The Non-Verbal Expert: These Behaviors Tell You Everything You Need to Know About Someone

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Blake Eastman has dedicated his entire life to psychology and nonverbal behavior. In 2009 he founded The Nonverbal Group, a behavioral research and education company in New York City which conducts large scale studies on human behavior and uses a wide range of technologies to systematically deconstruct and improve human communication. Eastman dives deep into a number of subjects revolving around how we communicate with one another, including the ability to read nonverbal cues, his thoughts on big talkers vs. silent types, how we can communicate with our partners without complaining, the value of watching ourselves communicate on video, understanding the power structures and social dynamics at work, and so much more.
Eastman has also served as an adjunct psychology professor at the City University of New York for six years where he taught General Psychology, Developmental Psychology, and Group Dynamics. He is also a former professional poker player and the founder of School of Cards, the first brick-and-mortar poker school in New York City.
00:00 - Intro
00:47 - How to improve your ability to read non-verbal cues
04:29 - How does trust correlate with non-verbal cues?
07:30 - How to change other people's perceptions of you
08:55 - Eastman's forensic experiences
11:30 - How to evaluate the level of danger from someone's non-verbal cues
15:20 - How Eastman knew someone was cheating on their partner
18:35 - How to recognize danger in someone's relationship complaints
21:44 - Practical ways to improve your communication skills
27:55 - How to understand power structure and social dynamics at work
37:24 - How to improve your non-verbal communication at work
44:11 - How to improve your environment to improve your behavior
45:00 - How Bill Clinton makes others feel like the most important person in the world (and how you can too)
48:30 - How to recognize people who are deceitful
56:09 - On the infallibility to permanent video
57:18 - Eastman's tips on using non-verbal cues for better dates
01:03:02 - How non-verbal cues vary across cultures
01:07:28 - The Rockefeller Method and lessons from 'Titan'
01:11:16 - Eastman's routine for reading, taking notes, and using AI to learn
01:16:52 - Eastman's unique uses for AI and ChatGPT
01:22:30 - Why Eastman uses coaches, and what makes a good vs. a great coach
01:25:08 - Eastman's most pivotal life change, and why it happened
01:29:55 - Eastman gives tips to Shane for asking better questions
01:31:50 - The power of writing and thinking
01:36:32 - Eastman's definition of success
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@joannhansell5692 27 дней назад

Death is handled so poorly in our society- my son passed and everyone tried to pep talk me- grief is a REAL blind spot in our society

@gregszczepkowski2550 18 дней назад

So sorry for your loss.

@courtneyevrrlyn9644 12 дней назад

Wow. I’m sorry!!!!

@LisaPFrampton 7 дней назад

First, I'm so very sorry for your loss. Second, I Believe people are like this because it's THE MOST painful feeling that we feel both psychologically, emotionally, and even physically experiences we can face in our lifetime. In truth, avoidance is self-preservation.

@jellyjams7217 2 месяца назад

1:00:00 came up with this theory myself….. when you walk into a room, are you there for yourself and how people perceive you, or are you there to make a pleasant experience for the people around you. Amazing how much this changed my life. Although it is hard to differentiate this between people pleasing. I think people pleasing still is fundamentally based on how the self is perceived. It’s more like “ do things for others while realizing that what they think of you is none of your business”

@mistydake2109 2 месяца назад

Or, third option, you are there for the experience of the event, you are there to enjoy connecting with others, and you aren't wasting time focusing on what others think of you or judging others or trying to please anyone.

@joannhansell5692 27 дней назад

Yes!! If you start being really interested in other people vs thinking about their thoughts if you life gets relaxed and very very interesting

@jomarsh6449 7 дней назад

As administrator or in admin in a hospital..dealing with medical professionals..there is, by the nature of the beast, limited video… there is, however, no paucity of need… what can be done??

@shilohbell1573 2 месяца назад

Oh my gosh! I was a Corrections Officer in a jail and I so agree! I once (with a reasonable co-worker) walked into the most dangerous gang pod and talked them out of rioting. The dangerous gang members didn’t scare me because you could reason with them, but ONE person with violent schizophrenia is scary as hell!

@shilohbell1573 2 месяца назад

@@cmc_0 hehe. Well, I'm prior military, and I'm very observant. This particular gang runs a lot like a military structure. I could tell, essentially the ranks of each of them. So I would go to the highest "ranking" person I could find and I talked to them. They then talked the lower ranking guys (who were the most violent, because they were trying to gain respect) out of rioting.

@Godsgift666 Месяц назад

You looks familiar, did you work at Vc jail?

@isabelleboulay2651 3 месяца назад

trust and respect are earned. Actions have to match their words. It's about exchanging and having integrity. It's rare

@shayscott7498 2 месяца назад

You respect everyone until they give you a reason not to respect them. People with power always say "respect" is earned, but it's always interesting that they only respect people like themselves.

@KVRTKHS 2 месяца назад

Jordan Peterson says around half the population is up to no good, whether they are aware of it or not. 1 in 6 are narcissistic, 1-2% psychopaths, you know I haven’t seen the exact numbers but, it seems like it from what I experience

@elizabethfindlay5752 2 месяца назад

Respect is given until you prove otherwise and trust is earned. Imo

@laurabarber6697 24 дня назад

@@shayscott7498I disagree. I start people at neutral. I let the consistency between their words and actions be the foundation of my level of my respect.💝

@mechelle176 2 месяца назад

The idea that being comfortable as being the best way to be authentic and trustworthy is beautiful in itself. Whether you are speaking or on stage or just being filmed or photographed, it makes all the difference in the way we communicate well.

