This is EXACTLY What Happens When Your EX Realizes That The Rebound Can't Replace You 

My personal belief is that he who loves you will never ever ever leave you. So, once they've left, it means that they will be ready to leave you again and again. Once they've decided to get out of your life, you should never ever let them back. Once the door is closed, it shouldn't be re-opened for them. You've got to teach them and yourself a lesson. If it were meant to be, you would still be together. You're valuable and they don't see you as you are. They don't realize your worth and appreciate what they have. So, let them go. They aren't in love with you.

The grass is not greener on the other side. Brilliant illustrations coach. Great job!! Big up!

Thank u for this. My ex lost a damn good thing. No contact for 4 months and i am so much stronger.

After a couple of back and forth my ex finally told me that move on and find someone else that will love me back and i told her a agreed with and wished her luck. Been in no contact ever since and been told by mutual friends how she's been struggling but hey it was her choice. Gotta stay strong out there everyone.

Forget losing you to someone else. We don’t even know the hour of our death.

I won't take him back if he moves forward F THAT!!!

One of the best ones yet. Im going through this right now. My ex wife is in a rebound relationship and its really hard to take especially when i know they are intimate. It is what it is. I pray she comes back but also being realistic. If we do get back together, then of course ill have to think about what she put me through with seeing and being with another man. If its love, and we are meant to be, it will happen but if not then thats the path God as put me on

If they do come back, how do i get over that they've been intimate with other people while apart? That stings.

Gotta stay focused on yourself and the situations you can control 💯

My ex came back After a year of break u and told me that deep inside his heart am unreplaceable

Sometimes they dont want to grow up or accept some things The only thing you can and you should do about it is move on trying to fix someone especially if they dont want to be fixed will broke you Im not saying it wont be hurtful it will hurt if you love them and expect them to love you back the pain you will experience is different and eventually the pain will open your eyes So live your life do your best and stop chasing disrespectful people dont waste your limited time hope you all the best

I LOVE what you said thru-out this video essay. really helpful . thank you my G

Thank you for this video Blac. For helping me to realize that it's not my job to fix her. Knowing I did all I could to make her happy, simply was not enough. I am living my best life now and am glad it was her decision to leave.

I definitely appreciate this videos and others you have posted. I found myself trying to reach out and fix the relationship for 5 months with no results. I went on no contact beginning of this month and love the confidence I built. I noticed that they watch all my post even notifying me when I have mail at there place. My ex was very emboldened at the end. Going as far to say there going to see other people and that I’ll always come back. I know that we’ve had our ups and downs. I still want things to work out eventually but have accepted the situation as it is

So true brothers I stand with this let them go ,and just find yourself

Merry Christmas 🎄 2023 Coach Black! You’re simply the best guide through this whole process! 👌🏽💯 God bless you! 🙏🏽

Extremely helpful video I was waiting for something like this, thank you.

Thank you sooo much for enlightening me on some things on my recent break up! 🙌🏽❤️😔

I like that dog story. Great analogy. The grass isn't greener on the other side, but good luck finding some that is. ✌️

Good information. Thank you

Thank you for your guidance.

This is great info... thanks so much

On point!! 💯💯

Thank you for this again

fantastic analogy

10 years together. She was with another man instantly. Left the whole family. She’s breadcrumbed me for 16 months. I’ve finally cut the chord. I have to move on. She’s told me how much she cares and loves me throughout all this but it’s been found out everything she’s done with this man days after we separated. I’ve finally let go. It’s been so hard and I miss her dearly but I cannot take her back now. I deserve better.

Thanks Coach Black

Peace and blessings to you sir🫡

Love your videos dude, this one really resonates with me in particular. Off-topic question - where did you get the denim shirt in this vid from? It's dope and I'm after something similar!! lol

Got hurt so bad that my RU-vid algorithm understands me more than her 🥲

Thank you so very much.

As always I appreciate your words of wisdom my guy...

Once she has sex with someone else, I’m done. We can be fwb, but that’s it.

