Narcissists move VERY fast in relationships. It's not uncommon to hear, “I love you", and/or be bombarded with love songs/texts/memes a few weeks after meeting them. By rushing into sex/intimacy, they fast-forward the relationship. They get their targets to fall for them before he/she can realize something is amiss. I believe this is also the reason they tend to be VERY good lovers. Sex is usually the “hook” in toxic relationships. Narcissists lack genuine personalities. So, they mirror their targets. If you find you have “so much in common" with a new person, your likes are their likes, and your dislikes are coincidentally their dislikes as well, raise your antennas! They may be mirroring you. This is the “soulmates" hook… You'll also notice that they'll spend more time telling you who they are, verses showing you. As time goes on, you'll notice the words they used to describe themselves do not fit their personality - at all. But, they will fit YOURS!!! Passive-aggressive behavior and irrational/unexplained anger, are also major red flags. Pay attention to how a person treats you the first time you say, “No”, and/or when things don't go their way… If they give you the silent treatment, grow cold, and/or pull away, do not overlook it! Most importantly, if someone pulls away, or goes silent, after you set a boundary - DO NOT pursue them! This is how they groom you to be the chaser in the relationship. It's emotional abuse/manipulation! Pay close attention to people who portray themselves as victims. NOTHING is EVER their fault! EVERYONE, including the family pet, has done them wrong… ALL of their ex's are “crazy” and mistreated them… They’re great, but no one appreciates said greatness… Simply put, it's bullshit! No one should have a laundry list of bad experiences. If they do, RUN, because they're the common denominator! Narcissists tend to have a history of failed/short-term relationships. Believe it or not, it's hard for Narcissists to find people to deal with them long term due to their instability and poor behavior… Superficial relationships/friendships. I've noticed they don't have anyone they're genuinely close to. This is due to their inability to bond and form true attachments to people. Their relationships are shallow and based on surface-level bs. They'll refer to someone as their bestfriend, but you’ll notice they barely speak. Or, that the person is never really around. Or, only shows up when it's time to party, etc. They may also speak down on/poorly of said “bestfriend” behind their back. Narcissists tend to be condescending, two-faced and downright mean! Based on my experience, they cannot talk about deep subjects (i.e. fears/emotions). Or, how a situation truly made them feel. Or, what their childhood was like in detail… They don't want to go there. I suspect, it's because they can't. They don't know themselves well enough. They can't connect. They also live in a world of dishonesty. They're very dishonest with themselves about who they truly are. A poor relationship with their Mother/primary caregiver. Underlying issues between Narcissists and their Mother's (abuse, neglect, don’t get along, etc.), seems to be common. People that I've known who've displayed strong Narcissistic tendencies, ALL had bad relationships with their Mothers! I think it's worth mentioning, their Mother's also displayed strong Narcissistic traits… I'm fully aware and understand that there are healthy adults who have toxic Mother's. However, if you're spotting several red flags in an individual, including this one, pay closer attention! They're selfish! Some are selfish from the very beginning. Some start out generous and slowly begin withholding. Some act helpless and needy. They manipulate people into doing things for them, but never give back. It's not only financial and material selfishness. They're selfish emotionally, affectionately, conversationally. sexually and with their attention. They withhold validation and support. EVERYTHING has to be about them, their needs, their wants and everything happens on their terms. Anger, rage, silent treatments and disappearing acts are common - when they don't get their way. Pathological lying. Narcissists are professional liars. It's their second nature. If you call them out, they'll have no issue staring deeply into your eyes as they tell another lie! You'll hardly ever get the truth. Even with unchallengeable proof of the truth, they'll hold on to the lie. It's actually quite fascinating to see them in action - once you know what you’re dealing with. They also have the uncanny ability to provoke doubt in their victims (even when you KNOW the truth), because their lies