@Portia620 Месяц назад

I wished eveyone was more authentic

@pearpo Месяц назад

.. lol until you know them

@cococ9102 2 месяца назад

A lot of coaches and consultants make the mistake that senior management and CEOs aren't aware of their behavior. Often these power structures attract certain personality types: Narcissists, control fanatics, megalomaniacs.... When questioned about their behavior, they respond by gaslighting.

@pearpo Месяц назад

Any consultant with experience understands alignment in purposes and intentions/interests.. any one in a C suite has many agenda..

@pearpo Месяц назад

Anyone experienced in C suite knows consultants have agendas as well.. usually more billable hours, lol but sometimes power stroking as well.

@user-ex6nd8dq8w Месяц назад

@@pearpo All of these are true. However what the original commentator said, is indeed the case that is not discussed as often. It used to be perceived as a stereotype for employees to complain about "difficult bosses/managers" etc. And it used to be a stereotypical response to that stereotype to think that "it is the position that molds the character" or even that "this position requires people to become such characters". In reality, it is the other way around and this has been both known by popular wisdom but also today proven by science as well : power attracts narcissists and sociopaths much more than it attracts people in the middle of the altruism-sociopathy spectrum. Speaking of male sociopaths alone, who are more easily defined than narcissists (because anyone can be labelled as such, the definition is more loose), these are about 5% of the male population but they are about 30% of the upper management, high-end positions in whichever company, corporation and organisation. This means that sociopaths out of a combination of inner drive but also tons of machinations and back-stabbing they have 6 times more chances of climbing the corporate/organisational ladder. Hence it is not any "erroneous perception" of employees that their bosses are difficult, it is rather that they so often happen indeed to be difficult. The chances of falling on a sociopath boss/manager can be as low as 1 in 5 and as high as 1 in 3, probably more closer to the latter. When dealing with sociopaths, there is not much to do, it is not that these people can change who they are, they will keep on acting as they consider fitting. With sociopaths you deal them only with violence (of any sort, I do not mean just physical), but this is kinda difficult for employees, and the ones who stand-up are the first in line for firing.

@sunsetlights100 Месяц назад

@@pearpo seems a bit like pay to play with consultants fees

@nez2598 4 месяца назад

A lot of trustworthy people struggle with keeping eye contact.

@Nitra813 4 месяца назад

I absolutely do and didn’t realize it until my public speaking instructor showed me on a recorded video.

@coimbralaw 4 месяца назад

Not really

@nez2598 4 месяца назад

@@coimbralaw for some people it's a confidence thing, pure and simple.

@avl7nat922 4 месяца назад

That is a characteristic of autism.

@rr-brown6445 4 месяца назад

When I’m in thought, eye contact can be distracting from finding the way to communicate the idea I want to communicate, small talk is no problem.

@easymac24 4 месяца назад

I love this guys view on people and humanity. Everyone is living their life through the lens of their collective experience, every one is victim to our own experience and our own perception. People need to be able to see others as humans figuring out this thing called life just as YOU are, no matter their circumstance.

@blake_eastman 4 месяца назад

So well said I couldn’t have summarized that better myself! Thank you!

@greendesertgoddess 2 месяца назад

Exactly . . . but GREED won't let it be . . .

@wabalubadubdubdub 2 месяца назад

I think that is exactly what jesus christ message is/was

@cmc_0 2 месяца назад

I get mad at my perspective all the time 😖 mostly bc the awareness (of projection) can be brutal 😝

@a-k9161 2 месяца назад

Is not your fault you don't choose to do what you do you have no choice and you are not aware of it

@lizrogers4127 2 месяца назад

I used to maintain eye contact deeply. Until I was rejected my some of my best friends and lost my friend group. It demoralized traumatized me. And now I am scared to be vulnerable, judged and removed ..by everyone.

@MyFamilyFirst 2 месяца назад

Try seeing it like the comment above you. Be there, but their thoughts of you don't matter. It helps alot.

@NF40375 2 месяца назад

The eye contact gift is just that….a gift Your “friends” and group were bad people to their core and everything is real Ed through someone’s eyes and actions Self and situational awareness is key Eye contact, intuition, discernment, energy/vibes never lie Please don’t allow those people to rob you of your gifts and your respect or looking someone in the eyes ⚔️🛡️☦️

@MyFamilyFirst 2 месяца назад

@@NF40375 Right on! Yeah. I its hard for good hearted people to try their best with others that seem to disapprove the kindness given. Its gives you the sense of failure to fix or fitting in. I agree with you totally.. Look in their eyes and their emotions afterwards. Its going to show you whats really happening with them towards you. If they're not appreciating your attempt, then get away & stay away from them totally. Meaning: They're not welcoming you as you deserve to be treated. Dont allow them to run over you. Find New people that appreciate your attempts at happiness, and make sure they are also attempting to bring the happiness out of you... Helping you to better your life. Now those are the people thats worth your precious time in this lifetime. Its worth it. Ps. Do not limit this to no one, and I mean no one... they "ALL" must treat you this way in order to show they "LOVE YOU" like im showing you now for example! It Called: "Consideration" 💪🏾🤎

@jimlyon7276 2 месяца назад

Liz: Perhaps some context might help? - 90% of our species are dysfunctional as a result of TOXIC parenting! While not much of Western psychology impresses me, I can strongly recommend THE child psychologist ALICE MILLER (R.I.P. ) Look up her profile on Wikipedia for a list of her books. In chronological order of their development, I next recommend GABOR MATE (e, acute). While he is available on You Tube. I STRONGLY recommend you work through AM first as she ws the first to discover the original source of our species problems i.e. TOXIC parenting & learning this stuff in chronological order will make it easier for you. - Certainly changed my life round ! :) - H.T.H.?

