The Nice Guy Narcissist | 14 Traits 

This! This is the one that became most obvious and annoying after awhile. It totally exposes their opportunistic ways.

"Im so alone" 😥

Yes! His grandmother " doesn't understand me , we aren't close at all , I have nobody that cares about me 😢😢😢" turns out she was both emotionally and financially supporting him since his early teen years and called him daily to see if he got her cash gift ...... barf 😅

isn't this "ostentatious displays of vulnerability"

Oh yes, can't forget the emotional sponging they subject their victims to.

They can just as easily pretend to be kind.

@@Natalie82170 kindness is not transactional, which is how narcissists usually operate. Sure they can fake it but they won't fool someone who can tell the difference.

This is me...🤐

​@@one_ton_horse😂 don't worry. Me too

I'm tryna change tho 🤔

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So true!

And you do this by recognizing how your values align ... trust does not exist without shared values.

Both of these comment are spot on.

What if it is mom?

@@DebbieLee-dr3hr do you share values? You can attempt to sort through this with her, but ultimately you will continue to embrace, or you will cut off from that bad behavior, which maybe your relationship for a time. Be prayerful, unreasonable indifference separates many, unfortunately some are family.

My next to the final boyfriend always was saying he had good mental health!!! Not a narc, but deeply troubled.

I just go around saying I'm trash what's that make me?

@@demo3456 idk, but I have been saying the same thing about our entire species (give or take a few 😉) for a few years now. 😳🤣🤣 I’ve come to realize, every one is just a trapped child inside who is traumatized in one way or another, is all 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ Unfortunately the ones who do the most damage to our planet and other humans, don’t realize, or are not willing to analyze their own trauma, and instead use it as a steppingstone to “harden their hearts”, use and abuse others, hurting others the way they are hurting. 🤷🏻‍♀️🥲 That movie “split” …I think it was 🤔 that said it best…. “the broken are the evolved”

More like devolving

@@demo3456 seriously? Trying to signal humility? Fishing for refutation of that? Sounds pretty sketchy, bro. Why would you do that!

I'm still kind of psst at 'K's sister for saying, "He's a family man" and for portraying him as a great guy. I think now that she just wanted him out of her house.

same experience here, everyone loved him and at home he was entirely someone else. especially when drinking.

Me too! 😭😭😭 Then occasionally they are nice and it makes you feel that love and doubt yourself… but when you remember the horror of their cruelty, it’s like a completely different person and it makes it so crazy…

Im worried this is me is there anything to change this?? I just don’t be nasty and abusive bc i try my best to I’m very careful but I have similar tendencies and I’m worried Like I have a thing where I’m very depressed but I am always acting nice to people including close to them and hide everything idk if this makes me a narc ??

"he let me pay for everything" that's the user type he was just using you for your money and whatever you're worth, i've heard a story about someone's experiences with narcissistic individuals and some of them will try to mooch off you big time because of their own over excessive spending habits constantly living above their means.

💯I dream of being alone in a cozy beautiful apartment. Ppl are quite disturbing

I'm realizing the same at 29. I've never felt more at peace than when I was a hermit living on my family's farm whilst sober and celibate.

Good for you. 2nd Dec 2022, I took mine. Evidence of false promises and fake future came to the fore once again then when he was called out, he got physically aggressive. Charming people they are... lol

You go man! Free at last,free at last.

Go you👏12/10/21 me. All the best for the future👍

@@Cantunknowwhatyouknow Married to a woman, I had to deal with verbal and psychological abuse (and occasional threats of property destruction). I can only imagine the pain and fear you must have endured with adding the threat of violence on top of that. It must be so much harder for women to get away from male narcs. Congrats on getting out!

Congratulations you’ve got a fresh start with added wisdom 👍

Mine once told me if I had longer hair he could love me. I was pregnant with our 3rd.

Oh it's all rooted in extreme passive aggressive behavior i learned that before i found these videos a few days ago, it always comes back to that because of how they act like you're constantly a threat to them and the jealousy along with the absolute lack of empathy that comes with passive aggressive behavior. That's why some of them resort to completely delusional harassment and stalking too because they're using this bring you down because they hate they can't be you so they hate you for it and are super jealous.

Yesssssss !!! Just met someone who gives me passive aggressive gaslighting .. if you don’t catch it … it will fly over your head 😢💀😵😑🤯🥶. I pray everyone can find true peace and rise above and be delivered from narcissistic people. They’re so many 💕

Rather degenerate children in wolf's clothing in sheep clothing 😂

YES!

