U guys are so dramatic, I hate TikTok w my whole being and a lot of the people on it but the app genuinely help get artists the recognition they deserve. Literally the bigger smth gets the more bad people enter the fandom, it’s only natural.
i know there's huge mitski fans, and this would honestly kind of just wreck me. So glad I'm not a listener just to dodge that bullet of like caring so deeply.
@@nternetrat yeah seeing this just breaks my heart :( i would give so much to see her and to think this is what the people that beat me to getting tickets are doing, its so sad. they dont have to be fans of hers, i just wish they would show her respect and kindness, at least while in the same room as her :(
The mommy stuff is so gross to me because people really don’t care, I got called mommy by a 17-year-old when I was like 14, I feel like people forget they’re talking to real people and not fictional characters 💀
With the context of Mitski, I'm hoping they meant it in a "mommy issues" way, because Mitski has a whole song based around that type of stuff, if somebody is s3xualizing Mitski then that's really weird
@@_pizzahutbandaid_With the current world we live in, it's definitely the s*xual one. The words "daddy" and "mommy" has been highly sexualized and it's just... No comment.
Omg i PROMISE we are not all like this I'm 13 and I'm going to my first ever concert - a mitski one - in May, I can guarantee most of us aren't all like this but I 100% understand the frustration I would be annoyed as well.... Have a nice day
Same here. I'm a minor but I've enjoyed her entire discography and respect her immensely. Kids can suck but not all younger crowds are this disrespectful. I know I would never do anything like this and I doubt I know anyone my age that would either.
@zoemateo3970 a lot of younger kids can relate no matter their age, wether it's trauma or relationships, hope this helped! ❤ (also if it was i didnt mean to make it mean!)
yeah, as a longtime fan it’s infuriating seeing these awful fans ruin the experience for everyone else just trying to enjoy the experience. but also tbf it’s not just mitski, there have been a lot of insane things happening at concerts post-covid especially
@@emmi999i agree, been a fan for about 6 years now and seeing all of these videos of people being complete idiots makes me scared instead of excited for the concert im going to later this month. hopefully people get their shit together by then yknow? i hate being like “hurr durr tiktok bad” but if her music wasn’t so popular as tiktok audios (my love mine all mine esp) i feel like we wouldn’t have this issue ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Mitski needs to do what Bjork does and perform only in rare artistic occassions. If people wanna act up and not appreciate art, then they don’t need to be at her concerts. I’m fine with her doing a whole virtual concert series.
The thing is that Björk is at the point in her career where she doesn't need to tour to make money. Mitski probably isn't there, so the option of "only performing in specific situations" is basically impossible, and she needs to tour to live basically.
@@vixo551 That’s true. Bjork came out at a time when people still actually bought music. Even though she’s always been a niche artist, I’m sure she has tons in the bank and plenty of people will pay her obscene amounts of money to perform or be apart of their projects as well. I don’t think Mitski has that privilege yet.
I’m old enough to remember the 1970s, and people being pieces of shit at concerts is nothing new, so it’s not your generation - any more than it’s millennials, or gen x, or baby boomers, or the silent generation, or the g.i. generation, or the lost generation, going back to the beginning of time. But what DOES seem new is that there’s a sizable contingent of people who are demanding a RIGHT to be a piece of shit at concerts, i.e. “I paid for this, so I’m entitled to yell, sing along off-key at a Broadway show, throw a hammer at a singer, noisily eat a four-course meal in the movie theater, answer my phone while sitting in the balcony at an opera, set fires,” etc., etc., and it’s bizarre; before, when people behaved like shits at shows, the other people surrounding them would complain, and then the shit would either settle down or be escorted out by security … but now there seems to be this increasing attitude - I’ll call it “The Market Attitude” - in which people think social norms are secondary to their having “bought” something, that they don’t have to behave because their having spent money means they can do WHATEVER THEY WANT, and because there’s this shitty conservative movement spending billions of propaganda dollars to encourage exactly that attitude, a number of people who should act as enforcers - other audience members, security, the piece of shit’s cohorts - question whether or not they even have the right to intervene, and instead hang back, or even emulate the shitty behavior to “fit in” and not be the “party-pooper.” Anyway, sorry for the long post, and that’s really awful about the hammer. I would’ve demanded security arrest the assailant, and then I would’ve walked off the stage, but I suppose if you’re still getting started then these may not be options. And I’ve not performed in ages - I was never anyone, as it were, but in a sense I’m glad not to be up there today. But please keep at it! There’s nothing like nailing a performance and feeling the waves of love from the audience. :-)
this was really interesting to read, I really like your take on describing the new side of poor behavior in public. I could only fathom this wave of rowdiness as fomo post covid? but I think your point of entitlement stemming from that purchase makes more sense.
