The biggest barrier to happiness + success 🫠 

📲 Pssst, our Pick Up Limes app is out now (1-week free trial!): bit.ly/PUL_app 🎉 … now it’s your turn! What’s a goal you’ve had. What fear or belief is holding you back? Rewrite the narrative in a more empowering way 💪 🥅 Goal: (e.g. *I want to start exercising*) ⛔ Unconscious saboteur: (e.g. *I fear looking weak*) 👉 Conscious mind: (e.g. *I’m capable of change, and the results will come in time*)

I've suffered from clinical anxiety and depression for most of my life. One day while doing yard work I saw a tree ensnared in vines suffocating it. I realized that was me, my own growth as a person was stunted by this vine of mental illness. I realized that my depression and anxiety are not who I am and I can chop down those creeping vines when I make the conscious decision to acknowledge how I feel and choose to not let them sabotage me and my growth as a person. Thanks for making the content the world really needs! ❤

Sadia hits me with so many wise truths in such a gentle way I can actually comprehend!!

"We create obstacles to justify our poor performance or lack of effort"... you just summarized my life in one sentence.

Our own self high expectations make us feel like we failed before we have even started. "Focus on progress not perfection" Thank you Sadia for this

I use the 2 minute rule from James Clear's book when I don't feel like doing something I know I should. He says that doing something for just two minutes every day is vital to forming a habit.

Sadia, I have been using your clips in my classroom in Vancouver for the last two years, and you have made a difference in my student's lives. Thank you for being such an amazing role model. BTW - we love seeing images of our hometown in your videos!

This is such timely advice. I have been putting off job applications for a long while now because I keep assuming I will be rejected before ever even applying. And I think this stems from a degree of imposter syndrome. I also have so many personal project ideas I’ve been sitting on for years which I’m too afraid/lazy to start. This video is an excellent reminder for me to capitalise on those waves of inspiration and just go for it. Thank you Sadia!!

Sadie, thank you. I have made a career out of self sabotage. I ballooned up to 500+pounds just by thinking I am not worthy. 6 years of this prison. I am on the road to a beautiful painless life 100 pounds down. Just by being accountable and positive. Thank you for bringing this to light and reminded me I can still do this….it is hard as Hell. ❤️

Hey Sadia, thank you for this video. I had a crippling fear of driving. At 30 I finally learned how to drive, got my license and bought a car. It’s made my life so much easier. It took so many years to change “I can’t” to “I am capable”. My life has dramatically improved because of this. Love your videos ❤

Can you please make a podcast channel?? Your voice is soooo soothing to listen to. I love episodes like these ❤ Thank you!

The fear of judgment always bothers me but working on it.

The quote: "I'm going to focus on progress, not perfection" hit me deep. I've always been an anxious person. Scared of what the future brings. Thought I wasn't good enough or never will be good enough. That has stopped me from doing so many things. This year I promised myself to at least try it. And if I fail it's still progress. Maybe I wasn't perfect but I still tried and that's what makes me feel better. Thank you Sadia and the Pick up Limes Team for this inspiring video :) I would love to see more of those ;)

Sadia, I really want you to make a tea time Tuesday video on Handling Criticism from yourself & those around you.

Goal: 1. I want to feel healthier (post surgeries and covid) 2. I want to be less anxious 3. I want to grow my RU-vid channel faster Unconscious saboteur: 1. I hate feeling weak and unhealthy especially, because I used to be very active (not athletic, but effortlessly active, could play a badminton game easily after not exercising for weeks), 2. I fear that my fears keep me safe from unprecedented failures or events, and if I stop feeling anxious, I will get in trouble, I will miss some clue about an impending crisis and suffer 3. I keep thinking about videos, and then feel it might not be good enough for people to watch. Conscious mind: 1. My body is amazing, that it has recovered so much in short span of time, it will get better slowly 2. I think my anxiety has no role in keeping me safe, I can keep myself safe without it, and in a calm and peaceful manner 3. Just put your content out there, and it doesn't matter if each and every video doesn't resonate with the audience.