are so convincing! Beware of people who do not seek conflict resolution. Many Narcissists enjoy drama/chaos! Remember, these are high-conflict personalities. Many of them NEED to argue and fight! Peace to a narcissist, is what chaos is to non-disordered people - unsettling. This is why they repeat behaviors that trigger a negative response. They need tension, anger and high/out of control emotions. They're known for calling people crazy, drama queens, insecure, etc., but never admit what they did to provoke those responses. And, when you attempt to discuss/resolve something, THEY said/did, they’ll gaslight, stonewall and/or flip it back on to you. They're extremely disrespectful, rude and lack self-awareness. They have an issue with being called out on their behavior and project/deflect to avoid accountability. “Normal” people want to get along, for the most part. So, they seek fair compromises when conflict arises. Narcissists want to “win” and conflict IS their niche. This is how many Narcissists get their way - they wear people down via conflict. Immaturity. It’s one thing to be playful and lighthearted (in appropriate settings), as an adult. It’s something completely different to be immature. Narcissists suffer from arrested development. They do not know how to respond to situations/people/stress/life appropriately. They have a child-like mindset. They truly believe everything is about them and have no concept of the needs of others. By nature, children are takers. They have no concept of reciprocation. They believe their Parents (and everyone else), exists to meet their needs. When their needs aren’t met, or they don’t get what they want, they become mean and throw tantrums. Narcissists cannot think outside of themselves and their wants/needs - like children. They’re completely unaware that people are individuals with their own agency, needs, wants, opinions... They truly believe people exist to serve them. They believe their job is to receive. They’re children trapped in adult bodies, who cannot consider anything/anyone other than themselves! Above everything I've stated, trust your intuition! Narcissists give off an uneasy vibe. They try very hard to appear cool, calm and collected - on the surface. But, you can feel their energy. It's very off-putting. They also tend to have more noticeable negative qualities, than most people. But, you have to stop justifying and making excuses, in order to see things clearly. Accept people for who they are and not who you want them to be. Observe, listen and trust yourself. No one should be allowed to grant themselves a position in your life. Vet people and YOU decide if they'll be a liability, or an asset, to you. Lastly, take cues from your body. If you ever feel your mood changing, feel anxious or feel your stomach knot up, in the company of someone, don't dismiss it! It could be a sign that you're in bad company!!! Additionally, If you suspect cheating or other forms of manipulation and need to gather evidence for your own peace of mind, you may consider reaching out for assistance. For more information, you can contact: MetaspyHub@gmail. com.
@x-2954 This comment describes perfectly my "husband narc," who I'm divorcing. I didn't know what the heck I was dealing with. That was until I reached out to a therapist, and he described exactly what I was dealing with. I told him i was trying everything to make our marriage work, but I was not getting through to this man-child. I found out so many lies, deceit, and betrayal (living a double life). I can't wait til I'm out with my children. I would rather be alone with my children than deal with this narc abuse.
This is actually scary dealing with this person. Not sure why this happened to me but they always come back will not leave me alone even after very bad things take place. These people want to ruin your life
@@Shopwithbands I KNOW WHY IT HAPPENED TO ME IT HAPPENED TO ME BECAUSE I WAS RAISED IN A HOUSEHOLD THAT WAS FULL OF TOXICITY SO WHEN I DID START WITH RELATIONSHIPS THE TOXICITY WAS FIMILAR TO ME & IT ATTRACTED TO 3 NARCISSISTS & I HAD NO BOUNDARIES ESPECIALLY WITH MY EX-HUSBAND WHEN I MET HIM I WAS 15 SO HE SAW THE ABUSE WITH MY TOXIC MOTHER I HAVE A NUMBER OF NARCISSISTS IN MY FAMILY & I DON'T DEAL WITH SOME OF THEM OR I KEEP MY DISTANCE & SEE THEM ON HOLIDAYS OR A SPECAL OCCASION
If we’re talking evil…Let’s not forget that Jesus didn’t block Judas, he let him betray him with a kiss…Judas self destructed on his own…THE LIGHT ALWAYS OVERCOMES DARKNESS
These people just don’t go away! They remind me of the Gremlins -they keep multiplying. I think I’ll need to change my phone number of eleven years. CRAZY!
