THE 5 STRANGEST HABITS OF THE INFJ (that seem totally normal to us) 

What are some of your habits that seem totally normal to you but would freak others out?

OMG! This addiction to pattern recognition and understanding people's intentions literally drives me craaazy sometimes!

#1 - We can live vicariously through others 1:45 #2 - We're addicted to our imagination 4:44 #3 - We are the masters of our own pace 7:35 #4 - We like to fix others 10:06 #5 - We're addicted to understanding others' motives and mindsets 12:26

Helping people is my mission. It's why I'm here on planet Earth, but maturity has helped me do it in a mentally and emotionally healthy way.

My x-wife once told me that I "should be studied" because of how I think. She tried to convince me to be medicated. I would tell her, "How are you going to get me to take them? Are you going to shove them down my throat?!" She told me many times I was like nobody she ever met before, always puzzled about my thinking. I have been divorced before I ever heard of this MBTI. I've felt different from everyone my whole life, I just wish I had a special girlfriend who understands me without thinking I'm crazy. (I'M NOT CRAZY, TRUST ME). I live alone now, and I feel like I would like to have someone. But I also want to keep my solitude. It like the old saying 'a Rock in a hard place'.

Lol living in our heads! This is all too true.

I spent an hour massaging and stretching a housekeeping lady where I work after I clocked out. She was in a lot of pain and as a therapist I offered to help her out. She told me things... you guys know how it is. I listened and I cared. The next day she said thank you again and that her back felt great!! A few days ago I was outside and she was sitting there looking very sad. I asked "how is your heart?" And she said "angry." I must have given the INFJ look, I don't know, it was like I really saw her. She said "and I don't owe you an explanation." (I hadn't asked). I just nodded and watched the leaves flying around in the air and trees. I looked at the ground, and realized I felt a little wounded. Later in the day she smiled and waved at me, and of course I genuinely reciprocated. I don't understand and yet all too fully understand others. What a conundrum to be an INFJ.

Even though we INFJs are different, at least I myself am extremely happy to be one of them. It's insanely liberating to be and live when you're not dependent on others and their opinions, there's no need to compete, there's no envy, you know you can survive in any situation (or if not), you're not afraid, etc. Similarly, a rich inner life gives enormous satisfaction. It is particularly useful for me, as chronic painful diseases limit my movement outside the home. The flip side is that you notice and know how much is wrong, bad and harmful in the world and in people, and how few even care to try to do anything about them, and on the other hand, few even understand enough. On the other hand, because I know that they really can't do better and simply can't understand things, it's easier for me to let it be. Then let them mess things up and destroy even our entire planet if and when they don't even bother trying to think and listen to what others have to say. The most ignorant always think they know the most, and that's the biggest problem in the world. But as said, so be it and I'll get the popcorn, because I'm not one to panic when things start to go really, really wrong (e.g. some wider conflict or war, worsening weather conditions, collapsing economies, impoverished nations and the rich minority rule, etc.).

I did indeed know I was different when I was young. But around my 25th year, I began to change, and it wasn't until after my 30th that I started caring less. Before that, I was always in 'people-pleasing' mode, at the expense of my self-esteem, even though I wasn't doing anything wrong; I simply thought differently than others. I didn't even harm them, but they always felt challenged in their perspective.

Yep 👍 but I'm embracing my weirdness

Even at the expense of my own Life… smh… I’m currently working on that… I’m so quick to say yes or yea… yesterday was one of the first days I had to say no… unfortunately it was after I said yes already then I went to my INFJ room and had time to think… i said I have to go back and let them know I can’t… I have to focus on my self.. what was most interesting to me was that when I analyze it… was the first time I actually realize how fast I am to put others before me… when I love you I love you with all of me… but I need to save some love for myself… thank you

A good question to ask oneself in setting one’s pace is, “Do I feel I am forcing this?” It is important to avoid forcing. It makes life more relaxed and enjoyable.

Wenzes, will you please make a video on how to turn imagination into action? Love your content :)

The idea of living at your own pace is something that I latched on to very quickly and yes, it really did puzzle a lot of people. My pace is always been to start out slowly and pick up speed is time goes on, and whether I moved slowly or later on fast, it seemed to never be at the same speed that everyone else was doing. I used to feel apologetic about it, but I learned better as time went by. For me, the most effective way I could handle it was to say in essence, "You're right; my timing is different, but I have to use what I was given to work with." In my experience, most of the time a person would tell me l was doing something "weird," it simply meant that (1) he or she wouldn't do it or (2) I wasn't doing it his or her way.

Dead on as always especially 4 & 5. Thank you so much Wenzes for all that you do. You've helped me understand myself so much which in turn helped me to gently navigate out of a long narcissistic relationship.