@@BababaZeal right, like what ? not a single mitski fan i know of is conservative lmao. you dont hear abt this sort of shit happening in country music concerts
Yeah this is breaking my heart. Shes expressing herself and being vulnerable, and theyre laughing... i cant stand people like this fr. Like stay home if youre not gonna be respectful 😒
I saw Mitski on the Be The Cowboy tour, and at some point between songs someone said "WILL YOU ADOPT ME??" Her response: "I appreciate your support, but I am wearing in-ear monitors and cannot hear you ☺️" The way she circumvented that behavior while still acknowledging that it comes from a place of admiration has stuck with me to this day
@@audreymcknight This is tricky bc some artists encourage questions from the audience, Joanna Newsom & David Bazan immediately come to mind. But the assumption without any knowledge of a previous invitation for audience questions is out of pocket for sure
@cat-cv8uh sure sure. But what's underlying the need to meow loudly at a concert? Throw shit? Say rude stuff to the singer? Yes, its probably silly and funny but why do it is what Im asking. These guys need to understand their own motivations for what they do in life
this is honestly why i think concerts should start being 18+. i know it won't solve everything and there's def adults like this but hoooly hell. the vast majority of people doing this shit are inconsiderate chronically online kids and teenagers post-pandemic who don't understand or care that you CAN NOT act like this in the real world
the moment at your show with the person throwing a hammer and then a bunch of people laugh is so unbelievably awful, that clip made me just freeze in shock
I can’t believe someone threw a fucking hammer at you, that’s literally insane behavior and they should face serious consequences. I hate going to shows these days cause of the incredible amount of people like that
People talking and not shutting the FUCK up at festivals has been killing me recently. Like talking and laughing so goddamn loudly that I can barely hear the music anymore and those speakers are LOUD.
@@aylajohnson7613 It's infuriating. Tbh though it's worst when it's the headliner and everyone just goes to see them whether they love them or not. But still they paid hundreds to be there, not paying attention is wild.
As a dancer I have seen so many weird dance performances that look so funny yet nobody laughs. I saw a contemporary dance performance of a woman breaking out of a trash bag on an empty stage, collapsing to the ground then laying still for 10 minutes as the performance happened around her on the ground. Funniest thing I've seen in my life. Still the room was silent other than applause. Even if you pay to see a performance there are still people in the room with you that don't want to hear your ignorant quips and catcalls period. If you want to make fun of a performance do it at home and not in front of the artist. You are not the main character.
I love this. As a fan of performance art it can encapsulate so many emotions: sensuous, humorous, strange, awkward or a captivating combination of all but the most important rule is to not guffaw like you are at a comedy show. Even the scene you described has made me laugh, I know I likely wouldn't even have the urge to laugh in the moment.
I saw mitski 3 days ago and it was absolutely one of the best nights of my life, and getting a ticket was so hard, but these annoying ass teen girls would not stop screaming 'MOTHER!!!" and HAVE MY BABIES!!!" between some of her most captivating and vulernable songs. At some concerts, this might be the vibe, if the artist encourages that behavior or finds it funny or sweet e.t.c, but Mitski has clearly stated before that this makes her uncomfortable. Also, the people that make fun of her performances need to get a life!!!! These people are not who she makes music for, and she isn't some boring ass pop artist who is gonna tailor her shows to fit the "masses." She is so fucking talented and this makes me so sad to see.
yeah its so clearly not the vibe of a Mitski performance, just keep the gushing to your instagram captions. I felt annoying for just taking photos and video of her even though thats my job!
Sometimes, it makes me wonder if those same people actually take time to listen and understand her music or do they just shut their brains off? Edit: Especially the “fans” that call her mommy and catcall her.
