Can I just say, it’s nice to see and hear that Men, YES, MEN are saying, “You shouldn’t say Thank You for not taking advantage of me.” Thank You to youse MEN.
I always feel extremely uncomfortable cuddling because if I don’t go all the way I’m afraid of upsetting the guy or him forcing me. So I just avoid it all together which sucks. I’ve offending a few guys because I don’t want to be in their house or alone at night with them because it’ll feel like it’s my fault if something happens. I’ve had experiences with guys I thought were trustworthy so that’s why I have strict boundaries.
I love this compilation because there are also boys who are talking about and understanding this tiktok-trend. I watched some man reaction videos to it and i was getting sick listening and reading their way of portraiting it.
@@cerealguy6359 men don't speak a lot or recognize their own problems. I would love them to fight, too. now is the best time. fighting together change our life together. it does not matter wich part of which gender side changes we are dependent on each other because men and women are coexistend. but they just hate and fight against women most of the time. they have a lot of problems within their men-community and men-made-community. the women aren't the biggest of them. i talked to a lot of male friends.
@@cerealguy6359 i think all the women (except the extremist feminists) would love to stand by the side of the men if they want to start their fight against the toxic society and their gender roles. if you look at it women are already fighting to take some of the mens burdens away.
@@happyfreakangel7233 yeah I've seen alot of men having problems with their manhood and masculinity. Like women's gender roles and the idea of womanhood got expanded by feminism. A woman working, wearing pants, being dominant or being independent isnt indicative of anything more about her. Shes still seen as a woman she just happens to have other aspects of her personality. But if a man chooses to stay home, or wear a dress or is dependent on his partner suddenly hes less of a man, or hes presumed to be gay. Like men cant just like letting their balls hang, wearing flowy clothing HAS to indicate something more.🙄Like alot of dudes seem very attached to the old idea of manhood and masculinity and often times have a hard time expanding that to include more things that men can be.
@@clockwork4255 exactly. You put it into great words. manhood was glorified and stuff all those years. I guess it is easier to break apart boulders out of dirt or clay than to put apart boulders out of gold. Hopefully they get somewhere in the future and stop beeing blind.
When I spent the night at a male friend's house and we slept in the same bed together and he didn't try to put a move on me. A coworker told me "he's a good one". I thought that was odd of her to say because why *would* he put the moves on me if I hadn't done anything to warrant getting moves put on me? Turns out a lot of men are predators. But not that one.
@@mewesquirrel6720 No friends were mentioned in this post unless you mean the dude. But we're not friends anymore, really. We just lived too far apart and neither of us wanted to spend our days off driving/bussing for hours just to hang out.
@@mewesquirrel6720 I'm asexual. If someone ever did feel threatened by all my ... um... sexuality?... I'd probably just die laughing at the absurdity, thus removing myself as a threat :D
Every time another woman praises a man for the bare minimum I can't resist playing dumb and asking "why? What'd he do?" forcing them to explain exactly what he did (ie common decency everyone should do) and hope she realizes she's praising someone for unremarkable behavior she would probably never admire a woman for doing.
A lot of women are thankful that men don’t pressure them because the pressure makes the choice instantly become: get raped, or just have sex I don’t want to have so I’m not raped. 🤷🏽♀️ That’s why they’re thankful. Because they were shown a tiny amount of decency and not forced to choose between personal shame and being taken advantage of.
Yeah, the problem is that in both the women is still getting r*ped. Since its either "have sex by force or have sex by coceirced/ strong armed consent"☹😟
@@chipsahoy6289 I do feel more women and girls should be aware of this (yes, girls too!). Being coerced into having sex is still rape, because you didn't give your consent willingly or enthusiastically. Being coerced also applies in particular to girls who are being sexually groomed. They don't know what they're saying yes to, they don't have the mental capacity to fully understand it because they are just children. And even more so, all boys and men should be aware of how fucking wrong this is.
@@bozieduble8541 the saddest and scariest thing with the coercion aspect about it is that the men that do it tend to be the ones your dating or are married to. It feels like they think that because we love them, then having sex whenever just because should be natural and that we should just always be in the mood, even when we tell them no or start physically PUSHING them away... and they still refuse to accept the no anyway.
@@chipsahoy6289 100% agree. Only realized this and went through it with my ex; and there were times it felt I had to just go along with it. He also thought, for some reason, that dating meant he had a right to my body basically whenever he chose, including when I was sleeping, and I woke up to/was woken up by him doing things, multiple times.. I dont know exactly what that is [called/labelled] honestly. But definitely know what you mean and agree with you.