i so needed this video today. i've been putting off my uni assignment, i've convinced myself i can't do it, even thought i've been doing them for 6 years now lol. only because my last one i didn't get the score i wanted, i kind of feel i've given up, i'm really cruel with myself. i've been saying thing to myself like "i'm clearly not as smart as i thought i was" " i bet everyone else is doing well, apart from me because i'm useless" "ill never amount to anything, because i'm simply not good enough" my brain is driving me crazy with this nasty self talk, but i don't know how to stop it. noone has ever believed in me either, so i don't really have or had supportive people around me. one of the reasons i love your videos, you inspire me to do better.

''Don't waste time doubting yourself. Just go for it!'' Love this!

Sadia, it's Holi today on 7th March in India when I am writing this, and there's a ritual here where we pray that all the negativity in our life burns away making room for the colours of life. I came back from the ritual and I saw this video. It honestly touched me very deeply as to all the aspects you discussed and I can really feel from within that I can really do the things I always wanted to do. So well let's go straight to the objective right! I want to work on myself - nurturing every aspect of my existence - the physical, emotional, mental , spiritual, psychological , philosophical - every aspect of mine with utmost care. I used to care less about me. I didn't feel that I could be fit, or I should indulge in self care but now I know ! I will workout ( I have already started & I am enjoying) , elevate my diet standards ( taking help from your videos ) fix my schedule, meditate, travel, socialise, read books and learn every fine thing the world has to offer!! I am working and I will strengthen on my career. I will always try to skill up, searching for your ways to do things , taking a sustainable yet innovative approach. Being in touch with reality yet developing it for the better is my objective! I want to do things for my family and all the people I love and well if possible, for the world & nature as well. I deserve to and I want to be loved. I already feel fortunate that there's not too much bother in my life but yes, I want to grow more on love, I want to make the people around me feel loved. Well , exams are coming by, I am prepping up for them, I will smash them with finesse. I will prepare well and won't be afraid on my capabilities and do great on the exams in career or life! I feel so happy to hear your thoughts. You are Robin's love is serene and a bliss. I wish the goodness protects you. So well , Time to enact!! See ya :) I wish that whenever if ever I see this comment again, I am at a better place. If anyone else sees this comment, I hope they do super good! 😃💫

The overthinking it part hit me. I overthink everything and maybe I just need to start and don’t worry about it being perfect, just the progress is enough

I needed this message today. I’ve been overthinking all night and sobbed all night. I couldn’t function at work. I came home early to take a long nap and ate. I watched this video and now have a different perspective on my situation. Thank you.

I have become way too lazy lately. I have become very very comfortable in where I am, inspite of knowing this isn't the place I want to be in anymore. I am always doubting myself that I will not be able to do it, and have almost stopped making any efforts with the narrative of being incapable or burnt out. The truth is, I have stopped trying. I have been self sabotaging my growth and my unconscious mind is my biggest enemy. This was the biggest reality check I needed. Thank you Sadia for making me realize that it's all in the way we think and perceive our journey.

Didn't realize how much I needed this today! Thanks (as always) for the break to take a breath, slow down, and reflect. Time to get out of my way!

Just finishing a book called Permission to Feel, great book for understanding emotions.

You sound like a poet! Love your videos.

Sadia, could you talk more about how to create an action bias. For a while I've known that self-handicaping is what I do quite often usually through overthinking and fearing rejection and judgement. Just in small daily things I tend to overthink and this can be literally anything. Since I've realised this I've gotten better at catching myself however, it takes a lot of cognitive energy to do that. So creating a bias for action sounds like a really interesting approach which I could use.

The self doubt comes up in mind so many times and procrastinate the dream. This was super helpful.

