As a psychologist I would watch this clip forever as an example for how the mind is capable of protecting the broken child's fragile states. I am not a fan of Andrew tate but with this clip, I cant imagine how frustrated and neglegted tate was. I felt sorry for him. I hope He can manage to build that relationship with his ınner child and direct his emotions to the right place
Can you please tell me how i can direct my emotions to the right place? What do you mean by that? I unfortunately had a narcissistic father and i am thinking of seeking therapy. You would help a person so much with just a comment.
@@eisenall1776 you should go to therapy, in fact we all should, knowing your personal history a therapist is the best help we can have when it comes to make sense of all these emotions that we live, I really hope everything improves in your life, I am sure you are able to move forward!!!!
@@eisenall1776seek therapy, look online for psychological education as well, maybe it can help you realize certain things or help you think about things, and grow from there. Start anywhere, start with smaller questions or start by looking up what you want to know
Why would you hope that Andrew Tate builds a relationship with his inner child and directs his emotions to the right place? So you wish the best for a conman who uses his “famous for being famous” platform (he has no skills, hasn’t excelled at anything outside of conning boys and men) to manipulate young vulnerable boys out of their pocket money!
Yes. But on the other hand, people should also be held accountable. If a psychopath is loved unconditionally by his or her parents, it could be enough to justify their actions to themselves. Parents are typically the most important people in one's life and what they think is held by some individuals higher than social criticism, law, etc.
Well… I think psychopaths are an exception and not the norm. A Human is less likely to develop psychopathie if his/her needs in childhood are met and that is definetely not the case if the child thinks that a fathers love or time should be earned, I guess in the case of a psychopathic disorder.. The parents should love him/her unconditionally, too. Who do you think will commit more crimes: A Psychopath with loving parents or without? (Sorry for my bad English)
@@Quack277 It's a common misconception that psychopathy can develop over time due to childhood experiences. In reality, psychopathy is generally considered a personality disorder with genetic roots, meaning individuals are born with the potential for psychopathy. However, the degree to which psychopathy affects an individual can indeed be influenced by their upbringing and environment. To clarify, while one cannot "become" a psychopath in the true clinical sense, it is possible for someone to develop psychopathic traits due to adverse experiences or environments. These traits can include lack of empathy, manipulativeness, and antisocial behaviors, but developing these traits is different from having the full-fledged disorder of psychopathy.
The way he reacted to when you called him out on confessing he's not a present person... It looked like it kinda hurt his ego and then he rationalized it to actually be something that proves how great he is.
The message a 10 y/o child gets when a parent chooses to be absent for long periods of time is "you're not important enough to have my attention you need it". He spends an awful lot of time telling himself (and anyone who will listen) how "important" he is. So much of the way he comports himself screams insecurity.
It's working for him, he's proud of himself due to all his hard work and effort, he persevered through a lot and it's not shielding and reflecting in a negative way he's in fact shielding what he believes is right from trial and error; clearly that's worked for him. No need to look for trauma and mental problems where there aren't any and even if there any why change them if he's happier and more successful with them?
First time i've seen tate rattled. Was definitely a therapy session for him. Good for him! He needs to be more rattled. In a good way. On to self discovery, tate! Its good for ya!
With his father leaving the household when he was10 yrs old, as the older brother,he would've fealt he needed to be the the strong protector in the home. He doesn't want to feel the emptiness he alway's fealt.The fighting helped him deal with it. He's doing good shit,but he won't allow himself to relax & be in the moment bcos he thinks it's all going to fall down around him what he's built up for the people he looks after & cares for. Think he doesn't want them to feel like he did when his father left him..his family. Sthing will happen,if not already..in his life, like it does for all of us for different reasons, that will force him to face shit He will keep trying to ignore it..Keep going so he doesn't have to face his inner feelings/child. But he knows he needs to go deep into there one day. He can then allow his mind to slow down bcos he's faced his fears Being "present" is also part of being a strong, masculine man.He will find better word's to describe what he really means, so he won't be so misunderstood. He'll use a lower,slower tone which will come across much better to people & importantly the males he's mentoring won't misinterpret his masculine, strong minded, motivational, inspirational teachings as having to be overpowering. It comes across as not caring & cold.Which I don't believe he is that in private to those he cares about.