Great adventures coach

This is exactly what im going through she left me in October 2023 i was hurt so jumped on dating sites had alot of flings she came bk got pissed of so i chased again now may 2024 shes found a rebound and im seeing a good female mate but also just focusing on myself and becoming the best version i can for myself . i do love her we were together 7 yrs 3 kids but i know my worth nd unfortunately for her she will realise the grass isnt much greener. I took her out on dates, i was the only one who brought her presents on her birthday 1 year, she got flowers every anniversary or valentines dayy was a great day out with love laughter and joy .. but time for me to live my best life . Thats why it is so hard for me to let her go because i do know she will come back 1 day but by then i would have definitely moved on

See what you said about the reflection about the fog in the reflection on the water I so can equate with that regarding he. I hope he does jump in the water and sees the dog is no bigger and the bone is not bigger. I studied physiology many years I now 66! This is not how I expected to spend my retirement. Btw sounds egoistic but most don’t believe my age but alas I am. Hey ho it is what it is. Also reminded me of Narcissus who fell in love with his own reflection in the pool. You have a way of describing things that I totally equate with. Your quite magic

❤ my hero 100% right... Sir

Facts again... but I say an ex is an ex for a reason. No going back. You live and you learn you grow from it.

I forced him to end it, because he did not care about me especially after the injury I had. He didnt check in with me. So I told him to break it off.. Two days before my dearest friend's wedding.. It hurt so damn much when he did, but I suck it up because I had so much dealing with.. Then a month ago a friend told me he is now dating a next woman, that he told me not to worry about.. I was like Lawwwddd.. That's when I actually cried! I still feel hurt after no contact of about 6months and I am slowly trying to get over it. I really am. But it's. Still.. Heart-wrenching.. 😢

Hi!! Can you please make a video about after NC they reached out to you…. But what now? How do I progress our relationship?

No contact for a little over a month. Hurts bad still but getting easier. I’ve seen her in personal never Interacted. I hope she comes back I don’t think it will happen. Trying to stay strong.

Thanks for the wisdom coach! Could you touch on exes friends influencing them to stay single and play the field?

Why should i tolerate being cheated on more than once and then watch him have a rebound with the one he emotionally cheated on me with which i know has happened? I told him, once he does that, he ain't be coming back to me because i will class him as contaminated and tarnished goods. I shouldn't be the one to bare the brunt of all the damage, abandonment, betrayl, trauma and then try and forgive him AGAIN. This time there is no coming back from it as much as i love him and want him back. I can't get past it this time.

What next time?!? Seriously you treat someone bad, you lose

First time I’m watching you. Your diffrent than they others in a good way. I was n long distant relationship 8yrs. He jus totally changed and I had to break off took me months to do it. I love this man unconditionally and he switched up. I guess I scared him I was Gona bring him from Ghana 🇬🇭 to 🇺🇸. No contact 4months and Ik he’s not gonna hurt me anymore and it really traumatized me Damnnn it’s so hard. I jus built up his ego and I was nothing. I kno it’s long distance he changed. He peeps my social media I do not peep his I don’t want to see it hurts I can’t even erase or look @ his pics. Im jus telling you my story. Im sorry I didn’t introduce myself. Im Amy from Indiana you jus like I said are diffrent than others. It’s good your chill. Ty what you think I should do jus go find another ? I don’t even want to. It’s 4months no contact. I will not contact him. What you think ?

coach we had a session last friday, most of the time i took for telling my story, im the spanish speaking guy, do you think we could have another session to evaluate my mistakes i made with her, so if the opportunity presents i dont do them again, or i wont do them in the future with someone else

Give more advice coach i am always watching your videos trying to win back my ex wife she have in rebound right now we break up 1 year amd 2months right now and the guy she choice thw rebound becouae the rwvound give his a house and anything she wants i dont now maybe materialistic my ex wife

I am in a weird place. My ex and I work together a couple days a week & we are able to keep it casual, but it hurts to see her sometimes because she is very good at leaving her emotions/feelings at the door. She looks & seems happy & it’s taking a toll on me. Outside of work I’ve been in no contact, focusing on myself & hoping she reaches out at some point. The separation & depression is slowly eating away at me.

