the art of not feeling lonely. 

“Life doesn’t give you the people you want. It gives you the people you need; to help you, to hurt you, to love you, to leave you and to help you grow into the person you are meant to be.” 🙏🏽

“I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone, it’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone.”🙏🏿💯

I'm an introvert but it took me soo long to realize that I was feeling lonely and this loneliness didn't come from a need for human connection but from not being connected to myself. I was as toxic for myself as every other toxic relationship out there and I didn't know how to properly care for myself, I used to hide from reality altogether. Cultivating a good relationship with yourself is important.

Mac Miller sang, “Sometimes I get lonely, but not when I’m alone. But it’s more when I’m standing in crowds that I’m feelin the most on my own.” And I never forgot it. I’m alone 90% of the time and I feel perfectly fine. It’s when I go to social events I feel isolated.

my birthday is coming and i don't have any friends, after seeing this i realized that maybe i can spend the day just taking care of myself..

I saw a quote somewhere that says "In a room full of people you must want yourself first." and I've never looked back since.

i’m at a weird point in my life where people are walking out of my life or i’m walking out of it, it feels lonely but deep down i know there’s a purpose. your videos help me so much ❤️

The key is to meet our emotional needs as much as possible. We have relied on others so much for validation that we forget that the biggest source of comfort and validation comes from within. Being there for yourself and loving yourself to the core is the foundation.

“It’s better to be felt and not seen” - Hindz

"All that energy that you have, maybe it's not to go to someone but SOME THING."

"it's better to be felt, not seen" this is probably my new favorite mantra for this week

I’m 19 and living alone without parents, I was really struggling tonight with my mental health and wasn’t able to calm down. After watching your videos and this one especially I’ve been able to relax and can finally get to sleep, Thankyou god bless you ❤️

I was up thinking about this last night. I’ve always been an introvert, but I also had people I connected with & could call anytime. Slowly but surely here I am with no one to call. I got kinda sad. I started thinking about the things I’ve been wanting to do, but never do because I have no one to do them with. Then it hit me that maybe I should just do it because who knows, that may be how I meet new people with similar interests. This is gonna take me way out of my comfort zone, but I think I’ll start by taking a solo vacation this summer.

I've felt more alone being in a room full of people than I do actually do being completely alone in my own company. I love my own company, it's so peaceful. Peace & blessings to you all xx

It's really weird for me. I was a "loner" for most of my youth, didn't have many friends in school and I became a self-reliant person very early. I used to consider myself an introvert because I was enjoying my alone-time so much and I was completely okay spending days on end in my room, just doing whatever, drawing, reading, watching shows or whatever. Then I moved out to go to university in a different town and suddenly, with all the toxic people gone, I discovered a side of myself that's pretty extroverted. And while my mental health was declining, spending time with other people suddenly was the only thing that was distracting me. I was already unable to be physically alone at this point, but then I even felt loneliness in the middle of a party, in the middle of my closest friends, I started feeling that disconnection. Not once or twice, but frequently. And it was the worst kind of loneliness because suddenly, there was nothing distracting me anymore and I would break down in tears everytime. Because there was something so deeply wounded inside of me that I was just constantly running away from until it eventually caught up with me. It still is chasing after me, but recently I have been brave enough to stop running and face it. To listen to why I feel like this, instead of ignoring it. This is so important. And I've been so much better ever since I've realized that being alone triggers my trauma of abandonment and rejection. That I've not been kind to myself in a long time because all my mind knows is how to hate myself, so I'd rather not be with myself. I also talked to a friend about this and she said "You are the only person that you will spend your entire life with, that's the only friend that you will be guaranteed to have for your entire life. So you've got to learn how to be your own safe space."

Everyone in this comment section is so beautiful, thank you for creating this safe space for us all Hindz. lots of love xx

Once you start to love your self for who you authentically are, life starts to love you aswell. Because you are life, Life is you, You are a physical manifestation of love, You are everything, Everything is you. You have the power. You have the love. Your potential is limitless. Keep going.

