The Most Unforgettable Marriage Calls I’ve Taken | Greatest Hits Vol. 2

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On today’s show, we’re looking back at some of the most epic calls in show history, including:
- A wife reeling after discovering she’s been lied to for almost 30 years
- A couple unsure of how to recover after trying an open marriage
- A woman wondering if she should tell her husband she was unfaithful
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@Badassoldwoman 7 месяцев назад

As a personal trainer, I beg you all - don't get involved with your personal trainers!!! I've seen so much shenanigans in the gym. The way they make you feel is the way they make all clients feel. The slimy ones just prey on the vulnerable ones who fall for it. Please dont ruin your marriage for foolishness.

@mildchaos6037 7 месяцев назад

I say have the Personal trainers keep doing what they are doing. They are saving a bunch of men from unfaithful women. Assuming they ever find out

@susanriddle9408 6 месяцев назад

Agreed!

@Mrscarricom 6 месяцев назад

@mildchaos6037 Sometimes it's the attention, and these charmers know what to say. Not all are unfaithful. Some are broken

@mildchaos6037 6 месяцев назад

@@Mrscarricom it will never cease to amaze me that women still don’t understand a man will tell you literally anything to sleep with you

@Mrscarricom 6 месяцев назад

@mildchaos6037 it's why the creator called them the weaker vessel

@nt3833 9 месяцев назад

The open relationship one makes me think that a lot of people today are bored and also self-absorbed. They say things like “I need attention,” and then use that as justification to step out on your marriage. Love is putting someone else’s needs before your own and serving your partner. Everything now is me/I/myself, and that attitude does not facilitate a good marriage.

@joymattson8549 9 месяцев назад

They want the safety of being married but the fun of an extramarital affair. Totally selfish.

@davidjonburke2729 9 месяцев назад

It's really not that way they choose to live that way because they really do like it and it makes them both happy.. I know several married couples married for 30 years that way! Typically in this kind of relationship if your partner has found a new partner that makes you happy and vice versa... Not for me but like I said I have a lot of experience in it I actually run a lifestyle group!

@ineedhoez 8 месяцев назад

They are narcs. Raised by codependent permissive parents. The world resolves around them.

@catherinethompson6531 8 месяцев назад

Yes yes and yes

@coolwater55 8 месяцев назад

@@davidjonburke2729Nope, 100% wrong. They are selfish, self centered, and have neglected their spouse, family, extended family and most important their children..if they have children. It's a crime against children. It's hard enough to have time for each other in a marriage, with family. Where are the children? Where are the grandparents? My husband and I spent mega hours with work, raising children, volunteering, fitting in extended family events. We barely had time for each other. Birth, death, taxes of life and not necessarily in that order. People who think with their genitals and instant gratification are selfish, irresponsible people to their family and society. Don't for a minute say it " worked" for them as if there is no damage.

@joanneford356 5 месяцев назад

I discovered my husband of 25 years had been having an affair when he told me he had an STD. He told me the day after my dad’s funeral. He made up a crazy story that he’d had a one night stand… all lies. I remember he got on his knees in front of me and begged for me to forgive him. He said‘I don’t want to lose my home’ At no point did he say he didn’t want to lose me or our family.. Game over..

@jennymccullough9517 4 месяца назад

Batard

@journeyon2489 2 месяца назад

My husband cheated on me multiple times in our 28 years of marriage 38 1/2 years together. He ADMITTED to me on cheating on me because he didn't want to go to his death bed someday without me knowing! We'd been having marital problems for a long time now and when he told me this, it killed me!!!! He to said he didn't want to loose his home. It was all about what he is getting or losing because I AM getting a divorce! We are 7 1/2 months separated and in the process of a divorce. We see a judge now in August to finalize our division of our assets we accumulated throughout 28 years of our marriage. IM DONE! The ultimate betrayal to our marriage!! I was 100% faithful to this man💔💔💔😭😭😭

@abbasjoy4785 Месяц назад

My home? 😒 it was about the consequences, not what he's done to you..

@bluetmato3225 Месяц назад

👌🙏

@abeal49 Месяц назад

the caller knew the marriage was over. she didnt know how to move on from that. She was isolated

@camillemayers103 9 месяцев назад

If your partner is putting pictures of you on the Internet, sexualizing you and saying that you are looking to be with a man in front of him...he is marketing you. This is dangerous. Neither you nor he have any control over who encounters this information on the Internet. Your husband is dangerous. Run!

@DedeMattix 8 месяцев назад

Oh, ouch. Marketing. That's exactly what my ex did to me, but I never thought of it in those terms....he put my personal info on polygamy and sister-wives sites and I had noooo idea. Ugh.😢

@gomolemofritz5966 8 месяцев назад

I watched a reality show where a man had done that to his wife. She left when he drugged her and men took turns while he watched. Seriously RUN!

@Lamour-c5b 7 месяцев назад

Doing that without a spouse's permission is wrong. But don't confuse that with consensual open marriages.

@itsme3k 7 месяцев назад

I said the same thing. He could be opening her up to be trafficked.

@Sam-iy1nt 7 месяцев назад

Open what now?😂@@Lamour-c5b

@COINsimp2024 9 месяцев назад

That first wife needs to divorce her husband right away. This is a character issue that can not be fixed. I don't think she needs to tell all her friends their business, therapists only. Once you start telling friends it's too many cooks in the kitchen.

@humilis42 9 месяцев назад

I agree. Talk about making things worse.

@datheamore6395 9 месяцев назад

P*rn addiction is not a character flaw. It is an illness that has become worse for a lot of people because of the internet. A lot of times addictions stem from deep seated childhood trauma and a struggle to connect. P*rn addiction is no different than food addiction or drug addiction. That being said, if you have no trust, love can't hold its footing. She has to decide what work is worth doing if she decides to stay or go. And I agree, telling too many people causes more problems. Better to speak with a therapist and maybe one really good friend she knows will just listen and not force their opinions.

@COINsimp2024 9 месяцев назад

@datheamore6395 food addiction and drug addiction aren't breaking a covenant, and neither is a reason for divorce in Christianity. Porn is.

@MN-br5nb 9 месяцев назад

@@datheamore6395but she doesn’t have to live with that…what kind of life is that. Don’t be scared of being alone. Live your life.

@B-Marie 8 месяцев назад

I so agree with you. I was surprised that he advised her to talk with her friends about it. I've never seen that go well. She has a therapist to share with...I think that's enough.

@Zinnie988 8 месяцев назад

To share your measurements and compromising photos of yourself taken in confidence, and sharing it sneakily to others like him is also compromising your safety, questionable and ultimate betrayal. Is he pimping her! Trust is broken. 💔

@DawnNa_22 8 месяцев назад

Agreed. Any weirdo could’ve seen that and and taken him up on his offer - randomly and potentially violently. That’s one of the most absurd things I’ve ever heard a husband do to his wife. I’d actually report this to the police just to have it on record, then I’d file for a divorce.

@Jendromeda 7 месяцев назад

i agree......it seemed like he was trying to put her in danger on purpose....really sick.

@mariatorres9789 7 месяцев назад

She could've got a stalker from that, or had a guy attack her in her home after getting all these sexual ideas from hubby. Very unsafe. And to think of all the diseases he could've brought home. Smh.

@deeprollingriver52 6 месяцев назад

First wife. Your husband has not stopped his sick addiction. Trust me.

@imoto123 4 месяца назад

Exactly. I can bet my life on it. He is Just putting up the show of improving and all... In reality it's just bla bla bla

@WildBison74 4 месяца назад

Right, nobody can stop something that deep cold turkey. Well maybe not nobody, but it would be very rare.

@MsLilyPickles 3 месяца назад

If she got back together with him, she guaranteed herself more years of misery. He was good at hiding that part of himself and getting caught will only make him better at it. She will never be able to, and should never, trust him again. He shared her face, body, measurements online specifically for other men to sexualize WITHOUT HER CONSENT. That’s divorce paper behaviour.

