I didn't realize how para-social I was until CoryxKenshin reached his 10M sub goal. He's not expected to return. I'm in phase 1. I can get to phase 6 if he puts out a video to give his subs closure.
@Jake I feel you with this. Because I play World of Warcraft (classic TBC), I see my dps rotation. If this don't make any sense to you, just ignore the ramblings of this old lady.
It gets better and easier with time. Focus on yourself. Don't text them. Just, focus on you, do what makes you happy 🥰 And one day, you'll find someone with whom you'll have a relationship where two people are choosing each other and want to build a life together, where those feelings are shared, not one-sided 🥰🥰
Thanks you so much I really needed I had sad story that happened on my birthday I confessed my love!!! And this was on June 18 and then she was taken I was sad she was so kind and understanding and she BEAUTIFUL but now Sadly I have to let her go I just want her to be happy and I’m glad she has someone!!!
But I'm scared now. Because what if the next one also makes the same false promises? What if I get played again? What if the next one also makes fun of my emotions after leaving me? People make promises they don't keep and the old memories get played in our minds like a broken record. As there's a hope to find the right person, there's also a fear of being manipulated AGAIN by a wrong one...
To the one reading this- I'm sorry if you're going through anything like this, things will be much better & everything will start making sense. Don't loose hope. Because the best is yet to come
I’d say I’m in between 6 and 7. It’s been 3 weeks only but I’ve accepted it and my mindset has been changing. I still feel some pain and miss her at times.
Breakup is traumatic too. So traumatic, that sometimes you feel afraid to meet new people because you are afraid you would mess up the relationship with the new person like with the former person.
I feel like right now I’m in denial and it just sucks, everything sucks right now Edit: thank you all for the support, hopefully it will get better Edit2: Now in July, I am finally getting over it and realising that although that he did was fkd up I will get better and I’m already doing way better. Thank you all!
Been there done that , and hopefully never going back . If this is the 1st time happening to you it sucks and it may take a while for mindset to change
It's tough, went through a break up about a week ago, was super depressed about everything but after that was out of my system i got back up again to deal with the next stage of the break up. You can and will get over it, don't push yourself, healing will take as long as it takes.Just remember to keep your head up cause if you don't, you will descend deeper into darkness(at least that is what I do.....but I always strive to rise up stronger once healed ). A chat with a friend is always helpful. You've got this!
Its ok. A lot of people suggest focus on u or shift your attention elsewhere which is all really good advice to be taken. But I also know a key factor is just time. Time and what you do in that time is important. But time time time will only really heal a broken heart
I'm never loving again. Edit: sorry if this seems morbid but it's true. I'm currently going through a breakup and it's been 2 months and I'm still not over it. I don't want to love again because I never want to experience this kind of excruciating emotional and mental turmoil ever again.
Me too. Find the answes for your questions from him/her as fast as possible. So you can Overcome it. Otherwise you will overthink about it. If you get good answers from her for your questions you can overcome it.
After 12 years on and off relationship, it's been a month since I got dumped and whenever I see something that reminds me of him, I get angry alllllll over again after accepting that it's done smh
That is so true..... Or It could also be the case of not really getting emotionally stronger, you just learn how to pick up the pieces easier cause you have done that before..... The first Major heartbreak is always a big emotional shock......
My fiancée and I broke up early this month after more than 5 years of relationship. For now, I've been toggling between stage 3, 4 and 5. It doesn't help whenever you're having lunch, and you suddenly reminisced the happy moments you both had.
“Which stage are you in?” Now, there’s a question! Let me point out that the 5 stages of grieving isn’t a linear process. You will vacillate back and forth, forwards and backwards, up and down until you emotionally “settle”. Until you’re done grieving. I believe that is acceptance. Even during acceptance, if you pick up on something you haven’t tried or a new piece of information that gives you momentary hope, you can jump right back into bargaining. Acceptance is when you’ve given up all hope of having a better past. Then, you let go and move on. Sad as it may be, it’s a conclusion. An ending. Even with acceptance, I’m not so sure that grieving is done. There’s still regret to deal with.