@Mmmmkaaay 2 месяца назад

You simply grew out of those friends. You'll make new ones who appreciate the confidence exuded with strong eye contact. Just look away sometimes to avoid looking threatening.

@Andrew-ce3xc Месяц назад

Learn to feel vibrations , then learn what each vibe means.

@alan2a1l 2 месяца назад

In standup, I used to put my little recorder in the back of the room. Onstage, you're hearing the reaction up front. Sometimes, I thought a joke bombed, but people in back were laughing up a storm. For video, including the audience in the shot gives you a much better sense than close-ups of the speaker. So yeah, useful.

@pearpo Месяц назад

Feedback is very valuable

@jaanireel 4 месяца назад

00:00 Understanding the problem with relationships and non-verbal cues 02:05 Nonverbal cues like head nods indicate social coordination, not necessarily interest. 05:55 Building trust through unique and nuanced conversations. 07:51 Our perceptions of others and ourselves are often biased and resistant to change. 11:46 Massively erratic behavior is the scariest and most dangerous 13:48 Understanding the context and perspective behind someone's behavior is crucial for empathy and understanding. 17:46 Non-verbal expert discusses the impact of narratives on behavior. 19:22 Identifying red flags in a relationship 22:36 Recording the audience behavior is more insightful than recording the presenter's behavior. 24:05 Presentations are a social construct and require consistent practice. 27:25 Understanding power structures and social dynamics at work 29:10 Organizations need to communicate more to navigate power structures. 32:42 Choosing the right goals and pursuing them in a fulfilling way is crucial for a meaningful life. 34:26 Understanding non-verbal communication and different perspectives. 37:52 Observing others' reactions can reveal engagement levels and assess your own behaviors. 39:39 Non-verbal cues are crucial for understanding behavior within context. 43:00 Behavior is influenced by the environment. 44:48 Non-verbal behaviors can make someone feel important and valued. 48:06 Speaking confidently doesn't always mean competence 49:53 Identifying incompetence and deception through non-verbal behavior 53:36 Social behavior is increasingly complex 55:20 Focus on connection over nitpicking video interactions 58:56 Recognizing shared interests in self-development is key in forming a strong bond. 1:00:33 Authenticity is key in building deeper connections on a date. 1:03:58 Be mindful of others and considerate of their presence and needs. 1:05:42 Putting others first can change your life and interactions. 1:09:07 Learning to delegate and value others' work. 1:10:56 Highlighting key points in reading enhances memory retention 1:14:26 Using AI to analyze and predict human behavior 1:16:03 AI technology accurately analyzes non-verbal behaviors. 1:19:38 Encouraging people to understand and embrace their own normal helps them to avoid social ostracism and fosters charisma. 1:21:25 Using a non-verbal AI tool to quickly build inventories 1:24:55 Identity shift led to academic success 1:26:37 Realization of flaws in grading and research 1:30:04 Analyzing non-verbal and contextual language patterns to improve questioning skills. 1:31:47 Writing is a powerful self-development medium 1:35:07 Entrepreneurship often involves navigating through ethical gray areas. 1:37:00 Identifying key indicators for successful relationships and businesses.

@tiffanyrowell4903 4 месяца назад

👏

@newearthling1111 4 месяца назад

Which section was the part about recognizing whether a couple will break up? Thank you.

@threetreasures7698 4 месяца назад

Omg, thank you SOO MUCH for these time stamps.

@threetreasures7698 4 месяца назад

@@newearthling1111yes, I want that info too.

@MegDD3912 4 месяца назад

@@newearthling1111I think at 20:00

@GoVoteDemocracy 3 месяца назад

I love the idea of sitting down and talking about what an ideal relationship looks like to each other. Watching the audience is so underrated, I had some coworkers get angry with me because I gave honest feedback on a presentation and my main point was that they didn’t take into consideration the audience when they created the presentation. I had a similar background (military/aviation) to most of the audience and I found the presentation childish and unserious. Needless to say the business didn’t continue in that setting. The tips on reading are great, I also remember experiences, but couldn’t tell you what someone told me about a situation, or what a movie or book is about.

@marybowers6090 2 месяца назад

There have been studies in narcissists and they actually signal one another through body language and non verbal cues. I discovered this while dating a covert narcissists. I’m very good at picking up patterns and I noticed a lot of energy and signaling between him and other narcissistic women. Believe it or not I prayed to god for discernment and the next time it happened I picked up on a very negative energy or vibration, I could feel this or sense this when he was lying as well. It made him very uncomfortable because oddly enough he thought I was able to read his mind. this is how they scout out who is going to be willing to cheat. The other woman was also a covert narcissist. Narcissists view cheating as a game of superiority, if they can cause you partner to cheat to them it means they are superior to you so they active try to get people to commit adultery.