I love this! I am getting better at making my dreams come true via action. What I have discovered is, as much as I enjoy living vicariously through other artists, musicians etc. I can project that combined with my own imagination to achieve my own desires. This is why I am so attracted to Magick and tarot. I taught a class last week and it was amazing. People took notes and paid attention. I was in my element. I turned on the cosmic juice full blast. It didn't make anyone upset. Infact it drew people closer. They looked fully engaged. I was the one they lived through. What a high!

Thank you Wenzes for continuing to help us INFJ's get out of our imagination and into reality. It really is a two edged sword. We can get so much more out of imagination than most people can but at the same time it keeps us from actually doing some things that would actually nourish us and feed our imaginations to take us further. I find these kind of videos very inspiring!

You always have some very good points to make in all your videos! And then there are these videos, and all I can do is smile bc everything you say is so on point, there is absolutely nothing I can add. I worked for 16 years in an alcohol and drug abuse mental health hospital. I was basically an "ear" for patients along with assigning and helping do homework and autobiographies. I have never put the concept of addiction to our gifts and yet, there it is absolutely true. I love this video. Thank hun!

They asked for help now…but is gonna cost me as usual I end up there in that position.

If you see it and imagine it while letting others see it, they can get on board. Creating the field of dreams. Though without action only they get to experience it and usually not you. I forgot this. Remembering it now.

This cuts out the law of attraction dilemma. I just don't know what I want 😆🤔. I love listening to you!

Thank you Wenzes for helping me make some hard decisions today. I’m in a crossroad of whether to reconnect with someone whom I shared a traumatic decision with and recognised that all I want is to understand their motivation and mindset. They say this but they don’t do that. I’m seeing myself to be going back for more hurt just for the want of wanting to get answers. After listening to this I am more inclined to give me in to my doubts. That I should just step back and get myself out of this situation and express myself more. So I’m going to tell them honestly why I don’t want to reconnect at the time and at how to my want it. I need to thread lightly for myself to Protect my poor heart.

Just keep swimming. I like all 4 elements. And the fifth too. The iris.

I love watching people in the mall and supermarkets, why I became security guard, haha.

I just found out last year that I am a INFJ is that normal? Ever since I found your channel I had no idea what was the matter with me,but not through watching your videos and learning about the INFJ I see things clearly now and everything is falling in place and I don't feel like I am a abnormal person and I feel excited just knowing what I am and I understand now that life can be great and rewarding for me. Im not crazy actually I am unique and special. I have something that not to many people will ever begin to understand. I am starting to learn a lot about myself and I love it all and I can't wait to learn more and more each and every day. I look forward to watching you everyday and I can not wait for the next video because I don't know what your gonna talk about, but I think all of the information that you give is helping me to learn, understand and grow every day. Thank you so much for everything you have done and continue to do for me each and every day. Thank You Again. 😊

This is all spot on...wow

# 4 I was a "savior" and this was messing my life up big time.

Thank you 🙂

Thanks

SOOOOOOOO on target for me!

I truely appreciate you :->

Great video.sincerly, from Your new favorite infj

Tnx. Wenzie. Learned alot(even tho it raised equal amount of questions..🙃).

You look so good Wenzes.

This has become one of my favorite videos ever. Thank you! ❤

Number 5. One hundred percent.

Wenze's it's so true what you said however I need to set boundaries and parameters for me.Jerome❤❤❤

Taking things at my pace drives people nuts, work or home, it doesn’t matter. Deadlines, pressure won’t budge me, I will set my own priorities and timeframes.

Luhhhhh For the name of the money People collapsed

#3 and #5 is so accurate. This is really helpful, thank you wenzes🥰 me being an infj always feel like there's something wrong with me but watching your vlogs makes me feel comfortable of just by being me☺

Omg! I've never had anyone explain and understand the living life vicariously through others, or living our life in imagination. It's my wonderful space.

Thank you Wenzes. I watch some of your videos in these 2 days. I do feel a lot of words in my mind but cannot tell verbally. Something, is just innate. I do realize more about myself as well as relationships. Yes, I can confirm that, in my view, it is better I work on my own, the others work on their parts, and have respect and fair mind, etc. I do have in mind that my career related to something helping others and nature. It is also true that when we strike, in the situation we have no better choice, and in psychological way. Its kind of tired to live in such way. But there is something enjoyable with this personality.

god! this is unreal,, you are so fuckin accurate and it makes me laugh, i am sure that you are talking about urself and that is the reason why it is so precise

Blessings of light and love to the Wenzes for providing such a wonderful platform for us INFJs and Allie’s to really be ourselves, and be able to relax our protective walls and just enjoy getting to know one another! 👵🏽✌🏾🦅🌸🙏🏽🌸🦅

I only compete with myself.

