@@ladyfl0wers Well if that's what u think i gotta say that u are delusional miss lady Atleast in this one thing Imagine the reverse... If Mathew had said that to the woman no one would be laughing..
@Lady Flowers that was kind of aggressive.... she threatened to break his hands or head just because he had forgotten her name. Kinda a trivial thing to threaten someone over.
@@meenakshigour4195 "Some" miscommunication? Don't try to defend her, there were 3: Strike 1: You don't remember it? (The men feel stupid) ... pause Strike 2: You said I was special by giving me this mice (Now men feel more stupid) ... everyone laughing AT him. Strike 3: I break your head Strike 3 and you out!
This woman seems to have great energy and is pretty bold. Matt actually nailed it that she just has to channel it in a different way (no shouting and nagging).
Tatiana Voyta yeah nagging and shouting or getting angry off the bat without legitimate reason just communicates pettiness and a lack of social intelligence. If a woman ever does that, she will be ignored and labeled as annoying. She may get laid occasionally depending on how attractive she is but chances are she will die alone.
well, "the way you say it" is generally what does the trick. I mean, in general, even when you want to ask your siblings for a favor or they ask for your opinion for let's say their cooking and you don't find anything good to say, so the words you choose and the phrasing (the way you say it essentially) is what makes the difference between coming across as rude, aggressive etc. vs as polite, flirty, good-intentioned etc.
Honestly, I’m a guy and more guys should be watching your videos. The information and insight you continuously provide for relationships and attraction are so key and uplifting.
I agree with you, I'm a guy (AND NOT GAY) and I find it pretty interesting, for example how he acts in conversations or how you can answer some kind of things from the other side. Of course there's even more to it, but the things is as I'm still young, I have a lot of things to learn from these videos. I can just say that more guys should be watching these.
Funnily enough, I feel more and more I come to Matt’s videos will less intentions on finding a guy or getting a guy, and it’s much more about building myself into the person that I want to be, having the right attitude, a productive mentality, and confidence.
Bless you. People, Myself included sleep far too much on blaming their surroundings instead of looking inwards for where they find themselves consistently. It's so easily forgotten too, which is such an absolute shame. I hate that I have to remind myself so frequently of the important things I've learned.
Misho A that's not nagging. lol that's being rude and fiesty for no apparent reason. that's why she is not able to get a guy (and don't fall for the typical "i get dates from guys i don't want" bs .it's just the over inflated ego talking).
I disagree. I believe her intention was mainly fun that turned into cheeky feelings. She added her cheeky lines after a hardly noticeable pause, which means she deliberately chose to say those things plus she had a mild smile on her face. Matthew often talks about meaning and giving the other person the attention she or he deserves. In this case she knew that he had given her some leverage unintentionally by forgetting her name and she as a witty young woman found interest in checking his communication-skills as self-proclaimed flirt-guru, because she wanted to watch him unwind from that disclosure. That tension that built up she was probably both willing to take and to the same time not completely aware of initially, because by the end after him explaing the situation she nods almost unnoticeably whilst gently rocking forward with her body. People only do that when they feel bad, because they realize.
Sorry Jo...outright disrespect under guise of cheek here just doesn't fly. She was in full flight when she made her demands; her being demanding to have his response on her terms was nothing short of real. There was no recognition of boundaries on her part, especially as far as any regard for his sincerity and genuine attempt to help her in her query. Matthew was absolutely gracious to a woman who, quite frankly, didn't deserve it given her behavior towards him. Playing the woman-card on perogative here is outright insulting and disingenuous to a genuine and sincere attempt to mend the bridge between men and women in such situations when they engage each other. Good on you, Matthew for being so composed and respecting the need to remain gentle in steering your audience and customer to what your message is.
I like that you go from standing straight and open to bent over and closing off as much as possible. And then, when the conversation improves, the posture opens back up. It's interesting to watch.
CORRECTION "The reason I decided to do the video anyway with my wet hair and tshirt is because I look WAY HOTTER if that's even possible" hahahahaha, Matt you're awesome!!!!!!!!!!!