People bully live artists so bad. I don’t understand how you can mentally justify acting like that towards someone who is giving their all to perform for you, especially for shows you intentionally paid to attend.
No sorry I saw Mitski and it was the worst crowed of people I’ve ever been in. They were so disrespectful toward not just Mitski but fans who just wanted to enjoy her music.
@@autumnmatthew3185teenagers spend too much time online nowadays and it’s making them particularly anti-social and making them think it’s cool to be like asshole unhinged stans on twitter
@@autumnmatthew3185 I got openly hate crimed. Like usually I would just laugh about it and not take it seriously . But at a MITSKI concert?????? I don’t think Mitski would approve of this
I feel like an odd one out because when i saw mitski in July 2022 it was one of the best crowds I've been in. Everyone there was just very sweet and excited to see her. Mostly I think that was it was one of her postponed concerts(it was supposed to happen in march but someone on her team got covid) and the bandwagon fans didn't want to wait that long.
I'm so sorry that happened with the hammer. That's so fucked up fr, you could've been really hurt. Glad you are okay and continue to talk about concert etiquette,, this stuff is not okay, there's such an overwhelming lack of respect edit,,,, the new video lmaoooo, I'll think twice before earnestly caring about someone's wellbeing now 😭😭
@@zariaackermann3147 i went to her show (not the hammer show) and the venue that she was at in my town did not have like a thorough security. no metal detector or pat down, i can’t even remember if they looked in my bag. all they did was check my ID to verify if i could drink or not. smaller venues definitely give crazy people opportunities like that and should definitely step up their security.
Mitski asking her terminally online fans to put their phone downs even just for a second is soo funny to me bc like I don't even know how she can fix that problem. That's her audience its no wonder why they have no ability to read the room or actively try to disrupt the vibe for the sake of "content".
I feel so bad for her .. imagine pouring your heart out into songs for people to act like children. paying no attention to the lyrics just acting like she's a prop for their entertainment. people need to get their shit together before she quits
i think its also.. privilege? i live in one of those countries who only gets like (subjectively) a couple good artists coming to tour a year, usually the tickets are $150-350 nzd (200 usd = 330 nzd for example) so the opportunities are slim and i see so SO many americans taking their concert culture for granted. I think it resulted in exactly what dev mentioned- its not enough to just be apart of the crowd anymore. people who have been to too many concerts are getting bored and with tiktok they realize they can get attention so easily. the novelty of concerts must wear off if your able to be going to them all the time? idk, just my perspective
this actually makes a lot of sense, sm entitled “fans” just going to stuff bc they can or to say that they did. once that gets old they resort to being obnoxious
Thank u, I’m Brazilian so when Mitski played here two years ago the crowd really welcomed her, u could feel the energy. To this day probably the best concert I’ve been to in my entire life
If I heard people laughing or cat calling her during First Love/Late Spring at her actual concert I’d literally freak out cause that’s my favorite Mitski song that I cry to
I’m not a Mitski fan but bro…if someone laughed at my favorite band while they were performing, I’d lose it. I cannot stand to see my favorite artists blatantly disrespected.
