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The Benjamin Franklin Effect | The Science of Love

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In order for a relationship to be successful, both partners need to feel invested. This theory was proven by the one and only Benjamin Franklin, who stated that the more time, effort, or work you put towards a person, the more you're personally investing in them and the more you want it to work out. In this episode, we put real couples to the test to show you how it works.
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Created by: Mike Bernstein and Matt Pittman
Directed by: Mike Bernstein
Producer: Matt Pittman
Hosted by: Julian Huguet
Cinematographer: Yuki Noguchi
Production Designer: Flower Cole
1st AD: Basel Owies
Editor: David Sommer
Production Manager: William Cubbon
Production Coordinator: Rebecca Ma
Production Support: Nate Vaughn
Production Support: Ben Taylor
Production Support: Joseph Waggoner
B Cam Op: Richie Yau
1st AC | DIT: Loie Russell-Templeton
Cam Op | Gaffer: Andrew Fich
Cam Op | Key Grip: Allen Richard Card
Art Directo: Tricia Robertson
Set Decorator: Marcy Silver
Makeup: Taylor Tompkins
On Set Sound Mixer: Ben Adams
VFX & Title Sequence: Cameron Clark
Post Sound Designer & Mixer: Matt Schwartz
Colorist: Trevor Durtschi
Featured Participants:
Adrienne Marquand, Sean Scofield, Sonia Alcazar, Brett Collier, Brendan Troy, Michelle Matule, Erin Navarette, Jordan Crabb
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14 апр 2014

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@stephenwoo2049 10 лет назад

Barbara and I are proud to have been featured in this video.

@kopkevin2000 10 лет назад

Nice seeing you guys in the video as well :)

@celenial6009 3 года назад

it was very wholesome

@GiorgiaHannah 10 лет назад

This experiment gives a mind-blowing insight into the mind of teenage fangirls that fawn over famous boybands etc. They invest SO much time and effort into these people that of course their love for these people grows, and some are often surprised when they meet their celebrity love and the said celebrity doesn't instantly feel the same about them. It's because they've never been INVESTED in the fan their meeting. They haven't spend time pondering over them, among other obvious things such as initial attraction towards the fan etc. This video has helped me make sense of that and the mind of fangirls in that way so THANKS soul pancake, you're the best

@eileenhawkey 10 лет назад

It is the same for sports fans!

@mariah_7654 6 лет назад

I kept think about One Direction and BTS fans the whole time.

@IronZio 6 лет назад

You're so right.. I'm still in Love with Emily Blunt, though.

@huggingfeet 10 лет назад

these "science of..." series are fantastic. absolutely charming and enlightening.

@JWelk92 10 лет назад

This and the science of Happiness are 2 of my favorite things on youtube! Please keep going after you finish this series.

@Participant 10 лет назад

Thank you! We really love hearing that. :)

@SaeedNeamati 10 лет назад

I call it mutuality rule. It's not only about contributing to the happiness of your partner, but it's also about respect, gratitude, care, freedom, rights, and almost everything. One-sided things won't work in marriage. They got to be mutual.

@SpiritofSix 10 лет назад

Love should always be mutual--and when it is not it should always be thoughtful. To love another and not be loved back is still a wondrous thing: no person chooses how or who they feel for and this type of feeling should always be said and expressed for it is always worth saying and expressing. All I desire in this life is for us to face the truths of our reality, our mortality, and our humanity for all that it is--so that we may become the truest humans possible. I talk about philosophy and societal topics that pertain to this endeavor. That is all, no more no less. May we always progress and may we never stop learning from each other. Good day to you all :)

@SpiritofSix 10 лет назад

***** Thanks, my good man.

@GeAsita 9 лет назад

That´s great. Well said, have a great day sir.

@littlebean95an 9 лет назад

im on a feeling spree with soulpancake

@Hannahcolorsrfun 9 лет назад

Thank you Julian, and everyone who were a part of this series to make it happen. Because of this video and others in the series, I chose to let someone know how i really felt about him. I was suuuuper scared; I was afraid he would never write to me again, or he'd say he only wanted to be friends but then our relationship would turn super awkward and crumble to dust. Or the world would explode, or something. But now i'm sooo exciiited! Because it turns out he loves me too!!!

@signiturelady 10 лет назад

damn this is the mistake i always make. i invest so much and get hurt when the other person isn't willing to invest anything. if i say that i am unhappy because they are not contributing, then i am made out to be the bad guy. i always get stuck with non-committal jerks that think its OK to take advantage of someones heart.