She was in an indian tv show called roadies, which is a super aggressive, road-trip version of Survivor. Didn’t think the show would become her entire personality.
With all due respect to Matthew, he is in the top 2-5% of guys, just look at the women in the room, pretty much all of them would jump at the chance to date him. Much of what he says is true in how difficult it is for normal guys out there to start with
She's witty but she takes a slightly severe tone she says she doesnt have a friendly face but I think that really means she doesnt have a friendly AURA
In his defense, he wasn't directly expecting her name. Although it's always the norm to introduce yourself when you're asking a question. He was only expecting a question. And with that brief moment of introduction, it's so easy to miss it especially when you are in that very moment. It's not when you are actually asking "What's your name?" is the actual moment where you are expecting someone's name and take it to the heart. The fact that he recalled that she mentioned her name and ask her very politely to say them one more time, was him being attentive. You can't just have a go at someone when it was obviously an honest mistake. I'm pretty sure that a normal people would've answered that with just one word of their name and continue the conversation as if it was a normal conversation. I can't remember how many times I had to correct my name when someone mispronounce my name and I completely understand just because it's so hard to remember my name, since my name is so rare. On the contrary to that, whenever I met a person who remembered my name or know what my name means, just from me mentioning my name once, made me feel moved. Her having a go at him, is like trying to make an enemy out of everyone, when that person that she likes might genuinely trying to get to know her.
specially when it's an oddball name. I watched a video of people with REALLY foreign names complaining how people mispronounce them here in N/A. My full name is Michael and I've had SO many mispronunciations. MyKull, MYChull, all sorts of things, never took it to heart. My last gf spelled her name Michele, she lost it when I spelled it Michelle in text. I said listen I've been spelling it with 2 L's for 50 years, give me a break.
+suvariboy So would men if there was dating advice from an unattractive women.. He simply takes care of himself and naturally looks do give you chances of more experiences that's how life is.. I would listen to him too
This video is very timely for me. It's easy to forget that none of us are perfect and it is actually quite warming for others to see us slow down and reflect. Thank you!
oh my gosh, this totally works! I missed a call from a guy I'd talked to a few times. I called him back and quickly realized that he thought he was calling someone else, he said with the same name. I poked a little fun at him the said, "I'll let you make it up to me". he chuckled and we agreed to talk again later. while the next conversation started well, it quickly deteriorated (when he told me about his prior night's conquest and the size of his...package). I tried to redirect the conversation with other scripts, I.e. " I think you have me confused with a future me who has been on many dates with you..." and a comment about saving a naughty joke for a later conversation... but in the end of decided I didn't want to pursue further interaction, but I think he has interpreted my reluctance as "try harder" I'll keep these tools in my toolbox. total confidence boost! but I truly understand the need to promise to use the scripts for good, not to manipulate! thanks Matthew! you are so much fun
This is no magic. He likes himself, I'm sure he likes the way he looks, and he has a huge female audience sitting in front of him that confirmes everything he thinks. All he needed to do is be flexible -> not get offended, sit it out (hence leaning on his leg for a bit saying nothing), keep his spirits up and wait for an opening to bring in an uplifting comment. Now the Indian woman did have a charm I liked. She's honest, she can laugh, and she actually came for her question to be answered - so she was focussed. Not to mention she looks decently attractive. Now what turns me off as a guy? That vocal artillery fire. Lack of flexibility is NEVER attractive in a human, wether man or woman. Key is always making the best of every situation, not stomping on something because it didn't go the way you wanted. More than the information Matthew gave, his ATTITUDE (positivity/flexibility) was the actual lesson!
im learning things about myself, professionally speaking, from reading this comment! especially the "Key is always making the best of every situation, not stomping on something because it didn't go the way you wanted" part.
