The Joys of Not Needing People 

I find that every time I'm feeling lonely, I try to connect with people again, and every time, they remind me of why I was alone to begin with.

Negative perspective: Being alone is called Loneliness. Positive perspective: Being alone is called Freedom.

Loneliness may be problematic, but toxicity from others is worse!

I hate when people link loneliness with not trusting or loving other people. I, personally, love interacting with people, but also love being alone. I like to listen to other people's perspective but also love how I keep myself happy when I'm all by myself. It's not a black and white thing. You can interact with people and be happy alone.

Loneliness is dangerous. It’s addicting. Once you see how peaceful it is, you don’t wanna deal with people. All of our unhappiness comes from our inability to be alone. If you love yourself, you will enjoy your own company. You can not be lonely if you like the person you are alone with.I never found a companion that was so companionable as solitude. Hell is other people.

I'll be 35 years old this year. I'm a single male, I live alone. I don't do anything with any other person, ever. I work from home. I go to the store, but people most of the time just ignore me. I wake up, I work out, I work, I go do something outdoors, I eat, and I go to bed to do it again the next day. I have no one in my life. It only bothers me when I allow myself to start thinking about what other people have that I don't. Only when I compare myself to others do I feel like a loser. I'm not, by the way. I'm in shape, out of debt, own my house outright, multiple vehicles, enjoy good food, in the best health and shape of my life. I just do it all alone.

The art of being alone is central to love. Because when we learn to be alone artfully, we no longer use other people as an escape.

I used to think that I was antisocial or mentally/emotionally unwell because I love being alone so much. I'm single, no kids, I live alone, i work a job that requires very little interaction, and honestly I could live the rest of my life like this. It's so unbelievably peaceful and happy. I don't think a lifestyle of solitude is necessarily unhealthy, although it can be for some, for others it might be exactly what they need.

“In solitude the mind gains strength and learns to lean upon itself.”

I've been waiting a long time to hear someone talk about the benefits of solitude, not the "dangers" of loneliness. Thank you.

I've grown more and more introverted as the time has passed. When I was younger, I cared about what people thought of me, until it dawned on me that I didn't even like them! A great lesson to learn when I was still in school. So I decided to hang around the people I DID like. Let me introduce you three best friends; Me, Myself and I!

"True love is being a protector of each other's solitude" - Rainer Maria Rilke

When you can learn to enjoy being alone. No one can control you, manipulate you or threaten to leave you and ironically end up with loyal and strong friendships and relationships.

I have never felt as lonely as i have felt in a crowd of people i cannot be myself with. I never feel lonely when i'm alone and love my own company

I live alone and value my solitude as priceless. When I’m alone I don’t realize that I’m alone but when I’m with others, they get on my nerves and annoy me. It’s like a chore having to be around people.

I was a loner since childhood. I enjoyed playing alone and never needed other kids to have fun or be happy. I played with them but only for short time and I enjoyed my time with myself. I am 32yo and I am still the same. A lot of people don't understand me, say I'm selfish and not caring, it hurts, because I truly love people, I just don't need them to feel happy.

Many are afraid to be alone, even when it is the antidote to their suffering. When alone, with no music, social media, or other distractions, we are forced to confront who we truly are. It is at those times when you can see your true self in all its glory, imperfection and self-awareness. The strongest people are not afraid of solitude.

I am happiest and at my best when alone. It's so liberating and peaceful. People who fear solitude, should understand that within your body you are always alone...no one can be with you always...so become your own best friend first, before you become friends with others. 😊😊

It’s a blessing to be the introverted type… people can be chaotic

Everytime i try to reconnect with people when im lonely i always get reminded to be alone again. People are draining sometimes and i have more peace of mind in soltitude.

I am 52 years old, single and live alone. I’ve been this way since my divorce 5 years ago and now I realize this is the best way to live. Being in total control of yourself, your life, your living area and your future (at least the parts you can control) are indescribably satisfying.

I need to be alone as much as I need air, water, food, sleep…A deep joy arises inside of me. Thank you!

“A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free.” - Arthur Schopenhauer

~ After being married for 25 years, I am very much enjoying the single life. NOT the dating scene, but the solitude of it. I have no interest in dating, & don’t see that changing. I am alone, yet not lonely…👊🏽 The introvert that I am, is in full-blown mode, & I am embracing it. ♥️ The peace & serenity of it, is so satisfying.