I totally resonate with the bias towards action advice. I have been dreaming about being a location independent yoga teacher for 5 years now, and have been holding myself back from taking my teaching online due to my insecurity of being in front of the camera and the voice that tells me I am not good enough, don’t know enough, not cool enough, look ridiculous on camera etc….. In the last 1.5 years, thanks to outer circumstances that literally pulled the safety carpet from under my feet (e.g. I lost my „stable“ day job) I have been diving into a wave of actions. They were all super scary and I felt like I am going in blindly (filming Yoga videos, starting a RU-vid channel, creating an Online Yoga program etc) but the further I went the more I realized each scary action brings me a little closer to my authentic me. Because once you go for it, you realize… oooh, it’s actually not as scary as I thought! Or even… I am good at this / this is fun! Today, I am living a life that I thought is impossible to achieve for myself. I can live where I want and put my energy into sharing with others what‘s important to me. Of course I am constantly challenged (every day 😂) by new little or big obstacles, but I now know that these kind of fears and resistances only help me to push against and superspeed me further on my way to finding my authentic lifestyle. It never gets boring 😅 Cheers and support to anyone going through the scary phases these days and thank you Sadia for your inspiring content! ❤

I'm reading "Atomic Habits". James Clear says the process is more important than the goal. When you reach a goal, you always have to set a new one. When you create a process, you become "that person" and then you're just moving forward, goal or not. I like that. My goal is to eat more plants and my underlying belief is that it's too much work. Watching your channel, I see I need to stop calling it "work". AHA! xo karen

You feel like a breath of fresh air in a chaotic world, you’re a gift to this world, thank you for existing. ❤️

Hey Sadia. I'm a Psychology student and I have been studying the concept that you have beautifully appreciated in this video for a long time. Being a student I feel that there's a lot of uncertainty about things that will be taking place in the coming future as students don't earn money or have not been financially independent. And I find that as one of the most fear-giving aspects. But over 1 year I have realised that there's so much more than what I'm doing. The continuous conflict between conscious and unconscious thoughts leads to several mental as well as health conditions. Keep making more of these videos ❤️

The world needs more empathetic and caring female role models like Sadia. Really, after so many disappointing acquaintances and friendships with women (I‘m one myself) I‘d be the happiest to have such a genuine female friend.

sadie always coming to rescue with right content!

Self-sabotage may be the biggest thing we can control individually. But, it also helps immensely to understand that the economic systems we are a part of are inherently oppressive and bad for mental health. This knowledge is powerful.

Hey, I would like to thank you very much for this video. I live and come from Poland and my sabotage immediately told me after the movie - you will never be able to thank this person because your English is very bad and you are so hopeless that you will never learn more than you can. Thanks to you, I immediately caught this sabotage and immediately thought about the solution of our time regarding this one of a million problems - help with google translate. And now I'm sitting and writing this message because I really feel that despite my development and partial exit from your patterns, I never thought about self-handicapping and sabotage. I've never seen it in myself. I saw reasons outside and within myself, but completely different, criticizing and judging myself. I am a beginner artist dealing with engaged art and I am just finishing my studies, which is associated with a huge project. Every day many plan how to do it best, and every day I feel too weak, too busy, too inadequate to do what I plan to do and finish my project, and to take care of myself. I think I'll be watching this video for a while every morning before breakfast. Maybe this will help me stop sabotaging myself so much. Thank you again. After this video my soul and my heart and my mind are several steps ahead. I send you as much warmth as you gave me. Thank you 🤍

You are the calm in the chaos. Thank you 🙏

As a psychologist…yes. You’re spot on. We like comfort and certain, it’s safe. But long term it’s not. We don’t get stronger, which keeps us in a disadvantage. And yes…be aware.

When you procrastinate alot eventually you're going to start doubting your ability to actually make that step. You'd be killing your dreams unknowingly because your mind is like what's the point of even dreaming if I'm never going to actualize it. Procrastination prevents change. It springs up from the fear of leaving comfort. We all like to stick to the predictable. However I'll still advocate for not rushing into decisions because we feel that adrenaline rush. Take time to examine your motivations, strategize, pray if you will and then most importantly take that first step it will all come along as you go on. Don't let your fears or inadequacies stop you from experiencing life.