I could talk about this for ages. i used to love mitski so so much. i saw her in 2016, 2017 and 2018 in smaller venues and it was so intimate and beautiful even at the first two shows when she didn't have dance routines yet. but when I saw her again in 2022 the crowd had changed so much, there were so many people trying to be the funniest person in the crowd, holding up signs on their phones or yelling things out. catcalling mitski, calling her mommy, screaming so loud when her dance had a move that could be read as sexual. and everyone filming every second. it broke my heart, I felt like noone was actually listening to her in any way. her words, her music, what her movement was saying, was lost on them. I could barely hear her singing over the crowd too. I don't want to blame a younger crowd either, but it was a younger crowd who had heard of her from tiktok. and I also think it could have been their first concert after covid so they didn't know how to act. i don't think they were even old enough to really be reading into her lyrics or her stage movement. in some songs i was seeing her portray a story of a woman objectified and the crowd was screaming at her and catcalling her. it was shocking :(
seeing her from 2016-2018? thats so cool! I only got into mitski in 2018, i think with nobody becoming really viral for the first time. I'm glad you got to witness her shows with a more ideal crowd/respectful atmosphere
8:29 you would think it's only younger fans that would scream like that at artists but when i saw yaeji last year there was a full grown man who would not stop screaming "MOMMY!!" at her between every single song. so not only was it grating and uncomfortable it was also incredibly embarrassing to witness someone probably in their 30s act like a literal baby
literally saw her two days ago in durham, was a really great crowd that was pretty respectful, thank GOD. i didn’t realize it had been this bad at other shows. i’ve been a fan of hers since 2016 and it’s been. man. such a hard time to see her blow up and ppl being SO FUCKING RUDE. esp when she’s become so dedicated to making the show an incredible art experience
I definitely think the blowing up thing isnt the problem. It's definitely a good thing as it's easier to find people who know her music, and you can relate to and make friends and stuff. The problem is that since she blew up her music gets to crazy ass people who scream "mommy" at concerts 💀
Yeah I went to Feb. 2 Durham and luckily it wasn't bad there. I think the Duke students and stuff kept the behavior pretty calm, but idk how the ground floor was
There's a really bizarre lack of consideration for other people's general well-being that's already bad enough on its own, but manages to be even more fucked up when coming from people who are literally paying to see someone perform. Why go through the trouble if they genuinely could not care less about the experience? Why waste the time & money of everyone there, including themselves? I truly do not understand
@@spOOkytimes their caregivers r usually pieces of shit too who harass customer service workers nd carry themselves with a sense of over-entitlement everywhere they go, their kids end up picking that up and behaving the same way and its so annoying lol
not trying to be the guy who blames it on ~social media~ but i can imagine these people are likely there for the instagram pictures because everything is a performance and a commodity to them. like “everyone look at this thing i bought and what i can do with it!” even though the “thing” is experiencing a musician’s talents live.
A HAMMER??????????? that would be my final straw, i’d walk off the stage fr. i’m so sorry….luckily you were not physically hurt, but oh my god. actually traumatizing
tiktok has 100% effected the way people treat concerts and artists but i def agree that its important to note that people have always been shitty to openers, its a big problem and its not new!! back in 96 placebo opened for weezer and were pelted with COINS. they were used to poor treatment because of brian's crossdressing and the heavy queer themes in their music but its insane to me that someone who cares enough about a band to go to their show can treat the opener like shit as if the headliner didnt choose them! it makes me so sad how at every show ive seen 80% of seats will be empty during the openers, people talk over them, ignore them, just generally show no respect for them. i dont trust people who skip the openers for no reason. have some decency.
this new era of shtty fans and crowds is so so sad. ive only just started to be able to afford to go to live shows, something my ma loved doing at my age. i want to experience what she did but its so hard to enjoy yourself amd connect with the artist on stage when people are literally trying to connect hammers to their heads like cmon people
I've been attending concerts for years and years now and it truly is baffling how stupid crowds have gotten. I try to avoid all ages concerts. 18+ has a decent chance of obnoxious people too. I very rarely have issues at 21+ concerts, only the occasional drunk idiots. Not to sound like a curmudgeon, but it is younger people who have no manners and who seem not to care. But they are probably the same people who have never had to save for something or even work at all.
honestly this seems to be and anglo saxon festival issue... where i live concerts and festivals remain mostly super energetic yet respectful to the artists. Also because affording to go to a show (specifically international acts) is such a privilege and investment, that it makes no sense to act a fool in a once in a lifetime experience
@@lollabunyxxx I live in England and even at huge festivals I've never witnessed people act like that. It's totally foreign to me. But the demographic of her audience is very different to what I'm used to seeing, so it must be that.
One of my BIGGEST dreams is to go to a mitski concert. I cannot believe people would pay so much money to see Mitski and then just disrespect her make her feel super uncomfortable
honestly, as a die-hard mitski fan i don't understand these disgusting people. it's not that difficult to fucking respect someone?? i would trade my family to go to a mitski concert ngl
Crazy how if you throw a hammer at someone in public you'd probs be arrested but if you throw one at a performer on stage it's apparently a joke now?? Sorry to hear that happened to you and hope you can come to the UK soon!!
dude i would KILL to see mitski live this makes me soo mad 😭😭😭 how are they that ungrateful and disrespectful. i would never want to perform again if i was her
id be in tears if i saw her live. id cry and really observe her performance. the crowd is so rude and obviously they don't even like mitski! i hate calling people fake fans and that's fine bc they're just not fans. they don't even have the gut to pretend they are.