This is so liberating. I didn't know other people felt this way too

For some people it can be extremely scary to learn not too depend on people. But understanding that by coming out of your comfort zone and just doing it you begin to awaken a deeper power within you. One of trust and self respect.

Engaging with books has significantly elevated my perspective on investing. True wealth isn't built through mere savings; financial freedom stems from strategic investments. I've learned that accumulating wealth hinges on making prudent investment decisions.

It's so liberating seeing the comments and observing the amount of persons embracing the loner community. It's the place I find my best self!

"I find it wholesome to be alone the greater part of the time. To be in company, even with the best, is soon wearisome and dissipating. I love to be alone. I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude".- Henry David Thoreau

There’s a difference between enjoying people and depending on people. I enjoy stimulating conversations with others. But I don’t feel I need their attention. I enjoy their attention, and I hope they enjoy mine. Also, helping people can be very rewarding. So isolating yourself has its benefits, but helping people can be even more beneficial. As you may need help someday yourself

I’ve learned to embrace solitude, I love being with myself, I’m more comfortable alone. I grow and become greater within myself without others distracting me!

I am currently going thru a divorce I did not want. I fought as hard as I could to save the marriage and improve, without success. I have been at the darkest point of my life and seriously considering ending the suffering. Your videos on stoicism have literally saved my life and given me a new way of thinking I didn't think I would ever get to. Thank you for these

For me, not needing other people has gone hand-in-hand with not being able to trust anyone anymore.

I've been struggling between wanting a romantic partner and enjoying singlehood. There are plenty of great experiences that can be had as a couple, but there are sacrifices to my personal life that must be made. I was meditating on loneliness last night and found that it was the shame of being seen as a loner that was one of the most powerful emotion pressuring me towards dating right now

I find it funny that people don't recognize that we create all of our emotions and that we are the only ones who feel our emotions. This means that we can say "NO" to creating and feeling any emotion. For example, If you get angry at someone, it really is your problem as you are the one making yourself feel that emotion.

There is a difference between being alone and being lonely. Once you understand that difference, you'll be more self-conscious of what or who you need in life.

I started watching your videos after my dad passed away last year. they have been a light in my dark night. thank you for doing what you do!

Spot on! I've always been in relationship (like couple) as long as I can remember until about 4 years ago. Now I'm 48 and I feel better than ever, mentally! not having to worry about others or having to adjust my life based on other people's behaviour, feelings, thoughts. Sometimes family members look at me like in a pity because I'm alone, but I pity them instead! :D

Many, many decades ago I grew up in very rural remote NE Vermont. The nearest house to ours was 3.5 miles away. There were 51 students in my grade level in school. When not in school I was on my own. There was the forest and the mountains. My time was spent with me. It was all I knew. So my natural environment was solitude, I grew up self contained. I knew more of and about myself than my peers who lived in the village surrounded by the distractions of others and social support of others. I simply didn't need it. Looking back over the years I was very lucky to have had such a beginning because it has given me an inner strength and capability that others lack.

I always thought I wanted people around me, but not anymore. I love my own company best; other than my immediate family, I stopped looking for people over the last 5 years and I have never felt this level of peace before. I have no problem with saying ‘no’ to anyone these days. Time is way too precious.

Being alone and being lonely are not the same. Being alone is a time to connect with the inner self without the distractions of what lies outside of you. Loneliness is a state of needing or lacking wanting. Its good to be with others who are positive its healthy for you and others. A time out a time to yourself only you is also a good thing

I agree with most of the comments about the relief of being alone. However, we need to be able to help people, to observe people, and not to become soulless. Open a door for someone, allow an older person to go in front of you in line, smile at someone who needs a smile. Connect with others in small ways to avoid selfishness

I only feel lonely when I’m in a group or crowd of people. I feel free and at peace in my own company 😌.