@NF40375 2 месяца назад

Yes to all of this Broken people attract broken people And most times broken people target healed people as a cover or to copy their behaviors to o conceal their dark behavior Narcissists are selfish and self serving; they are spiritually weak and Godless. Narcissists are anti love which is anti God which makes them the enemy Because when one is spiritually weak/Godless and self serving they are susceptible to demonic oppression/influence and possession Protect yourself, children, animals, disabled and elderly at all costs ⚔️🛡️☝🏾

@pearpo Месяц назад

Your comment is so on-the-money. I feel like learning what you just described so well, particularly in corporate high market cap environments, is a key skill.

@pearpo Месяц назад

It usually isn’t the C.. it’s certain investors, certain S levels, etc

@eglesia0 Месяц назад

I agree

@teachatami45 26 дней назад

What a weak person!

@Wr3cktalPr0lapse 4 месяца назад

Something that broke my heart when my brother was being charged w a felony and might’ve gone to prison was how my family treated him/the punishment he was facing (he only had to go to jail thankfully) and no one could understand/care WHY he did what he did, and how my family had a big hand in him being brought to that situation. I felt I was the only one who still saw him for who he was at that time. When I first heard the situation we were so close and both in shitty situations, I actually couldn’t comprehend why he’d been arrested, thinking he’d acted completely rationally for the situation. But the law makes no exceptions even for people living in a completely different reality than more privileged people.

@ajadkins1555 4 месяца назад

This makes perfect sense to me. My brother stole 10 dollars from me once. At first I was very angry and mad. But after I thought about it. I was sad. If he had another option, he would have done that instead. He knew I would give it to him! I had already given so much! For him to admit he needed me to help him more would have killed him. So he lied and stole. I can honestly say I learned so much in this situation bc if it wasn't someone I love, I don't trust that I would have thought so long about it and came to forgiveness. But some people aren't raised correctly and in general ppl accept the reality they have been given without question

@kerridillon911 4 месяца назад

Tell us you’re a mammy without telling us you’re a mammy.

@615levi 4 месяца назад

😂 rectal prolapse

@Dionysus_Athena 4 месяца назад

The problem with modern law and people in general, is that they lack the intelligence to understand what ethical standards are. This is why stoicism will always reign supreme over any other. I’m breaking the law due to modern medicine failing me, I take what I need to have some form of a quality life. I doubt any judge, officer or person would understand. People are beyond gullible these days. If only science and stoicism dictated what laws are ethical the world would be a better place.

@hiro6406 4 месяца назад

I love how you mentioned what he was arrested for

@brendafulmernickel1218 4 месяца назад

The best TRUTH you could ever relate was in your summation of success. It's a PERSONAL journey!! My point all the way through, and I am NOT in Competition and NEVER have been!!

@user-po3ir2tx5z 4 месяца назад

Eastman talks about how his team reads people's behavior through quantitative means-reading number and type of detailed movements from video, for example-and then talks about how "cool" it was to learn from his professor how to manipulate data sets to get data to illustrate whatever your predetermined POV or thesis is. This is a deeply troubling morale/mindset for a researcher to have, especially as we increasingly use behavioral predictions in our digital systems to determine who/what people are, what they should buy, which partners they should pair with, which jobs they should have, etc.

@sahmcgowan7 3 месяца назад

That is why the saying trust the science is B.S. and as with all things motives are the driving force. Our defense is only to predict the motive and offset it with truer intentions.

@acoustically9201 2 месяца назад

Agree that it is definitely ''not cool'' to manipulate data. But I suspect the teaching and learning from that anecdote is this: If we totally trust everything published in the name of science, we take a big risk. I think that is a valuable lesson to learn as a youngster.

@frankievalentine6112 3 месяца назад

Eventually you will know the norms so much you'll be able to very intentionally violate them to express yourself more genuinely, while also knowing exactly who never knew them to begin with!

@chaoswitch1974 4 месяца назад

Men are different than women in distinct ways that I've seen two separate communication experts miss out on. Most women are open to communicate with and will be kind to men whether or not we're attracted to them. We will engage them as much, and sometimes more than men we're very attracted to because we're less nervous. Men tend to be the opposite, and we know this because women talk about how they're treated differently by men when they gain weight or as they age. Secondly, women do not know whether we're attracted to most of the men we end up with when we first meet them. We can actually grow to love a man and become attracted to him for his personality. Men don't tend to do this.

@RawOlympia 4 месяца назад

I was crushed when learning this upon coming out of a coma, and how much disdain I had to face regarding men ~

@juneelle370 4 месяца назад

@@RawOlympia💜

@yeahyeahwowman8099 4 месяца назад

As a guy who doesn't smile and talks in a monotone sounding voice, yet isn't rude, that isn't true at all. Pretty much noticed that if you give alot of women no smile and one to two word answers, still be polite, alot of women get pissy, will immediately go on the defensive.

@chaoswitch1974 4 месяца назад

@RawOlympia I'm sorry sweetie, and I agree, it's one of those harsher realities we women come to terms with, and it's a literal paradigm shift. It alters your "before" and "after" perspective. It's brutal. I suppose that could be true for men in an opposite sort of way. Yet, I honestly believe many men get set in their ways more often. To have thought that attractive women were very kind to them could just mean that they weren't very attracted. Some sly men will learn later on that when a woman is intimidated or treats him with disdain that it probably means we like him... and we learned this from little boys who do the opposite (we "mature" faster, and see them as "mates" earlier). This could be uniquely American, but I don't think so.