Not accepting them back overall contributes to a breakdown in soceity. If there is no value for those who seek reconciliation then where is the forgiveness. Lots of unhappy people walking around. Now flipside why do i need to accept you once i built myself up? Key words built myself up. Meaning you are now the better version of you. Thus what has re-attracted her was either forgotten or what was never there to begin with but now is. self respect is key here. The biggest question is do you take them back. They must have proven to you that they themselves have grown otherwise it may not pair well. If they have been through shitty relationships during your separation, then for sure they will be bringing baggage. Worst if you have kids together. Good luck. I dont have any real answers here. Perhaps Mr Black can offer a solution.

Never take sloppy seconds. The best predictor of future behavior, is past behavior. Never ignore her history.

We broke up about a year ago, did no contact around February. Got a missed call from her about a month ago and she said it was an accident?!? She’s had a boyfriend for a while now and I’m blocked. I’m not tripping because I’ve made peace with it. But the whole blocking I feel for a fact it’s her new man. And that tells me that there’s insecurity in the relp. I’m doing better, no relationship and I run into her siblings every now and then at events etc. I had a dream about her last night and that’s how I found out I was blocked. I wanted to reach out but couldn’t.

My Ex cheated on me he has been in 3 relationships with in 3 years after our break-up he even got engaged then got unengaged. He got cheated on by his ex fiancée. boke up with her now he's in another relationship Yes he knowns I still have feelings for him and always asking for help from me. Exactly he thinks he has me in his pocket thanks for sharing this message.

It’s been 3 months of no contact with her, she even asked me NOT to go no contact bc she knew I believed in the rule before we broke up. I told her I have self respect. I’m a lot more over her now, I just hope one day I get to sit down with her and talk.

I messaged her on day 10-12 after the breakup telling her that she broke me and that I changed then I asked her how long the disconnect is for. I also stated "Alright this is my last message for a while" (obv implying there will be more). In the message I told her that her grief was most likely the reason for the breakup. She never replied. So I deleted her a few days ago from everything. It's now day 24 and I've stopped caring to a large respect, and haven't contacted her since and I will not. ( Context: She has a lot of my stuff including pc etc, but I have a clean slate and don't care about it. ) I know I made a mistake but is there any pro's to what I said?

I don’t even think I want to even open up my heart for my bm ever again held here down and I’m the chomp no contact for me is relaxing I was doing it to try but now I hope she doesn’t even try to text me how can I walk away she always asking for help with my kid?

It's been a month and a half since the breakup, the feeling has split my soul into a million pieces. I really love this woman and I've broken a couple of hearts in the past, so I dont want to be a hipocric and not accept her when she really wants us to be an item again. She walked passed me this weekend and she couldn't look me in the eye. I felt the connection between us as she passed. Should I wait?

She's still attracted to how great of a father I am and tries to sleep with me. I am sure she doesn't tell her boyfriend that. Poor guy

my girl is so mad at me ,she always came back , but this time i dont know, i ran out of word for her ,but i gave her the gravy train in 4 years i dont know who in hell is going to this , the part i dont understand is that she will have to go out and start over and some point start playin or the guy will bumb out they aint stickin around wtf

I have been in no contact for a week and she has reached out 3 times asking questions and she has my Instagram account login any idea of what I should do? She might also be in a rebound relationship right now.

Coach, does it apply to monkey branching too?

How should I respond to her when she text me, asking for help like financial support. Actually during no contact rule, please I need your help couch please

Amen.

What if you left them because they were acting crazy, and a year later you want to try again with that person. When you commmunicate with them, there is that old feeling of the happy times, like that passionate eye contact. Yet now they’re saying there will be nothing romantic between you. Almost as tho they’re being stubborn. How do I get passed that?

At first I didn't give the space she asked for. I begged and acted the wrong way when she asked for space. It took me a long time to give here the space and distance. Now she wants a break up. We have been on no contact but keeps on breaking NC. She will be working in another country but she wants me to take care of her dog and still hasn't said a word about our things in their house and also in my house. Any advice?

I complete the no contact period and I finally reached out myself My ex already knows that the rebound can't be better than me and she knows that she loves me more but she still didn't made a move She recently told me you knew my heart better than anyone how could you let us come to this? It's clear that she loves my but shes still a bit sad about the breakup By the way I did my best to avoid showing weaknesses and... Any advices sir?