David, your interview with Andrew is the best of all time. ( the whole thing -4h ) This is much better then Andrew and Rogan as ppl hype so hard about, and it’s because you are a good listener and your smart enogh to put the RIGHT questions at the RIGHT time. You didn’t label him straight away and naturally just gave him the benefit of the doubt. Good work sir 🤝
14:25 I also had to earn my father attention. Thats was exactly how my father treated me. I did everything to prove to my father that im am a worthy person. I am very sad about tate childhood. It had been very traumatic.
This was beautiful to watch. First time I've ever seen Andrew Tate actually challanged for the first time, I hope this is something he sticks with and persues.
Convince him of what ? What are you a nobody trying to convince Andrew ? Andrew has a way better life than you and helped a lot of people way more than you ever did y’all call him a narcissist just because he’s a proud man that has a way better life than all of you
@@Mohamadtheman and again, you think Andy who is not allowed to leave his house without asking persimmon from the police, a man (of sorts) who is facing two high court trails one in Romania and then in the UK. Andy is a 🔔 end who would con his own mother out of 50p. Grow up
I’m going to take a minute now to show my admiration for the amazing therapist David is. The attention, the humility, the desire to help and the dozens of tools was able to reach for, everything on the spot, being recorded while dealing with a greatly challenging and influential man. An absolute masterclass!
I feel for Andrew who had a very challenging childhood. His abandonment issues is deep and he accepted it fully. Maybe this conversation will help him understand his core wounding so he can be vulnerable instead of being fight/flight all the time. He’s heavily programmed to believe what he believes now of how a man should show up in the world. He’s right for what he’s been through. Although, he can be aware of his unconscious beliefs. Most of us especially little boys were conditioned to be strong, don’t cry, don’t feel emotions so you won’t get hurt. Girls too. It’s really fascinating when you tap into healing your wounds inside out and be open to feeling vulnerable without being defensive all the time. Great conversation. ❤
Factual. As a man there’s definitely this balance. You have to know when to open up or be present. Emotions can sometimes make us stronger. The wise is the one who knows the right balance.
You think just because you’re calling him a narcissist and just labeling him all that BS that you’re in any way a better person than him and you can easily judge ? Andrew is a good man who helped a lot more people than you ever did in your whole life
@@Mohamadtheman ahahaha here you are again pushing a fake narrative, Andy is not a good man he is a conman who was desperate for public attention and adulation which probably stemmed from his dead beat father cheating on his mum, gambling and drinking. How do you know how people the above person has or hasn’t helped? MOST people who help others, do it NOT for the thanks and praise publicly, they do it because it’s a calling in life, they also don’t charge 49.99 a month 😂😂
Andrew has severe father wounds and he blames his mother. All of his issues with blaming women go back to his childhood. He’s talked about his mom finding numbers in his dad’s pant pockets. He said his dad would tel him, “I’m sorry you have to hear this. Women never shut up.” When he said, “my father did care,” because he can’t see that his father really let his mom leave with him. He can’t blame his father and constantly makes excuses. He really needs one month in Costa Rica on some ayahuasca retreat. I bet his ego death would be life changing.
Calm down there, woman. He loves his mom. He also doesn't blame women for anything. I think you're being a typical woman, strawmanning and making stuff up and being confidently ignorant. Tate has literally said that every bad girlfriend a man has is his fault, because women will submit to a man who performs well. You're either ignorant, or just manipulative, like most women.
Grief psychologists build their schizophrenic theories about a person they don't know. Nothing new. Firstly, he never accused women, he tells the pure truth, he just describes the feminine nature of behavior, the fact that a woman likes to manipulate or take out a man's brain is true, as is the fact that modern women do not want to bear any responsibility, but want to do what they want. Secondly, he did not accuse his mother anywhere, there is no information about it, you took it out of nowhere
His dad also cheated on his mom like publicly and their dad told me to not talk back when confronted. He just had a bad father, he was diagnosed with NPD
I still holds the belief that not one person even as a 3 to 4 yr old can rationalise things .. the emotions will be there and after a long time of suppression with logic this happens. Rationalism is sometimes a self defense mechanism.
The female viewpoint is so engrained in our culture that everyone reads into this more than what is. How else could Tate have shown that he really wasn't hurt and that it had a positive impact on his life (he is richer than most commenters on this post, especially the fake psychologists). In fact, the father model Tate describes is the one through most of history...the new, baseball dad that changes diapers is a modern invention...and I dont think its a coincidence that its at the same time as the mental health breakdown of society.