Being a highly sensitive person I have mostly preferred to be alone. I have always been acutely aware of negative energy that some people portray and disappointed at how little kindness there is to each other. Having said that there are still many very beautiful people in the world and I enjoy meeting them from time to time

Being alone is the finest thing you can have in your life. Yes of -course you meet people here and there .... but the finest part of life is when you are alone.. Less problems and more internal joy. Most of the time people suck, they bring problems only

This video resonates with me deeply. Throughout my life, I've found solace in solitude. My parents were often occupied with work, and I didn't have many friends at school. As a result, I spent a significant amount of time at home, engrossed in gaming. However, when I reached the age of 21, a profound transformation occurred. I immersed myself in the world of books, dedicated myself to physical fitness, and sought wisdom through self-help videos. Nowadays, it's not uncommon for me to spend days or even weeks without speaking a word aloud or encountering another person (except for necessary trips to the store). It's important to clarify that this preference for solitude doesn't stem from social anxiety or introversion; rather, it's a genuine appreciation for being alone. By embracing solitude, I've discovered the power of making independent decisions and removing toxic influences from my life. I selectively allow only those individuals who truly benefit me and nourish my soul. The lessons I've learned from my solitary existence are numerous, although delving into them would require more time than I have at present. Nonetheless, I firmly believe that the benefits of being alone are immense. One significant advantage is the abundance of free time, which often leads to moments of boredom. Yet, this boredom becomes a fertile ground for new ideas to sprout, which, in turn, fuels personal growth. Although I don't intend to remain alone indefinitely, I view these years as a valuable opportunity to learn and understand myself on a deeper level before embarking on a quest to find my purpose. By investing in self-discovery, I'm confident that I will be better equipped to navigate the complexities of life and pursue a meaningful future. This video reminds me that embracing solitude is not a cry for help, but rather a choice to embrace one's own company, leading to personal empowerment and a deeper understanding of oneself.

I am a loner myself and this reminds me of one specific moment of sorrow where I told myself: Being alone is fate, being lonely is a choice.

Life is soooooo much less stressful without having others wanting our undivided attention.

Small and short talk with the people one encounters such as a good morning, I like your shirt, etc. is enough for me to fill the need for social interaction.

Me and my lover are the same in the way that we both appreciate solitude. We both made decisions to ourselves before we first made contact thatt we would never stick around people that make us feel lesser than. Never stick around people who judge or put pressure on you to conform, or abuse or hurt us. We love each other so deeply, not because we feel we need each other, but because we have emptied our cups and filled them back up to a point with what we want in life. We want to love each other, we don't need to. We want to spend time together, we don't need to. We miss each other, but not in a destructive way. On our first date, we went on a 5 hour long walk and barely spoke. There was no awkwardness, we just appreciated the fact that we could share a moment of taking in nature. We breathed deeply and observed all the creatures we saw on the way. I said to her in the beginning 'sorry I have nothing to talk about', and she said 'that's okay, we don't have to fill space with nonsense'. We talk a lot these days as we have gotten to know each other, but when we're in nature, when we find a good bench, when cuddle, we barely speak. It is so comforting to have found a woman like her. I love her so dearly and our serene silence is just one piece of the massive jigsaw that makes up our love. We spend our time apart and we report back to each other what we got up to, the thoughts we had by ourselves. Besides, you cannot think straight if you're constantly around others.

Being pricked by the thorn of loneliness is better than taking the knife of betrayal.

I've always loved quiet people; you never know if they are dancing in the daydream or if they are carrying the weight of the world. ~~ JOHN GREEN

It's sad that people will start to bully you if you don't want to join their group and conform. That is why open plan offices are a terrible idea, constant access.

I’ve been fairly alone for a good part of the last fifteen years. Yes I’ve had friends, and was once in a romantic relationship for two years, but amongst these interactions and outside of them I spent an alarming amount of time by myself. Now as a thirty year old man it’s hard to make new friends, and even dating comes with its challenges. Yet looking back in my solitude and at it now as it is, I can say despite the lack of fortune and relationships it’s brought me I still value the wisdom and patience it has taught me, and the poor man’s peace of mind it consoles me with.

I think what’s sad is how relatable this video is to absolutely everyone living in the west. We’re so dysfunctional, screen addicted & ignorant, we can’t connect or create meaningful relations with one another at all. It’s that sad, we’re having to intellectually beautify & focus on the benefits of being alone. We live in abundance & are completely miserable. From the POV of truth, we have seriously failed ourselves as well as one another. Great video, it hurts that I’ve been intellectually exploring these concepts myself for this past year after realising no matter how nice I am, how much effort I put in, how much I put down my screens, real friendship is no where to be found.

Kind ironic that you just so happen to drop this on my birthday & I was feeling the same way. As if I don’t need anyone, I recognized that I’d get unpleasant emotions everytime around my birthday because it’d remind me that I have no friends or that people don’t care not even family, even though it’s something so simple as a birthday lol. Thanks for the video drop, PERFECT timing!

