I agree with your comment and also with the video. As we grow as individuals, resolving our issues and be mindful of our health and happiness, we'll start to desire others that are on similar journeys. Water seeks its own level.
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon RU-vid whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
@@Rohit-rx5rz To be frank, I did not read through your whole comment, by the sheer length of your comment I can tell you're over thinking the situation. In the beginning you mentioned you don't talk to girls unless they talk to you first. You also mentioned that you used "fake confidence". These two things are huge red flags to me. Here are a few next steps for you: 1. Make friends with your crushes girl friends - this will get you more integrated into the social group in your class 2. Talk to strangers - this will develop your social skills and allow you to understand more about social dynamics. Talk about the weather, coffee, the classes their in, etc. 3. Stop overthinking - Take situations for what they are. Take things for face value and don't look too deep into certain situations 4. Plenty of fish - there are literally billions of girls in the world. I'd say thousands in your university. Talk to more of them as a normal person with no agenda. If things with this girl don't pan out, move on and widen your horizons! Hope this helps man!
All in all good video and insightful. I was a bit taken back when he said that being a stay at home mom was not ambitious. I have 4 kids and have been a stay at home mom for 14 years and I'm going to respectfully disagree with the view that being a stay at home mom is not an ambitious goal. I wanted to be a pilot up until they handed me my first baby in the hospital. After holding her she became my ambition. 3 girls followed after her, and in my view women are so awful today because they didn't have mother's that viewed them as their ambitions and teaching them thier true worth. I know each one of my girls. The best compliment I have ever got from one of their teacher was "I have never meet a girl as young as your daughter and them know exactly who they are." Because I have been with them every step of they way I have learned who they are and have helped them build on that. You will never convince me that I am not ambitious. Those girls have given me the wings I have always wanted.
I totally agree; and would add something to that. We no longer live in mud huts with goats and chickens roaming outside. Our homes are complex systems with a lot of machinery, both mechanical, electrical and electronic. A good homemaker will keep all that running either by their own skills, or by properly managing contractors and their fees. And on top of that we also have things like insurance, pension plans, medical plans and vacation plans - all of which need careful thought and management. If not done well you can be caught out by, e.g., an insurance loophole, or maybe just waste your money on a poor holiday with a badly located hotel. What I'm saying is that in the modern world, even without children, managing the whole home estate is enough to keep someone fully occupied - if done properly. If the breadwinner can then come home tired from a day's labour and just relax and unwind, it's a big deal! The difficulty is that a lot of these jobs go under the radar, i.e are not registered, so the homemaker can be hard working and attentive and do that job very well, or can be casual and unthinking and let things slide, and it's not immediately clear that they are underperforming. To perform these roles well is definitely a worthwhile ambition! If the home was an office building, entire departments would be devoted to keeping the infrastructure running and updated, and ensuring that good policies are in place for legality, pensions, vacation days, etc - so why shouldn't these roles be seen as of merit when in the home?
There are a couple of things you may be sacrificing in order to get a woman like that. 1. In point 5, to get a woman like that it might imply she has a high body count or she has been involved in a few long term relationships which ended for whatever reason. The latter is fine. Not the former. 2. In a few of your points, it seems as if you are talking about a very mature (mentally) woman, which is typically correlated with age, so she'll be around 30 to be more likely to have those characteristics you describe. You didn't mention youth and fertility. It might be implied and I missed it, but I think it is difficult to look for those traits right away. I might be wrong.
1. I don’t think N5 is related with her sexual experience. He said she will want to pleasure her partner, he didn’t say she should be very good at. There are girls who don’t have much experience or none on that, but they are willing to learn their partner preferences. 2. Those traits are related to being mature., but age is not related with that.
@Charles Mosley I am hesitant to believe that. Perhaps body count wont matter to some, but age is way too basic. She cant be much older than 35 in general if the man wants to have kids. Age, or at least, fertility should definitely make the top 10
I agree SionMirae, but I also agree that a lot of the mature characteristics are good to see in a woman. Probably the best real-life approach is to adjust your expectations for younger women and judge them more on their progress to the desired state while you are getting to know them. For example, if you're dating a 19 year old who doesn't have the right relationship with her parents, see if she makes progress toward distancing herself from bad parents or reconnecting with good parents.
This is my list: 1. She have good relationship with her partner 2. Her friend (women friend defined what kind of girlfriend she is) 3. She have same moral or religious believe with me 4. The most important: she doesnt play social media. If she play it, atlast no nude in her social media.