Me and babys mother were together for almost 7 years. We were in limbo for a year and a half. I officially broke it off 4 months ago because of some super scandalous actions. Today she tells me she wants me to meet A man shes been dating for a while. Ok fine i did that. Shook the mans hand said it was nice to meet you. Then said how long have you guys been dating he then states a few months. I laughed she then says whys that funny i said because three weeks ago i got text from you stating that you miss me, so F***** much. She then says weve only actually been dating for a month and we weren't talking when i said that. I gave a look of confusion and said bro so you you think youve been dating for a few months she thinks its only been a month but nonetheless its weird either way that 4 months or 1 why has this been such a point that i needed to meet you as im obviously baby daddy and yall only been dating for a a month or 4. That shits weird right or am I trippin?

What if the person they get with was a “platonic” friend that the other person manipulated my ex into liking… and my ex asks me to move out only for her to move in? But our relationship was so incredibly healthy and loving… I can’t believe 4.5 months later they’re together.

After a year of NC, I have moved on. I think she is with another, but I don’t know as I am giving her what’s she wants - plenty of space. 5 years together and I still don’t know why, especially since I treated her like a queen. Guess she thought she had all the power? I’m taking it back. I am tired of the whole thing dealing with an DA, she can no longer live in my mind for free.

I was texting a female friend for a couple of weeks. I thought she was lesbian but apparently she got feelings for me, and I ended the convo. My gf of almost two years found out. She was hysterical, but said we could work it out. Not even two weeks later, she broke up with me over text. I was devastated but had some hope. After not even 2 months, she’s already dating a coworker (whom she told me she had absolutely no feelings for) who doesn’t even hold a candle to me. Already introduced him to her mom and going to places we used to frequent. It’s super discouraging but it’s helped to finally move on. Wish I could grab some popcorn and watch it implode, but blocked everywhere as well

She came back from the rebound . And yesterday I find out she has a date with him .

I must be different because I will take that oxygen tank I might need it and take it as a sign.

She don't love me no more shit hurt ain't gone lie

I guess this only works if u was more good to ya ex then bad cause I do feel like I wasn’t a great boyfriend I really do love her thou jus was a broken man

My ex could never come back. My number is changed.

She came back after one month. She disrespected me and I walked away never contacted her. Now she is back apologizing

You were their oxygen tank if they actually loved you and it was real.

He jumped back to a recycled supply he kept jumping to whole promising me it wasn't happening and we had a future . Yeah . Clearly that's why he want he want leave her alone . I'm gone

I walked away from my girlfriend of a year because she'd cheated on me (right at the beginning....and told me about it 5 months later), and I'd stayed with her. We lived together. We did drugs every day together. I left to get myself well, get off drugs (71 days clean now), and reshape my whole way of being. I still love her and want to be with her, but we'll see. We'll see if when I move back to that city, where I'm at and where she's at. I'm not certain that she would take me back and I'm not certain that I want her back; I just know that at no point since I left her more than two months ago, that I've felt anything but love for her (and learning how to put myself first, too). I'm not rebounding, I'm not interested, I haven't had a hook up or a date or anything since I left. It was brutal to have to leave but it was truly the only way I could grow, and if she doesn't, it's a shame.

Want to send her a Hail Mary text, but scared to, in NC but her stuff is still at mine with no sign of her coming to get it…. Help

Hi Coach, thank you for this amazing video. Please respond. My ex broke up with me around 7 weeks ago while were in long distance ( we had done long distance before, so it wasn't the first time.) We were together for 2 years and were living together the whole time apart from the summer breaks. I begged and pleaded for 2 days after the breakup and went no contact. The day I got back in town which was 2 weeks ago, my ex randomly called me up to meet. We met, and she asked me how I was and if I was dating anyone else or hooking up. I said no, I am just focusing on myself and not looking for a rebound. She then told me that she started seeing some guy from work ( she broke up with me after a few days of getting this new job where she made new friends and likely got influenced) 2 weeks after the breakup, so its likely a rebound. I also think that she was trying to make me jealous but I didn't read too much into it and acted casual. She also told me that they were facing problems because they are now in long distance. She has also started smoking and drinking a lot. She said that she wanted to meet to make sure that we are cool and we can hangout as we have the same friend group. After the meet she asked me to come hangout with her and some mutual friends, I said that I was busy. She hasn't reached out since. She is also stealing our mututal friends away and we live in the same building so we cross paths at times, at first I used to wave and smile, now I just dont look at her and walk past. She seems very happy and unbothered, although she could just be pretending. What should I do?

