The Art of Flaking 

You're not a flaker if you say no to plans. Your reasons are yours to be respected. You are a flaker if you say yes and then fail to commit. And those reasons are subject to debate.

"sorry i'm broke" "you watched infinity war in theaters 6 times!" "So you see why I'm broke then" Checkmate.

“You’re probably flaking on them right now to watch this video!” No, they're flaking on me right now and so I'm watching this video while waiting. Update: they just hate me.

i'm not a flaker myself, but i had two flaker friends and it was f**king awful. i felt like the only one who actually cared about our friendship. if it wasn't for me to remind them about the upcoming event or to call them to ask why they didn't come (and said nothing about it to anyone, of course), it'd be like interacting with a wall. it was really draining. made me feel alone and used, like i'm only needed when they want to get a quick free positive energy, but when it's something that requires just a little commitment or effort, they're off board. and to all the flakers who read this - saying "yes" and changing your mind later is more rude and offensive than saying "no" in the first place. trust me, i know.

"Sorry, my mom said no" "Dude, you're 26"

oh no I am sorry Domics I will play smash with you at vidcon next time

I’m not gonna lie, this video made me realized how much I was flaking on the friends I was close to. I almost lost two of my close friends because I was flaking over and over and over again saying I had the excuse that I was busy instead of being a good friend. It felt awful to realize but I’m glad I did before I lost them. Thank you for making this video, and I look to be a better friend for those who care about me in the future.

I feel like flaking just makes you more isolated. I have a friend whod Id invite to things and ask to hang out and what not, but abt half the time they had some medical excuse along the lines of "oh im just feeling a bit ill today" and like sure, fine, it happens but not 6 times a month, every month, and youre completely okay the next day. Eventually people will just think youre avoiding them and they will stop asking you. Dont do that. Be honest.

My parents told me my pet gold fish was visiting a friend. He must be a mega flaker because he’s been gone for 6 years.

0:54 "It's me. I'm that friend. I have no friends now." _Relatability 100_

Just remembered how I purposefully flaked my way out of dating this girl in college because my friend said she was a flake. I didn’t realize it till now, but I was both a flake and a hypocrite. Don’t be a hypoflake boys and girls.

What really gets me is the "friends" who leave you on R, and then come back out of the blue and you're just supposed to be there for them.

Me: Sorry, I’m broke. Person: You watched Endgame in theaters 6 times. Me: Exactly...

I like corn flakers

I'm sometimes the opposite. Especially when it's exam season. I say no outright when my friends tell me that we're gonna grab some drinks cuz I'm gonna study for the exam. And a few hours later I'll just invite myself again and appear like a jack in a box in the bar 😂

"You can't post on social media while flaking" Me who never posts: I am 4 parallel universes ahead of you

bold of you to assume i have friends to flake on

Me: oh new video *2 seconds later* “Made 8 months ago” Me: w a i t

1:36 Dom: feeling like your wanted is amazing Me: well not if you're 'wanted dead or alive'

When you flake bc depression /feeling of shame/ feeling ugly and people stop to invite you so you feel even lonelier, misérable, unloved... That hurts so much.

My grandma died... “T h a t w a s l a s t t i m e s e x c u s e.”

Plot Twist: *He’s flaking on his friends right now by making this video on flakers.*

2:20 3:49 The *”iTs A LottA BuLLa- SHIIItah!”* Got me dying 🤣🤣🤣

A friendship ending flake moment was when I asked flaker half a year in advance (Already caught onto his bs) if he wanted to attend my collega graduation ceremony, you know the once in a lifetime event. Of course he agreed. fast forward to a month before the ceremony and I asked again. Of course he agreed. Fast forward to one week before graduation and I asked again. Again, he agreed. Finally when it was time for my ceremony, he didn't show up because (he confessed) went to Defqon 2016 festival instead. This was the final straw that broke the camel's back and he was violently expelled from the friend group.

I don't have any plans to begin with

Domics:*Exists* NordVPM:Im about to fund this mans whole career

i have a person in my life who is just like 1:17 lol. super enthusiastic when making plans but also super vague and unclear, and doesn’t seem to be self aware / respectful of my time. has promised plans so many times that she never followed up with, and pretended like she didn’t make them in the first place. mentally distanced myself and let go energetically. 10/10 would recommend. respect your own time and yourself y’all

I have a flaky friend, but what makes this different is they’re the one asking me to do something. Every time I’ve said yes and we’ve just “forgotten” about it. I even asked to hang out with him and he just switched the convo. It just feels like I’m being on like a fish with a fishing rod, it sucks so pls don’t be flaky.