Great video and tip! Regarding your fitness goals - maybe the reason you’re uninspired is that you haven’t found the right activity for you? I hate regular exercises, but swing dancing and acroyoga give me so much joy!

I haven’t lost my pregnancy weight in 15 years. I have learned that I sabotage myself my shaming myself and by placing everyone above me. I am learning to decrease my “people pleasing “ tendencies. It really saves me time and energy to know or reframe what I have done and say “That’s all I have to give, I need to save my strength and energy to love myself.”

Sadia these worlds hit home very hard. You have a very spot on intuition. A few months ago I had just broken up with my ex and it was horrible. I loved him deeply and his attachment style (dismissive avoidant) caused me so much pain. He dumped me and moved on with indifference. I fell into a depression that took months to claw my way out of. By the time I was coming up to needing to do revision for final exams for my master's, I had built a narrative in my head that I was not going to get a good grade because of my mental health struggles earlier so why bother? I spent ages slipping into self destructive habits, but I was miserable every day. I'm a person who thrives off improvement, growth and achieving my goals. This was a big mistake for me to give into the inner critic. Not only did it hamper my goals but it created a horrible feedback loop that took going to see a CBT therapist to challenge. She said, 'how do you know you won't do well?' and I couldn't answer her because in all honesty I didn't know. That's all it took to change my behaviour! from that moment on I spent the next 6 weeks doing nothing but work and exercise every day. I revised until my hand cramped up. And I'm still trying every day to have the wisdom and self knowledge to catch when this self sabotage is happening, or when I overthink achieving my goals and don't actually take action because I fear hating the quality of what I produce.

You have no idea how much this video answers all of my feelings today.

Not only do I find this video helpful for myself, but I'm also realizing these ideas can make us all more empathetic to others as well. Thank you. 🌹

These videos are absolutely fantastic. You deserve 10M subscribers. I feel the same way after watching your videos as I do after spending time with a good friend.

Hey! It’s literally the excerpt of the book I recently read- “The mountain is You”. Thanks for speaking it out loud! :)

I have been feeling so tired and demotivated lately. Thank you for this

I've just downloaded the free Wim HOF App and completed my first guided breathing session and I feel great. I've endured so much stress these past few years with the death of my daughter and I realise I need to start looking after my own MH now. Listening to Sadia helps as she is so soothing and so wise.

I feel so strongly EVERY word said here... Some years ago I found out that my children were not "difficult" and I was not "a bad parent", but they are autistic with adhd. Trying to understand them and myself more, I went for my own diagnosis and discovered I am autistic, with adhd. This explained my life and their lives, but gave my unconsciousness a lot of excuses and self-doubt, tons of ways of sabbotaging myself... Even after making lots of decisions for the good of my family and my own, and after I managed to find in my life things that inspire me, I was still saying to myself how much I cannot do, because... Sometimes things I would never said to myself in my 20s or even 30s... Thank you for stating it clearly and repeating that you go to therapist, because when I decided I want to leave my job, homeschool my youngest and enter doTerra business, I started my therapy. Today I chat a lot with my consciousness and unconsciousness... And here I am... managing both and still going for what's best for us... Thank you for this wonderful message... I feel that I will be coming back to this many times...

Your timing on this video was pure kismet in my life. Can’t even begin to explain. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏽

One of the things I noticed about myself after also going through a fitness/workout break and easing back into it, is that when I see my progress infront of me (seeing how many times I worked out per week) I feel more motivated and empowered to do more vs not seeing my progress. I’ve had moments where I forget I worked out three times a week till I see that I did and I suddenly feel like I got this 💪🏽 Track your progress friends! And reflect more often on it.

