Teen Room Takeback: Helping a teen with ADHD take back control of his room  

You're not wrong. When I release the other two videos of this home and tell more of this family's story, I think you'll understand they have a lot on their plate, but they are working hard to get things under control. That would definitely help him manage things better though, to get rid of some stuff, I totally agree. 😊

You might be the exception but alot of cleaners set the laundry aside for the homeowners to do. May I suggest that they sort the clothing before they put it away with toss and donate categories or seasonal storage.

There's also the chance that the son will one day watch this video. Hope he reads your comment!

Here’s the thing….you can’t just “get rid of things” it’s a process

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp Also..not nearly enough storage in that room!

That's awesome that you have found a way to stay on top of it! Good for you.👏❤️

It sounds like you have some experience in this area. I agree. I'm glad he's learning these skills now! Thanks for watching!

Yes it was! I would have loved to rearrange the whole room.

I had never heard the term "neurodivergent" until today. That is a great word to describe those who don't fit the typical mold. I think everyone should know this word. Thanks for teaching me!

I am an neurodivergent too ,i have adhd . It is sometimes really hard to clean my house

Yes. He was probably extremely grateful, too. Thank you so much Bonnie!

So true!

I agree about them learning those skills. It's a good thing they are all now subscribers and fans of my channel and have watched every video. I just got a text from the mom yesterday saying that he is keeping his room clean and they are keeping the other areas of the house clean as well that I worked on, and "I'm using your techniques as much as possible." So, that's great news. I'm going over again in the next week or two to check on the progress actually because I wasn't able to finish the kitchen and Mom was going through a bunch more stuff, so I told her I would come back and get better "after footage" of the kitchen. Excited to see what they have done!

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp ahh wonderful. And thanks for the video.

Thank you!! 😊

Thank you!! 😊 I noticed you also have a channel where you clean houses for free. I love it! I hope this free cleaning for people with mental health issues or other difficult circumstances really catches on all over the world! The world needs more compassion and understanding. Thank you for showing that! I have subscribed to your channel! Thanks for being here!

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp Yeah, it would be awesome if we could make a worldwide chain of people showing love to others by cleaning. Everybody deserves a clean home 🩵 I will keep on following you and supporting you! Thanks friend 😘

@colinecleans That is my hope as well! Good luck with your Channel! I will mention you in my next video to try to drive some traffic to your channel as well. Keep up the great work you do!❤️❤️

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp That's so sweet, thank you. Feels like I made a new online friend! 😊 🩵🫧

Thank you!❤️🙏

Thank you so much!! I'm so glad you're here! I had a great time at my family reunion!😊

You are the mother and teacher too much stuff is always the reason

This probably wouldn't be the best time to mention that I have actually already had back surgery six years ago. Yikes...I know! I have had back problems since my teenage years and it still hurts when I overdo it, but I also have learned a lot of techniques that help to keep it "tuned up." Thank you for your concern. Once my channel grows to a point where I can hire a couple of people to come help me, I will definitely do that because I know I can't keep up this pace forever!

Awww, thank you!❤️🙏

Thank you so much!

Thank you so much! I love to hear other people's stories and of their struggles too as I think the more people share, the more others don't feel like they are alone in the struggle. Good luck with helping your son! Much love!❤

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp I ended up cleaning most of his room, yay! He appreciated it so much. At 22, he suffers with anxiety, depression, avoidance disorder and more. Finally found a medication that seems to be working, besides the Vyvanse, now a shortage! Yikes, Lol. Thanks again for the motivation, and good luck with your son as well!

LOL!

You are so kind. Thank you so much! Have fun cleaning and organizing!

Right?! Haha!

My mom was a box-saver too. She had literally dozens of all different sizes stored in the basement. Came in very handy at Christmas time for wrapping presents, but by the time we got around to using many of them, they were too filthy to use. Yipes! 😊

Thanks so much for your support! I really appreciate it!❤

Glad you enjoyed it!

It really is so freeing to not have so much stuff. I don't think most people realize how much of their life is taken up by just taking care of all the stuff they have. Good for you!

Thank you!

Thank you!

Oh thank you! I agree. There is something mesmerizing about that. Folding laundry is by far my favorite thing when I clean!

Aw, thanks so much!!🥰👍

You bet!

Thank you!

Thanks so much! 😊

Aw, thank you.☺️❤️

Thanks so much! 😊

Thank you!

Thank you so much

Thank you!

Thank you! 😊

Welcome! I'm so glad you're here!😊🫶

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp thank you!! 🌸

Thanks!