@chaoswitch1974 4 месяца назад

@yeahyeahwowman8099 Some women will do this to other women though. I've had women do this if I forget having met them before.

@wLBlue 2 месяца назад

Everyone understands what a relationship is supposed to be....many choose otherwise out of selfishness.

@Kylemathews1 2 месяца назад

Nah, everyone understands what a TYPICAL relationship looks like. Essentially a generalization, or "stereotype". Some people let other guys pork their wives and are fine with it. All types of different dynamics.

@michael_gaio 2 месяца назад

whatever your idea of relationship is … it serves your sense of self (even it is serves the other self too)

@beunmessablewith 4 месяца назад

Blake you are such a wealth of information and power. I love listening to you! Thanks for the shout out too.

@Wildpower2012 4 месяца назад

The sock is stealing the show at times, but very interesting topic!! Eager to learn more on this. Would love a continuation.

@tkppodcast 4 месяца назад

We have some more conversations around psychology and behavioral science here: fs.blog/episodes/

@marymcquillan6417 4 месяца назад

😂

@gabrielle2dream559 4 месяца назад

Hilarious [ about the sock...lol ]

@selfhelpsonya 4 месяца назад

This is great - so informative. Thank you.

@wanderanon 3 месяца назад

This was an immensely rewarding and helpful watch, thank you! (:

@jenniferwidmer2593 4 месяца назад

Really interesting. I like the emphasis on studying and coaching people to understand and help with perception issues rather than right/wrong behaviors.

@earth_and_spice 4 месяца назад

The conversation was really interesting. I like the questions. I did feel disappointed in how many times the guest started and didn't finish what they were saying.

@carolynredinger439 3 месяца назад

I agree. I find it amazing that he makes money coaching others regarding presentations.

@TLW369 2 месяца назад

Yep! Body language is an extremely powerful communicator - so, pay attention to it.

@BrookeColeAdoredAnimals 2 месяца назад

Wow ! So refreshingly right on point ! You guys are amazing and so insightful! Thank you for this!

@Jose-lz6cw 20 дней назад

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.

@kanereall 20 дней назад

I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.

@Jose-lz6cw 20 дней назад

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach one?

@kanereall 20 дней назад

Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

@Jose-lz6cw 20 дней назад

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

@NickSlingerland-yd8hy Месяц назад

This is good stuff. People with "ADHD" and other cognitive differences have a problem with many of these things.

@maddiesohappy9631 Месяц назад

Especially eye contact.

@notodayorever 2 месяца назад

I'm happy to be able to list him as one of my coaches "beyond tells"

@JeffersonsTree 3 месяца назад

Also, its very endearing that you both visually and audibly want to be there talking and are enjoying it on a subconscious level. (Their legs are crossed towards each other which is body language that is placing them closer in thought and physical presence(in case someone was wondering how I figure that))

@fantasticator7923 4 месяца назад

This is priceless. Thank you for your vulnerability

@ManiKais 4 месяца назад

Good that he explains that you need to calibrate for each individual's behaviour and the context of the situation. So many dipshits read body-language books, and take isolated moves out of context and apply them to every situation, claiming to be experts at "judging people". I remember years ago, some dude telling me that he knew I wasn't a good girlfriend for his mate, because as he was interrogating me, my eyes wandered off and broke eye contact. What he didn't realise was that they broke contact because my boyfriend (his mate) at the time was making eye-contact with me in the background and we were having a cute exchange. People see what they want to see. This was the same guy who told me that I couldn't be trusted because I was a Gemini.

@Prometheus7272 2 месяца назад

He’s trying to sabotage your relationship, probably fancies you 😂

@ManiKais 2 месяца назад

@@Prometheus7272 lol nah.

@user-lh7pq1nz7h 2 месяца назад

Thank u for saying that

@mechelle176 2 месяца назад

I love your approach to learning about this TY, this is very helpful especially the questions you have

@Honeybee-cy9gc 4 месяца назад

I've seen that predator look one too many times.

@NF40375 2 месяца назад

Same From others to me and from the one I’m with to others Very demonic

@coreyhabbas 2 месяца назад

Im getting out of a relationship for that very reason. 4 months wasted, but at least it’s not 4 years. 😅

@rosevanstaden4562 4 месяца назад

Loved this ❤, thank you 🙏

@lessismore5706 3 месяца назад

Very interesting, thank you for sharing

@kshitijmathur5271 4 месяца назад

Valuable information, anybody looking for improvement can really apply it practually.

@pamelagroves7738 4 месяца назад

Excellent podcast!

@sarasotauptoseattle 26 дней назад

Good show. Thanks!

@nikkiostrower720 4 месяца назад

Love this so much

@heatherstrigens258 2 месяца назад

Wow. I’ve made a big big deal about teaching my children how important it is to know how to be wrong, and maintain respect. I have a lot of respect for people who know this…skill. You just hit on this. Thank you, now it’s not only MOM saying it. Now they’ll for sure listen 😏.

@thewize 4 месяца назад

Fascinating! Some of the things i wonder about everyday

@saulgoodman5485 Месяц назад

First channel watch, first video, great listen, subscribed.