Broo thank you for this post, I feel like in modern society people try to impose their way of thinking on others and lable it the way of living but it seems like Andrew is doing pretty fine with his view points and is very successful in life and I don’t think it’s a coincidence either
The mental health breakdown of society cannot be simply jumbled up under the consequence of one reasoning. That is the first. Second, was it really like that throughout history? Fathers were absent from their families for, most of the time, duty. Men who went to war and pusue a career in faraway places, when asked, would likely much rather prefer to be home with their family. That's why youd often find family photos in the pockets of soilders. And their absence was out of mandatory duty, not out of willingness to be absent. Tate's believes being absent is a form of love as it pushes the individual to feel like they have someone or something to live up to, whether it be status or simply the last name, but really, these can still be felt and achieved even in the presence of their fathers. There will never be justification for the willing absence of parents, even if it is under goodwill. Infact, if anything, the mental health breakdown or the "feminization" of men is literally from the absence of father most of the time. Thats why the comments "fatherless behavior" exists under such videos.
@@PossiblyBubbly Your missing the point Andrew Tate was saying, it’s about impact on the kids life whether your around them all the time or a couples times throughout the month. Fatherless behavior is fathers with no positive impact at all who gave up completely on the kids and left them to the mom. But that’s not what Andrew’s talking about. His dad obviously had an impact that made him the man that he is today that I think for the most part helped him. I guess I’m saying it all comes down to the quality of time with the kids and not looking at the dads who are not around the kids 24/7 as deadbeats because real deadbeats leave and NEVER spend time with their kids.
i feel for andrew i cant take present moments im always looking ahead for whats next or what can get done only time i feel present are few and far between
Tate is so geared and rationalized every aspect of his life early on that he can't won't think of it any other way. The way of Being bread! It helps that his thinking process is, given a scenario, he'll figure the outcome there and back again but also in different ways,direction and come to a conclusion what if any is the best option or outcome. My Dad and my daughter does the same thing. My daughter does this about problems that arise in her own life but takes too much into consideration how it would effect the main person causing the problem which in return reflects to others she's the problem , too much thinking of the other person and not enough respect for herself. 😢
Man, I've really not thought much about Tate except to maybe make fun of his ideology with my teenage son, and then also talk about how toxic and gross I find it as well (so it's kind of sad funny but it's also kind of dangerous because people buy into it). But he actually seems like a really intelligent person who is just so deeply flawed. I honestly felt pity for him when he said he couldn't or didn't want to be present in his life because he found it boring. It's so...nihilistic in such a backward sort of way--meaning he seems to value material excess and living life to his version of the fullest, while never truly being present or even happy in the moment.
Idk at what age I starting doing that I rationalize that if my brain is working basically always thinking I will accomplish more and solve more problems because even when eating a burger I’m thinking hey I can do this hey I realized this and that
Isn't Tate a classic case of narcissism? he build these super macho defenses of extreme "strength" to protect against the fact his dad wasn't actually there. And he won't admit it ever, just like narcissists don't.
Tate isn’t a bad person he’s just a proud man and there’s nothing wrong with that you people have a deep problem of just judging and labeling people without realizing how ridiculous all of you sound Andrew didn’t hurt anyone didn’t kill anyone didn’t rob anyone so wtf do y’all want from him ? he’s a good man who helped a lot of people just let him live his life
@@Mohamadtheman he is VERY good on political analysis and yet in his personal life it's quite clear he oppresses his multiple women and neglects his kids. He admitted in the past though denies it now that his wealth is actually built on being a pimp. I don't know about you but that's not nice. It doesn't discredit the superb analysis and courage he displays outwardly... but... pimping is pimping.
@@HyperaeonWhiteKnight First of all do you live with him ? are YOU one of his women ? how tf would you know that he “ oppresses them “ that’s BS Also about “ pimping “ he just did a legal cam business were everyone who worked on it was comfortable and there was no crime that was committed I’m not saying that business was a good thing it wasn’t but it’s not nearly as bad as you’re making it out to be it’s so hypocritical that you people never say anything about onlyfans but are so ready to Criticise Tate also are people not supposed to change ? Tate changed by the time Tate blow up on the internet he was already done with the web cam business YEARS AGO so it was always an irrelevant topic but since you losers pray on people’s downfalls you have to bring up the past from a decade ago when Andrew was in his mid 20s Andrew himself was a young person when he did that just give him a fucking break he’s in his mid 30s now and a Muslim with Muslim values so he would never do that web cam shit again and he has his own kids the fact y’all are judging Andrew for something he did a decade ago when he was a young person himself just speaks volumes about how full of crap you people are get off your high horse you’re not a better person than Andrew you’re just as flawed as he is if not more Andrew got rich and helped a lot of poor children around the world with his money what did you do in your life other than judge and label people ?