He actually texted that to me once. I thought it was a joke.🤦🏻‍♀️

I did learn a lesson from the "Nice" narcissist: I learned that people who are "Happy All The Time" are fakes, frauds, phonies and quite likely psychopaths.

I agree with you. 100%of the narcissists I have encountered looked all nice in public, the saddest part being those of my family. If somebody knew what they have done to their husband, wife , mother or nephew…

@@Hawaiiansky11love this. Great summary to the toxic positivity they can portray..

Exhausting sums it all up. That’s what narcissist are thank you for putting thought out there.

I dealt with one before and because I study psychology on my free time I would get her good every time 😂😂😂😂

Wow I mean one thing is being narcissistic, but this is beyond

The smear campaign is a classic narcissist thing to do.

They are evils, our brain can not even process their lies

Yes, smear campaigns are real, and they hurt! I am so sorry you have had to go through that.

They usually are pathological liars.

@@madmantravels9217 of course not. I'm not a narcissist or psychopathic asshole though

That is not true, at all... Plenty of Narcissists are overt & tell you who they are right away.

@@Chelzebelles they are probably psychopaths

@@PerfectPetProductions Methinks you must be young & new to these types. Dig deeper, & do not forget to look in the mirror 💜

@Chelzebelles I'm 40 and I know enough and always try to be self aware.

You're so right. And I feel like in today's world we're encouraged to ignore our body's responses to situations.

​@@TheLiquidCatthere's a really good book that addresses learning to tune into our intuition, called, "The Gift of Fear". It's written by Gavin deBecker, a former FBI profiler, and it's full of insights, as well as strategies for dealing with people who ping our radar. You can read it for free online in PDF format.

I agree- that sounds like contempt and not tolerating disagreement which reeks of narcissism

I think this is how the narcissist causes cognitive dissonance in the person they are abusing. This will make the abused question their reality and perception and beliefs of what is really real.

​@@TheLiquidCat So true, a kinesthetic intelligence we were all born with.

Had this happen as well. Muscian. You will get blackballed in the scene

I’m also recognizing these traits in former religious leaders I’ve had...I was left with scars from my encounters with them. But I had no idea that it wasn’t my fault.

I was in a recovery group with others who had been in bad relationships and there was a woman came to one of the sessions who was married to a religious leader who sounded.. well, the classic narcissist. I didn't even know about narcissism then, but her story stuck with me. And of course, people don't want to believe. When i was 18 i worked on a farm in France. There were two of us young women there, we worked alternate shifts herding and milking goats. The farmer, a 60+ year old man with a wife and family of 4, started to come onto me - very notably so. I shared my experience initially with the other girl and she could not believe it and had a completely different relationship with the family. It began his with asking me questions about my family and then appearing in my room once lying on my bed next to me if i was resting in the day then trying to kiss me in the kitchen. I was deeply not wanting this growing attention and asked to leave on the pretext a family member was unwell. I said he could find a replacement first but he put me on a bus the next day.

I think those narcissist are called Altruistic Narcissist. I had an Uncle who raised me and he was the head of a church helping people, but he molested me along with a priest my cousin. He acted different at home than out in public like the church the school and at work.

New Testament belief is a narcissist religion. They get to cast their sin / actions onto a innocent.

The "altruistic narcissist." (From influencers, and self- help gurus... to nonprofits, political action and cults, to state sanctioned, religions...) These two- faced 'perps,' are everywhere. And my mother's father and grandfather, were episcopal (= Anglican, in the UK, etc.) bishops.

this is why I tend to distrust when someone gives me compliments, I'm doubting whether they are a narcissist or not.

Love bombing, sweetness, then the demon shows once they've "helped you" with enough they can whack you over the head with and claim or act like you owe them for. We owe them nothing but they'll try to make you owe them for life.

I understand but it’s survivable & the truth eventually will come out as you take the high road while he’s self destructing ❤

Eventually people do see the facade is only a facade. I have had friends ask me if he is really what he pretends to be. And my answer is no he is not that charming guy in reality.

Worry if you want. Won’t change a damn thing. The adulterous whore I wasted 15 years on is superficially charming, controlling, manipulative and has the advantage of feminist entitlement in family court. Fuck around on your husband? Refuse to get a job? No problem! You still get the kids and 55% of his income for five years, then refuse to care for the kids and have the state ignore your neglect and abuse because everyone knows how hard it is to be a poor, sainted “single mother.” Often, you’re a single mother because you were a shitty wife. I wish the courts understood that.