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon RU-vid whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
GREAT mention about THE CORRECT relationship with parents. We are born into our families and situations...and are not beholden to their dysfunctions or issues. If a person has dealt with this, understands the issues/dynamics, and has appropriate boundaries in place it’s a sign of health and maturity. It would be a shame to hold somebody’s families against them personally if they’re not responsible for it.
1. loyal 2. honest 3. good communicator (not passive aggressive) good listener (not gonna stop me from when im talking or when its time for my side) (not with the attitude of listen to me and im not gonna listen to you) 4. cares about her health,looks and body 5. willing to learn and grow together 6. trustworthy enough to have my back 7. willing to improve the relationship well my father is a cheater, arrogant, passive aggressive and will not listen to you and doesn't take care of himself, neglect his children. my mother is passive aggressive aswell and will not listen to you, not open to learning,doesn't take care of herself and create things that will end up in argument, ignores/neglect her children. You can say i dont want to have a wife like my mother and don't wanna be like my father.
Well said. I had a wife who failed at many of these things. I’m glad she left just in time for me to be able to get on with my life and eventually recover.
Well let's not hype it up as high quality... These should be said as usual things that men and women must have, for sustainable, long term relationship and also their children.
This is very well explained and logical. I've heard a lot of these topics but none of them quite right. Like the relationship with your parents topic. While its preferred to have a good relationship with good parents, that's not someone everyone chooses and that doesnt make them bad. What determines their quality is how they respond to it. Hit the nail on the head with that one.
Just clicked this, what could POSSIBLY be more ambitious than wanting to raise the absolute BEST version of your offspring? THATS what a stay at home mom means. They are the most ambitions of all women. Also, the very first thing is she better be attractive enough to get your attention. I love hearing unmarried guys talk about how looks are not important. Been married 13 years and let me tell you LOOKS MATTER!
I'm a rather sensitive and broken man, trust has been ripped apart over the years. Watching this video and your other "High Quality Women: How to Meet Them" has made me cry, in a good way. Feels good to know these things and that there is hope.
As much as you separate the genders, the irony is that with regard to sexual relations (per sexual health experts), men are attracted to the masculine in the woman, and the woman attracted to the feminine in the man.
These are really important qualities to look for in a woman, and it's very helpful to keep it in mind for us women so we can work in those areas! Thank you.
It's a very good and insightful list, the 1 million dollars question - As we all know there is no woman that have all those things so what are the minimum requirements that a guy should say it's a good deal?? The absolute minimum that is sufficiently enough.
#7 also applies even if she presents herself as the reasonable one among her dysfunctional friends or family at first. And they can be very good at doing this. If handling things poorly is the norm in her circle of people around her that's what she'll resort to when she's challenged by life.
I think most of the things in the list can be summed up in one sentence: the best partner for you will be someone who is very similar to you. Materialistic men will like materialistic women, and vice versa. A nonmaterialistic woman probably won’t get along with a materialistic man. A frugal woman will like a frugal man. A very masculine man might prefer a masculine woman who shares his masculine interests. Partners should be similar on religious beliefs, political beliefs, whether they want kids or not, whether they want a house or would rather travel in an RV, hobbies, drugs/drinking preference, food preferences, sexual preferences, etc. The more differences there are between you two, the more chance for conflict, argument, and break up.
They subtitles of your videos is pretty well done, i supost coz you speak so well, i Dont have a fluid English speack im learning but i can understand you so well, i think that im improving with your videos
Therapy all depends on if your beliefs are inline with secular therapists and psychologists. Many are old school and self improvement is all built into your faith and religious beliefs. I would almost reject a woman who goes to secular therapy. Go to other countries and see how peaceful and gracious the women are who are brought up in traditional values. it is a world of difference. Not the big city women, but the ones who are dressed in traditional garb, etc. That just about covers all your 10 points. intelligence are different types as well. Many men don't care for big headed women with college degrees who think they know more then them.
What is a woman is waiting for marriage... I don’t thinks girl should HAVE to have sexual relations with a man while dating. What if she wants to save that for one man? Is that not better?
@@victorianavaroli1707 I guess it's subjective. Like I believe both men and women should save themselves till they get married. However, every person is different, so you can't force anybody..
An addition to number 7/9. Check her parents. Look at what kind of woman her mother is. That is what she will likely mirror. Look at what her father is like. That is likely the kind of man she will expect of you. Don't conform to that kind of figure, but use it as a reference as to what her subconscious expectations are.
I think the list would have been more to the point if we were talking about characteristics that speak to the character of a woman. Netflix compatibility shouldn't be addressed in this particular list, it's nice to have. You should share values with your woman, and she needs to have sound, decent values.