I love how you mentioned bringing more than an empty cup to relationships/friendships. I relied on my ex to hold my happiness and found that I was bringing nothing but my issues to the relationship, leaning on her for love and relief from my struggles. I depended on it and she told me that it was weighing on her and it took me way too long to understand that giving her the responsibility of my happiness wasn't a gift and was much more of a burden.

I am so glad this channel was recommended to me. Your words are exactly what I need to hear right now. I lost my husband last year to cancer amid the pandemic and I am still struggling with being alone and feeling lonely. I am working on building a good relationship with myself again, but it's been a struggle.

Why is his messages so on time? I just balled my eyes out, and through tears I said...Most High please help me, I feel so alone, so different from others around me.

You are never alone you got your ancestors,spirit guide,passed friend and family members and many more just cause you can’t see them doesn’t mean they ain’t there

"My consciousness is my home, safety, and security." I came up with this quote a few months ago to help me feel more grounded and stable. Simply to know that I can give that calming, good energy to myself is life changing. :)

It’s really crazy how life works. I needed to hear this today

Needed this! Didn’t come at a better time.

when the pandemic hit, I was also going through a breakup. this was when I finally started spending time alone, and truly learned to love me. one year later, I have almost no social anxiety

Best feeling right now at being 20 is realizing that being alone is okay and being alone means taking your time to heal and become great

It's crazy how this video was 17 minutes long but it only felt like 5 minutes. I was afraid of committing to a longer video but I'm so glad I did, it felt like a warm hug and reassured me in my loneliness. I'm gonna focus on cultivating my interests more, I haven't been doing that lately and I've been feeling super lonely. This was a much needed reminder that we are always with ourselves and we need to be present. Thank you Hindz ❤️

“It’s better to be felt, not seen.”

I just wanted to let you know that you have such a positive uplifting energy and I wish I had friends like you because you seem so positive to be around and you give off such a raw positive outlook on life even on the bad days so thank you for making this RU-vid channel.🦋🦋 God bless you

im struggeling with being okay on my own. i feel like im more and more clinging onto my boyfriend and making him responsible for my happiness. i feel like being aware of that is the first step, but there are many steps to go before i can be okay on my own, and i keep feeling a little lost where to start and what to do. this is the first video i ever saw of you, and your vibe is really something. just wanted to get this of my chest and thank you. i will do my best

I am 16 and left school, went into a full time job i don't like and am leaving, going through my first heartbreak and my only friend is my sister. This made me feel like once i get through this something new will come. i will find myself through this hard time🦋

I've been feeling this a lot lately. Ever since I finished high school like a year ago and cut off all of the people in my circle, no one new has showed up in my life - it's been like a year. Don't get me wrong, I'm an aqua and I value my alone time, but I also love friends. I be like Universe please send me some friends, but still here I am in my own space alone. The Universe always plugs, but this period is hella tough. Makes you wish you could have a direct conversation with the divine, and ask wassup? What's going on?

I'm 16 years old and you have impacted me sooooo much. Thank you hindz. I'm finally the person I want to be. Jah bless

My partner of over a year just broke up with me. I was devastated and heart broken and I still am, but this video has made me realise that what has happened, maybe my opportunity to really nurture myself and enjoy my own company. I realised that maybe I was needy instead of independent and wanting to hang out. Thank you for making me feel this calmness of being alone and not lonely. I love your channel and it will help me and so many in our next chapters, thank you

“I am in good company.” so much peace and reassurance in this one sentence.

There’s materialism. Then there’s ma’tea’rialism 😂

Found this video in the middle of taking a three week break from constantly being on social media, constantly being available to others, constantly being “on” and never really taking a proper break to be alone with myself. I’ve experienced anger, sadness, restless, and then finally today, acceptance, peace, comfort. Incredibly glad your videos have been a part of my journey on learning to be alone. I really appreciate this upload ❤️

I just got out of a long term relationship and I’ve been thrown into being by myself for the first time in a long time. This video is exactly what I needed🌱 thank you for this🙏🏼

I'm currently living on my own in a very remote area, studying from home and sometimes I don't talk to anyone for days except for some texting. I always wanted "to be alone" but now that I am it feels lonely. This video came up in my feed the moment I realized that so thank you.