@Portia620 Месяц назад

Great point on so many things .

@monicamb 4 месяца назад

That was very interesting. Blake is an impressive guest.

@b_740 4 месяца назад

I don't condone lying...but its horrible how obsessed we are with being perfect in every are of modern life. It's suffocating why can't we just be humans.

@colinc5531 4 месяца назад

Totally disagree !

@heyhey11793 4 месяца назад

Many people do horrible things already, imagine if we didn’t strive to be best version of ourselves.

@joshuahinson261 4 месяца назад

We are all liars in some sense...

@b_740 4 месяца назад

@@heyhey11793 You can't literally just live if you're obsessing every second about how to be perfect...it's like self-centered and a bit paranoid imo. And like I said, suffocating...knowing at any second any blunder we might make could be encapsulated forever online by someone's phone recording without our knowledge. It's terrifying actually....black mirror type stuff.

@alessandrajackson3768 4 месяца назад

So we shouldn’t try to be the best versions of ourselves so other humans don’t suffer?

@liviafratezi 4 месяца назад

Great answers

@Vladimirleninputin 2 месяца назад

Good interview 😊

@cmavr8 13 дней назад

I dig normalizing being in socks, even for official, recorded things :) You get to keep the place clean and cosy, and display those nice socks you bought or were gifted that usually no one sees! Also, great content :P

@rushiaskinnerwallace6175 2 месяца назад

1:19:23 appreciated the point made here about the value of those who operate outside the norm. Great observation and intelligent, relevant question.

@MaddCrafty 4 месяца назад

Loved this. Great guest

@LiLesah 4 месяца назад

CPTSD (along w/undiagnosed autism) helps me read nonverbal language - or energy…

@Keisha2024 4 месяца назад

Ok… we didn’t need to know you were autistic 😂

@MegaMommaUlman 4 месяца назад

Me too

@hangryturtle9006 4 месяца назад

CPTSD made me fell and still feel very sensitive to others. Like what they’re actually up to

@sarahalderman3126 4 месяца назад

Very true in many ways, with the possible exception of emotions surrounding our particular trauma. I have found my perceptions revolving around my trauma are not always realistic or accurate. But yes in general cptsd does create the empathic people. Those who have experienced true suffering understand the suffering of others ❤

@easymac24 4 месяца назад

Yea 😮‍💨, for many of us it was a leaned survival mechanism

@moseybear 2 месяца назад

In my practice, I constantly hear women tell me how much they hate being "judged". "Don't judge me" is a common command. Yet, incredibly, the same type of person judges others from people to fruit with much care and specificity. So why not behavior, I reply to them? Since denying judgmental thoughts is pathology, I suggest to accept that we judge but with a caveat -- the possibility of judging wrongly. Instead of having a fear of this, allow for corrections to conclusions of behavior. After all, manipulative behavior is all about creating false judgements of behavior and image. Allow yourself the latitude for changes in judgement but resist the notion not to judge. This "do not judge" mentality is IMHO an element of Postmodern indoctrination where "all behavior is equal"when it obviously is not, resulting in a phobia to judge. But, that's conditioning through miseducation for ya. Fix it. Or your results will be poor.

@marcelabustamante2005 23 дня назад

Great interview. I listened to all of it as I was going about my day and heard lots of insightful and interesting things. But I didn't know who was being interviewed. There was no introduction. It wasn't until the end that I picked up my phone and read the description. It would be nice if there were an introduction so listeners could know who they are listening to without reading the description. (I let RU-vid suggest videos and continue listening based on whether the topics and people are interesting to me or not)

@margaretsmith7712 4 месяца назад

This is very unsettling mambo jumbo.....Only God knows what’s in a persons heart, we change from day to day, minute by minute, Treat one another as we would like to be treatment.... obviously do your best, treat people with respect be honest and sincere.....Pretty easy really....God bless.....Amen....

@FoursWithin 3 месяца назад

If you're going to claim only God can know then you can't also claim something to be "pretty easy really" for anyone but yourself. If you have no idea what goes on inside other people you also have absolutely no idea how easy or difficult anything will be for them. Meanwhile many fields of science have carried out extensive research on what goes on inside a person mentally emotionally and psychologically.

@stromeplays 2 месяца назад

Clown

@mmmsunshine5367 2 месяца назад

Ohh dear calling something negative and then going to “god” in the next is be beyond ironic lol

@wendywendy8670 2 месяца назад

Please stop saying "THAT'S A GREAT QUESTION." Love the discussion and got some nuggets. Much obliged.

@jessijuniper7687 4 месяца назад

This type of talk makes me break into hives. I worked as a police officer long enough to feel how toxic this level of human analysis was at work and in their personal lives. Being in a relationship with one was brutal hell. The accusations because they felt these tactics were sure as day only sent me into withdrawal . Withdrawal just created more abuse. Never felt more ashamed to be human.