@MrJamesbond22 9 лет назад

signiturelady Next time let us men be the one who does most of the planning of the dates.He should be the one calling you first early in the relationship.You do let the man play for the movie,concert and meal right? You need to enjoy your status as the lady in the relationship,but don't go overboard with it.Oh wait you're probably the last woman I should say that to.:)

@seraphinmusic-ui7uy 6 лет назад

Big facts

@kimberlygollnick721 10 лет назад

The science of love videos always make me cry. Seeing people express their love through action is beautiful. So heartwarming. I fully support SoulPancake and their efforts to make a better & happier world. Seriously, keep up the good work.

@AllisonLinner 9 лет назад

This was sincerely very helpful to me. It was a really beautiful video, and one day I hope to be like that couple about to celebrate their 35th wedding anniversary ☺

@poeticvariance 9 лет назад

There were plenty of comments complaining about the legitimacy of the "experiment" and it's important to recognize these videos don't believe they have solidly and flawlessly proven anything. I think it's to get people thinking by using cutesy psuedo-science techniques to get a positive idea out into the world. I Love these videos! Very inspiring and motivating.

@holtrops 8 лет назад

Ho-ly-shit ..... This is why me and my gf weren't working out ... I put in all the effort, I always picked her up, payed the bills, I did everything...

@mariah_7654 6 лет назад

This makes sense. Relationships are all about give and take. If one person doesn't do anything to build the relationship they won't see it as important and valuable.

@purplecandyable 10 лет назад

I love these types of videos that make me realize the simple things. In my past relationship I never let my other half contribute and would always insist on paying things but I learned my lesson after watching this. Thank you Julian you really are a good guy and hope you find the love you deserve. :)

@KavlosteMeViagra 10 лет назад

most people have the problem of investing in someone who is not actually interested

@christinekulick6499 10 лет назад

absolutely epic stuff did you all know its now possible to cheat on luck ? I mean find this video #AndrewBCloverfield and see how its really works xD

@KavlosteMeViagra 10 лет назад

Christine Kulick that was totally spam

@johnlaforce7425 10 лет назад

Who are.u

@johnlaforce7425 10 лет назад

I don't know who u are

@WillyJunior 8 лет назад

i wonder if anyone has ever invested in him :(

@x_ma_ryu_x 8 лет назад

+Bollog Nyessy I invested in watching him

@kriscrystaline9793 10 лет назад

I actually have been rejected and cheated on many times, and now I actually understand why. (I give too much and don't receive enough)

@naovang17 10 лет назад

These videos keep continuing on making me believe in love. Plus Julian is the best host ever!

@coconutfreaklover 10 лет назад

I can't get enough of these videos. They always inspire me every time. Thank you!

@floristsdotcom8743 8 лет назад

Everyone who is considering entering a relationship should watch this first! Great stuff. Thank you.

@joyjoyoo 10 лет назад

I really hope Charles and Alli can see these series!

@Regenschirmtier 10 лет назад

"I'm Julian and this has been the science of LOOOOVE!" :'D

@ZachariahJoe 10 лет назад

Severely disappointed that none of them shouted "I VOLUNTEER AS TRIBUTE!"...

@chambers023 10 лет назад

I think its nice to let someone do something for you. It let's them experience the joy of it.

@Christian_Girl120 7 лет назад

My male bestie is my friend but we love each other as friends only. We value our friendship and don't want to ruin that.

@MrMiller1010 8 лет назад

@SoulPancake Why didn't you tell us the change in attraction of the other person? It kind of defeats the purpose of the experiment if both actually find that they are more attracted now...

@crystallclearr15 9 лет назад

wonder why we didn't see what the girl in the turquoise shirt said to her boyfriend...

@spiritual_earthly_insights 6 лет назад

crystallclearr15 maybe cause she didn't say anything meaningful. She looked super pissed at the guy when she handed the coffee to him. And didn't seem like she appreciated the efforts she had to put in to be romantic. I bet if she were taken out of the study, that 5% jump would be higher. Soul pancake please tell us what the result is if this couple is taken out as an outlier.

@kiavang0214 10 лет назад

Love this series. All these heartwarming stories keeps me believing in love 💖💖

@sait6732 10 лет назад

Similarly, one who harms another is more willing to harm them again than the victim is to retaliate.

@hannahkuhn-gale9508 10 лет назад

It's like playing hard to get. You have to give them a chance to come to you.

@callahancovington4278 7 лет назад

Awww 35th wedding anniversary, love that couple!

@dOnTtHiNkThAtWay 10 лет назад

Why are there even dislikes?? This video was beautiful...