@@jonathanlavis7447 Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon RU-vid whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
@@Rohit-rx5rz Dude, you're overthinking it. I think you need to focus on your confidence and self betterment than try with a woman who has guy orbiters. The better quality man you are better chances you'll find a quality woman. Don't overthink, but make the right choices
Man is created to praise, reverence, and serve God our Lord, and by this means to save his soul. And the other things on the face of the earth are created for man and that they may help him in prosecuting the end for which he is created. From this it follows that man is to use them as much as they help him on to his end, and ought to rid himself of them so far as they hinder him as to it. For this it is necessary to make ourselves indifferent to all created things in all that is allowed to the choice of our free will and is not prohibited to it; so that, on our part, we want not health rather than sickness, riches rather than poverty,honor rather than dishonor, long rather than short life, and so in all the rest; desiring and choosing only what is most conducive for us to the end for which we are created.
First, males need to become men, and the men need to have high standards for themselves. Being just a male is not good enough. Second by valuing the right opinions of themselves by them self and of those of others, and trashing all others. Third by understanding that trying to date in the upper ten percent means usually 90-plus percent of the time one will be rejected... at least initially.
Men have more diversity(as much as I hate that word) in what they like in women, then what women like in men. Men will go for short, tall, thin, cubby, fat, etc-- you name it. As long as said female look good to him, he will be down.
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon RU-vid whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
1) Intelligent 2)Attractive 3) Open to Therapy 4) Feminine 5) Sexually generous 6) Invested in you 7) High quality friends 8) Want to know you 9) Correct relationship with parents 10) Not materialistic
I would add an eleventh to the list. Even keeled when it comes to temperament. It's important for any person to know how, when, and where to express themselves and their emotions. It's also important to learn how to read your partners in case they don't communicate them directly or indirectly. If these are never or developed, it's not a bad sign of a low quality woman, but it does mean that there may be lots of miss communication in high stress moments, or just on a regular basis for trivial things. If she doesn't consider your emotions, or hers at all, that's a whole different bag of problems
As a woman, i think this video is very fair to women and realistic for men. I'll admit i'm not there 100% (working on improving though), but it's what i strive to be and believe is realistic. Do you think you could be objective enough to make a similar video on high quality men? I'd be interested to hear what you'd have to say.
@._. I agree totally with you. As I watched it, I was also accessing my self as a man where are my default in this qualities. I like the fairness of @tess
11. She consistently displays her qualities with ALL people, not just you 12. She has clear ethical values that are similar or the same to those you hold
*Great* video man. I would like to add a crucial #11 though: *She keeps these qualities even after 8-9months. So she is not faking it just to get you into a relationship* I have experiences with multiple women that present themselfs as a high quality woman to get you to like them and then go literally 180 degrees on their own presented values.
@@P9rkour90 My point is that there is a lot of acting and therefore you get to know a 'different person' as they actually are. It's like you are looking at a instagram page, loads of filters and you only see what they *choose* to show you
@@aerospaceTUdelft This is what has caused me to fear truly believing in what they are showing me. Sure it finally snapped me out of my naivete for good, but damn did it also make it harder to trust women.
I lead her into a false sense of security, they nearly always unknowingly hang themselves. No one is perfect so it depends to what degree as no one wants to show their not so good side at the start of a friendship. Some keep up the act for just a few days others months.
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon RU-vid whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
@@Rohit-rx5rz First of All, dont get in touch with another woman if her breakup is still fresh. You seem like you are worshipping her, please stop that. Being around dudes is also a sign of a red flag.
As a woman, those are all the qualities that I strive for. The only one that my husband (of almost 15 years) wouldn’t have been able to judge before we got married was the sex. We had been best friends for 5 years then dated for 4 years before getting married. Both being devoted Christians, it was important for us to wait till we were married. I want him to be my first and my last. As far as sexual desire goes, it changes constantly with the birth of kids, high stress jobs, medical issues. It’s something that sometimes needs to be worked at and at other times you pop in a movie for the kids because you just can’t wait till bedtime. The only thing that I would add to the list is that you should have the same religious beliefs or moral views. I’ve seen that be a huge strain on relationships.
@Username it gives me no pleasure to say this - but if you've had one night stand(s) in your past you'll realize that there are no angels, only well constructed illusions.
@Username I'm sure that's occasionally true for women (no causal sex), but how do you know who is really presenting themselves and their past honestly. It's similar to guessing a man's net worth based on the value of his vehicle or lifestyle. Outward appearances and internal reality may or may not be aligned.