I'd reckon that's pretty much everyone's ex-husband.

Its possible they developed more of these behaviors from hardship during those years you didn't see her. I had a really good high school friend who got married and his wife started trashing him a lot. Eventually he became more aggressive and combative with me because of pent uo frustration with her. Had to break it off, very sad to see him change like that.

@@uhnborhn5032 thank you for expressing your opinion but I am pretty sure it's me. My view was distorted. She did not change. Her behaviour was the same as before but now I look at it differently.

​@@allieaudio9965Hindsight is 2020

Oh yes - the “righteous” saviour ! Saw that one with my ex mother-in-Law !

yes, yes and yes, I have had the same type of experience more the once, it's like being narcissist blind until it became very obvious in some cases.

You are so right, they also hurt the ones you love just to know it makes you suffer.

My father was like that too - jealous of his own children - so I never had a bond with my own mother 😕

My narc husband once told me that he couldn't believe I put the kids before him. This was when both were preschoolers and had severe chicken pox with high fevers and he wanted to go to a party and I refused to get a baby sitter.

@@carolsummers8734 Same here... amazing isn't it? Unbelievable.

The jealousy is the most apparent out of anything but they're imagining things.

My ex did that with coke

And when you think about it the accusations were probably all things that they had done or said to you.

Because they truly believe everyone around is doing something to them all the time but more so to the people that form an attachment to them, this really needs to be considered a more minor form of schizophrenia because their thoughts and perceptions are too delusional to be real.

I'm impressed. Good luck on your journey.

I'm in the same boat😢.... Been single for 12 years because of that. Also I am a contra dependent, CPTSD and with a fearful avoidant attachment style. I was pulling people in and then pushing them away... I've made progress on my own but ... Can't live by myself for the rest of my life...

This is me to a t, and I want to repent after hurting a girl I thought I loved, what do I do? Please help

Yeah. Being open about something you are not particularly proud of is a crucial step . No need to tell everyone, but you need to be honest to yourself, and call yourself out when you realize you are repeating these patterns. Also cptsd caused by survival with manipulative and abusive parents with zero emotional regulation which taught me to be their emotional regulation by manipulation... I am capable of empathy and remorse, but I learned very unhealthy patterns, undoing which takes a lot of effort. Good luck on your journey.

Thank you… going through a divorce but then he was nice to me to end things on a nice note and it just made all the sadness and grief and love come flooding back. They are like a hurricane- sometimes you get to the center of the storm and feel the warmth of the sun but then you see the other side of the storm coming and the fear returns… it is so confusing…

Yes, exactly - ( find a song by Monday Smith, "Hurricane) After Hurricane Harvey I went to the beach in early November 2017....I thought this is like my life! Because behind me facing the water were massive bulldozed piles of rubble and in front of me was the most beautiful beach I'd ever seen poor every would.... it was completely clean and the sand was unblemished of even a footstep - blue skies as far as i could see and only the gulls and my dog for company....that became a metaphor for my recovery. There's always an "after". May yours be blessed with deep breaths, peace and an internal smile.@@yvonnes7412

The book How to Hug a Porcupine: Dealing with Toxic and Difficult to Love Personalitities by Dr. John Lewis Lund will help. It's not a perfect solution but it definitely is helpful. If you are a praying person, prayer helps also. Be specific in the words you use so that the Lord can better help you. Such as if your in the discard phase of a relationship where constant rejection is happening, then pray to be taken out of the phase and put into a different phase. Although still not the best but some phases are easier to deal with than others. Also, indirect conversations can be helpful. The narcissist I know can't handle any type of criticism directly but I've learn that when I point out that behavior in someone else like in a movie and say it's not ok, he agrees. The narcissist I know also has adult oppositional defiant disorder. Which makes things even more difficult. Things usually have to made to seem like they are all his idea. So, like indirectly and subtlely dropping hints over time so that the idea pops into his head to do something. Because if it's my idea, it's an automatic no go. Reward yourself with a treat of some kind like ice cream for dealing with the emotional distress. It actually helps take the sting off. It is in the book I mentioned. Pray for strength. You got this. Pray that your burden will feel light on your shoulders until you have the chance to change it.

get out of the relationship. Stop letting someone else destroy your life and that of your kids (if you have any). These people do not change for the better, ever. It only gets worse.

@@ddhvn28 stop giving instructions on how to stay with an abusive spouse. That really isn't helpful to anyone. Prayer never stops abusive behavior.