@@DMaria216 I don't think he is trying to be rude... May be he just asked You should be over by this time... That's it. Please don't conclude things so quickly! Smh
@@DMaria216 How is it rude? Being stuck in the past is just wasting your life. Life is short & all we have is the present. Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. 💟
Going through this right now. I’m in the grieving process, but I know I’ll get through it. To anyone going through the same thing, it’ll be okay, I promise you. There’s nothing wrong with you, be patient with yourself, and know your worth. I’m here for all of you, I love you.❤️
I literally had all these stages when my ex-boyfriend broke up with me, we r still friends though, but it does not feel the same. We don't talk like we used to, because now we talk less and even if we do talk, I am the one who texts him first, he had texted me first only once.. But of course I still consider him as a friend, hopefully we will grow our friendship again, someday. And I now actually have a girlfriend who loves me for me, I had confessed to her first, only to find out that she's liked me for like 2-3 years already
"ex-boyfriend" "girlfriend" *HOL UP* you're lgbtq+ right? Go "insery pronouns here" !! Don't be afraid to date "pronouns again here"!! Breakup hurts a lot still though 😟
@@whyar3y0uga34 Haha yea I am actually, i'm actually Pan and Trans. But yea breakups aren't fun, it sucks being the one who's hurt by the one you loved and looked upon on the most. But that's just how life is, some people come in your life and go, some will come and stay. And the one's you thought would stay, can also leave you, just hanging there. What hurts the most is that they leave you with so many questions, to the point where you feel like it's not worth to ask them. Maybe cuz of fear or something else. I still have so many questions for my friend, but I'd rather not ask because I am scared that it might ruin things between us, and since because we both moved on. The wound that he gave me is still there, it's healing better but it hurts while healing. And i've had thoughts where I thought how life would be if I would've never met him, and other times I blamed myself. These are the things that a breakup can lead you to, from a person you loved from the very start. I know this is long i'm sorry😅 But to be honest, I don't regret having him in my life, because he is actually a nice person, tho ig our friendship still needs a little more work.. He would talk to me still, but I think I ruined it for him on his birthday when I told him if we could try again. I didn't have intentions to tell him but I did, however this was last year. But we both fell apart for reasons, and to be honest, I feel better that we did, at least he was nice enough to let me stay in contact with him as friends. Because it taught me something, and it made me feel stronger mentally than i've ever been. My life with my girlfriend has been better and healthier for me, I look upon her because she brings me up and makes me feel confident in myself, and most of all, she made me learn how to love myself. And I hope that I can do the same for her, cus she's been there by my side since we were friends, and she always believed in me :)
@@danielisabella9626 Thank you that's very generous of you! I'm sorry about your husband, I hope that you two will be happy and I wish you the best of luck! Though I'm sorry but I already moved on with my girlfriend and i'm actually very happy with her. It's a whole new chapter for me and my mental health has been better cuz of her and I love her very much. I'm over my ex-boyfriend and I honestly don't see any point in trying to get him back. My feelings that I used to have for him are long gone, we are just friends now. He has someone else already as well, and it makes me happy to know that he is happy and enjoying his life, even though it's with someone who isn't me. Because I am happy with someone who isn't him, but I appreciate the help though, thank you :)
@@lmaoyourefired9183 The thing about breakups is that it causes uncertainty, when you get with another person you always wonder if they will break you like that ex you had, it just sucks ass. + it makes you paranoid, you always wonder "What are they doing?" "Who are they with?" and "What are they doing with who they're with"
I'm on stage five and I have no intention of moving past it. It's been nearly four years since my one true love ended things between us. I still and always will be in love with her with all my heart, and I still don't truly know or understand why she chose to sabotage something that was so right for both of us, and I may never will. You can't love again once you've given your heart away, and I have no intention of trying. If I can't be with the one, then I won't settle for second best, and neither should anyone else. As Arthur Schopenhauer once said, "To be alone, is the fate of all great souls".
It has been a little over a year since they broke up with me. It wasn't the first time that we had dated, but it most likely will be the last. I still miss them. I have tried finding other people to date, there have been times where I would actually feel I'd moved on, but that never lasts long. I wish things could have gone differently, guess they didn't mean their "I love you"s like I did.