Being in solitude was originally something that was imposed on me at an early age but now I see it as a privilege because it gives me space to explore my own emotions and understand my desires. Self actualization has healed me in so many ways and I honestly can’t depend on other people to make me feel good about myself.

This video makes me grateful that I’m a loner . It’s like soon as I’m around a lot of people I get so annoyed. Love my peace .

:( we need others & solitude. becoming overly invested in other peoples lives is just as problematic as being overly self involved and detached. balance is they key, community and support are fundamental…without them we would not have safety and security. we do need eachother…united we stand. divided we fall.

I started saying "Leave people alone" to myself a few years ago. I tried to say it to a few people that I know who were always in drama and it didn't go well. But it's so true and so profound.

I can totally relate, I am calmest alone, exploring art, beauty of the world, however I can say that one of the strongest and deepest experiences I had was with people. Shared beauty of nature, spiritual experiences, literal miracles that cannot be even explained. We need people, we need people that give us space to be on our own, but joins to explore and discover, we need our people.

I remember when the pandemic started, everybody was locked down, and people were absolutely losing their minds. I realized how many people have never been alone with themselves. I spend most of my time alone but I'm never lonely. Others seem to have a hard time understanding that or how you really can have a disregard for other's personal opinions of you, positive or negative. I don't need you but I may want you. Isn't that even more special?

Isn't it wonderful. " If one does not rely on others, no one can hurt you".

As a person living alone most of the times it does get depressive, but once u get the jolt of crowd of the inner city once traveling you come back to appreciate the alone 😅

I am 66 years old. I went from father to ,husband, children, another husband. I used to wonder why so many older women would stay single after loosing a husband one way or another. 6 years ago it happened to me. After a very short Adjustment period my question was answered ☺️ I never had the opportunity to find out who I was and what I preferred, and what I would do with my time if I was not considering others. I am so grateful for this part of my life. I am only rarely even aware of being alone now let alone lonely. If for some reason I do feel this a quick trip to the grocery fixes it quickly. Would I consider another relationship? Well I have learned never say never, but I really can't imagine giving up me again😉

I've been living alone my whole life, in many different countries. It's my pure peace. I dive deep into my studies, which is always Taousm, Buddhist Practices, hidden history..... what I provide for myself is far greater than what people give me. Especially Woman, I am a Woman too. And I find they always complain about something...then bting me down. Love your channel.

This really spoke to me. I find that I tend to stay in unhealthy relationships due to the fear of loneliness. I’ve recently learned to embrace my solitude and singleness. It’s been a struggle at times but this videos has uplifted me and appreciate this solitude. I’m just using this time to focus on myself and improve.

I am a lone wolf, but I have been hamstrung by criticism from my pack for it. Our culture doesn't encourage women to stand alone or believe we can. I believed what I was told and shown until I found the pain was too great and I broke away. Being alone is hard, being with Other is hard. But what is hardest is denying our soul's call, whatever that is. I have found peace at last - and your videos have helped me.

Your videos have changed my life for the better, and every one of them have taken me from a dark place to a more serene, complete, fulfilling life, without resentment, guilt or sorrow. Your videos have impacted me, a mere person, in many ways; at times replacing my therapist, and at times stoping me from taking anti-anxiety medications. I never commented on your videos, and seldom remember to click “like”, simply because after watching them I immerse myself in silence and absorb it, at my own pace. I’m sending you more than a pat on the back; but a sincere and full thank you, for you help so many, in ways you might not even know. I don’t know you, but let my gratefulness for your work now be registered here. 🙏🏼

I enjoy my solitude but, I have a safety net of people I can go to if I don’t want to be alone. I’ve been truly alone without nobody to run too and it’s horrible.

I've always been a loner but I also realized that with working from home, I need some human interaction. But now that socializing isn't being forced down my throat, I can actually appreciate socializing and be myself. I have a feeling that society as a whole is going through something like this. No longer being forced to do "normal" things allows us to better understand why we do those things in the first place, and then do them properly.

I have no issue being around people but Im definitely at my best when Im alone. I never feel lonely in a bad way.