@brandywillis3998 getting out isn't as easy as that. Some people have no family to help, have no kids causing the shelters to say no, and have no money to pay the expensive rent nowadays. Sometimes, you have to deal with it until an opportunity opens up for change. In some occasions, it's worse to leave because the narcissist will tell everyone that she is the one to blame for everything. He will try to take her family, her friends, her church leaders, etc and turn them all against her. He will play the victim and make her out to be the abuser. He will completely assassinate her character, if not her. If he cant have her ,he wont let anyone else either. The battle will be far worse if she leaves. She'd have to be emotionally and financially ready for that. Without help, it would be very, very difficult. For some women, there is no outside help available to them. And FYI, even counselors teach women how to deal with it until the opportunity arises for change. That is what my counselor did. And no matter if she leaves, there will always be another narcissist waiting around the corner. We have a pandemic of narcissists in our society. It could be a boss, a collegue, etc. They are everywhere. Best to learn how to manage it. Learning to deal with the narcissist in my life actually helped me to navigate the behaviors of other narcissists I come across. For example, I'm a substitute teacher. The schools are filled with Narcissistic children. Learning to deal with the narcissist in my life actually helped me become a better substitute. It is easier now to manage a class full of Narcissistic children. I say she needs to do what is best for her. And yes praying does help. Heavenly Father is my only source that has been available to me and he does indeed answer my prayers. He does visit me in my afflictions. He does help me. And He will definitely help her and anyone else who asks Him. The advice I give was given to me by my counselors. I know they work, at least in my experience. So I say back off until you actually know what you're talking about. I stand by her and will support her whether she decides to wait or to go.

@@ddhvn28 well hospital bills and death aren't cheap either. Watching your kids be destroyed by the other parent has quite a high cost. I never said it was easy, but a fricking book and prayer sure don't work.

My ex made interrupting into a sick art form. It was psychological torture when I was hoping to communicate meaningfully to resolve something.

@@thisgirl5933 My heart goes out to you. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

It can’t last forever - her mask will slip eventually. It must be so draining and exhausting to have to pretend the whole time

I understand that terrible relationship but it’s not personal just inherent to them & you will come out the other side one day with both strength & gratitude reinforced one hundredfold ❤

Hang in there. You are not alone. We, here,do understand so well.

sounds like we had the same experience. only mine clogged the drains full of cigarette butts, filled my soap dispenser with urine, and lit fireworks off in the house before he finally got the last of his stuff out.

I feel your pain. I was married for 25 years. It was so hard to break away - everyone was telling me what a great man he was. They thought I was the problem.

@@angelabrodie6262 it's heartbreaking when even your own family is incapable of taking your word for granted...

Wow...I was reading this and had to make sure it wasn't a comment I had made in the past. It's eerily similar to my situation but without the travelling for work... how I wish ha. It's new years eve tomorrow and I am planning on turning the office into another bedroom as my new start. Knowing he will likely refuse to move into it, so I will. He doesn't suspect I am onto him just blames my hormones. Recently discovered I'm in perimenopause so of course.. all of his behaviour is my fault.😐 20 years, kids and a home.. I can't just leave like so many others have in this situation. I still have time to serve ... tick tock

I wish high schools would have classes on healthy v. unhealthy relationships. I say high school, because elementary children are trapped and the law is on their parents' side, plus many of them would not be able to handle playing fake to survive until they could get out. Junior high is fraught with all sorts of stressors, so it could be difficult there to distinguish between being abused and stressing out over trivial things like a date rejection or acne. In high school, a teen can begin to see "the light at the end of the tunnel" and plan an escape, if need be. They could have driver's licenses, a job and maybe a vehicle by then so that they could spend time away from a chaotic home environment. They are likely dating by then and if they grew up in families like mine, they will learn about love, dating the opposite and their own sex in ways that are completely upside down and backwards. I was dating a guy I was basically forced to date (to make another guy leave me alone - long story - my mother hated 'G' so set me up with 'D' and manipulated us all)...after a year, he was pressuring me for sex, so I said I was going to break up with him. He stole something of mine and when I went back over to get it, he threatened me with a gun and also with his suicide if I broke up with him. This was my senior year in high school and I had been conditioned to people-please, so I stayed with him and tolerated his advances. Only when a teacher in Family Sciences told us about healthy and unhealthy relationships, did I realize that I had permission to break up with him after his threats.