This guy's relaxing

Let’s be honest. I’m my own best company 🤗

I’ve been coming back to this video every time I feel alone and feel like I desperately need someone to talk to but I have no one, I definitely realized that I am my own best friend this is just another opportunity to better myself in solitude rather than fall into darkness. Thank you Hindz for spreading love and light !!

Being an introvert, I never cared if I was alone. In fact when I was I valued it since I’m in my own space. But my loneliness more on derives from alienation, and being misunderstood by people around me that it’s better to isolate myself because no one can judge me. For the most part I’m not bothered by it, but it becomes a disadvantage when there’s no one to back you up and overall connect with you. I’ve tried to hold friendships, but remained as the outcast who wasn’t invited to events. It’s hard to make the commitment when you’ve tried so hard already, that’s why I’m trying to learn to love myself more and be confident in my own skin :)

I needed this now. I’m was feeling empty but I’ve filled myself up with the love I’ve been seeking elsewhere. I deserve it.

Omg this is so weird, you created this video whilst I was in the middle of isolating myself for a bit from certain people; it actually feels amazing just to be in my own powerful company for a bit and really give attention to myself that I would normally shower everyone else with! Highly recommend being with yourself for a bit! It's not selfish or sad at all, it's actually really healing! I'm feeling a different kind of happiness in doing so! Thank you Hindz! Forever grateful - it really is a vibe ting ✨🙏❤❤❤

Мне случайно попалось это видео в момент, когда я одна в своей холодной коммунальной квартире, лежу и думаю о том, что понятия не имею, чего хочу, кто я, что я могу, что не могу, в чем смысл всего и вся. Я чувствую себя одинокой и брошенной. Мне не хватает внимания и тепла. Слова автора в этом видео поддержали меня. Хоть немного, но стало приятно. Возможно, все не так плохо в этом одиночестве... Надеюсь, что у вас все хорошо. А если нет, то для нас всех обязательно на станут лучшие дни. Верьте себе.

I find it crazy that I spent a majority of my life not really knowing myself, like i definitely was existing in the moment but I was always caught up in learning about other people and trying to figure out other people and trying to get other people to like me etc. Nowadays, I spend my free time talking to myself and let me tell you, I have never felt so Intune with my emotions like i just be crackin up like a looney LOL And I've noticed that while I've been building this bond with myself, I've been attracting a bunch of high energy individuals into my life, and I am equally as happy with them in my life as I was without them. It took me a while to realize that you don't need anyone to make you happy in this life, happiness comes from within, and even when there's nothing happening, you have to be able to learn how to appreciate the smallest of things in your life. Thank you HINDZ, you really have helped me these past couple of months

Being alone is such a privilege and a great time to get to know yourself and love yourself deeply, never take it for granted guys! 🙏🏻💞

I struggled with feelings of loneliness a couple years ago, but I'm a naturally introverted person, so I didn't want to be in a crowd either. What I was craving was an outlet. Adult coloring books, making mandalas with flowers and acorns, and active journaling really helped with those feelings.

I also go through social anxiety and it is one of the most stressful things to experience, worrying that others would judge you or criticize you, feeling like you might say the wrong thing and seem awkward and stuff. I also feel lonely sometimes and it too me a while to realize that there are millions of people out there who also goes through thing I go through, maybe not exactly the same but it helps knowing you were never alone to begin with. Spending time alone and really cultivating and feeling present and being mindful of your environment, getting to know yourself is such a blessing and really helped me go dive deep and have a deeper understanding of myself.

Unbelievable that this was posted a year ago, when I was feeling the most alone I’d ever felt, & only seeing this now. I’m still in a season of lesser interaction, but loneliness left the moment I became a friend to myself. I wish I saw this last year, but I’m glad to see it now, affirmed.