What if they ignore u

Hi Coach, I have dated my ex for 6 months. We met at the gym and it was good for 4 months but I can now go back and see I was more into her. She had low interest. Her pet was sick and I have helped her so much during that time and her pet died in March. In april, she said she's grieving so can't give me what I'm looking for. It's been 4-5 months since breakup. We still see each other at the gym. She gave me breadcrumbs as well in between when I gave her space and no contact. As we see each other at the gym, we start talking and have small chats here and there. Few weeks ago, I asked here like where do we stand and she said we are just friends. I said no to friends and she keeps saying she can't say no for future. In future it will maybe workout. But I'm doubting that she's maybe with someone else at this stage. What is the best way for me to do no contact? Shall I start going to gym at different time or go at same time but just say hello and do my workout? Please advise me coach on this

I’m laughing dude got my sloppy seconds. I got the glass of milk and didn’t even have to think about buying the farm.

We dated for 6 months/i’m 34 n she’s 24/been broken up for 3 months/she reached a month ago(breadcrumbs)/ been NC for 2 1/2 months/ I believe she has been seeing someone for a month… need some advice

I broke up with her on an argument. Came back 4 days later to apologise and fix things up but she tell me that she’s dating someone else already . After 3 mfckn years

I feel so stupid...i was so in shock after my ex left me for the women he was emotionally cheating with that i did alot of stupid stuff. I startet having a wh#re phase and had sex after a month him not coming back cause i did not want to feel lonely and ugly...i have low selfestem. After a while he told me he would not come back cause i was with others but thats so unfair...he was the one leaving me for a women. I was always faithfull! How could i know that he dont want to have sex with her cause he is not sure about her...he told me way to late...😢

Just let her go yall….there’s otha women out there

My ex rebound hasn't slept with him for a year.but she uses him for dinner cash and money he says the still go together. He does call me he never really stopped he ask me for sex I say no u have a girl friend. He is unhappy. He is trying to use me to replace the things she won't do

We just started talking again and everything going well. She is still active on a dating app. Can I let her know in an indifferent way that I am aware of her dating app. I would like to atleast acknowledge it and then she does what she will do? And I will see her decision. or will this ruin steam. Only have 2 days of talking after 2 months of no contact solidly .

we broke up 3 months ago after a 2 year relationship. She started seeing someone less than 2 months after the breakup. She was following me on every social media up until about 2 weeks ago when she randomly unfollowed me, so i ask if it was someone else? She didn't deny it, but talked around it and said it was because she didn't want to see me doing better, making change, and doing things that she like because it upset her I changed after the breakup. any advice??

I was the rebound :(

Is there a chance of an ex to come back after 107 days of no contact ? I’m on day 107 and the relationship was beautiful but ended on bad terms she ended it please help me ? Do I have any hope left ?

If he’s with the woman he was having an affair with is she considered a rebound ?

Okay but lets be honest sometimes "THE GRASS IS GREENER AND SHE GENUINELY IS HAPPIER" why are we assuming the we are all amazing some of us screwed up and so we lost people we love ...

What if the rebound is nice? And different and everything he ever wanted? What then…

My wife of 21 years won’t stop texting every week tryin to use me to get over me while she in a rebound, she is never gonna feel the loss because she won’t let go herself but won’t come back

Excellent. My ex and I have been through alot in 25 years. In his new relationship she will never have the history we had.

What if your in NC but you still send them Starbucks to there work. Is that breaking NC.?

if my ex enter a rebound relationship will i would be happy kos he is another woman headache and i would not be jealous i would to you go gurl enjoy and call me when he ruin your life i could a said well i could a told you so haha hee

What if, she is single. Dates you. Goes back to their ex. Comes back to you. What does that mean? Like whose the rebound? 🤣🤣 because that’s confusing in my situation