In my opinion you dont need other person to be happy. Find happiness in your own company and be dependent just on your ownself. And once you learn to love yourself and appreciate yourself you’ll never need another person to be happy. 💜💜
I know it sounds stupid to say, but sometimes love, even being a “soulmate” is not enough if the timing isn’t right. You each have a separate journey to go on right now & you will come back together if they truly are the right one. Trust the process & try your best to focus on you & your individual happiness.
It's 2 years now exactly, and I'm still looking for a lot of answers... Not about breakups, relationships, or just love but also the whole world, its people, domino effect and human life.
Had it. Thought relationship will be the key to have a great sense of life but that went out more wrong even when my intuition was telling me that "buddy, this girl's not right". Guess I had a really low sense of self worth.
i’m used to best friends breakups but for me im more emotionally and physically connected with romantic breakups. I feel it’s a different type of connection and have a lot more trouble moving on
I’ve accepted that it’s over but it doesn’t make me feel better. I’m not ready for a relationship yet but I’m getting there. I plan on being alone for a while.
I am at the acceptance stage, but after having 2 engagements ended with less than a year before the marriage I am unsure I will ever be at the hopefulness part again. I've been single for 8 years now. I haven't been on a date once in that time. I genuinely don't know if I even want or should date again. Like I have learned a lot about myself, am going to therapy, fixing the things that need to be fixed, but the thought of including someone in that journey gives me anxiety. It makes me think why should I get involved just to get hurt again.
It is normal to be afraid, but things will not necessarily be the same as in the past, because you can change, and everyone changes. You're more than likely to not be ready for a relationship as it is right now, but future is made of mysteries. One thing that I can tell you is to take your time. Time for healing, time for a better understanding of yourself, your needs and what can you and cannot provide to others. Past hardships does not mean that you will encounter more difficulties, that's actually the other way around. Because hardships help you to understand yourself and others better, with more maturity. And one thing last, you're enough. You don't have to change yourself and live in denial in order to make people love a fake "you", so don't be afraid to be yourself, because you're enough, you're worthy, and you're a strong person. Have a nice day ^^
@@emilywells7415 They weren't bad relationships, not by any means. It's just as the wedding date got nearer, they both realized it wasn't what they wanted. One fell in love with someone else, and the other decided she hadn't experienced enough as independant person. Nothing like impending nuptials to put life into perspective for you. Like I said I am at the acceptance phase. I am not mad at them, and am honestly proud that they felt comfortable and safe enough with me to tell me the truth. I am glad they were kind enough to leave before getting married since I didn't push for prenups. In both cases we were very close beforehand and remained relatively friendly afterwards. I don't hold a grudge, but at the same time it fucking hurt. Badly. I just don't think I have it in me to risk getting hurt like that again.
What a relief to know that all my emotional changes actually have a pattern. Thankfully I'm at hopefulness now. It took about 10 months to get over a 10-month situationship that I thought a lot of. Man I thought I'd never get over that but it really does cycle through about like that.
I just broke up with my ex about a month ago. He was my first bf so I haven't experienced any kind of romantic heartbreak. My heart was so painful that I can't breathe kind of pain. I can say the order of stages that I went through was denial-obsession for answers-sorrow-acceptance. I can't believe on how he could hurt me so bad that I had to hear the answers directly from him. After that talk I bawled my eyes out and told myself that I don't deserve that kind of person. Venting to my trusted circle of friends helped a lot in making me realize that I am worthy of so much love. I already accepted the end of a failed relationship and I am still hopeful it will not be my last love. 🙂❤️
Going from having her in my life everyday to nothing, really tears a man down..I've never felt this sad before. You mentioned EACH heartbreak should be taken as a lesson, knowing that no matter what happens could eventually lead to heartbreak scares me and really makes me want to stay in my little hole.
I am just jumping from stages to a other sadly. It's painful and sometimes I feel close to actually moving on just to start missing her again a month later
I am older & have been through some horrific breakups (going through one right now) & finding the lessons & learning more about yourself instead of just focusing blame on the other person (I.e., “it’s all THEIR fault) is the best lesson I have learned over the years & it makes getting over it easier & you come out of it a better person.
The last few videos really were helpful to me right now. The comment section always makes me feel like I’m not alone. Its comforting knowing that there’s other people going through very much the same thing.