I like how Dom goes like "BULL-AH SHIII EHT"

You bless the world with another video after only 4 days? are you going MAD with POWER

“You’re probably flaking on your friends now” Everyone who’s in lockdown and isn’t allowed to meet up with their friends: 👁👄👁

"Mom said no" is the only reason I'm not looking forward to moving out.

I died when he said "BUT ITS A LOAD OF BULLASHEAT" 😂🤣🤣🤣

Ah yes the combination of being an introvert and being a flaker.

Didnt know flaking was an actual thing this was so relatable

Sometimes you're just an introvert and really want to go and follow up with plans, but just when the moment approaches you stress out and panic. Happened to me a few times. Felt bad about it but couldn't help it in the moment. When it happens all the time it's definitely a different story though.

*_Let's hang out!_* *_(No fomo)_*

"It's a bunch of bULl SHeEt!" Someone make this a shirt

I don't consider myself a flaker but here's a thing: if I go out 15 times and just ONCE I decline saying "I'm tired" my friends will think that I don't want to go out ever again. So I resort to rather easily saying yes and figure things out from there

I used to be a borderline Flaker but then quickly realised how me not following through with plans, I kinda didnt agree with, got everyone/people involed upset. SO I slowly learnt the idea of just straight up saying no. And I was baffled how many problems could be solved by being crystal clear about it lol.

I dont even get included so I cant be a flaker

So guys he did it. He talked about me. The guy who watched infinity war 7 times.

Thank you for making this video. it definitely called me out a little bit, but it can get pretty tough sometimes. Since a very young age I’ve been almost entirely independent, and because of that I’ve pretty much always been consistently busy. Due to that I also feel like I’ve had to tell people no a lot to hanging out or getting together simply because I can’t afford it, or back before I could drive I wouldn’t have a ride, or simply I am busy with either work or school. I don’t think I used to be a flaker because I was honest and just said “no I can’t make it” but after saying that so much people stopped including me because I was so busy. So that’s when I think I started flaking. I started saying yes to things, even knowing full well I couldn’t make it, afford it, etc. but out of fear of not being included anymore I started saying yes I’ll be there, and then “not making it.” I want to try and get better with it because I do feel like I’ve been a bad friend in a lot of ways, It’s just tough sometimes because I feel like since the age of 15 I’ve been working my life away so I can at least have food to eat, or working hard in school so I can get a better job to get out of how tough things are now. I feel like I’ve forgotten to live in the moment, and to be with my friends now while I can. Because time is precious and valuable, and if people are committing time to me, I need to put my all into being there for them. So, thank you for making this video. Yes it called me out, but it was a rude awakening I needed, and I’m going to try my best to improve myself so I’m not wasting peoples time, and can maintain my relationships

I love the periodic 'bullshieet' in the background

Friend: are *you* in china right now? Flaker: *takes plane to china* , *opens messaging app* Yes.

Time Dom said bullahsheeet!- 2:20 3:48

It happened to me a few times to flake by not knowing how to say no, thinking about it for a minute or two, do something else, and just forgetting to reply to the message. It also happened on something I really wanted to do, forgetting to say yes until it's too late. ADHD thing, I guess? Not only for flaking, sometimes also with giving bad news or answering to a serious message. Last thing that happened, I forgot to send a happy birthday message, and instead of sending "sorry, I missed the day!", I wrote the message, felt bad, did something else and completely forgot that I didn't send it until a few days later... But then it would be pretty awkward to send, and I still haven't wished a happy birthday to my cousin. Agh

Finally I have an explanation for why I suddenly lose motivation to play games and stuff even after planning. I have however noticed that it is mostly because I don't fully know myself what I am interested in.

You cant be a flaker to ur friends if u dont have friends

*_Frosted Flakes have joined the chat_*

Thanks for making this videos they help me relax when my anxiety is acting up plus they are entertaining

5:10 Adios, amigos

I used to flake on my friends because they always wanted to go out to eat on 'nice places' and I couldn't explain to them that I'm poor and can't always afford to go out with them. Once, I brought it up and it just became really uncomfortable. Then i went to college and my circle of friends was mostly broke anyway so I didn't have to flake anymore lol

Im not a flaker, im a *frosted flaker*

I love your videos!! My teen son is on the spectrum and social stuff is hard... these are perfect!!

the beauty of discord's do not disturb feature: I literally did not know you messaged me, and if I saw the notification on my phone afterwards, I haven't been on my phone all day

"hey are you there?" "Yeah" "I don't see you" "yeah" "so you're not here" "yeah"

Flaker = a classmate in a group project

I love how he explained difference between actually busy people and flakers, that was spot on!