Your comment is lovely, I am a 32 years old girl who is still waiting on God for her husband...your comment gives me hope that there are still good men left in these times... 💗🙂 thank you!
Women have high standards which causes men like us to look on how to improve ourselves by for example watching Alexander Grace's videos. The issue is that most men dont have high standards of women which makes many women become blind of their shortcomings in their characteristics and not try to improve them. We need to make women know what traits we like in them.
I WISH men would have higher standards for me. When they act like all I need to do is spread my legs and bat my eyelashes, 1) it makes me lose respect for them and 2) it makes me feel like they don't see me as a real person. I want a man who challenges me to be my best self (and vice versa!)
They have high standards because they have sex when they want and most men will give it to them. They end up thinking they are high value because men want sex with them when they open their legs so they end up with hundreds of standards in a partner. If women were not almost all sluts when they were young, they would be much more reasonable and know themselves more and be a lot higher quality and hi at least 5-6 of these 10 points,
Time to start being brutally honest with these women tell them they are whores if their whores fat if their fat when they realize what they really are maybe their unrealistic standard s may end
@Cj I have practiced as an Orthodox Christian, and from what I saw, there are a lot of overlaps between what Orthodoxy and Buddhism have to say about psychology. I have more respect for these ancient religions that had an emphasis on inner spirituality than I do for most of modern psychology.
Couldn't agree more. I have a huge disdain for authority, so wasting a bunch of time and money because society says I'm only allowed to develop as a character because some licenced asshole in a suit gave me enough character development tokens, Fuck all that. I'm aware enough to know what's wrong with me, even if I don't always act the way I should all the time.
I think every guy generally knows the qualities he wants in a woman but lust and sex before marriage (or sex too early in the relationship even) puts a mask over women's true quality's which are actually not ideal.
It happens to both sides, which is why it's ideal not to fool around until you can more properly see and discern the person's traits/quality and personal compatibility with each other. Once you get physical then you mix in the chemicals and it's much harder to see clearly
@@timothyn4699 This makes sense on several levels. Notice that older people (ie pre WW2 born) tend to be married for decades - even to the point of getting married young and dying before their partner does. That's because (usually) people used to take more time before going heavy - that way they were already certain it would be worth it whether sex worked or not.
From my own experience I'd add: 11. Her default behavior is cute and playful 12. She is able and willing to adapt 13. She loves spending time with you. 14. She wants a deep emotional connection.
@Lilly Flower Different guys want different things, some prefer a girl who's more tomboyish and not afraid of bugs or to go adventuring, or some may want an intellectual, so I wouldn't say 11 is something all men would want
Yeah, honesty is really important, but everything else in the list is too. Additionally, you can be with an honest person who still isn't a good person. My previous ex was like this. One of the most open, honest people I've ever known, also a cheater. It was kind of shocking to see, to be with someone who could be so open about their biggest flaws, who could commit a great evil and than immediately communicate it. Bizarre but it just goes to show, there is no one trait that trumps all, if anything a high quality person requires all the virtues, a few just won't cut it.
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon RU-vid whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
Purpose & Mind if a girl want to be around you. Want to talk to you but she doesn't want to know even the basic things of you what could be wrong in this situation?
Oh my god. #7) High quality friends. This is so true. Even though I had a mediocre relationship with my girlfriend, her friends would always down me and she would be uneven with me and them. But sooner or later she would team with them. If you wouldn't date their friends (RUN!!).
If she did that then she was part of the problem and she chose to dip on u. I had not so high quality friends and they never approved my prospects but i always stood by the man of my choosing and if we ever fell apart my friends were never on the list of why.
High quality friends are very importent traits , means this girl has open eyes and intelligent , wont fall into small manipulations and fall into alochol and drugs , stay away from sort of girls
If you would date their friends they would know it unless you were exceptionally good at hiding it all the time. In this case you would not be with them for long anyway.
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon RU-vid whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
1) Low (preferably non-existent) body count. 2) Loyal, trustworthy, reliable. 3) No Onl%Fans, thirst trap Instagram or dating app profiles. 4) No active male friendships. 5) Not a party girl. No girl trips, night clubs etc. 6) Sexually generous. 7) Feminine and physically attractive. 8) Nurturing, domestic, supportive, a good mother. 9) Mentally and emotionally stable and resilient. 10) Graceful, manners, polite, classy.