@CalebsCars 3 месяца назад

Yea that’s wild though because I can express all that stuff to my wife freely 🤷‍♂️

@hello3146 3 месяца назад

First wife. You are crazy if you stay. Dump him and move back to your home state before the divorce. He was not your best friend.

@krystenburkhardt-hansyn 7 месяцев назад

“I need you to see me and still love me”! That really shook me. I wish that when we were younger, I’m 57, but I wish I had the patience and the ability to sit down and listen to people who knew what they were talking about instead of thinking I knew everything. I wish to God I could get that time back. But I can’t.

@Gigi30107 7 месяцев назад

😢me too

@Burlykim13 6 месяцев назад

Hopefully you learned the lessons that you were meant to learn, because that (imho) is what the point of hardships and struggles are…and you will keep getting lessons given until you learn them. 😊

@lesley_lezley 8 месяцев назад

Crazy how people always don't know what to do AFTER they've done everything to ruin their marriages.

@butterflyygyrlsworld5106 8 месяцев назад

😂💯🙃 IKR?

@Ausbrahdave 7 месяцев назад

Make it sound easy.

@ifynwamma 6 месяцев назад

😂😂😂

@Keeks492 4 месяца назад

Right?

@KG-bliss 2 месяца назад

😂😂 and it only happens when they are caught and trying so hard to backpedal and it's so slippery and slimy, just like themselves.

@joymattson8549 9 месяцев назад

That husband who posted pictures of his wife will never change. I don't care how much he goes to therapy.

@colleengarcia7752 9 месяцев назад

Yes. She needs to be honest with herself. This is over. He is a narcissist and will only appear to change. She needs to quit protecting this guy! Eww. He is a creep.

@DrDoerk 8 месяцев назад

Jesus Christ died for all

@mr.fettesq.7705 8 месяцев назад

@@colleengarcia7752without defending the guy for doing what he did...d.why do women CONSTANTLY jump right to labeling a guy a "Narcissist"...??? Lol!!! Ypu literaly have no basis for that nonsense. It doesn't even make sense in this situation. I'm convinced most women don't even know what being a Narcissist actually means.

@thewonderinggentile 8 месяцев назад

IF WE WILL LET HIM, HE MAKES THE ONLY WAY FOR US TO CHANGE!!!@@DrDoerk

@ladydatura2529 8 месяцев назад

@@mr.fettesq.7705it has nothing to do with gender. Most people cant diagnose a narcissist.

@dachater1 9 месяцев назад

How do people think an open marriage is ever okay?!?!😰

@greenAbbot 9 месяцев назад

Abraham, David, Noah, Solomon…

@mentak2593 9 месяцев назад

@@greenAbbotoh yeah they all worked out so well 😂

@videofan1010 9 месяцев назад

Open marriage always looked like a lot to me.

@VeronicAM313 9 месяцев назад

What gets me is that monogamous couples thing open marriage will save it. Truth is, open marriages take work. You have to have the boundaries and the rules already in order before you do it. You talk to your primary partner before, during, and after, always! Primary partner comes before the secondary. Too many people don't talk to their partner, they don't express their feelings, Primary ends up feeling neglected and the secondary is put on a pedestal.

@mbwilson8592 9 месяцев назад

@@VeronicAM313 an open marriage is not marriage. Marriage is a word with an objective, definitive meaning. Though the culture is corrupt and wicked, marriage is one thing, and one thing only.

@christywilson2177 9 месяцев назад

I wish my therapist and our marriage counselor would have been this upfront with us. It might have saved my marriage. It seemed we were just doing superficial work and left to flounder. Thank you for your work Dr. John.

@lilolmecj 9 месяцев назад

The second call had excellent advice for any relationship struggling over any issue. Simple, but not easy steps for healing .

@ineedhoez 8 месяцев назад

Yeah... a bad therapist can destroy your life

@tinkthefoxylilmiss6801 8 месяцев назад

@@ineedhoez .... how do you know? Did this happen to anyone that you know?

@suzannewilliams759 7 месяцев назад

We also tried a marriage counselor. Aside from being later & later for each appointment, I felt like she was refusing to help. When we opened with his cheating with a stripper, she looked at him, he looked at her & they laughed....while I sat crying. She knew he interacted with this hooker/stripper admitting he started by motor boating her naked body. The appointments that followed, she wore lower cut blouses each time showing more cleavage. I asked her about workbooks or exercises to help us. She insisted we weren't ready for that. Because of his lies over 32 yrs, I asked her if we could do a .polygraph test. She refused that as well. I left & never went back. Just because they hang out a shingle, doesn't mean they're qualified to help.

@Elizabeth-uj8vn 7 месяцев назад

@@suzannewilliams759I’m so sorry for your experience. You should report her. She needs to lose her license. That’s dangerous. Same thing happened to me. First visit she was laughing with my then fiance. I sat there crying my eyes out and they were talking like we were out at a restaurant or something. I reported her to my next therapist. I left his butt behind.

@jeremym311 2 месяца назад

I hate hearing these stories of failing marriages. My wife and I have our problems, but I would never leave her. She gave me our children and helped me build the life we have with both of us dealing with depression and health issues through the years. I think of her every day, and I am absolutely the luckiest man on earth to be with her, living the life that we live.

@GreenManXY Месяц назад

Same. I wonder how these men live with themselves? Like, how can you look yourself in the mirror when you cheat on your pregnant wife?

@sandraeastern9720 Месяц назад

That’s what marriage vows are about.

@Claudia-lq3ns Месяц назад

I wish you and your wife the very best. I hope that my husband has your character when the chips are down ⭐️

@SarTafoolya Месяц назад

@@GreenManXYmy ex husband looked me in the eyes with zero problem he also did it I front of my young step son. Zero regard for my health or my unborn child. When my sweat little step son told me with zero idea of what he was saying my ex husband told my step son to tell me he was making up a story and that he was lying. I looked that sweat little boy in the eyes while he cried his heart out that I believed him 💯 and that I knew he was being honest. My ex kept the lie up for a couple more hours that evening till I told him I absolutely didn’t believe him and to tell the truth. Finally he admitted to it my soul literally fell to the floor I lost a huge piece of myself that moment and continued to lose myself for years to come. I was holding my brand new baby I felt faint but held on tight and wouldn’t let go. My life went on to be hell for years after. I look back and see all the signs now. And it’s true what they say once a cheater always a cheater that goes both ways for men or women. Cheating and lying and hiding it and swearing on people’s lives was all a sham. I believe his shame was then taken out on me physically because soon after the abuse started. I didn’t have the tools to understand what I was about to enter into. Long story short people like him look themselves in the mirror by never being honest with themselves. He has never taken responsibility.

@thankyousoverynuch69urmom90 22 дня назад

God bless you.

@rebekahwilson7703 9 месяцев назад

The second caller said, “Blame Covid, blame this Blame that”. Are you serious?! How about, I chose this instead of that. Take Responsibility For Yourself!! Also, she came back because “it didn’t work out”, not because she knew what she was doing was wrong. Nor did she say she loves her husband.🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️

@pimaggot 9 месяцев назад

I blame the husband. He "agreed to it to keep her happy" - instead of saying hell no - I will leave you so fast and be out the door

@SaystheTruth3 9 месяцев назад

Exactly! She's sounds very immature.

@nt3833 9 месяцев назад

Yep, she just talked about HER needs not getting met, not getting attention, etc.

@abbyxiong3931 9 месяцев назад

She needs accountability for her actions. That's up to her to choose. It was irresponsible to believe that being with more than one sexual partner will be the solution to their troubles. I hope the best for her and her husband.