I identify so much. I have been following you for years and I can relate to a lot of your content. Also the expat life and European culture. Thanks for your work

I am soo happy these videos are back! Reminds me of tea time Tuesdays! Old follower ❤️

Wonderful!!! I have been saying I can't and don't want to eat in. I end up making food choices that don't follow my plant based wants and then feel so much guilt and embarrassment. I am afraid of the cooking takes to long, that I get frazzled and get snappy with my husband and kids. When watching this, I challenged myself to think I can eat at home, I have all the food already paid for, I can choose more simple meals to make, I can slow down and invite my family to cook with me, we can chat and laugh in our home, and not throw food away. And all staying with the plant based goals we have and save so much money and time.

Something as simple as eating healthy and working out has become the biggest challenge. I am unable to lose 20 pounds and cannot eat healthy and go to gym. This issue becomes bigger bigger and I try to start eating healthy but I fall out of it again

Via watching your incredibly handful videos, not only am I enjoying my time, but also I'm increasing my English knowledge..

I think it is more about taking small actions gradually and learning by doing (i.e., getting empirical data) instead of overthinking everything (i.e., keep generating false internal data), than it is about dissecting the conscious/unconscious mind (it is hard to tell which is which, plus some people's "conscious" mind can still be toxic, over-confident and full of dangerous desires).

i've been having those self sabotaging talks with myself for many years and recently i've acknowledged and changed the narrative and now my conscious and subconscious mind are fighting against each other, lol 😄 On a serious note, i've been implementing this "cognitive reframing" just like the way you mentioned in the video and my life has improved in the past few weeks. For anyone reading this, please know that if we can perceive our fear as a positive force instead of negative, then we can stop the self sabotage and be a better human being.

There is NO SUCH THING as Self Sabotage. What is preventing your goals is an internal part that expects pain or unsafety when you would do these things you want - it has your BEST interest in mind. You can explore this Part inside yourself and ask what it needs and find a WIN-WIN for both parts (e.g. the part that does want to work out and the one that doesnt). Be open(!) because you might realize that what you are conciously wanting now is not what you actually want or in that specific way. Everything inside of you wants your well being, it is just that these parts have different perspectives and are currently opposed to another.

The video has come to me when I needed some sort of comfort. I have been dealing with some comment and ignorance from family who assume that I’m at fault always and don’t even bother to listen to my side of story or emotion. I had some hope but it was crushed. Now, I’m beginning to come to terms with the fact that you need to be there for yourself and never be dependent on others for any validation, emotional comfort. It sounds tough to accept that but it is how it is. Don’t sabotage yourself by thinking that you’re alone and no one’s there for you; you need to be there for yourself and know that the higher power is there with us.

You'r so right when you say that overthinking is sometimes what holds us back. I lived the same situation with my boyfriend who no longer needs to motivate himself to go to the gym, he just does it. So one day I tried not to think too long about it and just got dressed and went to the gym. And fortunately, sport has an immediate effect so that after one or two times, it is a virtuous circle and we naturally want to go back. But this can be applied to many things in life ! Just act, you'll so proud after :)

Thanks for a different perspective on self sabotage. Much appreciated.

My narrative is that I fear being rejected (both by others and myself) + not being/doing good enough or not having it in me. But I don't know how to change it and sometimes it feels impossible to change those beliefs :(

I have been sabotaging my work because unconsciously I think I can’t do it. That I’m not smart enough, or focused enough, and everyone else is attacking me. My narrative will change to: of course I can, take one thing at a time, and instead of feeling everyone is working to attack me, I’m going to think everyone is going towards the same goal as a team!

Robin sounds like a very wise person! I love the idea of having a bias towards action.