I wish I could too but I'm scared that by the time I'm old enough to make my own money to buy tickets and travel, Mitski would have already quit music or stopped doing live shows bcuz of disrespectful fans
i’m a casual mitski listener but i’ve heard about people being fuckin weird at her shows. how hard can it be to just treat an artist with kindness and respect, really?
i love mitski so much. she is such a thoughtful and grounded person. her music and her presence, her interviews, they're all very comforting. and it's so painful to see people who don't respect her at all buying up her tickets just to talk, and laugh or yell at her the whole time. i understand this is really common with concerts, and it's great for concerts that are meant for it, but mitski's music, her concerts/tours, are so much of an experience 😭😭 i'm the opposite of one of those people that gets mad when their favorite song goes viral, but i think some people just can't connect with mitski's music the way she intended when she wrote the song. if those people want to see mitski live just to hear the one song they know, then that's awesome! don't be laughing at her thoughtful, artful performance because you think it's weird 😭😭
also extremely ironic and upsetting that people are catcalling mitski during her performance of songs about how men see women as sexual creatures, and fetishize women who look like herself💀😭😭guys can we stop and think for one second jfc😭😭
i watch ur vids without being on tiktok i use u to keep me cnnected was the hammer real or fake is it a promotional thing wtf dev i dont understand!!!111!
@VillesFanUTTPbro is not the fact that you are lying abt it but moreso how are you commenting that shit everywhere lol. You are not looking like a defiant-funny troll but rather a depressing troll starved for attention
People like that at concerts need to be treated as hecklers and get removed by security. It’s impossible to enjoy yourself and the artist you’ve come to see :/ So incredibly frustrating
i was convinced that the hammer was rubber. I'm sure others were too at first, I just can't believe people would laugh at that if they thought it was real. it's messed up. so sorry that happened to you.
@@dizzykitteh It feels eerily similar to objectification. And I am nowhere near knowledgeable enough to actually say if this is right or not but. We as a society are having a reckoning with the meaning of consent, and there is a part of us that thinks that economics beats out consent. Like- Throwing things at someone IS assault. Even if it is something like a bra, I think there needs to be a discussion about what consent is and what it means. And it is tied into this belief of the performer as something not quite human to us- or maybe a human, but certainly not a person. To be annoying about it, it kind of reminds me of solipsism- the idea that the only thing that we can be sure exists in this world is us. I have read a few comments that talk about the monetary side of it and the reasons, and those are certainly important. But I think it might be worthwhile to think about what our generation is picking up as the meaning of CONSENT, which truthfully goes so far beyond just "can I have sex with you" and MUST go beyond "can I have sex with you" if we want to live in a world where boundaries are respected. Not just that, but if buying a ticket is worth MORE than a person's bodily autonomy, then I think we really need to think about that. (Also, I think it is VERY interesting that the annoying Mitski fans who are struggling with consent are likely young women who think about consent a lot. Also, they are literally sexually harassing her when they call her "mommy" or when they tell her to "have their children" (like i read somewhere else in these comments). I don't know what it means- if it is just a sign of a wider struggle with empathy and consent? Or something else. I would love to hear your thoughts!)