@vladturov3572 9 месяцев назад

Very good point. I always think when I hear stories like that well you came back to your husband because it didn’t work out but let’s imagine that things were going great with this new dude…would even a one thought about your husband cross your mind? The answer is no! Because she would be thinking “yeah this new dude is so great! Giving me so many great emotions! That’s what I’ve been looking for!” But in reality the fairytale stopped pretty quickly and then she goes “actually my husband wasn’t that bad I actually want to work on our relationship” well it seems to me she hasn’t changed and I would expect her to do something like that again when she again needs “more new emotions”. Unfortunately no wisdom there at least I didn’t see it 🤷🏻‍♂️

@JustinCase780 9 месяцев назад

Cool miserable stories on Christmas. 😂

@whitshenanigans 9 месяцев назад

😂

@rayseyeoman7540 9 месяцев назад

😂😂😂😂

@judyjetson8542 9 месяцев назад

This comment is gold😂😂😂

@Whiskey_Jane 9 месяцев назад

Here for it 🙌 ❤

@SaystheTruth3 9 месяцев назад

😂

@pattylyons9645 8 месяцев назад

If the two of you are already having problems, involving a third party will only make things worse.

@shawnbrooks5293 8 месяцев назад

Yes, it's like having a baby to save the marriage. Terrible idea

@lisaleone5128 4 месяца назад

I had a coworker that tried that. They divorced and he ended up remarrying and had another child.

@flower9015 3 месяца назад

THATS what I kept telling My husband but he acted like I was over sensitive, too old fashioned & after a couple yrs first married hearing his FANTASIES to groom Me into his idea of fun, I said NO.. He gave up for some yrs after our 3rd yr..then somewhere into more yrs leading up to 8th, 9th yr his swinging desires went full tilt WITHOUT ME..on the sly I found out, tried talking sense to him for about 3 or 4 more yrs..eventually I kicked him out I supported him his 1st 21/2 yrs into our marriage I'm old fashioned. I believe in love. I believe in vows. Why do people swing? It's never gonna FIX ANYTHING but only make it worse I'll never forget the moment I caught him. I was on My way to do HIS LAUNDRY...and got a feeling I should return back to the apartment QUICKLY after leaving ..because I sensed he was online with HER...AND HE WAS..BUSTED! He tried to deny he was doing anything wrong...even laughed AT ME as if to imply, I'm being ridiculous...THEN.. I said show Me your minimized screen...BUSTED! I read All their sex talk of WHAT they wanted to do..like WTF...why? I was THE PERFECT WIFE!!! and I was very attractive...I was very UNDERSTANDING, PATIENT, GIVING, EASY GOING, GREAT COOK, KEPT GREAT HOME, .... so its not like he wasnt LUCKY it's ALL ABOUT his juvenile selfish wants

@mindbodyfitness99 8 месяцев назад

First woman needs to leave him and not look back. He’s NOT going to change. He might make a good attempt at faking the change, but it won’t take long for him to turn into Super Douche again.

@Jendromeda 7 месяцев назад

he may be a sex addict. Plus he's pimping out her pics....unbelievable.

@timschultes6467 7 месяцев назад

I agree she needs to leave. Also I laughed at the super douche part I thought I only said that lol 😂

@mariatorres9789 7 месяцев назад

Exactly. What does she think he's doing living on his own? Does she think he's happily waiting for her? She wasn't enough for him when they were together everyday. Why would she think she's enough, when he's flying single? Smh.

@yvettegg1806 3 месяца назад

Reminds me why I love being single after 2 marriages. Never again do I want anyone interrupting my peace❤

@TheWizardSpeaks 5 месяцев назад

An offer for open marriage would immediately end the relationship for me. Absolutely no way I'm doing that

@Keeks492 4 месяца назад

I agree. ☝️ f your partner is asking g you to open the marriage is because he is already manning to cheat. But convincing you to participate makes him look better in public because if you’re doing it as well, then no one can point a finger at his cheating ass. I would end the relationship as well.

@MaletinaClarke-rq9ds 3 месяца назад

Yeah, so why bother getting married !!?

@thayah 2 месяца назад

Financial. I know some couples have married just to multiply wealth and riches but have lovers and mistresses Sometimes it down right looks like a marriage between royalties just to protect and enrich the crown and then both wife and husband have their own partners lol@@MaletinaClarke-rq9ds

@LaurenSanders13 Месяц назад

Well I think he should have been upfront and open about his wants and needs. It’s okay to be in an open marriage as long as the partner is aware and okay with it.

@Melontheyoutuber Месяц назад

@@LaurenSanders13lol yeah until some guy lays some 5-star pipe or a lady gives that gluk-gluk 9000 and takes it down the hatch afterward. It’s a bad idea all around and it never works out for the better

@goodgoogly2569 6 месяцев назад

Who else has trust issues after listening to this ?

@sungchia280 5 месяцев назад

I actually started feeling much better about being single all my life.....I actually feel proud of myself for not settling and for making decisions that lead to physical/emotional loneliness but kept my integrity whole....

@NorthernRealmJackal 3 месяца назад

Yeah, that second call nearly violated my marriage by proxy. That dude's misery went through his wife's 2nd-hand testimony, out through my speakers and touched my soul inappropriately.

@karlas9961 8 месяцев назад

One of our preachers said to ask your self each day “what can I do to help my mate today”. It takes the thought off self and onto your mate.

@barbthegreat586 8 месяцев назад

I think that many people'd be far better if they focused on themselves rather than others. Also, helping others without them asking for help is a great violation of other people's boundaries, and you're really presumptuous if you believe you know the best what's good for other people.

@mbwilson8592 7 месяцев назад

@@barbthegreat586 ha. As if we don't already struggle with thinking of our own desires first. Humans do not need any help to think about themselves more. Look around at our current culture. People need to focus on themselves more ? Nuts.

@liannemarie2504 7 месяцев назад

I told my husband I absolutely love doing things for him. When he asked if I could do something for him, I jump up and do it. It actually makes me happy to make his life easier. He's always so appreciative of the tiniest little thing it makes loving him so easy. I always tell him he's such an easy person to love

@birtajonsdottir9910 6 месяцев назад

@@liannemarie2504sounds like your love language is acts of service 🙂 My husband's 💯 the same. My love language is words of affirmation so I feel like it's a great combo. Cheers to healthy and happy marriages 🎉🫶

@morgan1740 6 месяцев назад

Love languages are different for everyone.. it’s important to have that conversation with a partner.

@littleblackbabycat 8 месяцев назад

Posting or sharing sexual photos of someone else without their permission is illegal in Australia! 😮 this is vile behaviour.

@Burlykim13 6 месяцев назад

As it should be! However, despite the fact that what he did was morally repugnant and most definitely wrong, if she’s clothed (even racily as she stated - shorts and a short tank top) would that still be illegal? I’m guessing not.

@sws316 5 месяцев назад

It’s illegal in the US. I’m kind of surprised John didn’t say that she has the option to sue.

@sc3639 2 месяца назад

They were not sexual though. Caller said that in the call.

@kellykirk4244 9 месяцев назад

Only true Delony fans are listening now on Christmas Day. 🤪🎄🎄🎄 deck the halls and listen to tragic stories falalalalala

@arfriedman4577 8 месяцев назад

Sorry im not Christian or catholic. Howevr i found this on jan 25, 2024

@FaithShorthouse 13 дней назад

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

@neededtobesaid4275 9 месяцев назад

Second caller. Her husband allowed the "open relationship" to make her happy?!? She only stopped cheating because her "boyfriend" didn't treat her right. Did she ever mention that she loved her husband? One day the husband is going to realize that he's not enough for her. Unfortunately, it might be when she finds someone else.

@alejandroc7357 8 месяцев назад

Its never really love if you can allow another person to get deep up inside your partner. These people are not ready for marriage and should just stay single forever

@vixen7774 5 месяцев назад

She never cheated he consented to an open marriage 💀

@Keeks492 4 месяца назад

But l thought she said husband accepted it because he had someone else too. Maybe l missed something.

@m0kusatsu691 19 дней назад

@@alejandroc7357 I'm in a closed throuple... What's that mean for me?