I have a big set of exams coming up in a few weeks, and I keep finding myself avoiding studying. I often find myself caught in this narrative that I'm already behind on the studying process... that I didn't pay attention perfectly in all my classes and now studying is going to be so much harder and I'm just going to fail anyways, so why bother with starting studying. But when I tune in with my conscious mind I can pick a different story: I don't have to do this all at once. My goal isn't to ace all my exams, it's to get comfortable and confident applying the material we've learned. This isn't something that's going to come all at once, but every day I work at it will get me a little closer. As you said in the video, focus on progress, not perfection

I love these inspirational video from you (also the food videos obviously) - you're like the wise, calming sister I never had 💛

There couldn't be more perfect timing for me to watch this video. I struggled so much to get things done at work (if they required deep-dive or were not urgent), I wanted to start practicing yoga again but don't get up early enough before my 2yo buddy wakes up and I always excuse myself - I had rough night/months/2 years. That's why I lack energy to do something I really need! :) There is also an empty nutella jar in front of me, 3 spoons one day, 5 the other and it's gone. And it's one big regret. I'll make sure not put it in my shopping cart next time and well, let's see if starting my day early will allow me to do stuff I care about and still have energy to do my best for the ones that are most important. Keep up great work! You're amazing :)

Thanks for bringing this...tea times back😊

This is like a mini therapy session. Absolutely love how you consolidate everything and convey in such gentle and calming way. You're a star :D

Thank you so much for this , i needed this so much ❤️ i hope i get better asap

Thank you❤️❤️❤️!!!from Ukraine! this is very relevant to me right now… thank you! and thank you, because such open, positive, soulful people give confidence in a bright, happy future🙏❤️ thank you for sharing knowledge and Light!❤️❤️❤️

I have realised thanks to you that I have to make my unconscious mind conscious. ❤ Thanks Sadia.

This video is like therapy. ❤

This is the stuff I already know in my mind, but it's always helpful to hear from the outside. I usually end up distracting myself or try to do too much at once to stall my progress. Challenging fears and turning them into something more motivating is great I think my biggest fear is change, but it's also something I've recognized as something I want. I also remember relating a lot to both fear of failure and fear of success in my psychology classes. It's funny because it feels like they should be at odds, but they work together pretty well to stall me.

Hello PUL! Most often we go through these situations and tag it 'just feeling a bit low' and feeling that everything is beyond our control. Thank you for talking about this. I feel I needed to hear this. Always looking forward to your uploads!

I think my main self-sabotage is not trying to get a job or starting a business by fear of failure, rejection and performance anxiety... I have several mental disorders that impact those feelings and make them so worse that it can lead me to not wanting to live anymore. But I still think that not trying is my main self-sabotage because I know other people with the same disorders who have their own business. And even though they can't work when their health is too bad, they do have some sort of income from time to time. Allowing them to create safety, stability and comfort for themselves. A lot of basic needs that I don't currently fulfill for myself...

Thank you so much Sadia for existing. You are immensely inspirational. I am sitting here with so much to do and yet I can’t seem to find the energy, the drive to do it. I am 46 years old and feel completely lost. Your message has given me a small boost of energy to get up and tackle at least one thing today. Thank you and May God bless you, your family, your health and your business. Hugs to you ❤

TBH, Ur videos helped me alot.. u elucidate what I've been struggling with SELF-SABOTAGE. I used to face fear or failure along with fear of success and fear of judgment. Escaped to abroad pursuing PhD in a foreign language culture environment, was so aspired nd enthusiastic in my first 1 yr yet after enjoying the success, i started to face the fear of success and overwhelming response and then trying to sabotage and lost progress and self-doubt feel so down and behind compared to my peers. now in 4th yr yet not much progress in my Dissertation. I wish to get driven by conscious mind and go on track. hope i can do so sooner.

Today, I want to sayto you that I love you. Not because you have inspired me to evolve, but because by watching you, I am reminded of how far I have come to identifying and working on self-sabotage, and how I have come to love myself. This self-love allows me to accept my flaws, but also pushes me to go beyond self-sabotage and better myself. Thank you for reminding me that I hold the power within. ❤

Sadia, oh my gosh, you are a boon to this world. You made this video and delivered the exact messages I needed for the behaviors I've been struggling with for 4-5 years now. I'm recovering from chronic, severe depression and self-sabotage is absolutely my #1 hurdle. I have to lose around 65-70 lbs, eat more wholesome home cooked meals, and continue moving my body more regularly and enjoy this process of leveling up. I also need to take action on all thee ideas that have been percolating in my mind for several years but never had the focus, will, belief and gumption to actually take action on before. I am going to make my own decisions for my life, commit to them, and be more fearless about my choices. Things may have gone poorly in the past for me, but I made those decisions from my heart and with integrity and I will continue doing the same now & believe in myself. You inspire me so much and I send you all the love, gratitude and warmth in the world. Many thanks!