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon RU-vid whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
Well yes, qualities that are often considered 'feminine' can actually be highly desirable in men. One of the couples I know who gets along best has a 'tiger mom' with a bit of a temper (but she is also her family's passionate cheerleader) and a highly patient and empathetic man. If the kid is throwing a fit, the mother starts going 'argh' too, but the father sits down by the kid and speaks to him softly. And before you start judging the mom, she patiently taught the kid the alphabet before all the other kids, she cooks lovely meals for the family, thanks to her her husband got rid of a hoarding problem and a major obesity problem, and her husband loves her because of how appreciative she is of him. Neither of them are perfect, but I'm shocked how complementary they are. Point is, if I ever get with a guy, I'd want one with 'feminine' qualities too rather than a so-called alpha who refuses therapy and refuses to help out around the house because they're a 'woman's job.' I've concluded a while a go that what passes off as 'feminine' or 'masculine' is often 'wow that's so awesome/mature.' Case in point, the Chinese vlogger Li Ziqi posts videos of her life at the countryside where she does everything on her own, from farming and cooking delicious dishes to making clothes and furniture on her own. Many people go 'wow she's so feminine.' The thing is if she were a guy they'd say 'wow he's so masculine.'
@@valerievankerckhove9325 Part of the problem we all face is the cultural determination of what is feminine and what is masculine. At the end of the day much of it is entirely invented and has precisely f**k all to do with gender and genetics. The problem is that society repeats these cultural norms in a kind of echo chamber effect from generation to generation until the perception is that these traits are fundamentally feminine or masculine. Take 10 boys and 10 girls and raise them with a robot designed for gender ambiguous behavior in the wilderness away from everyone else. Chances are that many of the so called feminine and masculine traits will not at all be concentrated in the expected genders of these children when they reach physical maturity.
@@valerievankerckhove9325 you want a beta. Good luck with that. If he's working outside to provide for the family he shouldn’t have to work in the house. That means you're too incompetent to hold up your end of the deal. Would you appreciate it if he pressured you to go out and make money cuz works been really hard for him? News flash! You wont
I was thinking the exact thing. I can honestly say only one man has seen all these characteristics in me, and that’s my partner simply because of how he makes me feel and who he is.
Hey man, loved the video. Super helpful. I believe many men here would find it extremely beneficial to see what characteristics make up a good man. Self reflection and introspection are super important. Any plans to make a video about the Top 10 Characteristics of a High Quality Man? Cheers
I consider these apply for both sexes but yea, maybe there´s a different perspective of them for men which we need to realize sooner than -later- regretfully, at least as an advice
In theory, therapy is very useful. Unfortunately, the mental health industry has become dysfunctional and of decreasing effectiveness. Example: Masculinity is now toxic and transgendermania is now normal.
@@morecopemorerope4372 Now we know why some people claim to be an Attack Helicopter: they took the indentity advice provided by their therapist after they told him that they are moody and love to take flights to visit other countries.
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon RU-vid whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
In my case, a great quality I always look for in a woman is curiosity. I am a very curious person myself, I could stay hours surfing the internet just looking for that answer to that stupid question that randomly popped out into my head, or if I'm in a new place I love exploring the surroundings and see what's where. And I also love to share my findings with whoever's willing to listen. For this reason it's important to me that my partner has the same joy for exploration, the same spark of curiosity about the world so that we can share our experiences, learn more from each other and grow to be better both as individuals and as a couple
this sounds great, but I wonder if young women can ever escape their own inner drama, self-infatuation (ie selfie life-style), and status focus to look outside themself regularly
Hey mate. never made it to a vid this early lol. Just wanna say you're a well spoken person whos' content is very refreshing considering you aren't one of those red pill talkers who just hate on women and blame them for everything. You actually dive into the situation deeper and your content is truly appreciated by those who see it for what it is. You look on both sides and present unbiased views. From a Melbourne fan who just got onto you. Sidenote yeah the fuckin boys, finally a fellow Aussie in this community!
Yes!! There are a growing number of women (like myself) who want to be red pilled, unlearn toxic cultural habits, and learn to be better women. But all the extreme women-hate and bitterness in these circles is really off-putting. And we hate having our whole gender blamed for something just as much as you do. I really enjoy content creators who can be level headed and just present rational, well thought out perspectives.