@stacyritter9261 9 месяцев назад

Porn addiction..soft or hard...ruin many a relationship... especially when the partner lies about it and hides it...there is so much trust destroyed...and so much pain in thinking you are not beautiful and wanted.

@blueseptember2174 9 месяцев назад

100%

@Jendromeda 7 месяцев назад

they get addicted to it....and prefer it to real relationships.

@jenniferhuerta9824 8 месяцев назад

I’m mad that ophelia wants her husband back after the boyfriend thing ended. Her husband has to be so hurt.

@sitcheyr9352 8 месяцев назад

They both participated in an open marriage. While she initiated it, he seemed to be content with the idea of sleeping with other women. Honestly, they are both supremely at fault. My husband would never trade me out for open sex. Her husband didn’t love the idea but he said as long as he can have side action, he’s fine. That’s gross on both their parts. She emotionally got attached to one person, he had sexual encounters. They both defiled the marriage bed and their commitment to each other. If they are able to fix this, it will be both of them having to work on their adultery amongst many other things.

@joshuapope6563 7 месяцев назад

If someone came to me about an open marriage I would agree. Then I will get a divorce the next day. That's an open marriage.

@ciobalina7445 Месяц назад

@@sitcheyr9352 You know, I think that's not the full picture. Judging by his withdrawn attitude, he is probably secretly preparing a divorce. She thinks he still wants to be with her, but she'll be shocked when she receives divorce papers. He doesn't act like a guy who is still involved in the marriage, she was just too absorbed in her affair to realize that.

@romystumpy1197 Месяц назад

@@joshuapope6563😂I like it

@eileenwatt8283 23 дня назад

@@ciobalina7445 she's using him as a place holder until she meets another guy. If the guy treated her better she would still be doing it. The husband is planning an exit .

@thaimuayshoo1171 9 месяцев назад

It's a circus out there, that's for sure

@hansonallie 9 месяцев назад

I kind of feel like disclosing the sex she had with the other guy is more to relieve her conscience, than actually heal anything in their relationship…

@wstone4046 8 месяцев назад

Agree, just because an item needs to be said, does not mean an item needs to be heard

@hansonallie 8 месяцев назад

@@wstone4046 - Ooh!! I like that!

@kenklee4 8 месяцев назад

That's just it - it does both! From the perspective of the husband, healing comes in two ways: 1) he has another reason leave her 2) rebuild their marriage in truth when he is ready. I like the way John put, both ways are going to be incredibly difficult. She no longer has an out and must live with her choices. If she loves her man the way she claims to, she'll tell the truth.

@mildchaos6037 7 месяцев назад

Yeah she doesn’t sound too upset. I feel like she’s fine with a divorce if it does come to that

@ilykepink 7 месяцев назад

eww you're a woman of poor character. i hope your husband cheats on you LOOOOL

@leafitalone 9 месяцев назад

One thing I noticed Dr.John missed with the middle story was at the beginning, the first domino that so many people knock over that starts this downward trajectory is TALKING TO OUTSIDE PEOPLE about your marriage. You can speak to someone outside your marriage but it has to be a therapist or an actual marriage coach/mentor who wants things to work out in your marriage! People constantly speak to friends, parents, siblings, and co-workers about private things in their marriage. You are allowing outside strangers, who do not care about your marriage and probably are either not married or have a toxic relationship themselves, a loud voice in your marriage. As we can see speaking to another co-worker specifically the opposite gender he offers to sleep with her to fix their problem. He doesn't care about your marriage... it sounds obvious but people don't have common sense. Now when the other people got what they wanted out of your little entanglement, they can leave happy and you're left with your spouse trying to clean up the explosion that just happened inside your marriage. Its amazing how many people allow acquaintances to destroy their marriage. People can come back from these things but it is challenging. There needs to be a course people take before they get married.

@dandaniels2868 8 месяцев назад

I think most people dont understand accountability. I see it more in todays women. Sadly

@bettyjojoeharperre-imagina7322 8 месяцев назад

Yes! I am very careful about speaking about any relationship issues or venting because it’s so easy for family and friends to demonize the side they aren’t hearing.

@n9wff 8 месяцев назад

@@dandaniels2868 Culture teaches that men are stupid and women are the savior of relationships. Social media is destroying more men from a women's point of view, making more demands than most men can deliver. As for me, I feel inadequate. Being in competition with social media has killed any sparks of romance.

@lucindabreeding 8 месяцев назад

I don't know, he recommended the first caller tell some close friends about what's happening with her marriage.

@mombythesea2426 7 месяцев назад

Idk. What usually happens is the man forbids the woman from talking to anyone, meanwhile he feels free to complain about her to his friends.

@katiebrown7774 7 месяцев назад

There's nothing "normal" about a pornography addiction

@Tara-cv2kz 7 месяцев назад

maybe not “normal,” but common

@kunknown2340 7 месяцев назад

Might as well be normal now.

@epsilona7472 7 месяцев назад

is normal synonymous with natural? or common? If certain behaviours are common among gamblers, wouldn't there be normal addictions and abnormal addictions? both are unhealthy, like even though snake bites are rare and bad, there'd be normal bites and abnormal ones right? or like if you get envenomated, it'd be normal to have to call an ambulance.

@stevie2673 7 месяцев назад

Statistically there is a normal version of everything. Normal is in reference to a normal distribution which states which percentage of people fall into a certain place on a spectrum. Therefore there are normal serial killers, normal pedophiles, and normal cannibals. They just represent the most common version of the group they are a part of, no matter how immoral or reprehensible that group may be. Notice how John says that he is calling it normal porn addiction because of the industry that he works. He has spoken with so many people with porn addiction, he can visualize the distribution of cases and can see that the case presented was not common amongst people with porn addiction and is therefore a statistical outlier and not normal.

@TheYoungCatholics 6 месяцев назад

Right? That was just invalidating towards people who have gone through the trauma of finding out that their spouse is addicted to pron and/or entertaining chat room infidelity. This is such a man's response to something like that. Basically, "oh yeah, we've all been there" without addressing the trauma of having been completely betrayed. Just because it's ubiquitous doesn't mean it's not incredibly traumatic for the spouses who have to deal with it. The posting of pictures is just one branch of a huge betrayal.

@elkforests 9 месяцев назад

"Hes just there." 🤣😂 yeah you really love the guy.

@stevie2673 7 месяцев назад

Exactly! I feel for that man. Cucked by his wife and when her fantasy inevitably falls apart she doesn't even comprehend the possibility that he could be hurt or struggling.

@DonnaLena1 6 месяцев назад

He’s a potted plant

@inosuke4708 6 месяцев назад

The woman in this relationship seems horrible. Poor dude

@corddarby9594 2 месяца назад

yep thats why MGTOW is going mainstream, we are no longer being a ATM machine or a pack mule for ungrateful western whores !

@WVgrl59 6 месяцев назад

My husband wouldn't even stay with me when my dad was dying and I was into my third trimester and we had a daughter that was 16 months old. He had a softball game and he was the manager and said they needed him. At 31 year old man. He made it rough for me the last four and a half years of my mom's life. I need to call Dr John

@kellysong2256 6 месяцев назад

Good Lord, Honey. I hope you are divorced from that jack*ss

@lorrainebettencourt8009 6 месяцев назад

❤🙏

@jennymccullough9517 4 месяца назад

He's a pig.

@maryhurley5884 4 месяца назад

Hope you have! May 2024

@AleG3637 4 месяца назад

Sorry you have been treated so poorly 😔

@kimberlygorgoglione9237 9 месяцев назад

No, i couldn't move past husband posting pics of me and asking who is interested.

@fkhan1036 7 месяцев назад

Exactly!!!!

@mightymouse1005 6 месяцев назад

I would press charges

@dking1362 8 месяцев назад

Big respect to Dr. Delony here....to analyze such complex situations in such a short time, to give practical steps and insight, and to offer hope - quite remarkable.