The first time I went NO CONTACT! The narc went crazy. And the NARC WAS BLOCKED. I went back after 1 yr of NO CONTACT! I couldn't do it. Lasted 4 months. I TOLD THE NARC "I KNOW YOU!". I got one hoover on my Bday. It's been 10 months. STAY CONTACT! DON'T GO BACK! IT ONLY GETS WORSE
I moved and changed my phone number. That's exactly what I did for them. Clowns them back walking giraffes just change your phone number. I stayed off of social media for a while and there was no way he had access to me. Never had my email so I just changed my phone number when I moved instantly and that was it and that was all. I don't have time for the BS. No more them clowns can go kick rocks with no shoes on
I blinded the narcissist with the discard I went no contact and blocked him from all when you block someone in emails it goes to spam and saw he emailed me no didn't respond at all I dont want no parts of the foot soldier of darkness I thank God I moved and live on my own 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
That's right. Don't stay there. When you get an opportunity run. Run as fast as you can. Go run like you running for your life cuz that's exactly what I did. I didn't tell no one my plans. I just got up and left that City and never returned and that's been since 2019
I really needed this video. He's calling 30 times a day from various phone numbers. I found out he's married to another woman, but he still won't leave me alone. Only 3 months with him, and he caused me to lose my job and now I'm facing eviction 😢. I wanted to leave after 2 weeks but he kept pressing me and apologizing so I stayed but he was an energy vampire. After 2 1/2 months I was really done and after 2 weeks of no contact I'm even more exhausted than I was of the constant fighting while he was here. He calls all day and all night long. This video let me know what I need to do.
What works is putting on the full armour of God and utilizing His Word - you have the authority to put down wicked spirits in the name of Jesus Christ. I gave it all over to God and laid it at His feet. In turn, He revealed to me the Truth and the way. No fear - means no dread or submission to those who hurt me - the true power is in His Word and the possessive, intrusive spirits have no access - the Higher power does the tackling and the blocking. Be at peace, be in control, and watch how the show plays out...God is great and God will protect his children - just submit to Him and no other. It works for me. Hallelujah!
Amen so true, I broke up with my ex narcissist 2 months ago and God has protected me..I blocked his watsup number didn't hear from him for one month and then he watsup me from a different number. Then we were chatting again..He wanted to get back together but told him no. Now I blocked and deleted all.his numbers. Problem is he lives 5 minutes walk away from my house. Was thinking of moving because it disturbs me.he lives so close but I have a very nice house and cheap rental so don't want to give it up
Mine doesn’t try and come back, the dog that I bought for her may have to be put down, she doesn’t even care about that. I think some of them never come back
@@candipayne2003 IT WAS /IS ALOT OF US I USE TO BLAME MYSELF ALL THE TIME BUT IT'S NOT OUR FAULTS THOSE MONSTERS GROOMED US BUT WE DIDN'T KNOW IT AT THE TIME & PULLEDVTHE WOOL OVER OUR EYES
Blocked him a month ago and he deserved it. I left in silence no warning nothing just left in silence. He had started to try to devalue me the day after I came back from spending 3 days with him. Silent treatments and being passive aggressive, no reaction from me just silence no chasing him nothing. I waited 3 days for an apology or explanation nope so i Blocked him for the 3rd and final time. Almost years years wasted my time and life on this looser. 1 year we were just friends before meeting up. Thank you from uk. 🇬🇧
I’m not on social media, I’ve changed my phone number. Now I treat my phone number like my social security number. Tight and secure. Like a deadbolt lock 🔒 😅
Let me tell y'all every time I kneeled and prayed God keep revealing every supply... It doesn't bother me because I expect it but it is comical cuz I've been single for 1yr!🎉 😂😂
I work with the ex NARC and treat him like AIR. 3 YRS NO CONTACT. His HOOVER TACTICS didnt work and now he just look at me trying to get my attention. BLOCKED and DELETED him then CHANGED my number. Now someone decided to go in my garage and put a TRACKER on my car. Mechanic said they CANT TRACK you now because its in m ydesk drawer. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Yea my neighbor one wall over told me I have to move. I'm physically exhausted. They are so mad because I'm not scared and I've come up against their evil altars.
I always say another very common way these demons get into these narcissist is drugs! Make no mistake! I've seen some of the most common people who are reasonably normal one year go totally Jekyll and Hyde the next year even after they go through rehab and quit. Some how there altered state of mind created an opening for these wicked spirits.