I liked this list, and I would like to add one more: You share the same or similar religious beliefs. I'm an atheist, and Jesus created a rift in my relationship with every Christian girl that I dated for several reasons: * My spontaneity was limited. I could not make certain jokes without hurting feelings. This reduces communication and enjoyment for both of us. * I believed that the religion was taking advantage of her. She believed it was helping her. She relied on the religion for emotional support. I held back, because I didn't want to force her into atheism. * Religious women have a lot of ideas about the way things "should" be. If you don't agree, that will create conflict. * After the relationships, there was resentment, because she would believe that I had corrupted her, just by being myself and sharing my views on life. For these reasons, I keep Christian girls at arm's length. Facing life critically and working to remove delusion is deeply important to me. It saved me from a life of misery. I cannot feel free to be myself and, at the same time, hide these things from my partner. Edit: One more thing I forgot to add. It will create conflict between you and her circle of friends. Most likely, they will be displeased that you are not also a part of her religion, and they will try to convince her to leave you before you even get things off the ground. That won't go away until you join the religion or she gets new friends.
I always maintain my distance with almost any religious person, from my experience they're closed minded, stubborn and intolerant. I thought maybe they would be good people, but those traits are just too much for me.
@@peke1822 I have met Christians with a humanist world view that were fine. Some Christians don't even go to church and some have the same problems with other Christians. They usually focus on their own personal relationship with their god, and I find that these people make decent friends. We can be honest about our conflicting views, but we can focus on how we can support each other. Having a relationship with someone like this is very difficult, though.
Alexander in my experience the 2 main attributes in a partner are comprehension ( I need a partner who understands what my thoughts/stance on a subject are, although not necessarily agreeing with them) and trustworthiness as in not only somebody I know has my back and will defend me to the hilt, but somebody who will call me out in my BS. I totally agree with your femininity and attractiveness points, (remembering that one mans meat is another mans poison) however, I have observed that (not always but usually) the prettier a woman in her youth the more time seems to ravage her looks in later life, also it's strange but if I see a photograph of my wife I do not instantly recognise her even if she is holding the photo, suppose I must still see her through rose tinted glasses lol (BTW married 46 years and counting)
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon RU-vid whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
I enjoyed snooping on what men might like in a wife when they are dating. In a few years it will be interesting when you have found that special person to see how what you think you want lines up with what you find you need. I know my ideas definitely changed a lot. And, thankfully, I would say getting married is the best choice I have made in my life.
I have a degree in philosophy, and was always interested in finding a girl interested in ideas. A decade later and now married, I’ve come to accept that feminine women interested in ideas practically don’t exist as a biological category. Intelligent women are easy to find, but they are interested in people and art, not trading in and debating ideas like men. This isn’t in contradiction to this video’s advice, but just a warning for younger guys about what they can expect.
I had a gf who has "open to therapy" and she was the one who needed it the most!! In fact, she said that she would dump me if I didn't go with to therapy with her, when she was causing all the relationship issues. Truly Unbelievable.
Maybe she wanted to take you there so she would tell the therapist what her problems where and the therapist tell You what to do accordingly, like " She does that crap, you do this...She plays this song You dance like this".. when the right thing might be fixing her problems, not making You "dance" according to her problems
It's an unfortunate thing when a wonderful man won't take steps to maintain his mental well being with some form of support (therapy, mentoring, etc). When you meet someone who has dared to take on any form of self development it's so obvious from the man's ability to communicate openly about their needs.
The one thing that I say I disagree with, is the baby thing. Not every woman *should* be a mother. Not every man *should* be a father. If a woman, or man says that they don't want children, then I say that's a positive thing. Because they are mature and honest enough to know that they don't have the compacity to optimally take care of a child. A human being, because that isn't an easy task - a woman can be in-touch with her feminine side, and not want to have a child. So that point, I completely disagree with. Not every human being is fit to raise children, some woman generally don't have the martial instincts, like some men. That's doesn't subtract them from being a suitable partner. Also, the thing about sex. Some people are asexual, and some don't have that sexual drive. Plus, that things can (and often do) change over time. Especially with children. However, some of the points that you make have some merit.
Quality content with important nuances that many miss. "Correct" relationship w parents (and friends) being an important one. One thing I would note is the line between what to find from friends (guys) and "the" woman. It has been a painful experience for me to realize that we often expect too much from one person, especially our significant others. Qualities like intelligent and "actual" ambition are very rare in women.
_Intelligence_ is rarer, certainly, as women tend to hover around the mean, true. But, men often have little issue with dating someone beneath them in that respect.