But most men haven't got that skill. And I am sure he has got women queueing up for him so he can go from woman to woman (if he is inclined to). She will only have the pick of those sort of men not the 80% of normal men is she is like that
Tanu, "Don't you DARE call me bro, I BREAK YOUR HEAD, I PROMISE!" OMG! Does she even hear herself! Yikes. Because being a TOUGH GUY always works....So what he forgot her name, who friken cares, repeat it and move on...how immature...she has a heavy accent as well. EGO, EGO, EGO It was buried in her accent. She's all set to demolish him in front of the entire audience instead of looking at herself for one second and think, "Mmm my accent may have thrown you off, and I speak fast..." Sorry about that, it's Tanu. Gracious, HUMBLE, FEMININE, characteristically sexy. Irresistible! That's gives him a lovely chance to say, "No, darling, you're brilliant, it's me with the hearing problem..." And the dance begins. One being receptive and gentle, the other coming in to boost her up. And Vise versa. Not all this alpha female, bark, bark, bark at a guy technique.
it definitely is all about the millimeters. I've learned to turn the switch depending on the situation. You make sense Matthew, as usual. Silly woman didn't take your offer for a beer afterwards!😂 I would've been like, "yes, let's have a beer and chat later and see how you'll make it up to me". I'm so glad you do what you do Matthew!
I've only started watching his videos, and I've been wondering who he reminded me of. And now, I can see. There's a little bit of Tom Felton in that guy.
Many of you didn't realize from the moment she said "I don't know Matthew" he was role playing as a guy trying to chat her up. After, he gave her tips on how to be better at flirting because the whole "don't call me bro, I'll break your hand" stuff isn't attractive. Its better to just say something like the example he gave. Apart from that her energy is great and she seems great to talk too. But saying your going to break someone's hand is enough to make any guy only see you as a friend, cause only guy friends say stuff like that. This is also why he said she is close to being able to get everything she wants as she has the correct charisma and personality to interact with men but needs to channel it into less aggressive flirting and more inviting flirting.
I'm a 52-year-old man. I had a very intense argument with my Mom during my 2 week visit home. I've never cursed at my mom but "it went there". When I thought about it, she was giving off such masculine energy it was like I was talking to another guy. I apologized but said this to her: "I apologized to you because it was disrespectful and rude. I shouldn't have spoken to you like that because you are my mom. However, I did not feel as bad as I thought or should feel because when I actually said I felt like I was arguing with a dude. You were so in my face that the energy was so strong."
TBH, she was kidding around, I found it funny she said, you forgot my name but call me special.... come on, how can you not see that was funny? Once the audience started laughing she probably did go a little overboard with her humour, She can do without the threatening part when it comes to flirting/joking around. You might have to understand that where she comes from this humor is probably acceptable, it's a different culture to the western world, just like Europeans can be overly passionate sometimes too. So this might take her some time to unlearn some things she thought where acceptable growing up, however you can't take all she said as being bad either, I could see where she was trying to kid with you as well. God Bless
He was acting too, from the moment she said "I don't know Matthew" he was role playing as a guy trying to flirt with her. All he did after was tell her how she could of done better to get a guy interested. He's right tho because that "Don't call me bro I'll break your hand" stuff isn't attractive lol but apart from that and the shouting abit too much she seems really good to talk to and has great energy.
Not everyone would catch it as a joke most of my sarcastic remarks are normally meant to be light-hearted but there were times strangers just wanted to punch me in the face just for that
I can so relate to Tanu. I have my guard up every second of the day and I reflect that in my interactions. I would really like to change that and make each and every interaction personable. I would especially like to learn to flirt with my husband of fifteen years because we have become complacent and ordinary I'm our relationship. I want to offer more. May I say "Thank you Mathew". I love your approach and the videos you make. It's struck a chord in me. ♡
Her challenges are creating tension. NOT sexual tension, just tension. Sexual tension is fun, regular tension is exhausting. This is a woman who is always one sentence away from an argument.
After reading "owning the first 5 minutes", I'm almost convinced that he knew her name, but used her attitude to direct the conversation his way, by making it look like it was her who was directing it. It was him that was using her "attitude" so to give her a response that she might not have liked if he had just responded to a simple question, but needed her to "bite" to illustrate why she's getting bro'd. As an old boss used to tell me "it's one thing me showing you, but it's another for you to see it for yourself". Matthew knew what he was doing. His practised skills are there to ensure he's armed to not get caught by surprise.