Maybe she's misdiagnosed, however, bpd people can have narcissistic traits so not necessarily narcissistic. If she has alot of empathy , it is unlikely she is narcissistic

Really? So it’s all a big act he puts on? That’s sad

Don't take this speck of information and have it become "your opinion". See and know things for yourself

​@@cultivatemagic6240 I think all it takes is looking at his videos and all the insane things he talks about then the wide eyes to see it, i've never liked that guy.

🙏"amen" ✊❤️

It's the Human Condition. I just keep on loving my narcs, and work on my own narc-y qualities, which we ALL HAVE hands down 100%. It's all in our Astrology Programming. People just have conflicts and wounds. Nothing is ever going to change that. All you can do is learn to stand up for yourself and learn how to communicate better. That is the task. Forgive them Father for they know not what they do. I have never loved a person who didn't not have major flaws issues wounds hurts personality problems of some kind. Including myself. I NEVER hear anyone on Narc blogs mention their own flaws. & BTW, "Diagnoses" is a Billing Code.

​@kiradelarochefoucauld7499 I agree. I think Im narcy af sometimes. We all have shit going on within us no one body is better than the other. Im positive that my narc traits stem from my father's narc traits. I am super sensitive and helping others is what I love to do because it's how I express my love but Im also complaintive and mean as hell 😅 Self awareness is key.

@@leahmadalyn absolutely. If I had known my ex mother in law’s condescending put downs and Diva drama was literally her EXACT birthday energy, out of her control at the level she was at, and that it was My responsibility to let it wash over me unscathed, I probably wouldn’t have had contractions while pg from her snarky remarks or numerous other emo meltdowns. My sister is super critical. So is my daughter. Same both week “ Drama and Criticism” pains in the ass with the counter arguments. I have rank with daughter not sister. Both are brilliant amazing grand loving people. Sometimes I think my sis is a Narc, then I remember he childhood and all her cold critical planets in certain signs and I let it go. And feel so much better! Always. WTActual fuck is wrong with this world today we are supposed to pathologist every fucking thing a person does because it offends us? Frankly I am done with this entire Narc BS. It’s BORING. And Death to genuine relationships because you are trained to objectify them into their pathology. It’s sick.

Wonderful for you and your daughter!! Nothing worse than being bound to someone, for life (ideally) who is toxic. I struggled for years to get out of a relationship with someone I never even wanted to date, but was pushed into it by extremely controlling parents.

I wish I can say the same thing one day. I am only 3rd day of no contact. I have tendency to go back and in past I ended up breaking no contact on day 4.

​​@@Gurpreet-A He/she will hoover you. That means they repeat the love bombing for a short time. Every time you try to leave will make you weaker ! Stay strong for you and a better life in the future. All the best to you 💌 There are youTube videos about "no contact" and "grey rock" (a methode to talk without emotion to refuse to give them fuel, if it should be neccessary to talk about things).

@@evelynniemeyer1119 I tried no contact so many times but ended up going back to the narcissist. The cycle of hoover, devalue and discard started to happen every week. I feel like there’s no energy left in me to go back and be with this person. But, whenever there’s a notification on my phone I get scared and my heart rate increase.

My mother (malignant narc) said to me after I had my first child, "She's not like a doll, is she?" I replied, "I...wasn't thinking she would be." I never played with baby dolls when I was a child. It occurs to me now looking back at my upbringing, that my mother's expectation for her daughters was that we were supposed to be "dolls" for her to dress up, play with, leave behind when she got bored, spank and yell at for entertainment, then stick back on a shelf until she got bored again. I became the Scapegoat because I had and have a strong will, but my sister went the opposite direction and became her enmeshed minion, abusing me and monitoring my every move for the slightest mistake in the mother figure's stead. I used to call them Queenie and Princess.

My mom too! The older she got the meaner she got but still only those closest to her saw it and the funeral was a room full of people describing a saint and judging tf out of me for God knows what she'd told them

These are the people who, IMO could literally stab a knife through you while smiling sweetly and saying, "I love you."

It was always around that two month period, when they turned up the heat, and delivered some of the most damage to me, with my experience with the Narcs!

This is what I've been saying for a long time too.Nice is superficial...But kind is genuine.They DON'T always go together & they're 2 very different things.Heck I'm sure Ted Bundy was perfectly "nice"...At least until he ☠️ his victims & did a lot of unspeakable things that is🥶.

I have concluded that "nice," is often just a coward with concern and a nice smile. Kindness, on the other hand, cost the giver of themselves.

New Testament belief is a narcissist religion. They get to cast their sin / actions onto a innocent.