I feel like you’re always on point with things like this. The major one I am working on is my attractiveness, particularly my weight. I’ve been bigger since I was 6 years old. I’m sure it robs me of relationships with quality men. I’m doing IF and low carb to work on it as we speak. The others, I pretty much hit and am always striving to grow in. The bonus ones too. I think honesty is one you missed out. Honesty with oneself and one’s partner is crucial to having a great life together. I am also very happy you phrased number 9 the way you did. Oftentimes, I see men saying that their mates have to have A GOOD relationship with their parents and my usual response is “But, what if they’re not good people? Wouldn’t it be good for her to have a more limited relationship with people who aren’t good?” So thanks for being this clear, because my parents weren’t good in many ways and it took A LOT of work to both understand and move past that. You think things through and I respect that tremendously! Cheers from Trinidad and Tobago!
1) Intelligent (Many equate intelligence with college educated, if that is how you mean it that is a red flag for me for various reasons. I replace this will some degree of logic/common sense.) 2)Attractive 3) Open to Therapy ( I have absolutely zero confidence in therapy, therefore this one would not apply for me. ( I would replace with submissive.) 4) Feminine 5) Sexually generous 6) Invested in you 7) High quality friends 8) Want to know you 9) Correct relationship with parents 10) Not materialistic Overall well done IMO, great stuff Alexander.
Your content triggered me to rethink about my entire life strategy, thank you so much for putting so much time and engergy on this extreme valuable knowledge
I agree with most of these, except for 4 and 5. 4. Someone not wanting kids does not make them "low quality." There are plenty of perfectly valid reasons a woman (or man) cannot have or does not want to have children. Of course, if YOU want kids, you should be with someone who also wants them, but it's not a matter of "quality." And 5., you should be someone you're sexually _compatible_ with, not who is "sexually generous." There's a perfectly good chance that the woman you are with will have a higher libido than you and will want sex every day. There's a chance she'll be totally asexual. Both of those things are "natural" in their own respects. There is no level of sexuality that is "unnatural."
I think a really important thing to look for in a relationship partner is somebody who is comfortable in their own skin and happy in their own company. Too many people particularly women, feel incomplete without a partner and think that having a man in their life is a necessity. Therefore they pick men to have a man and not necessarily because they desire that one man. Subsequently the love is conditional and the relationship becomes a femoral and of course heartbreaking to the other individual who has been made a vehicle of that person's desire. When a person learns to enjoy their own company and feel great within themselves, they can present their partner with a truly fulfilling experience and be able to invest in that partner properly.
I agree with all of these except for femininity. I personally don't care if she's feminine or not. I like tomboys just as much as I like feminine women.
Nobody's on their deathbed saying, "I wish I'd made more money." - except maybe people dying from illnesses that they couldn't afford the cure for. . .
So let me get this straight, a high quality woman is a someone who accepts you for exactly who you are and lives in “reality” but she also has be to be beautiful, sexual, feminine, want children, let the man lead, have a perfect past, etc. This is a double standard. If you want a woman who accepts you and your flaws be prepared so do the same for her. Otherwise, if you’re looking for the perfect woman be prepared to be the perfect man (loyal, attractive, emotionally regulated, masculine but in touch with his emotions, successful with a clean past).
A girl with a high body count is a no. Guys for thousands of years have had more than 1 women cause they can afford it. You don’t see women having 5 guys and paying for it. Plus us men built this world that y’all are living in and the things y’all use is by us. Be greatful for the phone you have.
This is a great list. It would have helped me avoid my marriage to a narcissist. The problems I ignored were all her past relationships were with "abusers" and an incorrect relationship to parents. She was able to check all of the other boxes.