Everything about you is art. The way you talk feels like music. Thank you, brother.

Enjoying this while I’m alone in bed listening to the rain. I simply enjoy my alone time, the older I get... the better “myself company” becomes.

I needed this video today. There has been many times where I have felt alone in a room full of people. I find myself feeling lonely and never thought about going inside and being by myself to cultivate my relationship with myself. Loved the energy in this vid.

this summer i haven’t been spending time with my regular group of friends, instead ive just been focusing on myself and doing things that make me happy. i’m 17 and i think this is the perfect age to learn new things, find new hobbies, and explore my life and have fun with new experiences. i’m not dating either but this is definitely the happiest i’ve ever been ❤️❤️

I feel sad and almost not sad because this video came at the right exact time. And not cos I'm drinking wine.

Being born in the 1980's i know both sides of technology. It a blessing an a curse at the same time. I'm happy i was born in time where i could find self in the silence.

“It’s better to be felt and not seen” nice words, I´m at this time to reconnect with myself, had to shut a lot of people out to be here just for me for as long as I need, so thankful for RU-vid to recommended your video, really felt the vibe while watching

I needed this so much. Im so scared of losing people. I’ve had times where everyone i was close to left. my world fell apart around me. i’ve attached myself to anyone who allows me so hard to the point of bleeding. I just want to feel loved. Everything this video offered was perfect. I feel like ive needed to hear this for a really long time.

I’ve been living a very chaotic life the past two years and especially this year - but I feel a bit more at peace in knowing everything works in my favor eventually. It’s hard sometimes though.

Going through a pretty painful breakup. I’ve been struggling with loneliness. I’m going to apply this advice and try to invest in myself. Feel myself on a deeper level.

you are so incredibly calming, thank you for this

I never met or listened to someone's voice and felt peace and easily ready to fall asleep. Love this video

This is the best therapy session I’ve ever had

loving the frida shirt ✨

having that extra love to give not to someone but to something. wow! that deeply resonates, thank you for the gentle reminder 💛

Have been going through a lot this past weekend & today I start off my week with your magical presence in mind. Thank you so much for the reminders 🥺❣️

Sir you have divinely interrupted my mental rut today! This was so needed and affirming. I’m learning what I seek in others - I must first find it myself. I’m in that constant cycle of being disappointed by other people because I’m not appointing myself to take care of myself first.

loneliness is a sign of peace. all humans need peace in their lives. thank you for the upload hindz

This is very timely! I'm going through a period where I realize that in my alone time I am the happiest and when I sacrifice that time I end up feeling shorted. There are so many great points in this video and I can't wait to really sit with them and write out how I'm going to apply them to my own life.

can i just thank you. i only discovered you recently, but i resonate with so many things you talk about. I've been really depressed and struggling over the past few days and just listening to your videos and exploring the concepts makes me feel so much lighter. I haven't been able to get out of bed for three days, but this helped me get up, do my washing, do the dishes, make tea and even feel up to journaling for a bit. thank you so much for sharing yourself with us.

Thank you for the nice tea 🤗 I'm "alone" with my two dogs next to the woods for almost a year. I love it. To read a book( there are so many waiting for me), to clean the house, to just listen to the silence. Sometimes I feel lonely, but that's ok.

I really needed this...I've been feeling really lonely, trying to understand why I can't maintain close friendships and have people want me around, but maybe I just need to spend better time with myself....

this is so beautiful! i love your energy

you’re so so wise. thank you for sharing this knowledge. I needed to hear this.

The stages you go through while being alone are wild and unpredictable...

Yes, this is a community, you are our voice, pure love.

You talking about the disconnect within yourself and the whole of keeping a healthy relationship with yourself really resonated with me. Thanks for that

Thank you Hindz I really needed this

wow this came at the exact moment i got home after a week of feeling isolated while surrounded. i’m going to spend the weekend with myself, thank you

It’s crazy how perfect this topic is. I just recently got out of a very toxic relationship that I was in for 11 years and moved into my first apartment by myself. It’s been a hard transition trying to untether myself from him without filling that space with someone else who doesn’t deserve my energy. The past few days I was really going through it so this message came perfect this morning.

been going through a break up for 6 months and been feeling empty still to this day. Thank you for this video I have learnt a lot and realized the importance of being alone is a blessing and a opportunity.