I've tried to teach my boys to do it that way and they never could get the hang of it, so they just hang up one shirt at a time. Maybe I will have to try to reteach them now that they are a little older because it's such a timesaver!

I totally get this. I have been trying to figure out how to mix it better without repeating so much content. In my latest video I feel like I did a little better job with that, but hopefully I can figure out a way to do a picture and picture type of thing where you are seeing it from two different angles without repeating things. I appreciate the feedback. I will work on that for sure.😊❤️ I also want to refer people to your comment who are really rude about giving criticism and tell them, "this is how you do it to be more effective." You made me want to actually listen to you because it was constructive criticism and not just "I hate the way you do this, blah blah blah." So thank you for that!!🥰

Thank you!!

Thank you so much. I really appreciate it! So nice of you. 🥰This collab has been really fun so far. Just ended our second day cleaning together and we are just about to jump on to do a live on Mack's channel.🤗

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp I’m planning on being there! It conflicts with a zoom call I have, but I’m going to figure out a way!

Thanks you!

What a nice compliment! I love Marie Kondo! I have always loved doing laundry, but that's where I got my love of folding from.😄❤️👍

Thank you! 😊

Thanks so much for your support. That's very sweet of you!

Thank you so much! I really appreciate your support!🥰

Thank you!

Oh my goodness, thank you so much! I appreciate it!!❤❤😍 Danke to you as well!

No bears in Bear Lake. I always thought that was strange. There are moose, though.😊

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp tbh I think I'm more scared of moose then bears! I saw a video of a huge moose chasing a black bear in and out of a river - the bear actually crashed it's way through a plate glass window to get away. Fortunately bears and moose are pretty scarce in the UK, so I think I'm safe lol.

@sarahwilks2413 I know. They are beautiful, but can be so scary! I guess the question is, would you rather be stomped to death or ripped to pieces? I think moose probably are slightly scarier just because they aren't as easy to scare away where Bears will usually leave you alone unless you startle them unexpectedly, have food that they want, or you come upon a mom trying to protect her cubs. My husband has gone to Alaska 3 times to do some fishing there and there were bears everywhere. They weren't at all interested in the humans because they had plenty of fish.😊

It's beautiful. Had a great family reunion!

Me too!❤️

I try to use the homeowner's vacuum since hauling my own around isn't the easiest and I don't want to cross-contaminate between houses with pet hair, etc., so this was a Shark vacuum. I was pretty impressed by it. Wait until you see the video of this same house when I clean the living room and the amount of vacuuming I had to do. This little vacuum did an amazing job, especially after I cleaned out the gobs of hair that was tangled around the brush!

This whole house (there are two other videos of this same house plus the oven cleaning one where I take it apart and don't use oven cleaner to clean it) took me about 45 hours total. This room was about 8-9 hours of that.

Why are apple boxes the best?😁 Probably because they have to be sturdy enough to carry all those heavy apples.

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 🤣 RIGHT? All those $1800 Apples lol 📱

Thank you so much! I really appreciate it!❤️

I had to look up what an Underwood was because I wasn't sure what you were talking about. You mean the typewriter...LOL! I'm not sure about that since I apparently don't know enough about typewriters. But it does sound like you would have fun chatting with him.😁

I hope so too! He is lacking in the storage department for sure. I wish I could buy him some more shelving or drawers or something.

If he watches this, he definitely will try to.

I wasn't there when he came home because he was at work when I finished up, but his mom told me he was very happy about it and he actually follows the comments on this video to get encouragement to keep it up.😊

On my way back from a camping trip. I will post a link once I get home. They are Altras, but I'll give you the link for the same ones I'm wearing. I LOVE them!🤗

Here is a link to the exact shoes I'm wearing with the wide toe box: amzn.to/3Oi54zl I just wore them on a couple of hikes while down in Bryce Canyon this last weekend and they were great for that as well... really good traction.

Well, I actually know that he reads these comments, so he will see this and maybe take some of that advice. Thank you!

He was completely aware I was cleaning his room as I had been cleaning at the house for a couple of days before this and knew that his room was one that I was going to clean, so I had full permission from him, and he was thankful for the cleaner space when I was done.

I just noticed that was your comment on the other video asking if I travel to do cleaning. So, again, unfortunately not at this time.😥

I get that. It's why I wear leggings and not jeans a whole lot. I can wear jeans, but it's all about comfort for me. I wouldn't say they feel like nails on a chalkboard, but they are definitely not as comfortable.😊

Really?! Where do you live?

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp cache valley ❤️

Nice! I may start traveling further to clean homes in the future. I have a lot of family in Logan and Bear Lake that I could stay with if I ever clean a house up that direction. if that happens, I'll reach out! Thank you!