I definitely felt like I had to fix others in the past if I saw if someone was being a jerk. I just thought they needed to be shown love and care, but eventually realized the person was just being a jerk and I couldn't help them, they had to choose for themselves not to be a jerk in the future.

We INFJ can make butterflies in people stomach ..creatively .... in other word "romantic"

I can't tell you how many times I've been screamed at even by my own family for the INFJ stare. To bad they didn't understand at all. I'm wierd and I love it. 😎✌️🤟🤟

Another thing to comment about ~15.00 into the feed. There are souls who try to be inscrutable and lure you into trying to work them out. It is one of their predatory bait snare trap games. So sometimes, when you cannot get a read on the situation, recognize the situation is not safe and pull back. Yes, there are some interesting baits, and they are being dangled in enticing ways. But there are souls fishing for the vulnerable that they can manipulate and catch. If you are normally really good at reading a space, and come across a space that is more inscrutable than normal, assume there is someone trying to hook you into an unhealthy diet/bait choice, and pull back.

Wonderfull video, Wenzes! Regarding how we INFJ’s control our own internal pace, I have always been aware of this, confused by it wondering if I am part mechanical, lol, and I even sense that I occasionally go into a turbo or over-drive mode. Through maturity & experience, I’ve learned to go into that mode cautiously. As a physical trainer & health consultant, I feel that my different modes of pace might actually give my clients an energetic boost to help them break-thru and change.

As an INFJ...I'm in love with you. You are gorgeous and brilliant!!

This is a message to all my fellow weirdos out there everywhere in tubeland and beyond - embrace your weirdness Yeoh - it’s what makes you & I so fabulously special - be proud to stand out above the normalcy - wear your weird like Joseph wore his technicolor dream coat and make no apologies for your differences as this is what makes you so uniquely beautiful in every way shape and form ! The weirdos geeks and nerds shall inherit this wonderful earth and we’ll make it more exciting inviting and inclusive for all beings.. Amen Just be the true you always as that’s the only someone you can be and for those who don’t like you pay them no mind as they are not worthy of your thoughts you see ! Thanks a lot INFJ Life coach for this video and for your encouraging words of insight wisdom and motivation - it’s most appreciated by we Bye for now;)

We may be different....but ulimately we're just being ourselves. And for those who'd rather live beside themselves rather than be themselves.....I ask you....who's really the freak????

INFJ, I just got diagnosed with Autism at 65.

More like Lovable as heck.

Sounds like psychology and psychotherapy are good infj careers

Like point no1 wenzes.

Just looking for somebody to help me me understand things I don’t while would explain things I do see

WHAT THE LITERAL… 😳 🤣😂🤣😂

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Here’s an easy tip to life: difficult people usually have difficult lives.

I count flying birds.

Nice to see you with slightly longer hair again :)

I count birds on wires.

It looks like my town would prefer that I do NOT take Action tho.🤔🕵️

Captain of my ship, master of my pace, until I get to an ATM?

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Yeah Wen. If we learn the first 18 steps of Kung-fu we can hurt anyone with a flick of a finger; but if we learn all the 36 steps, guess what, we back off! This is our ingenuity. Trust me.

I think ... ahh no .. i know the reasons 1. Benifits. 2. Prestige 3. 8 or more will be affected 4. Need a scapegoat someone respectable to be believable. Remarks: why not coconut if the price is right 🤣🤣🤣

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Sister there is billions i don't know justice sleepy Su'aal heart 🛒 in ⌚ 4/i love you hell no i don't student for life!.

Advanced pattern recognition is a attributable to the whole human species; if we weren't predicated on this we've have died out along time ago, it's intrinsic to our evolutionary history. The cognitive INFJ is logically albeit not emotionally predictive; again please acquaint yourself with Jung's work. Fe is about a sensitivity to social nuance in the divergent position an INFJ does not violate social protocols. I'm not sure where you're getting your knowledge from as it's clearly not empirically based or from Jungian literature. ISFPs & ESFPs as I've mentioned b4 can live vicariously through others if their Se-Te isn't adequately brought into conscious recognition. Addicted to imagination: that's a limbic process you're describing eg Ni-Fi divergence, not Ni-Ti. I've noticed you're borrowing a lot of my phrasing 'vicarious' 'cerebral' etc - your monologue isn't cerebral it's limbic and I don't mean that in a derogatory way, it's just clearly affective & not objective in nature. ESFPs are 'persistent in their pace' owing to Se-Te convergence; they utilised skills sets as a manifestation of their being/extension thereof. Everyone is preoccupied with understanding the motives of others it's a basic survival instinct this isn't intrinsic to any one cognitive type. 'This person said this, this person said that' that's sequential thinking predicated on limbic waters - that's Si-Fi not Ni-Ti. An INFJ epic life is certainly not something a cognitive INFJ would employ respectfully it sounds like some kind of Fi authority manifesto.