The BEST that LIFE can offer: orienting toward your highest purpose 

Inspired by my recent trip to Japan, I would like to share with you one of my favorite poems: O snail! Climb Mount Fuji -- but slowly, slowly. Like many haiku, there is a substantial amount of wisdom contained within these three lines, much of which pertains to the best that life has to offer. If you don't see it yet, allow me to offer three lessons contained therein to edify you. Find your Fuji, and climb it as slowly as possible. Social Media Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ Instagram: instagram.com/psyc.hacks Twitter: twitter.com/oriontaraban Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com Orion's Theme: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WrXBzQ2HDEQ.html Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: stellargre.com. Become a Stellar affiliate and earn a 10% commission for every membership purchased by a new student you conduct into the program: stellargre.tapfiliate.com. GRE Bites: www.youtube.com/@grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: ru-vid.com/show-UCSduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXwjoin Book a paid consultation: oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations Sound mixing/editing by: valntinomusic.com Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world. #wisdom #psychology #japan

In an Era where both men and the family unit has become almost obsolete, it’s almost paramount that you fellas find some sort of purpose or meaning in life. Most of you will never get that lovely family that you so wish for, those days are gone. Upgrade and push yourself fellas, you don’t have a choice, or risk drowning in depression.💯

日本人です。 外国人の方にこうやって俳句を学んで頂けるのは嬉しいです。 やはり学の深い方には国籍を問わずに刺さる内容なんでしょうね。

This struck a cord with me because my mental health has not been good lately: "We are happiest when we're climbing. So, if you're in a rut, if you're not feeling very good, then maybe you either need to start gaining elevation or seek out a higher mountain to climb". I immediately hit the like button when he said that.

As my father told me as a young man, “you can only go as fast as you can go.” When you try to go faster you end up making mistakes that end up costing you more time and you end up going slower. I didn’t understand as a kid. I get it now.

“You will discover who you are as you climb it” - excellent

Mr. Taraban! I’ve been listening to you for a while and I must say your ability to meld logic with emotional awareness is *chefs kiss* immaculate. Keep doing what you’re doing! Highly inspirational

"Because this my friends, is where happiness and fulfillment lie. Not in the gaining. Not in the achieving. But in the climbing. If you ever actually achieve then either the whole journey ends or you have to suffer the decline that inevitably follows" What a great analysis for a great poem 🗻

I got to watch Psych Hacks due to the relationship videos. I am glad this channel offers a variety of categories, I hope other subscribers like me see this video. This video is really helpful!

You're slowly (slowly :)) becoming terrific at presenting these ideas. Thanks for the consistently great content. Fellow psychologist chiming in: in a lecture on self-compassion a few years ago the lecturer made a clear distinction between goals and directions - and he referred to something very akin to the latter part of this video. Goals are good...they provide meaning for some time. The problem comes when you achieve them: now what? Directions are better. They provide meaning, endlessly. Being completely honest could be a direction. Being hard-working. Being kind to yourself and others. You can develop traits like these tremendously in a year or two - but you'll never be "done." You'll keep failing, now and then, and probably keep discovering new roadblocks that you weren't aware of. Or you'll become pissed, depressed, or give up, and start all over again. Find a direction, or a few directions that align with each other. Don't choose something that you can ever be completely done with.

I’ve never heard anything truer. It’s importants to find purpose in life especially as men that’s the only thing we have left in our control.

There is no such thing as perfection, only the continued climb for excellence!!!

Climbing slowly also means you won’t make slide down from rushing up the mountain too quickly. Climbing slowly will make you surpass almost everyone you encounter, living life with a steady foot.

Quite possibly my favorite of all the episodes. It really resonates with me because I am a very very slow climber, and part of the reason is, well, I like to enjoy the view on the way up and don’t want to miss anything. Thank you Dr. Taraban for bringing some much needed Eastern knowledge, wisdom and perspective to a world that simply moves too fast.

This reminds me of my favorite poem ever, learned in high-school and still remembering it now at 38. It's written by Lucian Blaga, a Romanian writer and philosopher, in 1964. Here goes the original in Romanian (my English translation will follow): == Întrebare și răspuns == Ce ne va tine totdeauna tineri? Adu o jertfa zi de zi zeitei mari, paginei Vineri! Hraneste cald, oricare-ar fi, un vis ce nu se va-mplini! And here goes my (almost literal) English translation since I'm not aware of any: == Question and answer == What will keep us forever young? Make a sacrifice, each passing day To grand goddess, pagan Friday! Nurture slowly, whichever it might be A dream that will never come to be! Above, "nurture slowly" would be "nourish warm" in the original, but I don't think that conveys the intended meaning too well in English. Also, the part about the pagan goddess Friday took me a while to understand, but in old Romanian tradition this goddess would forbid women from doing house chores on Fridays. So I presume what Blaga intended that verse to mean was: forgo some of your daily chores or obligations (which is a kind of sacrifice if you end up with a less than clean house or clothes, or eating unhealthy food maybe?) and dedicate the time to that burning passion of yours. I love it so much because in just 5 verses it manages to touch on a lot of important issues in life: you'll feel young and motivated if you have a passion; a passion will require some sacrifices; you have to cultivate that passion, but not too hastily or so much that it either dies of malnutrition or of being overfed and then you're left out without a dream to pursue. A small objection here is that one might then switch to another passion, to which someone might object that if you burn through a passion so quickly, you don't get to explore its full potential, its full richness of pleasures that it can reward back to you. Anyway, it's a poem I love :)