i think emotions are important and i can see tate trying to run away from them but i don't like this whole movement of making Emotions as an Excuse for them i'm the way i'm now because of the trauma as a child etc, which can be true but not all the truth you are that because you choose to be- the same way you can choose to fight or flight a situation
But also no Hollywood person would ever talk to Andrew publicly with cameras because if they did they would be canceled and their careers would be over which just shows how evil Hollywood is
You’re just a hater explain how is he mentally unwell did he do any crimes ? Any drugs ? Did he hurt anyone ? no he has a good life and helped way more people than you ever did in your whole life he inspired a lot of young men to be better and with his money he helped a lot of poor children in missed up countries the only one who has a problem here is you not Andrew
every answer he gave start too assertive like he knows everyy questions possible and the relative answer but it' s a bit suspicious. he has surely great communication skills
Making men deal with their feelings is why we're where we're today. It's not our job as a man to be happy and as a man who never had a father, he never crossed my mind.
It's everybody's job to be happy. The best way to be "happy", or let's say "not be miserable", is to sit with your emotions and understand them so that we may better understand ourselves. Gender has no link to it whatsoever.
I don’t think happiness is the job I think purpose is the job because happiness is not always a constant state, their will be days of pain and sorrow but finding purpose in the pain the sorrow and the happiness. That’s what makes life meaningful.
Sounds like he is trying to convince himself in what he is saying. Never talks about his feelings. Which he prolly thinks is weak and believes that weakness is bad. Can he be vulnerable? I wonder if his dad ever told him “I love you”
@@kostaslolis3258Psychologists are those who have brought up modern weakness in people. As soon as someone hits the table with the little finger of his foot, he immediately runs to a psychologist. It's no wonder why half of the American population is on antidepressants
Your interview with Andrew is the most unique till date . Nevertheless, I think the issue at hand here is relatively simple . His dad did not have the luxury of spending so much of his time with his children , but did the right things to show enough love as a father . 10 year old andrew just understood all of that and that sometimes in life you are dealt bad cards by God . You might just say he was mature at a young age .
This is it for “Doctor” David, no other videos or clips, just riding on the coattails of an about to be convicted criminal. Congratulations you made it.
My dude, Andrew Tate is a very interesting subject psychologically speaking.. We can feel empathy for Andrew but also be aware of all the people he has manipulated
@@CJ-cz3hv Ok that is true, however this is now touching on a number of different subjects. Having the ability to look at a situation and understand it without having emotions cloud judgement or reasoning, followed by being able to introduce morality as a secondary perspective. And that is where my issues with Tate in general starts, someone who deliberately deceives and manipulates (in this instance young boys) for money, well - then the normal approach and verbiage tends to feed into their current way of thinking and proceeds to add a degree of validation to their actions “maybe I am just misunderstood”. Every human being is worthy of sympathy and in turn empathy, correct, but in this instance tate has deliberately brought about his own reality, the good (if there is any good, above and beyond lining his own pockets) and the bad, the old saying goes, "Hate the sin, love the sinner." I was hoping that this interview approached the tate phenomenon head on, really challenging his well polished script and highlighting the inconsistencies between his current & previous messages + his actions. Upon reflection, I directed this at the wrong person, and perhaps David isn’t at fault, how could he possibly meet my outcome expectations, when this was his interview. Yeah, a moment of clarity.
@@renceworldI take it you have evidence that he is a criminal and also to give him a prison sentence in court? Is there? No? Well, shut your mouth. They could not show him anything in court, although they tried very hard to find something. The problem here is that Andrew is not pleasing to someone. They're either killing you or trying to put you in jail.
Ridiculous. Everybody in this comment section seems to think that the mother and father should be equally present and that their roles are basically the same. If the father is providing and doing what he needs to do and fulfilling his obligations, he doesn’t always need to be there. The mother is the one with the nurturing instinct. She’s the one the child relies on in the formative years.