@LSSYLondon 2 месяца назад

He gets long emails and his staff interviews the callers first weeks in advance so he goes in prepped.

@lav7161 9 месяцев назад

Perfect day to have this come out. Ho, Ho, Ho's all around 😆😆😆

@sonyaakhanna 9 месяцев назад

😅

@younglady000 6 месяцев назад

I snickered, nah I laughed😂

@lalacoqui3729 5 месяцев назад

😂😂😂

@melaniegenuinely 4 месяца назад

😂😂😂

@vanessapanek9959 8 месяцев назад

He was seeking out for attention of other couples, and was basically pimping her out to the other couples as a freebie sounds rather insulting

@jondoe4444 9 месяцев назад

And this is how we ruin a marriage folks

@gmarie9507 7 месяцев назад

To the 1st caller; the same thing happened to me after 30 yrs of marriage. I’m in a therapy group with other women this has happened to. Please know that recovery is possible if you want it. All this pain you feel is horrific. Please look for a CSAT therapist; so important. Don’t tell friends that can be unsafe, it can cause you even more ptsd. Again a CSAT led therapy group will help you heal. Much love ❤️

@Gigi30107 7 месяцев назад

Thankyou

@Will-ef2tw 7 месяцев назад

@@Gigi30107 I would just say if ur in a marriage and hees not having his needs met. And ur upset at him for trying to having his needs met (via substitute). Why are you two even together? If reconciliation can be found there needs to be a compromise. Or else he will resent you and you will hold the grude from the past. An it will become either toxic or very cold and distant.

@texasrose2315 7 месяцев назад

@@Will-ef2twDon't u dare blame her!

@Auntie-Sara 7 месяцев назад

@@Will-ef2twWill, let me guess; you've done something like this and as your girlfriend or wife was kicking you out of her home, your male ego screamed, "This is all your fault because I have needs!" Indeed you do but your URGENTLY important needs are NOT between your thighs; you can handle that need all by yourself. Your truly urgent need is between your ears in your poorly educated brain. If you ever learn that a woman is more than a living porn doll you might stand a chance at not being alone and constantly kicked to the curb.

@Sanlynnben 7 месяцев назад

If he is not satisfied- it is up to him to be HONEST & communicate with his WIFE… not live a life of lies!!

@deannestowe9968 9 месяцев назад

My sis had this happen to her and it ruined her. He also repented and it was true and sincere but its been 3 yrs and they both still weep. Counselor told her if they are doing better in 5 yrs than they are doing well. It takes a long time to heal from entire marriage being a sham.

@balazsfoldes4700 8 месяцев назад

I don't think coming back from this sort of betrayal is possible. If someone has proven that they are willing and able to hide the truth and lie to your face for years on end, how can any amount of time of honesty prove that they've changed? The remedy to every grievance (beside compensation for the grievance) is a change in behaviour from the offending. You forgot something? Write a reminder so you won't. That's a guarantee that it won't happen again. There is no equivalent guarantee you can give for years of lies, deciet and manipulation. I think it's why spousal betrayal is one of the worst sins, because there's no way to remedy it, it will either upend the relationship, or the agrieved party "forgives", i.e. they pay the price for the cheater's mistake.

@Jendromeda 7 месяцев назад

@@balazsfoldes4700 just the creepiness factor is enough to end it.

@sarahalderman3126 5 месяцев назад

@@balazsfoldes4700it is also the most common result of marrying a man.

@Kathy-qu8zj Месяц назад

Been 25 years for me and still haven’t recovered. You never do.

@Kathy-qu8zj Месяц назад

Absolutely… ive been the one paying. Big mistake to stay.

@antonchigurh981 7 месяцев назад

Me and my wife thought about open marriage to spice things up, but then she said she was afraid that id like the other woman better and leave her. And i dont like the idea of another guy with my wife. I also knew personally 2 other couples who did that and it ended up ruining both their marriages. we just decided its not worth it and agreed to not do it. Monogamy only.

@TracyRaven 6 месяцев назад

Have you maybe considered a s*x doll ?? Good innocent fun and nobody gets hurt, they're an investment but could save a marriage 😍

@maylynbayani 8 месяцев назад

I asked my husband if he would ever want another wife. He said that one wife is trouble enough. He would like to have his sanity intact hahahaha.

@Badassoldwoman 7 месяцев назад

LOL. Mine says the same thing! I used to tease him about getting a sister wife, and he would visibly cringe😂

@graphitetalk 7 месяцев назад

Ha ha ha. My husband said he does not know how some Muslims have 4 wives as they are allowed. One wife is ENOUGH, to drive a man nuts.

@JmGmail 7 месяцев назад

Saying these things does not mean anything.

@epsilona7472 7 месяцев назад

what a strange question to ask your husband

@liannemarie2504 7 месяцев назад

Exactly! Every married man I know says that one woman is trouble enough!😂😂😂

@sherriwenrick2098 7 месяцев назад

I truly appreciate how honest you are. Listening to you has helped me be honest and open. It is a great feeling being free of secrets! Thank You!

@Yomine123 9 месяцев назад

The lady that was with the trainer, belongs to the streets. 😮

@epsilona7472 7 месяцев назад

And she had a 2 year old and a 4 year old! I can't imagine the mental gymnastics she did to justify that. makes me sick.

@anibaldamiao 6 месяцев назад

@@epsilona7472blaming men is always easy, maybe that’s how she justified

@Doubrovskaia 6 месяцев назад

Around 8:10, that seemed pretty invalidating. With all due respect, if as a host you are tired of listening, take a break. You're over it and not fully present for this woman who probably hasn't been able to tell this to anyone.

@marysaltlife1427 9 месяцев назад

Second call--I don't agree with calling a friend to share everything. That's no ones business, and really serves no purpose other than to share the caller's misplaced guilt. She needs to talk to a professional that will be there for the long haul. At this point, only HER feelings matter, and don't muddy the waters with friends' comments.

@JustinCase780 9 месяцев назад

Sure she should. Best day to call a friend and dump your troubles is Christmas morning. 😂

@marysaltlife1427 9 месяцев назад

@@JustinCase780 👍would just be awful

@patsyts4331 8 месяцев назад

The Ophelia call broke my heart. Those people are ruined forever…

@kenklee4 8 месяцев назад

It's truly degrading for her husband. I love it how John tells her that it will never be the same again because it's true. Their marriage will have to be completely different.

@inosuke4708 6 месяцев назад

She seems like a terrible self absorbed person. I hope she listened to this call back after to hear herself.

@romystumpy1197 Месяц назад

@inosuke4708 in her first few sentences I thought,selfish woman here

@Ibrapaintslight Месяц назад

It made me feel sick listening to her talking. Its psychopath behavior.

@Amy-oy5hk 8 месяцев назад

Neither wife (last 2 callers) seemed real remorseful for the hurt they’ve caused their husbands. Very selfish immature behavior! I hope they’re just coming across in podcast as careless. And that their families can heal and go onto to live happy lives, especially for the innocent kids involved.

@rak7293 7 месяцев назад

My husband kept begging to open our marriage. I finally said years. That’s how I met my new husband. Never been happier. Exhusband seems to not find what he’s looking for back then as he’s now got a drug habit lost his job and got a new gf every couple of months.

@KG-bliss 2 месяца назад

That is so sad....

@jh26pt2 9 месяцев назад

Gotta love Dr. D, giving us all the gift of "see, somebody else out there has an even *more* screwed-up family!"

@barryc9115 8 месяцев назад

Let’s break it down…. She hoed around, husband disconnected, lost love for her, found someone else….THEN she wants to close it and fix it. Sorry lady, you played yourself and he’s moved on. He will NEVER see you the same. It’s just a long goodbye now. You broke him.

@ramip8816 8 месяцев назад

So true! I still don’t feel like she actually cares for him. She just wants him back because she’s lonely now😏

@glennbastarache2310 22 дня назад

Are there any update videos?