Honestly...who cares. This guy is brilliant! He is giving us the male perspective and I, for one, am learning a whole lot....yes...not just confident, but competent. Thank you, Mathew........and yes, like the way I say your name! :)
Also thoughtId add. With men I've appreciated from your videos the advice of preparing or thinking ahead of time what to say. Being born with a communication disability you can probably imagine my struggle of not being able to get my words out. I think I gave up in that regard because I'd either be too forward in attempts to speak or not at all. I'm happy now when I see someone I might be interested in I can be prepared with what to say. I think I get men. I understand what they need, how to keep a man happy and now I feel I am starting to understand the best way to communicate. Thank you Matthew for caring.
My observations based on this video: This girl has a loud voice. When she talks, she sounds as if shouting or arguing with someone. Probably due to cultural difference. Her use of vocabulary alongside to her loud voice doesn’t help it either. Also, couldn’t help but notice, she might have felt a little under pressure when the whole audience was looking/listening to her talk, so got nervous and spoke in that “funny” way (as she might have thought). I am sure there are probably men out there, who might have matched her energy, loudness, and humorous+rude attitude and if this is naturally her personality, then she just have to wait for the right match😄 She won’t be able to flirt in feminine way as Mathew suggested, because it won’t be her. She is loud. She is bold. She isn’t shy. She is like a boy.
Matt your generosity, big heart (and love for your bro) and commitment for "your mission" are very touching. Thank you. You deserve every single bit of your success for the hard work, preparation and personal magic of yours (which is not linked to what cereals you may or may not have eaten as a kid but rather to the great generous and humble person you are). The fact you were shy and not charismatic as a kid, makes it even more impressive. And by accepting to deliver this document, you have once again surpassed yourself. Wish you could be cloned.
Yeah imagine a guy after tiring day at work, going on a first date with someone like her. When you want to relax and take it easy. But the girl immediately finds something to argue about and jokingly says she will hurt you. Guys dont want to deal with that energy.
As a straight man I find your stuff really valuable Matthew. I've done a lot of work on myself over the years, but none of that helps as much as understanding the person you're talking to. Thanks!
+Matthew Rodriguez I don't think he looks like Daniel Radcliffe, but I definitely think he sounds like him. Maybe they come from the same part of England.
Haven't thought about it in a long while, but I recollect scrolling back to his first few videos and thinking that he looked very Daniel Radcliffe-esque when I watched them. Something about the forehead or eyes maybe? He also dressed up as Harry Potter in a Halloween video once and commented in passing about how people said he resembled the film character, so apparently we aren't the only ones who've thought he looked like Radcliffe. I guess for some folks it's possible they just think so because he's English and they don't watch much content featuring English people, but I've watched loads of content from the UK for years and still thought so (in his earlier vids at least). Though it's a little bit harder for me to see the resemblance now that I've watched so many more of Matthew's videos.
I'm jealous of these types of people such as him, Milo Yianopoullous(sorry I spelt his name wrong), Ben Shapiro, Trey Goudy and comedians who use the audience as their own prop. All of them know what to say it, how to say it instantly at the whim of a few moments. It takes me a few days after I said something that would have made my comments so much better.
master class right there. He is very impressive, most would of gotten defensive but he took the situation as a spotlight that actually answered her question.
@@meenakshigour4195 my comment is just a perspective of a normal guy. As a normal guy my instinct will be telling me to run away from a person who react like that. What should i follow. My basic instinct or the sociaty's judmental instinct. 😆
@@meenakshigour4195 moments like this wil repeat, and she will confront you not once but many. Wise man dont want to deal with it with cost of his nerves, but seek calm feminine person
I'm friends w a lot of Indian and South Asian ladies. They are the coolest, most welcoming people ever. She was just being funny and didn't mean anything by it.