"I prefer to aim high and fail than to aim low and succeed"

Slowly, slowly also means: focus, concentrate to now moment and do climbing at the best you can. It not only destination is the measure of traveller's spirit, but also quality of effort to present task extending your quality qualification.

Live an epic life,exactly

“One must imagine Sisyphus happy…”

7:10 exactly. “Happiness is not a destination, but a way of life.” -Unknown

This is great, Orion… it’s not in the achieving, it’s in the doing! Takes care of “fear of failure resistance” & self- condemnation for “failure” to reach goals. Thank you!

Funny enough, though your relationship videos are a true game changer, this video is a lifechanging piece. A gem

Thanks for the upload. I like this because in a way it’s contrary to the ideals ingrained in a lot of us, especially in the states. It’s common to hear that “life’s too short” and so we need to make things happen, which creates haste. And often times the speed at which we can make things happen is seen as valuable. Hustle-culture, for example. It’s a status quo that I think gets ingrained so deeply, that the all value is taken out of the journey and only placed in the end goal. It also reminds me of another belief held amongst many in Asia that’s similar: the idea of “happiness”. In the states, it sometimes feels like happiness is the only truly acceptable emotion - not always, but it’s almost like “it’s bad to be sad” (toxic positivity) maybe not in an extreme/literal sense, but being happy, seeking happiness, and avoiding sadness and distancing yourself from anything that doesn’t make you happy is a concept I’ve seen pushed a lot in my life. And a lot of us will make big, life-altering decisions chasing happiness, even if we’re unsure happiness will be the outcome of the decision. Whereas in a lot of Asian countries, I think happiness and sadness are seen as equals, like yin and yang. Sadness is embraced, rather than avoided or buried - because really they can’t exist without the other - and even on a biological level, sadness as an emotion wouldn’t exist if it didn’t serve a purpose. I’ll disclaim, this is anecdotal, and I could probably be mistaken on a lot of it. Hell, I think this is the premise of the Pixar movie ‘Inside Out’. Regardless, great video as always!

So, the answer is God, the only infinite and eternal Goal... But, of course, that means that, within yourself, the road is also infinite, the road to perfecting yourself in virtue and knowledge (of self and God). And, also, that means generosity to your fellow men, because,vyou don't advance, if you disregard them. Finally, if you are a working person in the world, with a family, you need to set yourself to achieve in the family and professionally, also, because it's a road to attaining virtues and good things for the people you love. GREAT VIDEO, I learned a LOT, thank you

Thank you Orion, I love this so much. Progress in my life has been so painstakingly slow, and I never feel like it’s fast enough. This is great perspective.

As you have said it in your other videos, that why there are so few people watch your channel even your content is so valuable, full of knowledge and so easy to understand. It amazes me that few people noticed your wonderful content.

What a master piece, thank you

This is awesome. Thanks man. Im off to grab lunch. Slowely.

Thank you ❤

I lived there for three years. It is a wonderful culture.

"The Goal is beyond you, but the means are within You." Bars

your are not only a north american psychologist, but a europeen philosopher, an asian wiseman an african shaman and a near-eastern prophet

great episde. For me the important part is also to recongnize that Mount Fuji isn't just about status, or money or job title. It can and should also be about being the best husband/ wife, father/ mother/ and friend etc... The quest to be the best person you can be in ALL the relationships that matter to you is never ending and the goal perhaps even higher than Mount Fuji.

Dr. Taraban, you are doing a massive service to a lot of people through your youtube posts. God bless you!

This video reminds me of the tales involving alchemists or wizards turning lead into gold. It's not about base metals. Really a metaphor for a man's life. Thank you for this video.

Thanks!

this is one of your best best video, so good explanation and clarity

You’ve explained why I get a big let-down after achieving a major goal. Facing this right now. It’s Time to refocus on the next big goal

Wonderful.

Another banger. Thanks Orion.

I'm kind of a late bloomer and I think I do pretty well for myself, but after recently turning 34 I can't help having a 60 second or so existential panic every other morning I wake up and feeling like I'm so far behind other people. Maybe I'm just inside my own head too much. I don't know. Not sure what the answer is, but this episode helps a lot. Thanks Orion.

So eloquent and brilliant. Here's to you Coach Orion

His videos are truly remarkable. ❤ life lessons.