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I’m in the same boat but I’m in the hopefulness stage. It’s not easy and I look back from time to time and still wish we were best friends. I didn’t cut ties with them yet but i feel like strangers with them and learned to accept it and move on. Who knows maybe one day we might become close again
I'm currently going through all these steps right now at random, back and forth. What's worse, I guess, is that we never really met in person. She's going through some tough times and I did my best to support and be there for her; she thanked me for it but also said it was unnecessary for me to love her at her worst. I convinced her that it was not the case and that I didn't mind. I really didn't mind because all I had for her was genuine and patient love. Just a few days ago, though, she cut me off for good. Her final words were, "Hey, I don’t want you to wait for me anymore. I really don’t. I don’t want to continue this relationship anymore. I’m sorry. Pls don’t contact me any further. " I tried contacting her friends and family, informing them that she's not in her best state at the moment, just genuinely worried and concerned for her well being. Needless to say, I didn't get any replies from any of my messages. I don't know how to move on from that. That is why, for the first time ever, I voiced my worries online. Thanks for reading my comments up to this point; it means a lot.
My ex and I broke up three weeks ago and I found out he’s already back in dating apps trying to find a rebound. It hurts me so much to know this but at the same time it makes me want to accept the fact that we’re done. It makes me want to heal even more! I’m definitely in between stage 5 and 6. Better days are coming…
I am in the acceptance, denial and hopeful stage all at once. I don't want this to end but I also understand why it has to. Right now, I am trying to be sad when I can because I heard crying relieves stress. And I hope in time, I hope it won't be too long, that the sadness and regret resides and I can accept what has happened as is.
I went through all the stages and I keep thinking I’m done, but I keep going from acceptance, back to anger and sorrow, then back to acceptance, and back again :( it was months ago I’m so exhausted of being sad I just want this to be over
So true almost there ☺️process of healing is never easy ,but Is a nice feeling when you know is over for good and slowly slowly you are ready to meet someone else ♥️
@Kingsley Anita we all can …but the question is do I want ?my answer is no I don’t ..purely coz I am a different person now.He do not want to grow ,or change ..after years of trying I know I do have a right be with someone who will respect my needs, wanting to have relationship without drama ,grow and rise together for good and bad . Relationship is a constant work BOTH sides ,not only one .
Ive been stuck on stage 4 for about 4 months Ive been trying my best to get her back even though she lied and cheated for 3 months. I still love her so much and I cant let go.
I'm going through heartbreak right now. I still want some answers, but I realize that if they left you and/or dumped you, that is the closure. There are no ifs, ands, or buts about it. That is how I'm beginning to accept it. I'm still friends with my ex, but you become stronger once you realize that them coming back won't make things any better. In the short term, sure, but I would develop trust issues. It's actually relieving knowing that you don't have to deal with them possibly cheating on you. But yeah, I would never take them back, especially if it is an online or long distance relationship. Focus on yourself. It's okay to not feel okay or strong, but know that it is not your fault. It is also not their entire fault, too, things just didn't work out. If they truly loved you, they would have stayed with you and worked things out. You are amazing! Be who you truly are: not needy, not a jerk, feel what your heart wants to feel. By being your true self, you will attract the right people into your life. Trust the process, let go, love yourself, and trust the universe to help work things out. Much love to you all.
I just wanna say you will feel these at different times and maybe longer intervals than others. Its not a straightforward process by any means! Everyone's process will be different. I've been stuck in the Relapse stage atm if I had to say. With me only being angry at the fact that if me and them could've avoided this if we'd communicated better. And I'm stuck with that regret, getting to understand their soul,and the love they gave me for right now while they've moved on. Please take care of yourself during those moments of pure shitiness that hit out of nowhere. I'm proud of you for still being able to wake up and being as productive as you possible can be. I'm proud of you for not letting your world fully stop because the world doesn't know yours has been shattered. You are enough. Okay?