@bperez8656 2 месяца назад

Woah what? Please explain further

@NF40375 2 месяца назад

Accusations are projection Abuse is to break you down as a person like they do in the military and prison to make you fall in line for their control Therapy, videos like this and narcissists expert Dr. Ramani and Patrick Teahan are truly eye opening You’ll be a red flag expert in no time and won’t find yourself with such individuals and situations again ⚔️🛡️☦️

@user-ei9pi2ct4p 4 месяца назад

I love it we need more people's like you guys seriously I would love you're to do a study on me and help me alone the way keep up the work 💯🤗💪🙂

@dm_xsmwp 2 месяца назад

Love the audience recording. Brilliant. Body language says everything!!! Always. Not that the devices arent already doing this. 😅

@alaalfa8839 4 месяца назад

The question is when he is sure that somebody is not cheating. because automatic suggestion in our mind is real and multiplies the belief, because the subconscious mind (with subconscious thoughts and beliefs) works 95 percent a day and the subconscious mind is 90 percent negative so many may think the person cheats even in 10 percent suggestion or not?

@FoursWithin 3 месяца назад

"Subconscious is 90 % negative " This can't be right . The world would be much worse than it is.

@yeahyeahwowman8099 4 месяца назад

An easy way to see anyones personality, is to kind of shut down in their presence. Pretty much don't be rude, but don't give them any kind of fake energy. Alot of people will immediately show you who they actually are because they feel it doesn't matter at that point. Pretty much shit test strangers all the time, no smile, monotone sounding voice, one to two word answers, tons of people immediately take the mask off and show their true character.

@velandrea 4 месяца назад

I am naturally a “bubbly” enthusiastic person in social situations that will fill in the “awkward silences” OR be a quiet observer depending on the day. Both nervous energy but I can see why you would think it is fake energy. It is natural for me to be interested in people and like it to be reciprocated. When I come across someone like you described I will also shutdown, why put in any effort. Someone I know is how you described and this situation recently happened. Funny how when the tables are reversed they will start talking and being more engaging. It’s like it has to be on their terms. Unfair but yes shutting down on people does work even on the ones who try their shit tests 😏 your character is the one exposed.

@Alchemuma 4 месяца назад

Yeah, people act scared when they’re uncomfortable. Uncanny valley activate! Lol

@Boosted_aj 3 месяца назад

This is not good. I do this bc it’s my personality. I’ve always been very flat, monotone, and I’m a big guy. I find that people will start by being themselves but if you don’t reciprocate they’ll probably not talk to you or walk away with a sour taste. Your better off being yourself, seeing how they react and reciprocate and that’s it. Don’t lie and don’t be fake but don’t purposefully be difficult to converse with. Ofc you have the option of just saying “oh this is just me” but that makes things wierd as well. Just don’t lie to coddle their feelings and that’s it.

@yeahyeahwowman8099 3 месяца назад

@@Boosted_aj the general population for the most part are a bunch of basic bitches. The reason for this is because you don't have to be charming or funny to get ahead in life. Most people don't even try. The easiest way to see if people are charming or funny is put them in a position where they got nothing to lose. America runs on basic bitch.

@avaceleste 3 месяца назад

How can you get an authentic truth from a manipulative behavior?

@karinah5487 3 месяца назад

"for others than for yourself" 💛❤💙💜

@afrizzyy Месяц назад

the hook on this one was amazing! Hooked and will have to start doing hooks like that for my podcast!

@leilahassim7025 4 месяца назад

Thank you

@OUigot 4 месяца назад

Look at these two guys, look at their socks, look at the way they sit, using the term "partner" when referring to his wife...weak!

@jesseseymour4011 4 месяца назад

Great, you're the guy that teaches terminator how to tell when a human is lying. . . I cant see how that could go wrong. . .

@joannhansell5692 27 дней назад

Narcissistic people have the pattern down perfectly of making people feel like the most important people in the room- maybe we can learn from them

@janesheridan7967 2 месяца назад

Huge news! Every woman on earth can do this without trying. Its called listening to your gut.

@yes2250 2 месяца назад

My dude is inlightened.truth is the salvation over all as in cure

@donbriscoe9990 2 месяца назад

The degree of eye contact is more of a cultural thing!

@HappyCat1111 2 месяца назад

Sapolsky’s work is awesome! One of the most brilliant minds of our time.

@gabbypage6929 4 месяца назад

I could always tell when a younger sister lied from an early age. Her lip would make a funny quiver and shape. Later in life I could always tell when she lied which was just about everything.

@Lord_Nikon33 4 месяца назад

Did you ever think or find out that you were wrong? Or where you proven right once or twice and so you assume she lies about everything? Have you talked to her about it in a non-judgmental or accusatory manner?

@rodciferri9626 4 месяца назад

Blake - after you show a leader in an organization they are wrong - how do you get them to take accountability for their error when most of them are a psychopath, sociopath or narcissist?

@JaZmine147 2 месяца назад

You threaten to take away what is most valuable to them. It's not one size fits all. You need to understand the person (shadow work).

@mississippiatheistette8769 14 дней назад

i tend to be more literal thinking, but i have learned over almost 40 years to actively think about what people are doing with their bodies and the tone of voice... I get it so wrong though still. I have to pay a LOT of attention to see this stuff

@Lesliefox2000 4 месяца назад

Very good conversation. Would like it even more if Blake finished his sentences…. 😊

@lisalasers 4 месяца назад

hah, right?

@mino3d1 4 месяца назад

As a eoman not one needs yo tell you anything about it your heart feels immediately something is going different

@corinaspfx 4 месяца назад

this is a great convo! haven't finished it yet but i do wonder if 3rd culture kids have a more intuitive and precise way of seeing people. in other words, how does having had adapted to various cultures make us more intuitive, literal and therefore accurate in interpreting other people's behaviour

@ekah1234 4 месяца назад

i love this concept. would love to hear more on this.