Thanks Doc. I will keep this priceless lesson close to heart, those three lines and your take on them is just golden.

The patience of Dr. Orion is legendary

Thank you Doc Orion, you've nailed exactly what I needed, what was disturbing my mind and my life lately. It's such a relief! I have always been very goal and purpose orientated, but lately, particularly after experiencing a family loss + other issues, I had lost my drive, meaning, purpose and excitment for my goals. Also the time they're taking me to achieve was causing discouragement....Everything is crystal clear now. And I feel so much peace after watching carefully your video. . My joy is coming back. At last. Thank you again Dr Taraban🎉.

Well said. Thank you.

Thank you so much for this. I really need to listen more like this.

Wow. Never knew how much I needed this episode. Thank you brother.

Your purpose should be your first goal, your purpose will never leave you, will never take half of your money, will never dissapoint you. I cant say that for females, so chase your purpose, not females. Or you will be dissapointed in life.

One must imagine Sisyphus happy.

Preciate you sharing the wisdom.

That is spot on.

As always dropping bombs of Wisdom. Thank you

Continual striving. Love it. 🙏

BRILLIANT!!

so much wisdom!

Awesome content Orion. Keep it coming. Love your name as well, very cool!

Thank you Orion

Love this poem and the interpretation! One of your best videos to date. ❤

Great episode! Thanks

Beautiful poem and beautiful interpretation.

Brilliant video. Well done.

EXCEPTIONAL VIDEO!!! It provides a necessary insight on life, AND....NOT A SINGLE CURSE WORD!!! Great job Mr. Orion.

One of your best... and it reminds me I'm on my own path, through my own night, being my on light....But I'd like to add something. I agree with this story in the technical sense > to achieve a practical goal or skill, for example Learning a language or profession. But is there anything to achieve in the psyche? I will become peaceful, calmer or loving by a technique, a system,..... in time. Being aware of whatever state I'm in is the only logical thing to do. Spychologically Mount F. is a problem... it is merely an invention of thought. The art of repairing an engine is real, in the sense that a technique is a problem solver. Here the ideal is a fixed engine that runs perfect. If we transport this to the psyche ( as we often do and as society indoctrinated us to do ) it is a way of blinding ourselves.

Berrific, Magnificent!!!

This is the best video on here. The snail poem beats all.

1. Aim for a lofty goal, e.g. starting a family 2. Do it on your terms, e.g. don't get married or get a pre-nup 3. Take your time, e.g. don't worry about age 30 as being a deadline. It takes as long as it takes to build yourself up, find someone, vet someone, etc. Enjoy the process

Thank you, wonderful poem, wonderful essay.

And this video deserves a big LIKE 👍🏼

fantastic!Thank You my friend!

Love the first two points. Strive for the highest goal and do it according to your unique characteristics.

entertaining, educating, inspiring form and function in conjunction this is a piece of art

Wow, I like all of your videos, but I really needed to hear this right now. It's spot on for me. Thank you for sharing your ideas with us and please keep on doing!

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Hope to see more video like this (wisdom type of content) in the future. Subscribed. Thank you. 🙏

You have giddy smile for the snail poem. I really enjoyed the poem too!

Thank you chéri. Like listen to you! Much Love from South of France ✨💫🌟💛💚🧡💖💝🍀☀️✨

Appreciating this really valuable message doc, you put it in a very clear, smart, intelligent and even funny way. Pleasure listening to you. Thank you for your work :)

Great video. Thank you.

Wow, so true! I can actually attest to that. I have reached my goal and now I'm a bit depressed because I don't have a new goal (yet). I hope it will come to me soon..

Best words have heard om goals... Well done sir

Oh wow great message Dr. Taraban thanks for this video! I guess our Ego wants things in a drive-thru format, instantaneous but as you explained its a journey and it takes time.

It is really a good advice to be frank.

I like this poem a lot.

I finally get why Sisyphus is happy 😮 this video blew my mind a lil bit 🖖🏽❤️

Little snail, know that sometimes you even have to take a rest. And that, most people don't want to see you up there, because it would shame them. They have already given up, and given themselves for cheap goals, but you are the type who never gives up, aiming for perfection.

Spot on from my personal experience. Quantum computing is a difficult subject I have tackled. It demands enlisting all my faculties to make learning progress.

U great man❤

Hey bro, thanks for making my life better. This made me feel good about being me.

I come back to this video whenever I am depressed or frustrated, as a woman our thinking have some differences and though I trouble getting some ideas you share on this channel but this video is one your best best, I am grateful you made this video, thanks 🙌🙌

Amazing video 🔥

Great content and channel ❤❤

Deep… thank you

We need to try bring more good and wisdom into this world. Like dr. Orion. It goes beyond personal purpose.

¡Gracias!

This does fit with my own experience of being a snail.

Enjoy the journey.

Thank you.

I really needed this one

🤯🤯🤯 this was good