The reason people are lonely is because they have the mindset that anyone would do. We truly have _specific people_ we’re each meant, or a match, for, in this world, and when we just settle for whoever will settle for us, whether they align with our internal blueprint of _the person/people we’re actually looking for,_ we betray (by ignoring our inner self and their desires, so we’re not even _being (with) ourself,_ truly) ourself and our true desires. People think their preferences are optional, that _connection_ is the necessity- when it’s the other way around. You are looking for a _specific person_ (romantically) and _specific_ found-family/friends, and when you meet someone and wish they would change in ways or do things differently, it’s because _they’re not that person,_ but people try to make it work with them anyway, because that’s what’s been shown as the ‘right reaction’ by society when the actual right reaction is leaving them because they have now shown you _they aren’t the person you’re looking for._ People avoid this because it’s hard and difficult, maybe the person will be hurt- why would they be hurt to learn the truth? Don’t they want to be with the person who is actually right for them, too? This is another flaw in how people have been taught to react, because they will accept approval and faked love over authentic connection, they would rather someone lie and spare their feelings, so both end up with a person who isn’t crazy about them, when their reaction *should* be acceptance that if a person doesn’t adore all of them, then that’s not their person anyway. Because you are _just_ right for the person you’re just right for- down to those flaws you think no one will ever be able to know about and accept, because they’ve been through something that will make you and your experiences perfect for understanding them and theirs, in a way no other person could. You are _perfect_ for each other. All of the people who ever tried to change you, weren’t happy with you or how you do things, were looking for someone else all along: someone you will never be, and even if you managed to pretend you could only uphold that so long. People have lost touch with the truth of Love because they’ve become so well-acquainted with lust, because you don’t have to know yourself or your preferences to be used for and use others for meaningless, superficial pleasure which you will one day wish you could undo with all of the people who didn’t value you, once you’ve found the one who does. You’ll wish they could untouch you, that your soul didn’t have to dance with them every lifetime for awhile as an echo, everytime it encounters them- be they a shining knight or a murdering rapist, you are bound to everyone you choose to connect yourself to, forever. I prefer making connections with the people my _soul_ tells me to, not the people my genitals do. 🤷‍♀️ 😆

Great video thank you. Here is my philosophy and analogy: I love the rainy and snowy seasons in cities where people complain incessantly about bad weather but become overjoyed, and even ambivalent when more favorable weather like summer and drought seasons. When they can frolic with each other, clambering within huge crowds. Complaining all the way while pounding down tons of alcohol, snorting tons of drugs in an influencers frenzy to show off on social media. So when everyone is out and needy, like some mob of zombies feasting off each other. I become a recluse. In hiding, I take great comfort in my own company, I'm an artist, as a creative person I surround myself with an ocean of open ideas. Musical instruments surround my space and I can dance. Be completely involved within my own work or laze around carefree! When finally the heavy rainy season is finally upon the city. Less people are out. There are many more accidents on the roads so many of said roads are closed off. People rush home and don't linger. Leaving the entire city to my delighting ! Parks to myself and sometimes with other illusive sentient beings around, regarding each other just enough out of polite society in civilization. But giving ample personal space to graciously enjoy being alone and out in nature with the elements of rain and of snow ! Miserable city folk who only become happy and helpful, when it serves them are no people I would ever, ever wish to ever, lean on or depend on, ever ! Build yourselves from within and see the world as a sacred place that isn't your own personal playground. My late MaMa was the wisest of them all: "Child. Don't burden others. Be strong enough in yourself and become helpful to those most vulnerable. Don't expect anything. Create everything you need and inspire others through your own self motivation!"

The most alone I ever felt, was among a herd of hivemind hypnotized conformists, who did not allow anyone to be themselves. I just miss ... Me. When you are among others you are alone regardless, you are just distracted too much to notice. Another one I think is an example of a spouse waking up in a bed with "their better half" realizing they made a bad choice ...and meet true solitude and loneliness.

I've been single since I was 40...and I turn 60 this year. Alone? Yes. Lonely? Never.

moved to different city recently , loneliness feeling was hitting really hard but as an introvert its very difficult to connect with new people and also the fear of being in wrong company. Last few days were terrible…I don’t need people as much as I think I do…it’s basically social constructs which is playing in my head that human are social animal and it’s beneficial to be together and all..after this video I felt relieved.Thanks …may be its god message for me✨

For me, it is when I am alone and quiet that I find connection with all beings. In stillness there is a kind of harmonious relationship with everything. But when I am with other humans, I do often feel lonely. Its so strange. Occasionally we connect with someone but its a brief sudden spark. Ita nice to love and embrace solitude and connect with someone else once in a while. Animals and nature are always good company.