PSA: some situations are more complicated than your friend just not wanting to commit to plans. They might have a plethera of reasons for being "flakey". Examples: social anxiety, depression, chronic illness or other health problems, domestic violence or abuse, having poor communication skills due to trauma. Be understanding

Two Domics videos in one week? Man, we have been blessed 👏

“But is a load of BULLESHEET!” 😂 2:19 3:49

A person with commitment issues will most likely be a flaker, I know cause I am one

I flaked out a lot of relationships, i realized even if I rather stay home and play games its still better to hang with friends because that creates stronger memories then

Im usually feel too guilty to flake. Even when I have an actual excuse i usually force myself to go anyways

Can’t flake since I’m the one that organises everything and never gets invited

me: “yeah sure i'll go!!” *goes 100% of the time* *doesn't get invited to friend’s birthday party or any other hangout*

You finally popped up in my recommended list after many years of trying to find you since the first time I've watched you 😃

Wow, this is a surprisingly good breakdown behind the psychology of flakers XD Not what I was expecting but was great!

“[People can see] your Instagram stories.” Jokes on them, I don’t have an Insta! ...or a social life, for that matter.

those belts are fine as hell. thank you RBA, RBO, RBC, RBF, and The Ring for making those amazing belts for this fight. it'd be my honor to fight for it

Literally just be honest. If you don't feel like going or don't think you will, then say no. A friend that is willing to risk coming across as rude or not being fun and admit their true feelings, even the negative ones, is far more valuable than a liar pretending to care.

anyone else notice how smooth domics mouth movements are?

My friend is a flaker, but even if he says *he can’t* come. I drive to his house pick him up and then return to my house. then the cycle of life repeats as it should.

Dom: "wanna be Healthy and have a good sleep schedule" Also Dom: " *BULLESHIEAT* "

"you're probably falking on them right now!" it's... It's 2:26 am, the only one I'm flaking is my sleep. No but seriously, at first I thought it was me, but I'm that person that'll go, actually have fun, but get home and want to isolate for the rest of the day because my social battery is about to die.

My relationship with my best friend ended because I told him he needed to be more reliable, and he responded by ignoring me for a month. I've reached a point where I cannot stand flakers

I misread the title as “The Fart of Laking” and REALLY wondered what was happening here.

“Sorry my dad said no” “Your dad left you to go get milk 10 years ago”

Love your video style! Subbed!

Bold of you to think I have friends to flake

Domics: You’re probably flaking right now while you’re watching this video. Me: 😳

perfectly like my one person in my college's end term project team, he said he has nothing to do and always available at whatever time you wish but alas when there's an assignment coming, he's gone.

2mm snow and lack of winter tires is a death sentence, my friend. Sending from colder parts of universe.

Hah, I’m a flaker! *to my imaginary friends* **cries**

bold of you to assume that people invite me anywhere

The "because it's a load of bullsheat"was the funniest shi* I had ever heard,and that is also why I came here after 2 years,again

1:27 Me a flaker who just can’t say no cuz I’m secret introvert : 😐

How much you wanna bet Domics got some awkward texts shortly after posting this video. "Hey Dom, was your last video about me??"

Sometimes you just have to flake and when you are an introvert and you really wanted to do something it feels like you missed the opportunity of a lifetime And then you get emotionally scarred and full of regret

Dom: Your probably flaking right now watching thus video Me: dude its 2am AND im an introvert, so I basically have no friends

I’ve been flaking this entire Summer, and this came up in my recommended. I legit have my entire friend group unread for over a week right now because I just do not wanna leave my house rn.

That's a whole lot of *BULLESHET*

Your vid hit hard at 5:04 when you said "the sad reality of flakers is that you only know them for a short period of time. They can only flake so long until they fully flake out on their relationships". The biggest flaker I've ever known is my best friend from high school and that's exactly what she did. It actually hurts sometimes still. I had to make the decision of not investing my time in her any longer after years of making plans and them all falling through. What did it was when she flaked out on a job interview I got her because her mom was threatening to kick her out of the house. In the end, I only got to be her friend for four years. After high school she ghosted out of my life completely and I decided not to chase after her. It just sucks because when we were close, she was a great friend to me. And to this day I still wish she was a part of my life.

*ME, A FLAKER WHO DOESN’T HAVE INSTAGRAM*: _I don’t have such weaknesses_

Domics: Your probably flaking right now to watch this Me: has no friends and sitting at home with a can of Pringles

My grades flaked on me. They said they'd be an A

2:19 but it's a lode of BullaSheet!!!

"Look at the Class! Look at the moves, FLAKER WHAT WAS THAT!"

I don’t think that flaking on people is justified, but sometimes so many things go on in our lives. Especially if you have depression. You don’t feel good enough to hang out but feel so damn lonely. You try to make plans, but then the anxiety hits. It’s a vicious cycle between loneliness and isolation. I’ve lost a lot of friends from doing that, and I’ve been on the other side as well. But I don’t really blame people when they do it.