@harueno4670 10 лет назад

This is so cool!! man, Im literally doing this right now with a dude I want to be friends with! Thank you soulpancake!

@BigBenTheDude 10 лет назад

That's actually cool and helpful :-) would've helped me in my last relationship. This channel always does a good job!

@23ilikemovies 10 лет назад

Thank You so much for this video. I have experienced this with a friend of mine. I would always do stuff for him and even though I didn't always get my way I almost always insisted on paying for things or doing stuff for him. He has now since moved out of state and we barely talk anymore. Guess who makes the effort to call the other person? That's right, me. He never calls me and when I do call him he almost never picks up. I now can see why that happens and am extremely grateful for this video. Thank you again so much.

@Mia-uu8fh 8 лет назад

Yall dont know how fukin emo u made me i love this

@MrMathy16 10 лет назад

As always, a LOVEly episode

@mistercraftandstitch 10 лет назад

This was a sweet video, but I would have been more interested in seeing how the person receiving the actions felt the longer they did nothing.

@mikebernstein5488 10 лет назад

Hey Danny! We saw an average of only 1% jump in attraction. Totally scientifically speaking, tis better to give than to receive!

@liv2srf 10 лет назад

Yeah I was expecting that they would also explain how the receiving person felt after that or if/how their test scores changed.

@TheDubilidu 10 лет назад

I'm loving this series :) And just realize that I could possibly not be letting my partner invest so much in the relationship.

@JupiterEH 10 лет назад

I love this series, but I couldn't help but point out that you were in the videos at the Nvidia booth at PAX east! It was cool! But seriously, this is the coolest series along with the happiness series, so keep it up :D!

@WillNunes5 10 лет назад

The series is soooo good! Thank you guys for putting that effort into making these great videos! Greetings from Brazil!

@Draconis8888 10 лет назад

I love this series for the little nuggets of how to be loving and see it shown!

@GregPoblete 10 лет назад

I'm just gonna say it, I love these.

@4Rivers-gd 10 лет назад

Excellent message, thanks..

@starwiz18 8 лет назад

I must say i love watching these videos!!! i always tend to learn alot. THE SCIENCE OF LOVE, keep up the good work!!!

@lulutiofficial 10 лет назад

This show Make me more happy every episode. I dont have a study on that, but I can say its true

@user-vd1sv1vf1r 2 года назад

Wooow!!! Loved this video! Thank you so much for the helpful information shared!!

@maddiemyers2477 10 лет назад

I loved your editing and time-hopping!! REally good both technically and content-ally xP Thanks for helping all us out!! :)

@TheMinhTamPham 10 лет назад

Love this Soul Pancake

@jorgegonzalez1116 10 лет назад

Hola

@giginomous 10 лет назад

love the science of happiness and the science of love mini series!

@aaawwwbbb1995 10 лет назад

I love the science of love videos! Keep them coming!

@whataboutki 10 лет назад

They didn't tell us about the people who didn't do anything. How much did their attraction to the others increase? Or did I miss it?

@whataboutki 10 лет назад

It's not science if you don't share all the results...

@randalljanet 9 лет назад

I'm not sure, but maybe the "as much as 5% more attracted..." Is relating the two groups to each other - instead of to the pretest. Like saying that the change in the active group was 5% bigger than the change in the non active group?

@offline._archive 9 лет назад

sadly, my bf doesn't really put any effort into this relationship... and i usually go out of my way to make him happy...so....

@chikenburger 9 лет назад

Tell him! It's better now then later down the road...

@yesnoyesnoyes7748 3 года назад

wonder how y’all are doing

@BluuLady 10 лет назад

I actually really like Julian's personality :) He seems nice and cute!

@shiftshaper1 10 лет назад

I always go out of my ways for women I like and they never pay it back... but I can't stop it 'cause it's who I am, I guess.

@giselle371 10 лет назад

You guys are my heroes. Thank you so much for sharing your creativity!

@mzuneak 10 лет назад

This video would have worked out great 7 months back! I would have been glad to show my ex this that way she can at least put 1% in our relationship. 5 years down the drain..... And I still have no idea why she broke up with me.

@igg5589 8 лет назад

Missed how many percent (versus 5%) of attractiveness gained opposite sides ?

@meganorr6650 10 лет назад

I like it...a lot. :) Subscribing to your channel was the best decision ever. I always like your videos.

@vinnypharmacist 10 лет назад

It totally makes sense!

@ZalagoX 10 лет назад

This is downright adorable. Love it!