@tommibeckman750 9 месяцев назад

I love that you did this. As someone who had 0 family around me this time of year, it’s nice to have something to look forward to. 🙏🏽💚 Merry Christmas to you and yours

@kariay50 9 месяцев назад

All the best to you in 2024.

@alimoore9657 5 месяцев назад

Thank you so much for having the courage to share your story Rebbeca!!! You say it feels isolating but I can tell you I've been through the same exact thing with my ex. Although I am terribly sorry for your heartache, it is nice to know I'm not the only wife who was completely blindsided and lied to for years. I already know though, your doing better now. Thank you again!!!

@mushroombird9400 8 месяцев назад

Situation number 1, I don’t think telling her friends is a good idea. They’re going to demand she leave the marriage and will never respect him ever again if she decides to forgive him and continue with the marriage. Way too much drama.

@SnifferSock 2 месяца назад

I don't see her friends ever getting over it.

@intherockies 2 месяца назад

She should leave the marriage! He has put her at risk by posting her pictures online!! Don't justify everything someone puts you through!!!

@topsoled 8 месяцев назад

Incredible how many people here are saying she should not tell her husband about cheating. What is done in the dark will always come to light and it’ll be much worse. It does say a lot about some of y’all’s character, integrity though 😂

@angelaratzay9034 7 месяцев назад

If she tells her husband she will clear her conscience and he will be heartbroken. Fly at it lady better have someone ready to pick you up. You want to tell your husband for reasons you are not truthful about.

@nt3833 9 месяцев назад

I feel so sorry for the husband who is about to get sicker-punched with the news from his wife that she cheated on him. And the fact that she has been lying for the past 2 months - he will never feel trust in her again.

@wstone4046 8 месяцев назад

She needs to shut up, fly right, and never stray again. No way should she ever tell him.

@nt3833 8 месяцев назад

@@wstone4046 I think that’s so wrong to withhold something that big.

@RonaldWarren-fy1ns 8 месяцев назад

@@wstone4046Found the cheater.

@kenklee4 8 месяцев назад

@@wstone4046 Nah. That perspective of self-preservation further elicits future episodes of not telling the truth to her husband. She may steer clear of it for a time but it further worsens the problem at hand. She'll then keep doing it to save her skin and live a life of shame that will eventually implode especially in her "faith" as a church-abiding person.

@gardeninmyeyes5406 7 месяцев назад

@@wstone4046 Agree! Never go to another gym. Ask God for forgiveness, forgive yourself and move on!

@digthewarmth 8 месяцев назад

42:11 Ugh "It went too far." "We ended up sleeping together." Girl, you CHOSE to sleep with him! This didn't just Happen to you!

@gloriascott633 8 месяцев назад

Agree, don’t tell any friends they can’t help you they’ll just be talking your business pay for professional help.

@gabrielakarl3859 9 месяцев назад

I'm not sure I agree with this advice. Honesty is great but I think people do it to relieve themselves of guilt...at what expense? The best thing she could do is not hurt her husband any further and become the best wife and mom she could be.

@joymattson8549 9 месяцев назад

Yeah, how is that going to happen? She doesn't seem to have accepted responsibility for her actions.

@ineedhoez 8 месяцев назад

No. Do not deny someone their ability to make a choice. She already hurt him. He just doesn't know about it.

@kenklee4 8 месяцев назад

No way. What a selfish way of thinking. This is likely the reason why marriages end in divorce. She's hurting her husband way more than she is hurting herself by not telling him. The only way she can be the "best wife and mom" she can be is to have integrity with herself and with others. Hiding that shame will compound and will continue to kill her inside. No amount of therapy will help this. She has to live with her stupid choices. I'll flip it around, if your spouse or significant other cheated on you, would you want to know the truth or continue believing that this man/woman is a saint that could never do wrong?

@mombythesea2426 7 месяцев назад

No. Honesty is the most important.

@MelissaMcCarthy-oy2lt 7 месяцев назад

@@kenklee4i have to agree with you. I would want to know if my partner was or has cheated on me and also i would want an explaination as to why and how it happened and if they are completely honest then maybe we could get past it and work on things. Who knows though? Everyone keeps secrets. Big or little. I would want to know.

@Suzette-gb7uj 7 месяцев назад

Thank you, Dr. Delony. I listened to your “The Most Unforgettable Marriage Calls I’ve Ever Taken Greatest Hits Vol. Two” for the first time this morning. The call with Rebecca really hit home. But what struck me, and frankly made me burst into tears, was you telling her the parts that were real in her marriage. Because I truly believed that our entire relationship, and marriage, was a lie. We were together for almost 25 years. He treated me like I was a princess for the first 20-ish years. I felt the shift, and tried to talk to him, but he denied that anything was going on. I put on my detective hat, and pretty much found out everything. We’re divorced; initially I wanted to work things out, but I discovered another piece of the puzzle, and I couldn’t go on after that. Thank you, again. I guess hearing an intelligent, caring human being (outside of my circle of family and friends) say “that part was real” is something that I needed to hear.

@R_S747 6 месяцев назад

That's heartbreaking I'm so sorry 😔

@camillacamargo177 18 часов назад

Regarding the personal trainer" Why would she tell her husband?? Why does she have to take the load of her shoulders and put on his? I mean, the mistake was done, she feels guilty (And she is), that's punishment enough. Dont do it again and move forward with life!!!! The reprecautions of telling the husband will be catastrofic, and wont repair what was done. Let things they way they are and DONT DO IT AGAIN. The best apology is CHANGE OF BEHAVIOR.

@gregshell8570 7 месяцев назад

People get used to being the DOORMAT. It is hard for the abuser to change but it is also hard for you to change and not be the doormat. Concentrate on you.

@KG-bliss 2 месяца назад

That's sad

@FaithShorthouse 13 дней назад

And partners who choose porn over you are emotionally abusing you. A lot of people don't understanding this and blame themselves for their partners abandonment.

@JuliaLeoSun 7 месяцев назад

Most will completely disagree with me but I think she should accept that he is looking at porn and fantasizing about watching her have sex with another man.. The pics are absolutely disrespectful and wrong without her consent. I think sharing her with those he is communicating with is almost complimentary. What he is doing is fantasizing. It's not a crime and quite normal. He screwed up by hiding it. I guarantee he isn't trying to sell her. I'm certain he loves and adores her. I know because my husband has done this. He doesn't want me to actually be with another man, it's a fantasy. He told me straight out and I have zero threat or worries. He's not addicted to porn. I'd squash the shame you both are experiencing right now. Talk it out. Lastly, put yourself first! Saying no is saying yes to yourself. I'm sorry your husband hurt you. I really am. I wish you both the very best in your lives and marriage..

@becca53444 8 месяцев назад

How do you cheat on someone and not feel like an absolute piece of garbage for not telling them? How is going on without them knowing the truth acceptable? What a broken moral compass…

@n9wff 8 месяцев назад

If they don't feel guilty thinking or planning the trust, the adrenaline will continue to fuel the choice and overriding the conscience. If there is no conviction after getting caught, there is no loyalty or morality in that person.

@heatherguess518 4 месяца назад

I know this video is a bit older. I've just come across it and enjoy listening to this. A lot of great content. One of my biggest issues is i am polyamourous and in simple terms it means having multiple romantic relationships. This requires a great deal of personal responsibility and security because it involves carong for and about multiple people not just one. This idea that our society demonizes multiple relationships is barbaric to me and incredibly disrespectful to other ways of operating. It's like demanding that a person only eat one thing the rest of their life or have only one child or friend. Different romantic partners provide different needs and fulfill different aspects of us as complex human beings. Being different doesn't equal wrong or bad and i am really not a fan of having one way hailed as the RIGHT way or the only way to be. Do i advocate cheating? No. But i absolutely am on the side of people's real needs and desires...... understanding them and encouraging people to meet them in healthy ways.

