The Cure to Seeking Validation and People Pleasing (that will change your life) 

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“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive, and then go and do that, because what the world needs is people that have come alive.” - Howard Thurman 💜 Heart-Based Manifestation RU-vidr

To the *incredible person* seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.

After my boyfriend broke up with me earlier this week, this video/podcast episode came to me when I needed it most today. Thank you so much, Aaron! This made me understand my people pleasing tendencies much better and has brought relief to my heartache and internal struggle.

WE HAVE TO STOP PEOPLE PLEASING FOR OURSELVES. BRAVO.

"People try to create an outwardly perfect life, but the quality of life is based on the inward."

This was so spot on. “I am worthy just because I exist” ❤️ Thankyou x

“Believe you can and you’re half way there.” ✨

Search for validation ends when you cut the noise out and find your soul. Sit alone, and observe. That's when it speaks. - Much love from a growing RU-vidr

The videos about people pleasing have been really really helpful. Really I've been working on changing that aspect of myself and I can already see my life imoroving, people respecting me more. So thanks Aaron

I’m on day 10 of a detox from men and dating and I am so happy I found this video. The timing is insane (but I’m not surprised). We always get what we need when we need it. Thank you!

Bravo, Aaron! Well done. When we know we are worthy, we can live life as sovereign beings!

I hate being a people pleaser! It’s so hard to go through life focusing on making others happy and NOT yourself!

Timely!! The dopamine conversation was so interesting. I realized I was doing that with social media and also waiting for a certain person to email me. It was like crack LOL I’ve turned my energy a little bit so that I don’t need that!!! Listening to your meditation is also extremely helpful thank you

You'll watch an entire Netflix show even when the first episodes are slow and boring just because someone told you "it gets better." *But what if you looked at your goals like that and watched your life get better instead?*

Your videos are always life changing Aaron! Thank you for posting about this topic 🙏

Appreciate your honesty brother. I resonate with every single thing you said. I recently did a dopamine detox and definitely felt it link up with relationship dynamics, it was very interesting. The affirmation “ I am whole “, has allowed me to completely drop any search for validation 🙏🏼 It’s been a very transformational last couple months! 🙏🏼

Returning radically to your inner, divine spark is one aspect of this powerful process. Clearing childhood trauma is another. And last, literally saying “I love you” to yourself can be profound. Love you, Aaron.

This video helped me understand why I avoid “boring” work tasks…right on time!!💯

Wow. I've come to the realization that I was always the "fixer" growing up. I felt it was my job to keep the peace in the house. I had always been the friend that helps with others issues. It stemmed off into my relationships. I realize more and more how disconnected I became from myself. I would be asked about what's going on in my life and I would rattle off about everyone around me issues and accomplishments and not even notice I didn't mention myself. I've basically shut off from everyone outside of my household for about a year or so now and been getting back to me however my main love language is quality time so...its been difficult lol. I'm going to check out your meditations Aaron. Thank you. You are a treasure.

Shhhhiiittt, I literally said only this afternoon “I used to be overly concerned about other ppls problems and take them on as my own” It was a dopamine hit!!!!!

WOW. So much to absorb here and put into practice. You just keep evolving on your ability to help us be our best selves. Much light to you.

Yess!! 27:12 It's awesome that you mentioned becoming humble too.That's what I've realized in addition to becoming whole and complete it's also important to practice humility and kindness, not to be liked by others but as part of your own character. You're my guru, your videos keep me sane

AARON. "We give away authority" that hit home....You're an amazing human. In short words.🙌🙏

I have fo stay that I have learned way more from your RU-vid videos than from reading Dr. Joe Dispenza's books. He is great but your information is so practical and applicable to life. I am constantly sending your videos to friends. Thanks for being you Aaron.

I have been binge watching your videos for the past few days. You are truly a life-changing individual. Thanks for all you add to the world. You came just at my time of need. - Missy

Love your shit man. It’s been a minute but I’ve been really elevating myself in every way possible.. I actually cried during this I don’t know exactly why but maybe it’s because I’m letting go. Thank you Aaron man

What ever stories we put on it, it becomes the story. It is time to find self being raw 🙏🌺

This content really resonates with me. The knight metaphor both was an eye opener and also made me laugh bc it’s so on point but in a funny way to drive home that point. Chefs kiss

i really really appreciate your vulnerability

Hello you beautiful people! I hope you live your life to please yourself. Once YOU validate yourself, others will want what you have. Teach them! Keep shining! YOU have the authority! Validate and value yourself! Live Encouraged!

Love seeing how far you’ve come. Back in 2019 I started following you. somewhere between then and now I lost myself so back to the basics. Thank you ✨

Aaron you are one of the most realest and authentic person I have come a cross. 🌟Thats not a nice and yes man thats real frend who everyone would love to have in them life. ❤Thank you for helping us. I send you lots of angel hugs 🤗 Have beautiful week full of miracles.☀️🕊

Thank you for being you! Love your videos❤

Do what your soul craves and that’s to help people! Spiritual enlightment some will stay others will go. The ones ment for you will stay❤️

You changed my life by your videos. infinite gratitude ❤❤❤

Incredible, thanks Aaron. I am writing this all down and going to try to change that inner voice

I love you man. You're probably the most authentic and real life coach I see on RU-vid. It can be hard to be authentic. I'm embody myself now and it feels good. My voice get deep i get grounded. Thanks again. We are enough

Thank you for always being vulnerable on your channel 💛 it's not easy

Thank you for being you ♥️🙏

I know you do not need my validation, so I’ll offer gratitude for the validity your perspectives have in relation to my life. Thanks!