They truly don't care do they?! I had one call the ones who stuck with them like zombies "suckers" when I left as I'd reached my limits with the bs. You can see either emptiness where their smiles never reach their eyes when they're bored and faking it or delighted devils dancing in their eyes when they get one over on someone. I guess I've been guilty of acting "nice" around these types just to survive as I tend to feel it first, challenge any hypocrisy and come off worse for it. We live and leatn 'tis all we do. My parents were all for "keeping up appearances" and usually hid me when visitors came lol. Too often we play along to get along and run the risk of normalising this to our own detriment when we know there's something "off" yet still doubt our senses till we experience repeated pain of it for ourselves such as us having their backs faithfully but they never have ours in return. Thanks for your feedback, I like the "coward with concern" and the Ted Bundy references, they hit the mark on this! 💖

@@TorahisthetruthPsalms I agree, religious dogma and ideology needs to be tossed out and replaced with a more realistic, healthy and wholesome, free thinking style of adaptive education and instruction on what faith actually means and how people can use it to benefit everyone in their daily lives. Compassion fatigue or being around virtue signalling ppl too long can lead to us compromising ourselves if we're not careful. It's best to steer clear of those who do that, I've Bible bashing neighbours who use it to their own advantage and don't practise what they preach, yet I also know others who use it to best purpose to level everyone up and can bear correction so we need to be discerning and ask good questions to test before we invest in anything we don't feel deep in our hearts aligns with the truth. 🙏👁️💞👋

I pray you recover and have a long healthy life just to get back at the bastard!

@@Hawaiiansky11 That would be the best revenge wouldn’t it? Thank you 😊

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The dark side of the narc exposed, is almost like one just inadvertently swallowed their cyanide pill and then your soul is trying to vomit it out as quickly as possible to save yourself. I've quickly gone no contact with these people; they are the Grim Reaper personified.

You can't respond to bad behavior, you can't see you're a target? You're going to have a bad time.

@@gigantopithecushominoidea8779 I am an only child of a narc military man. I know full well who all the targets are. He is my father. Blood is thicker than water and all that. I've been told a zillion times to go no contact. Thanks for your input. :)

Man you really need a pause from him, I mean like a vacancy, not seeing him for a while, and I say this in the nicest way possible

I called myself a Mike-bot, or a member of the Cult of Mike because that’s what the 19 years of hell with him were like. Living with a covert, communal Narc will make you feel crazy, helpless, & hopeless. They are NOT who or what they pretend to be.

Also, at some point you can stretch the definition of narcissism so far that it dilutes what in means to be a narcissist

I agree because of how i get pulled into it again and again so often because acting and looking good is the best strategy because most people only want to see the best in people all the time.

My dream partner often turned into a rabid dog. And there was no way to determine when the rabid dog would appear. It was entirely capricious.

🤣😆😂🤣 ... oh my gosh, that was perfect!! Lol, I see you got your sense of humor back and your are able to speak truth with it!! I can so relate!! Thank you so much for that, keep going strong precious one, you got this!!

@@annecanazon4017 Perfect segue for this video, thank you for reminding me to look out for the nice puppies too! 😂🐶

Brilliantly said!!!👏👏👏👏👏

@@brightstar4321 Well said K! 💞👋🐩👁️🐺🤯 I've got a song for this one too 🎶 "What about meeee?" 🎶 It's a lack of reciprocity, where they'll turn and bite the hand that feeds them. Their cold hearts have teeth! "And they called it puppy love... " 😬 Don't give those puppies your M.E.A.T. (money, energy, attention, time) till they've had all their shots (vetting and testing). How've you been? 💖😘

That’s great you were able to remove them. People like this are so damaging but at least you know this is how they are to everyone and now you can spot the signs sooner.

It's so sad and infuriating how narcissists, enablers and minions all work together to set you up to fail in every aspect of life. It's a testament to our strength and to God above that we are not all living in a gutter somewhere. It's very hard to accept, but I'm working on it now, that the people whose responsibility it was to raise me, to teach me about love and life and nurture my talents, actually wanted me to fail. All because had I succeeded in their eyes, it would have called into question their justifications for abusing me. If I was a 'good' or 'nice' or 'sane' person, then they had no excuse. Being a crazy, emotional, irrational black sheep / bad seed meant that in their eyes, I was asking for it and had it coming. Then, they had the gall to tell me they loved me??? If you take effort in or celebrate the breaking of another person's spirit, that's hate. Not love. And in their case, I really do hope hell is real.

Same here and I have been diagnosed with BP 1. So 😅