night 2 in Orlando somebody was meowing and people would yell during quiet parts. right before she started singing 'the frost' somebody yelled something which sounded like "have my children" and Mitski was so obviously bothered she furrowed her brows for a sec
@@rhodosu7937 ik like girl you are 13 please stop catcalling a grown adult woman while she’s trying to do her job and talk to the girl who sits next to you in math or something instead
I saw mitski during the Laurel Hell tour, and i remember this one time (and we were watching from right above the pit) someome in the 2nd/3rd row had their flash on. Like that would've been right in her face?? It was a pretty small venue too so she had to stop for a bit after the 2nd song and politely told them to turn it off (luckily that was our only "incident") its just so strange to see the complete lack of self awareness in her shows
I have bipolar and bpd, I absolutely love mitskis music and I respect her immensely as a person. She has issues with her mother, she experienced loneliness and bullying, she has that inner gut wrenching feeling where you so desperately want to be loved and even though you are, you still feel you're not. I just absolutely love her music and relate to it, I dont understand how people can be so rude and disrespectful. Has no one actually sat down and read the lyrics away from the song? They're wonderfully deep and so meaningful. Towards the end of the video you mentioned how it could be that people are so used to their videos on tiktok being about them that it isn't enough to be an audience member anymore. Well, there's a saying that sums this up really well and is something that quite alot of celebrities sadly live by. "Any attention, is good attention". Meaning, doing anything for attention, even something people don't like or gets negative attention, is good because you still got peoples attention. If you ask me, it's pathetic and speaks volumes about how lonely they feel
So i went to see Mitski last Saturday in Durham NC… the KIDS behind us were annoyingly chatty the whole time, laughing at her moves, just being rude… also people were SO MEAN about the opener saying he was horrible. Let’s respect our artists!!!
Okay commenting bc tamino is my favorite artist of all time and I can’t imagine anyone thinking he’s bad. I’ve seen him live and he has the clearest voice I’ve ever heard, sounded even better than the recordings. I’m sad he has to deal with mitski fans now
i have tickets to this tour and i'm PRAYING the crowd is respectful. it's so annoying that it's so hard to go to concerts, the tickets are already expensive as hell why can't people just be normal
literally sat across from someone screaming "mommy" at her during the laurel hell tour. I gave them the nastiest look I could manage but I wish I told them to shut the fuck up. Seeing her again next month so maybe I will if I see it happen again.
I was at mitski and there was a group of girls behind us that just screamed MITSKI WE LOVE YOU OMG MITSKI THROUGH THE ENTIRE CONCERT. Overall they made it horrible. Please don't shriek and actually enjoy whats happening instead of your own shrill voice.
HAPPY LITTLE DAY! TODAY! NOW! (but fr mitski is such a wonderful artist and deserves better treatment, especially with the topics of her songs and how beautiful and beautifully made they are, i hope this tour goes better for her and her rude fans learn how to treat an artist with basic respect and love 💕 i cccant beleive that someone HHHAMERED YOU (i see you blackjack jones.) ummm angways stream give mama a hug)
She's a performance artist! Just saw her tonight! No one can tell a story with her body like she can! Toronto was in awe and respectful! People hollered "I love You" but that was it.
People did this to Yebba when she opened for John Mayer and if I’m being honest, her performance is now one of my core memories. It was experimental and beautiful, something I don’t know if I’ll ever experience again. I was so upset people were talking over it because I wanted nothing more than to live in that moment for as long as I could.
When Prince Royce opened for Ariana Grande the audience was super respectful and just vibed. I feel so bad for openers that get treated like shit. They deserve better.
So lucky I've had the chance to see Mitski twice, touring for Puberty 2 and then for Be The Cowboy. Both shows were in a smaller venue, and the crowd was very respectful. Everyone was just there to sing along and have a good time!
i saw mitski back in summer 2016 which i'm realizing typing this out now is close to eight years ago now and it was one of the most emotional shows i had/have ever seen (and at the time i had seen literally far too many shows to count -- used to go to like a show a week and be very involved in the music scenes of the cities i'd lived in so it wasn't as though it was because of a lack of quantity/exposure to live music). this was in montreal, a city that was once the centre of the musical universe for me. it was a smaller venue that i'd been to a couple times already (i remember seeing my favourite band there and the singer-songwriter washing his hands beside me bc there wasn't a separate washroom for the musicians, just one tiny washroom for literally everyone), there were 30 people max and the average age i remember actually kind of being on the older side -- i was 23 and remember being among the youngest there. it's really weird to see what her fanbase has evolved into, or maybe for whatever reason (tiktok? lol?) her shows end up full of a lot of people who aren't actually fans and don't know or really care for/about her music that much?
i went to her first show of the most recent tour in miami beach. luckily, only one or two people yelled i love you and a lot of people just told them to stop. the not recording thing wasn’t a problem. i was towards the back so i was able to see the phones and there weren’t that many especially in the pit! i did record a few songs in full like pink in the night and and i bet on losing dogs and little clips and pictures of other songs. i’m towards the younger side of the fan base, but i didn’t see very many
Pleeaaase try to avoid filming entire songs and pulling out your phone constantly during a concert. You might think that it doesn't bother anyone, but it's very distracting for the people standing next to you. Also, if you know that mitski prefers people to not film entire songs, what would compel you to do it anyway?