I totally agree that going within helps with social anxiety!! I have done the same and I’m so much more confident in a room full of people because I know that no matter how an interaction goes I will always have my sacred relationship with myself. Just found your channel and I’m so stoked to be following now! 💓

What you talk about in this video resonates so deeply with me right now! I’ve been by myself most of the time this past year and really for several years and I used to see that as a problem, like I wasn’t trying hard enough to make friends and something was wrong with me. But recently, I’m seeing it from the perspective of this time being alone with myself has actually been preparing me to be ready to truly be around people and show up authentically in the world. All I’ve been through and all the solitude has allowed me to grow so much, and to constantly work on myself so now I feel like it’s time to be out in the world and share my energy and my amazing self with others and be felt deeply how I wish to be felt :)

ok, this is exactly what I need. last night I was thinking why am I alone and I started to think that there is something wrong with me. But thank you for reminding us all that we are never alone, that we have to shift our perspective and start to look within. probably I should start using my energy on loving and taking care of myself and do the things that I love instead of always thinking about what's wrong with me.

Hindz, your ending message about being guided and protected brought tears to my eyes. I've been feeling sad every time I come home, but after watching your video, I'm now seeing it as a opportunity to connect with myself more. Thank you for your videos, I really appreciate your presence and wisdom.

I’m a bit alone but after watching this and reading all these uplifting comments I really needed this energy I thank you all for being who you are the guidance and acceptance is needed in a world like this 🤎🤎🤎

I really needed to hear this. I used to be really good at being alone, but when suddenly it became a very distant connection in rooms filled with people I kept searching for that fulfilling companionship. today I am alone, feeling lonely but after this video I'm feeling very full. thank you :)

Him: *takes a sip of tea* Me: You drink my damn tea?🤨

I just found your channel yesterday, I had my first self care day I loved it. But that's besides the point, what you said in that video I felt seen and agreed to what you were saying. I don't know how you do it but through the screen I felt like I was there. I was nodding my head and smiling. And today I did too, I even had a cup of Earl Grey Tea. This year has brought a lot of change, I decided to go back to a normal school after being online for 3 years. It's been a ride so far sometimes hard, but I feel like I am slowly healing. And life is looking a little brighter than it was before. This year I dedicated to get out of my comfort zone, while taking breaks so I don't get to overwhelmed. I wanted to thank you for these videos also. Sending positive vibes your way.

i absolutely love your vibe. thank you for everything.

I’ve been really stressed lately with job hunting and moving back home, and this video was exactly what I needed to hear. Almost uncanny that way but always so very grateful to listen and partake in a bit of wisdom :)

Hindz, thank you. Your presence serves a purpose for us all. You are such a pilar of light, much love.

the sense of calm that falls over me when watching your videos is truly unmatched. thank you

This video made me cry. It's been a tough week for me. Sending love to everyone ❤️

I feel like this is such a safe space and makes me feel so good seeing other people feeling the way I do. I’m so grateful that this type of influencers exists and be able to bring us all together, thank you all, remember you are amazing and your worthy of love and happiness 💖

When you talked about how maybe our energy is not supposed to go into someone, but something, I had to pause and just take a minute. I have never realized this. Nobody has ever phrased it that way for me. It makes so much sense. Something so simple but so meaningful to me. Thank you.

I just found this channel this week and I’m glad I found it. Great channel!

"if we never learn to be alone, we´ll feel always lonely"

Im currently studying abroad but I feel isolated most of the time despite my efforts of making plans and creating experiences. I often feel lonely in a room full of people and I began to think I was the problem or I was in-likeable. I felt God speak to me through your comforting words. I come back to this video whenever I feel lonely and it helps immensely❤