See all of this guys actually facing those situations with the attitude of "no means no, I get it and that is okey" and being thanked for it by females make me feel that womans are way more used to be forced to do something they don't want to do or awkard in so freaking moments in their life that is just extremely sad...
We say "thank you" for not pressuring us BECAUSE someone else already did. We've already been there, and had that done to us; that's why we expected it, and it's why we're grateful when it doesn't happen.
So? It's still super messed up and completely proves the video right: women praise men for the bare minimum (and would never ask for or receive praise themselves for doing that)
@@Jack-uu6dj How you know the bar is low. Men who hold other men accountable and to a standard or conduct are super rare and you aren't one of them. Some males defended Chris Watts
@@sirazazeloflowkey6424 at least one man, which means that enough men are responsible that we have to be wary of every other man that might walk into our lives. Is he a rapist, a murderer, or a genuinely good person? We don't know just by looking at them, and that's the risk we have to take when we walk home at night, go on a date, and yes, even with male family members. So maybe not men as a totality, but enough men to make us cautious.
@@bozieduble8541 Yeah, RU-vid keeps deleting my reply to you. Or maybe the channel owners are. But your logic is ridiculously flawed. Imagine applying the same logic to other immutable characteristics like race, sexuality, religeous beliefs etc.
Mine was when a random dude in the club asked me for my number while I was there with my friends for a friend's birthday and I declined (obviously with the overly kind explanation so he doesn't get angry and assault me) and he smiled and said I understand. 😱 I was shocked, so so shocked cause I am so used to guys being like "eh well you're not even that pretty" Or just straight up bitch. I ended up giving him my number towards the end of the night cause I knew he was a nice dude but now that I think about it....gods he did the bare minimum and yet I thought he was so great. Wow
So true. As a father, the only time I've ever had negative comments about my parenting actions or decisions was from other (older) men who thought I was doing too much. Spouting off with their "that's women's work" kinda nonsense.
For me it was when I started seeing these kind of completions and I started saying thank you like to my phone screen, and I am not kidding I dead ass do it and some times won't even realize 😂
I’ve had so many men get mad at me and pressure me into sex. Including my ex husband. Either they get mad or keep pushing to the point you give up. Took me a year or so to realize my ex husband raped me. He told me I had to because I was his wife.
Damn never realised it was this bad. But I don't get how is that story 1:07 about low standards. If you are deciding to be involved with someone based on music taste alone. Sounds more like that she had weird priorities to me.
I think it's because a lot of men feel weird about listening to music more marketed toward women because they are uncomfortable with being perceived as too "feminine".
They must have gone to a more expensive doctor for the vasectomy. That's the only reason someone would get a gift basket from the doctor's office after a procedure.
Can't say anything about rest of these and dating bar definently not high. But that dude 3:59 looking for some extra points. Loyalty my ass. He is straight up acting like good portion of women don't cheat.
They don't as much, and when they do it's to get out of emotionally dead relationships while men tend to because they're bored or for an ego boost. Both actions wrong but completely different reasons to, and one more side eye worthy than the other.
In a way, this is true, though while the bar generally used to be low/is low for both average and above average looking men in the past/among older women personality-wise, nowadays it's generally only low for above average looking men among younger women.
@@thecollector5243 Not at all. But it sure makes me laugh in amusement at the infantile state of some people we consider adults in the Western World. 😂
You may not like her but it's unfortunately still true. My sister was under the microscope with her two kids - and my brother in law was praised for everything he did with the kids. Whatever my sister did was just considered basic and mum stuff. 🤷♂️
But you can also say he was just doing basic dad stuff. When I was Young my dad always took me everywhere, and people (especially women) would always say shit in a condescending tone like "oh your babysitting" like no he's being a father
I agree I found her annoying.... No offense.... gives me flashbacks of when my momma used to lecture me.... She's just had that "tf did u just say" face throughout that entire time she was talking😤🤦♀️
Being a gentleman gets you nowhere, fast! Now, when I meet a girl for a date, I pull up and honk the horn a couple times, we always do separate checks, then I tell them I’m not interested in a relationship and I want to keep it casual. For some sick reason, they always let me sleep with them! I’m not proud of the way I treat girls, but it is probably the only way to get laid these days.
Ikr like all we as women want is not to be forced to have sex and to be appreciated for creating humans out of our bodies, I guess that just makes us super selfish and salty 😔😔😔
@@k1llj0y15 Ever hear of you sratch my back I scratch yours. Men just want a faithful girl that will not make him feel like shit by nagging him about everything and to be appreciated when they risk their health, life and limb to provide for and keep said woman safe. That is also too much to ask for. Also as a man who doesn't want to have children, your ability to produce them does not add value to me.