Now, that is the man to run away from if you are high class woman ladies! (And no, I am not saying he is a "bad person") or the things he mentioned are bad, because indeed, he describes a very "good woman", BUT ...I doubt that a man with the mindset he mentioned in the beginning of the video, can demand such standard. While women think they are equal in those 50/50 relationships for example, a man simply makes himself a very comfortable life. The expectations for women nowadays just simply go beyond the realism. Men STILL keep wanting, which is totally acceptable, basically an eye candy (in his eyes and taste), an attractive, well looking, open minded, nurturing, creative, supportive, who is sporty in order to be in good shape, sexy woman, who is the perfect mother, perfect wife, makes a cozy home, is feminine AND who pursues a career! Oh-oh AND of course, not materialistic! Because sure, you get all of that for free. Now, how many hours are there in a day that "your" woman has honey? I have never seen his videos, but I can tell you that men has a 5-in-1 Shampoo for 2,49$ which lasts him for 3 months, 7 t-shirts he washes at the end of the week, or even wears each t-shirt at least twice before washing it, a 15,00$ haircut with no blow drying included btw! And noway a woman with THIS MUCH of an investment in herself would attract him! Sorry to disappoint you, even though money does not guarantee happiness, but boy it guarantees that HEALTHY FOOD you are talking about, THOSE LIFE EXPERIENCES, SAFETY, THOSE BEAUTY treatments, cosmetics, hair products, nails, hair dressers, makeup whatever it is which not only looks good on a woman, but makes her FEEL good, which will also make her feel confident, feminine and attractive. Today the society wants women to neglect all their feminine "disadvantage-characteristics" to make it easy for men and yet to keep all the "good points" so that men can enjoy. How much money and time do woman vs men spend on themselves? AND wait, Oh,..the career and a 50/50 bill! Now what do you cheap men bring to the table? Security? Protection? Money? Responsibility? Solution oriented mindset? Do you treat your woman accordingly and make sure she has time for those feminine activities, maintains those friendships and her beauty? Has time for the home and children and for HERSELF? Are you even an interesting person yourself?...Most woman, who are in a career do not strive for a family and kids and their relationships mostly don't work out, yes because guess what, in order to be competitive with men who have a nurturing woman by their side, who have a 10min-get ready routine on their daily morning, who do not have biological "disadvantages" how we call them, called emotions, lack of focus on one thing for too long, while men have biologically differently functioning near systems and other points oh and still men are seen as more qualified for a job, and those women have to proof with their blood and sweat that it is not the case and maintain her look and appearance at the same time! So either be that HIGH CLASS MAN or make your list shorter! And for girls, just don't forget about boundaries, your worth and YOUR standards!
Good video. I think rather than saying "she's willing to go to therapy" I'd say find a woman who is interested in and capable of self-reflection and personal growth. Make sure she has a track record of positive changes that she has made in her own life. I love therapy and have benefited from it myself but some people will be "open to therapy" in the sense that they will go but never be open enough to reflect and make changes. I know some couples who have tried couples therapy but didn't benefit much from it because the people continued to be defensive and lack the ability to self-reflect and create change.
You know I absolutely agree with every single point you make. And to all those guys out there that say they can't get girls I cry b*******. They're just not making the effort. It's like that in anything in life. As soon as I even half-ass apply myself, in any venture, I succeed. And I don't think that I'm lucky. I just got off the couch and did the thing.
This was one of your best videos, Alexander. I think curiosity and openness are important aspects of intelligence. You hit the nail when you put this at the top of the list. I would add kindness to the list, but I think that is encompassed by femininity, ironically the quality most assailed by feminists.
You sort of touched on this, 'women don't like men less intelligent than them' well, my g/f is hyper intelligent. I'm at least in that 120 IQ range. She's probably at 140 or more. And i have to say, it is NOT attractive. I like stimulating conversations, but high IQ is linked to a lot of mental health problems. Hell, I share some of her issues. I share a fraction at my level. It's almost unbearable. But people with high IQ are prone to depression, addiction problems, social anxiety, ect. It's actually not fun to be around someone TRYING very hard to correct you all the time, even if you deliberately said something silly as a joke. And she HATES losing, which happens. It's like smart people absolutely LOATHE being proven wrong on simple and mundane things. It's not just her, most anyone at that level is obnoxiously incensed at being corrected, even though they seem to enjoy doing it towards others. I'd wager smart is attractive to a point. But I'm warning you, highly intelligent creates pretty ugly personalities.
Your thoughts on "The 10 Characteristics of a High Quality Man" ??? :) You may have missed a couple including the ability to communicate, to be supportive, not an alcoholic, not self-obsessed... oh crap - I better stop ;)
1) Loves being a woman. 2) Would never DREAM of trying to manipulate or play games with people. 3) Likes a man to be a man. Very few woman who genuinely possess those traits would also be "unattractive." Doesn't hurt if she's really interested in sex when she's with the right person (but if she "loves being a woman" she will love the sensuous).
I have been doing alot of self reflection and self assessment. I came across this video, I have watched this like 100 times already. I am so grateful that you decided to speak on this matter. I really appreciate the work that you are doing. Stay calm and carry on.
I have a problem with your concept of “high quality women” because we need to be clear on what qualities women can actually possess and ones they cannot. “Oh I want a high quality horse like my namesake mister Ed who can talk” We need to be clear on what qualities some women have and what qualities literally none of them have. If a girl is “conservative” she’s just a liar and a con artist. Look for beauty, IQ and general temperament.
Since most of the time, Women like this are jaded by all their bad relationships, it's nearly impossible to find one *like this* that *doesn't* hate men. Also, those that may be like this are *already* in a good or bad relationship.