This was fabulous... looking at all sides of this concerning issue. As a loner/introvert who spends all week engaging deeply with other people as a psychotherapist, this episode makes me feel much less guilty and less insecure about "not needing "people... now if only I can get my two extrovert best friends to understand this

This is profound. You put the thoughts I have in my head in the best way possible. I don’t seek approval anymore and that has led me to my authentic self. I’m still learning, but learning never stops.

I started to slowly realize as well that I've acknowledged the part of myself that I just have differences from the people I usually come across with. That I don't like socializing at the very core. It was a great deal of struggle before because I'm trying so hard to conform. It's just not my cup of tea being around them. I see a lot of annoying things they do and yes, it's part of their being and I have no business changing that of them, thus the best solution really is to just distance myself.

This made me think about the fact that a lot of folks don't enjoy being alone, that when they are alone they spend a great deal of time inside their head. Which then made me think of a quote by -Mana Maoli "You Live Most of Your Life Inside of Your Head. Make Sure it is a Nice Place to Be!"

I have never felt a sense of belonging or that I was part of any community. Never fit in among others, never felt comfortable among others. Its my nature to be introverted and quite, now I am on a journey to find peace with myself by myself.

Hello ,Thank you for sharing this beautiful message. Truly the herd mentality is limiting and may not allow us ti realise our full potential . Though we are made to feel by the society that socialising is very imp but if we have the courage to do what makes us happy and not conform to opinions or seek validation or approval than truly it will lead us to liberation. I love your message.Thanks a lot.🙏👌👌

Tricky thing about solitude is that it becomes your comfort zone and sometimes you forget how to get out of it.

Your videos made me realize that I am not a weird guy who likes to be alone and don’t like to socialize. Because my relatives and friends thinks that we should all socialize with others and make a good impression among others. But I never felt the need for it.

After all in the end, like how we were born, we were born alone. We die alone. Not needing people reminds us that we should know all of us have paths to walk away from as our choice. This whole video, has a lot to unpack, and really well made.

Let me just say, being an only child whose mother abandoned me and my father was blocked from finding me, you guys have no clue how horrible loneliness is.

Thank you so much for this video. 💗 . I was thinking on that exact issue this afternoon. I Am a Senior woman and have been on my own for a long time. My family mean a lot to me. BUT... being on my own is absolutely necessary for me. I have often felt guilt that I do not pursue company. But as you so eloquently stated, it is definitely better to be on my own.

The other side of having the ability to walk away from relationships, friendships, and situations involving others that we don't want to deal with is that we become less able and willing to work with others in any fashion. Many people think they like solitude simply because they don't have the social skills to be around others. When they self-isolate, their social skills further deteriorate and interactions with others become increasingly difficult and sometimes painful. There is quite a fine line between enjoying one's own solitude and chance for reflection, and being an immature and selfish individual that will not work with or share time with others, akin to a toddler that wants everything their own way and would rather throw a tantrum and storm off than work to find a compromise that overall benefits everyone involved more than each individual acting on their own.

Thank you for another beautiful program. I love your voice. I am one of those people who prefer to be and live alone. I ws married, I raised a son. The only person I love to spend time with is my 5 year old grandson. If I need help,I buy it. I read books, I go to art classes - those that please me. Day seems longer when I am alone. No gossip, no social pressure. My life and my time belong to me.

Bro, you're helping me understand life itself with these videos, genuine thanks to you...

This video affirms all that i went through in order to get to this stage of solitude.. which i am most grateful for.. inner peace is achieved! Thank you for sharing this❤

I thrive in my solitude. My favourite place to be. My most authentic place to be. When I’m with others, I sacrifice a lot for their sake, to care for them. I feel so many of their things,& nurture them. I would enjoy that in return. I love my solitude. The place where I have the most fun!

Thank you for this concept! I learned as a child from parents who were very domineering and unpredictable, I was not going to receive approval so I stopped seeking it. Recognizing it had nothing to do with me, I was free to be an individual. I still am confused by the amount of effort and emotion people put into validation seeking.

We should start a group for solitary people and all get together and share our experiences of being solitary.

I’m an introvert and it’s my blessing. I also have a husband who is introverted and we enjoy our time together (and by ourselves)

Peace is better than drama and sadly the world is full of conflict. Nothing wrong with being alone. People that love attention & drama can’t be alone with themselves

The ability to enjoy solitude-not needing anybody-is a function of healthy stoicism.

I think being alone is a powerful thing that most people don’t know how to do. When you’re alone you can have peace but when you’re with toxic people it gets miserable because you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around people.