Just listened to the podcast version💙 love how your words flow so freely that’s how I’m trying to be on my channel eventually so that I don’t have to clip and edit as much

your best ever episode - amazing, I love how you share your vulnerable stories, I think you should just pick up your notes and read from them when you need to also x

You have come so far Aaron. Really proud of you. Also, thank you for this video..super helpful.

Please please please make your way to Pittsburgh, I would love to hear you speak.

I love how passionate you become ❤ 😊

I’m only at 7 minutes and the Epithany about blew me over!! You speak directly to me🙏🙏🙏🙏namaste

Hi, I relate to everything you say. But I also see in you a beautiful soul, because I now see it in myself. Much love for sharing everything you do.

Wow... the best dopamine detox break down I have ever heard!! Thank you for sharing.

Hey! Aaron I love your podcasts so much the longer they are the more I can relate! anyways I think I have ADHD because I keep forgetting everything and my focus is very little, even at my job I am a teacher and I make a lot of mistakes and i don't know what to do!!!

Thank you !!! I needed this. So true!!!

Thanks Aaron! The dopamine part is a real eye opener!

Thank you ❤

Thank you

I can relate to everything you said. IV just had that A-ha moment. Thankyou,👌

Major synchronicity on everything you said in this video. Spirit has been saying all of this to me this month but I’ve been struggling to make something concrete of it. It’s like you summarized the messages I needed perfectly!

More dopamine vids would be rad! Saw a YTvid called "How I Tricked My Brain To Like Doing Hard Things (dopamine detox)", which was pretty chill.

AMAZING video, thank you

IMO it's healthy to prefer validation over not getting it, or getting rejected. Validation is the way we know if we're connecting - it's actually wired into our DNA. People pleasing becomes a problem when you NEED it and your actions are largely influenced by getting external validation over expressing authenticity. Often when shedding the habit of people-pleasing, the need for validation addiction is still there, it just moves from getting validation from people to validation from an external aesthetic of how spiritually evolved people are "supposed" to be. When this happens people dump their people pleasing but lose their ability to read a room or relate to people effectively. There has to be balance and imo it's better to err on the side of being gracious and polite bc the world doesn't need more jerks.

Thank you so much for sharing Aaron all of your videos are very important to me understand myself more

I do think we are here to help others….. our egos look for the validation…… we must rise above the ego’s desires and just help other and not worry about what others think

thank u so much for this, i will be binge watching ur videos now that i have found ur channel & take notes- ur literally amazing

The dopamine blurb I needed to hear. I feel stuck in overstimulation. I’m going to try your hack of pushing “high dopamine” activities until later in the day. Thank you for sharing that!

Yes ✌🏼

That really makes so much sense about our dopamine levels. I’m defs going to put this into practice and see how affective this technique is for me. All week I feel like I’ve been really trying to break through the illusion of patters I want to release and somehow some way I feel like for all my hard work maybe finding this technique to apply from u is actually a reward from the universe as a reward for continuing to keep moving forward on my spiritual journey even in the darkest and hardest of times. Ty Aaron 💙

Love and appreciate this video especially before Thanksgiving!

Aaron Doughty Thank you for this video so much. This video came right on time for me. 🙌🏾👑💯

Thank you for everything you said in this video!

Thank you for reminding me on who I am !

Thank you so much for this video. It is such a value to me. Your wisdom is so true that I even cried. Xx

On another note, great video content!! As always, an inspiration!! Thanks for helping balance the dark with your light!!

thaaaanks.. this changes alot

Totally needed that Dopamine revelation. You need to raft the Salmon River. 5 days no cell signal. That's usually my big dopamine dump each year 5-21 days on a boat in the wilderness no cell signal.

Really deep video Aaron you are the best Always great listening to you 💜🙏

great Aaron !

Thank you 😊 Aaron ❤❤❤

I kinda checked out on the last two videos Even though they were super relevant to me but I couldn’t hide from this one it’s like you were telling a narrative of my past two months

Thank you for your videos 🥰

This was right on time and I almost didn’t wanna comment cuz the comments were on 111… but then I took it as a sign to comment cuz this video was meant for me ✨

New subscriber here. Loveeee your videos. Pure wisdom and truly helpful. I need to remove these high dopamine distractions, especially near bedtime. My sleep routine is garbage. I’m prone to tv, book, and ear pods in all simultaneously and it’s kind of ridiculous because none of it is relaxing or slowing me down. It’s all overstimulating and creating more dis-ease for me.

Yes, my friend

Wow I swear we be having the same epiphanies about dopamine at the same time. Guess I’m tuning into the same frequency! It’s really changing how I approach the things that I do

Best video yet ! Aweaome !

Thank you.

Holy I just went thru that same thing recently

Thank you dopamine has been my validation recently

Closed FB for a few days and felt great

Nice!

Right on Brother

100% resonated 🙌🏻clarity

My job. I’m a nurse. I e seen things on the daily. Trauma. Trauma

Yay i was the 1k like! +1 tx so much for your videos bro. I used to live in vegas. Hella tight that your from there.

I appreciate and vibe with the topic but I’m adhd. And I have auditory memory and sequencing disorder- making it hard to want to listen to the entire video. Can’t even do half.. damnit. I’m the same. You ask us the time we build you a clock. ;)

Love this!

Big red pill! Thnx!

Great video 👍

Very helpful information

love thia aaron ❤🙏 thanks so much bro

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