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp awesome!

No, they need to understand the word no, gently at 1st, then keep it consistent. I don't mean no to everything, but when its required, stick with your guns or they will run the house. I found out the hard way. You can give in only if its a special reason, or deserved. Also, have them clean for a period of time, at the same time say 5 days per week. A reward at the end of the week if they finish all 5 days, like go out for Icecream or?? Just ideas, I did a lot of research, its difficult to say no, and they learn how to change your mind if you start giving in. Good luck!

Thank you for replying because I wasn't quite sure how to respond to this as I have never dealt personally with a child who struggles with this kind of thing, so it's nice to get the perspective of someone who has been there, done that! Your advice makes sense!

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp Oh thank you that helps a little. Should I tip their mattress to check under the bed?

I don't know what to tell you as every family dynamic is different. I would suggest getting help from an expert/therapist as I don't know enough about how to handle this type of behavior. I'm simply cleaning/organizing to hopefully give people a little lift in their spirits and hopefully help them to feel more at peace so they can work on their mental health. I'm sure there is someone near you who could help and, if the cost is too much, I know there are programs out there to help. Good luck to you!

Ask them to "help" you clean up their rooms. Then they feel like they are a part of the process. I would do organizing several times a month. I would get them started on a weekly cleaning routine. They need to participate!!! All kids need to learn cleaning and organizing early so they don't have more problems later on in life. It can be very hard with "teens" because they are set in their own ways by then. This is also true with DICIPLINE! Everyone needs discipline not just at school but at home also. Even very young children should be taught to put their toys back where they got them. Yes,they should be in a tub or bin for clean up so everyone can walk into the room. If they have a collection it can be kept in their room nicely put in a display they like. Teach them collections are for favorite things not just to buy one every time you see one. Consider the age and disability or the IQ of the child your working with and how they want their belongings. Most importantly-try to make an example of your own personal belongings. Clean and organize areas on a monthly basis. You will be very suprised by how much trash and junk you have somehow acquired. From someone who works with special needs kids of all ages and even adults if they ask for help. ❤ Be patient with yourself and these kids as they are learning from you! Set a good example. 👍

True, but then he also wouldn't have any floor space. It was quite a small space for everything!

Why? I don’t think any single person needs a bed larger than a twin. Especially with people who load the area beneath the bed with junk and trash. What he needs is a twin captain’s bed so that he has regulation storage drawers under the bed.

I use PowerDirector to edit my videos and do my voiceovers.

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp And what kind of mic? I did recorded the voice over with my phone, but the quality is horrible... :)

Sorry for the delayed response. I haven't figured out the best way to see the "replies" to comments yet. This is the one I have: www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07GQT8879/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1 I tried a different one first, but it didn't work very well. There was a great deal on this one, so I decided to spend a little more for a better mic and it really works well. Super easy to set up, too. It's just a USB plug-in.

You are right. The whole family is learning new habits. I will have two more videos of this house actually (the living room and kitchen) because it also needed a lot of work. I'll tell you more of their story when I release those videos. The bin for the books was temporary storage. They are working on getting rid of a bunch of stuff, so I moved those books to an area of the house where they are sorting through stuff and deciding what to keep and what to get rid of. And, definitely, a shelf would be great for the "tchotshkes." I love that word!

Hi!

It is really easy to judge these kinds of situations. That's exactly why I wanted to do this channel was to broaden people's perspectives on how we see other people. It's not something I've always been great at, so it's a challenge for me sometimes as well, but I'm becoming more empathetic to these situations and find that I am a lot happier just treating everyone as though they are going through something difficult, because they very well may be. Thanks for watching and for your comments!🥰

Yeah, There wasn't a lot of space in this room and I tried not to change up the placement of things too much. If it were up to me, I would probably put the bed under the window and move the dresser.

I agree. He was totally aware of what was going on though. I had been cleaning at this house for two days prior to cleaning his room and he was fully on board with getting some help with his room. I didn't throw anything away (unless it was actually garbage), but mostly just organized it into categories to make it easier for him to sort through. Hopefully his ADHD will allow him to tackle one category at a time. The entire family is working on cleaning up the house and getting rid of things. I will have two other videos of this house coming out soon where I will tell you more of this family's story.

With you kind hearted cleaners no one will want to clean their own place anymore

I’m sorry I didn’t realize he was on board. That makes all the difference 🙂👍

Thanks so much for your support! I really appreciate it!!❤

Thanks!

Aw, thank you, Karen. That's so sweet of you. I really appreciate it! 🩷💜❤️