@daichibboy 4 месяца назад

I find stuff like this realy interesting! I was born in america with an english dad and Japanese mother. I was moved around different countries alot when young and mostly grew up in the uk. I feel that has given me the ability to read and connect with people quickly. Must be a survival mechanism due to my 3rd culture circumstance. It's like a radar that scans people to figure out what tribe they're in or something. With that info you can adapt the way you act. I do it less now i'm older as I just want to be my true self regardless of the person in front of me. Less fronting and conforming makes me more at peace.

@sahmcgowan7 3 месяца назад

Putting labels on people prevents connection by increasing biases and decreasing individualism. As well as causing a mindset that focuses on other's perceptions of us instead of understanding our own true motives. Explain how to walk on eggshells, trying not to offend someone only to continually agrue your true intentions because you are put in a box based on their perception of your intentions? As stated, people are too lazy to unlearn what they believe. So instead of unlearning what you think of others, learn yourself first. Then, learn not to listen to anyone who wants to put you in a box. Never question your motives after you have discovered what they are, of course.

@theyetti90 3 месяца назад

1:01:54 this is a gem. I'm going to use this tomorrow on this new girl I can tell is into me. "Tell me about such-and-such this weekend." Thanks

@immers2410 Месяц назад

The recording thing is excellent

@jimmierodgers1597 2 месяца назад

Monty Python’s Meaning of Life film, the scene with Death at dinner comes to mind: “You Americans, you talk and you talk and you talk!” 😂😂😂

@todddoherty5520 2 месяца назад

Thank you for sharing your story, perspective and knowledge on a under rated huge problem in our current times .

@blueyzblue6391 2 месяца назад

Never trust a man who uptalks.

@latinaalma1947 2 месяца назад

The MMPI is a great diagnostic tool. Sybil Francis PhD professor on clinical psyychology

@SoulAudeo 4 месяца назад

Would this work with someone that doesnt emote much? Stoic people i suppose, i find people missjudge me quite a bit, im just not very expressive.

@helenatroy33 4 месяца назад

It's in the eyes when you talk to them.

@NF40375 2 месяца назад

This ☝🏾

@PhoenixRulz81-KatsuTsuki 2 месяца назад

14:30 I can understand how most people understanding their background and why they committed some crimes deserve second chances, I can't understand how some would constantly commit crimes against children and feel no remorse for it, I feel that is a different type of problem.

@JazzyJazz223 4 месяца назад

Couples that blog is very easy to read. Even with the camera in front of them

@carolehallman1910 2 месяца назад

Self awareness is key

@kimsherlock8969 2 месяца назад

Unemotionally using reasonable measures to ensure understanding. Geeking how to experience interacting with your own biases Seeing in biases interacting in different groups of people Good science in human behaviour.

@justinmiller7173 3 месяца назад

TRUST QUOTIENT = (CREDIBILITY + RELIABILITY + INTIMACY) / SELF-ORIENTATION

@Thilosophocl3s 3 месяца назад

Just ask questions, actively listen and re-engage to redirect, give folks a captive audience and watch the magic happen. If you can get them to engage.

@pamelagroves7738 4 месяца назад

Is there a reason you are both stocking footed? Lol

@NicoleTran456 9 дней назад

I wish there were shorter ones of these 😢 I never zone in long enough to hear it all and want it to be shorter 😅

@pearpo Месяц назад

💯 % true every single time.

@TheFriendlyPsychopath. 3 месяца назад

All my life I paid attention to EVERYTHING with human behavior in order to navigate them and/or get what I want/need.

@sierraarmstrong4111 4 месяца назад

Omg my brother in law is someone who makes simple things more then i are x10. If someone looks a certain way or moves their body a certain way he instantly comes to a conclusion of what it means yet he never breaks it down. He always says "i study people body language im good at judging character and im like buddy your an abusive, controling, diagnosed schizophrenia hes outward very demanding, has what i call LOUD confidence and LOUD dominance its so cringe and gross i cant stand it and anyone around him says it just feels so fake, its not at all genuine its like when you pertend to like what the group likes. Hes a very insecure person, feeds off drama ans fighting, he once told a women "i dont love you i beat the women i love and care about" this girl loved him hearing that just made my brain spin i couldnt imagine hearing that from someone you love and you want to love you back thats such a mind and emotional fuck. Things he says that are "fact" he claims i know arnt i soent 9 months studying attachment theory, polyvagel theory, nervous system science, Psychological development, truama and the affects of truama in relationships "specifically parenting" i love it i still love to learn more every day but sometimes i cant help but to correct him his ego is just so large for no reason he knows everything about everything, hes better at everything, he knows parenting when he lost all 3 of his kids, he knows marriage when he cant even maintain 1 relationship he either cheats, lies, or ends up in jail on domestic abuse iv told him so many times i will never take advice from someone that never raised their kids and hassnt had even a 1 year healthy relationship let alone a marriage i should be giving him advice his brother and i have 3 kids and been together for 8 years but again he knows everything he is the best. Its funy most of the time but it gets old and irritating he is also very disrespectful it drives him insane that i never wanted him when he tried way back in the day and his brother ended up getting me he just cant accept it its such a slash to his ego and image of hiself its histarical 😂