he turned around and said he knows nothing about her sending the son cash app. And if she paying $700 a month. Shouldn't the dad take that to pay for extra curricular activities? Sometimes some of these parents be getting child support and the child is not be taken care of and the child does reaches out to the other parent for food and other things they may be lacking.
@@chrisrodney79 maybe I missed something.. what wasn’t the mother being truthful about? She had proof that she’s been sending him(son) cashapps and she’s current with her child support payments 🤷♀️
Typically, anything sent outside the child support order is considered a gift by the court and will not adjust the child support order. It depends on the state though.
I don't care what state you in, this is my opinion. If you sending stuff outside of child support, that's not a gift cause at the end of the day that's your child, you help support that child anyway necessary, even if it's outside of child support
I found that out when I provided a list of things my ex was giving extra, even though he was technically behind on child support. The judge thanked me for being honest and explained that if it's outside of the child support order it is a gift. 🤷🏽♀️ And he is still in contempt. I was very surprised...he was shook.
Idk why she told her to not worry about something that's "not even her business" Honey if my son lives there and I'm sending $700+ to that house my son lives in, THEN ITS MY BUSINESS. PERIODT
She was referring to her comment stating “I’m tired of taking care of him and his other kids” which was a tacky comment to begin with but the judge is right his other children aren’t any of her business as long as her child is taken care off that’s all that matters
@@mystery38106 I already know he do. She literally snitched on him. He and his wife don't make enough to dress them as nice as her son. But as soon as that child support being sent, all of a sudden the siblings dressing just as nice? Hell yeah he spending that money on the other kids
The fact that both parties agreed that he spends 2-3 days a week with her shows there should’ve been an adjustment on CS alone. Regardless of whether the judge was considering the extra money as a “gift” especially since the CS order was likely based on the son living with the dad full-time.
Excuse me but I'd know if my kid was wearing $250 shoes that I didn't use that $700 to pay for. He know the money didn't come out his pocket and that all he concerned about. The gag is she got it to send. Support and cashapps running up and she still spending time. If this were the other ways around I'd feel the same
I think that a reduction is fair ! So proud of the mother for sticking up for her self . The feeling of not being on child support after a child has aged out is amazing but the support is directed directly to the 18 yo child so 🤷🏽♀️
You know she loves her son very much because even though she's out of town often, when she's back, she gets him and she's been doing much more than what the court's required. I agree with her sending her son cash app. This way, she knows he's getting what he needs and it's not going to others in the house. Bravo my sister. Her son KNOWS he's loved very much.
That mother was helping to take care, of him his wife and children. That judge was, wrong for that. She know damn well, what that man is doing with that $700 a month. It most certainly, is not all being spent on the son. 🤬
Men go through these BS all the times. Im talking about men that are in the same situation as her. Child support is view by many like punishment especially men. It is not it your responsibility as a parent to do so. Like this woman in court. I paid my child support like I was suppose to. I also handle school supplies , cloths, field trips, school pics, birthday and xmas presents in addition to child support payments because they are my kids too. I see all the support she is getting for doing what she is suppose to do. That said that goes for men too,
He still has rent, water, electric, clothes, food. Sounds like son taking his cash app money hanging out . 175 is health insurance. Soo 700 isn't alot.
Good job 👏 Mom! It's rare to see a parent in Court that is paying more money 💰 than ordered, providing the extras for her son as he goes through HS. It seems as though she has always put her son 1st during his 17 years 👍👍👍 Great job Mom & I hope your son has learned alot of your good morals & taking responsibility. This is a refreshing case to see brought before this Judge 👌
I'll never understand parents that need a court to help like this! Me and my ex husband have NEVER paid child support... We buy whats needed between us! 🤷 Your child should always come before your wants
@@tracyhurst7512 and courts are needed to also account for what ever responsibilities that have and are still being met. People lie and play games with each other.