Mad respect to this channel for videos like this

I have the feeling I'm watching this video in the right moment. I've struggled a lot with procrastination, overthinking and perfectionism and normally the "how to not procrastinate" kind of videos never really worked for me. I sensed that the topic of self sabbotaging in this context, is the right way to explain a lot of my weaker habits and reactions that come with more difficult things like exams, projects and even daily tasks. I think the roots of self sabotaging are deeple conected with a lack of self trust. Why aren't you starting the project right away? Lack of self trust in your own talents and your work. I really want to break free from that believe and start to live my daily life not just with more confidence but with more trust in myself, and that I can do things. In our society we are so often reminded of the things we cannot do or have to improve so we tend to forget what strenghs we have and how much one can grow on that self trust we have in ourselfs. Thank you so much for this video!! ❤

I think I have been self-sabataging by not turning my hobby into a side business like I have wanted to for a year now. I also think I fear change, and that has kept me in my job that I am not really happy in. But I am going to school and am a single mother, so changes like that can be very scary. My goal is to turn my hobby into a business, and eventaully work for myself through school. That would allow me freedom, more time with my son, and a number of other positive things. Thank you!

such an important message. reminded me of the book "The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery" which is a gem to get into if self sabotage is something one suffers with..

Could relate to this video in so many ways! Thanks for making this Sadia

This hit home. Thank you.

Keep up the great work. You are one of the best channels on RU-vid. More genuine than most.

Love this. It’s always better to try than to have nothing at all

This video hit me on so many different level. Thank you Sadia!

your advice on overcoming self-sabotaging is so inspiring. thank you Limes!!

Thank you for all of the research you do in your videos. I love them! So encouraging and motivating!

Thank you so much for these tea time tuesday videos. They’ve been making such a positive impact on my mental health 💕

This exercise was so helpful, thank you so much! 😌 🥅Goal: asking a friend to meet up ⛔Unconscious saboteur : I have nothing to give and I feel unlovable (goodness, that's hard to admit) ➡️Behaviour: procrastinating, not asking 💪🏼Conscious mind: I know I have so many beautiful qualities and I am capable of socializing and being vulnerable. Social anxiety is hard, but remember: social stuff doesn't have to go perfect in order to be likable or lovable. I've been struggling with social anxiety, so this is an amazing exercise to investigate it, instead of only being overwhelmed by it 💪🏼

I've been going through this and I found that when I caught myself in this pattern, I try to redirect my focus so that I am back on track :) being gentle to yourself is important

Very wise, Sadia! Good to see you and feel into your words ❤️

That’s exactly it. I’ve been struggling with this intensely for years. This explains it. I’m self handicapping working out bc I know my performance/results are going to be judged by whatever partner I’m with. I can’t bring myself to do it. Thank you Sadia for explaining it to me you’ve really helped me out. New belief could be “I’m taking care of my health for my future self”

I ghost people a lot because I'm so self conscious about how the world perceives me so every time I try to change I just feel so judged and unfit in any new situation or group that I run away back to my solitude.

Great timing 😊 Thank you Sadia for your peaceful, calming videos ❤

Thank you! Thank you !! I really needed this !! 😖🤧 Love & light ❤️

I absolutely loved this video and message-- calling the self "sabateur" as an old protective mechanism is spot and and what a beautiful way to become aware of it (rather than to fight it).

I literally LOVE your channel. It’s so mindful and healthy and you’re so kind! Like you give out big sister vibes!! Haha I love it