@@sirazazeloflowkey6424 Risking their lives? How? Working in an office or enclosed building like most human beings isn't especially dangerous. Providing for their families? Please. Most men expect women to not only work and split the household bills but also cook(while they don't) clean(while they don't) and also give them children, "respect" them, let them have the final say in big decisions and then when women point out they want some credit or appreciation, they are called whiny. This is the 21st century most men do not provide for their families even if they think they do. Many men realize this and treat acknowledge their wives efforts and those men are then called names by other males who find this threatening somehow... What value do YOU add to your relationship that a woman can't do herself? Have you ever asked yourself that? Your ability to work holds little value in a world where women can do the exact same thing and likely will have to until she retires. Men are often so concerned about what they want women to do and how they want them to treat them but they never stop ask themselves or better yet the woman they are with, how the lady wants to be treated.
@@kiram1854 You're single and so don't know what you are talking about in that regard. If you are not single, leave him, he sounds like a shit partner. Not because he is a man, but because he doesn't treat your fairly. Also, you never had a man risk his life or health for you? Who the fuck you dating girl? Also when you say most men, do you mean most American men? You probably do. You also automatically assume I do office work and THAT is something I am proud of as a provider. Okey, what my relationship doesn't have without me if you want to pry ; • Safety ( we live in a generally unsafe place and I had my share of fights) • Teamwork ( we do house chores together and plan them around our work so shit gets done) • Marketing & Programming ( my gf's work would be impossible without my addition) • Mutual Appreciation ( We love eachother and let eachother know and feel that ) There's more but figures this would be enough. I mean, I started with you scratch my back I scratch your back, to a comment bashing men and you end your retort with how men only think about themselves. When all I hear is women thinking about themselves, ironic.
@@sirazazeloflowkey6424 I don't know where you are from, but yes many western men, not just Americans, are how I described. Females are raised to "help" their husbands in our society and also since we are modern now, how to take care of themselves and get a job. Males used to be instructed on how to care for their future wife, but now that we are modern most people find that outdated and as such unfortunately neglect teaching their sons that they should not expect the things I listed in my first post and should now pull their weight under an equal partnership. Many still believe that women should cook, clean, take care of the kids and now work to "help" them lessen the financial strain. While the man has been freed of his outdated expectations the woman has not in many ways. It isn't even a conscious thing for many of men to expect this. You seem to value your partner and that is good, that is exactly what these ladies in the comments are complaining about not having, most are not hating on men but feeling disappointed that neither their partner or society puts as much value on their efforts as they do on their husband's. For example a man who washes dishes and vaccums is automatically branded as a "good husband" while a wife who does this is just doing what she was supposed to do anyway. Is that fair? No. Unfortunately many men are not very good husband material they are boys and stay that way. I personally have "old fashioned" expectations that I think are reasonable. I think man should be able to take care of his wife if need be(I also think a woman should be able to do the same), I think if a man wants to have kids with his wife and expects her to raise them, he should allow her stay home while taking care of the children. I think he should make most of the money if he expects me to cook him meals that he wants(if he wants steak he should buy it, I don't eat beef). Do you know how many men cry about that being unfair? A lot. But they still expect, cooked meals, clean clothing and a cleaned house, while I also work. I want to home school my children, most men love that idea, until they realize it means one of us won't be working then they complain about how that will hurt their pocket and they need financial help. Funnily enough the poorer men are more willing to make sacrifices to make that happen because they hated public school. But yes, there is a lot of unfairness in regards to relationships when it comes to men and women. I think if a man expects all these things, 1. He shouldn't and 2. He needs to be grateful his lady is doing all these things because she doesn't have to. I am not saying all men are like this, I personally know some great husband's who value their wives and share the workload without thinking something is a "woman's job". The unfortunate part is that many men dont.
I don't get how this is about feminism. This is just a video of people stating that when men do the BARE MINIMUM they get appreciated for it, but women are expected to just do everything and just deal with it. I get it, you enjoy your privilege. But people LITERALLY STATING what they go through on an everyday basis is not feminism, its REALITY. Get your facts straight first and maybe pick up a dictionary once in a while. You don't seem to understand the meaning of certain words and their usages in situations.
As men we can only try to understand what women go through when they are told off for wearing "too revealing" clothes, when they have to hold their keys at night because a creepy guy is following them, when maternity is subconsciously forced as something necessary upon them, when they are called sluts for having many sexual partners. I agree that double standards is a thing sometimes but saying men have it just as bad as women is for the most part undermining women.
@@Jack-uu6dj I just didnt notice any example of misandry in the video but instead situations in which women were treated unfairly. And it s not uncommon for guys to be mistaking these as an attack towards them