Leave those birds where they at, the moment I leveled up with my Work From Home job this idiot tried coming back! At first I needed him to help with our kids daycare and he literally left me hanging almost cost me my employment. By the way, my job is currently hiring!for Remote Work. All ima say is stabilize your self mentally, financially and spiritually and i promise you, none of that stalking won’t even matter at all.🙏
@melsoultree3110 Yes, we have to leave these birds to themselves. Do you mind sharing your job hiring for remote work? I just got a job at Amazon (thank God) after being a stay at home mom for years with this narc. I need another job.
Question?? Can you make a video on divorcing a narcissist? What to look out for. Do they try to come back after they try to destroy you? How to navigate kids. The new supply.
God help me I left one and then unfortunately I have a neighbor on either side and one 2 streets over. I've blocked all of them. I think there is a coven in this townhome neighborhood.
I've legit been followed to the store 3 times that I know of by a man and a woman. The landlord won't do anything, the cops need proof. How do you prove evil? How do you file a restraining order without proof?
It has been 10 months now. He has not tried. I said do not call me until both ex wives are out of your life completely. And your toll-De. Is empty. And your games do not include me. NO CONTACT now 10months. Not sure what I said. But he gone
Thank you honey but ask this goddamn narcissists where the hell was he when I was in a coma for 5 months not even a bowl of soup or banana I got from that sickle
I haven't spoken to the Nex in over 5 yrs. He's blocked from my social media accounts and I regularly check those privacy settings. Also, I've purchased a call blocker app and placed it on my phone. The paid apps work. Done is done...Not eva again! ✌️
FOR REAL, I CANT EVEN SLEEP IN MY APARTMENT WHEN HES HERE, HE BE IN THE LIVING ROOM (THATS WHERE HE STAYS) BUT, THAT SPIRIT IS HEAVY SO NO!!! IM NOT AN EARLY BIRD, I LIKE TO STAY IN BUT NOPE, WHEN HES AROUND I JUST GET DRESSED AND GO... WE COPARENT AND HE DO NOT SPEAK TO ME I DO NOT HAVE ANYTHING IN COMMON WITH HIM JUST OUR KID- DID YOU EVER SEEN THE MOVIE "DROP DEAD FRED" WELL HE WAS AN IMAGINARY FRIEND AND WHEN THE GIRL WANTED TO RID OF HIM, SHE TOOK PILLS TO MAKE HIM DISSAPEAR.. I WANT SOME OF THOSE PILLS🤭🤭😅 GOD BLESS YOU SISHE GON LEAVE AND IM GONNA USE THE OTHER NARC I DEALT WITH TO STIR THINGS UP!!! (THATS WHAT I REALLY WANNA DO BUT, GOD SAID HOMEGIRL, SIT DOWN SOMEWHERE!!!!!! OMG!!!! IM LOSING MY RELIGION-
MAYBE YES I SHOULD DO SOME DRASTIC STUFF, HAVE MY EX LOVER NARC COME SEE ME AT HOME-JUST OUTSIDE IN THE DRIVEWAY🤣😆😁😄😋IM TERRIBLE. BUT THIS WHAT OUR LORD WILL DO- Psalm 34:21 Evil will slay the wicked, and the haters of the righteous will be condemned
Are you obsessed with narcissistic behavior or fascinated with people that have this disorder and reason I say that is people are talking about the same thing it's obvious on every video from channels that are talking about this behavior it's funny 🤣🤣🤣
She’s a life coach. Specifically on narcissistic relationship. Her videos help people who may not realize they’re in this type of relationship understand what they’re going through. It’s crazy to understand unless you’ve been in one for yourself. Just pray you never come across one and if anything take notes of these type of people so that you never end up with one cause it’s hell.
Her purpose is helping us unaware of the darkness and tricks people we trusted have played on us and to save us before it’s too late. It may be funny to you because you haven’t experienced it
@Fabiana_Gisella Life coach? There are no requirements to become a life coach because it's an unregulated industry...So when people say they are a life coach they are simply making an observation and telling you what you should do based on lifes experiences.
You remind me so much of my mom sometimes you make me wanna cry. My dad is a narcissist and my mom is sick. My dad prevents me from seeing her. Your smile reminds me of the days when she was vibrant and beautiful.