@elainenilsson5472 9 месяцев назад

Well, I identify with caller #1 and it has been 3 years. Still not healed.

@PetraHanner 8 месяцев назад

Me too friend 😢

@cl5193 8 месяцев назад

22 years. Still not healed because very little changed.

@arfriedman4577 8 месяцев назад

I'm sorry. I imagine your spouse had porn addiction.

@fredflinstone6601 8 месяцев назад

Why are you with him

@elainenilsson5472 8 месяцев назад

We aren't.@@fredflinstone6601

@rando.none.ya. Месяц назад

“You don’t trust yourself anymore” Yup.

@northshorelight35 9 месяцев назад

I don’t think people ignore their intuition or miss red flags. What seems to happen is that we tell ourselves if we don’t put up with it then we’ll always be in and out of relationships because nobody is perfect. The next person will also have all sorts of flaws and it’s only a matter of time when they do something that really puts us off.

@mbwilson8592 9 месяцев назад

There should be deal-breaker "red flags" early on, such as signs of low-character. If someone has low-character, there's no working with that. As far as expecting perfection out of fellow human beings, when we ourselves have flaws, that's arrogant and unfair.

@javaskull88 9 месяцев назад

If you’re raised in an environment that denies reality (like alcoholic parents denying that anything is wrong, or gaslighting their kids), a person learns to ignore or deny their instincts. Counseling can be very helpful at teaching them to sense and pay attention to their instincts.

@TheRealdal 9 месяцев назад

It’s easy to miss red flags. Especially when the person is good at hiding things. Like John said, it’s only looking back after learning the truth can you see the signs. During everyday life they are easy to miss until the person either gets caught, or their behavior starts to slip and you can then notice the changes.

@VictoriaTheBookworm 7 месяцев назад

nobody talks more about their trauma than a cheater does

@karolmetal4256 9 месяцев назад

The second lady who called can only be saved by being served divorce papers

@joymattson8549 9 месяцев назад

Totally agree.

@DonnaLena1 6 месяцев назад

She needs lots of therapy before she can be in a relationship - getting back together is not a great idea for her husband.

@esteehanvey5647 8 месяцев назад

if that first one was me I really think it would be over. soliciting sex on my behalf is terrifying and one step away from trafficking

@intherockies 2 месяца назад

I agree!!

@ashvaz7060 9 месяцев назад

I was having a not so good Christmas morning but I feel better now lol merry Christmas y’all 🎅

@amelianinan 9 месяцев назад

I’m being married for 10 years. I’ve spend 8 or 9 Crismases alone. I’m never the priority. I’m tired of it.

@GizelleQuant 9 месяцев назад

Why you are alone every Christmas? I’m sorry you have to go through that

@fredflinstone6601 8 месяцев назад

Run

@joinjen3854 7 месяцев назад

Why are you letting yourself be a Doormat?

@amelianinan 7 месяцев назад

@@joinjen3854 I don’t have family or friends in USA , I’ve been sick for a while and depressed. I don’t have a job at the moment.

@hillary1161 6 месяцев назад

Be done, it will get worse the older you get

@SaystheTruth3 9 месяцев назад

Second caller.... Grow tf up and take your marriage seriously!

@joymattson8549 9 месяцев назад

I don't think she has it in her. And I hate that she keeps laughing when she discusses her actions.

@mk6945 7 месяцев назад

Oh my goodness John, why wouldn't you suggest she find a local therapist to confide in for support? What are your thinking???? "friends" gossip. Some can be cruel. Yours may not be. You may have friends you can trust. But you have no idea who she has around her. The fact that she feels isolated and has not shared with a "friend" should give you pause. She is very vulnerable right now. Normally your advice is pretty solid. But that was a swing and a miss buddy. You quite possibly just made her bad situation a million times worse. What were you thinking?

@dompolidori5313 6 месяцев назад

She literally SAID she has a therapist. Sounds like you’re a bad listener???? Why wouldn’t you listen??? What were you thinking?? You really blew this one by not listening to this vulnerable person

@mk6945 5 месяцев назад

You're hysterical. She needs to find a BETTER therapist. She literally SAID: "Nobody knows". If she has such a great therapist, why does she need to call a podcast to publicly talk about this with a therapist??? All to say @@dompolidori5313, my comment was wasted on you. The therapist was not the core issue. Whether she has a therapist or not, talking to others if she is feeling a deep shame or embarrassment can backfire on her recovery if she is not ready or if they do not support her. In the end the concern was for the caller, but again, a concept lost on you. John is a big boy. He can handle someone with a different opinion. But have a nice day anyway.

@imeime4021 6 месяцев назад

The first one. Run! Go out, don't trust him anymore no matter what he say or do. Go run.

@blah7694 9 месяцев назад

Can't believe this comes out on Christmas Day 😅

@rickysomething3786 6 месяцев назад

Story 1: He's not going to change, that's who he is 2: the second you open the marriage, the marriage is over, this Dr. Is giving false hope. 3: She lied more than once. She can't be trusted...divorce is best for him.

@karolmetal4256 9 месяцев назад

The cheaters will cheat again

@Anniepat2340 9 месяцев назад

Not true

@arfriedman4577 8 месяцев назад

Most cheaters never stop. Very few will.

@PomsNTomsMom92 7 месяцев назад

And if your marriage is falling apart, Merry Christmas. 😂😂😂

@FreeSpirit47 9 месяцев назад

I love this show. It's a great reminder for me, why I stopped dating at all or having sex & have zero desire to get married or shack up. It's too much risk, too much work, not worth it, to me. The predicaments the callers on Dr Johns show are in, only strengthen my resolve. I'm grateful for this.

@mbwilson8592 9 месяцев назад

Most things in this life that are the most worthwhile and fulfilling, require sacrifice and risk. You should absolutely be smart in who you decide to spend your precious time with, and not be looking to another human being to "complete" you. But, marriage and family are truly worth it all.

@SaystheTruth3 9 месяцев назад

Agree totally!

@salonsavy6476 9 месяцев назад

Spot on 👍👍👍👍👍👍

@FreeSpirit47 9 месяцев назад

@@mbwilson8592 If that is your point of view & how you choose to live your life, then, that is what suits you. Some people, such as I, are much happier, productive, remaining single & celibate. My life is so good, there is nothing that any person could or would add that could add quality to my life. I HATED being married. The ex-only beat me one time. He didn't get a chance to do it again. 6 months after the divorce I met a truly wonderful man. The connection was there, we had a lot in common. When he died, I wanted to die, too. A year after that, I began dating again, it was horrible. The liars, cheaters, sex pigs, guys with deep control issues, so jealous, so possessive. When I made the decision to stop dating at all in 2012, I became so much happier. I began volunteering, helping other people, traveling more, indulging in a hobby I'm passionate about. I began working out & going to fitness classes, more. Life is good!

@FreeSpirit47 9 месяцев назад

@@abbyxiong3931 There is no reason or need to be sorry. When I hear of all the crap people do to each other in marriages & romantic relationships, my life is of a much higher quality. If I had stayed married, I would not have been able to travel as much as I do, I would not have the career that I love. I might even have been killed. When I was married, I loved to do volunteer work. He would become so irritated by it, tell me I was wasting my time etc. I tried talking with him, his mother tried talking to him, even our children. He wouldn't listen to anyone. He didn't believe I would leave him. Afterall, he only beat me once. (eyeroll) The creeps out there in the dating world ~ UGH!

@7MEGAPIXEL 8 месяцев назад

People need to wake up and understand how marriage is being attacked on a spiritual level. I’ve listened to other channels where married guys are getting bjs from other guys. Why is that? Usually something is lacking. He’s looking for satisfaction without inconveniencing you, maybe that’s the vibe going on between you two.

@barbthegreat586 8 месяцев назад

I assume that's because he's bisexual/ gay.