Alot of adults don't put the child 1st and then want to hurt the other person... especially when jealous and envy is involved.... also a lot people don't have a clue on how to communicate
He Talking bout "So I can live happily ever after" 😂 Get On! Dude You're in HER pockets. && She taking care of her child plus providing an extra income into your home.
See and they call me sexist. I feel just as bad for this woman as I would for a man. Imagine ladies, your bady daddy had custody of your child and he taking money from you and the son is also taking money from you. Of course you want a reduction. And it's somewhat reasonable. But time and time again men deal with this and no one ever cares. Anyway I love this show.
I love how her reasons go from diverse to very narrow for what she's sending money for as soon as she starts actually explaining all of a sudden she's buying him two to three pairs of sneakers a month and that's the total
I’m 27, my father has always been on child support. The state let him get so backed up in CS that the judge told him more than likely he’ll never get off it for me because he owes so much in back pay. It’s truly refreshing to see even tho the kid is hustling both parents which is common at that age, they both go above & beyond. That’s what they should be doing.
I applaud her for taking care of her son and also for paying her child support like she should but if the child support cannot be denied or stopped then for the next few months or whatever until he turns 18 I would just pay the child support and I would not pay anything over that. Let his father take care of the rest of it. If she's doing what she was ordered to do that's all she needs to do for now.
She's buying the son 2 or 3 pairs of $200+ sneakers and his dad doesn't know?. I can only surmise that the boy is either lying or buying them and selling them to his friends
Is it just me or is the 17yr old playing both sides? Dad's getting child support but the son is asking Mum for money, which she's paying? At first I didn't think dad knew, but now I think, yeah he knew. He just let it happen. Looking into myself, would I allow that? Hmm...probably lol Good on Mum though for speaking out, she's clearly been taken advantage of.
The fact that children get to choose where they want to go is absolutely ridiculous. They’re always going to choose the easiest way and that is not always the best way. Their wishes should be heard but the best parent should be granted.
We are lucky to have Medicare in Australia through the government for low income earners but don’t have to paid back but America seems to be much better at helping both parents with parental rights and visitations. Go Judge Vonda 🇦🇺💜
I believe Medicare gets taken out in taxes in your pay checks and end of year taxes in America. My sons has Medicare bc he’s a baby but I do not bc I don’t qualify
Honestly both the parents are telling the truth in my opinion and it’s the son that is living lavish he probably asking for the same thing from his mom and dad his dad actually getting the stuff and his mama just handing over the cash
I think what’s actually happening is. The son is probably asking his mom for extra money for certain things and to buy him stuff because the money the father is getting from child support is being ised on the whole family. He has younger kids and a wife. I highly doubt 700+ is only being spent on that one child
All this could be as simple as a quick text message saying, just so you know I gave our son money for X,Y,Z but instead she letting letting a child play her for cashapp money without verifying anything.
My case my ex-husband was ordered to pay $160 a month he couldn't even pay that so I took him to court they ordered him to pay $200 a month he didn't pay that I have great respect for this woman she is the epitome of a mother the father he needs to find out what's going on in his house because something's going on if his sons getting 600 more from his mom and I agree with her she probably is taking care of his other children
I believe she would've taken him off child support idk. My mom when she divorced my dad left him everything but shared custody. She wanted her hands clean of the marriage she just asked that he be there for us and thought he would never abandon us. He married his mistress and she told him he couldn't see us anymore. My mom never asked for a cent. And they made almost double her income.
I love that the mom is doing what she is doing however if the role was reversed, whatever the man gives beyond child support is a gift and wouldn't be given a break
Thats crazy how shes getting so much applause and credit but whenever its the case of the FATHER doing the same then “it’s considered a gift”. Lmao she getting applause for doing what she’s supposed to be doing anyway and the main thing she keeps bringing up is his fiancé. He didnt say one negative thing about her nor discredit her in anyway sounds like she was just upset that he moved on. They need to both have a conversation with their son about him running games on both of them though 😂
That’s Dad didn’t leave me with a good impression at all. I kinda felt bad for the Mother. That last dig at the end about ‘having his happy ever after’ was just so telling. What a prick.