@@karolineCPH i chose to record two songs (like 5 minutes out of 1 hr and 16 minutes) because they are my favorite songs and i wanted to be able to listen to them after. i understand how it could be distracting, though the person to my left did the same, and the person to my right was my mom who couldn’t care less about being distracted or not by phones. i know i reallt shouldn’t have recorded the full songs, but in the moment i just wanted to have a recording that i can listen back to.
Not to mention the meanings behind her songs??? Like dude, it’s not some silly thing you should be yelling meow at. It’s her pouring her damn heart out on stage
I’ve really noticed that the really wild people are teens to mid 30s tbh. I saw Lana Del Rey on her 2023 tour and the crowd was def across that range and they were totally unhinged.
The scariest part of this is that a lot of these kids yelling at concerts are part of the “Alt” Scene on TikTok, if they’re disrespectful at certain rock or metal shows someone actually might beat the shit out of them
im so glad you're on youtube because i had to delete tik tok cuz i got into an argument in a comment section and someone called me little bro and it almost pushed me over the edge
It's sad to hear how disrespectful people are to openers. I went to my first concert in January to see Melanie, Upsahl was the opener and I had never heard of her before but honestly I was just vibing and found a new artist I liked 😭 it's sad people won't give a chance to the openers. I was there for Melanie of course but more importantly to just have fun in general
I saw mitski last week and someone near me was like “she’s so weird” :/ This was my second concert of hers and the crowd was so much different. No one was singing either. She swayed and did the “i love you” hand sign and no one did it back, which you would expect people to. She is an artist that means so much to me and her performances stick with me. The first crowd appreciated her so much more than this crowd did imo. She deserves to have crowds who will give her the love and support that she deserves. Not to write think pieces or anything, but I just wish for better.
I’m going to see her with my boyfriend in April and I’ve already anticipated that I’m gonna cry because I love her music but if something like this happens I’m gonna cry for sad reasons instead. I’ve been in love with her music for like 5 years and she’s my favorite individual artist ever and I saved up my hard earned money at my minimum wage job (im 16) and I hope my show doesn’t get ruined like this. Luckily the Ryman Auditorium is smaller so this might not be an issue
I’m still super excited to go because I love her music and performances down to the point where I spent weeks crocheting a This Land Is Inhospitable And So Are We sweater and immediately bought the limited edition vinyl for it, I just hope people learn some respect
I feel like I saw her at just the right time for the Laurel Hell tour in Seattle. Lots of hype and excitement from a fan-packed house but still respect for her performances. I think some people screamed "I love you" a few times and it was the most excited/vocal crowd I've been in but it felt more like a community all excited to see/cheer for her. And people actually shut up during the songs.
THANK YOU FOR POSTING THIS. I have been a mitski fan for over three years, and I have been through the terror of thinking she would never come back. I got to go to the laurel hell tour and the audience was already... interesting. Im really glad shes doing this tour, but i'll be very sad if she never tours again. But I couldn't blame her. Anyways, Laurel Hell best album, Stay Soft best song.
@@Flyingwithoutmingsno bcs those adjectives describe me to a tee but i would NEVER do stuff like this. its really not that hard to shut up and mind your own business. in fact its significantly easier than being annoying. if i don't like the opener for whatever reason, I'll literally just zone out until its over
i hate the "tiktok-ification" of smaller artists today. i love mitski's music, and my love mine all mine is my favourite song of hers, but tiktok has stripped it of what made it special when i first heard it (before it became just a trend). it makes me really sad for artists like mitski who have a deep love for their craft.
Dev, I am so fucking sorry someone threw a hammer at you. I am mortified that someone could do that, and I'm even more disgusted that people laughed. Your music is beautiful and artistic (just like you!,) and I hope this doesn't deter you from sharing your talent while going on tour. Wishing you the best ❤
Really glad you're okay. I cannot believe that people are pulling this behavior with small artists! I really hope people start listening to those of us who have been around live music because we KNOW where this behavior ends.