Good points. That woman however made the mistake of taking something as small as forgetting the name of a person that we just met, which by the way is a very common thing to do, and focus on that as a means of attacking Matthew, and using it to 'spank him' demonstrates a motivation the woman has which could be why she doesn't make a lot of progress in finding romantic relationships. She would have been better off to let it go, forgive it, and simply tell him her name again and move on, instead she had to do the most she could be use it to become combative. Women today are so hyper sensitive and see so many men as potential enemies that they literally seek ways to create combative relationships. I can't believe that any of them do this thinking they'll attract a man but rather I believe it becomes 'knee jerk' behavior that they've become emotionally conditions to engage in. If a man continues to pursue her regardless of this along with affirming her negative behavior he's more than likely NOT the kind of man she wanted to begin with. The better wiser men look for the red flags, see them, and move on to someone better.
I'm sure she thinks of herself as a "strong, independent woman" and doesn't take crap from anybody but wonders why men aren't attracted to her. That's like me going on a job interview and saying, "I don't like taking direction and tend to do what I want, regardless of company policy" and then wondering why I can't get hired.
There’s nothing more awkward or/and embarrassing to a guy than being called out or nagged for making a mistake or in this case forgetting her name, it’s a huge turn off as well because now all you’re focusing in is “oh I f*cked up she probably thinks I’m a horrible person now” ,and if I’m being honest with you I forgot her name as well because 1. It’s not a very common name ,it’s actually the first time I hear it, and 2. I was genuinely focused on what she was saying bc it sounded really personal and you could clearly see she was really concerned about it. Don’t take things too personal when they are not, anyone could forget ,but if they forget the next thing you do is crucial to make you unforgettable to them, it could completely change everything.
I have a 'middle' voice. It's hard to tell if I'm a man or woman over the phone/mic so when I play games online I often get asked what I am and I ALWAYS whisper deep into the mic "baby I'm what ever you want me to be"
And thats exactly why they show up its not hard getting a woman when shes wet already if this guy looked like a regular 9 to 5 joe they wouldnt care less hes the guy she wants to have ask them out but they dont reali ze he doesnt have to cause that whole room would throw themselves at him and he knows it all of us non pretty boys just get ignored just like she said,the guys she doesnt want and thats your problem ladies
Elite thanks for your curiosity, maybe because of the problem with my computer one of the speakers doesnt work so I cant hear well, or maybe the fact that i'm francophone and that english is my third language so yeah :)
+Elite Why do you even ask that? She didn't understand. Period. I didn't understand either. For me the reason could be, that I'm not a native speaker. Or that my laptops audio is pretty bad. Or the combination of both. But why do you want people to justify for that. It's so annoying not beeing able to ask a simple question without answers like yours.
I have much respect for this guy and is a great example to men in general. I've seen channels about coaching men to be King's in their own life and not become the step dad to single mums because these woman are just after their money, they're damaged goods and men who always want a younger version of that woman and go as far to say they are used up and don't invest in these women. Though I agree there are women who may just be after "simp" men for their money, women are still people. Mothers are still people. In a round a bout way I'm trying to say this playfully articulate fellow letting as all know the correct way to find the happiness we want rather than putting a certain group of women down and encouraging men to run from them because they aren't worth their time. Not everybody asks for their situation in life whether it be good or bad and there's a danger of a strong male movement going against modern feminist women, like a pendulum being swung a hard left or right to come back to time where it eventually hits centre. We are all humans and still need help in understanding each other to get out of this men vs women mentality, give up and have to go abroad for your wife or a rich sugar daddy but have no love for
On second watch....The first thing she tells him is her name. He's not forgetting that....but what he sees is a very confident and potentially dominant woman, and probably the reason why she's in the situation she's in. He knows she is the type to bite and needs her to display her problem flaw, before telling her his thoughts (ie always answer the question you wish you would have been asked). She bites, and now he's shown to everyone the problem, without being seen as an asshole for about to tell her she needs to change her approach. The more attitude she gave, the more he was in control of that conversation. Fucking brilliant, Matt. Just gave her as much rope as she wanted, all to hang herself with. Your brother Steve was right.....you're like a magician with a well practised trick, and so subtle that no one can see it.