@dproukous1570 7 месяцев назад

Don't agree with him telling her to admit she cheated.Shes over it & why hurt the guy. Just let it go & don't create more drama

@frommyownbackyard3209 6 месяцев назад

Can't rob the other person of their agency. Have integrity and tell the truth and accept the consequences for your actions. They have the right to choose you or not.

@DonnaLena1 6 месяцев назад

I can make an argument for either answer, honestly

@Lamour-c5b 7 месяцев назад

Little Drummer Boy is actually a sweet song. He felt he had nothing to give to honor Jesus, but he did what he could, and it was enough and made Jesus smile. The message is even if we don't have money, we're still valued and appreciated. We are enough.

@mbwilson8592 9 месяцев назад

Man, I hated the advice given to the first caller. If she's done with the marriage and ready to pursue divorce, then it makes sense to tell their mutual family and friends (maybe). But, if she plans to continue in the marriage, it's not helpful to re-building the relationship whatsoever. You're either choosing to forgive him and work toward rebuilding, OR you're moving on. It's not forgiving to put his sin on blast to family and friends. Go talk to a couselor to get your feelings out, but don't shine a light on his sinful actions to others outside of the marriage. Terrible advice.

@georgekennedy5889 9 месяцев назад

@@cherzum Then why are you watching this channel? To hate watch? Get a life!

@ineedhoez 8 месяцев назад

@@georgekennedy5889touche!

@sharoncounce8907 8 месяцев назад

0l on@@georgekennedy5889

@dianamerren1317 6 месяцев назад

This lady may be shocked that her friends don't think that her husband is that great .

@Bamifun 2 месяца назад

Wow. I TOTALLY disagree with telling her friends about her husband. Find a group, but keep them out of your business, especially if you think you might get back together with him.

@rebekahwilson7703 9 месяцев назад

My husband is still sleeping and I’m wrapping presents.😊♥️🎄🎁

@JustinCase780 9 месяцев назад

He's rubbin' one out.

@ViciousOneWon 8 месяцев назад

The first call is a another reason why people should NOT work with young marriage counselors! The counselor has NO IDEA what it takes to be in a 28 year marriage. He is completely oblivious and doesn't address any of the issues that are causing the problems in their marriage. DO NOT SPEAK WITH YOUNG MARRIAGE COUNSELORS!

@show_me_your_kitties 9 месяцев назад

Sharing photos of her with strangers on the internet. There would be no coming back from that with me. And the second caller just started and I cannot listen to the vocal fry, her voice is nails in my ears. Bye 👋 Merry Christmas everyone ❤

@SaystheTruth3 9 месяцев назад

Yess! Or her up talking too.....

@rrickarr 8 месяцев назад

The first caller - the husband who posted her pictures and measurements---I would want to know if her face was ever visible, could people identify her? I think that would add even another layer to this situation if that were true. I wish her peace and that she will be able to move forward in the way that she feels is best for her.

@Jendromeda 7 месяцев назад

her photo must be out there...never to return...it's an endless internet. Its awful what he did. Creepy.

@johnmerrickAN 8 месяцев назад

Eek, the last few mins are brutal when he asks what would you do differently, she says I'd have told him... not I wouldn't have done it. She doesn't regret cheating imo

@Emma-yu9wb Месяц назад

I"m not convinced that full disclosure about an affair is always the way to go. Sometimes the partner just can't get past the betrayal, even if the marriage is fundamentally a strong one and they both want to save it. Even if they stay together, the wound remains open.

@eileenhetherington3704 20 дней назад

Totally agree. Confession is only to relieve one's conscience. If it was a one night stand and you have no STDs, suck it up buttercup and leave him out of your shame and guilt. Men cannot handle infidelity. You can scar a guy forever. Women are much more tolerant.

@trockslaw1 7 месяцев назад

I don’t want people to judge my husband???!!! Lady! I’m judging you and your discernment!

@ladonnahafen9938 6 месяцев назад

Wow! Victim blaming is why people hide the truth of their relationships. Your comment just adds to her misplaced shame.

@leahsiblerud9537 2 месяца назад

I don’t understand people that can listen to a story like this and turn around and blame the victim. Did you listen to her???? If you know anything about abuse, you know that the victim is usually gaslit and their love and empathy is what keeps them there. You’re judging her????

@vv6601 7 месяцев назад

Ladies, some things you gotta take to the grave.

@Jendromeda 7 месяцев назад

i totally agree. why should she blast him with this type of thing? he may not do well with the news at all plus there are little kids. She should never do it again and keep quiet...over the years it will fade and he doesn't need to know this crap.

@slavi7191 7 месяцев назад

It's no excuse when people say, "Oh, we've been together for a long time." The time doesn't kill desire. Relationships are work, and they take effort like anything in life. You want to be healthy and look good, it takes effort to eat healthy and work out; you want to save money, it takes effort and sacrifice to save money; you want a good marriage, it takes work and effort. Why would anyone ever stop putting effort into their marriage and expect it to last, is beyond dumb.

@liannemarie2504 7 месяцев назад

I absolutely agree. I think some people come into marriage with an immature mindset. I don't think age has as much to do with it as maturity but sometimes they do coincide. I married my husband because I could not stand the thought of not being with him for the rest of my life. The moment I met him I just felt this need to be around him. We've been married for almost 12 years and together for 13 and I still can't stand being away from him, lol. He is a wonderful person and he is just sunshine and everyone's life. He's just a good man and I really love him. I don't see this waning anytime soon. But I am blessed to have parents that are happily married after 45 years. My husband's parents have been married about the same time.

@younglady000 6 месяцев назад

Exactly and it’s very few people who can comprehend this and it’s all ‘we love each other so that’s all’ but that’s not all you need to put in work for a seed to grow. Love also means work

@barbaraadams2645 8 месяцев назад

One incident of sexual conduct versus years of love making and two children. Which is more important?! Don’t let the first destroy the second by telling.

@Jendromeda 7 месяцев назад

i agree....mum is the word for her. he could really go nuts or punish her for years...or get desperate and depressed....it would hurt him and their kids.

@disco2603 7 месяцев назад

Lmao, the fact there’s people that think this way is so scary 😂

@Jendromeda 7 месяцев назад

@@disco2603 what's scary is ruining another person's life by telling them things that will destroy them. No one knows how he will react, what he is like, etc. She needs to take this to her grave, it's her fault, let her deal with it. I'm wondering if she will do it again...

@cedwac746 7 месяцев назад

I find it odd that a therapist told a person to bring biased friends into her deepest secrets of her marriage. Don't bring biased friends into your marriage.

@inosuke4708 6 месяцев назад

Their marriage is already totally destroyed. That woman was speaking to Dr. D about how she could feel better & heal not the relationship

@octagondoctor 8 месяцев назад

Let me get it straight.. The guy that fantasized about polyamory is ostracized but the woman who introduced polyamory was coddled. 🤡

@annabellepepper3319 8 месяцев назад

Consent is key. The first caller didn't consent to her picture being touted out there. No discussion just degradation. But hey love how you want just have the conversation without the deception.

@thomass.2311 7 месяцев назад

Couldn't torture that information out of me. You tell your friends and you and your husband will be the weirdos FOREVER.

@sharonhowell582 2 месяца назад

I've been divorced from my first husband for many, many years and happily remarried for almost 25. Still, this episode helped me to recognize that I still have work to do on recognizing the dysfunction that occurred due to the actions of my husband during my first 22 year marriage. I have for the most part continued to cover for his issues out of shame. Listening to the wife whose husband exposed her to others online and her unwillingness to force him to take full blame for his actions I recognize myself. I was able to extract myself, hopefully she will also be able to. Still, I hid his transgressions as if I somehow was responsible, as if they were my shame to bear. People, not just men, continue on in that behavior if they don't pay the consequences. They don't learn from it. Those of us who wish it away just carry the shame and embarrassment that another caused. We allow others to blame us, stay silent when we are targeted to keep the secrets. It eats away at us and diminishing our self esteem.