You said everything perfectly. People love to blame this behaviour on the new generation finding her on TikTok, but that’s not all it is. Most people don’t even consider the kind of concert they’re going to, they just hear about a big artist going on tour and think it’ll be something big and fun to go to. Mitski’s concerts are very VERY different from most others that people treat like a big party. That’s perfectly fine, but everyone else just can’t accept that.
I went to Mitski's acoustic show for The Land Is Inhospitable and So Are We in LA a few months ago. Right after it came out, she played through the whole album as an acoustic set, just her and two others on stage, no set design, no dancing, just giving us the album. Between each song there was always a bit of dead air, just total silence while she prepped for the next song. Between first few songs, some people would whoop. There were weird little interruptions here and there, and I had seen her with Harry Styles so I was already preparing for an annoying crowd and a ruined show. Once, one girl shouted during the break, "I LOVE YOU, MITSKI!" And then, from across the theater, a deeper voice emerged from the darkness. "SHUT UP." It never happened again. Every time Mitski would end a song, we would clap politely for a few moments and then sit in complete silence as she changed over her guitar or set up for the next song. A whole theater just waiting quietly for the next song. Every time this happened, I felt tense. Surely it won't last. Someone is going to ruin this moment. But no one did. People were still, quiet, and respectful. Once Mitski had played through the whole album, she told the crowd that now she was going to play some old favorites, and invited us to sing along. So people did! It was so joyous! I think this concert experience will stay with me for the rest of my life. We, as a collective, decided that we would NOT be disturbing the others in the audience or ruining the atmosphere of an acoustic performance. We would NOT be yelling things out between songs. When we're invited to, THEN we'll let loose. It was the most civilized show I've ever been to. So I think things are getting better.
Stan Culture is a double-edged sword: The positives of stan culture is the fact that you'd have an active and dedicated fanbase that are very supportive of your endeavors (the majority of the time) which allows you to gain traction but at the same time culture can produce some of the most unhinged people you've ever interacted with from being toxic to outsiders or genuine criticism as well as the fact that they can show affection in the most intrusive way possible as displayed in the TikTok video.
im going to see her when she comes to LA and im sososososo excited. she is such an artist alongside a music writer with the way she creates a story with her choreography and i just feel so lucky to be able to go see her. she's just so uniquely herself and that's a major reason i love her and her music!! i love how human she is. i hope people can figure out how to be respectful by the time i see her (they should've already but whatever).
i may have joined the mistki train because of tiktok audios but I am not a tiktok crowd I REFUSEEE. i knew one or two songs before tt but now I'm a hardcore fan. cant wait to see her in September!!
I went to a mitski show in my hometown an it was actually really nice luckily, everyone was either singing along or crying and dancing, i’m lucky to have experienced it
Oh my god.. I’m going to see one of her shows this month, since I adore her music and she seems so sweet. I was so extremely excited, but now I’m just scared people are gonna be shitty during the show :/ I feel so bad for Mitski, i hope people are better at the show i go to :((
If it makes you feel any better I went to her show last night And a girl started getting outta pocket and yelling “YES MOTHER! MOTHERING!!!!” And shit like that And bc Philly doesn’t play that shit like instantly EVERYONE in the theater goes “shut UP!!!!”
Yes! It was a group of friends up above my seat and they yelled daisuki and mother is mothering. Then later another group were yelling weird crap too before being shushed. Most of the audience was cool but I could still hear the chronically online and there was one girl standing up during a song as if she didn't have ppl sitting behind her. 😐 Some of these ppl really think they're special.
this is WILD!! i feel bad for mitski and after this video, i think i’ll listen to more of her songs, since im kind of a new fan and haven’t listened to too many songs of hers yet. also i really hope that if i ever attend a concert (haven’t gone to one at all) that the concert goes nicely and no one is yelling or harassing the people up on stage.
Reminds me of a Radiohead show where someone was just yelling during a quiet moment and Thom Yorke - in the middle of a song - yells back “shut the fuck up, you’re not funny you just don’t get out much” before playing the rest of the song