@JDwritesitdown 10 лет назад

This was a beautiful video, and so very true. Thanks for creating the content that you do! :)

@witchplease9695 10 лет назад

You only have to invest time on making someone like you if you're ugly. Attractive people don't have to do anything, people will want them no matter what.

@lalmalsawma2489 Год назад

I don't know why I'm crying 🥴😭

@mariapap5374 5 лет назад

That was so awsome insight!!! Thank you so much!!!!

@neetfif 10 лет назад

What if your partner just isn't taking those chances to contribute to your relationship?

@Thewiseone124 9 лет назад

fuck em

@instantfries 10 лет назад

Oh the outro, I need to know!

@catherinemcnaughtdavis8956 10 лет назад

That ending! :D Brilliant!

@Primaball3rina 10 лет назад

i love this series and julian as a host. he's doing a fantastic job!

@Iamjustinray 10 лет назад

is anyone else falling for Julian as these videos go on???

@MinaRoy 10 лет назад

I liked this. Gave me a lot to reflect on.

@SadiyaK 9 лет назад

It's just beautiful to see people in love :)

@lutho1230 10 лет назад

The presenter of this show or series whatever!... Is Awsome... Dude I swear I just laugh when he makes this small remarks on things... He really makes this a little more awsome.... haha I used the word "awsome" twice..

@amirbagheri100 8 лет назад

those ears make a heart

@kiroskiro 9 лет назад

1:35 She sounds like Phoebe from Friends!

@zeroxcub 10 лет назад

it's just miss a diabolic laugh after the last "science of love" :P great vids anyway

@mrIpodmagic 9 лет назад

so let me get this right, you have to let the other person to invest on you involuntary so that the relationship can go deeper? and a good exercise is to make other people do favors for you?

@Rmandxb 10 лет назад

You are awesome man . Thank you for the tip

@eggarlopez 10 лет назад

These videos are just plain lovely!

@emk3234 10 лет назад

Oh my goodness I love these videos! They always make me teary eyed and they make me miss my boyfriend xD but these videos are very very beautiful and heart warming!

@HKJMusiciansArt 10 лет назад

How easy and logical. However I learned something today something new! :P TX SoulPancake!

@monicachang3054 10 лет назад

Wait so when you're super nice you're more attracted huh

@MINIpie224 10 лет назад

This video is beautiful!

@iliveinmyhead 10 лет назад

Hands up who can think of at least 5 people they want to send this to...

@mskelseypeters 10 лет назад

Best sign off

@monse9471 5 лет назад

Omg the Asian couple is so cute , especially when he drew the heart and she made a heart back with her hands

@JWelk92 10 лет назад

Thought you guys might want to watch this, maybe make a new episode (or even your next season {SoulPancake: The Science of Attraction}) with this The science of attraction - Dawn Maslar

@tcwill22092 10 лет назад

So let me get this right, the more you do for someone the more you become attracted to them?

@manythingsoflife 10 лет назад

But what was the increase in those who were recieving the niceness?

@FedericaRS 10 лет назад

I love your videos guys ! thank you !

@InspiredHits 10 лет назад

The video avoided how many % more those at the receiving end felt attracted to the partner! Would like to know that too. i'm sure all those nice things had an effect...

@trseven100 10 лет назад

"Love" the series...I look forward to new ones. But what's the tie to Benjamin Franklin?

@smartpuppy437 10 лет назад

Will me being nice to a guy make him like me? I mean if a guy is nice to me I will sooner or later develop some feelings

@gbessone 7 лет назад

Sorry the ending wording was a little confusing. So correct me if im wrong: they tested again, and the ones who were receiving the favors become 5% less attracted that their counterparts who were giving the favors? Is this interpretation correct?. Or the ones giving the favors were 5% more attracted compared to themselves before? If the latter is correct, then what about those receiving the favors? Were they more attracted also or stayed the same or less?. This would change the whole meaning. Eg.g. If the ones receiving the favors were 10% more attracted, then it means you are still better off by doing favors than receiving them and the whole experiment would lose its point. Sounds like you are leaving important information out.

@ChibiMii22 10 лет назад

This was so cute and hilarious haha I love it!

@ashleycunningham595 10 лет назад

another awesome video by equally awesome people!

@user-em5bl9je3u Год назад

Isn’t this the same thing as the sunk cost fallacy? Ie “I’ve put too much into this to let it not work”?

@sisideblanc2959 10 лет назад

4:34 was so cute. :)

@CarolinaCastroParra 10 лет назад

I love it... and I will have this teaching more into account when it comes to my relationship with my bf... you know he invest always, I need to invest more...