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I'm at 5 or 6. My partner is a major trauma survivor and hadn't yet had the help she needed. Prior to her breaking up with me, our relationship was mostly one sided due to her symptoms and poor upbringing (from an emotional standpoint) finally taking a toll on her. I kind of think I'm at 5 because essentially all of the positive things I did to try to keep the relationship/my support available didn't and couldn't stave off the inevitable. Hopefully she's started her healing process. I think im close to acceptance but I sometimes fall back into anger or a low level of sorrow
I'm still going through this breakup phase. The man that I thought who will never hurt and leave as what he promised hang up the call two months ago. Supposed to be our 4 th anniversary this month. I felt shattered. The emotional trauma that it cause me is unexplainable. I still don't understand why it happened. He said he got me and will stay but he left me on this time when I needed him the most. I have been loyal to him and never ask any material things or financial assistance since I can work. Still he left. I realized that love will never be enough if he loves his money more than you
Yeah, but after three heartbreaks in a row, you tend to get a little gun shy. After my third, I just basically walked away from the entire relationship scene. It's just too painful.
I'm at that point where I've done everything in my power to move on and heal. Now the rest I'll leave it to time. Time heals everything and this too shall pass and I'll feel better again.
I'm rounding the acceptance stage. I ended a relationship 9 months ago because I was feeling trapped, miserable and like I wasn't growing. I was not the vesion of myself I wanted to be for me or for her. I was also questioning if I even wanted to be in a relationship to begin with. So I ended it. It was one of the hardest things I've done. We remained somewhat in contact for a few months she dated a couple guys. I remained alone and it wasn't until month 7 that I really started to feel the loss and like I had made a massive mistake. It has been a brutal and gruelling experience especially given I am the one who ended it. The tables can turn on you and you can become the one who was broken up with. I miss her but I still know in my heart its what i needed to do. She has since started dating someone new and she seems very happy. I'm.wishing them the best now while still feeling the sting but im getting there. I'm back in therapy and working on all the stuff I've needed to for years. We live and learn.
She dumped me 4 months ago... Every month she came back into my life and the process started all over again. Today, she came back into my life and I'm back crying my eyes out. I can't keep doing this man
Last year my ex broke up with me and shortly after my best friend stopped talking to me as well. Hurt like hell but I'm so much better now! Healed from my break up and learned my best friend wasn't really a good friend.
I would pray that nobody goes through a heartbreak. It's SO painful. I would never want anyone to feel that kind of pain. Your heart hurts in a different way. Please guys love in moderation . Don't give everything to a person. Be independent and give all your love to them but please love yourself first🙏❤
It’s quite interesting, I too agree that heartbreak is extremely painful and I wouldn’t want anyone I care about, to experience the same pain. But with heartbreak comes suffering. And suffering helps a person grow and learn from mistakes, appreciation of what they had, and openness to change. This pain, even though hurtful, allows people to become a better version of themselves. A person becomes stronger and more wise through tough experiences. Even though I agree with how you feel. I disagree with loving in moderation. Try your best with everything you do, including love. But find acceptance that nothing is permanent and we have to adapt to change, in order to persevere. If you only give someone you love 50% because there’s a chance you might get hurt when they go; then you will never truly experience all you can love with them, and vice versa. Give them your all, but be open to the inevitability of losing them (even with death). This is the balance of life. I hope you understand. please take care!
the relapse and the anger stages are the worst one when in the receiving end. it made me more indifferent than i already have. i was the one who broke up and i've seen these stages from them. but this is still not an excuse to create psychonological pain and send hurtful messages just to show how angry they are or "show you" how hurt they are because of the breakup.
I wish this came 4 months ago when I broke up with my ex HAHA. Thank you for the video! I sped through Stages 1 to 5, and now stuck on Stage 6. I don't know if Stage 7 is worth it. For now, focusing on myself is a priority, and I feel much better this way.
Been struggling to get over my ex for 2 years now. Have not made contact in over a year, best thing I can advise is whether you are over them or not, do not contact them. In that time I started dating another girl who is gorgeus, and started liking her a lot, but she sadly went back to her ex ironically. Dissapointing I know but at the same time I see it as hope that if I can form something small with a girl like her I can do that with someone else.
I'm going through a breakup from a 9 year relationship.... All these steps seem to have mushed into one another... He wasn't just my boyfriend... We were best friends, he was my pillar, he was my pizza partner, he made me a better person, he was my mentor... And I lost all of these people at once. How do I deal with it... Will I ever be able to forget him? I can't seem to find answers anymore....
