I am an INTJ male. I have few associates anymore; I have finally realized that most people cannot relate to INTJs - and most are not interested in trying to do so. My longest and closest associate is an INFP female. We both have high IQs, and did well academically when younger. (Wearied of being treated as though I were stupid by normals, I joined Mensa, Intertel, and T.O.P.S. in my thirties.) We are both highly articulate, but the scenario portrayed here is generally accurate: We articulate different things, in different ways. I emphasize objectivity; she emphasizes empathy. I have a higher active vocabulary; she has a higher passive vocabulary: I scored in the top 0.3% in verbal aptitude, but she understands words I do not; she just never uses them, since her focus is on feeling more than reason. Someone once persuaded us both to take a very difficult IQ test designed specifically for high-IQ persons. I knew I would do well, and scored 48/60, the second-best in this small group; I was the only one in the group who was not astonished that my INFP associate scored 53/60.
The whole "not relating to other people," could come from the disconnect from how you see yourself versus how others see you. We haven't invented mind-reading yet, so regardless of the "Real person inside," no matter how real it might seem to an INTJ, at the end of the day the actions we concisely choose to define us, and that is all the "outside world" can see. I Used to be an INTJ according to the Myers Brigg test but became an INFP slowly overtime when I wanted my "outside-self" to be more consistent with who I think I am in my head. I think INTJ's can get rid of the "arrogant" stereotype if they worked more on the consistency of their actions and internal image of themselves, and you can do that without having to "open up" to people.
i don't know about any other infps, but i find myself admiring intjs. always striving to be good enough for them because their intelligence and interest in deep topics are very attractive to me.
In my experience, I find them a little too cold to truly enjoy very much. I can still take them with a grain of salt, and don't actively dislike them, but I really don't feel like they're my type of person, despite their strengths obviously being objectively pretty good.
@@lynnh1682got into a debate with an INFP and she ended up ending our friendship of 7 years over a disagreement (She was incorrect and focused on feelings).
@@jasongray6665 yeah I hate being wrong but at the same time will accept it if the other person is more accurate than me. They'd have to show a lot of information to prove they're correct. I'm not an infp. I'm an INTJ.
Married to an INTJ, for twenty years as an INFP and consider myself very lucky and blessed. We are very different but respect one another's differences and live in harmony, rarely argue. We do have similarities where I think we are not an ideal match in that we are both introverts and can hide from the world quite easily, particularly when stressed, without pulling each other out of that mindscape so we sink into that rabbit hole for prolonged periods before re-emerging. Saying that, we both take a while to decompress and process so it just may be a further advantage.
@@antoinettenovella1630 that's great, as long as you're happy. I've never felt attracted to INTJs neither sexually nor emotionally. I've had two INTJ friends, but we were never close. I always found them too cold, distant and reserved, like I could never get beyond certain level of closeness, and I honestly didn't care enough to stick to a dry, boring friendship, where one cares more than the other, so I cut them off and I don't miss them 🤷♂️ I guess lots of other people do better with them, but they're not really my flavor for anything...
@@missk8715 "I cut them off", that's odd to assume you had ties with them at the first place. That's also rude to cut someone off just because the reality didn't meet your expectation. As long as someone doesn't give bad influence on your life like drugs, alcohol, or something and has no intent to cause you harm, that's so unwise and too emotionally driven decision. We don't know who will help us in the coming hard time. Don't be a kind person just because you expect something in return! be a kind person because YOU'RE A KIND PERSON! Live the noblest life and be strong enough to be gentle! Then you may earn something better than you expected, their respect.
@@dansketch4603 I'm not assuming, she was the one who said she considered me a friend. I don't really stick to people based on what I could get out of them if necessary. If I don't feel a genuine connection, that's the end of it. I actually just ghosted her, as I've already done twice before then, but for some reason she contacted me again months later. At this point, I'm pretty sure she doesn't see the point in it any longer, and that's fine with me
